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Episode 73 - Financial Healing and Recovery When It Comes To Death. · You Minding Your Own Business

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  Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hello everybody. Welcome to you mine and your
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  Speaker 1: own business. I'm your hoest Goottess Ausha Mariama. I hope
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  Speaker 1: you guys are doing very well today. I appreciate you
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  Speaker 1: guys for joining me for this episode that I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: post today, and this conversation's gonna go very deep. And
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  Speaker 1: I say that because I just saw something on TikTok
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  Speaker 1: that blew my mind and I wish I could post
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  Speaker 1: it on both of my podcasts, but am just waiting
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  Speaker 1: next week and talk about this a little bit more
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  Speaker 1: next week on my other podcast, A.
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  Speaker 2: Happier You leads to a Healthier You.
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  Speaker 1: But I need people to understand what this podcast represents,
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  Speaker 1: and I know for some people you don't.
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  Speaker 2: This podcast is.
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  Speaker 1: About you minding your own business. Okay, this is about
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  Speaker 1: you not only building a business, not only building a brand,
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  Speaker 1: not only being successful, but you as a person and
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  Speaker 1: your personal success. I don't think we talk about out
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  Speaker 1: personal accomplishments, personal success, personal things that you've done in
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  Speaker 1: your life, that you have achieved that you don't give
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  Speaker 1: yourself enough credit for. Now, before I get into that,
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  Speaker 1: a little bit about me, I'm gonna certify recovery.
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  Speaker 2: Healing and recovery coaches.
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  Speaker 1: All about help people on their paths and their journeys
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  Speaker 1: and the purpose that new and better you through self discovery.
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  Speaker 1: So yes, we do talk about financial recovery and healing,
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  Speaker 1: but this also is a personal healing and accomplishment and
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  Speaker 1: that's what we're gonna talk about today. So I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: combine to two today so people get a better understanding
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  Speaker 1: of what this podcast is about. Now, if you're interested
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  Speaker 1: A r I A M A zero one at gmail
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  Speaker 1: dot com. Now, today's topic, it's gonna be about personal
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  Speaker 1: healing and recovery when it comes to your achievements.
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  Speaker 2: Now, I just saw a.
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  Speaker 1: Retired pro football player aka far As playing for the NFL.
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  Speaker 1: Because I have to make sure I distinguish because I
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  Speaker 1: know it's football and soccer, and in it's football when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to the NFL. So I have to make
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  Speaker 1: sure I distinguish that his name is Chris Johnson. He
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  Speaker 1: just found out that he has als. It is to
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  Speaker 1: the point where he only can communicate through his eyes
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  Speaker 1: through a machine where it communicates where he can speak.
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  Speaker 2: Now, why is this important?
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  Speaker 1: Because after all the accolades that he has done in
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  Speaker 1: the NFL, and now, mind you, he has achieved a
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  Speaker 1: lot in the NFL, but the damage that has been
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  Speaker 1: done to him because of it is what we need
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  Speaker 1: to talk about.
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  Speaker 2: This is a part of healing and recovery that is
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  Speaker 2: not talked about.
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  Speaker 1: And that is the damage that you've done to yourself
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  Speaker 1: to become successful. Because even though yes, the road is hard,
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  Speaker 1: but the aftermath of what happens after you've become successful,
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  Speaker 1: after you make a lot of money and you're an athlete,
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  Speaker 1: the damage that is done to your body that later
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  Speaker 1: on down the line you are going to pay foe
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  Speaker 1: makes you ask yourself is it worth it? Because I
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  Speaker 1: worry every day I see a football, basketball player, or
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  Speaker 1: anybody in sports. I worry about, especially wrestlers and football
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  Speaker 1: players in particular, and even guys that play NASCAR baseball players,
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  Speaker 1: I worry about them every day. And even you know,
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  Speaker 1: these men make millions of dollars, the injuries that they sustain,
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  Speaker 1: the damage that goes to their bodies when they retire
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  Speaker 1: is insane.
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  Speaker 2: So to see Chris Johnson going.
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  Speaker 1: Through als, to see so many players have to do
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  Speaker 1: with MS and PTSD. It's just not a military they
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  Speaker 1: made money, but the PTS that come from being in war,
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  Speaker 1: the mental health issues that come within going to war
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  Speaker 1: and being in the military. That's the aftermath of when
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  Speaker 1: you're doing something.
