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You've Got Decisions: Update: Do I Make Him Not Feel Bad For Cheating? · Decisions, Decisions

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  Speaker 1: If you would like to have us answer your questions.
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  Speaker 2: If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or
• 0:07
  Speaker 2: a terrible throuffle, guess what.
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  Speaker 1: You've got decisions. You've got decisions, and I do too.
• 0:19
  Speaker 1: Apparently we do too, y'all.
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  Speaker 3: We've been on these calls just having conversations and shit,
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if y'all know, but we are six seven,
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  Speaker 3: eight months away from literally reaching.
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  Speaker 1: Ten years with this goddamn podcast. It's so crazy to
• 0:34
  Speaker 1: think ten years.
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  Speaker 3: Hey, believe I put up with your ass this long?
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  Speaker 3: Which can imagine if I had a ten year old kid?
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  Speaker 1: What I guess I I'm not gonna lie.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if you know this outside of being
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  Speaker 3: a realized bitch. This is the longest thing I've ever
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  Speaker 3: done in life.
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  Speaker 1: Like a job like no.
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  Speaker 3: This is longer than like elementary school, longer than middle school,
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  Speaker 3: longer than high school, longer than college, longer than any
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  Speaker 3: job I've ever had, longer than any nigga I've ever
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  Speaker 3: been with. It's just the longest thing I've ever done.
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  Speaker 3: And we've done it weekly for almost ten years.
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  Speaker 1: And we never took breaks.
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  Speaker 3: No, and well we did kind of sometimes we was like, bitch,
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  Speaker 3: you gonna record that episode by yourself, and I'm gonna
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  Speaker 3: record this by myself.
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  Speaker 1: That was up early, but that means we never left y'all. Okay,
• 1:28
  Speaker 1: that means we never left y'all.
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  Speaker 2: And it's funny because you niggas complain if a bitch
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  Speaker 2: take Christmas off, and I'm like.
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  Speaker 1: Like, I'm gona take to fucking spaz out.
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  Speaker 3: No. Actually, they complained that they don't know the exact
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  Speaker 3: week or within twenty four hours of the dick being
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  Speaker 3: in our mouth, and it's just like, Bro, you're still
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  Speaker 3: getting the story though, so kave it happened a month ago?
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  Speaker 1: Bro? Damn you know? Nick, let the dick settle.
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  Speaker 2: I actually had a therapy call. I haven't been in
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  Speaker 2: therapy a while, but I was just like one of
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  Speaker 2: my friends, Oh, is dating someone.
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  Speaker 1: That you used to date?
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  Speaker 2: No, it's worse. Who's dying? Fifth six months to live?
• 2:13
  Speaker 2: And he said he doesn't think he'll make it that long.
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  Speaker 2: I'll give you the details once we stop recording. But
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  Speaker 2: she was basically like, I need you, I need you,
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  Speaker 2: I need you, Like what if he doesn't make it
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  Speaker 2: till Christmas? And I sit on bout therapy call you
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  Speaker 2: ain't got it for I.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no.
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  Speaker 2: I just said this is someone's very important to me
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  Speaker 2: and she would be there for me. But I'm like, damn,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going through an exciting time in my life and like.
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  Speaker 1: This nig is dying. It's not you weave ay Bybee.
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  Speaker 2: I don't say, I'm just saying, like, yo, like the
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  Speaker 2: energy in the space I need in between it.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, Oh, your recharge it has
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  Speaker 3: to be crazy. But like, yeah, so it's so funny
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  Speaker 3: because I just saw a real about friendship and community
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  Speaker 3: and literally it's saying that you can't build it without
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  Speaker 3: sacrifice and compromise.
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  Speaker 1: Like, oh, yes, I saw that.
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  Speaker 2: You saw that, and so it's just building your village
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  Speaker 2: means being a villager.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I saw that.
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  Speaker 3: It means like you're gonna have to do things that
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  Speaker 3: you don't want to do that may not align with
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  Speaker 3: where you're at the time of your life that you're in.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, to be fair, clearly, I made a village
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  Speaker 3: without villagers because when I was going through something, bitches
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  Speaker 3: was like.
