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Ep 88. Negativity Detox: Protect Your Energy and Manifest Faster · The Manifestation Station

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You're listening to the Manifestation Station podcast.
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I'm your host, Holly Edwards, and together we can help create your magic.
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Hello you gorgeous manifestors and welcome back to another episode of the Manifestation Station.
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Yes, I am Holly Edwards. We are back with a vengeance, your very brand new shiny episode.
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And today we're getting rid of all of the rubbish, the draining energy,
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the negativity that may be,
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kind of surrounding your life or infiltrating your subconscious which really
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won't be helping with your manifesting.
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So today isn't about giving you a list of things to do it's just kind of taking
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stock of what we can remove ourselves from,
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so that we're not being dragged down by life, negative energies, social media posts.
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We're going to get stuck into this very shortly.
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But welcome back. I hope you're all well. I hope you're having a lovely week.
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We are firmly into October.
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We are in, are we actually in autumn? Well, autumn is approaching.
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It is here, although it's still very warm still very warm here in the UK isn't it so.
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I thanks for everyone who commented or sent me a message on my last episode
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it was very much it was a little bit more of a vulnerable one for me actually because,
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I was talking about how to manifest when you've got nothing in the tank,
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and I was telling you that pregnancy got me good and yeah I've kind of had to kind of reflect on,
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I've been in survival mode.
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That's what I called it. I've been in survival mode. So thank you for everyone
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who's reached out. I've had so many lovely listeners kind of dropping some tips
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and hints in my DMs and also resonating with that episode. So.
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If you haven't listened to that yet, please do take a listen.
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It might be useful for you. And I think at one point or another,
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dare I say it, there will be times where we don't know what to do.
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We don't know how to manifest. We haven't got anything in the tank and that's okay.
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And I was talking more about looking after yourself. And that is actually my number one.
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I talk about this a lot with my clients, my one-to-one manifesting clients, that they,
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You have to feed yourself sometimes what you need at the time.
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And that isn't necessarily always journaling and making new plans and going towards our goals.
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We are in different seasons. So if you find yourself in a season of kind of
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being a bit in survival mode like me or feeling a bit downtrodden,
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then go back to that episode.
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And I think today's follows on quite nicely because we're having a little negativity
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cleanup together and this isn't like a toxic positivity thing.
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You know I'm not saying right tomorrow when you get up you're only going to
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think positive thoughts you're never going to complain,
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you're not going to get annoyed and you know you don't have to walk around saying
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everything's amazing that's not what we are talking about today,
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we are very much talking about real life sometimes things get you down sometimes
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people are going to annoy you sometimes you might feel like you have a bad day
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you need a moan you need to cry,
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and sometimes just sometimes maybe you need to sit on your sofa,
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in your pajamas eating something beige we have all been there haven't we that
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is life and what I'm talking about is something,
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slightly different today we are going to take a negativity stock check,
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what we are feeding our subconscious without kind of even really knowing,
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and it's like we're going to have a little bit of a debrief with yourself looking
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around at your life and asking what am I repeatedly allowing into my mind my
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energy my space my environment,
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because we spend so much time thinking about what we're trying to manifest.
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Excuse me, I've got the hiccups.
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What we're trying to manifest and how to get there in our goals.
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And trust me, yes, that is a big side of manifesting. And I'm going to be an advocate for that.
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And there are episodes that I've done and episodes to come where I'm like,
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right, guys, we're onto our goals and this is how we achieve.
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But we're thinking about what we want, what we're calling in,
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the life we're creating, the person we're becoming.
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But sometimes I think we forget to look around at what's already surrounding us in our everyday,
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lives and how those people those things the things that we're watching on the
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television how they're affecting us in our day-to-day because your brain,
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pays attention to what is constantly repeated so what you repeatedly see what you repeatedly hear,
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what you repeatedly think or talk about what you repeatedly consume and generally
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on the whole what you repeatedly surround yourself with,
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and eventually what happens is all of those things they start to feel normal,
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and that's the bit that I want to tap into today and explore because,
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it's not about completely changing your life it's just that perhaps you might
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just need a little cleanup,
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of some of those things that have quietly become your normal but could be quietly
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affecting your manifestations and your energies.
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So I want you to think about, like, what are you feeding your brain?
