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Will a narcissist ever admit to being wrong? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're going to be talking about answering the question.
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  Will narcissist ever admit to being wrong?
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  Will they ever admit that they are just flat out wrong?
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  They tell you the truth. Confess.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  The Narcissist Code. So pow pow as well.
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  What's that, bro? I forgot what boot is.
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  Bro is his. Is his step brothers pow?
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  No. Maybe step brothers Pow is Rob
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  Riggle. But yeah, yeah, this is a space
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  that so many people fall into you.
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  A lot of people ask this question right here.
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  Will they ever admit to telling the truth, Lee?
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  How do I get them to admit that they're lying?
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  How do I get them to admit to tell, to tell the truth, Lee?
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  Would it ever confess to the wrong stuff that has that they
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  have done? Yeah.
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  First of all, there has to be some type of incentive for them
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  to admit to being wrong. There just has to be.
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  And this is not me trying to be funny or just smart Alec or
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  smart mouth or whatever you want to say.
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  There has to be an incentive for them to admit that they're being
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  that they're wrong because they're the shame is so deep.
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  This the shame runs so deep and so rampant with most narcissists
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  that they will never admit to being wrong because it doesn't
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  benefit them in some way, shape or form, right?
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  It just, it really just doesn't, they don't admit to being wrong
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  because it it, it really does get into our heads that if we
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  admit to being wrong, then you have all the power.
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  If I admit to being wrong, to doing wrong or whatever, it
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  means all the power has shifted to you and you are in control of
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  everything. And I don't want you to be in
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  control of everything. I want to be in control of
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  everything. I want to have all the power.
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  I want to have all the control. So it just like they will rarely
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  ever give up that control. And This is why I come in here.
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  This is what, this is one of the most popular sayings and one of
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  the most, one of the most controversial sayings, one of
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  the most controversial sayings that I've come up with or that
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  I, I didn't create the same. But I, you know, I just say it
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  in the field of narcissism, you don't need a confession from a
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  narcissist. You want 1.
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  And that's, I understand it. It's human nature.
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  You want it. You want, you want that
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  confession. That confession will make you
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  feel whole. That make a confession will
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  validate you. That convention will just make
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  you feel good. You want it.
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  You don't need it. And I say this too, y'all the
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  y'all, the police can convict you without a confession.
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  They can. The police can absolutely
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  convict you of a crime and lock your ass up and you don't have
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  and you didn't confess. That happens.
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  That can happen, too. Like the police can convict you
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  without a confession. This is this is.
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  Yeah, this happens to so many people.
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  Like they circumstantial evidence matters.
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  If you. Yeah, if you have enough
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  evidence, you just need to act on it.
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  You don't have to tell them. You don't have to confront them.
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  Because sometimes you confront a narcissist with this evidence,
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  with this proof, they will rage out on you and some of them will
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  beat your ass. Let's just keep it hot.
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  Let's keep it hot and ready. I know I got to keep it hot and
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  ready like a Little Caesar's pizza as much as I possibly can.
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  Like some of them will rage out and put and try to put hands on
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  you and start throwing stuff and screaming and yelling and
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  threatening to harm themselves because you found them out,
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  because you've discovered them. They want to throw a hissy fit.
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  They want to throw a damn temper tantrum because you discovered
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  them. They want to throw a temper
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  tantrum because you figured them out.
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  This what happens? I'm just telling you, this
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  happens to so many people. This happens outright to a lot
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  of people and they want to tell people just like if you've been
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  dealing with a narcissist or a toxic person, this is probably
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  going to be your experience. You're probably going to share
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  this experience where you told them, hey, I got this proof.
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  Confess to me right now. And they'd be like, don't give a
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  damn what you got. I ain't confessing to nothing.
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  Prove it. Prove that I've done wrong.
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  Prove like I said, I don't care. I don't you, you, they'll,
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  they'll deny your eyes, they'll deny everything that is going
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  on. They'll deny your your reality.
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  They'll deny every single thing they will, they'll deny it all.
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  They will just like they'll look at you in your face, tell you
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  that the video evidence, the evidence is wrong.
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  It's AI. It's this is that is this is
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  that they will very rarely just confess to whatever is going on.
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  Y'all? So that's what I'm saying.
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  You don't actually need a confession from a narcissist in
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  order to heal, in order to move on, in order to just in order to
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  be able to move forward. You really, really do not need
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  one. Because as a narcissist, I will
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  rarely ever right now, because I've been in therapy for seven
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  years, I I can admit to it. I can admit to what I'm doing
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  wrong because I understand it's more powerful.
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  It's more powerful for me as a self aware narcissist to admit
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  to being wrong and to be able to take my power back and to share
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  that with everybody. But as before I was diagnosed,
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  hell no. You can.
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  Yeah, you can have all the proof, you can have all the
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  pudding, you can have all the whatever.
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  And I still would not admit to it because that means
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  transitioning the power to you. So very rarely would I ever
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  admit to being wrong like they might give you, I call it drip
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  truth, truth and drip honestly. They might give you little bits
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  and pieces of truth and honesty. They might do that type of stuff
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  right there. But very rarely are they just
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  going to come out and just admit to being completely wrong or
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  admit that you were right or admit to being caught or
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  whatever. Very rarely will they ever do
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  that because they what's the benefit in it for them.
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  It all benefits you whenever you don't.
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  When have you seen a narcissist be selfless?
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  Y'all you know, when have you seen a selfless narcissist?