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  Speaker 2: Well but that's how they act and that's how you
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  Speaker 2: get to show. So of course I'm like, yay, yes
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  Speaker 2: for her right and the colors then, but any other
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  Speaker 2: day she was like, you know, I kind of just
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  Speaker 2: feel bad for calling you with this stuff. I'm like, yo,
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  Speaker 2: like we're gonna be friends forever. There's gonna be someone
• 3:55
  Speaker 2: who loses a parent, and we got to be there
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  Speaker 2: for each other. There's no opportune time for this to happen, right,
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  Speaker 2: And I think what it's kind of taught me through
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  Speaker 2: this whole process is how much energy I could spare
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  Speaker 2: for people. So like this just came up because we
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  Speaker 2: talked about people complaining. That was what prompted this. I
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  Speaker 2: had a person on IGB like you seem to complain
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  Speaker 2: about when fans do certain things and da da da da,
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, damn, y'all don't even know what
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  Speaker 2: I'm experiencing when I jump on Instagram or how I
• 4:30
  Speaker 2: come to Instagram to laugh or play and be silly,
• 4:34
  Speaker 2: and I feel like something really heavy is happening, Like
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  Speaker 2: I can't handle things like that, Like our whore Hive
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  Speaker 2: is where I like to let go. Yeah, when it
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  Speaker 2: starts to feel like a job, which I know that
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  Speaker 2: it is, it gets hard.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that's like.
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  Speaker 3: Where I was really struggling, and I basically told my therapist,
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  Speaker 3: like I don't know how to get on the pod
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  Speaker 3: and make a clip about sucking dick and how happy
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  Speaker 3: I am this week knowing my homegirl's going to see
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  Speaker 3: it and her man is dying.
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  Speaker 1: Well luckily we're pre recorded.
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  Speaker 3: So what I'm just saying, technically, you don't not this
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  Speaker 3: week how hard it was to be in Europe while
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  Speaker 3: she got this news.
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  Speaker 1: That's so like I was born in a boat. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not gonna lie. It sounds like some uh.
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  Speaker 3: Like I've been like watching rom coms. Well, so this
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  Speaker 3: isn't funny, But what's what's the other word?
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  Speaker 1: Is it romance? What's the what's the genre when it's
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  Speaker 1: not funny? Drama? Dy bitch? No, that still has comedy
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  Speaker 1: in it?
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  Speaker 3: Bitch drama talking about I'm talking about when it's just
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  Speaker 3: like sad and sappy drama love w Like, what's the
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  Speaker 3: notebook a drama? The notebook ain't no drama. Let me
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  Speaker 3: see genre of the notebook movie? Sorry y'all look at
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  Speaker 3: us with our add Oh romantic drama drama? Okay, So okay,
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  Speaker 3: So that's the way this is given. Yo is in
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  Speaker 3: and it's sad, but it's so like nice. She gonna
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  Speaker 3: stay with him through the whole time.
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  Speaker 2: Not only does she want to stay with him, he's
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  Speaker 2: gonna try out chemo and he has to do it
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  Speaker 2: in another country. Guess who's volunteered me to go. She's like,
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  Speaker 2: I need you to be there.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, huh, Chimo was a long time. I'm confused.
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  Speaker 2: Basically, she's gonna visit through half the time. I guess
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  Speaker 2: his parents will be there or whatever. She's gonna visit
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  Speaker 2: through some of the time, and she wants me to
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  Speaker 2: be there, and I'm just like, I.
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  Speaker 1: Don't know how to say no. She's like, I need you.
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  Speaker 1: I can't leave him and come back to my room,
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  Speaker 1: like and just be sad.
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  Speaker 3: Bitch, you have a fiance now you got She gotta
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  Speaker 3: know you're not the single friend family.
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  Speaker 1: I thought about you, Sam there, you got a family.
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  Speaker 1: You could go over that for a week.
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  Speaker 3: I got a family because the one new you gotta family. Nah, bitch, yo,
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  Speaker 3: I ain't gonna hold you. Don't let me get pregnant.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god, bitch on the baby. No, you can't
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  Speaker 3: get pregnant now, bitch. We just said we gotta We're
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  Speaker 3: about to redo this.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, I can't. I'm not no. Can I tell
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  Speaker 1: you why I'm not getting pregnant? Why that look good?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god?
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  Speaker 2: Now you don't want to ruin the body. This is
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  Speaker 2: really fucked up.
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  Speaker 3: But I was having a conversation about how selfish I
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  Speaker 3: feel like I gotta be to my body right now.
