Latest / Gentlemen Hour / Are Real Gentlemen Becoming Extinct?!
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- speaker-0: Yeah. All right, Unc. How you doing? Good to see you. How's your night going? Good, good, good. All right. Gentleman hour, gentleman rules. Then versus now. Hey ⁓ speaker-1: Went pretty good, man. And I think I'm gonna say then, now and forever. speaker-0: ⁓ Like that's a lyric. All right. ⁓ All right, on do you remember back when you were a kid? Didn't it seem like there was definitely like a code that gentlemen live by? Also, didn't it seem like there was a lot, like pretty much every man was a gentleman. It was rare that there wasn't one one. It was like more like the outlier. they opened doors, they respected elders, respected everybody, showed up on time. I know that's a big issue with you onk but yeah. Showed up on time. ⁓ and they like to settle things face to face, you know what I mean? Direct, not emails and and text. Well I'm not gonna even jump into that yet. Are those rules nor there? Yeah, exactly. That's neither here nor there. Are those old ways gone? Are they a thing of the past? Well tonight we're gonna unravel this mystery. We're gonna tackle this topic. speaker-1: Through speaker-0: That's all next on a gentlemanly gentleman's hour. speaker-1: You know who would be a gentleman move right now? Yeah. If you drop the intro, my good man. speaker-0: My good Do you happen to have any gray poupons? Do you speaker-1: You haven't a grapple porn. speaker-0: That was dope. All right, Unc, guess what? We don't have a first ⁓ hold on, hold on. Desiree just told me when I was downstairs, I asked Desiree if she could make me a quick little cone so I could take it up, and then she was like, No, I don't want to hear you on the channel again eating, so that's why I spit that's why I spit that ice out 'cause she says all I'm doing is either chewing on something or sucking on something or drinking something. I'm like, damn, girl, chill out. Ace we're not doing first sip today. ⁓ we're just we're jumping in that we're going, we're going ⁓ head first, homie. So I'm gonna I'm gonna go right into the warm-up question because this is more of a a serious topic and I had a whole bunch it might go long, so I don't know. So I'm gonna just jump right into it. So we're gonna jump right into the little warm-up, you know, get ⁓ wet. All right, Uncle. What did being a gentleman mean to you when you were growing up? Not now. Not not now. Like when you were a kid, what Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Your opinion Yeah. speaker-1: Yeah, when I was a young lad. Yeah. I don't know, I I think I think to me I I held it to a different standard 'cause around me I mean like I said, my my dad my dad's very old school. My dad's my dad was old. He was very old school. He had a certain demeanor about himself where ⁓ he didn't show a lot of emotion. I think the number one thing was probably frustration and anger. Every now and then you'd get the comical side, right? speaker-0: ⁓ yeah? speaker-1: But yeah, I mean, as far as like anything that he he didn't like, I I didn't see my dad as a gentleman. ⁓ I think to me, gentlemen was more like Hollywood, maybe like like Mr. Drummond from like different strokes. Right. maybe ⁓ the Monopoly guy. Like I think I I associated with with people with money, people that dressed nice. The way they carried themselves. I mean, obviously, you know, growing up in the in in where I grew up, ⁓ nobody really carries themselves that way. And if they have money, they're usually up to no good. But yeah. So to me, I think it was it was more it was more like something like that, like like I said, Mr. Grumlin or the Monopoly Man. Even George Jefferson was probably somewhat of a gentleman. so it'd be like more of a fictional character, I guess. speaker-0: Okay. So maybe you're like from TV you kind of saw it sounds like what what you thought a gentleman should be. Yeah, for me, it was weird how you said it, it was like the way they dress. 'Cause for me, for some reason, I associate or back when I was a kid, I associated like a gentleman, somebody with like a top hat, you know, like it like they take their hat off when they you know. like And then that one dude, Fred Assere would dance, remember? Yeah, bro. Yeah. And they were like in tuxes. It was like, man, that's clear Yeah. ⁓ yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. speaker-1: the rat pet. me I remember like thinking like damn those food are just they're they're they know what's up. They wait they carry themselves a certain way and they're they're ladies they're they're got the ladies around them. They're they're right slick talking they're smoking. ⁓ speaker-0: It was almost like a not just the way you it was like a lifestyle huh. Yeah. Yeah yeah. Yeah, that's how I did that's how I did too. And you're right. Yeah, and then I think you get that early on from like TV and a lot of those shows are like they're in the city, you know. We're always like the suburbs, you know. So it's like, ⁓ that's what like that's what it is, like the gentleman in New York, you know, where you have to wear a trench coat and and you're walking your lady and someone tries to mug you, you gotta stand up for her. That is that'll not happen over here, you know. I never speaker-1: Yeah. speaker-0: We're gonna get mugged walking down, you know, Avenue L, you know what I mean? Like we gotta go to the Bronx. We gotta go to ⁓ midtown midtown Manhattan, you know. But yeah, there was like I was the same way for me. It was like not saying that I didn't ha I had a lot of men around me, my dad or the other uncles were like you know, they were gentlemanly. They would I they would treat women right, open the doors, you know, hey you see the the wife is carrying something heavy, let me get that for you, or you see somebody, an old lady you know, is struggling, you go, well, hold on, let me help her out. You what I mean? Like, you know, so those are all gentlemanly as well. But you're right. My first initial was at like TV gentlemen, the the T V ⁓ sitcom dad who was a a gentleman. What about this one? ⁓ do you think other kids your age wait, do other