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Furry Insights: Gaining Wisdom and Joy in Dog Parenting | Featuring Amore | EP30 · Jess Ask

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week's episode. She ready or more is ready? Somebody is right? Somebody's
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ready? How to bet? She ready? Who said that? I think
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it's a song? Oh, she ready? It's probably one of the housewives.
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She ready? She ready? Now I don't watch that. I don't
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either, Yo, yo yo. It's your girl, Jessica and Smith and
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welcome back to just As, the podcast where we create a safe space for
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Kingdom entrepreneurs and creatives, have fun, decompressed and guess what just ask y'all,
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y'all, it's been a week, a whole one. It's been a
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whole Can you say whole week? Oh no, no, no, no,
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no, no, man, But this week was weekend. It was
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child? What made the week week? Child? Listen. Your girl just
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got done not too long ago with the forty days for days of Focus,
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days of Focus. So if you didn't, if you didn't get to participate,
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it's because you didn't sign up under Jessica S. Smith dot com for
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its last focus. That was the that was the that it was. It
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was so what led you into forty days of focus? Forty days of focus?
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The Lord? Holy Spirit? Everything's Holy Spirit lit in my book.
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Stuff that just don't make sense. And it's so it seemed like it's so
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random, y'all's it seems so random. But I'm glad I did it.
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I learned a lot about myself, right, I learned about a lot about
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the Lord, and I learned a lot about my purpose beyond just making myself
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a one thing. Like I was having a conversation with one of my friends
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actually breathe today, and she kept bringing up the scripture too much to whom
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much is given, much is required, And I was like, God,
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you have me doing multiple things. I work full time, I'm studying,
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I am in ministry. I serve two I served multiple ministries, two of
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which are in these amazing projects right now that I am a part of,
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Like so it's a lot going on, and so I'm like, God,
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how can I be great or excellent in these places? And my aunt reminded
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me this morning that there's a difference between being excellent and walking and perfectionism,
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and so I'm not perfect, but God is, and so I'm called to
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be excellent, not perfect. And so I'm gonna tell y'all what I'm laughing
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at a minute because we got a special guest today, real special. I'm
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gonna see if she cooperate. But yeah, so this week was been weakened
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because it was like toward the latter time of the challenge. So we the
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last ten days was included with the fans. The first thirty days we just
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we prayed Monday through Friday at four thirty in the morning, and we had
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focused group, which included ninety minutes of focus. So we focused on projects,
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creating, content, reading, whatever. I even talked on creativity and
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how everybody has a creative gene, everybody has a creative flow, you just
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have to tap into it, which they enjoyed built the community. I'm gonna
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go ahead and shout out missus Jannis, shout out to c J, shout
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out to T the niece, Shout out to Catherine, shout out to Stacy,
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Mama, Ann, Coach d Britney Parks, Tanya like, these were
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the people that were consistently involved in in this community, and they were they
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were loud and proud about being involved. Baby, they were. They would
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let me know this was working for them. And so we'll do this again
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at some point, I know. I don't know if it's gonna be like
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looking like forty days, but it's gonna be centered around focused because it sometimes
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we mismanage our time, which mismanages our focus. And so I think what
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we were able to do was not only focused on on the spiritual, but
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the practical. And that's what I that's what I'm learning. My purpose is
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making what we wrap up in the spirit practical. How do we make that
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thing play? I think it's so dope because we don't know why God does
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what he does. But the reality is he knows the beginning from the end.
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So these things like when the testings come, the trials come, when
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He gives us things to do that don't make sense, we have to be
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obedient because cause the obedience birthed out what's in there, right, So you're
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you're like, oh, yeah, well, you may not have known something
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was in there until you have been tested in that thing. That's good.
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I was talking to one of my leader earlier this week, and that's what
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he was saying. He was like, I didn't know that I had a
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magazine in me until I started, you know, producing pictures or whatever.
