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What's a narcissist's worst nightmare? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're talking about a narcissist worst nightmare.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  So boom, welcome back, welcome back, welcome back.
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  Yes, a narcissist's worst nightmare.
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  So I'm going to look like the 1st 5 seconds.
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  I'm going to ask you a question and how would you put your
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  response to the comment section? What do you think a narcissist's
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  worst nightmare is? Pause.
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  Now I know what people, I know what people are going to put the
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  number one answer. It's probably what people want
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  to say, which is what I've heard in my comment section so much.
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  An educated empath. I heard that, y'all, I've heard
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  that somebody was trying to pick on people who called themselves
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  empaths and who refer to themselves as empaths.
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  It's just like when people put that in there, I was just like,
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  an educated empath is a narcissist's worst nightmare.
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  I like, no, no, it's not a narcissist's worst nightmare,
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  y'all. Of course it's going to be.
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  Could could it be a narcissist's worst nightmare?
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  I'm not going to completely write you off.
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  Could it be a narcissist's worst nightmare that they date or
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  encounter an educated impact? Yes, possibly.
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  The possibility does exist today.
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  You could be a narcissist's worst nightmare, but big old
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  butt BU7 TS butt to me. From my experience as a
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  diagnosed narcissist myself, typically a narcissist's worst
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  nightmare is going to be getting exposed one of one of one of it
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  could be more. I'm gonna I'm gonna list some
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  other ones out as well, but exposure is a narcissist worst
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  nightmare. Y'all narcissistic people, most
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  of them want to have this image that an image of being good,
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  right? They want to portray this image
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  of righteousness and just having I, I'm a good person to the
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  world. They do not want to be thought
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  of as a bad person. So if somebody exposes them for
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  who they really are, that's the that's that's a nightmarish
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  situation right there. That's nightmarish right there
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  to a lot of narcissist. I don't want the whole world to
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  know who I am. I know that you know who I am,
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  right? I get it.
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  I understand that you know who I am, but I don't want the entire
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  world to know. I want to gaslight you to make
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  you feel like you don't even know who I am really.
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  You know, I want, I want, I want I wanted to get to the point
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  where you don't even trust yourself like you don't even
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  trust yourself about do you don't know who I am.
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  I want you to question yourself. I want to gaslight you or
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  manipulate you to the point where you don't even trust your
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  own judgement. Well, maybe he's not a
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  narcissist. Maybe he's not a bad person.
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  Maybe it's me. When you start saying things
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  like that, all of that is to the benefit of the narcissistic
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  person in your life. Let's keep you hiding.
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  Let's keep you hiding ready when you start saying things like all
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  like what I just said, all of that is to the direct benefit of
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  a narcissist. Because when you start
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  questioning yourself, they want you to question yourself.
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  Because as long as you're questioning yourself, you're not
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  questioning me. As long as you're asking these
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  questions, as long as you're blaming yourself, you're not
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  blaming me, right? I don't want you to blame me
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  because if you blame me, it tends to lead to it tends to
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  increase the chances of being exposed tend to increase, right?
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  So I don't want you to blame me. I want you to blame yourself.
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  I want you to keep the eye, I want you to keep the focus on
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  you. So I don't want to be exposed to
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  anybody, not your friends, not your family, damned for certain,
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  not TikTok or Instagram. I damn certainly do not want to
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  be exposed to that, right? I damn sure don't don't want to
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  be exposed to that. But there are a lot of
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  narcissists out there who just fear this y'all they will they,
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  they will lose their damn minds. Their biggest nightmares waking
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  up to waking up one day and the world knowing who they really
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  are Like I want to keep my situation private.
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  I want to be AI want to be a public figure with a private
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  life. You know, I want to be AI want
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  to be the most famous person in the world, but you don't know
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  who I am. You know, like what I mean?
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  You don't know who I am is like you don't know who I really am.
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  You we have this we have a parasocial relationship where
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  you know the social media image, you know the the public image.
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  You don't know the behind the scenes image.
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  That's the perfect dynamic for narcissists right there.