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  Speaker 2: When it comes to physical and.
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  Speaker 1: Being successful, even when it comes to being in the
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  Speaker 1: music industry, even when it comes to you even work
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  Speaker 1: at a really matter four job, you have no idea
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  Speaker 1: the mental health challenges that you go in that you
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  Speaker 1: have a deal with the physical that you have to
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  Speaker 1: deal with. You have a lot of men and women
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  Speaker 1: that are out there doing construction. You got men that
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  Speaker 1: are you know, mechanics and they're you know, ingesting all
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  Speaker 1: of these fumes and all these different things. And then
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  Speaker 1: later on down the line, when you get older and
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  Speaker 1: you get like about forty years old, you start to
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  Speaker 1: notice your body.
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  Speaker 2: Doesn't feel the same some people is when they're younger.
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  Speaker 1: People act like young kids don't get cancer at a
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  Speaker 1: young age because they do.
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  Speaker 2: I want people to understand that success. Don't get me wrong.
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  Speaker 1: If you can be able to make money and be
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  Speaker 1: able to take care of your body to where you're
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  Speaker 1: able to be healthy, then I think that's important.
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  Speaker 2: But here's the thing about healing and recovery.
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  Speaker 1: When it comes to the same thing and business the
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  Speaker 1: same way, you have to build a business the same way,
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  Speaker 1: you gotta build yourself.
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  Speaker 2: And if you don't build yourself, then it don't matter.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't understand that you have to protect you
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  Speaker 1: when you become successful, that you have to make sure
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  Speaker 1: that you are taking care of yourself.
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  Speaker 2: This society does not let you rest. This society does.
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  Speaker 1: Not let you just d I have come to the
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  Speaker 1: realization that alcohol, for example, every time somebody celebrates, the
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  Speaker 1: first thing they want to do is pick up my call.
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  Speaker 1: That's the first thing they want to do, and they
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  Speaker 1: want to celebrate. And I'm not talking about wine, I'm
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  Speaker 1: talking about liquor. Liquor is not good for you because
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  Speaker 1: it messes up your liver and you continue to do it.
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  Speaker 1: Now the same way that you start off with a
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  Speaker 1: plan when it comes to building a business.
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  Speaker 2: So so for example, I use me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing travel agency right now, and I'm also still
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  Speaker 1: doing my coaching, and I'm still doing my jewelry business.
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  Speaker 1: But I lost my father, so I've been grieving, and
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  Speaker 1: I have to tell you there's no time living and grieving.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, there just isn't.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm still trying to figure things out. Ever since
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  Speaker 1: I passed away. I'm trying to figure out what my
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  Speaker 1: next move is gonna be. How am I gonna get
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  Speaker 1: till you make him proud? I want to build something
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  Speaker 1: before I pass away. So today when I woke up,
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  Speaker 1: when I started last night, I started feeling really bad
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  Speaker 1: last night and it was late and I really couldn't sleep,
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  Speaker 1: and I drifted off and I had that fear that
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't gonna wake up. Sometimes that happens every once
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  Speaker 1: in a while with me. And that was because a
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  Speaker 1: medication that was given to me in twenty seventeen that
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  Speaker 1: almost killed me. I ain't been the same since, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm still here. I'm talking to y'all now. But when
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  Speaker 1: I think about my dad passing away, and I'm thinking
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  Speaker 1: about what he left behind, and I'm thinking about the debt.
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  Speaker 2: Collectors that are calling wanting us to pay his bills.
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  Speaker 1: I'm thinking about the fact of the house and the
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  Speaker 1: fact that we don't get his Social Security because we're
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  Speaker 1: not under the age seventeen. They changed it so you
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  Speaker 1: don't get their solid security if anything happens to them,
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  Speaker 1: So that money pretty much is just sitting there.
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  Speaker 2: So for them to say they ain't got no money.
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  Speaker 1: Considering the fact that adult children cannot get their parents'
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  Speaker 1: Social Security, my dad retiring and paying taxes on his retirement,
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  Speaker 1: paying tax on the house to be paid for. We
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  Speaker 1: can't get access to the house because we don't have
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  Speaker 1: our name on anything. The will we doesn't have will,
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  Speaker 1: doesn't have a testament, and doesn't have trust.
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  Speaker 2: I have learned so much.
