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52. how to become the hottest version of yourself... · Hot Girl Energy Podcast

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Hello, you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the Hawkgirl Energy Podcast.
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I'm your host, Kaylee, and this is your weekly reminder that it's
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a new day, a new week, a new mindset, and another day
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for you to become the Hawkgirl Energy you want to attract. Happy Tuesday,
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you guys. For you guys, it is August. Oh my god,
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guys, how we already at August fifteenth, already fifteen days into August.
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I feel like I recorded the August first episode last week, Like, oh
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my god, time it's going by so fast. But today is Saturday.
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For me, it is the gloomiest and the rainiest day. I honestly was
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like, you know what, I'm gonna take the opportunity now and record the
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episode just because what else is there to do in the rain? Honestly,
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like the sun's not shining, I'm stuck indoors, and I'm like, you
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know what, I'm gonna get some work done. I'm going to be a
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productive girl and get my shit together. So that is why we are recording
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today's episode on a Saturday. But in terms of weekend plans, I don't
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have much going on this weekend. I haven't seen the most recent episode of
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the summer I Turned Pretty, which I'm like dying to see, so I'm
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hoping I have time tonight to do so, So let me know if you
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guys love that series. I'm currently obsessed with it, Like it has been
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my favorite thing to watch, and it is kind of cheesy, but like
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they do a good job of making it cheesy, if that makes sense.
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Like the acting is not the greatest, but I still love it. I
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think the storyline is just so so cute. And what team are you guys
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on. Are you guys on Team Jeremiah or Team Conrad? I really don't
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know what side to pick. I feel like it's too difficult of a choice
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to make. But yeah, if you haven't started watching the series, guys,
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you really need to start watching it. It is so good. But
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I've been so obsessed with it, so my weekend plans, I'm hoping for
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tonight to catch up on that. Last night Zach and I on Friday we
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made a steak dinner, which was so good, and then we went to
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the vineyards. I've been wanting to do this on my summer bucket list of
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everything that I want to get done. I've shared it in an episode before.
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But there's just a few things that I want to do before the summer
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ends, and going to a winery was one of them. So we have
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this vineyard in carp called the Kin Vineyards, and it's so so beautiful.
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We went at sunset. We had a flight each and then a glass of
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our favorite wine that we had within the flight, and yeah, it was
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such a fun little date night with Zach. And then now we're here.
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It's Saturday. As I said, it's rainy, it's just going to be
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a really chill day. And tonight it's my parents wedding Ediverse Street, and
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I said to them, I'm like, listen, I know you guys probably
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want to have a little intimate dinner just you two, like I can watch
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your dogs whatever. And she's like, no, no, like we want
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you there, we want you and Zach there, we want your sister there.
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And I'm like, really, like it's your thirtieth anniversary, like don't
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you guys just want to go, like you two And she's like no,
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no, like we really want to go as a family. And I mean,
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obviously I'm not going to say no to a free dinner at Giovanni's,
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which is this really nice Italian restaurant. So I'm very excited to have some
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pasta tonight, probably more wine, so a lot of good eating and a
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few glasses of wine, which I'm not complaining about. And then for tomorrow,
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it's supposed to be a nice day tomorrow, but I do need to
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do some of my Sunday reset things. I feel like I have not been
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in my Sunday reset game this summer, and there's a reason for that.
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I feel like I used to be so strict on myself when it came to
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Sundays, saying like, Okay, I have to do this, Like I
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you know, if I don't do this reset, I'm not going to have
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a good week, basically, is what I would put in my mindset.
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And I've been really trying to take advantage of this beautiful summer weather. So
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I've been trying to balance like half of a Sunday reset, So IM not
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doing everything that I typically do, but just like half the things like maybe
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wash my bedding and you know, do grocery shopping and that's it, and
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then the other things that I never did on that Sunday I'll do on Monday.