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So we're going to start with something really obvious, and I think it's the
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big one for a lot of people in today's day and age is your phone.
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Because most of us wake up, and before we've even properly opened our eyes,
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we are already consuming somebody else's thoughts.
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We pick up our phone, we have a scroll on Instagram, TikTok,
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WhatsApp messages, the news, your emails.
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And so before you know it suddenly kind of within three minutes we've we've
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had a lovely sleep our subconscious is calm we've kind of had a reset but within
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three minutes of waking up we've consumed,
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somebody else's house relationship body holiday business side hustle someone
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else's argument someone else's bad news,
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and then we wonder why we necessarily don't feel that great,
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or we wonder why sometimes our manifestations aren't coming to fruition.
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So I want you to think about, like, what is the very first thing that you are
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feeding your brain with every day?
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Because imagine waking up and your first 30 minutes are full of rage watching
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the news, comparison on social media, other people's opinions.
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Maybe, I don't know, maybe you've got some family dramas going on and you're on the WhatsApp chat.
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And then compare that for a
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moment. just one day imagine this one day and compare that with waking up,
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opening the curtains having a nice cup of tea or coffee cuddling your partner
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if you have one going outside stretching your legs doing some movement putting some music on,
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and having five minutes of quiet that is the same person the same life but you've
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started the day by putting completely different things and feeding your mind
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with different things. That's it.
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This doesn't have to be a perfect morning routine. I do love a morning routine,
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but all I'm saying is just start to notice what are you feeding yourself first thing in the morning.
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This isn't actually just about first thing in the morning. This is overall.
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We're going to do an overall stock take of negativity that may be draining your life or.
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Your brain doesn't know what matters until you keep showing it.
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So if you repeatedly turn on the news and you are triggered and you are watching,
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you know, a lot of news headlines, they're very triggering. We have a lot of
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rage baiting and it can make you quite irritable.
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But if we are constantly watching that throughout the day or constantly watching
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that in the news, you're subconscious.
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You are repeating these feelings these thoughts these kind of negative emotions to your subconscious,
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and your brain starts to believe what we repeatedly show it so if we were repeatedly watching the terrible,
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events of the news at the moment that's going on in the world eventually your
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subconscious takes that on and actually that is affecting your energy.
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And this is also where social media gets really, really interesting because,
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your brain is constantly taking information in and that repetition, it matters. So,
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If you think about it, like, think about a song. You hear it once, fine.
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You hear it 10 times, now you know the chorus. You hear it 50 times.
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This is without you even trying to learn the words.
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You hear it 50 times, you're singing it in the shower against your will.
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That is repetition. It's going into your subconscious. And our brains work in
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similar ways with information and patterns.
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The things we repeatedly expose ourselves to become familiar and those familiar
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things can start to feel normal so if you are constantly consuming content about people,
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being being richer than you thinner than you more successful than you happier
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than you traveling more than you your brain can slowly start to create the picture that.
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Everyone is doing better than me why have I not got my shit together even though
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actually that's not reality and we know this oh you know we know this social media is just,
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a snapshot looking at hundreds of tiny snapshots of people's lives it's not
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real life we're not showing all the bad bits of social media some people are
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and that's really great and this is where,
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we're going to talk about in the minute kind of having a stock take of like
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who we're following what we're consuming,
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and comparing yourself to them with these full kind of,
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edited beautiful snapshots of these happy relationships and these you know people
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that never seem to argue or never seem to have any money stresses and you're
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comparing yourself with them,
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and that's impossible because you know your own bad days the arguments the washing
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up the insecurities and these people have them too but you're not necessarily seeing them.
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So when we are, I think it's really important with social media to remind ourselves,
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firstly, perhaps not spend so much time on social media, but also just be aware
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of who you're following.
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And also remembering that when you see the photograph, the real,
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the holiday, the nice dinner and then,
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you know, I don't know, maybe it's your Tuesday afternoon, you're picking the
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kids up and you've had an argument with your partner and you've got a bad hair
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day and you're saying to yourself, why doesn't my life look that?
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Well, because you're comparing real life to content and that is not real but
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this can slowly create a reality in our social media.
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So I want you to think about who are you following online go on to your social
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media and have a look at who you're following,
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and instead of asking do I like this person I just want you to ask yourself
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how do I feel after consuming this person's content because.
