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Almost Famous: In Depth - Arie and Lauren · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous in Depth
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  Speaker 1: and the candles of burning champagne is flowing, And this
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  Speaker 1: is the very first episode of Almost Famous in Depth.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of a quiet class because I feel like
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  Speaker 1: this is a more intimate, romantic like scene. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like it's like inside the actor's studio. The Bachelor kind
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  Speaker 1: of is. So if for anybody out there, UM that's
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  Speaker 1: listening to this, this is a project that actually and
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  Speaker 1: I are really excited about. We have our our first guests,
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  Speaker 1: which I'll introduce here in a second. Um. We want
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  Speaker 1: to bring him on first because they're special to us.
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  Speaker 1: They've been on the Almost Famous podcast multiple times. But
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  Speaker 1: Ashley and I I think I saw a problem, saw
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  Speaker 1: an issue, and so after the show, a lot of
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  Speaker 1: the couples that are together, a lot of the leads
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  Speaker 1: or maybe higher profile contestants, they just kind of disappear
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  Speaker 1: and we lose track of where they're aut in life.
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  Speaker 1: And you you see magazines or or you see random
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  Speaker 1: articles written about you know, bachelor, where are they now?
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  Speaker 1: But you don't really get to hear from them and
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  Speaker 1: hear their voice. And this podcast will be a special
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  Speaker 1: podcast really just allowing the space for some of our
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  Speaker 1: favorite people in bassm Nation to speak openly about where
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  Speaker 1: they're at, what they're doing, the pains and the struggles,
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  Speaker 1: and also the joys and the successes that have come
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  Speaker 1: from being on this franchise. So this hound's gonna work.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk to uh our guests, uh in depth.
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  Speaker 1: That's what's gonna join in when she has a what
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  Speaker 1: she calls a burning question, UM that she feels like
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  Speaker 1: she really wants to highlight and dig into. For the
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  Speaker 1: most part, I just want our guests to to talk
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  Speaker 1: about themselves, uh. Following that, we're gonna lighten it up
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  Speaker 1: at the very end with some rapid fire questions that
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  Speaker 1: Ashley has created to help our contestants spill the beans,
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  Speaker 1: and then we're gonna say goodbye and let them go.
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  Speaker 1: But for this Almost Famous in Depth special series, we
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  Speaker 1: want to get to know the people that we have
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  Speaker 1: fallen in love with on this franchise all over again.
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  Speaker 1: And this couple is no exception to a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people having very strong feelings, very strong emotions, and ultimately
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  Speaker 1: seeing their love story unfold in front of us. Ari
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  Speaker 1: and Lauren, Welcome to the Almost Famous and Death Podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Thank Um, you know, it's no secret your love story
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  Speaker 1: Bachelination got to see a play out, as as every
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  Speaker 1: guest that will have on this podcast. But for you all,
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  Speaker 1: you now sit here right holding hands, smiling. Um, there's
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  Speaker 1: a glow about you, guys. The love has not faded.
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  Speaker 1: Is that true? So I want to start at the beginning, though,
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  Speaker 1: because I know that you know, coming off the show,
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  Speaker 1: and we were going to talk about a little bit
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  Speaker 1: before we sat down. Uh. You know, people watch this
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  Speaker 1: story play out on television, they feel like they've seen
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  Speaker 1: the full story, and maybe they have and maybe they haven't.
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  Speaker 1: But for you guys, your story was controversial. I don't
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  Speaker 1: think there's any secret to that, but it's led to
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  Speaker 1: something really, really great. And so I want to hear
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  Speaker 1: from you all starting back in that controversial time, kind
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  Speaker 1: of after the show and after we saw a play out.
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  Speaker 1: What was that like for you to well? I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I think it was really difficult for both of us
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  Speaker 1: to go through that, but it was easier having each
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  Speaker 1: other to lean on. Um. We're obviously not used to
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  Speaker 1: having the public kind of scrutinize us like that, but
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  Speaker 1: anytime I was having a hard time, I can lean
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  Speaker 1: on him. And he could do the same with me.
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  Speaker 1: I really enjoyed that time because it was the first
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  Speaker 1: time that we had been together without anybody else around,
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  Speaker 1: you know, during the happy couple of weekends, and it
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  Speaker 1: was like a really, that's what really was the foundation
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  Speaker 1: of our relationship, I would say. I would say the show,
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  Speaker 1: we knew that we loved each other, and we knew
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  Speaker 1: that there was something special between us, But really the
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  Speaker 1: foundation of our relationship started during the happy couple of times,
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  Speaker 1: you know. Are I think back and I remember talking
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  Speaker 1: to you a little bit about this, But I remember
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  Speaker 1: when I was the Bachelor and how excited I was
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  Speaker 1: to find somebody and and really putting a lot of
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  Speaker 1: trust in the process that I didn't know it was
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  Speaker 1: going to work or not. And I know for you
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  Speaker 1: it was you were really ready. I kept hearing that
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  Speaker 1: as you're filming, is there's one thing already really really
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  Speaker 1: cares about. Is he really wants to find somebody through
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  Speaker 1: this process at any moment. And and maybe I'm completely wrong,
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  Speaker 1: but I remember how fragile I felt like a relationship
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  Speaker 1: was coming right off the show because of the criticisms
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  Speaker 1: and the story. Did you feel like it was an
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  Speaker 1: extra level of fragile because of the controversy surrounding you
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  Speaker 1: know how this all worked out or right away did
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  Speaker 1: you both know, No, we're in this together, We're gonna
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  Speaker 1: keep going. I didn't feel as fragile at all. I
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  Speaker 1: felt like it, in a way strengthened what we had.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, I agree. I think once we were together,
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  Speaker 1: we're like, this is right, this feels right, and that
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  Speaker 1: was It just gave us so much confidence. We never
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  Speaker 1: felt the sort of outward pressure of the public opinion
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  Speaker 1: as a weight on our relationship. It almost like pulled
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  Speaker 1: us closer together because it was us against everybody in
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  Speaker 1: a in a weird mentality. Digging a little bit more
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  Speaker 1: of that. I mean, Lauren, from your perspective, you're now
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  Speaker 1: dating a guy who was the Bachelor, who you know
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  Speaker 1: many women were flocking over from one time. You see
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  Speaker 1: this whole thing come out, and now it's us first
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  Speaker 1: of them and Tal I mean, how do you switch
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  Speaker 1: that or how do you know that you want to
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  Speaker 1: back this guy? I mean, the whole time I was
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  Speaker 1: on the show, I knew that there was something different
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  Speaker 1: about him that was kind of drawing me to him.
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  Speaker 1: And I had always dated a different type of guys
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  Speaker 1: in the past. So once I got to know him
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  Speaker 1: and I gave it a chance, I realized that he
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  Speaker 1: was the kind of person that I needed in my life.
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  Speaker 1: And knowing that and knowing how strong we are together,
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  Speaker 1: it it wasn't difficult for me to be confident in
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  Speaker 1: us and just make sure that our relationship was like
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  Speaker 1: the center of everything at that time, because it did
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  Speaker 1: feel like people were trying to tear us apart. And
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  Speaker 1: when you're in that situation, you can either break and
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  Speaker 1: fall apart or you can get stronger and move forward.
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  Speaker 1: I remember, like Kelly Rippa, she wrote something on someone's Instagram.
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  Speaker 1: She was like, someone said, I'll give him a hundred
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  Speaker 1: days and nice screenshot at it, and we laughed about
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  Speaker 1: it because like, Okay, well retweet this in a hundred days.
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  Speaker 1: We forgot But it was just like one of those
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  Speaker 1: things where like people really don't know your relationship, you
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  Speaker 1: know as well as you do. Obviously, um, we have
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  Speaker 1: so much confidence in each other, and even at that time,
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  Speaker 1: there was no doubt. So it's just kind of funny
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  Speaker 1: to think back on it, because obviously watching the show,
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  Speaker 1: I can see where viewers were confused and they were like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: what is you know, what is their relationship doesn't seem
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  Speaker 1: that solid. I think it's you know, it's hard to
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  Speaker 1: watch that show as a bachelor because you do feel
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  Speaker 1: like so much is left out. And I know everyone
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  Speaker 1: says that, but it truly feels that way. When you
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  Speaker 1: watch it. You feel like, you know, you've read this
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  Speaker 1: amazing book and every detail and every moment, and then
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  Speaker 1: you watch this you know, TV version of it that's
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  Speaker 1: highlighted the things that didn't jump out to you to
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  Speaker 1: begin with. It's you know, you're just sort of just
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  Speaker 1: appointed when you watch it back because you're like, I
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  Speaker 1: wish they were showing that, and you know, that really
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  Speaker 1: meant a lot to me. I wish that conversation were
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  Speaker 1: played out, but I understand it's entertainment first, and uh,
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  Speaker 1: you know, our love story I think was something that
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  Speaker 1: progressed so late that you know, to make it interesting
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  Speaker 1: for the viewer, they hit a lot of it, um
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  Speaker 1: so that it was really dramatic at the end, and
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  Speaker 1: it was a big surprise when really if they showed
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  Speaker 1: I think an accurate portrayal throughout the season. Um, but
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  Speaker 1: I I noticed, you know, they edit sort of things.