kids your age when you were a kid, do you think that other kids your age respected or valued like, you know, those man roles or gentleman roles? Or do you think no? It was like Most kids that I hung out with didn't give a shit. speaker-1: ⁓ I think it was it was it was it was hit or miss as far as like certain things. Like I do remember like even like teachers I think would would would tell us like ⁓ get the door for your for the other students or or help help them carry right like it it like a lot of a lot of the stuff that I guess I associated with being a gentleman was just common courtesy and common courtesy when you're a kid you either have it or you don't speaker-0: True. speaker-1: You know what I mean? And I think that all is your upbringing. And and for me, a lot of it was because my dad needed a lot of help. My mom needed a lot of help as far as like translating and communicating. ⁓ so my sister did most of that, but as far as like the certain things that my dad couldn't do, I kinda had to do it for my mom. Like as far as helping her carry stuff or getting stuff done or whatever. So I I do think that there yeah, like I said, if you have it, you have it. If you don't, you probably doesn't register. And it's not to say that you're you're not a gentleman or you're not a you're not a you're not a good kid. But I think also, you know, if it's taught, it's it's taught at home. And ⁓ some people have it all the time. Some people have it maybe for certain people, maybe for older people or people that you know they respect. But I think if you if you have it and you can do like towards your like peers, like for like girls, opening the door for them and you know that. You're just doing it out of courtesy? I think yeah. I think that to that sense, yeah. But Mike, I don't think it was it was across the board. I think there was a lot of kids that just yeah, like you said, they don't they don't give a crap, bro. They're they're just trying not to have fun or they're trying to just, you know, be whatever they're gonna be. Yeah. speaker-0: Right. Quick little side question for the unk. You were saying, you know, it it's good to open doors for women. ⁓ 'cause you're saying that you do that to be a gentleman, to have, you know, courtesy or whatever. But what if you're opening doors for girls but it's because you want to try to get laid? Is that so ⁓ yeah, you should that's still being a gentleman or is that being a are you being a gentleman to the teeth? speaker-1: Ferg. think you know what I I think bro I think look like I said a lot of it is courtesy c courtesy common sense ⁓ basic manners ⁓ just just being an being a a decent person so obviously if if you're if you're trying to get to the next level with your partner you're gonna yeah you're gonna go to you're gonna go to the nines bro you're gonna do it you're gonna do it up and it sometimes just doing it that's that's what gets you gets your foot in the door speaker-0: Yeah. speaker-1: You might open the door for one of your classmates and ⁓ he's not the great he's not the best looking. He's he's pretty speaker-0: This guy opened the door. Yeah, he's on the radar now though. Yeah. He's on the radar now. Yeah. Yeah, once you're there. Once you crack that, yeah. Yeah. All right. So you're saying But so you're saying you can be a gentleman even if your motives aren't necessarily good. speaker-1: Broad. Once once you once you're there. Buffy. Yeah. I think you yeah. I think it just it it goes it goes with the territory. You're gonna you're gonna treat somebody right no matter what. So what no matter what court somebody, yeah, you're gonna treat ⁓ right. speaker-0: Right. No, but what if you're not trying to court? What if you're just trying to chitty bang bang? Bing bing. Okay, cool. speaker-1: Maybe. If if I open the door for a thousand women to that one or two. speaker-0: Like Chill Will Chamberlain. ⁓ I thought you said speaker-1: It's just to be crazy. You know what I mean? speaker-0: Here's my IG. Yeah, yeah. Yep. All right. Okay. All right. Okay. Okay. Thank you, Uncle. Okay. How about this one? Pick your era, okay? ⁓ old school gentlemen or the modern gentleman? And even is there it is there even a modern gentleman, but who did it better and why? Okay. First one, dating old school gentlemen or the new school ways. speaker-1: Old school for sure. New school new school is scary, bro. speaker-0: Wha wait, wait, wait, wait. Scary as a guy? Scary like to catch something. speaker-1: I mean I think just in general. I think it's Yeah. Well, I haven't obviously I I haven't been single in something like forty nine years or something, it feels like. speaker-0: ⁓ it feels like okay. speaker-1: Yeah, no, I haven't been single in a really long time. Something like going on like sixteen, seventeen years. But I I I do have coworkers. I have friends. I have I have relatives. I have numerous people that I interact with that are single. And a lot of the stories they tell me, bro, especially the younger ones, is is is it's it's crazy out there, bro. So I I think it's hard to be a gentleman right now and try to find yourself a a real one. speaker-0: Damn. speaker-1: And I think back in the day, I mean obviously i I think it was it was it was easier because there wasn't a lot of stuff factoring in as far as like social media and as far as like just people being just being weird and crazy. So I think it's easier and it's more wholesome. Now I mean I d I I couldn't tell you like like what's your what's a current day gentleman that you can think of? I mean speaker-0: I mean me when I was single and and in the scene. And here's why I'm gonna say so. ⁓ I see what you're saying. I see what you're saying. It's almost like I'd rather do it I'd rather be the old school gentleman because you know the chicks are you know, like if you're dating a chick, you know she probably has good intentions if she went out with you. It's like whereas now you're basically saying like, ⁓ some of these hood rats, you don't know what they're up to. They're about clout or they're about I G numbers, they're about po they're about this, that so you're saying, Yeah, you're saying It's crazy. Yeah, exactly. Like how many, how