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It's so important I think most of us are on social media and I think it's really
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like I have made a conscious effort over the years to,
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mute, or perhaps even, dare I say, it sounds a little bit ruthless,
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but unfollow people who,
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I don't know, who maybe if I'm not feeling good watching their content,
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if it's making me compare or making me feel less than, then sometimes I just
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might mute those accounts.
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I've started to follow a lot more accounts that make me feel good.
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Maybe some people that show, you know, reality, like real bodies like body positivity,
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and people who it's not about always people sharing their struggles it's people
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that uplift and put lovely quotes on and that,
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build me up or lift me up if if I feel like I need it and.
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That doesn't mean that I don't follow beautiful people with beautiful houses,
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but I notice, I check in with myself and I notice how I feel.
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If I'm looking at people with gorgeous houses and I think, great, I'm going to use that.
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I'm going to use that. I'm going to put that on my vision board or I'm going
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to use that as inspiration, like for Pinterest or when I decorate my home, that makes me feel good.
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But if I'm watching people and I think, God, you know, I don't have abs like that.
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My hair isn't thick like that or you know I'm feeling behind I should have achieved
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more by now or my so my side hustle isn't earning me you know hundred thousand pounds a year,
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or my partner doesn't speak to me like
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that or you know makes you question everything why can't I afford that,
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if I find myself triggered firstly I need to look within myself but equally
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the quickest thing that you can do is just to start following people who uplift
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you whatever that means to you.
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And that is so so powerful if you think about it we're feeding our subconscious
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every day with social media and the news and people around us,
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and this is something that you can go off and do after this podcast it's so
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easy you can go off and go do you know what I'm just going to unfollow three accounts,
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hopefully you don't unfollow me but if I trigger you please feel free I hope
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I don't I'm very conscious of trying to make
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social media posts that are uplifting or things that you can do to make yourself
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feel a little bit better but,
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listen whatever works for you,
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because I personally love seeing real stuff online the good the bad the beautiful
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house but the pile of washing the healthy meal but then someone eating a takeaway the next night,
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and that's what I want you to do I personally, I love following women with real
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bodies, postpartum bodies, different shapes, different ages,
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stretch marks, bumps, scars.
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And because if you think about it, if all your brain ever sees is perfectly
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posed, perfectly lit, perfectly made up faces and edited bodies...
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Of course, you might start thinking that's what a normal body is supposed to look like.
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But the more I have done this and follow people with real bodies, I'm like, this is great.
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Real life has roles. We have tummy roles.
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We have bloating. We have bad skin days. And I love the realness of it.
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And that in itself, just this one simple task in itself, I know has changed my energy.
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And there is also the other thing which I should mention is perhaps we could
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use social media a little bit less
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I know it's easy to say that but you know what I always talk about with doom
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scrolling but I'm also I'm also in it with you on this one obviously social
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media has become a big part of my life it's part of my work now with my manifesting,
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so it's difficult because I do feel like I'm I'm on there a lot and social media
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can be amazing it connects us inspires us it teaches us it entertains us,
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but it also has become this constant stream of other people's lives coming into ours,
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you are allowed to consume less and sometimes just perhaps swap a five minute scroll for,
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you know five minutes to yourself or even with the tv or sitting outside or having a coffee.
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So that's what we're talking about with social media now in this inventory this negativity inventory.
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These are really simple things that you can do that we are exposing ourselves
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to every single day. And I mentioned it earlier, but let's talk about the news.
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And before anyone panics, I'm not saying don't ever turn the news on.
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This is a controversial one because people will be like, well,
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hold on a minute, Holly, we should know what's going on in the world.
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Of course, of course, it's important to stay in touch, to recognize what's happening.
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But there is a difference between being informed and then being inundated.
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Because think about it, like sometimes this morning I did it,
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actually. I woke up this morning and I put breakfast news on and I actually
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rarely, rarely watch breakfast TV anymore.
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I was barely awake. I kind of had my eyes half open.
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And suddenly there were things about war crime politics and I was like I could
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actually feel myself this is why I did this podcast episode today,
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I could sort of feel myself going kind of sinking into my duvet thinking,
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oh I'm feeling a little bit anxious something a little bit edgy,
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and this is where I want you to ask yourself like what am I actually going to
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do with this information.