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  Speaker 1: They start editing at the end, and I could tell
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  Speaker 1: when I changed my mind, and you know, I ran
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  Speaker 1: back to Lauren. Is about episode three in the season.
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  Speaker 1: I could tell a huge shift in the editing because
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  Speaker 1: they were like, Okay, now the story is about this,
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  Speaker 1: and then they were just sort of slowly building towards that.
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  Speaker 1: You watched the season back, right, Ari, Lauren, You didn't
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  Speaker 1: watch the season back at all. No, we actually watched
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  Speaker 1: most of them together. Oh you did watch it together
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  Speaker 1: first one. We watched all of them besides the very end. Okay, okay,
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  Speaker 1: the you know, it's it's interesting. I remember back and
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  Speaker 1: the only truth I have in all this is my relationship, right,
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  Speaker 1: But I remember how hard it was to be the
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  Speaker 1: person chosen um because of how the show looks and
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  Speaker 1: plays out, And I know how hard that was Um
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  Speaker 1: for the Lauren. I was with Um watching that and
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  Speaker 1: I got it, and it's there's no there's really nothing
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  Speaker 1: I could have done to make it feel any better.
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  Speaker 1: I wonder what you guys did during that season, if
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  Speaker 1: you if you watched it to make each other feel better.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I really am amazed, and I always have been,
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  Speaker 1: but you guys, I think I told you this in Mexico,
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  Speaker 1: that you guys bonded and came together so um so
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  Speaker 1: well during a time that felt like if any couple
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  Speaker 1: was gonna break, it was gonna be you two, because
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  Speaker 1: you had so much going against you at one point,
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  Speaker 1: but then you held it out and I look at
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  Speaker 1: you today and it's something to be honored and celebrated,
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  Speaker 1: and I really want to get to the depth for
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  Speaker 1: any be about to listening, going, Okay, how do we
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  Speaker 1: make a really tough time in a relationship work? Very
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  Speaker 1: few people are going to go through stuff of the
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  Speaker 1: time than you two did. How do you do that?
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  Speaker 1: There's a lot of communication involved. So we've always been
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  Speaker 1: extremely open about anything, and you have to be understanding
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  Speaker 1: in that kind of situation too. Like I knew going
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  Speaker 1: into it he was going to be dating other girls
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  Speaker 1: and that's just a fact, so I could I had
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  Speaker 1: to be okay with it watching it back and realizing
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  Speaker 1: that he had other relationships at the same time. So
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  Speaker 1: if I if you don't set a different expectation for yourself,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it's okay, um to watch it back
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  Speaker 1: and not be upset about things that he did, maybe
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  Speaker 1: like when he was talking to other girls or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: But for us, we just have always come to each
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  Speaker 1: other and we're super honest. If we're feeling a certain
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  Speaker 1: way about a situation, we would just tell each other.
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  Speaker 1: We wouldn't hide it. Um And I think both of
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  Speaker 1: us are really intuitive. We know when like I know,
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  Speaker 1: and ours thinking about something, or if he needs to
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  Speaker 1: say something, I'll ask him about it and I'll get
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  Speaker 1: it out of them right away. Yeah. I think that's
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  Speaker 1: the key, is just to let you know if anything
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  Speaker 1: is on your mind, you might as well just speak
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  Speaker 1: your mind at that moment, because I think a lot
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  Speaker 1: of couples sort of you know, they think, oh, this
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  Speaker 1: is probably isn't the right time to bring it up,
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  Speaker 1: and then it just sort of builds and builds and gets,
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  Speaker 1: you know, into something that's way bigger than it should
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  Speaker 1: have been. We're really good at reading each other and
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  Speaker 1: communicating right away. We actually took this funny little personality
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  Speaker 1: test when we are so you know how the bachelor
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  Speaker 1: has a little what's it called? You know, she has
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  Speaker 1: a psychology major, which she doesn't really she doesn't really highlight,
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  Speaker 1: but she's very smart. But we um, so I was.
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  Speaker 1: I took this thing called the Colby A Index years ago.
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  Speaker 1: We're talking about it during Happy Couple. It basically breaks
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  Speaker 1: down your personality between communication, um. It has four different
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  Speaker 1: pillars cleanliness, financial stuff. It's more like lifestyle personality tests. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: things that get understand yourself in a living environment. Right.
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  Speaker 1: It's called Takes two. And it's really interesting because it
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  Speaker 1: actually tells you how to be a better partner and
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  Speaker 1: tells you the things that you're good at and maybe
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  Speaker 1: not so good at, and what and what to be
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  Speaker 1: patient with with your partner. And so we took that
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  Speaker 1: and it was hilarious because our are Yeah, exactly, it's
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  Speaker 1: really good. So it's called Takes two. Can you just
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  Speaker 1: take it online? You take it online? And so it
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  Speaker 1: was really funny because our personalities are really similar, but
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  Speaker 1: there are things that are different between us. She if
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  Speaker 1: she's having um, if something's on her mind, she needs
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  Speaker 1: to talk about it, she needs to talk through it,
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  Speaker 1: and and that helps her. You know, I'm more calculated.
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  Speaker 1: I basically we'll think about it, and when I say something,
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  Speaker 1: it's usually exactly what I mean or what I'm struggling with.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, that is so me and Jerry, I'm
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  Speaker 1: so much like Lauren, and he uses every single word
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  Speaker 1: to describe like he carefully selects each word. Are just
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  Speaker 1: summed up men and women literally. So now that we
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  Speaker 1: know that about each other, it better helped us. So
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  Speaker 1: and that was like right away when we first started. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: we always remember those results we got and we keep
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  Speaker 1: that in mind when we have issues. So I mean,
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  Speaker 1: now if we're going to fast forward a little bit,
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  Speaker 1: right because you know, you've talked about the struggles, You've
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  Speaker 1: talked about the issues for a while now, and most
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  Speaker 1: of your interviews coming off the show, it was like,
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  Speaker 1: how are you going to make this and all the
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  Speaker 1: stuff and that that I'll build up You've pushed that
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  Speaker 1: now behind you? Right? Has it at all felt like
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  Speaker 1: a whirlwind? Knowing that I mean very soon you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: be getting married. I mean, and and no matter what
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  Speaker 1: you met on a show like this doesn't happen very often.
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  Speaker 1: Are bachelor's don't make this thing work? Other before you?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, has this felt real? Now? Does it feel
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  Speaker 1: like real life? Are you slowing down? Um? Catch everybody
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  Speaker 1: up with kind of emotions now surrounding this whole thing? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, now that we've been home for a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: I think we've been home for four weeks straight. Um,
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  Speaker 1: when we're at our house, we're hanging out with our
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  Speaker 1: dogs and just running around, going to the grocery store.
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  Speaker 1: It feels very normal. It's like kind of like we
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  Speaker 1: forget that we met on a TV show, so it's just, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: there's nothing odd about it to us anymore, and we're
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  Speaker 1: just excited about getting married. I wish it was like tomorrow. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's really cool. We the planning part was stressful at first,
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  Speaker 1: but now we're getting down to like the small details
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  Speaker 1: and it's really cool. It's like we're getting um, you know,
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  Speaker 1: our families together, and we'll obviously have like really cool
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  Speaker 1: plans that no one knows about during the whole week
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  Speaker 1: when we're in Maui, and it's actually fun. I think
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  Speaker 1: as opposed to doing it on TV and having a
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  Speaker 1: plan for you, there's something in the planning that makes
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  Speaker 1: it both hers and mine, you know. And I think
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  Speaker 1: that's what really does make it cool too, because there's
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  Speaker 1: a lot of love that's being put into the planning,
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  Speaker 1: and I think that's also something that can bring two
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  Speaker 1: couples together. Yeah, I agree. The one thing I've artists
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  Speaker 1: and as I've been reading a lot, and then watch
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  Speaker 1: him and around you what you both do really well.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like as a couple, and a lot of
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  Speaker 1: couples don't, including you know myself, in relationships, is you
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  Speaker 1: do a lot of understanding and you compromise often. You
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  Speaker 1: did it with your house, and I want to talk
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  Speaker 1: about your house and kind of how you've made it
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  Speaker 1: your own for both of you, and the wedding and
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  Speaker 1: all of that for a second, but leading up to that,
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  Speaker 1: I really want to ask you, Lauren, because of the
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  Speaker 1: compromise and understanding, We're always coming from what is it
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  Speaker 1: about Ari now and this season of life that you
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  Speaker 1: most appreciate about him? Like, what is it about Ari
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  Speaker 1: that makes you go, this is my husband and I'm
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  Speaker 1: excited to move on the life with him. Well, there's
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  Speaker 1: so many things and ask the hard questions. I know.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, well, if I can only take my heart
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  Speaker 1: and put it on this microphone, well, I just I
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  Speaker 1: really do love the way that we interact with each
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  Speaker 1: other and the way like I know that I can
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  Speaker 1: be a handful sometimes and I can get stressed out,
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  Speaker 1: and you know, probably I'm not the most fun person
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  Speaker 1: to hang out with. All the time. But when I
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  Speaker 1: get like that, he knows how to handle me the
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  Speaker 1: best way over anyone ever has. And I also I
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  Speaker 1: just kind of have to laugh at it because he's
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  Speaker 1: so good at it. So if I'm stressed and he
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  Speaker 1: comes to me and he's like, hey, you know, just
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  Speaker 1: do this one thing, you'll be okay, and I just
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, he's so right, Like I feel like
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  Speaker 1: he kind of knows me better than I know myself sometimes.