many followers do you got? ⁓ 12. Okay, I can't date you. You know what I mean? Yeah, but I'm a nice guy. But okay, all joking aside, the reason I said that I was a modern gentleman is because I tried to do that old school style. Like I used to say, I used to love everybody used to be like, Why do you like going out with Johnny? Because he would always be the opposite. He would go up to the chick vulgar and rude and try to, you know, ⁓ get over here. speaker-1: Yeah, you hold them. Come on. speaker-0: And so what I do, I just watch and then I would be the gentleman and step in after he, you know, she kicked him off and like, that's my co that's my cousin. We can't take him anything. We can't take him anything. So that's what I was saying is I was trying to be that gentleman type, but really I was just a big a snake as he was. I'm in there trying to get into, you know, I'm trying to get you know what I'm trying to get. You know what I'm saying? I don't need to spell it out for you, Unc. You know. So is it necessarily better? Am I any better than him? Because we're both trying to creep, but I use this whole fake. Gent gentlemen, but then again, I don't think it's really that fake because I do like to open the doors and I do like to do that kind of stuff. And I do sometimes I don't I don't do all I I should do it more. Sometimes I don't even think about it till after. But I I should like help some old ladies with their groceries. I'll kind of walk by and look and just walk by and then get to my truck and then ⁓ shit, I should probably help that lady turn around there already, somebody's already doing it or she was already done. But it's like, ⁓ I should do that more often. But I like doing that because I like pleasing people. I as we talked in that other episode, you know, I like to please if you know what I'm saying. So of course I know pleasing women and pleasing people is making them feel good and making them feel good is helping and just being nice. So that's why I was saying I I feel like I I I could have been I was the modern gentleman because I was trying to be a gentleman and be nice, but I was also trying to create more than I should have. And I was probably not a good like, you know, person to date. speaker-1: I don't think the intention was a hundred percent in the wrong. So I think it's it's it yeah, I think it's it's maybe you're over you're overselling it a little bit. I don't think it's as bad as bad as you as you think it is. I mean I I I can see both sides where you're like, yeah, maybe it is, maybe it isn't. But also, I mean I I feel like I still I still do it to a certain sense. ⁓ I do it for f I do it for Laura for sure. ⁓ for sure for my girls. ⁓ even like with Nick, I do I do stuff just out of courtesy, out of whatever. And I hope he like notices and I hope he appreciates it. But like with the girls, it's like I feel like I feel more more inclined to do it because they're females. And in general, I I I do it because I I want I want to leave somewhat of an an of a lasting impression. And I think when you do stuff like that, it's you're you're it makes you a little like it makes you like memorable. speaker-0: Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah. speaker-1: You know, even at the store, like I'll hold a door for somebody, like I'm not yeah. speaker-0: No, I do that too. Yeah, yeah, I do that too always. speaker-1: You know, it's all good. Like I'm not I don't have any intention of trying to get to know them as far as anywhere and then I you know what I will say this? I do I do sometimes open the door and if I don't even like acknowledge it, I kinda like, damn, like, all right, cool. speaker-0: Whatever. I so I say that too. I'll say it. I I've heard like we're always going to the gym, me and my son, and I'll open the door forever. Come they some people just walk they don't even look at you and they just walk right in it like as if you're supposed to open it for them. I'll be like, okay. Or if somebody like cuts in front of me and yeah, I do she'd like the heck? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Okay. ⁓ how about this? Old school or modern? ⁓ better at friendship. speaker-1: Yeah. Actually, no. It's a it's a little bit of both. Old old school because I do like the loyalty and the the value of a good friendship. But I think now I I like new school because it's easier to keep in contact than contact. speaker-0: I didn't even think of that. You're right. Because back then, being a good friend, first off, a lot of guys don't call and just talk. Ding ding ding. Hey Louie, how are you? How how was work? Yeah. How are you? How are you feeling lately? So if a guy ever called me back then, I was like, ⁓ God, what is this full one? This speaker-1: Yo! What's that? What's that? Hello? speaker-0: Now it's like you can back then to keep a friendship going, you had to see the person. You had to see them a lot, you know, especially guys, I think, because guy women will talk on the phone. Guys wouldn't. So it's like if you don't see your buddies, that's it. They just fade off. And you're right now. I could see somebody who like, ⁓ I haven't seen that person in six months, but I still text them every week or every other day. You know what I mean? So it's like, yeah, I get that now. You're right. I was about to say that it was more the old school, just because I feel like the friendships were more valuable and more like better back then, but you're right, the modern is just so much easier and you're able to kinda keep in contact with more people easier. So it yeah, it makes the friendship easy. All right. Look at that. That was even modern that was even a gentleman's duel and ⁓ you won. You convinced me to ⁓ switch sides, brother. You're very you're motivational or whatever. All right. Parenting old school versus modern. And we're talking we're talking gentlemen. We're talking gentlemen. speaker-1: Same the same thing. I think it's a little bit of both. I I have I have a lot of old school values, but a lot of stuff didn't didn't necessarily carry over as far as part of my parenting. Cause there are there are a lot of things that I changed. There are a lot of things that I that I made that