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  Speaker 1: Since my father passed away that makes me question everything.
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  Speaker 1: And we do not talk about this, and it's time.
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  Speaker 2: That we did.
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  Speaker 1: My whole world as I know it has not been
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  Speaker 1: the same since he passed. I asked myself now cause
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  Speaker 1: I lost this christ Partner, tell the story. I lost
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  Speaker 1: my job January ninth of this year. My father passed
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  Speaker 1: away February twelfth. I had to pack my whole entire
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  Speaker 1: life up from Florida to move back here in North Carolina.
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  Speaker 1: Kay had to move back here with no job. I
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  Speaker 1: have put applications in, nobody's hired me. So let me
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  Speaker 1: compare Florida to New York to North Carolina. In Florida,
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  Speaker 1: I was getting you know, people wanted me to come
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  Speaker 1: to interviews, couldn't drive came back here. I have not
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  Speaker 1: gotten one person that has asked me to come in
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  Speaker 1: because the reason why that I have found out is
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  Speaker 1: because I have.
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  Speaker 2: Too much experience.
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  Speaker 1: They're now gonna pay me twenty four dollars an hour.
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  Speaker 1: My last job was twenty four dollars an hour. Why
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  Speaker 1: would I want to go back to eighteen dollars an hour. See,
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  Speaker 1: that's the thing. They want you to lower yourself, and
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  Speaker 1: men make it seem like they want to build you
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  Speaker 1: up for some reason. People claim they want you to uplift,
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  Speaker 1: people claim they want you to do better. But then
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  Speaker 1: when you come from someplace where you've been making really
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  Speaker 1: good money and then they tell you we have to
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  Speaker 1: put you in an entry left position.
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  Speaker 2: After you've been doing this job.
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  Speaker 1: For ten years, ten plus years, and you want me
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  Speaker 1: to work eighteen dollars an hour. I worked twenty four
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  Speaker 1: dollars an hour, Now you want me to work eighteen.
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  Speaker 1: I'm out of on TikTok made a valid point, they said,
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  Speaker 1: do these people really want us to really upgrade? Because
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  Speaker 1: what I'm seeing now, I think the real reason that
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  Speaker 1: they want the older generation to not retire is so
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  Speaker 1: basically essentially, for the rest of your life, you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: be making the same type of money.
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  Speaker 2: It's no longer about getting a raise.
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  Speaker 1: Matter of fact, when is the last time some of
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  Speaker 1: y'all at your jobs have heard about getting a raise?
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  Speaker 1: When's the last time that you've heard about you being
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  Speaker 1: able to move up in a company? Now they're making
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  Speaker 1: it so people are doing two or three different jobs
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  Speaker 1: and getting paid for one.
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  Speaker 2: So really.
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  Speaker 1: Seeing this, I'm just like blown. And then the fact
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  Speaker 1: that you know, my dad, I think he knew he
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  Speaker 1: was dying. I think he knew, but I really do
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  Speaker 1: want his medical records to find out what exactly he.
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  Speaker 2: Had so that way it won't happen to me.
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  Speaker 1: What's crazy was my dad was going to the doctor
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  Speaker 1: he has swelling in his legs, diabetes, and we think
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  Speaker 1: he was going through dementia and had a heart monitor
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  Speaker 1: on him far as a pacemaker. So, like I said,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm questioning everything, So I put.
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  Speaker 2: Everything on hold.
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  Speaker 1: Why because I'm trying to figure out what direction do
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  Speaker 1: I want to go?
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  Speaker 2: Do I want to work for a regular ninety five
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  Speaker 2: job or do I want to build something that is
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  Speaker 2: of my own?
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  Speaker 1: And if I do, how am I gonna be able
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  Speaker 1: to do that and be able to make it? So?
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  Speaker 1: Because I'm in my fifties at this point, how long
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  Speaker 1: am I gonna be able to enjoy the success before
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  Speaker 1: I die? My son is autistic, So it's who's gonna
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  Speaker 1: take it over when I leave? Some of us have
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  Speaker 1: children to get disabilities, and we're thinking of ourselves who
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  Speaker 1: go to take carry these businesses when we leave?