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So if there's anything that I want to prep for the week, like
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my green juices or you know, any type of meals that I want to
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prep for the week, I would do that Monday. So I've only been
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kind of like half assing my Sunday reset, which I'm not complaining about,
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just because i feel like one of my intentions this summer was to really be
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in the outdoors and just really enjoy being outside and just soaking in every minute
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of it, just because summer is short and it's probably my favorite season,
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to be honest. So I'm hoping to get back into more of a consistent
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Sunday reset routine once we get into the fall and winter weather. But for
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now, I'm enjoy my relaxing Sunday where I'm you know, buy my parents,
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pool, tanning, and just yeah, enjoying the time there. So
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that's what I've been doing basically every Sunday is just kind of doing a half
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a Sunday Reset and then the other half of the day I'm usually at my
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parents house, spending time with them, enjoying the backyard, usually making dinner
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with them, all that. So that's kind of been my weekly Sunday.
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I'm also going to be trying something New tomorrow. I really really want to
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try overnight oats. I have never tried overnight oats except for when I was
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in Vancouver. When I was in Vancouver with Trend, we went to this
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really cute coffee shop in Vancouver called Analog, and it was probably one of
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the best coffees I've had in a long time. It was very similar to
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a coffee I had in La called Alfred's. Anyways, we went to this
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Analog place and we were like, what do we get for breakfast? We
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were like looking, they had obviously like a lot of quest songs, a
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lot of muffins, and then I saw an overnight oat like recipe and it
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was like dried cranberry. It was like very full inspired pumpkin seeds, chia
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seeds, all that, like all like really really good healthy ingredients, and
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so I bought that and it was amazing, and I'm like, why have
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I never done overnight oats. So I'm going to be filming that on TikTok
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this week and I'm going to be attempting to make my own overnight oats.
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I might do something similar with like the chia seeds and the pumpkin seeds and
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the dried cranberries. I might add like some blueberries, bananas, just a
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little bit of fruit on top, because there was no fruit in the one
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that I tried. But I think it could be really good with fresh fruit
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as well. So make sure to follow me in socials if you guys want
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me, if you guys want to see me attempt that. I'm hoping it
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tastes as good as what I had at this coffee shop. But I'm very
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excited. So that is my weekend plans. But I'm very excited to get
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into this episode. So we're talking about how to be the hottest version of
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yourself. One thing I want to highlight about this episode is that we are
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going to be talking about how to become more attractive internally, not externally.
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I don't want you guys at that. You know, it's all about the
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way you physically look. It's about how you physically feel and things that you
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can do to improve your mental health and just make you feel more confident and
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today. So we're gonna be talking about how to become the hottest version of
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yourself, how to become the most attractive version of yourself. And yeah,
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okay, So starting with tip number one, give yourself a pep talk.
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Talk to yourself in the mirror. How many times have I told you guys,
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it's so so important to create that positive mindset by talking to yourself in
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the mirror in a positive way. Tell yourself you're a bad bitch. Being
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hot is not about what you look on the outside. It's about how you
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feel in the inside. Tell yourself you look hot. You need to have
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the mentality that you are confident and that you feel extremely attractive. It's all
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about that kind of mindset. So if you say it, you will feel
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it. So make sure to give yourself a pep talk if you're feeling low,
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or if you're feeling you know, not the greatest about yourself. Obviously,
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as women and some men may feel this as well. Is that you
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know, there's times where we feel like we're body shamed or we feel you
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know, ugly, Like obviously, I've had times where, you know,
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I have weeks where I'm like, I feel like the ugliest person. Ever.
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It's not good to have that negative mindset. So if you have a
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pep talk with yourself, tell yourself that you are attractive and that you are
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beautiful, you are going to feel like the hottest person in the room just
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having that positive mindset. This next one, I love dress up for yourself,
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no one else. What I love about this is that I feel like
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people always assume that women dress up for the male gaze, when that is
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not the intention at all. I dress up because I feel good, I
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feel hot, when I want to wear a cute outfit and feel put together.