I did different. But the but the the core, I guess the base is old school. But the twist on the parenting is new school because you kind of have to adapt to to where it's at. speaker-0: Yeah. Hmm. For me, I'm gonna go modern gentleman too, because you're right. The parenting is just on a different level, I think, nowadays, just with I'm of course we're talking from the gentleman aspect, not the women's, but from the gentleman, like you know, a man, you're supposed to be more involved now, you're be supposed to be better at communication, you know, just you're you're just supposed to be around more. Whereas in the old days you could be considered a good father, a good gentlemanly father if you just you know, went to work every day and and as long as that check can't coming in, that that's only or change the tire and wash the cars and do fin do the yard. That's it. That's all you're needed for, you know, back then. And then y you do all that and you have a job, you're not getting fired and laid off all the time, then you people look at you like that's a real dad. That's a real man right there. So so yeah, you're right. Yeah, it wasn't like yeah, it wasn't like the bar was that high back then. So speaker-1: ⁓ And Gentlemen. speaker-0: I do think it the only thing I will say is that in the old school way, at least, I feel like more there was more like gentlemen that at least stayed around. Like they didn't just split that much. You know what I mean? Because ⁓ back then it was like kind of, you know, like there wasn't as many divor there wasn't as many divorces and like having children at a wedlock as as much as I I'm not saying it didn't happen, but I'm saying as much as now. You know what I mean? Like now it's like Remember I told you that one day how potent I am, sometimes I I feel I feel like if I look at a chick too long, she's gonna pop. You know what I mean? So with speaker-1: Littered, a litter of little filthy peas. speaker-0: Yeah, so Yeah. So see, it's like nowadays there's a lot more, you know, people don't even get married. Now back then remember it was like you gotta have a boyfriend, girlfriend, you gotta court, then you gotta ask the parents for their hand their daughter's hand in marriage, and then you marry her, and then you so it was just like they took it more serious, I think the whole marriage oath or whatever. So I don't think it was as wild as it is now. That's the only thing I'll say about the old school gentleman, but I think modern all the day all day, every day. All right, how about this? Work ethic. The old school gentleman or the modern? speaker-1: I ⁓ for me I would say old school. I like I like somebody with or old school work ethic and school work values. Right. But I I do I do understand if you're more modern when you were raised, you're obviously a younger a younger adult because it there is ⁓ so many different ways to make money now. That yeah, yeah, yeah. There's so many different ways to to to earn a live bro to to to get by. And it's frowned upon by some of the old school people because I do know like speaker-0: Yeah. Right. Yeah. speaker-1: As far as trades, yeah. They're kinda going they're they're they're kinda hurting because there's a lot of stuff that's like modern and you know, that kinda goes away and they stop teaching that in school and everything. But something you're always gonna need. So speaker-0: Yeah. No, they say ⁓ the trade schools are they're gonna start becoming ⁓ more and more popular again 'cause they're AI proof, you know what I mean? So Yeah, they can't what what AI what are you gonna do for AI to fix your sink or you you know what I mean? Or exactly speaker-1: Chat, chat, I see can you can you ⁓ clear the clear the clock in my drain? Like, ⁓ I can show you how to do it, but I don't have any of that. ⁓ speaker-0: Right, right, right. ⁓ I a hundred percent agree. I think the work ethic from the old days was crazy, you know what I mean? And now it's just I'm not saying that you can't have work ethic. Obviously, you look at you. You you do, you say you go to work all the time, you know, you're always on time, you're you know, you're not late, you you you take pride in your work. So obviously you got a good work ethic. So it's not saying it doesn't exist nowadays, but I'm just saying it's not if I feel like back in the day every man had to have a good work ethic. If you didn't, it was like, that's kind of rare. You know what I mean? Like what kind of man does it, you know? And whereas nowadays it's more rare if you see like, ⁓ damn, Louis, that fool got some work ethic, man. All right. You know what I mean? And now it's it's switched, I think, because you're right. It is maybe because it is easier to, you know, make money outside of those traditional jobs. And so now it's, you know, it's not as respected. I don't know. I don't know. But you're right. The work ethic has kind of switched. ⁓ how about this? Loyalty. Ooh. speaker-1: I'm gonna say old school for sure. Old school, a hundred speaker-0: But but why then why are you saying 'cause you're right, ⁓ I think loyalty was a big thing old school. Like if you're an old school gentleman, you're loyal. But I feel like there still is, are you saying now the modern era there guy people aren't as loyal? speaker-1: I I think it's the same thing as like work ethic. ⁓ I think for me personally, old school, I feel like like old school loyalty is the and and I s and I say this because I I've gone on I've gone in I've gone down this ⁓ TikTok rabbit hole where I don't know what video I watched and every other video now is like ⁓ like the the the the the lover no the partner confronting the other partner about a lover that they've taken up, right? And it's like the one video's like, ⁓ let me ⁓ let me just go get some food or whatever, right? And they're the car and the girl's driving and then the you know, the little headline says, ⁓ taking my ⁓ my husband to drop him off at his side side piece's house. Yeah. And he's dr and she's driving and he's like, Hey, well, where are we going? It's like, ⁓ I'm just gonna go drop something off and then when she makes a turn. Yeah, yeah. Like, who lives over here? Yeah, he's ⁓ it's my