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#246 | Feel Like Your Body Is Working Against You and Your Fertility? What To Do When Your Body Feels Like the Enemy So You Can Get Pregnant · Finally Get Pregnant Naturally: Holistic Fertility Support To Conceive Naturally and Stay Pregnant After Miscarriage

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  Katie: If you feel like your body is working against you and your fertility, here is what to do when your body feels like the enemy so you can finally get pregnant.
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  Welcome to the Finally Get Pregnant Naturally podcast, the podcast helping women identify the real reasons you haven't conceived or stayed pregnant so you and your partner can finally grow the family of your dreams.
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  I'm your host, Dr.
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  Katie Wood.
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  Let's dive in, shall we?
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  Katie: Three things you'll gain from today's episode: why feeling at war with your body is negatively impacting your fertility goals, what years of self-criticism is doing alongside your fertility wound, and how you can easily start rebuilding trust with your
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  Katie: body this week to support your fertility goals.
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  Katie: So I feel like if you're a woman, there has been some point in your life where you have felt at war with your body, right?
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  Katie: The story you are telling yourself about your body, the one that says it's broken, unworthy, undeserving, or that it's failing you and that it cannot do what a woman's body was created to do, has a physiological cost, not
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  Katie: just an emotional one.
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  Katie: Because when you are in a state of chronic frustration, resentment, or grief toward your own body, your nervous system reads that as a threat.
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  Katie: Your cortisol rises.
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  Katie: Your HPA axis stays activated.
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  Katie: And we know, because we talk about this all the time on the podcast, that a chronically activated stress response directly suppresses the reproductive hormonal cascade needed for optimal fertility.
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  Katie: Your body simply cannot be in a fight or flight against itself while simultaneously prioritizing reproduction, okay?
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  Katie: And being a high-achieving woman like yourself can make you particularly vulnerable to this.
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  Katie: You're used to identifying a problem and fixing it, and when your body becomes the problem, when it's not performing the way it, quote unquote, should, that same drive turns inward, leading you to optimize harder, research more, push further,
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  Katie: and your body, under that relentless pressure, feels less and less safe to be in.
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  Katie: And I understand because that literally describes me on my fertility journey when we were struggling to get pregnant.
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  Katie: So I wanna go a layer deeper here because for some of you, feeling like your body is the enemy did not start with your fertility journey.
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  Katie: It started long before that.
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  Katie: If you've spent years, maybe most of your life, in a difficult relationship with your body over your weight, your appearance, the way it looked or felt or performed, and then the fertility journey is not, introducing a new wound.
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  Katie: It is actually landing on top of an old wound, and it is poking at that bear, and that is a very different and very heavy thing to carry.
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  Katie: It can bring up a lot of unresolved energy and emotions.
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  Katie: And if you haven't listened to this past Tuesday's episode, number 245, on GLP-1 medications, you'll want to go check that out because a GLP-1 can be helpful for some as a tool to lose weight and support your metabolic
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  Katie: health, but that tool does not heal the relationship with your body.
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  Katie: And for the woman who has spent decades criticizing her body, punishing it, trying to force it into a shape it was not cooperating with, and then finds the same body now struggling to carry a pregnancy, the grief is
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  Katie: layered in a way that most fertility spaces never acknowledge.
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  Katie: And I just want to tell you your body did not fail you then, and it is not failing you now.
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  Katie: It has been responding to restriction, to stress, to the relentless message that it was not enough.
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  Katie: Those responses were not betrayal.
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  Katie: It was survival.
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  Katie: And what your body needs now, more than any other protocol, more than any medication to help you lose weight fast, it's to stop receiving the message that it is the problem.
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  Katie: And this is not just emotional work, okay?
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  Katie: A body that has spent years in shame and stress response is a body whose HPA axis, whose cortisol, whose reproductive hormones have all been shaped by that history.
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  Katie: Healing the relationship is part of healing the biology behind it, okay?
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  Katie: So I want to offer you a reframe.
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  Katie: Every symptom, the irregular cycle, the short luteal phase, the low progesterone, the elevated cortisol, is not your body failing you.
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  Katie: It is your body communicating with you.
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  Katie: It is telling you exactly where it needs your support.
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  Katie: That's not betrayal, that's not failure, that's information So the mindset shift from my body is broken to my body is telling me something, my body is communicating with me, changes everything.
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  Katie: You stop fighting, and you start listening.
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  Katie: You stop pushing harder at a system that needs support and start giving it what it has been asking for.
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  Katie: That shift from a threatened state to a safety cue is one of the most powerful things you can do for your fertility right now.
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  Katie: So here is your fertility prescription for this week.
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  Katie: Once a day this week, I recommend in the morning, and it might be helpful to maybe put some sticky notes on your mirror, 'cause you know you're gonna be looking in your mirror at least in the morning, right?
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  Katie: To brush your teeth, put your makeup on, brush your hair, whatever it is.
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  Katie: Once a day, say one true, kind thing to your body.
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  Katie: And I don't want this to be a forced affirmation or something that feels fake.
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  Katie: Something true.
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  Katie: It could be, "Thank you for keeping me going this month," or, "I know this is hard, but I'm listening now," or simply, "I'm here for you."
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  Katie: And if you can't think of anything, it could be as simple as, Thank you for waking up this morning.
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  Katie: Thank you for breathing.
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  Katie: Thank you for..."
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  Katie: We don't even have to think about breathing or our heart beating.
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  Katie: Thank you for doing those things.
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  Katie: Or maybe thanking your body for your legs that get you around and out and about for your day, whatever it may be, the relationship you have with your body right now is a part of your fertility protocol, and
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  Katie: this week, your job is to start shifting it, okay?
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  Katie: So your body is not the enemy.
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  Katie: It never was.
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  Katie: It has been carrying you through every hard month of this journey, every hard season of your life, and for some of you, many years before that too.
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  Katie: This week, meet it differently.
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  Katie: One true, kind thing.
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  Katie: That is your fertility prescription.
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  Katie: And if you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow the podcast so you don't ever miss out on any of our Root Cause Fertility episodes, released every Tuesday, and your weekly fertility prescription to reset your nervous system, released
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  Katie: every Thursday.
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  Katie: I just wanna thank you so much for listening, for being here.
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  Katie: Please share your ahas- Anything that comes through for you, hit me up on Instagram.
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  Katie: Thank you so much for listening.
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  Katie: Have a beautiful day, and I will see you on our next episode, released every Tuesday and Thursday
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  As a quick reminder and disclaimer, this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice.
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  Always consult your doctor or healthcare provider before starting any new supplement or protocol, especially if you're actively trying to conceive or undergoing treatment.