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I'm merely doing it, honestly for myself. I'm not even doing it
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to look good for my fiance or other men. I'm merely doing it to
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make me feel confident and for me to feel good because I feel like I
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never really dress up and putting in the effort when you can, when you're
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going in on all that it really boost your mood, and it boosts your
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confidence, and in general, it just makes you feel good on the inside
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and on the outside. One thing that I've always said to you guys when
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it comes to having you know, times where you're in a funk or you're
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feeling low or anything like that, I always always always recommend just putting on
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a cute outfit and you know, putting a bit of makeup on, like
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it instantly boosts your mood. So if you're feeling low, or if you're
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feeling like you're in a funk or something like throwing on a cute workout set,
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putting on a bit of makeup literally makes the biggest difference, you guys.
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Know, Like for me working from home, I could easily just wear
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pajamas all day and put no makeup on and put no effort into anything throughout
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my day. But I always always always try and create that morning routine for
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myself, and one of the things that I include in my routine is always
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putting on a bit of makeup and always putting on a cute workout set because
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that's something that I'm very comfortable wearing during the day, and it immediately boosts
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my mood just doing that little step. So sometimes it's all about just dressing
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up for yourself, no one else, And as I said, it literally
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makes you feel so good in the inside and the outside. Sometimes I'm not
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even leaving the house and I'm just dressing up just because it makes me feel
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good. But if you want to dress up to go get coffee or go
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to the grocery store, anything like that, it just immediately boosts your mood
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and it makes you feel so much more confident and attractive. Okay, this
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next one I actually found through another podcast, and it really like inspired me
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because I feel like this is definitely something to help you get your spark back.
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If you're feeling like you are, you know, in a bit of
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a rut and just like don't know how to get yourself out of it,
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maybe because you're not happy with how you physically look or something like that.
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Sometimes getting a new haircut. I know that sounds crazy and it could be
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the most subtle thing, but I find it getting a haircut or getting your
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hair done makes the biggest difference. And this could be, like I said,
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just a few inches off your hair, or getting layers, or getting
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bangs, or if you want to die at a different color, if you've
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just been itching to change something about yourself. Sometimes just getting a haircut can
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really boost your mood and just boost your confidence and make you feel ten times
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hotter. Like I don't know how to explain it, but that's why I
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always think these little maintenance appointments like getting your nails done, getting your hair
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done. Like, I don't want to talk about physical things too much because
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again, this episode is more about your inner and mental health. But sometimes
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if you're feeling low and you feel like you're looking for a change or anything
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like that, sometimes it's nice to change things that you can control, like
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getting your hair cut. And if it's something that you've been thinking about for
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a while, for an example, like why not do it. It's a
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change, it's excitement, it's just something new. Okay. The next one
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is be yourself. I think this one is so important. This can also
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go with being yourself when it comes to dressing a certain way, and we're
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going to get into that because that's technically another tip that I wanted to recommend,
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But being yourself is so important. Embrace what you have and you need
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to own it. Being the best version of yourself makes you feel like the
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hottest version of yourself. It's plain and simple, Like I feel like that
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needs to be a quote somewhere, like on my laptop. It's like the
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perfect way of describing like becoming the best version of yourself. Tending to be
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someone else won't make you feel confident. Like obviously with social media there definitely
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plays a huge factor in seeing how other people look, or other people dress,
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or what other people do and all that. But we need to be
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focusing on doing what's best for yourself and being yourself and doing things that you
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enjoy verse copying someone else. Like, at the end of the day,
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you're not going to feel confident if you're trying to copy someone else's life,
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Like, that's just not going to work. You need to focus on things
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that you're good at, your strengths and doing things that make you feel like
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yourself, Like you don't want to dress like someone else and be totally like
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uncomfortable and not confident. Like, yeah, I don't need to go more
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into depth about that, but I think it's just important to embrace what you
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have and own it. Okay, this next one is really really good.