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  That's the perfect, like, you know how you know how mold grows
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  in the dark? That's the perfect ingredient
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  for narcissists to grow their, their real personality is in the
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  darkness so it can grow and then it can fester.
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  You say they love being in the public light, but like, like to
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  do these in the dark and whatnot.
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  So that's why I'm just telling you, if you're dealing with a
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  narcissist, if you happen to be dealing with a narcissistic
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  person and this is the situation that has arisen into your life,
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  this is what you'll be dealing with.
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  Y'all. They don't want you to expose
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  them, so they won't. They want to isolate you.
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  You can tell. You can tell this is one of
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  their biggest fears because they want to isolate you from
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  everybody else. They don't want you talking to
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  your friends and family. They don't want you going out
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  with your friends. They want, they don't want you
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  going to the gym, they don't want you going out.
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  They want you sitting, sitting your ass in the in the damn
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  house, not doing anything, serving them, being their being
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  their tools and manipulation, being their emotional and
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  sometimes physical punching bag, right.
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  You tell this is their their biggest nightmare because they
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  don't want the hell no, I don't want you going out because if
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  you go out, you might tell people what's going on.
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  So this is what like isolationism is a big thing in
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  toxic relationship dynamics. And it's because they are afraid
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  you're going to tell people who they really are.
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  And that's the truth right there.
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  Yes. Can narcissists have a fear of
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  empathetic people, Highly empathetic people?
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  They can have a fear, but they tend to attract highly
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  empathetic people because you you kind of fit you high empathy
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  Co dependent people tend to fit fixers, healers tend to fit well
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  with narcissists because narcissists are broken people
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  that need to be fixed, right? So empathetic impacts are
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  typically going to end up with narcissistic people.
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  You know, an educated impact that means you typically want to
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  leave and you typically might be exposed them.
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  So yeah, could they fear an educated impact, an empowered
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  impact? Yes, because you're educated
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  enough to know that their fear is exposure, their nightmare is
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  exposure. So you can fall, you fall under
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  that category of them having a big nightmare of being exposed.
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  You see what I'm saying? So yeah, it fits under that,
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  under that category right there. So the greatest nightmare is
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  being exposed and who who better to expose them than the educated
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  impact. So it all kind of ties in
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  together. Now that I thought, now that I
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  started thinking about and talk a little bit more.
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  You see, look, I got there. I know at the beginning he's
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  like Lee, an educator. It's an educated impact.
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  I'm telling you, I'm telling you, brother, I'm telling you,
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  did y'all see me? Y'all see me?
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  Y'all see me made that connection.
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  Y'all was like, there you go, Lee.
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  That's why we're here. We watched you make the
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  connection. Y'all watched me connect the
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  y'all watch me connect the dots. But that's how it goes though.
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  Y'all, let me, let me, let me talk.
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  There really is the perspective that goes into a lot of this
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  right here. So this is what I'm this is the
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  point I'm trying to convey to you, right.
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  So if you're dealing with a narcissistic person, you
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  understand, You can tell. Yeah, you can tell what?
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  Their greatest nightmare. You go ask them what are you
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  scared? What are you afraid of?
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  And they'll say nothing. Some of them I don't, I don't
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  really know. I'm afraid of, you know, I'm
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  afraid of losing you. Yeah.
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  That could be, that could be their, their greatest nightmare
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  #2 could be them losing you because see you being with
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  somebody else, somebody else taking their taking their spot
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  in your life, somebody else getting their access, somebody
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  else clapping the cheeks. You see what I'm saying?
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  That could be their biggest nightmare.
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  Their greatest fear right there is you being with someone else.
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  You can tell this a lot, y'all. And this is like one way that
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  you can tell this is another one of Narcissus's biggest
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  nightmares or greatest nightmares or greatest fears or
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  whatever is because even sometimes even when they move on
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  to someone else, they refuse to let you go.
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  They'll be living with somebody else, married to somebody else,
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  and still be texting and calling you like, damn, leave me.
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  Alone like you got, you got a whole new family.