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  Speaker 1: So it's just, yeah, I'm just really happy that I
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  Speaker 1: found him. I'm going to get emotional. You guys like
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  Speaker 1: that make me cry too, So feel free, I mean, Lauren,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think I'm listening to it. A lot
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  Speaker 1: of people out there want that they desire to find
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  Speaker 1: that person that when you're at your worst, they make
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  Speaker 1: sure you get to your best. And I think that's
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  Speaker 1: exactly what when I see you two why it's so
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  Speaker 1: exciting for me because I really do think and that's
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  Speaker 1: why when we started the podcast, how I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: kind of approach this was, hey, how do the world
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  Speaker 1: do you make it work? And a season of life
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  Speaker 1: where it feels like right away the world is coming
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  Speaker 1: down on you, you know, and a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: have felt that with a thousand different reasons, but you
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  Speaker 1: two have kind of rised above. You've been the phoenix
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: right and you see here today you're saying, this guy
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: right here has gotten to me better than anybody else,
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: and are just to fall up before I ask you
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: the same thing. How have you intentionally gotten to know Lauren?
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: And does that have has that just came naturally or
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: what is it about her that makes you want to
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: get to know her better? I think we always say
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: this in their views. I think we say that we're
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: really similar, and I think that's something that has helped
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: us get to know each other so quickly, because it
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: doesn't feel like there's a push and pull in our relationship.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: It feels like everything is just right on the same page.
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: And that's the thing that's really made it so easy.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: Like she's my best friend. I love hanging out with her.
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: I hang out with her every minute of every day,
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: and I never get bored of her. And it's just
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: so fun because every day is just something that I
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: can look forward to. I never feel like we need
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: a break, we need some time. In part I need
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: to go hang out with my buddies. You know, I
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: want to include her and everything because we just feel
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: like we're so similar. I uh, it was this weekend,
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: and this whole thing is never supposed to be about me,
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: but I have to explain the staffs next question. I
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: went on my first date this weekend for the first
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: time in a really, really long time, and and it
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: didn't go well. We'll talk about it, but um I
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: went to my buddies after it didn't go well, and
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: I said, and all right, and are if if you've
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: never been in the season of life, please just say no,
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: I can't relate with you, Ben, But I was so
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: excited for this weekend. I was anxious and excited for
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: the first time in a long time. So that was
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: super let down and super bummed out when it didn't
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: go well. And my buddy looked at me and he goes,
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm I'm only twenty nine years old, you know,
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: so I think I still have time are at least
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: eight years. But um my buddy looked at me and said, been,
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: you know, maybe what you should be looking at is
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: not how bummed you are, but the fact that you you
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: could actually feel excited to in And all right, I
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: don't know for you. But I know for me, coming
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: off of an engagement and then having a couple of,
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: you know, years in between, I have this is the
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: first time i've you know, one of two times I
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: felt really excited to hang out with the girl again.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: And so for you to sit here and say, yeah,
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: I want to hang out with Lauren, like I'm excited
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: to be around here? Is it was that a new feeling?
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: Was that a common feeling as life continue to progress
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: for you or which did she just kind of like
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: rock your world in that way? Yeah? I think anytime
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: you're in a relationship, you're like, ah, this is so good,
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: and then and you have kind of a feeling like,
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: but there's a few things that sort of bother me.
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: Let me compromise, you know, and you kind of go,
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: but that sort of weighs on you and it becomes
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: an issue. And I think with her, I've never I've
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: never had to compromise on my feelings towards her. You know,
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: there's nothing about her that I would change, you know,
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: she's she is literally the person for me. And so
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: I think that's something that when you find someone like that,
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: things are just easy, Like it's just easy between us.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: I mean, we have our moments, you know, obviously everyone has,
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: you know, our arguments. Like she loves she takes her
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: time to get ready. I am. I'm very on time everywhere,
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: you know, if I'm five minutes later, freaking. But I
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: know that about myself and I know that she takes
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: her time on things, you know. So it's just adapting
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: a little bit. But it's it's nothing that will rock
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: the boat, you know. So it's funny you say that
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: about your first you know, you were obviously engaged, You're
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: on the You're on the Bachelor. And I was telling
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: her about this the other day. Is that, you know,
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: right after enimly this season, I was a runner up obviously,
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: and I think at that time I felt like I
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: wanted to be the Bachelor. I felt like I was
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: right for the Bachelor, and I obviously wasn't chosen. But
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: I think if I was a Bachelor back then, we
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: obviously wouldn't be sitting here. But I think that it
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: was not meant to be for me at that time.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: I think I had to give myself a few years,
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: removed myself from the franchise, and kind of come back
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: with a different perspective. And I think that's you know,
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: I think that's helped because you know, I'm thirty seven now,
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: you know, I think things are different when you're a
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: little older. Your perspective is a little different and you
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: can kind of see things a little bit more clearly too,
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: you know, And I think that's what has helped our relationship.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: How awesome is that you weren't the bachelor back then?
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: Because it's really crazy, like back then, it's frustrating, is
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: probably weird, and you're probably I put all this effort
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: in the time and heartbreak into something, and why can
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: at least see some type of fruit from it, which
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: you know, we all ask ourselves all the time, and
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: then not knowing that, how many years later you come
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: back and it would be the perfect time. All I
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: have to ask you the same question, you know, now,
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: what is it about Lauren that you look at you?
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: This is gonna be my wife, This is the person
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: I want to stand beside forever. It just never, It
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: just never. It was a question for me, you know,
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: I think that when we got back together, you know,
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: there was this immense feeling of of loss when we
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: broke up, and it was something that I knew just
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: wasn't normal, you know, And I knew that it was
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: going to take a lot to get back to her.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: I knew that it was going to take a lot
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: of criticism, which it did. Um and I think that
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: is something that was sort of the initial feeling. And
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: then when we're together, you know, right afterwards, and then
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: obviously through the period of watching the show together and
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: then moving in together, like everything was just like easy
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: and it was just so much fun. And I would
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: look at her and be like, you know, that's my future,
• 21:30
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  Speaker 1: home not only on Instagram, um, but also I think
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: US Weekly did the feature this house is beautiful and
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  Speaker 1: uh and again, you know, as we mentioned earlier, you
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  Speaker 1: know you've compromised and I think in the article even
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  Speaker 1: says that you've made this place home for the both
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  Speaker 1: of you. How have you gone about doing that? What
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: were those conversations? Like? Well, I mean in the beginning
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  Speaker 1: stages of planning the design for the house, we we
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  Speaker 1: kind of had the same vision in mind. I think
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  Speaker 1: like tons of throw pillows. That was one thing I had,
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  Speaker 1: Like you like it starts to the headboard and it's
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  Speaker 1: like ends up all the way at the foot of
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  Speaker 1: the bed. There's Jared and my reoccurring fight is about
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: how to make the bad Oh we've had that before.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, we we definitely compromise on the little things,
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  Speaker 1: but overall the design that we both wanted is very similar. Yeah,
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: it was cool. It was I mean, I'm in real
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  Speaker 1: state in Arizona. So we looked at a ton of
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  Speaker 1: places and this is the place where we walked and
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: we're like, wow, this is nice. And then we had
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  Speaker 1: to hit a few boxes. That had to have a
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: big closet for all of her shoes, had to have
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: bedrooms for future babies, you know, it had to have
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: a big living space. And it was in. It's in
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: this cool little neighborhood where we can walk and bike
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: to a bunch of restaurants, and so it really is cool.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: It's like she's used to moving all time. I lived
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: in the same place you saw it on the show.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: It's it was tiny, but I lived there for ten
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: years because I'm I get attached to That was actually
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: really funny in itself, trying to move Aria out of
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: his condo. I would literally go to the empty condo
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  Speaker 1: and just sit there and be like I would miss it,
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  Speaker 1: like I had to go work on something, and then
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: you see sitting there drinking coffee and that's empty room.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: I get it. That's like my car, it's eleven years old,
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: is dying and I'm like, I've gone everywhere with my car.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: How could I ever let it go? She moves like
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  Speaker 1: she's a you know, she's a military brat, so she
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  Speaker 1: has moved around everywhere. So she's not like things that
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  Speaker 1: I had everything I owned in my car when we
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  Speaker 1: moved from her. I was at in Virginia at the
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: time and we drove to Phoenix. Yeah, how long has
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  Speaker 1: it been now since you moved in? We move? Did
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: we move April? We closed just in the beginning of June,
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: but she moved while that was on the new house.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: But he moved, yeah, in April. In the pool, the
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: pools all over Instagram, and the pools became Instagram just
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: like you know, it's like the window to your life.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: It was shocked by how excited people were about the pool.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, but I'm into it. I check it.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: I've checked Ari's Instagram as much as possible. See how
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: your pool. Um, So life is beginning for you guys,
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: weddings coming up. I know today you have to leave
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: here very very they do. Um, yeah, because you've got
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: a big day ahead of you. What are you up to.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: We're going to pick out our rings with Neil Lane.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: Oh my good right, I know, our wedding bands. And
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: then I'm trying my dress on for the first time
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: with Haley Page right after that, Oh my god, the
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  Speaker 1: one that's fitted for you, like after all the alterations.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: I mean, I know that we'll get into that later.
