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Season 3 - Episode 317 - Are you a perfectionist? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop perfectionism.
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  Do you consider yourself a perfectionist?
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  I used to consider myself a perfectionist when I was younger
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  a lot I'm used to say, Oh no, it's got to be perfect.
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  And I never understood the concept of looking at it and
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  saying, well, how do you define perfect?
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  What is perfect? What does that look like?
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  Because listen, everybody's version of it is different.
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  My version of a perfect chicken coop is far different than some
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  people's. Some people's it's, you know,
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  just a little tiny cage and they're in there and they're
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  good. And they're like, oh, it's
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  perfect. They're safe from predators.
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  And me, it's more like, OK, not only do I want them to be safe,
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  but I want them to be happy. And I want them to have this
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  vast area. I want it to be clean.
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  I can give you an entire list of how well I thought this out, but
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  it was all based around the fact that, OK, I just want to create
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  something that's in unbelievable.
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  And that to me is always like hitting the level of
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  perfectionism. When I was a kid, I used to get
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  assignments in school and we would have to handwrite them a
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  certain way. And the teacher that taught us
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  writing in second grade was just unbelievable.
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  Missus Walker. And she wrote the most, she had
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  the most beautiful handwriting, and she taught us all to write
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  that. Pretty much every girl in the
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  class had the same handwriting writing because we would mimic
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  over and over and over what she did and she would say, OK, it's
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  got to be perfect. And she didn't do it in a bad
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  way. It was just her way of doing it.
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  Like you don't think about those things when you give them to
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  child's a child's mind and say, OK, here you go.
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  This is how we're going to introduce perfectionism to you.
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  But for me, it was just something that I dove into
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  first. It started with handwriting.
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  I would write and rewrite, write and rewrite everything that I
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  possibly could because I wanted to make sure that it was done
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  just the correct way, just perfect.
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  But it just slowed me down and it held back a lot of my
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  creativity because I didn't want to make things too long to
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  write. I can remember sitting and
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  writing a story and saying I could have this whole section,
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  but I don't want to sit there and have to rewrite it or right
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  in this whole thing because the penmanship had to be perfect.
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  Now, it's a silly, silly example, but the truth is, where
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  does that show up in your life? Where does it still show up in
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  my life? There are so many ways that we
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  get stuck in this. And I, this is the point of
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  today is not just to rail on perfectionism.
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  The point is what does it rob you of?
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  And it robs you of creativity. It takes away your ability to
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  start to think differently, to see differently, to act
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  differently, to be creative because you get stuck in the
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  paradigm of perfectionism. And then all of a sudden there's
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  no room for creativity, creativity in it.
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  Because creativity can be messy. It can be unorganized.
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  It can say, well, you know, I'm when I'm starting something, it
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  all seems great in the beginning and then it looks like this big
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  BLOB of a mess and then all of a sudden it comes together at the
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  end. But when perfectionism is
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  present, that big BLOB in the middle is yucky.
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  It feels just one simple word, yucky.
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  And this is not just for projects or things that you're
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  building in your world, but it's also your world itself.
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  So if you're going through a huge transition right now and it
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  seems like you're questioning yourself about did I make the
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  right decisions? Did I do all of what I was
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  supposed to do? I should be somewhere else at
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  this point in my life. If you start that, you often
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  have to look back and say, OK, am I in a perfectionism frame
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  that says this is how it should have been done?
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  Because our certainty girls get triggered.
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  Even Raven agrees with that one. Our certainty girls get
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  triggered and all of a sudden you're working in a way that's
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  robbing you of creativity, robbing you of possibility,
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  robbing you of everything. And it's perfectionism kicking
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  in. This is how it should not be.
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  And, and you start to see like, well, if it was in a perfect
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  world, when you start those sentences off that way, you know
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  what's driving, you know what's happening.
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  So I'm going to challenge you to really identify that piece of
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  it. Look at how much is your
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  perfectionism stealing your creativity from allowing you to
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  be able to make whatever it is that you want to make out in the
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  world. Nothing is more important, my
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  friends. Not one thing is more important
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  than dwelling in creativity. It is the, it is a, it is a
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  superpower. It is a resource that you cannot
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  do without and should not to do without.
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  And the more you hunker down in this place of not understanding
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  that, the more likely you are to suffer from it because it's
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  everywhere. It's all around us.
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  So go take a look at it and put it in a box because not the best
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  tool to be using. OK everybody, have a blessed day
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  and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.