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  Speaker 3: Every nigga I see that I used to fuck with
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  Speaker 3: can't stop telling me how good I look.
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  Speaker 1: Every bitch can't.
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  Speaker 2: Stop being like, what class at trap is it? I'm
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  Speaker 2: in the best shape of my life. You think I'm
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  Speaker 2: gonna get fat.
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  Speaker 3: Now now, but it's to bring a baby into the world.
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  Speaker 2: Oh well, I don't want to do a mommy makeover.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not good at recovery.
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  Speaker 1: Bitch.
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  Speaker 2: That means I'm gonna get back on them Chinese pills.
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  Speaker 2: It's gonna be a tough ride.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god. Anyway, my other issue is someone happening.
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  Speaker 3: Well, we do have another update now, weezy. You weren't
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  Speaker 3: here for this letter. By the way, guys, this is
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  Speaker 3: the letter that I did, actually, uh really recently.
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  Speaker 1: The release date was July eighth.
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  Speaker 3: Episode title How Do I Make Him Not Feel bad
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  Speaker 3: for cheating?
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  Speaker 1: Cool?
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  Speaker 3: And basically she wrote the letter and was like, well,
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  Speaker 3: this question is for Mandy, and I felt offended, bitch
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  Speaker 3: because basically, she doubled back to a high school lover
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  Speaker 3: and they started sexting had sex a couple days later.
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  Speaker 3: He said he regretted it because he felt bad that
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  Speaker 3: he cheated on his current partner.
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  Speaker 1: To double back to her.
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  Speaker 3: So this is the update after she heard this episode.
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  Speaker 3: Just wanted to give an update and clarify. Y'all be
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  Speaker 3: wanting to clarify, but we can only go off.
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  Speaker 1: What you bitches tell us.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, Mandy, I didn't mean for it to come off
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  Speaker 3: like I thought you were a horrible person or anything.
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  Speaker 1: The bitch. Iall felt offended.
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  Speaker 3: I just know you have experience with dealing with things
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  Speaker 3: like that. Read no holds Barret. I am a grown woman.
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  Speaker 1: I have advanced.
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  Speaker 3: The conversations I had with him made it seem like
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  Speaker 3: they didn't really fuck with each other and we're just
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  Speaker 3: there for the kids.
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  Speaker 1: When a man says he's just there for the kids, bitch,
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  Speaker 1: just a lie. Yeah, I've read a lot too.
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  Speaker 3: By the way, next sentences, I know men lie, but
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  Speaker 3: I don't want a relationship with him. I just want
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  Speaker 3: to consistent friends with benefits. I like having to give
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  Speaker 3: the bare minimum and not deal with the other bs
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  Speaker 3: that comes with a relationship. I guess you could say
• 9:36
  Speaker 3: I'm insecure about my stomach. At least I have PCOS,
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  Speaker 3: which makes it almost impossible to get rid of stomach fat.
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  Speaker 3: I basically need to have an eating disorder to get
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  Speaker 3: the weight off me. It's easier to talk to the
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  Speaker 3: men I do because I have history with them. They
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  Speaker 3: knew me when my stomach was smaller and more quote
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  Speaker 3: unquote attractive, and I have really good relationships with them
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  Speaker 3: outside of sex.
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  Speaker 1: Anyways.
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  Speaker 3: The other man I deal with that's married. His wife
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  Speaker 3: knows and does nothing, so I'm taking that as she's
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  Speaker 3: okay with it. I know I'm a horrible person. I'm
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  Speaker 3: not in therapy. I am a very self aware of person,
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  Speaker 3: so it's kind of pointless.
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  Speaker 1: I feel, oh, girl, you sound like me and my twenties.
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  Speaker 3: Pierre, he doesn't feel that bad because he reached back out. Granted,
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  Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure I was unmedicated when I originally message you.
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  Speaker 1: Now I don't think about it. I really think it's
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  Speaker 1: just a power trip for me. Hmm. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: My thoughts on this is you do sound like me
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  Speaker 3: and my twenties. You're aware of your insecurity. I think
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  Speaker 3: you not wanting to go out and date and find
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  Speaker 3: new men that may also just appreciate you because of
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  Speaker 3: your own insecurity with your body is something that has
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  Speaker 3: to be worked from the inside out.