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It's body language when it comes to like feeling insecure anything like that. Typically
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people are like hunching, their arms are crossed. You can just tell based
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off their body language that they're uncomfortable or not confident or just insecure anything like
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that. The way your body is presented just shows how much confident you have
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in yourself. And I think it's so important to have a straight back,
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to put your chest out, and you know, be the hottest woman in
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the room by literally your body language. And that's all like you presenting like
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you feel confident within yourself is so visibly shown throughout your body language. Like
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it's crazy how much of a difference it can make with you being confident in
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your own skin versus not. If you want to be more attractive, you
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don't have to change the way you physically look. You can simply just change
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your body language. Like I said, straightening out your chest, keeping your
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shoulders back, it's the smallest change that can make you feel so much more
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attractive and so much more confident. This next one is the one that I
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talked about which is dressing for your body. This is so so important because
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I feel like this is definitely something that a lot of women can say they've
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been a victim too, in terms of dressing like something they're not or dressing
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like everybody else on social media, but it's not like something that they actually
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want to wear. They just think it's something that they should wear or you
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know that's going to you know, capture the male gaze and all that.
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So going back to that point where I said that you should be dressing for
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yourself, not for anybody else. You need to dress the way you feel
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comfortable and you just need to master your own style, make the most of
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what you got. I have to be honest, like I honestly love dressing
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like a boy. Like I know that sounds crazy, but I love baggy
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jeans. I love baggy T shirts, baggy sweaters, oversize everything. When
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I order any sweater, jacket or anything like that, I'm ordering a size
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extra large, Like I'm not even over exaggerating, but that's because I feel
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like I've mastered my own style by finding things that work from my body type.
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And it's so important to also follow influencers that may have a style that
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you like. Just show off your best features and dress up and master your
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own style. So choosing it's that you personally find suit you makes the biggest
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difference in the room and can instantly just make you feel ten time soaughder.
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So make sure you master your own style. I find for me when it
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comes to like finding inspo and all that I find Pinterest is a really really
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good one. And as I said, just finding Instagram influencers who have really
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good fashion that I feel like is very similar to my type of taste.
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I also feel like when it comes to style, it's just something that obviously
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everyone has their own opinion towards and I think it's important to be unique when
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it comes to your fashion sense. Okay, Another one is taking care of
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yourself. So mentally, when it comes to taking care of yourself, I
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personally think moving your body is the most important thing. You guys know how
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much working out to me makes me feel so good. And I think for
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the longest time, when I first started my health and wellness journey and working
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out and all that, the whole point of me working out was more so
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to fix the way I love physically and I feel like people have that intention
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where when they're working out, they're just trying to fix their physical appearance,
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when an actuality. What people don't realize how much moving your body plays such
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a big role in your mental health. I personally feel my best when I'm
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consistent with my workouts. When I have a consistent workout routine throughout the week,
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that is when I feel my best. To be honest, this week,
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because I was traveling in Vancouver last week, I haven't really been consistent
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with my workout routine because there was a bit of a time difference and getting
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back into it and all that has been a bit difficult, and to be
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honest, I haven't been feeling one hundred percent this week. I've been feeling
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like I've been getting a bit sick, and I haven't been consistent with the
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workout routine, and I just know mentally I haven't been all there. And
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I know that because my workout routine has not been consistent this week. When
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I actually work out consistently, that is when my mental health is at its
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prime. I feel my best. I feel like I look my best everything
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and my confidence anyways, I can just go like so into this, but
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it's just so important to find ways that you love to move your body,
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whether it's walking, running, spinning, workout classes, anything like that.
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Just know that you need to go in with that mindset that you're working out
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to make yourself feel good, not to make yourself look like a specific body
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type or anything like that. At the end of the day, you were
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working out to make ourselves feel good, not the way we physically look.
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And working out can also be a way to escape from all your work and
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your stress or anything like that. Like I personally find when I'm in an
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extreme stressful situation, I personally like to walk away from whatever I'm doing and
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go on a long walk. Like to me, that is the most important
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way for me to just reduce my stress or anything like that. And honestly,
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personally, right now, like I feel like there's so much going on
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in my life with work and the wedding and the engagement party, and sometimes
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it just gets extremely overwhelming with all those things happening at once. For me,
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if I'm just feeling stressed or anxious or anything like that, I just
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stop what I'm doing, walk outside for like twenty minutes. I come back
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and it's almost like a refresh, like I feel like, Okay, I'm
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ready to get back into this. My mind has you know, completely escaped
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by going on that walk and just putting on a podcast and I come back
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and I get back in the zone. Moving your body can also be a
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great way for you to help with deal with a new stress or anything like
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that. So yeah, okay, this next one is improve your conversation skills.