friend. Yeah, yeah, yeah. speaker-0: Starts getting all nervous. speaker-1: And you can tell he's like, Well what friend? ⁓ it's ⁓ you know, Sonto. speaker-0: Like fantasy football or something? ⁓ no, gaming, gaming, yeah, yeah. speaker-1: Yeah, it's something. And then he drops whatever. So there's so many videos that I'm seeing now. And it's it's not it's not just that. It's also like where the home the where the guy the guy gets dropped off at the sister's house. Like the the wife's sister. Or the guy gets or the girl gets dropped off at like the best friend's house. Or the br or the brother's house. And I I feel like I feel like back in the day the loyalty was like At least that they respected that, bro. You know I mean? Like I I don't remember ever hearing like, ⁓ you know, my brother hooked up with my my my wife or my best friend, you know. I mean, you heard it every now and then, but now I feel like it's everywhere. I feel like there's no loyalty now. speaker-0: Yeah. Yeah, you're right. Okay. When you put it that way again, shh, that's a because I was gonna kinda go I was gonna say they were both strong, but you're right. I think people are a little bit more ⁓ what's the word I I can't think of the word, but like they're a little bit more flaky. They're not as like back then people were a little bit more serious. They took their relationships and their friendships a little bit more serious. I think I feel like now a lot more people are just kind of selfish and out for themselves first, right you know, rather than, hey, I'm I'm ⁓ you know, trying to be a a loyal friend. Yeah, you're right. Okay. Yeah, I get it. Yeah. Yeah, I definitely feel like it's you know, things Yeah, loyalty was definitely more ⁓ was stronger back then. All right, how about this? ⁓ romance. Yeah. speaker-1: I'm firing one off cylinders on play. ⁓ yeah. Old school. I'm about to say old school. speaker-0: What why? speaker-1: Well, I'm gonna have to say old school because I like I said, I I am somewhat old school. And also I I've been with Laura for for a long time. So I don't know this new modern romance. I don't it scares me, bro. Like the stuff I'm telling you, the stuff I've heard, the stuff I've seen, there's so many things that can go wrong and there's so many things that factor in to to ⁓ like I would I I would not wanna be single right now, dude. speaker-0: Yeah. Okay. I here's I'm gonna say both sides too, 'cause I'm on both sides too, 'cause I'm like I I get the old school because it's like how you're saying, you get a little scared now with this new stuff and all the how these chicks how fast they are and all that. So it would be nice to know, like, you know, ⁓ I'm dating this girl who's never probably even held hands with another guy. Like back then it was like you know what I mean, it was more innocent, you know, and it was like, shoot, like you know what you're getting, you know what mean? And I feel like the chicks were easier and again I wasn't running game back in the fifties, sixties, seventies, so I don't know. But it just seems like the chicks were more open to, you know, being dated or being courted by a guy. Whereas now it's like you gotta impress these chicks. Whereas back then it seemed like just a girl was happy that was flattered that you would go up to her and hey, how would you would you like to dance? or you're looking beautiful today, miss or you know what I mean? And they were Weren't there weren't so many bitches running around. Sure, there were, but it just didn't seem like there were. So yeah, you're right. I I kinda like that era. but then again, hey, you can't get sleazy, you know, sleazy pee out of this new era because ⁓ the new era's fun, bro. You know what I mean? If you want to run them up. You're a if you're a single guy, if you're if you're 25 year old Louie who doesn't have kids and you're single. speaker-1: Chill out, bro. Not even in the era. speaker-0: Would you be wanting to run wild in the old days in the nineteen fifties with your cap? Or would you be wanting to run wild in the two thousands with raves and pool parties and Vegas and just heat everywhere? speaker-1: I'm gonna tell you this, bro. I I don't there's certain hypotheticals I don't I don't I don't go into as far as like stuff with the kids, stuff with whatever. But I will say that grow growing up where you had a where you had a get you you had to ask a girl for her number. Yeah. And then you had and then you had to call her. And then sometimes the dad would pick up and ⁓ work. Right? Yeah. And then and then you went to pagers. I remember having a pager like, ⁓ alright, cool. Now I can page you and you can call me. speaker-0: Yeah, go ahead. That was a word. speaker-1: And then we went to self like all that progressed, right? And and it made it easier. Like I think the last time I was single was like two thousand and nine. speaker-0: Yeah. Okay. speaker-1: And I remember thinking like, man, if I would have been young and I would have been like now with 'cause I think like MySpace and Facebook were barely popping off, I'm like, man, I would have just it would have been lights out, bro. The world would have not have been ready for that. Cause it just i if I if I put in work, having to ask for a phone number and then calling and then, you know, doing all that. Yeah. So being able to just like hit up somebody for let me get your let me get your your your Facebook. ⁓ yeah. Come on, bro. Like You don't wanna see that, bro. You do not wanna see that. speaker-0: Wait, that's how you got lower though. You said Facebook. Yeah, yeah. So you were creeping like that? speaker-1: Well yeah, that's what I'm saying. But I mean, imagine if I was like younger and single and Yeah, dog. ⁓ speaker-0: That's what I'm saying. So you you do pick the modern era. You wanna Uncle Louis speaker-1: Old school. 