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Wicked Wisdom Technique of the Week: Calm Waters (F bombs in audio) · Wicked Radio with Bill Adams

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  Speaker 1: Now, we all know that the best possible outcome and
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  Speaker 1: dealing with somebody that hates you simply for having a
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  Speaker 1: different opinion is to find some kind of common ground,
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  Speaker 1: something you can agree on. Right. That's great. It's awesome
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  Speaker 1: when it works out that way the ultimate goal, as
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  Speaker 1: we all know, in the real world, it's not always possible.
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  Speaker 1: It just doesn't work like that. Sometimes you're gonna run
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  Speaker 1: into people these days that hate you just for being you.
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  Speaker 1: So the subject our star this week's edition of Wicked
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  Speaker 1: Wisdom dealing with people that hate you simply for having
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  Speaker 1: common sense is this beauty who's been making the round.
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  Speaker 2: I just had the worst fucking shift at work. I'm
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  Speaker 2: in a horrible fucking mood. I want to scream so
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  Speaker 2: loud that the back of my throat starts fucking bleeding,
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  Speaker 2: but I can't. I have to keep it together. So
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna come on here and take it out on you.
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  Speaker 2: If you're watching this and you voted for Donald J. Trump,
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  Speaker 2: I hate you with every fiber of my fucking being.
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  Speaker 2: The holidays are coming up, the holidays are coming up,
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  Speaker 2: and everybody's losing their fucking snap benefits.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I don't know what the problem is. Guys, she
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  Speaker 1: seems nice to me. Do you really want to sit
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  Speaker 1: down and have some kind of a debate. He's gonna
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  Speaker 1: try to like talk common sense about policy. No, she's
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  Speaker 1: not gonna hear it, doesn't want to hear it, isn't
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  Speaker 1: gonna get it. That just doesn't work. And I know
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  Speaker 1: what you're thinking right now. Oh, it's just a lady
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  Speaker 1: venting making a video with her bird hands, and she's
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  Speaker 1: venting this way. She's not like that in real life.
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  Speaker 1: She's not like that in the office or god forbid,
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  Speaker 1: in your family to get together. Uh, that has not
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  Speaker 1: been my experience of life so far. And as we
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  Speaker 1: all know, let's just assume it's a work situation. You
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  Speaker 1: can pick your friends, you can't always pick who you're
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  Speaker 1: stuck with at work. We all know this, We've all
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  Speaker 1: been in that situation. So how do you deal with
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  Speaker 1: somebody that, and I mean truly truly hates you like
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  Speaker 1: she does. She may be even assuming the wrong thing.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you didn't vote for Trump, but she still hates
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  Speaker 1: anyway because she assumed you did. How do you deal
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  Speaker 1: with somebody like that? I'm here to tell you that
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  Speaker 1: this lady and people like that, in my experience, are
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  Speaker 1: about one spilled coffee cup or one honking traffic away
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  Speaker 1: from I mean, like really really losing it. So you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to engage that way, and you don't want
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  Speaker 1: to put any more C four on the fire. But
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  Speaker 1: here's the other thing too, I think we're all kind
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  Speaker 1: of sick of being afraid. I think people are done
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  Speaker 1: not speaking out or not. We're not gonna get pushed
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  Speaker 1: around anymore, and we're certainly not going to be afraid
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  Speaker 1: of somebody like that because she's just so full of hate,
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  Speaker 1: and there's a lot of people like that, right, So
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  Speaker 1: what do you do? How do you deal with the
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  Speaker 1: situation that person when you have to if you have to,
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  Speaker 1: but you don't want to take any crap either. Let
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  Speaker 1: me share with you a tip this week on Wicked
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  Speaker 1: Wisdom that I call calm waters Now. A lot of
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  Speaker 1: interestingly enough professional fighters use this technique. I know Connor
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  Speaker 1: McGregor is a big fan of this one, and it
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  Speaker 1: goes like this, he or she that stays calm wins,
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  Speaker 1: And I think we can apply it in a situation
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  Speaker 1: like this. She's just, you know, just angry person. She's
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  Speaker 1: at work, she's like, you know, just your response to that,
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  Speaker 1: when you pretty much knowing maybe even she's told you
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  Speaker 1: that she hates you, is to respond with an overabundance
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  Speaker 1: of calmness and kindness. How does that work? Bill, Well,
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  Speaker 1: here's how. Hey, Karen, let me get the door for you. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: you have it a tough day? Me? Is there anything
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  Speaker 1: I can help you out with? Morning? Karen? How are
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  Speaker 1: you doing? How are you? Because let me tell you something.
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  Speaker 1: If that's how you want to push back, it's a
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  Speaker 1: very very effective way to do it because eventually she's
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  Speaker 1: gonna lose her shit on you, most likely if you
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  Speaker 1: want to engage that. But what happens then, no, she's
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  Speaker 1: going to expose herself as a hateful, angry person. And
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  Speaker 1: what did you do? You're just the calm, kind person
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  Speaker 1: trying to engage with her. If you want to engage,
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  Speaker 1: and if you're in a situation where you have to try,
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  Speaker 1: calm waters and let me know how it works out.