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The little task that seems minimum was. I didn't know this big thing was
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in me until I started being obedient and moving in these other things. Yeah,
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and the little things may not be the big thing, but the little
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things build the character that's going to be able to sustain when you get to
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the point that God's trying to get you to. All these things are just
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building. It's building our character, it's building these skills, it's building the
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confidence, not necessarily in ourselves per se, but like, dang, God,
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like you've brought me this far and you've given me all these things,
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and we just have to trust that as we continue to walk and as he
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continues to add on to our plates, that he we just have to ask
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him for the capacity to manage it all, because he wouldn't give it to
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us if it wasn't in us already, Right, that was I think that
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was perfectly said. Like the thing, the biggest thing that you said,
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and here we go. Yeah, the biggest thing that you said, Woman
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of God, is that it's already in you. It just has to be
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activated. And so one of the things, like like I said, shout
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out to CJ, she revealed to me that, you know, that thing
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she was horboring or not horboring, but holding stuff like her book, launching
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all that good stuff. But this group made her or encouraged her to push
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forward and focus on what God had already ordained her to do. She knew
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it was in her, but sometimes you need that community to push That goes
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back to what we talked about weeks ago. I think that was probably one
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of the first episodes of season three where we were talking about what's the purpose
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of the coach. The purpose of the coach is to be a support system
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and accountability system for us to go. We sometimes we don't go unless others
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are involved, and that's what we are supposed to do. We're supposed to
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say it's iron shoppings iron people think it's just that's just a two way thing.
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Now, sometimes we just need a whole group. Hey, this is
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what this group is doing. All right, this is what this is what
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we're doing. And the gag is the woman the God told me. She
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was like, yeah, you're gonna end up doing this again, but it's
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not gonna be free because we learned too much. This was too valuable.
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Like these are like I was so I was proud of myself, but I
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was so proud of the community, like these are people we were we especially
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the last ten days, we were consistently waking up at four thirty in the
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morning, getting in, praying, getting the word of the Lord, and
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focusing on the word of the Lord, to the point where the last day,
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the fortieth day, like your girl was crying. YouTube, you can
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watch it is public, like you can go back and watch. Uh,
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you can go on YouTube and watch every every day if you see to the
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days that were skipping. Those were the first thirty days because we only were
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on the weekends. We rested and we scheduled and we playing and stuff like
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that. But those last ten days were fasting and so we went we prayed
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every day ten days straight, which was like that was a whole challenge for
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me, cause you know, your girl like I, where where is my
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sleep. Where is the where is the sleep schedule? Excuse me, ma'am,
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excuse me, ma'am. Can you come here? Can you come here?
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She's smelling my kneecap. Come here. I want to introduce y'all.
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If y'all can see the see I got it. Now. Can you say?
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Hey, this is this is my dog? Y'all? Ooh, you
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licking my makeup? Y'all actually would make up today? This is my baby?
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Say hey, More? She really look she looked at the camp the
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mike. Thank you, she said, I'd have made my debut. Yeah,
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that's my baby. A More is five. She's a pit mixed and
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I've had her since she's a baby. So yeah, she she can't.
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It's mummy mummy day. Come to work with mommy, and she is.
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Okay, you're gonna have to get down. Woman of God. Hey,
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hey, woman of God, don't be ghetto woman God. Look, look
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I talked to a More like she is? She a real person? That's
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what they tell me. My folks were like, a More is not a
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dog. A More is not a dog. But speaking of a More,
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let me tell you. Okay, So the fun fact, girl, if
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you don't sit down. Fun fact so a more. I got a more
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while I was living in Pencil Colum. All right, and you're girl,
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you know first of all Florida, Florida, Floridians Florida would here we go,
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here we go. I ain't doing something right here every don't y'all realize
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that every episode we just need to go back every episode clip one to just
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a Michae adjustment, clip to Michae adjustment because I don't get it right.
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I don't. I don't get it right. We learned because I missed up
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the mind. But anyway, so I got a more as an emotional support
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dog. And when I was in Pensacola, so you know your girls single,
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right, and so not only was our single Pintacola, I didn't know
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that one person, not one soul. Okay, moving to Pensacola. That
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was probably a heart the most challenging part of well let Me Live Me that
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lie, that was probably a lie. That was one of the most I
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don't think it was most challenging. I think this year, what I experienced
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this year might have been a little bit more challenging. Okay, but I
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got a more And at first I didn't even want a dog like did not
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want a dog, and all of a sudden, my cousin shout out to
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sherman his dog end up having babies, and so he was just pubbing these
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dogs, pubbing these dogs. And one day I was at my sister's house
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and he ended up bringing three of the dogs. I think it was two
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or three of the dogs with him, or more end up having being one
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of them. So he had asked me to hold of More because he had
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just given her a them a bath. He asked me to hold her,
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and me holding her led to me keeping her like I literally she got her
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name. People think it's because she got a heart on head. I didn't
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see that before folks start saying it. It's not really, I don't know.
