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Ep 21 | Embodying Your Sensitive Spirit - Living in Flow with Your True Essence | Highly Sensitive Series · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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life in a way that feels true to who we really
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are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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and to come home again and again to your own
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wise, sensitive, and authentic self. Well, what
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a pleasure to really share about the highly sensitive
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series. Before I did the podcast on and green
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America episode, I had been sharing from my blog
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series, the nine parts for highly sensitive.
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So This is part nine, which was also the third
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part in the spirit called embodying your sensitive
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spirit, living in flow with your true essence.
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So just as a reminder, right, the first three,
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we talked about the mind, you know, and just
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an understanding on a really basic level. how
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sensitivity is uniquely expressed through the
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roughly 20 to 30 % of us who have this normal
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yet invisible trait of high sensitivity. So,
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you know, we also talked about the body, right?
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And the unique ways our body is responding, right?
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You've heard me. talk about um i see um this
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as it's it's really it is it's a superpower right
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but it's not for many people it can feel like
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a gift and a curse and I'm certainly open and
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share my experiences as both, right? I have come
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to see it as a gift and understand the need for
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really taking our time to unpack it, to really
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understand it, and to understand ourselves. Because
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even if we are among that minority who have this
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trait, we're still all very unique beings with
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very unique paths and journeys. But there are
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certain aspects that we have in common and that
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gives us some foundation to understand our unique
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sensory intelligence, as I like to call it. Because
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it's not something that is only in our brain
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as far as, you know, yes, we have a unique neuroanatomy
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and there's a need to understand, like, well,
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how does that show up? You know, why might, you
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know, we... be told or even think that of ourselves
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that we're overthinking something right so we've
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definitely talked about that in other episodes
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and then the body being so attuned right to the
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environment and to so many different things um
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that we can feel um so it's also again that superpower
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of having that higher felt sense of what's going
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on in your world right inner and outer so this
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last piece was just again to really bring you
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back into seeing and understanding that sensitivity
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is not a flaw to fix right? Like there is an
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evolutionary reason for this trait, right? There
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is, it's an evolutionary strength and attunement
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to life's subtleties. I mean, science is, you
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know, catching up to what our soul may have always
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known. right? But we don't always know how to
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navigate this life, even if we understand ourselves
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as a soul. So we are all so unique in how our
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sensitivity presents itself, right? How we navigate
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life, how we... you know, make meaning out of
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our experiences, right? How we care, all these
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different things. But I just keep seeing it as,
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you know, we're realigning with love. We're realigning
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with our true essence, our authentic self, right?
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Because, yeah, we were each meant to feel deeply,
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right? To live intuitively. And to heal through
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our very presence. And that's what I find is
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really most important. Because when we don't
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know that we're a highly sensitive person, and
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even if we know we are, but don't understand
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what it actually means, right, on these deeper
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levels, then again, life can be intense. It can
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be... draining, exhausting, right? And our health
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can suffer as a result. So I'm truly honored,
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you know, that I've been inspired to continue
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to share each week about this. Again, I see it
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as a, a true gift of sensory intelligence. And
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I just really, gosh, I'm just thinking of, you
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know, the, as I meet a new woman and, and women
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will come to work with me, even if they. do not
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know anything about this trait which is why I
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think it's really important to keep speaking
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about it because I can have colleagues that I
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talk to and I can talk about being a highly sensitive
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person you know and they'll nod and they'll say
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oh yeah I am too and I'm so grateful that that
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that is something that more and more people are
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embracing and I'm also still meeting new people
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on a daily basis, whether it's a colleague or
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a new client who still do not understand the
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research and that the specific aspects of being
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a highly sensitive person. And there are so many
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fascinating, you know, aspects of it that really
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are assets and Different companies don't see
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it that way. Different individuals don't see
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it that way, right? And I'm just somebody who's
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here to say, this is a gift. There is a divine
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purpose for roughly 20 to 30 % of not only humans,
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but in approximately 100 species, you know, who
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are designed to pause, to observe, to reflect,
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right? But when we're living in a world where
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roughly 70 to 80 % of the population just jump
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in, right? They just start doing what they need
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to do, right? And then the highly sensitive individual
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can be looked upon as, well, you're not keeping
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up. Well, we're not meant to keep up. We're not
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meant to experience things at the same pace because
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we are taking in more information and we're processing
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it more deeply. So we really cannot. But yet,
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so many of us don't know about this trait. We
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don't know. how to realign with love, right?
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With our true essence, right? Our own inner guidance.
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Because when we're looking outward, which is
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what the majority of us are doing as we're, right,
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living life, we're using our eyes to see like,
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oh, this person is that, or this is there, or,
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you know, again, we look outward and then The
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way the mind works is, right, like it's creating
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meaning around what we're seeing and then establishing
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or reestablishing, right, beliefs that just don't
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serve us. So I am here to be a voice for the
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beauty that comes from, you know, being a highly
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sensitive individual, right? The sensory intelligence.