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If there's something you need to know, know it. If there's something you can do about it, do it.
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But if you are simply sitting there and consuming an endless stream of terrible
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news, your subconscious really is getting increasingly angry,
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triggered, and frightened.
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And you don't realize what that is doing to your subconscious.
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I always talk about raising your vibrations and if you did nothing more with
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manifesting you didn't do the journaling your goals your action in and removing
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limiting beliefs and all of those things.
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Even if you just took away these things that we are constantly consuming,
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into our subconscious that are kind of deemed negative, you will instantly raise
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vibrations or you will kind of release the weight of these kind of negative
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emotions without even trying.
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So I think this alone is so powerful. If we put more focus on this and doing
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an inventory and getting rid of some of these things which,
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could be contributing to a little bit of a negative energy, then already,
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I promise, you will probably start manifesting without even trying.
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And the thing is with the news and the internet is that what I've noticed recently,
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it's like there's a lot of like rage baiting.
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Rage gets attention. And whether you're reading the newspaper or you're online,
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you know, the headlines, the more rage baiting they are, the more emotion it creates.
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Outrage gets comments and it gets noticed and,
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before you know it we're dragged into it and you need to ask yourself do I actually
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want to give this my energy yes be informed of what's going on in the world
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do I need to give it my energy.
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That's all I want you to ask, because sometimes peace, your own peace,
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which affects your energy, which affects your manifestation,
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it comes from deciding that something isn't worth your attention.
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Okay, I've watched the news, I've read the highlights, and now I'm moving on
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and I'm switching my energy.
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Now, this also works for, perhaps even more so, of who you are surrounding yourself with.
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Who around you is draining you?
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This brings me to the people in your life. We've talked about social media.
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We've talked about, you know, the news.
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Sometimes the biggest negativity in our lives is who we are sitting with at
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lunch, who we are having daily conversations with, who we are chatting with on WhatsApp.
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And I'm not saying that everyone who annoys you needs to be absolutely removed
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from your life, because that would be a little bit drastic.
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And again, we are real life. We are going to have people who perhaps aren't
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aligned with us on our views or...
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Our energies in the way that we talk to each other. We are all human. We all have bad days.
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But what I do want you to do is to notice how certain people make you feel.
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So have you ever spent an hour with somebody and you've come away thinking,
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why do I feel absolutely exhausted?
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Or why do I suddenly feel rubbish about myself? Or why did that conversation
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turn into an argument again,
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and I think this really needs some thought when you think about this it's just,
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there are people around you sometimes we just kind of put up with it it's our
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normal it might be a relative it might be a partner it might be a colleague or a friend,
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but actually if we are constantly coming away from being with this person and
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feeling quite drained and feeling quite flat and empty,
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then I want you to pay attention to that feeling maybe there's someone you feel
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who constantly criticizes you maybe they gossip and kind of drag you into negative
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chat maybe everything is negative and draining,
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does it feel like you're always in competition with this person perhaps they,
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or you feel like they subtly put you down.
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And this one comes up a lot, but maybe you chat with someone and they only seem
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happy when something is going wrong for you.
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Now, I had this in the past with a friend and it was a dear friend who I was
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friends with for years and years and years.
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But what I found is constantly is that if something good happened for me,
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whether that was me getting a job or I was dating someone or in a relationship
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or moved home, I kind of felt like they weren't there.
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They didn't want to know. they couldn't even chat to me about it but when I
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was down in the dumps or I don't know maybe a date hadn't gone well it was like
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they were there it was like oh and the more I realized I thought I think you're happier around me,
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when things aren't going well for me and that's a real shame isn't it and I
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look deeper and I think maybe that's insecurities in the other person but,
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that can be really difficult because what I found was that I was coming away
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from every meeting every conversation, every WhatsApp chat, just feeling a little bit emptier.
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And what I did is I made a conscious effort just to slightly take myself out
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of that situation. I didn't block this person.
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I didn't cut them out of my life. I just chose me a little bit more.
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And I chose the people around me a little bit more who.
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Elevated my life and who made me,
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not question myself, didn't drain me all the time and this doesn't mean,
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I am there for so many people in my life if you want to call me up have a rant
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I am there I will drop everything I'll be at yours it doesn't mean that I can't
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deal with anybody's emotions or what's going on in their life I will give,
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people the time of day but when it's a constant feeling of feeling drained in
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that relationship That's what I kind of really think is important to question.