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It's just a white spot. It was. It's just a white But
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no, a More got her name because when she started on my lap and
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then she started stretching out on like her paws, her hind legs. That
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with this the back leg, the back paws, hind legs well on my
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on my lap and then her front front. I'm sure there's a proper whatever,
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it's a proper name. I don't know what we're talking about up front,
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paws were on my chest, so it was I was like, baby,
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are you trying to get up? And she I just let her stretch
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out like that. But then I let her lift up and then she wraps
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herself around my heart like she literally wraps herself around my heart. And that's
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when I was sold. I was like, I could not stop thinking about
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her, and so I told my cousin the next day, I said,
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hey, don't you sell that dog. That's she's my dog and her name
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is a Moore. That's how Moore got her name. Girl, I didn't
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all you to get up. Though. She is definitely a community dog.
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She is not sometimes she acts like she's not my dog. She loves everyone
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and everyone loves her. So that's fun fact. Fun fact about the dog.
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Because what what I've learned of having a more is that I am going
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to be a good mother. I oh, I didn't know I was going
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there today. Okay, we are no single, Okay, I mean you
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can't back y'all been having me talking, y'all been having all your business were
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okay, so my I don't even know if I've ever heard you say that
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before. I haven't, Okay, not out loud, Okay, we are
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here. Not So what do I mean by that? I my parents divorced
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when I will seven. I think that they separated when I was seven,
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So I was in first Let's just go with grade because I remember grades better
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than the age I was the first grade when they separated. The divorce was
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final in second grade? Right, and so my my the lipstick was trying
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to live. What was that? Okay, see this is why I don't
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well make up. I ain't My lips ain't never got stuck together. Okay,
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all right, this is it. All right, there we are.
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But AnyWho, So my mom had, you know, going through the divorce.
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I lived with my mom for a little bit, but that was kind
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of short lived. My dad and the gaining custody of us me and us
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is my sister and I. So kendall untough y'all saw her and sister sister
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episode, go back and watch that, because that was not y'all saw her
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and I look alike because we got the same parents, like same mom and
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daddy. Like out of all of our siblings, we the ones got the
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same like mummy and daddy. Okay, so my dad was awarded custody of
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and I hate how that sounds. That sounds so bad, but that's what
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happened. He was awarded custody of Kindle and I and so we lived with
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my dad. We we lived with uh the good doctor Rivern. He ain't
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no doctor Wick, Reverend Kenneth W. Smith. And my dad is a
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great father, great father. He did, he did as good as he
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could, you know, as oh well as he is. Whichever one.
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Don't career me, don't correct, don't if you don't have no popceats,
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don't come up here care me well even if you do, still don't come
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up with anything. Nobody. So, yeah, my dad, but he's
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my dad. Trying to play two roles, right. So for a long
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time, like I didn't really experience a woman in the house until my sister's
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mom, that's Kirsten's mom came in the house and that was short lived.
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They ended up getting divorced. And yeah, that dad, that didn't work
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out. Uh, so I didn't really I had mother figures right around,
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but my mom was out of state, like she was mostly you know,
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living in different states during my adolescent years, to the point where when my
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dad did get remarried to my bonus mother, I was out the house.
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So I questioned my ability to be a good mom based upon what I didn't
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see, and so I didn't think I didn't. I was so concerned and
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then this this is gonna be real. So when I was living out,
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you know, I mean, when I was in that relationship with persone that
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I was talking about made me a few episodes ago, Now I wanted to
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get pregnant. I was, yeah, like I'm I wanted to get pregnant
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and I didn't get pregnant or whatever. It's like I was scared too,
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but I was like, I felt like I had something to prove, not
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not necessarily even about just motherhood, but but just I guess in that relationship
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because I felt like he would want me if I had, you know,
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the child or what desired me the way I wanted him to desire me if
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I had a child. But thank you Lord, your grace, Sam.
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See that's that similar to that story. What's the story the sisters that was
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married to the same guy and then one of them was uhh, I think
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one who was that you you're not talking about Rachel and Panana who she thought
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like if she had the babies that he would he would Oh, no,
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that that was I feel like it was two sisters, like they was both
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kind of with the same guy. Yeah, and one of them he delighted
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in. You know, that was his Like it was a yeah because he
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that's the the daddy tricked him. The daddy tricked. And we're talking about
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the Bible, y'all. This Bible is the whole, that's what came.