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That comes with being a highly sensitive person.
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We are absolutely essential for evolution, for,
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you know, sustainability, for growth. We're absolutely
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needed. The depth that we care, you know, like
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the reflecting that we do helps us see things
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that others just can't see. And again, it's not
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to put more on, though, the highly sensitive
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individual to take on more responsibility, because
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I also feel that that's another part of the voice
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that I'm here to share, which is we are highly
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capable. And so many of us have either been,
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you know, struggling to keep up in the, you know,
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The busy, the hecticness, you know, and the overload
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that our environments, you know, seem to be emanating,
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you know, and again, needing a different pace,
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needing to slow down and take care of ourselves.
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So let's just pause, you know, let's just notice
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our breath. Notice your chest. I invite you to
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put your hand on your heart. Reconnect with your
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own inner guidance, your heart's intelligence,
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your higher self, your soul, whatever you call
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it. Just tune in to you. You're doing that. Your
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breath is slowing down. It's deepening. It's
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lengthening. It allows more ease and flow, right?
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Like focusing on your heart, maybe taking a nice
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deep inhale through your nose, a second one too.
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And then an exhale out your mouth, nice, slow,
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and long. Just allow your nervous system to relax
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because there is a wealth of wisdom within you,
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within your heart, within your soul. And when
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you... Intentionally connect with your heart
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and your breath, right? And you're tuning in
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to your body. That coherence opens between your
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heart and your brain for you to actually lead
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from your heart, right? Truly. That's what we're
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here. to lead right like that's the gift we have
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a heart and a finely tuned nervous system that
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is sensory intelligent you know we're picking
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up the signals those subtle signals that roughly
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70 to 80 percent of the population don't receive
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we're the early Signals we receive, right? We
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receive the signal earlier. And again, no hierarchy
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because our environment, right, is really essential
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to our health. So this is just my invitation
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for you to come back home to you, to your heart,
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your own inner guidance. because too many of
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us especially highly sensitive individuals have
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felt a disconnect right from your own inner guidance
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from your own sense of peace and love and acceptance
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because again when we don't understand how we're
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designed a little bit differently and why right
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because i know that There's different research
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out there on all kinds of topics, right? And
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there's research that can tell us something is
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really positive. There's research that can tell
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us, you know, this doesn't, you know, appear
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too good, you know, and I'm certainly not one
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to lean towards a pathology as far as more raising
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awareness of understanding, like, why are we
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experiencing what we're experiencing? right?
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Like, what is that to share with us, right? So
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I'm here to say that although I've experienced
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episodes with high anxiety, I've experienced
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episodes of deep depression, right? Throughout
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my adult life. But That's not me. Those were
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periods of time because the level of stress in
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my life at those times was extremely high. And
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I did not have somebody who could understand
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and explain to me that I was a highly sensitive
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woman and what was going on within my body and
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my mind. to see all the variables that contribute
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to why these things were happening for me. And
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I'm so grateful that I had a spiritual awakening
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in 2008. You know, sometimes I certainly questioned,
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like, what was the point of that, right? Because
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it was blissful. I've realized that, you know,
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we are all this pure positive, you know, love
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energy. And it's just a matter of how much are
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we actually connecting with it. So that's what
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we are experiencing and emanating. And this is
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the thing that I just love about being a highly
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sensitive woman is you know my inner world is
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very complex um i do ask those really big questions
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you know you've may have heard me talk before
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that you know when i was 19 my brother died and
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that just sent me into a really deep and dark
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abyss where i needed to understand you know what
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what happened where is he you know will i see
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him again how do i understand life you know um
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and how do i function again because it just it
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did it it shook my whole world right my my parents
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my sister my brother um And it parted us. But
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this is the thing about being a highly sensitive
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person. Each of us has our own very unique path
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that we're walking with complex experiences.
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And some of those really wake us up to ask these
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deeper questions, right? Don't just accept that
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that's just... human nature, or, you know, that's
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just how it goes, right? Like, we're the ones
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who really reflect deeply because of that depth
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of processing, which is what leads to this really
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deep, I mean, it's a depth of caring. And, you
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know, the We know that the research shows that
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as highly sensitive individuals, there's a greater
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activation in areas of empathy, intuition, and
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awareness, right? Because our brains are wired
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for this deep processing, for profound emotional
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resonance and nuanced perception, right? So this
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is just, again, a way to help you if this information
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resonates with you about being a highly sensitive
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person, right? That you were never too much,
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right? It's about being made for depth, right?
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It's about, you know, having that curiosity.
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And again, each of us has A curiosity that goes
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in different directions, right? I certainly speak
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about mine and my life has really been very much
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in the relational field, right? Like I was speaking
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about my brother, but also working in psychiatric
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hospitals, watching, you know, young women attempting
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suicide, right? These are really important things
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to care about, right? Like we are part of humanity,
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right? Like we're all in this together. And the
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more we can understand ourselves, we can return
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to ourselves, we can trust our own intuition,
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right? We can realign with our own true essence.