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  Speaker 2: What happens to them? So it's one of them things.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just sitting there, like I wish in my twenties
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  Speaker 1: I would have just worked a job long enough to
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  Speaker 1: build a business. That's what I'm thinking right now. And
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  Speaker 1: I know for some of y'all in your fifties you
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  Speaker 1: thinking the same thing. You thinking, Oh my god, when
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  Speaker 1: I retire, will there be any retirement?
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  Speaker 2: Am I gonna have to tax my retirement?
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  Speaker 1: Am I gonna even if I am, I even gonna
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  Speaker 1: make it to sixty five. I saw somebody on social
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  Speaker 1: media talking about women's weight and women's bodies and talking
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  Speaker 1: about the fact that women are told to be a
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  Speaker 1: certain size, so on and so forth, but men are
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  Speaker 1: not told that. I learned that weight does play a
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  Speaker 1: part of your health and wellness, but not the way
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  Speaker 1: you might think. Wait makes you feel heavy and it
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  Speaker 1: slows you down, but it doesn't mean that you're healthy
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  Speaker 1: because you're smaller, cause there are a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: that have health issues that are smaller, so one don't
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  Speaker 1: have nothing to do with the other. It's really about
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  Speaker 1: whether you take care of yourself, eat, eat right, and
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  Speaker 1: be healthy determines whether you're gonna be healthy or not.
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  Speaker 2: So now that I'm.
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  Speaker 1: Really sitting down and really thinking about it, since going
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  Speaker 1: through this stuff with my father is just really shocking.
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  Speaker 1: My dad worked for almost fifty something years just to
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  Speaker 1: have his retirement text, just to go through a bunch
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  Speaker 1: of medical issues from being in the military for twenty
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  Speaker 1: two years, just to go to military doctors where they
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  Speaker 1: weren't exactly treating him for some of the issues that
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  Speaker 1: he had.
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  Speaker 2: I saw my father slow down. I saw my father to.
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  Speaker 1: The point that he could barely get out of bed,
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  Speaker 1: and if he did, he had a hard time walking
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  Speaker 1: up and down the steps. My dad slept a lot
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  Speaker 1: before he died, so to see him go from this
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  Speaker 1: man that was able to fix everything to a man
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  Speaker 1: that sometimes would forget things, just like my grandmother seeing
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  Speaker 1: her go through Alzheimer's, seeing my aunt go through Alzheimer's.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just sitting here like blown. Is this what our
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  Speaker 2: lives gonna look like? For years, my generation of Generation X.
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  Speaker 1: Was told that at sixty five, we were gonna be
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  Speaker 1: able to retire. Sixty five would be at to travel,
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  Speaker 1: see the world, be able to retire, enjoy our homes.
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  Speaker 1: But yet people are told to sell their businesses, sell
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  Speaker 1: their homes.
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  Speaker 2: And was even more crazier. When these people sell their.
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  Speaker 1: Companies, they're still working for the company is if they're
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  Speaker 1: an employee.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just blown by all of this, I really am.
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  Speaker 1: I'm blown by so many truths that my dad passing
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  Speaker 1: away is really really really sitting here telling me Because
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  Speaker 1: I remember when I moved back and I put the
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  Speaker 1: electric bill, you know, the gas doing my name, and
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  Speaker 1: I remember they tried to put a bill of my
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  Speaker 1: dad's in my name.
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  Speaker 2: I said, I ain't been here since twenty twenty two.
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  Speaker 2: How are you gonna make me pay a bill that's
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  Speaker 2: not mine?
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  Speaker 1: So then the next thing, you know, you know, I
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  Speaker 1: had to send all this stuff my least, all this
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  Speaker 1: stuff showing that I've been living in Florida since twenty
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  Speaker 1: twenty two.
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  Speaker 2: They took it off.
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  Speaker 1: But still, how can you put somebody else's bills on you?
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  Speaker 1: How in the world is it y'all putting bills on
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  Speaker 1: a family that has nothing to do with his bills.
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  Speaker 2: This is why in a trust.
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  Speaker 1: I'm putting in a trust that if anything happens to me,
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  Speaker 1: my son or anybody else is not responsible for my bills.
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  Speaker 2: And that's gonna be in writing. So that way, if bill.