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That's what we got to figure out the name of it. Yeah, I
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know, I know what you're talking about. But that's what she felt like,
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Oh if I could, you know, give him a baby. Yeah,
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and she had multiple and then the love me like he loved her,
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yes, yes, but then when she gave her last child. Juice,
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it is juicy, like it's got a full it's full of drama. It
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is a real life like if you really, you really want to you know,
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some drama, you ain't got even go to zing them. Just go
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to the Bible, like the Old Testament, the Old Testament. Listen,
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like the whole story about Noah when they got off their boat and he got
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lit, and his son went and told the other sons about him being lit,
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and then he cursed him for that because his other son has covered him.
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Yeah, like that's a whole moment, like he was drinking off the
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clock. He was like he was straight lid. He said, we're celebrating.
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We've been on this boat for a long time. Completely assignment, you
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know, turn up like gag the gag anyway, So as far as like
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me feeling like like I'm more teaching me that I'll be a good mom,
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like being able to provide structure, being able to not only nurture her but
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train her in a sense, because everybody has the same comments when they come
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up into a more like a more one my mom over my mom did not
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fool with dogs, but this is about the only dogs she'll fool and that's
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that's probably her best friend. She looked she would call it. Actually make
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sure I fed more Like that's sweet, But you know what, I was
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just thinking, like we don't know as we were talking about this being obedient,
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if you really look back over your life, like if I've been in
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this kind of like reflective kind of state of like the different things I've done,
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and I could literally see God's hand and everything and all of our journeys
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are different. And because he knows the beginning from the end, he knows
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exactly what you need, right, and so I too, you know,
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I had I got Bebo last year, and I truly believe that was a
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part of that, like me being able to one just care for somebody else
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aside myself, yease, you know, had been been staying by myself for
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a while, but to to put me in a space where I'm caring for
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somebody that's you know, that's not myself, even me staying with my friend
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and her girls, Like, I absolutely love being in that space because one
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I get to be the fun, fake hunty and just have all the conversations
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that the mama don't want to have, right. But like they'll run up
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to me, they be like, oh, can I get a hug?
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And I'm not And I hadn't been the most and I and I realized it.
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Not that I'm not affectionate, because I just show my fection in different
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ways. I'm not that touchy philly type person right now. But I'm like,
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can I get a hug? And I'm like, yes, absolutely,
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So I'm hugging on them and were spinning around in the kitchen and I'm getting
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to experience these things that if I wouldn't have been obedient and just doing what
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I felt the Lord was telling me to do. I wouldn't have had that
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experience because it's a part of it's all of a part of the journey.
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Yeah, you know what I'm saying. And I had to also like self
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examine, like I think it's it's natural. It's natural to think every woman
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wants a baby because her bab her cause her her body is naturally designed to
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to do so. Right, So if she doesn't or if she doesn't have
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her own, does that make her less of a woman. That's so good?
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Right? So, as I've had some complications and some some some things
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through the uh, through the years, you know at thirty seven, not
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saying that's a that's a it's over, it's not over. But I'm those
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are just conversations that I just have with myself, Like if that's not my
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story, how would I feel about myself? Do I feel like I'm less
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of this and less of that? But also and I also had to ask
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myself, why do I want to have a baby? M And I think
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some of that I can be honest and say some of it was because I
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wanted to do or or be what I wasn't what I didn't have growing up,
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you know, as a as a a mom, like my mom,
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she's amazing. She did the best that she could, but she was not
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that nurturing person. So it's like, Okay, I want to have a
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little mean to me so I can nurture on them a little bit, you
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know what I'm saying. But you know, just really just going to God
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and just asking, okay, Lord, because I believe there's a purpose for
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everything, you know, and so I'm so with you and more is definitely
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destined, destined for she's laying down, I'm talking about you. I mean,
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she just she didn't got comfortable, y'all. Instantly destined for Jessica.
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She is. And that's why I can't. I don't. I don't.