'Cause I like the old I like the old school. I like I like holding hands and drinking for you, bro. Listen it's old speaker-0: ⁓ see that's just what I don't understand is we're on the freeway, all lanes are open, and you're purposely driving in the slow lane? No making sense. No, but if you get there fast, you might be able to get two. Woo! Let's go. All right. How about this? Uncle Louie's favorite segment, rapid fire. All right, Uncle. Walk on Walk on the outside of the sidewalk. See or no? speaker-1: Why? Where where am I trying to get to? Of course. Cause if 'cause if that you get a drunk driver he's getting me first before he hits my woman. But the old school one is like i if you it it shows intention to like like sell her a ride or something like that. Like that was the old school. speaker-0: Why? Cool, yep, exactly. Does it that's what I was trying to look up some weird facts but I couldn't find speaker-1: I think I remember hearing something like that. Like like the only like a street walker would walk on the street side 'cause of their intention. That's something I I don't know. speaker-0: On the outside. Yeah, that actually kinda makes sense. ⁓ okay. ⁓ when a woman when a woman when a woman or slash your date leaves the table, what do you do? speaker-1: When a woman or my date leaves the table I stop eating and I wait till we're gonna come back. speaker-0: Yeah. No, bro, you're supposed to stand. Sit back down. Damn, that was the answer. You're supposed to stand. And then also, did you know this? Not only do you stand when she leaves. speaker-1: Watch her walk away. You stand once you get back and you put her chair and you pull her chair. speaker-0: Yeah, yeah. Well, it doesn't say that, but you yeah, you're supposed to least also stand when she comes back. Extra credit, you got it wrong, bro. You to hate it. What do you mean? ⁓ how about this? ⁓ never take the first bite. Let her do that. Then ask if it's good and it meets her approval. speaker-1: ⁓ so we're sharing food now, huh? speaker-0: No, you're not sharing food. speaker-1: ⁓ the first bite of when they serve us? I guess I'm speaker-0: No no, do you do you do you do that? So you agree with that. So you do so you both your so your food ⁓ that's what I was trying to say. There's no way you sit and look at Laura like, Okay, wait till you see how is it good? speaker-1: And that Practice it, but I agree. How's wrong with you? Yes, you look. Hurry up and take a bite. I'm hungry. speaker-0: Quit being weird, you're you're freaking me out. Okay. never enter a doorway before a lady. She always goes first. speaker-1: hundred percent. I don't know if you've noticed, but I never go in through the door first. speaker-0: Yeah, I try remember we're at the bowling now I try to let you go first. You got you may throw a big old fit. speaker-1: I never Yeah, I remember I wanted to leave. I'm out of here. Yeah, I I will never walk into a door first. speaker-0: Yeah. How about this one? Pay for the date sometimes. speaker-1: ⁓ hell no, bro, shoot. It's a it's a it's a privilege to take me out to eat. speaker-0: Wait, wait, kidding. So ⁓ you're saying hell no to even paying sometimes. speaker-1: ⁓ I'm just Yeah, no, no, all the time. If if you can. Every now and then it it feels nice to be to get to get them to pay, but I usually always pay. speaker-0: Okay. Okay, perfect. ⁓ offer to help others when they are struggling, like carrying something heavy. speaker-1: All the time. No matter who it is. speaker-0: Does that that's what I was saying? Yeah. That's what I was asking. Does it matter if it's a male or female? If you see someone struggling, you're gonna help ⁓ Okay. ⁓ never ever let a person in a wheelchair fend for themselves. speaker-1: Yeah, of course. ⁓ of course. A hundred and ten percent. Yeah. speaker-0: ⁓ I agree with that, but sometimes people in wheelchairs scare me. I don't know why. Maybe from scares you? Remember that movie Saw wasn't one of the characters like that little clown in a wheelchair? I don't know. speaker-1: You're not helping Jigsaw put groceries away. speaker-0: Jeez, they scare me, bro. They scare me. ⁓ okay, but you're right, that's the right answer. let's see, let's see. ⁓ ta always talking to friends or family about yours and your wife's sexual affairs. ⁓ shit. Okay. Hey, hey, don't shoot the messenger. Don't shoot the messenger. There's a lot of people who talk about their like and it's like, ⁓ it's a little speaker-1: Never died. True. speaker-0: I think that's inappropriate, so speaker-1: I I have heard of like like girl talk. I have heard of like like locker room talk. But then I've also heard a gentleman never tells, so speaker-0: Right. Come on, bro. Good. real men gossip, see or no. speaker-1: No. speaker-0: See that one's tough 'cause I like to hear But you're right, that's like that's the ultimate not being a man, huh? Okay. speaker-1: I wouldn't say that. I mean 'cause I I do know I do I do feel that there's certain information that you like to share and it could be considered gossip, but I don't see it as a regular like I'm not I'm not gonna call you just to tell you like some some cheese make. But if I do see you I'll be like, Hey bro, did you hear this or do you do know that or whatever? speaker-0: Uh-huh. So to a degree you're saying it's like Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Okay, okay. ⁓ but if you sit here and like, hey, look at look at ⁓ look at nephew Mike's ⁓ bowling shoes, you know the bowling shoes can you speaker-1: Constantly texting you. He doesn't even lace him up. He hit him two hundred every game, but he doesn't lace those lotion. speaker-0: Would you show up to Hey, side note, he was on fire. Or was that you? No, he was on fire, huh? Man. Hey, he ⁓ speaker-1: We had one good game out of the three, bro. speaker-0: I had two out of the three well. speaker-1: I did I did horrible the last two games. Hey. That's not very gentlemanlike. speaker-0: Yeah, you better hey We'll talk about it offline, but yeah, you gotta you gotta you gotta pick it up, brother. All right, bro. Hey, why is mine stuck at eighty one percent? Does this show eighty one percent on your end? speaker-1: I don't have I don't even have the number. Mine doesn't show up. speaker-0: Yours at a hundred and mine's at eighty one. speaker-1: That's not very gentleman like. speaker-0: That's not good actually. I ⁓ but you know what is good? This segment. Uncle knows best. Hi, Uncle. how can we how can you well we how can we convince the next generation to be gentlemen and have manners ⁓ if it's