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: We'll get into it later. I don't get it. The
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: custom designed dress by Haley Page. So they kind of
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: came up with it together. Yeah. She's definitely one of
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: the leading wedding dress designers. She's really cool mat her,
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: that's all about it. So cute. I love her. Yeah,
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: and so you're going today to pick out wedding bands
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: with Neil Lane obviously from the show. Um, how does
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: that work that the show help set that up? Or
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: is that just kind of on your own. No. We
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: ran into him when we were in the Maldives and
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: he was like, Oh, I'm so excited to see you too,
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  Speaker 1: Let's get in touch. When you first he was really shocked.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: Why we're why are you guys in the days? I
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: think everybody was and we still don't know why. I
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: know you don't want to talk. We saw Neil and
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  Speaker 1: he was like, yeah, well i'll make you some bands
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: and we're like, okay, amazing. So yeah, we're really stoked
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: about that. Because the wedding ring you have, can we
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: see it real quick? It's gorgeous. Look at all those
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: little all around diamonds. Thank you guys. This makes me
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: feel a little left out art. Let me see here.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: It's gonna be weird to have a ring on my
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: finger though, I mean for a guy, it's it's obviously
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: a big change is that today? So today you're picking
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: out the guy and the girls and that's how that works. Um.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: Moving into the wedding, then I know people are jacked
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: and it has been kind of kept secret. The show
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: is not doing it. Um who you know what is
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: kind of the set up, the format, the field, the vibe,
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: um of this wedding that's coming up. Oh I've been
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: asked that so many times and I always just say
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: I wanted to have a fairy tale vibe. So it's
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: going to be a sunset wedding. We're doing it. In
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: this venue called Haiku Mill and it's a historic sugar
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: mill and maui um and we're just gonna have tons
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: of twinkle lights, hanging vines, candles everywhere, lots of greenery,
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: kind of like the Twilight wedding. But I was just
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: going to say, it sounds like she's like I wanted
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: to look like the Twilight. I haven't seen that we're
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: describing it, and in my head, I was like, this
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: sounds exactly all I can Really. It's a big wedding.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: It's like really beautiful and standing. Will your dress look
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: like that? Or will it be a little bit more
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: princess fairy tale? M hmm. It was a couple of
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: hits on that I would say, it's kind of like
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: a modern princess, like like I'm a vegan Markle. No, okay, no,
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: right now, I'm not allowed to know if it's okay,
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: So this is a complete secret. Yeah. I'm just I'm
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: listening right now. I'm not saying too much. Yeah, so
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: I am the designers awesome though I met here a
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: couple of times, so I'm kind of picturing what she's
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: done before, I mean, walking down the I can't I'm
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: just I'm thrilled for you too, because we've spent some
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: time together coming off the show, and we sit here
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: today and I know this whole thing is, this whole
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: show no matter what, is crazy, uh, And I'm thrilled
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: for you to even talking about a wedding and getting
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: excited about it. You know, one of the weird parts
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: about the Bachelor franchise right now is we have a
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: lot of couples and unfortunately we lost one couple this
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: last week that we kind of stopped hearing from. Right.
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: The excitement over the next step is oftentimes something we
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: haven't been able to celebrate with people. And people fall
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: in love with you too. They fall in love with
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: your love story that you can fancy you. They cheer
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: for you, their hearts invested into you. And on this podcast,
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: it sounds like you're both are leaping in this wedding,
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: not as this next step or this burden. It's like,
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: I want to get it done. I'm excited about this step.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: Am I wrong? No, You're not wrong at all. We've
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: always been excited about it. But you know, weddings take
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: time to plan, especially a destination wedding. Yeah, we were
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: gonna try to do it in the same year. But um,
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: but it was. It's a lot to plan. I mean
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: I had no idea. As a guy, You're just like, oh,
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: it's easy, I'll just show up like that at all?
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: We do? We do? Yeah, so we have We have
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: two people actually, um our buddy Clint, who's doing a
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: lot of it, and then Kim and Co who works
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: with the venue and her. Yeah, her team is really cool.
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: It's interesting though, it's like they'll call you and be like,
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: what do you what do you want? You know, do
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: you want a three tier cake? Do you want flowers
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: on it? You want fake flowers on it? Do you want?
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: And like a million questions? And I think so. I
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: think the longer you have to plan something like, the
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: more complicated it gets. If you had to do a
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: wedding next week, you could probably do it. It would
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: probably be great. But like when you have some time,
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: it's like, oh man, it's a devil in the details.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: You're like, what do you think it is? Then I
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: want to hear your opinion, because you guys are gonna
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: make it. You're gonna do You're gonna make this thing happen.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: What is it about couples coming off the show, including
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: my own and you can speak to me here too.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: That people get excited where when they come off, and
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: a lot of the interviews they say, I want to
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: get married, you know, I'm excited for that next step.
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: We're excited for kids or whatever that looks like. And
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: then that fades. Why is that? What is that? And
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: how can we start changing that? I don't know for
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: the right people to ask about that. I think maybe
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: you would be the right person ask why doesn't it work?
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: I don't know, Well, okay, maybe the better question is
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: how do you make it work? I don't think it
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: was ever a question for us. We just kind of
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: we got engaged and we're like, okay, cool, when can
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: we get married? Like as soon as possible for us?
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: But we just and it was never something we wanted
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: to wait for. So I'm not sure why there's a
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: level of confidence there that like it doesn't always happen.
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: You feel like you have the right thing, you trust,
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: you're the right thing, you're engaged in your confident, you're engagement.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: I don't I still don't believe anybody gets down on
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: one knee or I don't think if this has happened
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: anytime in my recent memory, got down one knee just
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: for the sake of getting down on one knee, Like
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: I don't. I think every time there's an intention behind
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: it saying I think this is right, um. And so
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: for you too, like there was a confidence that far
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: outweighed any doubts you had, and you you kept that going.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think for me, I've had enough of
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: the wrong thing to know what the right thing is.
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: So I just knew deep down that he was the one.
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: I never questioned it, and that's why I have so
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: much confidence in it, I guess, and we've just continued
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: to prove that over and over again. That's awesome. I
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: think as the bachelor it's so hard, you know, you're
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: I remember being a contestant and being so much more
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: invested in my feelings because, like during the filming of
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: the show, just because you have one person to concentrate on.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: I think as a bachelor, it's in their nature to
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: make you waiver because it's good for entertainment. And then
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: when you sort of the smoke clears, and then for me,
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: I saw so clearly what mistake I had made. You know,
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: I think that in itself there's such a pressure with
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: that show as the lead. You know, your the easy
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: way would be too continue your path. But I knew
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: with her, I had to do what I had to
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: do to be with her because I knew that she
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: wouldn't just wait around for me for a year or
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: two years or whatever. You know. I think it was
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: just one of those things where I think you for
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: me because I made that decision. I was so confident
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: already because I said, Okay, I know what backlash is coming,
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: Like this is going to be really bad for me.
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: Chris Harrison said it. I mean everyone said it to
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: me that the advice was going the opposite way, because
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: they're like, you know, you could you could do you know,
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: you could make some you know, a lot of money
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: on Instagram if you just keep you know, keep your path,
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: or you could do you know, the advice was all
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: the point in the other direction. But I knew my
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: heart was with her, and I said, I don't really
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: care about that kind of off you know. And I
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: think that that's why I had so much confidence in it,
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: because I thought about it so much before I had
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: made that decision. Can we take a few minutes here,
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: if we'll say say as much as you want. What
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: were those nights like leading up to that? I mean,
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: to go back to that season when millions of people
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: are watching this on TV. This is right in the
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: heart while people are you know, well right before people
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: are watching this on TV, you know that America is
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: already putting it on the cover of magazines. You're laying
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: in bed at night alone and thinking about what. Well,
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's it's it's hard to really
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: go back to that time because we're in such a
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: different place and we weren't even going to talk about
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: it because we what's been really nice is okay. So
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: now we had our season, all very dramatic ending. Then
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: we had becka season which we obviously you know, we
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: got tacked on a million things. We had to see
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: her face all over social media. It is hard for us.