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  Speaker 1: Collect this called my son talking about your mother owes
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  Speaker 1: all this money, they got something. My sister and them
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  Speaker 1: got something in writing saying no, no, he doesn't. She
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  Speaker 1: basically put in writing, he's not responsible. I Am not
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  Speaker 1: gonna let my child be responsible for something that he
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: has nothing to do with. They're not only that, in
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  Speaker 1: the state of North Carolina, you have to get a
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  Speaker 1: real estate lawyer, which is something I gotta call about tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: So it's a lot. But I talk about this because
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  Speaker 1: when you lose a parent or you lose a spouse,
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  Speaker 1: when I tell you the stuff that come with that,
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  Speaker 1: it changes everything for you.
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  Speaker 2: It changes everything.
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  Speaker 1: It changes every single solitary way that you move. It
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  Speaker 1: changes you as far as your health and way, It
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  Speaker 1: changes you as far as your spirituality. It changes you
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  Speaker 1: when it come to financial it changes everything.
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  Speaker 2: Your relationships.
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  Speaker 1: The stuff that you will not put up with that
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  Speaker 1: you would have put up with before that person passed away,
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  Speaker 1: you won't.
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  Speaker 2: The way you are.
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  Speaker 1: Gonna be about getting your stuff together, putting things in order,
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  Speaker 1: getting your affairs in order. Oh absolutely, because we gotta
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  Speaker 1: do that for my mom, we have to get her
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  Speaker 1: affairs in order. So I'm just saying, none of this matters.
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  Speaker 2: To me.
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  Speaker 1: It's not about doing something to make somebody else money.
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  Speaker 1: It's not about anymore about me working eight hours a
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  Speaker 1: day to make somebody else money, to barely survive, to
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  Speaker 1: spend eight hours day in a job. Then when I
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  Speaker 1: want to get up and travel, I can't because if
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  Speaker 1: I don't, I'm gonna lose my job. And if I
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  Speaker 1: lose my job, then I can't pay my bills. I'm
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  Speaker 1: thinking along the line of I'm tied of rejection. I
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  Speaker 1: put applications in they.
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  Speaker 2: Don't hire me.
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  Speaker 1: I now know why. Now I don't care if they
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  Speaker 1: hire me or not. And now here I am on
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  Speaker 1: a podcast that I'm deciding that I'm going to build.
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  Speaker 1: It took my father passing away for me to come
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  Speaker 1: to that conclusion. Is any of it worth it? No?
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  Speaker 1: So I made the executive decision to take anything that
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  Speaker 1: he's given me, and I'm gonna build something with it.
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  Speaker 1: Point blame, period. I'm gonna build something with it. That
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  Speaker 1: is what I'm choosing to do now. Mind you, if
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  Speaker 1: I hire anybody, I want them to build something for themselves.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want them to work for me the rest
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: of their lots. I want them to work with me.
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: I want to build them.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: But talk.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: When Tianna Taylor got on there with the Icon Award
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: on BT Awards, she said, I'm not about trying to
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: leave anybody behind. I'm not trying to have nobody's that's
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: beneath me. I want to see people build. I want
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: people to build into what they truly want to be,
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: not what they're expected, not just to survive. But doing
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: what they love, doing what they're passionate about.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: It's just like.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: I got an email today about somebody saying, and I'm
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: not gonna say the person was, that they didn't think
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: they were re a good fit when it come to
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: the podcast.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: I said, Okay, cool, I'm not mad about it. I'm
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: not upset about it.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: Why because in the end, like I said in the
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: end of it, when these podcasts blow up, and the
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: same people that rejected me are the same ones laid
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: on down the line that are going to me on
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: the podcast. And what people don't know is I have
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: the pre conversations and I post them. I do post them,
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: and when I post them, I post them as as
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: it is because I want people to see my process
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: of how I go about having conversations with my audience,
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: I mean, the person I'm gonna be doing a conversation with.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: But it ends up turning into a podcast.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: Ironically, every conversation I had turned into a podcast, and
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: it wasn't because it was instructed. It wasn't because somebody
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: was there to direct it. It just naturally turned into that.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: It isn't about a bunch of questions because these people
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: are the ones that know more about themselves and more
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: about their businesses than I do. My thing is I
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: let them tell it. Sometimes they ask They answered all
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: the questions that I was gonna ask. So I liked
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: the Conversation podcast because every question that I would have
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: asked is what I put into the conversation. Except I
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: don't ask questions. The only time I ask questions is
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: if there's something that I may not know about or
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: that type of thing. So instead, I use examples instead,
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: so I might say, well, okay, well in this example,
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: this is what I'm dealing with when it comes to seos.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, It's about them educating me.