• 10:50
  Speaker 1: Because, bitch, these niggas love a gut.
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  Speaker 3: You have a problem with your stomach, but there's men
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  Speaker 3: that won't have a problem with your stomach. There's men
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  Speaker 3: that are aware that we go through different changes with
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  Speaker 3: our bodies and that there are hormonal of things that
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  Speaker 3: affect that.
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  Speaker 1: I also think that the fact that you deal with a.
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  Speaker 3: Mar married guyane who has a wife who knows about you,
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  Speaker 3: but because she stayed and hasn't done anything, you're content
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  Speaker 3: with that relationship. I do think that you wanting to
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  Speaker 3: show up as the bare minimum makes me feel like
• 11:20
  Speaker 3: you don't believe you deserve more.
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  Speaker 1: I will show you a consistent I wrote about in
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  Speaker 1: the book.
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  Speaker 2: I have noticed with my friends that don't have the
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  Speaker 2: existential perfect body.
• 11:35
  Speaker 1: And this is.
• 11:37
  Speaker 2: A hard one to say. They're the women in my
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  Speaker 2: life that accept the worst treatment for men.
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  Speaker 3: Oh bitch, that's what look at me in my bitch
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  Speaker 3: when I was two on it talbotn't know and that's
• 11:49
  Speaker 3: why I accepted the bare minimum from these niggas are
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  Speaker 3: literally I feel like they're almost worse than my friends
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  Speaker 3: that are single moms and feel like they.
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  Speaker 1: Ain't gonna get a nigga.
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  Speaker 2: Something about the way the security ourselves, it's so effective
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  Speaker 2: as to what we think we deserve later.
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  Speaker 1: Right, that insecurity is so crippling.
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  Speaker 2: It would allow you to be taken down to a
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  Speaker 2: level that nobody would even dream of.
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  Speaker 1: And so all I could say to you is I
• 12:19
  Speaker 1: just made the.
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  Speaker 2: Comment about my weight and feeling good. I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to get happy and pregnant. Right Talking that way can
• 12:26
  Speaker 2: sound fat phobic, It could sound like I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to be that person. Whatever, what I will tell you
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  Speaker 2: from owning a gym that I learned ain't a big
• 12:35
  Speaker 2: bitch in her day and got a nigga. Ain't a
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  Speaker 2: bitch in there who's active and enjoying their body and
• 12:43
  Speaker 2: like doing something for themselves that feels like they can't
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  Speaker 2: get a nigga. And I really truly think it isn't
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  Speaker 2: about how we look, it's really what's in your head.
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  Speaker 2: We have someone like we have a marker of two
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  Speaker 2: hundred and fifty classes, five hundred classes. We've been almost
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  Speaker 2: open two years, and I don't have many experiences I
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  Speaker 2: could speak to except for this, because I know it
• 13:02
  Speaker 2: has to do with a confidence level, and I'm so
• 13:04
  Speaker 2: close to it now with my work.
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  Speaker 1: These bitches is dating like a motherfucker.
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  Speaker 2: And one girl that just hit one hundred classes recently
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  Speaker 2: told me to my face with Brianda, y'all, if I
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't have started a little workout challenge and seeing what
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  Speaker 2: it did for me, because it's not that she isn't big,
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  Speaker 2: it's that she sees the difference in herself. She knows
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  Speaker 2: she's working towards something, so she's feeling sexy in her clothes.
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  Speaker 2: She is feeling like she looks different, and it's like
• 13:34
  Speaker 2: the PCOS is always going to fuck you up, you
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  Speaker 2: know what I mean. But high cortisol can be from stress.
• 13:40
  Speaker 2: What does working out do?
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: Stress? Believer?
• 13:43
  Speaker 2: I really believe inflammation can decrease the more you remain active,
• 13:47
  Speaker 2: get indoor fins, and get yourself feeling sexy. Because this
• 13:51
  Speaker 2: mindset of like I'm having a power trip because I'm
• 13:54
  Speaker 2: fucking a married nigga and he's attracted to me. Nigga's
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  Speaker 2: a fuck a hole, and I know you look better
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  Speaker 2: than a hole in a wall, so fuck him.
• 14:02
  Speaker 1: Like, yeah, a stomach a stomach, girl, girl.
