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New-Dirty Little Secret: “If your success makes your partner pull away… do you tell them anyway?” · Billy The Kidd In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: Get it off your chest comments you'll feel better. Welcome
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  Speaker 1: to the Dirty Little Secret.
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  Speaker 2: Makes one on two point nine am Bailing a Kid
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  Speaker 2: Candic slom Pass producer Poo. We did have some crazy,
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  Speaker 2: dirty little secrets last week that ended up in a proposal.
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  Speaker 2: And if you missed that, well we got news because
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  Speaker 2: the guy who proposed to his ex girlfriend dumped a
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  Speaker 2: girl two days before that. She's coming on Thursday, Sweet Thursday.
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  Speaker 2: It's seven thirty. I wanted her to come on tomorrow
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  Speaker 2: so bad, but you can't. She's got to work and
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  Speaker 2: it's just a job. You can't just be like, well,
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  Speaker 2: i'll be back in an hour, right, So Thursday, seven thirty.
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  Speaker 1: We will talk to the acts.
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  Speaker 2: If you have a secret, you let us know eight
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  Speaker 2: three three seven eight seven one o two nine and
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  Speaker 2: you have one.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm calling because I feel guilty about something that
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  Speaker 3: should feel like a win. I've been dating my boyfriend
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  Speaker 3: for a couple of years now and I just got
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  Speaker 3: a promotion and raised like a big one nice congratulations,
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  Speaker 3: thank you. I know, I'm super excited. I'll be making
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  Speaker 3: significently more money than I was before, and definitely more
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  Speaker 3: than my boyfriend. And he has no idea.
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  Speaker 1: All right, why does he know really well?
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  Speaker 3: Because I hate that I'm hiding it. I want to
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  Speaker 3: be excited, I do. I want to celebrate, but like
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  Speaker 3: every time I've been open about my success in the past,
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  Speaker 3: like he gets weird. Ah okay, not mad or anything,
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  Speaker 3: just really quiet, distant almost like you know, he's competing
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  Speaker 3: with me instead of cheering for me, and so he's
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  Speaker 3: very old school provider mindset. And I already feel like
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  Speaker 3: how this will land, like how it would hiten you
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  Speaker 3: go right, Like he's going to feel emasculated knowing that
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  Speaker 3: I make more than he does. So instead of telling him,
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  Speaker 3: I downplay everything and change the subject.
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  Speaker 1: No, No, see that's no.
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  Speaker 2: I hate this for you because that's not fair. No,
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  Speaker 2: you should celebrate stuff like this is a big deal.
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  Speaker 2: He should want to celebrate with you.
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  Speaker 1: He should be proud you're with him. Yeah, I agree
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  Speaker 1: with that.
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  Speaker 3: Like I hate that I feel like I have to
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  Speaker 3: carry this win alone, you know. Yeah, And now I'm
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  Speaker 3: stuck asking myself, like am I being too sensitive or
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  Speaker 3: am I ignoring a massive red flag a couple of
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  Speaker 3: years into this relationship because.
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  Speaker 2: You're not being too sensitive? No, you're not. I don't
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  Speaker 2: think you're being too sensitive at all. If anything, you're
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  Speaker 2: being well, I mean you're being sensitive to his needs,
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  Speaker 2: but you're ignoring yours, right, so, which is not healthy?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I'm your light. Isn't that what they say?
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  Speaker 2: Yep?
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  Speaker 1: Right, he's got to get over it, right.
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  Speaker 2: If his ego is too fragile to celebrate you, that's
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  Speaker 2: a red flag to me.
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  Speaker 1: First of all, it's twenty twenty six.
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  Speaker 2: If there's a man out there that doesn't feel comfortable
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  Speaker 2: that his wife or his girlfriend in this case makes
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  Speaker 2: more than him, you got to ask yourself why, why
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  Speaker 2: why is that the case for you? Because it's nothing
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  Speaker 2: to do with you. It's all inside of him. And
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  Speaker 2: I get there's a masculine aspect to it.
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  Speaker 1: I get that too. You could still.
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  Speaker 2: Providing for a woman is much more than just financial.
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  Speaker 2: Financial has something to do with it, but it's much
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  Speaker 2: more more than just that.
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  Speaker 1: Well, if he won't accept it, I know somebody who will.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, right here, right now, Yeah, come on down, sugar, Mama.
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  Speaker 1: Loves a winner. But seriously, though, that's it's just not
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  Speaker 1: fair to you.
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  Speaker 2: I mean he should now in fairness to him though,
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  Speaker 2: if you haven't told him, then he has.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he hasn't had a chance to react.
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  Speaker 2: But you also are trusting your instincts and you know
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  Speaker 2: how it's felt before, so I trust you on that too.
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  Speaker 1: So man, that sucks.
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  Speaker 3: You know, that's obviously this is not coming.
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  Speaker 1: Do we lose you? Oh no, hopefully not. Hello Breadwinner,
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  Speaker 1: Hello sugar Mama. Oh no. The first thing you need
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  Speaker 1: to do with that raise is buy a new phone.
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  Speaker 1: Can you hear me?
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  Speaker 2: Now?
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  Speaker 3: The spot?
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  Speaker 2: I know it's not your fault. It's okay, now your
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  Speaker 2: fault at all. But so what do you think you're
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  Speaker 2: going to do? I mean, do you think you're gonna
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  Speaker 2: tell him eventually? Do you think you're gonna have to
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  Speaker 2: come out and say it?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, okay, part of me thinks like, you're right,
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  Speaker 3: Like if I need to tell him because you know
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  Speaker 3: you can't, you can't have a relationship on keeping secrets
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  Speaker 3: and lives and whatever. So like, and and you're right,
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  Speaker 3: he needs to figure out his own stuff around this,
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  Speaker 3: and if he can't deal with it, then then it
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  Speaker 3: isn't gonna work.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and too, I mean, if you guys are serious
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  Speaker 2: and you go down that path together where you're gonna
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  Speaker 2: be a forever couple. Then you're gonna talk about finances,
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  Speaker 2: you're gonna talk about budgeting.
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  Speaker 1: It's gonna come out anyway.
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  Speaker 2: Let us know what happens though, but don't forget about yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, yeah, congrats, congrats
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you, thank you,