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I know. Eventually, you know, things happen and I'm not even gonna
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speak about it at this moment because I am not envisioning myself without my baby
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girl. However, I didn't know, like people would say all the time,
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like, oh, you do they the baby's cast and they do,
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yeah, they you know, they cost money and stuff like that. And
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I always, you know, when I'm traveling, I have to consider like
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that's why she's here with me today because she didn't have no sibling. Yeah,
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like she mama, Mama wasn't available to watch a more. So she
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had to come to work with me, which I trained her well enough to
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act right. So so when people you know, I don't know. That's
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made me confident because I'm a more, A more really understand what I've been
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saying. Like she she got to coming and the sense okay, But also
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what a more brought me was reassurance that love works. It does, like
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love really works. Because even so in the state of mind that I was
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in in Pensacola, like I was, that's when I learned I fought the
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battle with depression. I battled with the press even before Pensacola didn't have a
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word for it. That's why like no, no, no, no,
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like I didn't. I didn't even know that taking pills for depression was a
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thing until Pensacola. My Pensacola career, okay, that was a that was
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not an experience. It was a career. It was a job. It
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was I worked Pensacola. They have this running joke that I hated Pensacola while
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I was living there. But I'll run down there and go to Pensacola like
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it is. It is nothing. I do have some people that I really
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truly loved from Pensacola, some of them not are not there anymore. But
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just I call it my Pencil Cola plan because I I really I learned how
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to initiate and cultivate relationships. And it was real awkward, Like I was
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just like, this is so awkward. I don't I spent a lot of
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alone time in Pensacola. But just like a Moore's embodiment, and like they
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tell you that dogs are a reflection of you the owner. That's why,
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Okay, pitt pee, let's let's let's rent for two seconds. Pit bulls.
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They are so so so frowned upon. It's sad. It made me
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sad to it hurts. It breaks my heart. It absolutely breaks my heart
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because they are some of the sweetest breeds, the sweetest breeds that you will
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ever ever, ever ever meet. But everybody you go to, oh I
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was, oh, I was gonna say a brand. Oh don't do that,
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Joska, don't say the brand, because they listen. You go to
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these pet stores that have these services to clean your dogs and do certain things,
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your dogs, but they want to up child charge you based on the
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breed of the dog versus the behavior. Girl, I never said it like
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that, but they they want to upcharge you because of the just for the
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simple breed of the dog versus the behavior. And I was like, I
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told them they weren't getting my money. They was not getting my money.
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Why because that was not fair. That's very to me. That's prejudice.
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That might be the right word. Maybe the right word, But like,
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I didn't see I didn't see appointing it. I didn't. I didn't see
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appointing it. So like pit bulls are really the sweetest, the sweetest little
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beings. I went to when I went to inquire about an apartment. She
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you know, I said before because I did on the website she called.
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She's like, oh, I just want to get get a little information from
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you. And I said, well, before we go there, I saw
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on your website y'all had some breede restrictions. She's like, yeah, what
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kind of what kind of animal do you have? I said, he's a
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dog, and she was like, okay, what is his breed? I
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said, he's a beeboe because he's a bebo that's he. That's what it
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is. His name is Bebo and that's what he is. He's a bebo.
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He like he don't even fit in this aggressive like you know, I
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know that's where That's where she was going, like, oh is he this
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da da da? And I was really thinking, I was like, dang.
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It's just like people like to put you in the category you know,
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or of either something you've done in the past or something that's been associated with
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who you are your past or a group of people. It is like they
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count you out because of what they heard, wow, not of what they
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not what they know by their experience or with what they heard. Yeah,
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because you never really experienced, like it's one thing. It's one thing to
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experience experience something for yourself and be traumatized. That that's your own trauma.
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Go get go, get your hearing. Like I can say I hate dogs
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or rock wilders because because my neighbor's dog tried to they like she tried to
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and she was a rock wiler, but she was a mother too. Like
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the thing is like God put that same like mother instinct into dolls or protection
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instinct into to animals as they did us, And so thank you Holy Spirit.
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It's almost like we don't respect, we don't respect the creation or the
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DNA that God has put in all his creation, and so because oh well,
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we're just gonna say this is the standard and this is just the way
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it is. No, that's not good enough. That's not good enough.
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My pinkitoa got bit by chihuahua. It got bit by a chihuahua. They
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not making chihuahuas pay extra money. They'rected. And yes, if you got
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a chihuahua, I got issues with you. If you got a chihuahua and
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it's not the taco bell dog, I got strong issues with you because I
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have not met a chihuahua yet. I didn't give multiple all our wives chances.