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: I mean, it really was actually hard to like, it
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: was way harder for her obviously, And then now that
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: sort of died down there in a great place, but
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: it's not like it's in our face as much. So
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: it's actually been really nice to sort of remove ourselves
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: from that time. But if I had to go back there,
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: I think there's a little bit of trauma where I
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: do remember everything, But I think the biggest thing that
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: I take away from it is my feelings towards Lauren
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: and how I needed to be with her and how
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: I needed to run to her. And I think that's
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: sort of the overwhelming thing that I think about when
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: I think about that time running to her. That's I mean,
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: and I want to again. I don't mean just continue
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: to pat you on the back, but the way you've
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: handled this coming off that that's a really lonely season,
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: no matter like of life, no matter who you are,
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: how happy you are, what you're trying to process. You
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: have millions of people watching you while you lay in
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: bed at night, going I don't know how to handle this.
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: It was more it was harder to do all the
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: media stuff because we were back together, but everyone was
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: still kind of taught. Everyone was still sort of you know,
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: month back as far as the timeline of the show.
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: So I was like, oh man, just wait, just wait,
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: does that cause any trauma? Mean does that really cause trauma?
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: You think I wondered for myself sometimes it does. I
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: think it does. If that like kind of blocking and
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: compartmentalizing why you're in love, why you're answering questions about
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: other women who you had feelings for at some point,
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: but you're you're in love and committed to one person
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: and you're hiding it for five, six, seven months, and
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: I'm terrible at that. Yeah, it caused a little trauma,
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: I think, right and I wrong here. It does. You
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: have to be a little deceptive and and that's not me.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: And I think that that was really hard during the
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: show too, too, you know, to keep people on for
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: weeks that you didn't want to keep on that you
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: were like, I mean not natural, No old thing is
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: not natural. Yeah. I think I'm still recovering and you
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: just did. Um well, you know, thank you so much
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: for being open about that, because I do think that's
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: the answers a lot of the questions that people are
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: wondering too. And they don't get to see that side.
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: They get to see the TV part and they get
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: to see they get to get angry and go, oh,
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: how could you do this? But they don't see the
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: nights of laying in bed at night like going I
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: need Lauren, like I need to run to her, and
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: how am I going to do this? And everybody's telling
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: me not to because it's going to cause so much conflict,
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: but you still chose to do it today. You stand
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: here strong, um, leading into life today, Lauren, You've got
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: a lot going on. You're designing a swimwear line. Tell
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: us about it. So this is something I started doing
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: when I was in middle school. I grew up in
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: Virginia Beach from I'm from northern Virginia, really know that. Yeah, So, UM,
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: I spent a lot of time there at the ocean,
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: and I'd always bring my sketch pad just to be
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: alone and be creative. Um. So I've had I've had
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: this book of bathing suits for years, UM, and I
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: kind of felt like now is the right time since
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: i just moved somewhere new and I'm starting this new
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: journey with Ari um to go ahead and actually bring
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: that to life. So I'm planning on launching it next spring.
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: That's awesome. You were going to go into real estate
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: with him, so you guys have your own business together,
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: and that didn't work out well. I went to real
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: estate school for a little bit and I was just like,
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: oh man, this is born. Yeah I know, yeah, I
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: don't think this is for me, So I'll let that
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: be your things. What do you want to do? What
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: are you passionate about? You do what you're passionate about.
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: She's like swimwear, and I was like, let's do it. Cool?
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: So this, I mean you're full You're full in right,
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: I mean you started designing. What is that process looking like? Well,
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: lots of hours meeting with actual designers because I didn't
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: go to school for that. So um, I've met with
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: some local designers who actually produced when we're in Arizona,
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: sat down with them and they kind of walked me
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: through what it would be like to start a business
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: in that and like what I need to do with shows,
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: I need to go to, who I need to hire
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: to help me. So it's just it's been a lot
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: of learning for me. It's kind of like I'm back
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: at school for something entirely new. But yeah, it's been
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: a lot of fun. You just gotta follow what your
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: what your love is, you know your passion in life.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: It doesn't feel like work. Then. I do actually love
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: selling house. It is boring, but I love Yeah, it's
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: funny that. Yeah, it's good. It's funny that you know
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: how many months ago you I'm gonna go back to
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: silly house and You're like, no, this isn't for me.
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: And look at you. Now, this is awesome that you're
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: You're passionate. You got a wedding, You've got a lot
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: going on. I'm imagining are he's not doing a lot
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: of the detailed planning of the wedding. No. I get
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: on the call and I'm like, what's the butte you?
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: It's like what, well? That sounds good? It's like what
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: is it? Call? It's so funny because we're on these
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: calls together and he's always like price, what's the price?
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: And I'm in the background going, I have this question
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: in my list for later. The fun stuff, Sorry, what
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: are you up to? Um? Just real estate stuff? Now,
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: winter for me is all about selling houses. Summer is racing,
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: so the race season is pretty much done and so
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: it was a fun year once some races, got to
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: travel a lot went to Australia when all over the
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: world actually so it was really cool. But the summertime
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: is predominantly racing, which there's real estate. I uh, forge
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: about the listening. I get to see Ari in action
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: at UM. I got the chance. I was lucky enough
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: to ride in one of the uh the sprint cars
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: there's two seater sprint cars indie cars at the beginning
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: of the race, and I thought I was gonna get Ari.
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: I thought for sure I was gonna be Mari as
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: he dried, but no, I had somebody I didn't know.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: But I was pumped because I had never met. We
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: had never met before that, um, and so I was like,
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: the first TIMEE to meet Ari is gonna be sitting
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: behind him watching his head bobble as dry. But now
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: he's legit and uh again. We got the time to
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: swing together in Mexico filming a little commercial spot for
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: Bachelor Paradise that actually I think ended up fantastic. I
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: thought it was great, mixed reviews from the from the
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: you know, Bachelor Nation. I thought it was great. Your
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: your portion wasn't freaking amazing. I'll go down saying that's
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: one of my favorite things I've ever done. Um, is
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: there anything else you'd like to share with anybody out
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: there listening. I mean, I think a couple of takeaways
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: that I'm taking from this conversation is you as have
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: found strengthen each other. Your relationship has defied you know,
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: a lot of criticism, and I think now has turned
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: the corner to rising way above and people being you know,
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: celebrating you for being in love and starting this whole
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: new journey together and you will be a couple from
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: Batchelor Nation that we'll talk about for years to come
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: because you have been successful. Um those are my takeaways.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: And I also just again I want to um, thank
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: you both for being uh just having really good character
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: in a season of life that could easily have turned
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: a different direction. Um, you could have lashed out, you
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: could have been harsh, you could have said no, you know,
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: you could have stand and said a thousand different things
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: and said you took it for a long time and
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: just let your love prove what was right. So I
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: think I admire that, and that's why I'm so excited
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: to have you guys on this first episode. But anything else, um,
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: outside of those takeaways that you'd like to share everybody listening,
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: what do you want? What do you want to say?
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I think that was a pretty good summer.
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: Thank you, Yeah, thank you. Yeah, we've been having a blast,
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: so it's good to be here. I know that we
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: follow your podcast, so we're avid listeners. It's really yeah,
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: we are actually listened to it before I went on
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: the show to kind of get an idea of what
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: I was intern. That's how long we've been on you
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: know what. You know, it's crazy. Maybe Colton's next partner
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: will have done the same thing and they've gotten there
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: because you know what I did. I read Sean Lowe's
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: book before I was the Bachelor, or before I wanted
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: the bachelorrette to get some insight into the show itself,
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: and it helped me tremendously because I felt so much
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: more comfortable entering into that world. Yeah. Actually, I read
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: Courtney's book going into the audition process, and then I
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: read Sewan's book right before my season aired. That's funny,
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: So I felt like I was pretty prepared through both
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: of those. Anybody out there listening, if you're excited about
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: being on the Bachelor, just listen to the podcast Almost
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: Famous is here for you. Hey, that's my segment. I
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: just want to talk to you all. I want to
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: catch up. I appreciate the both of you. I'm gonna
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: pass it over to Ashley here because she has a
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: fun little game that she's best out lighting up the
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: whole room with some super intense questions. With that, R
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: and Lauren, You're the best. Thank you. Actually take it away,
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: all right, you guys. This is called the rapid fire
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: question segment, but honestly, it's not really rapid fire because
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: I'd like you to go a little more in depth
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: than just being like one sentence answers. I've always just
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: been like the person who loves random fun questions. Like
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: when I was younger, I whenever I meet a new friend,
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: I'd ask them like a set of questions like who's
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: your favorite late night host? Are you Mac or PC?
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: What's your food restaurant? What do you order from there?