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  Speaker 3: I do. I'm I'm you know, glad that you moved
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  Speaker 3: on from this other guy that felt bad for cheating
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  Speaker 3: with you. But yeah, I would say we got another
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  Speaker 3: six months left in twenty twenty six. You need to
• 14:24
  Speaker 3: work on yourself and leave these niggas alone. You need
• 14:26
  Speaker 3: to start loving yourself, and you need to start ye
• 14:29
  Speaker 3: clothes and make you feel sexy. Yeah, if you keep
• 14:31
  Speaker 3: wearing the houghty suits and high waisted pants, we still
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  Speaker 3: see the stomach. So if you feel like your stomach
• 14:36
  Speaker 3: is popping out in certain shit bitch wear, shit, it makes.
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: Dress dress that makes you feel sexy. I like, like,
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  Speaker 1: I agree.
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  Speaker 2: I'm really tired of the trope that like we look
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  Speaker 2: fat and everything.
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: Know the fuck we don't and don't.
• 14:54
  Speaker 2: I showed Alex, my business partner, a photo with me
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  Speaker 2: thirty rounds heavier, and he was like, oh, when was
• 15:02
  Speaker 2: this because I never saw you look like this.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, nig I'm showing you me in a
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  Speaker 1: bathing suit.
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: I would never post this like when I got pregnant
• 15:10
  Speaker 2: for those of you that read no Holes barred, because.
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: I guess as a spoiler alert for those.
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: Of you didn't read it, but because I had a
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: miscarriage the HGC hormone like getting a DNC look all
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: of that up. But like I basically my body almost
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: still thought it was pregnant, Like it was hello weird,
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: and like my face was blowing up, my feet were
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: getting swollen, like I was looking pregnant a little too
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  Speaker 2: long and getting that weight off was super difficult, even
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: though it wasn't a long pregnancy.
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  Speaker 1: It's it's weird. But what I can say from that
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: experience is that I was hiding it.
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  Speaker 2: There's been an episode or two on Decisions Decisions where
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  Speaker 2: people that I was pregnant, maybe because my face like
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: a little swell, but I was hiding it.
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: I was hiding it well. And I think it's because
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  Speaker 1: I thought, all right, I got to figure out what
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  Speaker 1: I can wear.
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  Speaker 2: It makes me feel like me until this version of
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: me is reinvented. Yeah, skinny isn't going to be the goal.
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  Speaker 2: It's just going to be feeling sexy. But I and
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: that's I wanted to add to that too, Like I.
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  Speaker 3: Think you settling with knowing that you're fine with being
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  Speaker 3: and it's just friends with benefits or side chick situation
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  Speaker 3: because of your insecurity, because you, you know, are willing
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  Speaker 3: to accept the bare minimum, but you also saying that
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  Speaker 3: you want guys that knew you when you were quote
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  Speaker 3: unquote attractive. It just I want you to do the work.
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  Speaker 3: And the fact that you even said, uh, you know
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  Speaker 3: at the end of that, I'm not in therapy. I
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  Speaker 3: am a very self aware of person, so it's kind
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  Speaker 3: of pointless. Now you could be self aware of your insecurities.
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  Speaker 3: The therapist is now there to help you work through that.
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: Like I think it's you're in a very unhealthy state
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: of just living in bare minimumness and that's whack, especially
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: when it comes to these niggas, because these in just undeserving.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: You're undeserved.
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: I want to do some unoffecial, unofficial medical advice for
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: a client of ours that had PCOS and was able
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: to lose weight.
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: I mentioned the thing with.
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: Cortisol because I learned about how you really can't get
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: rid of the stomach fat with PCOS because of the
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: high stress.
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: So she took no because fucking.
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: I did an episode with Kiki from Cocktails and Baby
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: she is snatched time. Like, there's there's a lot of
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: foods that you're supposed to stay away from.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: There's there are things that you could take to adjust.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: Your horm literally we have to learning, Okay, So they
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: look onto met Foreman. It's called met Foreman, and a
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: client of ours was taking this and basically used it
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: to manage PCOS symptoms.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: It might be a weight loss drug.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: I'm not sure it lowers blood sugar, but like it
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: really helped her with her PCOS getting more sleep. You
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: got at least get seven hours. That's a big one.
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: And for the food basically, like.
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: You get insolent spikes with PCOS, which keeps the weight gain.