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And they are the most dogs ever, ever, ever. But my
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baby here, like right now, right now, she's at peace. I
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wish I could see you. I wish I could. She's just laying down
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being a good dog, just being an obedient dog. Okay, and she's
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now getting up about she knows I'm talking about her. But I think being
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a dog parent, I think this is where this conversation is like really going,
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which is good. You don't think that some of your more, Come
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sit down. You don't think some of your decisions, well your decision,
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but just getting a dog, you think it's a companion. You think it's
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about being cute and all this stuff like that. But no, God really
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ordained a more to be in my life for multiple reasons, just to support
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to teach me something that I've never said out loud that I had a fear
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of. Am I gonna be a good mother or not? You know,
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am I gonna be able to have this quote unquote intense schedule and still be
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able to balance motherhood? But because I've raised them more the way I've raised
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her, will give me sound like, come on, because I've raised the
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more the way I raised her, I can trust that she is gonna be
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consistently obedient in whatever atmosphere she's in. And so you have to you,
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I have to trust myself to where my character is good enough to where even
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I'm still learning stuff with them more like I'm still learning. I think that's
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the beautiful beautification about being a parent. Not a parent yet, but I
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think that's the beautification about being a parent, because yeah, you think you
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think that you know everything until you actually have that child. Child in front
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of you, Like I thought I was gonna be like this real strict mom
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and people still think I probably am, but low KEI. My sister has
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taught me how to be a better mother just watching her. She's so patient
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with them kids. She's like, Okay, what did you do? Why
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did you do this? Let's talk about it, and they just have conversations
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like they real deal. Now she will turn up because Kenny is in us,
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Okay, no doubt about it. However, I've never witnessed a parent
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have the level of conversation with their child as Kimdall has, you know,
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and so I think that before, you know, trying to get a real
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baby like I did back in the day. My God, thank you for
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your saving grace. God allowed me to experience being a dog parent and it
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really it really changed my life. That's dope, really changed my life.
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Good. Yeah, yeah, we're good. Yeah, y'ah. I know
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that was random. It was random. It was random. It's because the
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more so this is a more inspired episode, not too deep, but it
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brought up some stuff y'all talked to us back in the comments. Man,
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I'll be curious to know your experience about being a dog parent. Your experience
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if you will. If you are a pet parent, because we can't discriminate.
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You might have a frag a snail of a lizard, or a cat,
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a cat. You might be a cat parent. Might we might do
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cats. I am allergic. I ain't allergic cats. Listen. I'm for
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real, man, I found out the hard way I was allergic cat.
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Like I almost started stopped breathing. You know one thing that just brings it
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back, like, is I believe there's a lesson and everything. You know
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what I'm saying, Like, how how else will you know where you are
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unless you've been tested in that in that space. So you know, just
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in a season where I'm just trying to catch the lessons because I don't some
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of them listeners. I don't want to repeat. I don't repeat a couple
35:14
of them, So child chill. That'll be a whole nother podcast talking about
35:16
from what repeated listens. I don't want to repeat them listen. So I'm
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just grateful for the for being in certain spaces in this season where I'm just
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learning and I'm aware of what kind of what God is doing. You think
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you may know, but he'd be like, yeah, no, stacking mind
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making boodashine and it's something else, you know what I'm saying. But I
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just love I love this. Just just being in this aware space is good.
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Yeah, yeah, most definitely. And you you just have to notice
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that God's the best thing I could realize about the faith, and being in
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the faith in a relationship with God is God. God would literally use anything,
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anything, anything to expose the Kingdom and you, He will literally use
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anything to expose the Kingdom in you, right, And so thinking nights strange
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when you start having desire, was like, where did it come from?
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I didn't have, but I was thinking about I was thinking about, you
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know, a dog. But I was like, no, I attached the
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money, the money to it versus the value. Like I saw the costs
36:19
versus the value, and I was like, I ain't doing it. But
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that was probably one of the best decisions I made with a more I had
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something to look forward to. I really did. And so if you're thinking
36:30
about getting a dog, I'm an avid for it. I'm an avid for
36:34
it having a dog, especially if you're single, A more get down woman
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of God, especially if you're single. But yeah, y'all, y'all chop
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it up. With us in the in the comments. Man, this one.
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This one was quick and I'm more inspired obviously because I was not planning
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on doing that right now. Not talking about her, but y'all let us
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know in the comments. Talk back to us, talk back to us about
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your experience being a dog parent. Maybe we can have a prayer in a
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dog park. Prayer in the dog park. But just ask the podcast all
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