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: So for some reason, I feel like all those little
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: details about somebody kind of adds up and you get
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: to really know them. So I have a whole bunch
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: of questions like that, just silly fun things. But while
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: we're on kind of the topic of the wedding, let's
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: go through these questions. Why did you pick Hawaii? Why
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: destination um twofold warm and doesn't have Zeka? Okay? Good?
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: Because Carly's wedding um Jade had to be worried about
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: Zica because she was still pregnant, and of course, between
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: she and Carly, they both also wanted to get pregnant
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: soon after. You know, we have tons of friends that
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: are expecting, and my best friend from Virginia, she was
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: actually going to be one of my bridesmaids, or she's
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: an an honorary bridesmaid, but she's having a baby in December,
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: so I wanted to make sure that we picked a
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: place that she could go to nice. Currently, our dilemma
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: right now is Jade and Tanner are trying to get pregnant,
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: but Tanner is officiating the wedding, so they kind of
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: have to skip trying in the month of December, which
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: is kind of really sad. Think what you're asking, I
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: feel guilty. That's what Tanner spent saying. Okay, Um, speaking
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: of bachelorette bat Beth, speaking of your bridal party, you're
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: leaning towards white your bridesmaid dresses. Have you selected yet? Um? Yeah,
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: actually we have and they're gonna be ivory like a
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: white Yeah. Interesting. So you don't need all the attention
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: on your offite. I've never really been the kind of
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: girl that he's the center of attention. So and you
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: have a bachelor at a lum and your bridal party,
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: I want to tell everybody who that is Yeah, Michel
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: Cooper is one of my bridesmaids and one of my
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: best friends. That's so nice. And then you also so
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: that Tia and Cnn are invited to the wedding. Ari.
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: That's obviously not weird for you. We we know as
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: Bachelor alums, how not weird it is to have your
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: fiance be friends close friends with girls that you also
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: kissed in data. We've seen most of them since then too,
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: So it's just you know, water under the bridget right,
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: it's fine, right? And how many guests are you having?
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: We're having just under. Oh that's pretty small for these days, okay, awesome.
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: And how many people are going to be in each
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: bridal party? There's well, I have one honorary, so technically
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: there's eight, but seven will be there for each of us.
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: Oh man, what's the honorary. She's my friend Taylor that's
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: having a baby, so she's going to make it. Okay, Okay,
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: that's sad. Her little there's one of my men. I
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: can't wait to see him in like a tiny little suit.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: Oh he's nine. Nice, that's a horrible I remember him
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: from the Hometown episode. And then both of my grandmothers
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: are going to be our flower girls. That is that
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: is the cutest thing I've ever We don't have any
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: like little girls in our family. Little girls are unreliable
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: and flower girl I think about how like specially your
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: your grandma's feel Yeah, I know, I cannot wait to
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: have a minute beautiful that's a headline. Thank you guys.
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: Um you're inviting Bachelor producers, But in your g Q
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: article you said that you felt betrayed by them, So
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: why invite them? It's a love hate it is. I mean,
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: I don't know if they have magical powers. I tell
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: you I've known some of the producers like a Lawns,
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: you know, for what seven years now. I mean I
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: understand they have a job to do, you know, and
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: they all kind of blame the editing room, so I
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: don't know, but they tell the other thing where what
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: to do. But you know, ultimately, if it weren't for them,
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: we wouldn't be together, right, So there's just you know,
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: however it played out for the viewers to see, they
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: still put me in a position to be the happiest
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: I've ever been. Got invite him. I have to tell
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: you that when Jared and my engagement was airing a
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: couple of days beforehand, and we got got to see
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: the footage about twelve hours beforehand, and we kept sending
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: a long a joke list. We were like guests, a
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: wedding guest list, and it was like Alan was on it,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: then would send him a version where he was crossed
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: off off of it, and then he was back on it,
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: and then he was crossed off on it, and it
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: was just when you kept joking about that. But yeah,
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: oddly very love hate relationship, but mostly love most bizarro. Okay,
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: let's move away from the right now. And what is
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: your reoccurring fight, because, like I mentioned, Jared and my
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: reoccurring fight, they're silly. It's like he doesn't make the
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: bed tight enough or he has to put his chapstick
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: on the dresser. I'm like, the dresser is for aesthetically
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: pleasing purposes, only not your yellow bird's bees, So like,
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: what are good? He makes the bed and then he
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: gets mad because like the two days a week that
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: I want to make the bed, He's like, I don't
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: get it. You don't make the bed five out of
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: seven days, But then when you do, you want it
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: super tight, and when I do, you complain that it's
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: not tighten up. I know it's silly, but like, those
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: are our problems, so we're very fortunate for that. I'm like,
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: like I said before, I think I'm just obsessed with time,
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: always on timewhere. No, I want to add one detail
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: to this. It was only three minutes late today. Very nice,
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: I think. Um, honestly, I think I'm a little more
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: laid back than Aria. So mostly it's things I do
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: that annoy him, which is fine because whatever. But like
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: the throw pillows thing. I put a ton of them
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: all over the couch and whenever he goes to sit down,
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: he'll just take them and drop him on the ground,
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: Like the bed needs throw pillars, or doesn't look like
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: a room, like a beautiful room. You know it's not true,
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: don't don't. It's absolutely dixous, so waste of my time.
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: When I'm tired of throw pillars, terrible. I don't know.
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: I mean, what else you don't have any for me?
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: I just did an entire podcast of things I don't
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: get about. Jared. You have to have come on now,
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: m m man. I'm good. I'm just very chill, perfect.
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: You can't find one thing. It's Okay, we'll think of something.
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: I'm sure she'll think of something as soon as you
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: walk out the door. So I can't stand when you blink.
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you always go blank when you're actually asked
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: the question, and then later you find the best answers.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: But I'm gonna keep thinking. This is kind of like
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: in line with the same thing. Is there something in
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: life that you'll never see the eye to eye on
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: and you've kind of just accepted it. I don't think so.
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: I think there is no. Yeah, guys, we're just we're
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: the same person because you both of it had already
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: said publicly that you want kids fairly quickly, right, Yeah,
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: that you're totally un worth that you've got the house. Now,
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: you've got a pool, you've got dogs, I mean, finances
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: are getting in order, you have a job, he has. Yeah, actley,
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: I'm learning. I think the biggest I mean, I think
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: for all the men out there, just support whatever you're
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: significant other wants to do. Yeah. I think no. I
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: think that it's gonna make her so happy to launch
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: a swimwear line. I can't wait. Now we're gonna do
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: a bunch of stuff around it. Well she is. I'm
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: just gonna be hanging out. We just we just really
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: want each other to be happy. So whatever that takes,
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: we're willing to compromise to make that happen. Okay. Um,
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: that kind of leads me to my next question. I
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: feel like you guys are in the position right now
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: where you can do entrepreneurial moves like your swimsuit company,
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: because you have the opportunity, you have the audience. But
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: in like a couple of years, maybe you'll just have
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: one income and it'll just be coming from Ari. How
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: do you talk about money as an engaged couple, because
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: this is something that Jared and I find to be
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: interesting all the time, because like, like we know in
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: six months that this is going to be a joint
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: bank account and that whoever pays for this dinner, it's
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: like the exact same, Like we're kind of sharing a
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: bank account right now, but we're also not. So how
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: do you guys split that up? It? We've been talking
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: about who pays the rent, who pays the electricity, pays
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: all the utility Okay, yeah, I pay like all of
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: the extra bills, He pays the mortgage, pay the pool. Okay,
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: So this is kind of what we do too. If
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: you can choose, you'll take us out to dinner one night,
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: I'll take us out to dinner the next night. Yeah.
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: We just kind of try and not put too much
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: stress on either one of us, even though we know
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: our money is kind of in a pool. Right, Okay,
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: so you guys we have big goals to like, we
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: want to buy a beach house at some point. You
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: guys watch HDTV and dream like we do. Yeah. So
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: I have a couple of investment properties that we might
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: sell to make that happen. So we're just like we're
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: making moves. Yeah, I want to have somewhere we can
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: go that's closer to my family. To say that the
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: money is a hard one, I think like my buddy
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: just got married and he said, I switched to a
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: joint bank account, and he's like changed everything because now
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: she knows how much is left, so crazy, so she
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: change spend or spend or because she's you're looking at
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: the same number. You know, you know what you can
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: do and what you can't do, you know. So I
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: think that's hard. Finances are hard. That's part of that
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: takes two things. Yeah, is like that's a big one.
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: Finances is a big one. Communications is a big one. Yeah,
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: it's it's so awkward to talk about initially, but then
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: when you start rolling with it, you're like, okay, well
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: we really are together now we know that it's joined.
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: But some weird reason, you know, because we're not technically married,
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: we we have to kind of Yeah, like my house,
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: I put it on my name because we're not married yet,
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: but as soon as we're married, than the house doesn't.
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: It's just kind of it's funny. Everyone was like, oh,
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: the house is only in his name, it's a sign.