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You are allowed to ask yourself, is this relationship good for me?
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And like I said, you don't always have to cut them out. It might just be simply
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that you decide to just let them have slightly less access.
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I'm just going to share a little bit less.
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I'm going to stop over explaining myself.
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I'm going to stop being pulled into the same arguments. And I think this is
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the other thing, is that there are people around you who might always want a
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debate and always get into arguments and always get into gossip.
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And actually you getting involved in perhaps even,
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jumping on the bandwagon, gossiping about those people or putting people down
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or even entering the arguments and the debates, what you could just do is thinking,
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you know what, I'm not going to allow myself to be pulled into the same arguments.
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I'm going to take a little step back.
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I'm going to leave the conversation when it becomes disrespectful I'm going
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to stop answering immediately and the one thing that I want you to think every
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time in these situations is how can I protect my energy,
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I'm simply choosing to protect my energy I don't need to jump in and start slagging
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out someone else's conversation off if someone's talking about someone you don't
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have to jump in if you don't agree with it.
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Those boundaries don't always have to be dramatic,
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sometimes a boundary is simply I'm not going to allow myself to get sucked into this today,
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it's that simple protect yourself with this energy force around you and decide
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what affects your energy and how you can protect your energy you don't have
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to attend or jump into every argument and this is even,
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in a relationship if you're in a relationship or you've got a friendship or a working relationship.
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I think so many of us spend an enormous amount of time trying to be understood,
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to explain your point because they don't understand.
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So you get stressed out and the, you know, the tempers start raising.
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Maybe the volume of the conversation starts to rise.
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You explain it again. They challenge you and you have to defend yourself.
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They misunderstand you again. So you explain more.
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And suddenly before you know it you can be three hours deep into a debate that
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you didn't even want to have and sometimes you realize this has been one of
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my biggest learning curves I think in terms of protecting my energy,
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you don't need to convince everyone they can disagree with you they can misunderstand you.
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They're allowed to have a completely different opinion and you can still go to bed peacefully.
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You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to.
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I think that sentence alone could save people so much energy.
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I think I actually saw something from Dr. Chatterjee. I don't know if anybody
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knows him. He's amazing. He's got some books out. He does a lot of kind of mindfulness
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techniques. I would say he's a bit of a manifester.
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He's a doctor. he's a qualified doctor but he believes how a lot of mindset
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shifts can change your life just like I can and I'm sure I remember seeing something
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I did I went to see a talk that he did a couple of years ago,
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and he just blew my mind and he was even talking about like in a loving relationship
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where he said like imagine arguing with someone say he said that,
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you thought two plus two is four okay and you're with someone and they think
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two plus two is three right.
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He was like I don't need to prove I'm right I don't have to fight and get myself,
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into I don't know like a spiral of overthinking and,
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over explaining and he was like I don't need to enter that he said in the nicest
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way even if I think something is wrong why do I need to,
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beg and try and convince them that two plus two equals four if they think two
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plus one two plus two equals three,
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then let them cool that's fine he's like I don't need to give that energy or
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my attention to someone I don't need,
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and he kind of went a bit deeper into romantic relationships and he was like,
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sometimes having the power,
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is knowing in your head that you're right but that you don't need to argue that all the time,
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Sometimes it's the people who have lesser power, who need to prove themselves, who need to win.
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You don't need to win the argument. Sometimes being the powerful one,
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choosing to stand in your power, but not needing to argue,
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not needing to thrash it out all of the time, not needing to prove your point,
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to get to the end where you're both exhausted and going, yes, I won.
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I won. Now they realize that two plus two equals four.
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And I thought, God, that's really true. And sometimes it's about just stopping,
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stepping back and having this inner power of knowing that it's OK.
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I know what I believe is right. And that's fine. Not every argument needs to
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be challenged or to be jumped into.
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And it doesn't mean I think there's a fine line because I do this a lot.
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And there's sometimes where I think, yeah, but then am I becoming a pushover?
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Because if I always just go, OK, no problem, I'm stepping back.