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: So the first conversation is about them, their journeys, how
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: they got to where they at, and then it's about
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: what they do because I want to know what got
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: you there. I want to know if this is something
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: you're doing for money, or is this something you're doing
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: because you.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: Genuinely want to help people. See, my thing is, I'm
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: about solutions.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: I'm not about temporary get which get rich quick schemes.
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: I'm about solutions because I'm tired of seeing people constantly
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: going down the rabbit hole, constantly being scathed, constantly trying
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: to find their way out of it.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: Just to be thrown back in it.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: Not because they want to go down the rabbit hole,
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: because they got thrown down the rabbit hole. It's like
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: there are so many people trying so hard just to
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: be happy, and every time they meet somebody think that
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: that person's gonna make them happy. People are tired of
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: lowering themselves to build people up that just end up
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: leaving them for somebody else.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: People are tired.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: So when I created this podcast, it is about minding
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: your own business.
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: You can assist.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: People, you can teach people, you can guide people, and
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: if you choose till.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: You can lead 'em. But you can't make him drink.
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: You can't control somebody's freedomle choice and free will. So
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: let me tell you how today my life is today.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: Right now I have. I went on Margaritaville in January,
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: I went to Myrtle Beach in May.
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: I'm in October, I'm.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: Going to Celestial far As Cruise Line and Greece for
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: fourteen days. I'll be at the Chris Brown and Usher
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: concert in December, and I'll be on Margeriteville in January.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: In January That's how my life is right now. I
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: get up when I want to.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: If I want to just lay around, I can, and
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: then I get up and I do what I need
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: to do today. I don't feel good day, so I'm
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: just doing my podcast today.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: But that's where I want to be.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: I want when I wake up, I can do a webinar.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: I can do a podcast, one on one coaching, travel agency,
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: create products, box stuff.
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: And then enjoy the rest of my day. That's what
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: I want to do.
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: I don't want to have to get up seven thirty
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: every morning, work forty hours a week doing something. I
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: hate being in office with a bunch of people, having
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: somebody all up up under me, and then go home
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: and barely have time for my child. I want to
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: be able to rearrange my closet. I want to be
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: able to let go of the ode and bring in
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: something new. I want to be able when I want
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: to get up and go to the beach, I can
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: just get up and go to the beach when I
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: feel like it. I want to be able to get
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: on plane when I feel like I want to be
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: able to if somebody called me about doing some type
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: of motivation speaking event, I want to be able to
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: get up and go and do it. Would I have
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: to worry about getting PTO only having forty hours eighty
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: hours of PTO time. I want to be able to
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: work where I know I'm getting paid no matter what,
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: instead of working for these staffing jobs where I get
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: no PTO, no sick leave, none of that. I want
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: to be able to make money where I have residual
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: income and I'm able to live freely.
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: I want to be able to help others to do
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: the same.
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: I want to be able to help others to be
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: a part of not owning their own business. But our
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: business is still work together, meaning I find out what
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: they're good at, help them create a business in it,
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: and we still work together.
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: So then the longer works.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: Looking for me, they're now working with me because not
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: only am I helping their business, they're also helping mine.
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: We work together. I want multiple strings income.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: I became a travel agent because I said, why am
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: I sitting around paying for trips when I can get
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: paid for the trips that I go on? Why Why
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: would I not be a travel agent when I can
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: play group trips and get paid for it?
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: Why not? So I incorporated that in my business.
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: A lot of people don't even think to become a
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: travel agent just so that would be good for your business.
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: But that's just me.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: So again, thinking about it from that perspective made me
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: decide I want something of my own. But not only that.
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: You know, I'm still working on sleep. I'm still working
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: on not being on social media as much. I'm working
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: on it. But today it was just a bad day.
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: I was gonna get up and I was gonna do
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: my train today I just felt horrible, and I said,
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: you know what, instead of me doing that, let me
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: play catch up on all my podcasts and let me
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: actually do a podcast for each one of them. I
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: want to build this podcast. I want to want to
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: build all ten of my podcasts to be successful. I
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: want to be able to get them syndicated. I want
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: to be able to bring guests on here that have
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: been through financial troubles and have persevered. Now in no
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: way shape from fashion am my saying that you shouldn't
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: work for somebody, cause some people are meant to just
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: be workers.