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: Oh come on. But Arizona everything community property, so when
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: you're married, literally it's everything. You guys have an eleven
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: year age gap. Do you ever feel it? It's only ten? Okay?
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: I wasn't sure. I mean there's a small planned the
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: year where eleven. Yeah, do you ever feel it or not? No?
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: I feel like we're on the same page maturity wise,
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: which is great. Gosh, are super immagi. No, I'm just
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: very I think there's some things like movies, you know,
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: I'll be like remember that movie. Yeah, music sometimes music,
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: but actually music wise, we're like the same. We like
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: the same, like trap crazy, really cool. Would have ever
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: thought I read a story about you guys going to
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: one of those concerts though, just having a blast. You
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: guys are like the whitest people and yet and yeah
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: like trap music. We like I love Cardi being Nicki Minaj, Yeah,
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: obsessed with she goes to karaoke bar bar and she'll
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: like rock Cardi be throw it down on it, yeah
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: Minaj nice. She gets really embarrassed so that you get
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: to catch her on like kind of situation and that's awesome.
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: You guys, actually before the show, and there's photographic evidence
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: about it. You talked about it when you first met
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: out of the limo, but it was never aired. You
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: met Ari how long before you went on this season?
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: So I met and explained the whole story. Okay, So
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: I met him in June in Dallas before we went
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: on this season, which so it was like three months
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: months later. So you were already in the casting process,
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: where you not? That's why I wasn't. So I wasn't
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: in the casting process until July, and I wasn't even
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: thinking about going on the show. And you probably would
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: have never thought Ari he was going to be the bachelor,
• 56:38
  Speaker 1: And she was like, oh, I know that A couple
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: months ago. Yeah. So I had never been to a
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: race track ever in my life, and my friends were like, Oh,
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: let's go, we have tickets. So I was kind of
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: dragged there by my friends. And I recognized him because
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: I saw him on Emily season. So I fan rolled
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: over him and met him. I was like, Oh, my gosh,
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: you're the Bachelor American flag shorts. Yeah, so I just remember.
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: Do you remember her? Was there a cosmic connection? Did
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: you feel sparks electricity? I was dating somebody and she
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: was like ten ft behind me and I was like,
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna get away from So you did feel like
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: you're like honey? And then Lauren, you framed the picture
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: gave it to him when you came out of the limo.
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: It was never shown, but that is so weird. It
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: was like God was really trying to put you guys together. Yeah.
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: I always looked at it that way. Too cool Destiny,
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: For sure. You guys did go to the Maldives for
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: to tape a segment for Rebecca's season finale. It never aired,
• 57:42
  Speaker 1: and it was odd because it was TEA, so fans
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: were looking forward to it. Can you give us like
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: a little brief? No? No, always like, no, no, it's fine,
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: we can talk about it. You can. But it took her.
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: I have to commend her because that's why I wrote
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: that social media post, because it took you know, it
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: was very I think it was a hard time for
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: I did not want to go. She did not want
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: to go. We were already on that side of the world.
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: We were racing in Perth, so we were on the
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: western side of Australia. So they called and they said, hey,
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: we'd love to do this little segment. I was like,
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: absolutely not. But then Becca called with the producer and said, hey,
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: this is more for me and Lauren is on speaker phone.
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: We all talked about it and she would be like
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: she was like, this would be a good closure for me.
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: We've talked a lot about you this season. It's been hard.
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: We want to move on. We all want to move on.
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: Can we just sit down and have a conversation. Well,
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: my fear kind of stemmed from the breakup scene, the
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: way they showed everything there on his season, so I
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: was kind of scared that they were going to call
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: him in there. Becca was going to act surprised and
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: be like, what are you doing here? And it was
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: gonna was going to be a weird be teased that
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: he came back for her lord, So I was mad.
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: I was like, no, we're not doing that. That's crazy.
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: So what I was like, Becca needs to ask him
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: on the phone if we're coming, so she's aware, Okay, okay.
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: You know, after that, I was like, all right, I
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: don't like it still, but I'll go. I'll hang out
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: by cool you didn't out by the pool. So it
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: was in this scene that we will never see. It
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: was just Ari and Becca talking. Yeah, and I'm sure
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: it was just like more of a closure conversation. Yeah,
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: it was like it was actually really good. She wanted
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: some more insight. I'm like where my head was at,
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: and then like she related to you more in that
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: moment than she had before. That's for sure. I remember
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: her coming off the show and being like I kind
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: of get it now. Yeah, and that was what that
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: That segment was a little bit you know, closure for her.
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: Not closure really there was closure a long time ago,
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: but it was more just to kind of figure out
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: sort of, you know, what where my head was at,
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: because she was like, I can relate to you now
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: and I just want you to know that I forgive you,
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: and I feel like, you know, you're in a really
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: good place with Lauren, and I can see where you
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: were coming from now that I'm in this situation. And
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: it was actually a really constructive, good conversation, and I
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: wish they would have shown it because it would have
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: sort of given people more of an inside of what happened.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: But it was I think maybe they thought wrong time.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: I mean, you know, let's celebrate her relationship and not
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: make it about the past. I totally get that. So
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: that's why we were kind of confused of why they
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: wanted it. Um, but you were in person. You didn't
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: have to fly halfway across the pool. Very nice, Thank you.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry for saying closure. Yeah, I should have known.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: It was obviously not a closure conversation she had had that,
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: but yes, it was like it was like and I
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 1: get you now, like I'm in your position almost Okay.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: So my final question is something kind of fun to
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: really and this James lipped and ask interview if you
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: had a crystal ball, what would you want to know?
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: Both of you? Ah, I would want to know what
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: our future kids look like, what we're going to look
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: like when we're old. And gray. Those are the good ones.
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: I would really ask you want to You're fine, but
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: it's fine. Yeah, I want to know. Yeah, I want
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: to know those things too. How many kids, because you
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: guys say almost four, I want to know how many
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: kids actually come to me? Yeah, I mean I have
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: a ton of friends that have kids now, and they're
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: scaring me a little bit. So you might reel it
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: in a little bit. Maybe not for maybe two start
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: with to figure out three. Ye all right, Ari and Lauren,
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: thank you so much for being This has been the
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 1: almost famous in depth podcast. This is a special series
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: that we were doing some Abatchination's favorites. We started Ri
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: and Lauren, Um. This podcast is meant to highlight where
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: couples are today, some of the favorite characters in the
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: past catching up, helping us all fall in love with
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: them all over again. With that, Lauren, you're just gonna
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: have to fall our leader. Right, I've been been, I've been, Nashley,
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 1: I've been. Leak to you soon they really do listen
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: to the podcast, okay, guys. So funny enough, two days
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 1: after we recorded that podcast, Ari and Lauren announced that
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: they were pregnant, so obviously we had to get them
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: back on the line and to tell us all about
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 1: how they found out that they are bringing a little
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 1: lion Dyke into this world. Ari, Lauren, Hello, you guys,
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: you really held out on us. I know, so sorry.
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: We had to of course, yeah, we had to wait.
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 1: We had to wait for a last check up, and
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: then we also had to you know, we had to
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: let everybody know at the same time. So we totally
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 1: totally understand. Um, it was on you because a day
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: after the interview, I posted an instant story showing off
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 1: the champagne that we were drinking, and a couple of
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: followers noticed that Lauren wasn't drinking, and I'm like, whatever,
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 1: it was thirty am. That doesn't say anything to me.
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: And then lo and behold. I woke up the next
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 1: day and it was announced that you guys are having
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: a baby. So Ben is also on the line, but
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: he is not exactly having the best reception right now. So, uh, Ben,
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 1: if you do hook up, well interject, but right now
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: the questions are on me. So you guys, how how
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 1: you found out? Obviously just from a pregnancy test? I
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: read right, yea, And okay, I mean I guess this
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 1: is a little bit of a crude question, but it's
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: one that everybody is probably asking themselves. Um, did you
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: guys pull the goalie? Was this? There? Never loves a goalie? Okay, there,
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 1: that's all we needed to know. Yeah. I think were
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 1: kind of like, if it happens, it happens. Yeah, I
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 1: mean we just we didn't really think that it would
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: happen that quickly, but we weren't trying to prevent it. Yeah.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 1: I think a lot of our friends struggle with infertility,
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 1: so we thought, Okay, you know, we're not going to
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 1: not try, and we're not going to try, but well,
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 1: let's just, you know, continue on and and if it happens,
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 1: it happens, then then that's grade, you know. All right?
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 1: So you guys, you guys kind of in a way,
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: we're trying ever since you got together. I don't know
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: if I would say that, but not not not trying. Yeah,
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: we're definitely more careful. I think now that we had
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 1: the wedding planning kind of done and we was on
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 1: the horizon, we felt a little bit more relaxed about it.