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  Whenever you seen them do something that didn't, that
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  didn't benefit them directly. Whenever you seen that happen.
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  Whenever you seen a narcissist that did something to you that
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  that did something for you that didn't benefit you direct, that
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  didn't benefit themselves directly.
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  That's the type of mindset and mentality you have to fall into
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  because most narcissistic people are not going to do things that
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  benefit other people. Oh my goodness.
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  They're not going to do things that benefit other people
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  directly. They're going to do things that
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  benefit themselves directly. They're always going to pick
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  them. They're always going to choose
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  them. They're always going to.
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  The choice is always going to be me.
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  It's a me first attitude. It's a me first satisfaction.
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  It's a me, me, me first. That's the me first.
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  I need me. I need my satisfaction.
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  I need my needs met. I need my heart.
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  I need my heart. I need my soul.
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  I need mine. Mine 9/9.
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  So what? How does admitting that they're
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  wrong benefit them? Well, I just need a confession.
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  I need them to say this. I need them to say that.
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  You have to give them a benefit. There has to be some type of
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  benefit in it for them. How does this benefit me?
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  How does me giving you the power in this situation benefit me at
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  all? How?
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  I'm asking y'all directly because this is the question you
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  have to ask yourself before that narcissistic person is going to
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  convey anything to you. They might tell you to shut the
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  hell up, even with proof, even with evidence, they might say
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  this, They might say that. They might do all of this type
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  of stuff just to mess with you. This is the type of mindset and
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  mentality that you probably have to compete with, that you have
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  to deal with. So this is something that you
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  have to ask yourself right here. Y'all like, do you?
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  I know you want a confession. I know you want, I know you want
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  this dissatisfaction. I know you want because some
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  people, some people think that them admitting to you that they
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  were wrong means that they care, means it validates you do what
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  y'all? I'm not saying that they don't
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  care. I'm just saying why would they
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  want to validate you in this way?
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  They have to be able to admit that they were wrong and then
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  also take like this y'all, this is not admitting that I'm wrong.
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  Well, I did this, but what about what you did?
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  Because if they sometimes they'll admit they sometimes
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  they will admit that they were wrong, but in the same breath
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  blame you for it or also compare something that you've done in
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  the past as well. You know what I'm saying?
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  This is the type of stuff that happens.
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  It really does. It's the space that so many
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  people fall into. Like you have to fall.
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  You have to get out of that mindset because they're.
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  I'm just telling you they're going to blame you.
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  Yeah, I cheated on you. So what?
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  What about what you did? What about when you turned me
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  down the other day? What about when you didn't take
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  me back in seven seconds? They're going to find a way to
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  put the blame onto you. Why?
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  They're treating you a certain type of way.
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  This is what they're going to do to you.
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  So this is the type of space that you have to be understand
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  and be prepared to fall into possibly with this person, with
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  this narcissistic person, with this toxic person.
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  You're going to that. They're going to try to drag you
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  into this circle. They're going to try to drag you
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  into this space. This is what they're going to
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  try to do. So they are.
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  They might admit that they were wrong a little bit, but for the
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  most part, they're going to put it on to you because it benefits
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  them to put it on to you. It just does, y'all, and this is
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  not me trying to sound like a broken record, but they're going
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  to put it on to you because it allows them to escape
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  accountability. It allows them to escape that
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  space, and it allows them to have so much going on at the
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  same time. It just, yeah, it really, really
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  does. So you have to, you know,
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  empower yourself. You have to do this type of
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  stuff right here because it helps you out.
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  It really does. You know, don't give them the
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  power of withhold. Like I said, I need them to
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  confess. You want them to confess.
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  You want them to admit that they were wrong.
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  You don't need them to unless you need it for court or
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  something like that. But then I said you need it for
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  court. You need it for something else
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  other than your just personal, just your personal well-being,
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  your personal mindset or whatever.
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  Like you have to give. You have to convince them it's
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  in their own best interest to tell you this.
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  Hey, if it'd be better for you if you had just admitted to
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  being wrong because like, you know, other people want to find
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  out you're going to be exposed and did it.
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  It is blah blah blah. Don't threaten them because
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  you're threatening them. Then again, they can snap.
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  They can try to put hands on you, they can try to harm you,
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  they can try to do the most damage in the world to you.
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  This is the mindset, this is the mentality of an abusive
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  narcissistic person. This is how a lot of their mind,
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  a lot of my mind works the same way a lot of our minds works.
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  It really does. So this is the space that we
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  fall into. So I would, I want everybody to
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  be as strong as you possibly can.
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  I want everybody to to combat it.
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  I want everybody to just move forward and allow yourself to a
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  healing space and a healing grace.
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  But this is the space that so many people fall into.
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  Y'all, I promise you like you don't need a confession.
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  And very rarely would they ever admit to being wrong unless they
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  can benefit from their wrongness.
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  I'm afraid to tell you the truth because you're going to leave me
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  if I tell you the truth. You promised to talk to me.
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  You promise not to walk out the door if I tell you the truth.
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  You see even that right there, that situation benefits them.
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  They promise to tell you the truth, but you have to give them
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  something in return. It's like negotiate, yo.
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  You don't negotiate with emotional terrorists, You know
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  what I'm saying? We don't negotiate with an
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  emotional terrorist. They will hold your emotions,
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  emotions hostage. They just will.
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  This is the space that so many people fall into.
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  Y'all, I'm just telling you, you have to protect your peace.
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  You have to protect yourself. And make sure, if you haven't
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  But then this is out. Peace.
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