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: But there are other people.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: That have dreams and I'm never gonna say give up
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: your dream, but they don't.
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: Let nobody take over your dream.
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: You can build your dream on your own, but don't
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: sell your company to someone and you're.
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: Still gonna be working.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: If you're gonna sell the company, sell the company completely,
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: show them everything that they need to do, and then leave.
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: But the fact that you're still working for.
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: The company that you sold, uh uh. And make sure
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: if you do that that you have another company that's thriving.
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: Just bad. But me personally, I would not sell my company.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: Me personally, I would just have something where they actually
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: contribute to my channel. They contribute to my business, but
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: I would never sell it. No, because I want to
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: be a Jones. I want to be the Rockefellers of
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: Rock Childs. Can't do that if I sell my business,
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: Because you know how hard it is to build another business.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: It's not as eisy you might think. If I went
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: through all of that to build a successful business, I'm
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: not selling it. But what I am gonna do is
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: either have them to invest or we partner, meaning I
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: have a distribution. I have everything that I need from
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: each person that I do business with. But it doesn't
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: mean I have to give up controlling interest. So I understand,
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: I get it. These journeys are not easy.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: They're not.
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: But watching my father since he retired, never go on vacation.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: My dad still had to work. Even though he was
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: retired from the military.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: He still worked for thirty years, So fifty something years
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: my father worked and after that he ain't been on
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: a vacation since. I don't even know how many people,
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: in all honesty worked until they died.
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: There was a woman that died at work.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: She was just going to take a vacation after fourteen
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: years and passed away. There are people that get on
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: their road every day and don't get enough sleep. There
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: are people that own their phones all the time and
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: cannot focus and cannot concentrate. For all that time you
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: sitting on the phone, you could be building a business.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: For all the time that you sitting there on social media,
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: struggling worry about somebody else, you could be building something
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: for yourself. Y'all waiting around for somebody to love you,
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: to care about you for what Why? At the end
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: of the day, life is short, and we don't have
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: time to sit around here and wait. We ain't got
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: time to lower ourselves to build other people up.
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: There's no point in that. Just be happy. That's it.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: Be happy.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: For yourself. You don't have to lower somebody. I mean,
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: you don't have to lower yourself to build somebody up.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: And anybody asks you to give up your career, your
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: safety net, give up everything that you worked hard for
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: just to be with them, the answer is no, because
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: I'm not doing it. I am not going to lower
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: myself to be with you. My whole thing is I
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: am equal to you.
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: If not, you're beneath me. I don't care what you
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: look like. I don't care what you have.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: Some people you may think got money, they got somebody
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: that's managing everything. They have somebody that's running everything, but
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: it's not their business. The other person is ripping the
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: benefits off the other person's talent, the other person's what
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: they're capable of, and then all of a sudden something happen.
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: They get rid of it. So now we ain't doing that.
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: Like I said, I'm at peace with everything. I really am.
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: I'm at peace with it all.
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: But going through this with my father has given me
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: so much of a perspective when it comes to possessions,
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: understanding that when you leave this earth, not a bit
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: more of your bills, not a bit more of debt,
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: not a bit more of these proper, but he's not
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: a bit more of any of this is gonna matter.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: Why because your kids, nine times out of ten gonna
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: sell it.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: So I'm thinking to myself, I thank god I don't
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: have a house. Then I have to leave for my
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: son to have to manage. I thank god that I'm
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: leaving him enough money to be able to be okay,
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: because he's autistic, so he'll be with somebody anyway, because
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: he's not at that place where he's gonna be able
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: to pay.
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: Bills on his own.
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: My whole thing is we're gonna keep the house. We're
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: not gonna sell it because we're going.
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: To keep it.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: If the kids need it, all they gotta do is
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: pay the taxes on it. If me and muscles to
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: make sure that we have money set aside since they
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: can't pay the taxes. If they can't, then they can
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: sell it. And that's but nobody can sell it because
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: the house ain't.