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  What you doing? Because they don't want you to
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  move on. They don't want you to move on.
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  They can have a whole new relationship and still be
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  messaging you trying to guide you on the dating world.
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  Hey, be careful out there. I know how guys are.
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  I know how I know how the the girls out there only want you.
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  For one thing, be careful. They were trying to guide you
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  after they left you with somebody else.
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  Get the hell out of here. That type of person, like I
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  said, they are with a whole new person and their biggest fear is
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  you being with somebody else, you being happy with somebody
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  else. What they'll say, you know what
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  happens? You know how how narcissists
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  pacify themselves? They'll say.
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  You know what? I want to see you happy even if
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  it's not. With me.
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  I want to see you happy, even if it's not with me.
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  Of course I can't be happy with you.
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  You are horrible. That you are horrible.
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  I I can't, I can be with a damn of of rock and be happier than I
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  was with you. You're a horrible person.
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  You're a horrible human being. No.
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  Don't be with anybody else. Does that rock?
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  Does that rock? Make 6 figures.
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  Is that rock 6 feet 6 feet tall? Is that?
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  Rock got some. Money.
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  Does that rock have a nice set of cheeks on it?
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  That's that's that. Rock have ABB.
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  I'm sorry, but that's how they that's how their minds go.
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  The other greatest nightmare is you be with somebody else.
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  They don't want y'all. They don't want to let you go.
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  Even if they have someone else, they feel like they, they are
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  determined to keep you right where you are because it
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  benefits them to keep you right where you are.
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  It benefits them to keep you from moving on.
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  It benefits them to hold you right here because they don't
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  want to see you with anybody else, because they break the
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  little narcissistic hearts. Oh, you moved on with somebody
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  else. I thought it was you and me
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  versus the world, Hon. Honey Bunches of Oats.
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  I thought it was you and me versus the world.
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  I guess not. Right, you with somebody else
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  who cares? Now I'll tell you about one of
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  their last greatest nightmares, y'all?
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  Another narcissist greatest nightmare is meeting their
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  equal, see? Like meeting their equal and
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  getting their energy reflected back to them, meeting their
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  match, right? Meeting someone, meeting someone
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  who matches their energy, meeting someone that has
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  boundaries and whatever and somebody that has better than
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  them in every single way. Because a lot of narcissists
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  when they first meet people, they're trying to size them up,
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  right? They have to.
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  Like, this is how my mind works too.
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  I have to size somebody up. Like, how am I better than you?
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  I need, I need to figure out a way that I'm better than you so
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  I can make myself feel better because that's how insecure I
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  am. That's how my mind works out.
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  Seriously. But if there's no way that you
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  can find yourself better than them, I don't want to be around
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  that person at all. Like, damn, they're better than
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  me. They're better than me in every
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  single way. Damn.
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  I can't be around this person at all because it makes me feel, it
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  makes me feel so small and minute to be around this person
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  that's better than me in every single way.
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  So I'm going to go way down here.
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  I don't want to be around. I don't want to be seen.
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  I don't want to be seen at all. I'm going to stay down here.
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  That's the mindset. Their greatest nightmares,
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  meeting somebody that's better than them in every single way.
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  They don't want to be around that person.
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  They damn sure don't want you around that person or those
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  people. A better life.
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  Hell no. I don't like, I don't like them.
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  I don't like him. He just rubbed me the wrong way.
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  Didn't greeted you, was the nicest person ever.
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  Rubbed them. Rubbed them in the wrong way
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  because they're more successful. Having everything going for it
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  made the narcissistic person feel insignificant.
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  Narcissists hate feeling insignificant.
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  That's one of the narcissist's greatest nightmares.
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  It's not being no relevance, no legacy.
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  Insignificant you didn't make a you didn't you didn't make a
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  scratch in the world, let alone a dent.
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  You know you didn't leave your mark on the world.
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  You didn't make a scratch. You mean they hate that they
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  don't they want losses, want to leave a legacy behind.
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  So they really really truly hate that space right there.
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