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Sometimes I would fight that because I think well I'm not a pushover but actually
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the more I see it is that I'm just in my power yes there are some times to set
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boundaries and things need to be said does it need to be thrashed out for three hours perhaps not,
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do I need to get myself worked up and feel frustrated and drained of do you
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all feel drained after the argument whatever it is sometimes you might just
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want to say your piece and then you're done and if you decide to disagree you decide to disagree.
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But I think there's real power, real power in that.
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And then talking about this negativity cleanup,
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this is where it gets interesting because we can unfollow people,
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we can mute accounts, we can turn off the news, we can put our phones down,
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but we can't unfollow ourselves.
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So what is the voice inside your own head saying?
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Because we're incredibly careful about what we consume and then we can spend
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the entire day talking to ourselves like we are our own worst enemy,
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and if there's one tip one huge giant transformational tip that I could give you,
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it's deciding becoming aware and choosing how we talk about ourselves,
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and sometimes we are talking to ourselves like we are our own worst enemy,
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the amount of times I hear people go oh I'm stupid I always do this I'm so far
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behind no one ever picks me nothing ever works for me,
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I can't earn that enough money I'm not clever enough I'm too old I'm not attractive enough.
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And I want you to imagine your best friend saying those things to you.
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Would you ever in a million years speak to her the way that you speak to yourself? Probably not.
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You'd probably say, hey, it's okay. You haven't ruined anything.
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This is your own timeline.
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It will happen for you. You're still learning.
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You're allowed to have a bad day. You'll figure it out.
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So why don't we allow and give ourselves some of that and I'm not saying you
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need to stand in front of the mirror and say I'm the most incredible human that's ever lived, I mean.
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Do you like that idea? But it's just the first step in changing that negative
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language. Think about what I've talked about today. It's about what we consume.
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It's about what drains us. It's about taking a negativity stock check.
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And one of the biggest things that your subconscious is doing on a daily basis,
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even when you're not talking out loud, your subconscious is talking to yourself.
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And if you're constantly thinking, oh God, I look rough today. I'm too old for this.
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I'm not clever enough to start a side hustle.
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All of these things, I'm useless. I'm struggling with this. I'll never get there.
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That tiny word, those tiny sentences, your subconscious, it's allowing it to
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become, remember how I opened this episode, what we repeatedly tell our brain, it believes.
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So we're consuming the content we believe that you know we're behind because
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everybody has a lovely house a lovely body a lovely partner and they've started
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a family they've got an amazing side hustle they're earning loads of money.
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And then we're talking to ourselves going we're not good enough we're useless
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all of this is affecting your energy and it's affecting,
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your manifestations this is why I said it doesn't mean about doing more or setting
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more goals this is simply about taking a stock check and reducing some of the
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negativity that we are placing in our subconscious.
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We just, I want you to think about just running a little bit of a brew.
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Maybe you've taken your Henry Hoover into your subconscious,
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into your brain and you're like, do you know what, I'm just going to have a
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little light dust in here.
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Let's get rid of those people who drain me. Let me get rid of my negative talk.
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Perhaps I'm not going to sit in front of the news for hours and hours.
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That's the big negativity cleanup that I want you to think about.
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So let's have a bit of a negativity debrief here.
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Imagine you're going to take this negative inventory of your life.
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Ask yourself these five simple questions. What am I watching?
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So that means, you know, accounts, what shows, news, videos,
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content, and how does it make me feel?
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That's a really simple one. What am I watching and how does it make me feel?
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Who am I listening to? So who am I talking to? What opinions am I repeatedly hearing?
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Are they expanding me or are they shrinking me? So think about the conversations
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you're always involved with. Are you in a group chat where there's so much gossip
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and rage baiting and everybody's, you know, jumping on having arguments?
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Who am I spending time with? and think about who leaves me energized because
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I tell you what who leaves you energized spend more time with those people consume
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more of those thoughts consume more of their conversations,
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who leaves me feeling depleted who leaves who makes me feel like myself who
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makes me feel like I have to perform,
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because that can be draining if you're going for lunch with a friend and you're
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constantly feeling like you can't be yourself and you're having to perform and
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everything's good and you're keeping up with the Joneses,
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that's not a positive experience.
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And then think, what am I saying to myself? What is my internal commentary?
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Would I speak to someone I love like that?
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That's so important. If you can just shift the negative talk and just become
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aware of it. Become aware of it today whilst you're wandering around,
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whether you're at work or you're sorting the kids out or you've got a day at home.