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: So you gotta make sure you stabilize the blood sugar,
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: so you gotta eat high fiber diets like at the
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: end of the day, because I have end demetriosis, not PCOS.
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: But like I really chalked up having a stomach for
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: that shit, bitch, I really did.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: And I ain't saying that.
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: It is not that it can't go away, but like
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: sometimes we just are like we accept our fate, you know.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm always gonna have cramps.
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: I'm just gonna take fucking five hundred milligram I'd be
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: propen fucking ten times a day.
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: That's where my brain was at.
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: Like nah, Like live your life, bitch, and when you
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: start living that motherfucker, you're gonna get better.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: Niggas. I'm not gonna lie.
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: I'm like in a place too where my friends are
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: dating and you know they're not getting the results that
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: they want, and where I guess can say niggas ain't
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: shit for my friends. Bitch, all my niggas, I don't.
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: I don't get told no, like I gotta I got
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: another nigga right now. I don't even want to see him,
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: and he's like, well, I'll come to Like niggas be
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: offering a fly to me?
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: Maybe, Well, where are you gonna be? I could meet you? Maybe.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: Like the way that the way.
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: That my confidence has resonated with men not only from
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: the past, but men that I'm meeting currently and like
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: just demanding a certain level of treatment is one that
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: I don't think.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: I would have ever thought I was even at.
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: One point deserving of the way I'm able to be
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: honest and like share with them about my other partners,
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: and just I feel fully accepted by my partners and.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: Who I am.
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: It to me, I think only steps from being a
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: Babbage like but feeling like a.
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: Bad bitch, which I know is something bad because but stomach,
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: let me verculous.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: Let me all think I'm ugly, and I'm not. I'm
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: not slim, bitch.
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: I'm still thick them over here, okay, But to me,
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: I'm not everyone's piece of piece of pie, piece.
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: Of cake, whatever.
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: But my my confidence when I enter a room allows
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: me to get any more the fucker I want.
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: Don't believe me.
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: We really know what nigga I pulled and can I'm
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: just saying so. And when you want a nigga like
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: the one I want, to.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: Listen, no one can't do it. Honestly. Every nigga that
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: I've ever wanted is I have. So I'm like, you know.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: Bro, I got a homegirl that's about She pushed a
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: three hundred and she fucking on this little rapper nigga
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: and I'm.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: Just three hundred. Is she she tall? SHEESU? She ain't
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: that tall, but she'd be girl.
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: I might not be three hundred, bro, just like I
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: was big and I was two thirty.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: I was a size eight. She's not five peep, she's
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: tall enough. Yeah I'm not five feet home on five two, okay,
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: but I'm having enough. She up there in height, but
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: she poked three hundred and she started fucking on his
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: rapper nigga.
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: And basically the next day, because I knew she was
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: going out to a party she was at, called me
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: from the back of a car and went like this,
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: showed me a driver.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: She said, never doubt me again. And when you sing
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: that nigga shit, think about me. And I was like, yo,
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: real shit. I know she pulled up to that motherfucking
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: club in Miami, and I know them holes in a
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: section trying to pull that nigga, and she was sexy
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: and she was funny, and he wanted it.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: I'll be honest though, too.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: There's a difference between and it's what I realized, the
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: difference between my twenties and now. There's also a difference
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: with getting fucked on by a nigga and a nigga
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: treating you well.
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: So I do also for the oh you said, who
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: I pulled aniggain and she pulled a nigga.
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: So this this this listener is backing niggas. They're fucking her,
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: but it's also still bare minimum and she's not getting
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: much else.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: Like again, these.
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: Niggas a fuck a hole in the wall, So a
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: nigga isn't as much to brag about.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: If that's all you get is fucked off, I don't
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: think that's true.
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: If that's what you want, If you wanted to pull
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: a nigga out of club and you got some dick, yeah,
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: with this nigga, all he did was feel guilty for
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: fucking her because he got another bitch, and she was
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: like so no the decade and all she won't if
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: if she mad the nigga got got in this piece.
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: I ask you for the listener. I'm talking about my homewer.
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: I want some deep Oh oh okay, well, but I'm
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: just saying something saint the issue.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: Girl.
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: Niggas acclaim you niggas a wife. You look at six
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: hundred pounds life. You don't look like them girls, do you?
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: Or you can watch what is it?
• 22:22
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• 22:25
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• 22:29
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• 22:32
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