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Autism In Girls (Socialising Info YOU Need To Know) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So This is why girls with Asperger's syndrome may struggle
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  with social interactions. Let's get into it guys.
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  Welcome back to the aspy world. My name is Dave, autism, ADHD
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  and OCD and dyslexia and I make weekly videos all about this
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  stuff because I believe it's my journey, my passion, my my, my
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  goal in life is to help educate and help boost autistic people
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  to their full capacity of being awesome on the autism spectrum.
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  So if you want to join me on this journey, make sure to hit
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  the subscribe button by clicking the notification bell down below
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  and join me on this journey. So guys, why?
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  Why do girls with Asperger's syndrome struggle so much with
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  social interaction? Well, it's really interesting
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  because autistic people in general will have an issue with
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  social interaction because social conventions are something
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  that people pick up generally as they grow through high school
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  and primary school and meeting friends and going out and doing
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  all these things. But autistic individuals are
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  very much more conservative in their value of where they go and
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  how they communicate. And so having a social
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  interaction will be few and far between and maybe a massive
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  struggle for people on the auto of the spectrum because they're
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  not as used to it and not as absorbent of those things as
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  typical people. Now, girls in the spectrum have
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  a harder time with this and this is because social interaction
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  between women or females is very different because females are
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  more of AI don't know how best to say it, more of a clicky type
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  of of interaction where girls want to impress other girls so
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  they feel part of that tribe, right?
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  And this means that girls will try to do a lot of things to fit
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  in. But when you're fitting in with
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  a group of people that you don't really fully understand how to
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  communicate with, you're going to come across problems.
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  Now, these problems could come out in all kinds of ways where
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  you you don't really know how to maintain friends properly.
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  You're not going to be able to talk to friends in a way where
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  you know your boundaries, what you should should talk about,
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  what you can talk about, what's kind of like really sensitive
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  topics and things like that. And then also how to keep up
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  with friends, messaging them, maintaining their friendships
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  for a long time. Like knowing that, hey, don't
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  reach out every single day and talk to that person incessantly
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  because that's going to annoy somebody.
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  All of these factors come into social interaction and are big
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  issues for girls in the autism spectrum.
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  This is why you'll see autistic girls of girls diagnosed with
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  autism or Asperger's syndrome will have quite 1 hatch issues
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  on maintaining friendships with other girls.
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  They may actually have an easier time maintaining friendships
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  with other boys because boys have a different way of kind of
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  communicating their their emotions in terms of masking and
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  things like that. They kind of just just fall into
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  it really, they just kind of go along with it and and boys are a
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  little bit outside of the area of trying to oppress each other
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  to be a part of a group. They're quite a more accepting,
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  incisive group. No, I'm not saying that all
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  girls, even when they try to make people conform to their
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  ideas, our social ideas. That's what I'm trying to say.
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  What I'm trying to say is that the behavioral traits of hunter
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  gatherers are more kind of like they want to be accepting
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  because mothers are protectors, they're carers.
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  They're people who who pulled the tribe together as when we
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  were going back to gathering days would be the people who
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  were pulling the people together, making sure that we
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  were safe. The men would be out hunting and
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  fighting off saving to tigers, where the women would be keeping
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  a social commune very close together.
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  So This is why all the other females want to be very
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  accepted, so they can move the tribe on.
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  That's the kind of like anthropological idea there.
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  So I do understand that girl synopsis factor will have issues
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  with social interactions, but there are ways to overcome it by
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  spending time more with people who are more social than you.
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  So you can ask questions and learn from those people.
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  And then also putting yourself out there in more social
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  situations will get you more accustomed to what typical
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  conversations are like. Super interesting, guys.
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  If you'd like to download my PDF Life Hacks Autism book, you can
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  do from autismhacks.net right now.
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  I'll see you in the next video, guys.
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  Peace.