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This is actually something I'm making my September goal, but we're starting early
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because I have really been inspired lately to start reading, which is so crazy
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because I feel like I've mentioned it here on the podcast before, but I'm
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not the biggest reader, to be honest, like, obviously not everybody loves
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to read, and that's totally okay. I have never been the biggest reader
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as a kid growing up, and I think it was just because I could
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never imagine the stories like in the book. I can never picture the story
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in my mind like some people can really just envision it in their mind and
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totally like finish a book within three days because they're so invest in the story
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right where growing up, I felt like I had such a hard time like
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envisioning the characters or even focusing on the story because I'd be distracted or overwhelmed
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or anything like that. So I never continued or tried to buy books and
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actually read, just because I felt like, I'm like, this isn't for
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me. I just kept saying, this isn't for me, and that's okay,
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and I'm not going to let this affect me. But lately I've been
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really inspired to challenge myself and buy a book and try and finish it.
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So that is something that I'm going to try. Hopefully I get one sometime
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this week if I have the time to go out and get one. But
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that is definitely something I really want to do because I really think I can
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improve my communication skills and I think it will make me feel more confident,
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you know, communicating with people and just being involved in more conversations and understanding
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what people are talking about. Just merely just educating myself. I think that
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can just boost people's competent in general, feeling like you have more knowledge and
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just more I don't know, I don't really explain it, but basically,
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I just think me getting into reading is really going to help me, you
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know, for the future, even like recording podcast episodes or nothing like that,
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Like I just want to have myself more educated, and I would really
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love to start reading books that are educational that can help me learn about you
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know what I talk about with you guys, which is just building habits that
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can help you, guys, become the better versions of yourself all that.
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So definitely something that I think is extremely attractive and hot is just being educated
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and having good communication skills. So that is something that I personally feel like
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I need to improve on, but it's definitely something that I think is going
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to help me feel more competent and just feel like the hottest person in the
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room. Okay, last way to make you feel like the hottest woman in
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the room is smiling more. It's amazing how much just a smile can make
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you feel so much more attractive. People respawn to you in such a positive
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way when they see you smile. Like think about when you're walking down the
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streets and you see another girl and she has like the biggest bitch face,
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Like you don't feel like she's approachable, Like you don't want to go near
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her. You don't want to go up to them because they don't look like
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the most approachable person in the room. So it's amazing how much a smile
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can just be responded as a positive energy. And there's actually research that I
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found that on dating apps, it has been found that smiling can get you
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more dates. So if you have a lot of smiling pictures on online dating
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apps, like there's a higher chance for a guy to be more interest in
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your profile if there's photos of you smiling verse like a serious face or anything
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like that. So there's something about, as I said, just smiling more.
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It just makes you look more attractive and makes you look more coroachable.
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It's just more professional, if that makes sense. So this is your sign
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to smile more if you haven't been, because it's going to make you feel
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so much hotter, so much more attractive, and so much more competent.
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So those are some ways to become the hottest version of yourself. I hope
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I got the point across of this episode of more being inner and less about
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how you physically look. I feel like it's important to work on a lot
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of these things within yourself verse the exterior version of yourself. Like obviously there's
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some things that you can do externally, like I said, like getting a
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haircut or anything like that, but know that it's really important to make sure
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that you've healed your mental health first before doing anything else physically, because I
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think you're going to feel hotter within more verse your exteriors. So these are
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just tips that I think can work for yourself if you feel like you haven't
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been in that mindset lately. And you guys know I'm all about positive mindset,
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remove any negativity around your environment, and I just think it's so important
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to do some of these things like give yourself a pep talk, dress up
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for yourself, be yourself, work on your body language, smile more,
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dress for your body, take care of yourself, and just improve your communication
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skills. So those are just some of the ways that I think can really
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help you become the most attractive person in the room. But thank you guys
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so much for listening to another episode. If you guys are new here,
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love you all so so much and I will see you guys next week.