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 1: So what about the wedding and the dress and how
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 1: you have now had to alter it to a baby bump. Well,
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's my first one, so I'm hoping I
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 1: won't be showing that much. But the dress, um, and
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: I want to say too much because Ori is on
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 1: the lend of me right now. But it's not going
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 1: to be an issue. Okay. So it's kind of like
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 1: tie at the top and no clue what that means,
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: but I do and I think our female listeners out
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 1: there we'll get it too. Um. All right, so walk
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 1: us through the day that you found out, Lauren and
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: how you told Ari. Well, actually, weirdly enough already told me.
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 1: He told you. What's no way teching more? So yeah,
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 1: I'll just start from the beginning. So the week before
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 1: we found out, I was very emotional and I was
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: craving meatballs, which is totally not something that I normally
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 1: would crave. Need iron. Yeah, I'm like very all about
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 1: salads and sushi and everything's fresh all the time. So
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: Ari was picking up on these signs and he was like,
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: you are super emotional. You're craving meat balls, that's just
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 1: not like you. So I think you're pregnant. And he
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: kept telling me that all week and I'm like, no,
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 1: I'm not. I was in denial the whole time. So
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 1: one of my friends who has been trying, orders like
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 1: a hundred tests on Amazon and over that night that
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 1: I found out he was one of the tests, and
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 1: she's like, here, just take this. I have so many
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 1: extras um and I didn't want to take it ease.
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 1: I really want to know either way because I want
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 1: to have kids soon or I wanted to anyways. So
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: I felt like if I wasn't, I would have been
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 1: a little bit let down. And I didn't think I was.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 1: I don't know, it's just like a weird mental space.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 1: But Ari was all excited about it. He made me
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 1: take it, and there's how do we explain that? So
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 1: she was leaving for New York the next day, and
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: so we have a pregnancy test. It's just like no,
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 1: I'll just take them in the morning, and I'm like, no,
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 1: let's take it to night because just in case we
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 1: are pregnant, then we have the night together to sort
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 1: of celebrate because she was leaving for New York. He
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: was convinced it I was pregnant. Yeah, So okay, this
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: is the where it gets kind of funny because it's
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: kind of an old school test or like a cheaper
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: pregnancy test where because it bulked. Yeah, yeah, it was
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 1: our friends. It was our friends test. But basically put
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 1: a sample in a cup and then you take a
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 1: little dropper and then you drop it in the window.
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 1: If that makes me sense. I was like, oh, cool
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 1: science experiment. I want to do it. So I wanted
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 1: to do that. So I just like when about my business,
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 1: when like in the kitchen to clean something up or something,
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 1: and Al came out with the test in his hands,
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: like I don't know, it was the cutest thing. I'm
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: like staking even talking about it. So but he's like
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 1: holding it up in the edge, tears in his eyes
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 1: and he's like, you're pregnant, and I do like I
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 1: was just like no, I'm like no, I'm not. There's
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 1: no way. He was in like complete denial and shock mute. Oh,
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 1: I know. It was a really a special moment. It
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 1: was like there's nothing that compares, like I just have
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 1: this test in my hand, and as soon as a
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 1: turn positive, I just, I don't know, like emotion kind
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 1: of got the best of me and I was really excited,
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 1: and I think I don't think there's I've always wanted
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 1: to be a dad and I think there's like this
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 1: big sort of wave of emotion and almost like relief
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 1: because you don't you just don't know. You know, you
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 1: don't know you can be parents and have your own baby.
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 1: You know, there's so many people out there that can't.
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 1: So it was just a really cool moment. That's awesome.
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 1: How did you guys tell your parents? Um, we told
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 1: our experience his best friend's wedding, and they're super excited.
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, they're both chearful that they were also just
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 1: ecstatic about the news. Yeah, my mom has been pushing
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 1: grandkids like since day one. And then we FaceTime Lauren's parents,
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 1: so we tried to get them to come out because
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 1: we're like, you should need to check out the new place,
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: so beautiful out, like the weather is so great here
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 1: and we're trying to drop all these pints. But they
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 1: were just too busy because the holidays and everything. So
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 1: they're like, no, with the wedding coming up, we'll just
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 1: see you at the wedding. And then so we had
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 1: to face time. Then we even green shot at their
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 1: face because they were also like Lauren in shock for
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 1: a few minutes. Oh, it's so sweet. Do you guys
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 1: have any names picked out so far, we have quite
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 1: a list of names. Yeah, okay, do you want to
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 1: share some that probably won't make the IT list? No?
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know sharing There's so there's this app you
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 1: can swipe left or right a lot like Tinder and
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 1: Lauren's like up to how many swipes? Now? Are you
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 1: at have? Like almost six? Guys? That is such a
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 1: cool app. Yeah, it's awesome. You need to use it
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 1: when you get to that stage two. Um, whether there
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 1: is there any chance that aries on the list since
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 1: you are junior yourself? Ari, Yeah, that's not gonna happen. No, No,
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: Ari third, No it's the boy, No junior junior and
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 1: no Ari l Ari l Ari is Are you guys
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 1: gonna find out what it is a girl or a
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 1: boy beforehand? Are you gonna make it a surprise on
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 1: the birthday? We actually know? Oh you do know? Yeah? Um,
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 1: are you willing to reveal? Come on right here an
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 1: exclusive at Ashley almost this podcast? No? Actually, well here's
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 1: the thing. So we filmed a little something with Bachelor
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 1: for the premiere. If it makes the edit it on there?
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: Okay yea, yeah, that's so great. Thank you guys for
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 1: giving us that little exclusive tidbit. And I have one
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 1: last question before I let you go, Lauren. I read
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: that you're having a pretty You had a pretty rough
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: first trimester as far as the sickness goes. How did
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: you get through? What made you trigger? Oh? Gus, there
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 1: were so many things that triggered me, anything like any
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 1: kind of smells, like if he's wearing, if I drink
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 1: a glass of wine, she's like, oh my god, you
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 1: smell discussing. Oh no, but yeah, I was pretty much
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 1: like confined to the house for at least a month.
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 1: I don't really want to go anywhere or do anything.
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 1: But luckily I'm feeling better now. Did you have any
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 1: bachelor fans have an inkling of this, because I'll admit
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 1: I read some stuff and it seems like people were
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 1: onto you. And I don't know how how hard you
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 1: have to stalk your social media to be onto you,
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 1: but it seemed like there was some rumors that you
• 1:12:05
  Speaker 1: there was a baby in there for a while. I
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 1: think that someone maybe at our doctor's office, tipped someone on.
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 1: You got a call from cand um So and there
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 1: were some rumors out there after that. Wow, all right,
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 1: Well that's what I mean I think it's one thing
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 1: if you go to an O, B G Y N.
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 1: But if it's another thing, if you're beyont, it goes
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 1: with you. Yeah, that's a telltale sign. Yeah, we've been
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 1: going to the doctor a few times, and you know,
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 1: when you're in the waiting room and stuff, it's just
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 1: it's gonna happen. People are gonna notice you there. It
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 1: was probably somebody in the waiting room, not necessarily, and
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 1: you know that works at the office. But you're feeling
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 1: better now, Lauren. Yeah, Yeah, I'm no more sick, no
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 1: more morning sickness, not really. I haven't. Occasionally, like when
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 1: we're driving around in the car. I have to drive
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 1: us around a lot of this time, so we'll get
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 1: car sickness. But other than I'm good. There's a funny
• 1:13:01
  Speaker 1: few things that we that we talked about. You know.
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 1: The one thing is she has bread next to her bed,
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 1: so she gets hungry in the middle of the night
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 1: to grab that loaf of bread. I think that's kind
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 1: of the funniest thing. That's awesome that happens on a
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 1: regular basis. I used to I used to give her
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 1: like we used to just bring water to bed. Now
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 1: she literally has. It's probably like the size of a
• 1:13:25
  Speaker 1: big gulp. It's like get the ounce of the water.
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 1: Oh that's anywhere cravings um yeah all the time it
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 1: changes like no more meatballs? Oh, no more meatballs now. Yeah.
• 1:13:40
  Speaker 1: The whole beginning, I was craving meatballs, like beef jerky anything.
• 1:13:45
  Speaker 1: It was like red meat, and I don't really eat
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 1: red meat, so for me that was out of the ordinary. Um.
• 1:13:51
  Speaker 1: And anything like lemonade. I really like lemonade. Anything else
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 1: like you had like a pickle, like during the road
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 1: trip to Vegas. That was funny. All right, guys as well,
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 1: thank you so much for giving us this interview, especially
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 1: after you sat down with us for an hour last
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 1: two weeks ago. We're so appreciative and we are so
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 1: so happy for you. It's so cool and hearing you know,
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 1: it's it's different hearing you guys tell the story to
• 1:14:29
  Speaker 1: us through the radio basically than it is to read
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 1: the articles. So thank you so much for being here
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 1: and telling the story. Yeah, of course, yeah, of course,
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 1: thank you guys for having us. All right, we can't
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 1: wait to find out what the gender is. Come the sexes,
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 1: come the reveal on Colton's premier hopefully talk to you later.
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 1: Lauren Denari