Episode 3: Predictability, Not Control — What Your Teen's Resistance Is Really About

Parenting Neurodivergent Teens & Young Adults · Apr 3, 2025 · 45m

Shari Murray's son used to panic every single time she pulled into a gas station. Fifteen minutes of it. What are we doing, why are we doing this, do you really need gas — every time, at a station they had stopped at a hundred times before.

For a long time it read as a young man trying to control where the car went and when. Then she tried something that took five seconds: telling him, just before the turn, that she needed gas. He still checks the gauge to verify. He still has his phrases. But the panic is gone, and what replaces it is can I help?

Same stop. Same gas station. Entirely…