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Just think about the words that you're feeding yourself. And I'm going to do
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this today. I'm going to start taking stock again. This is where I always go right back to the start.
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Taking stock of your thoughts and feelings and what you are chatting,
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how you are chatting to yourself.
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And finally, what am I giving my energy to that I actually don't need?
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And this is like a huge one because sometimes we are exhausted,
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not because we have too much, but because we're mentally involved in too many
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things that don't matter.
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Other people's opinions, other people's relationships, arguments,
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drama, gossip, things that we can't control, things that happened three years
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ago, what somebody might think, what somebody said, what somebody posted.
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Ask yourself, why am I giving this so much space in my head?
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And I want you to remember, most importantly, this is not about becoming positive all of the time.
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But getting rid of these senseless, negative events or people or things that
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we're doing, that's what we're talking about. We don't need to be positive all the time.
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I always talk about how real life
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will always hit, even if you're the most positive person in the world.
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You are allowed to feel your feelings, have the bad day, complain to your friend, cry, get angry.
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You're allowed to say, God, today has been bloody awful. That is okay.
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But the difference is whether negativity is something you're experiencing or
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you've started feeding.
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We don't want to feed ourselves with pointless negative emotion.
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And that's the distinction here.
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So let's have a 24-hour negativity cleanup.
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Here's what I want you to try. So think about it. Once you've listened to this
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podcast, for the next 24 hours, you don't need to change anything.
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So just notice. Every time something or someone makes you feel noticeably worse, just notice it.
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Every time a conversation leaves you drained, notice it.
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Every time you start arguing or feel triggered online notice it every time you
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say something horrible to yourself notice it and then just kind of ask yourself
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do I want more of this that's it.
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Because that awareness is giving you the choice and it gives you the choice
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to step back step away and change direction,
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you can once you notice it you can decide what to do with it,
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maybe tomorrow you could mute somebody online maybe you could stop checking
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the news first thing in the morning maybe you could put your phone in another
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room maybe you could follow a really,
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body positivity account online maybe you can silence the gossip in your group
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chat and not jump into it that's a cleanup it's that simple and remember,
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what's really important about this you don't need to add more to your life we're
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not doing another vision board another podcast another morning routine,
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this is just you need less less of the noise less of the comparison less arguing
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and more protecting your peace make peace normal,
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make kindness normal make rest normal make success normal that's it,
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so for your homework we've had the 24-hour kind of negativity clean up where
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you're just going to start noticing what drains you and if you can make a different choice on that.
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And then your homework. Just pick three things that you could do today.
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So what's one thing you can unfollow?
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One thing to reduce and one thing to replace. So maybe that could look like
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you unfollow the account that makes you feel rubbish about yourself.
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You could reduce the amount of news that you consume and you could replace your
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morning doom scroll on Instagram with music and a cup of tea.
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Or unfollow the person who triggers comparison, reduce the arguments you get
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involved in, or replace that energy with something that makes you feel alive. And that's it.
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Catch one negative thing that maybe you say to yourself, because you are going
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to hear your own voice more than anyone else's for the rest of your life.
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So I think it's really important. Let's make sure that that voice is a voice
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that you actually want to live with.
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And that's it. that's your little negativity cleanup I'm very excited about this one because,
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you know it can help reduce that feeling of feeling drained overwhelmed and,
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you could just ask yourself like what have I been consuming because actually
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you're not doing anything wrong but it's actually probably having a big,
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impact on the way that you go about your day and that turns into your week your
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month the year and that in turn,
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it definitely has an effect on how we are manifesting.
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So that is it I hope you enjoy your negativity cleanup please let me know if
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you take this on board if you do anything if you want to follow anyone,
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please let me know and slide into my dms I'm at the holly edwards and at the
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doctor manifestation station,
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thank you as always if you've enjoyed this episode I would love it if you could
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share it with a friend perhaps is it too much if you've got a very negative friend and you think
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hey saw this you might want to listen to this episode I don't know maybe that
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could do some good in the world,
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but I send this episode to you with love I hope I have not drained you in any
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way I hope I have not triggered you,
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in any way so that's it from me until next week but thank you so much for listening
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and as always remember you are exactly where you're meant to be goodbye.