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: In our names.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: So I just want people to understand that you're not
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: supposed to stay stacked the rest of your life, but
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: that's what society wants you to do. They want you
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: to stay stagnant in some areas, but wants you to
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: grow in others as long as it benefits them. Now,
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: mind you not airyness owner things like this, because they don't.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: Some business owners are very appreciative of their employees and
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: they take good care of their employees, as they should.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: But the fact that y'all think that people is supposed
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: to work to their sixty five years old doing what
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: they're expected, and the reason you don't want to raise
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: minimum wage is because you don't want people to build
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: their own business and brand y'all want to keep people
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: in debt. The crazy part is Republicans will sit here
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: saying it right to your face. So many people are
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: not even thinking about their best interests. Let's talk about
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: Oklahoma for a minute. Oklahoma had a chance to raise
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: their employment rates to twelve thousan an hour and then
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: eventually fifteen. Do you know there were more people that
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: rejected it than accepted it, So now they're right back
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: to seven twenty five.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: How is that possible.
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: That you had a chance to make to push it
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: to fifteen and you rejected it. That's why I said,
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: I don't I don't understand certain people, and I never
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: will and I don't even try at this point because
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: they're just too far gone. You went against your best
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: interests because you don't want minorities to have something. Citizen
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, I don't really like to talk about stuff
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: like this, but this is just the same one I'm
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: talking about. I'm not a person that's about color, race, nothing.
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, I do not
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: understand the way you think. Sometimes, so racism, discriminating diversity
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: and division is more important than equality.
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: It's more than important than you getting fifteen dollars an hour.
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: So because minorities get to have the same thing, you
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: don't want to get past minim wage, so you'd rather
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: keep things of seven twenty five just so another race
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: of people couldn't get it, then for everybody to get it.
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: I don't understand the logic.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: So, like I said, at the end of the day,
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: this is why I say I have to tune out
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: some days. This is why I say I have to
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: walk away from certain things sometimes God just do because
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: I just came to this point. See, I didn't want
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: to stay on here for too long. But still I've
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: learned a lot through losing my father. I really have,
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: and I'm really, really glad that I'm learning these things
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: because it changes everything as far as my perception of life,
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: my perception of society, my perception of working, family relationships,
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: all of it.
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: And it makes me question is it worse? It makes
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: me question.
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: That should I, when I was younger, not really rush
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: to work, just work a part time jobs, stayed home
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: my parents, travel see the world.
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: Should I have just.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: Work part time, stayed home, have a moment, up the bills,
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: build a business, build a brand, and then quit when
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: I started making twenty thousand dollars a month?
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: Should that been what I was supposed to do? Should
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: I have done.
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: Some traveling and seen the world and not rush to
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: go to work knowing that I'm at home with my parents.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: Should I have not rushed to get married have kids.
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: At twenty two?
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: It makes you question everything. So I am questioning everything,
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: all of it. It makes me wonder was it was
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: it worth it? And based on what I'm learning. No,
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: So now I'm doing things differently. Now I'm working for me.
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: Now I'm building myself. Now I'm doing this podcast. Now
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: I'm doing coaching. Now I'm building a jewelry business and
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: travel agency business. That's what I'm doing. I am building
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: something and putting my money into me, not into a
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: department store.
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: I go.
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: I'm I got almost everything that I need. I'm not
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: gonna buy nothing for a while, and I'm gonna.
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: Put my money into my business and I'm gonna travel.
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: That's it. That's all.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: So I will be talking more about this as I
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: go through this journey of this, but I thank y'all
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: for joining me for this episode. I just want to
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: talk about this. I'm your host, Scott is Ash Marry.
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: I'm I appreciate y'all and I love y'all. And without
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: y'all there was no meat. And thank y'all for supporting
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: the channel. I greatly appreciate it through my morning process.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: I appreciate y'all just supporting me and to all my
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: guests that need to break this down. The pre conversation
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: is thirty minutes to about an hour, and then the
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: post conversation is an hour to an hour and a half.
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: And like I.
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: Said, at the end of the day, everybody got a journey.
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: Everybody has something that happened that made them have to
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: heal and recover, including financially, and I'm looking forward to
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: the people that will be guests on my podcasts, them
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  Speaker 1: telling their stories of not only how they became successful,
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  Speaker 1: not only what they do, but also their health issues
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  Speaker 1: and things that really almost made them lose everything, what
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  Speaker 1: they had to persevere from, things of that nature. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm looking forward to the guests that will be coming
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  Speaker 1: on my podcast and the ones that don't.
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  Speaker 2: It's not my loss. I just keep pushing.
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  Speaker 1: With that being said, I love y'all. I appreciate y'all.
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  Speaker 1: The next time, Bayo