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right and again whether we call it our higher
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self our heart um there's just no one right way
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or word to describe it you know it's about you
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coming home to you and to really understand you
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are you're the mystery right like i'm always
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saying how life is such a mystery, right? I mean,
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if we think we understand life, like, that's
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kind of a joke, right? And believe me, I have
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some really wise mentors who, who I'm very fond
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of their, their work, their teachings, you know,
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and if I could have a round table, you know,
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I would love to sit down and just be in their
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presence. But the bottom line is, is even them
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and all that I see that they've accomplished,
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I'm still curious about different things, right?
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Like I want to understand why this and why that.
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So I'm here to say that you are very well. here
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as a highly sensitive person to discover the
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gifts within yourself. So that's why you've heard
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me say before, it's a gift worth unwrapping,
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right? So I... I don't subscribe to, you know,
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as highly sensitive individuals, you know, we
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have a higher rate of this or a higher rate of
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that, you know, when we're talking about anxiety
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and depression and things like that, only from
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the stance that the reason that we may have,
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right, a higher likelihood of it, right, is is
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how our childhood plays into this, you know,
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because we do need to feel safe and supported,
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right, to really develop our gifts and talents.
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And I don't think it's ever too late. So even
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if, you know, you are someone who has identified
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yourself as an anxious person, or you have been
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going through periods, you know, of depression,
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I'm just encouraging you to see that you are
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so much more than those experiences. And if you
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resonate with this information, or if you already
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know you're a highly sensitive person, right?
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Like know that there are specific ways to understand
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how you're uniquely designed and how to honor
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and respect. your body, your sensory intelligence,
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right? And that you're not alone, right? Many
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of us, when we start to understand that we are
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a highly sensitive person and what we can do
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to realign our view with ourself, right? Realign
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with the truth of who we are. I mean, there's
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so many layers to this, right? But again, what
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you as a highly sensitive person can see in the
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world is so much more. I mean, we're about more,
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right? We are more sensitive than others. Yes,
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because we're receiving more information. We're
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receiving it more deeply, right? So the more
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for me is seeing the abundance of beauty, the
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abundance of gifts, the abundance of, and how
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can I honor this gift that I've been given, right?
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How do I respect myself and take care of myself?
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Now that I understand what it means. And I know,
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you know, I talk about this once a week. And
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I talk about different experiences. I might talk
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about, you know, what's going on in my own life.
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But I want you to know that I'm hearing, you
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know. from the colleagues, from the new clients,
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from the long -term clients, right? Like I'm
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listening, I'm following along to see where there's
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gaps in understanding, right? Like how I can
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support others to really embrace and embody their
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sensitivity in a way that's truly honoring and
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respectful. Because again, your gifts are so
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needed, you know? And so I'm here to help you
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understand to the best of my ability. And just
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to keep reminding you, you can rise up out of
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old patterns, old conditioning, old beliefs.
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And you can realign with your authentic self,
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your heart, your rhythm, your voice, right? You
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absolutely can. Does it happen overnight? Well,
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I certainly had a spiritual awakening that happened
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overnight, and that was quite miraculous and
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beautiful and blissful. And then I still had
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to return to integrating it, right? So no, it's
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not something that... takes hold overnight. But
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even listening to one of these episodes or hearing
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somebody else share something can be a very fast
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pivot where you're like, I'm ready to learn more.
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I need to understand this. I know this is the
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next step for me. So I invite you to return to
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your breath return to your body to what feels
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true for you right now and just just know there's
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nothing you need to fix right just notice what's
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here and as you connect more with your heart
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with your breath, right? Where the heart leads,
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the body remembers, and the soul awakens. And
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as a reminder, we are here together to rise,
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reclaim, remember. And for those of you who are
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newer to understanding your sensitivity. I have
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been quietly creating Rise and Realign Foundations,
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a gentle starting place for sensitive and strong
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women who are just beginning to come home to
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themselves and their unique design. It isn't
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officially launched yet because of course, as
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a highly sensitive woman, I care deeply about,
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you know, whether I am putting the most ideal
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amount of information, right? Not more than is
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needed to begin because I know the importance
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of taking things slow. but absolutely the right
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amount so that you really can take in the understanding
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of how you're designed and how to nurture, right,
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and respect your more finely tuned nervous system
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and sensory intelligence. So. If your body is
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leaning in as you hear this or you feel any type
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of, you know, excitement, just stay close. I'll
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share more in the coming weeks and it will be
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truly an honor to meet with you as well. So,
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as always, I'm so grateful you're here. I feel
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truly honored to be a voice of love that invites
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you back to yourself. If you'd like to walk this
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sensitive and strong path with me, Of course,
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I'm here each week. I also write a weekly Rise
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and Realign lunar letter for sensitive women
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who are learning to understand themselves more
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deeply. You can also join me there. And you can
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find everything at realignwithmelissa .com slash
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links. So take good care of you. Much love and
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light.