not looked at as cool right now? Is there a way to convince the youth that being a gentleman actually ups their overall value? speaker-1: That's a tough one. speaker-0: And and you should know 'cause right now you got a young son who's at that age probably where it's like, Man, that's not cool. You know what I mean? speaker-1: Who I'm I'm gonna tell you this bro. That kid is fifteen and he is he is a freaking outstanding gentleman. speaker-0: Fifteen going on sixty, I guess, huh? speaker-1: Yeah, pretty much. He's an old soul. Nah, you know what? He he he's very he's very very thoughtful. He's willing to help you out. He's willing to carry stuff for you, whatever. Like he's he's been raised to to do that. And every now and then he'll like slip out of it and I'll have to tell him like, Hey fool, like go out on your mom. Hey, go do this. Hey, go offer this, go boom. Okay, okay. And then he does it. So I I I think I think he'll be all right. I think he'll be okay. I mean I don't think anything that I tell him will convince him that it's cool to be a gentleman. Okay. I think if I show him when he gets older, he's gonna do it when he needs to, because I I I I do tell him, like, hey, I do this for your mom, or just go wash mom's car, or just go, you know, blah blah blah, or go ask mom if she needs help. And I think at a certain point he's gonna understand, or he's gonna like, Damn man, I remember my dad used to say this, or I used to do this for my mom. And I mean that's that's the hopes I have, bro. If it if it pans out that way, great. If it doesn't then I mean I can't do I can't do squat about it then, you know what I mean? speaker-0: You know what though? That's interesting because I was just expecting you to kind of say, you know, well, like, you know, Nick has it. Why? 'Cause he's you know, he likes enjoying, you know, helping others, whatever. He has that in him, right? So I thought you were basically saying the y other youth that don't, they just don't have it. It's just there's nothing and you saying there's nothing I can do to force him to do that, he just does it, you know, whether he wants to or not. I can help kind of push him along, but he's got to do it. That's what you were saying. So that kind of makes me sad because then that's thinking like there's a lot of people that maybe they even have a little bit of that in ⁓ but they didn't need somebody to help pull it out, but they don't have like good father figures or somebody 'cause you were saying I can only show ⁓ and I'm hoping that 'cause if I try to tell ⁓ yeah. Tell a kid the more you do this, the more they just sh all right, shut down. But if you show ⁓ it's like, ⁓ yeah, my dad used to do that, you know, and his his if his thoughts of you are are good and you know, and you know speaker-1: And Hopefully. speaker-0: Respectful, yeah. So then he's wanted on speaker-1: The man. One of the things I told him was a while back, I told him, I said, Hey man, like remember that nobody cares about anything that you're doing. A lot of times you think they care. A lot of things you think they're, ⁓ man, they're gonna see my shoes or they're gonna see me. And I and I tell him, I said, I well, some people do, but the majority don't. I said, and and you do stuff because it's right. You do stuff because you want to. Right. And like I said, there's times where I tell them, like, hey man, it would be cool. Or I tell them back in my day, I used to do this because I I tell them st I tell them straight up. I said, Man, look, I said my my relationship with my mom and dad is is is crazy. I said, There's so much stuff that whatever. But I do tell them my dad taught me this, my dad taught me that. My mom taught me this. My mom would say this, that, that. And then a lot of times they don't they don't understand because it's like it it doesn't go with the way I am now. But then I tell them, I said, But that's what kind of showed me like, like, hey, like This is, you know, 'cause I told him I said when when my dad was my dad would my dad was old, so he needed a lot of help. My mom was very, very limited to her resources, so she needed a lot of help. So to me, it was just like that that was part of life. So when I can now I do it now, like it carries over and they see it. Now will they carry on with it? Will they expect their partners to understand certain things? I don't know. That's just you know, we'll see in the future, I guess. speaker-0: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. No, that's ⁓ that's a perfect way to sum it up. So which ⁓ so which generation did you do you ⁓ prefer? Do you look up to more? The old school or the new school? I look speaker-1: I took more to the old school because they like paved the way for me. I look at the new school now and like I said, a lot of it is concerning to me. A lot of it is I don't understand it but I'm not supposed to understand it because I'm not out here in the streets now. speaker-0: Yeah. Yeah. But you know what's cra but you know what's crazy is how you said in the very beginning you were like I I thought of gentlemen like about how the w the way they dressed, you know what I mean? And that's how I remember too as a kid. Remember even like people who used to go on flights and stuff, they would get dressed up. People who went just for dinner on a Friday night would wear like a suit and a tie. So it was like, you know, the men always, you know, took pride in them. Remember, even as a kid you have to get dressed up. Like until you start getting older, like, why did gotta get dressed up? We're going to Kmart. You know what mean? But back then it was just like you were kind of viewed or judged on the way like, you know, your appearance. And I know that has definitely gone away. Like I'll admit, I wear jeans and a t-shirt ninety nine percent of the time. So it's like, I wonder what's going to happen for not only our kids, but then their kids. Like they're never going to see that generation of like people dressed up and you know I mean top hats and all that. It's going to be like, what the heck is that? So it's like you're it's going to slowly just start that kind of start dying. I just hope you're right. The values And like the doing right, the gentleman stuff doesn't completely go away. speaker-1: I I I do feel I do feel that that you do it to a certain point. Because I don't know if you remember, but remember we're at the beginning we're like, one he's like you're like, why don't you bring a sports coat? Like, fool, I don't even own a suit. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Seriously, I don't own a suit. I hate wearing button up shirts. I don't like tucking in my shirt. ⁓ and then I mean you've seen the picture of when I was little in that little blue suit. Like they used to dress me like that. Like, what happened to that? speaker-0: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. speaker-1: You know it went away. speaker-0: What happened exactly? Would you ever would you did you ever dress Nick in a suit? No. Right? And back then it used speaker-1: Bro, Laura kept them in like dress shirts and slacks. speaker-0: Yeah, yeah. When yeah, when you're baby yeah, like little, little, right? Yeah. Yeah. speaker-1: But then at a certain point, like now I mean she keeps them she keeps them okay. But we don't really go anywhere where you would need to wear a suit or you knew whatever. Like even like a funeral, I don't think I've worn a su a suit. speaker-0: Yeah. See, I remember being a kid and going places and like, ⁓ you gotta get dressed up. We're going to this is a nice party. This is a and it was like just a family party, but like I had it maybe I'd have to be in a suit, but I remember being like 'cause I remember getting there and like some of my cousins weren't all dressed up. I'm like, why am I wearing this? Like dress shoes that are all slippery and a button up, you know, shirt and slacks and tucked in. And then by the end of the party, half that shirt was off. My hair was all sweaty. I stunk. Yeah. The shoes were off. Everything. So it was like, in the end, you you know, but I remember as a kid having to get dressed up to go to a lot of places, church, stuff like that, dinners and now it's like, Bro, I don't I I'm lucky Desiree's lucky if she can get me into a polo, you know what I mean? I mean this is my attire and a hat. speaker-1: Bro, w when when when I was little, I remember on Sundays we'd go to church and then we'd come back and I would have to chill in my slacks and my guayavera. And I would just chill at home like that. And I would tell my mom, why? And she's like, In case somebody comes to visit. speaker-0: Yeah, yeah. ⁓ I thought 'cause we were waiting to go somewhere. You know, you guys just no you just had to be okay, you just had to be dressed to impress in case someone came by. speaker-1: So some of the memories I have is we would get up Sunday morning, I'd get dressed, put on my little Wayavera, my little slacks, and maybe some little like Buster Brown, like black shoes, right? And then we would go to church. Right? Right here in Poquima, ⁓ Mary Maculate. Shout out Mary Maculate. And then after we would go to Bobo's for breakfast. And I'd be sitting inside of Bobo's eating my my pancake breakfast in my Wayavera speaker-0: Yeah. speaker-1: And my slacks, bro. I'm like, dude, why am I hitting Bubbles? And if you I don't know if you've been to Bubbles, but Bubbles is a is is is as hood as it gets inside. Yeah. I mean there's no there's no there's nothing fancy about bubbles. Crap pancake breakfast, tearing it up, and then we'd go home and then we'd just be chilling. Like my mom would tell me, like, don't change. Stay stay the way you are, blah blah and I'm sitting there like, man, this sucks. And then I can't go outside and play because she didn't want me to get it dirty or rip it or something. speaker-0: Yeah. Right, right. So why am I here? Yeah. speaker-1: Yeah. So I'm just sitting there and then at a certain point, like four o'clock maybe, she's like, Okay, go ahead and go change. Nobody's coming like God damn. speaker-0: ⁓ yeah, you're right. And see, when was the last time you wore when was the last time you w had to wear slacks? You know what I mean? speaker-1: I mean I for my grandma's funeral I wore I wore slacks and a button up shirt and a tie. But I wore my Jordans. Yeah, I have a pair of great Jordans that I that I wore. speaker-0: And did your dad wear slacks when you were a kid, like every day? speaker-1: He had you know what? He had a he had a like a blazer that he would wear. Uh-huh. With like with like I remember it was like dark blue and like a light blue shirt with suspenders. ⁓ And then he would have the he would have his his his coat. It was either a blue one or a brown one. And then he I remember at one point he had cufflinks, bro. speaker-0: ⁓ danger. speaker-1: Go give me my go give me my case. And I would come out with a case. And he had two watches that that he got from one of the hours houses that he used to work at. The owner died, right? With a husband. And so the the the wife was like, ⁓ do you want his watches? ⁓ and one of them had like an A on it, 'cause I think his name was like Arthur or Alfonso or something. Yeah. So he would say it was for Aguilar. So he got a watch, he got cufflinks. speaker-0: Uh-huh. Yeah. Dang yeah, see? speaker-1: I mean he won maybe once or twice a year, but but yeah. speaker-0: But still, but like when are y when are you I don't think I've ever had cufflinks, but maybe when I was a kid, but you know what I mean? But that they always seem they always seem cool. Like that's like in the Retrix movie where they were in like Dubai or something and they were like fixing their gold cufflinks. Damn. All right, Uncle. Well guess what? So being a gentleman isn't all about opening doors and wearing suits. It's actually about ⁓ having good character and doing what's right. That's what I think we got it is right. Some ⁓ old rules obviously don't apply anymore, but others are still as important at it as ever. I think definitely like you know the treating the women, treating your kids with respect, opening doors, helping people, all that. Those still, you know, should apply. Top hats, nah I think they they're gone for good. The old the old ⁓ Abraham Lincoln. All right. As always, Uncle, thank you. That was ⁓ that was good. Thank you everybody watching and