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#130 Becky Lucas: Preparing my newborn for open heart surgery · Two Doting Dads with Matty J & Ash

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  Speaker 1: Matthew, how would you describe parenting? It is hell?
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god. It is painful, it is exhausting, it's relentless.
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  Speaker 2: But can I also have to say I love my kids,
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  Speaker 2: love my kids. It's great. Wouldn't change for the world,
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  Speaker 2: but it's it's a world of hell.
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  Speaker 1: Well said Well.
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  Speaker 3: Comedian Becky Lucas would explain it probably the same, but
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  Speaker 3: she loves it.
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  Speaker 2: At least I'm not alone Becky Lucas, she is one
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  Speaker 2: of Australia's favorite comedians.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, she was the first Australian female comedian to feature
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  Speaker 3: on Conan O'Brien.
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  Speaker 4: I think the most thing about your parent's getting divorce
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  Speaker 4: is that they move into two different houses and then you,
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  Speaker 4: as the kid, has to move from house to house.
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  Speaker 5: I remember being little thinking why can't I stay here?
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  Speaker 4: And you guys move to me, and I'm like, why
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  Speaker 4: am I five years old learning how to roll my
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  Speaker 4: socks to fit more room in the suitcase because dad
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  Speaker 4: kiss a woman.
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  Speaker 5: At a party. Now I get there, he's like, oh,
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  Speaker 5: you forgot your toothbrush.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, dull, you forgot your wedding bells?
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  Speaker 2: And it's quite an achievement. Now, Becky she is a
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  Speaker 2: mum and boy, it is tough, but it is also
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  Speaker 2: one of the best things in the world. Gosh, Becky
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  Speaker 2: and I were so alike, We're so light, which is
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  Speaker 2: the same person. Both hilarious, right Ash?
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah? Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Parenting for Becky has been a bit.
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  Speaker 3: Of a roller coaster since a son was born. Little
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  Speaker 3: George was born with a heart condition that meant that
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  Speaker 3: we have to go to open heart surgery before his
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  Speaker 3: first birthday. Becky feels like those early days of motherhood
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  Speaker 3: were robbed from her.
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  Speaker 1: Look.
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  Speaker 2: It can be tough for a comedian to share a
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  Speaker 2: vulnerable story of their life, but this is one that
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  Speaker 2: is incredibly heartfelt and we're so thankful that Becky felt
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  Speaker 2: comfortable to share the story with us today.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, let's get into it.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome back to two doting dads and one doting mum.
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  Speaker 2: I am Maddie, Jane, I'm Ash.
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  Speaker 5: And I'm Becky Lucas.
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  Speaker 1: Led your own name.
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  Speaker 2: Sorry for stuffing up the intro.
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  Speaker 5: I think it shows a sense of fun. We're all This.
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  Speaker 2: Is a podcast all about parenting, Becky. It is the good,
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  Speaker 2: it is the bad, and the relatable. And if you
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  Speaker 2: come for advice, not us not now, not never, but
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  Speaker 2: maybe from you maybe huh.
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  Speaker 1: We just have to put that there legally, okay, trouble okay,
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  Speaker 1: but you're allowed to give advice if you've got some Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Now, my question was yeah, and I hate to be
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  Speaker 2: so goddamn cliche.
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  Speaker 5: Hey, don't overthink it.
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  Speaker 2: But you're from Brisbane. I'm from Brisbane. You asked before
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  Speaker 2: if I went to Marris what school did you go to?
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  Speaker 4: I went to Brisbane State High Oh.
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  Speaker 1: What does that mean?
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  Speaker 2: So you're an an't you?
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  Speaker 5: I'm not an athlete. I just lived in the catchment.
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  Speaker 1: Because a comedian. Yeah, I was like, no comedy is
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  Speaker 1: going to be in the Olympics. Well it was. It
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  Speaker 1: was break dancing, but you're going to have it in
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  Speaker 1: the next Olympics. No, I made it up.
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  Speaker 4: Come on, Jesus, the jungle has fried?
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  Speaker 2: You are you seem like?
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  Speaker 5: So we allowed to mention the jungle.
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  Speaker 1: It was televised.
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  Speaker 5: It's over, I know.
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  Speaker 4: But what I feels like sensitive, he's just like sensitive
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  Speaker 4: about his time.
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  Speaker 2: I'm coming to terms of like what just happened.
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  Speaker 1: He still has the night terrorists during the day there
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  Speaker 1: and be like.
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  Speaker 2: The bathroom for one second, come out crying and I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: did you do the post?
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  Speaker 4: I feel like every time there's a celebrity that goes
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  Speaker 4: into the jungle, they always do a post being like
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  Speaker 4: we saw these amazing leopards and like, did you do that?
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  Speaker 4: I did, because I just feel like every celebrity has
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  Speaker 4: to pretend like, yeah, like I was in there for this,
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  Speaker 4: but also the amazing leopards and.
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  Speaker 3: Your friend goes away for like a month and like, yes,
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  Speaker 3: illeid in London for a month.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, South Africa for like a month.
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  Speaker 2: In my defense, I took the kids on the safari
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  Speaker 2: and they saw actually there was two cheaters who just
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  Speaker 2: killed an antelope. Oh my god, and the thing was.
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  Speaker 5: Like so speaking the local language.
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  Speaker 2: And this thing was so mangled. It was so mangled,
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  Speaker 2: and the kids were like, my kids are five and four,
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  Speaker 2: like what's wrong with it. I was like, it's just sleeping.
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  Speaker 2: And then these two cheaters are gnawing at it and
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  Speaker 2: they're like make it stop, and I was, my god,
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  Speaker 2: it's a jungle massage. I did see a couple of zebra.
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  Speaker 7: Try.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like we sometimes try to get a bit
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  Speaker 2: of a read on our guests. Maybe you'll never know me.
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  Speaker 5: You will never know. You can try, you can try,
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  Speaker 5: but you'll never know me.
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  Speaker 2: Did you ever get suspended from school?
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  Speaker 4: Yes, but I will say this, it was an in
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  Speaker 4: school suspension. Yeah, I know, I know, but it's really
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  Speaker 4: smart because if you get suspended, you're just at home
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  Speaker 4: with all your things. But in school suspension you just
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  Speaker 4: had to sit outside the office for five days.
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  Speaker 2: Like medieval times. Being on show, you're like one of
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  Speaker 2: those things too.
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  Speaker 4: Like a hanniballeto mask, and I got it for smoking
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  Speaker 4: cigs in the toilet, Yeah, which is funny. It'd be
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  Speaker 4: funny if someone put a sig through the hannibal leto mask.
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  Speaker 2: Give a hip. What was your thinking behind smoking cigarettes
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  Speaker 2: in the toilet?
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  Speaker 5: Just actually liked cigarettes? Yeah, My thinking was like I
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  Speaker 5: like to do this, and I'm going to do this.
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  Speaker 2: Was it the little lunch or the big lunch?
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  Speaker 5: It might have even been like during class, nice you have.
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  Speaker 4: It's kind of funny because it's not even like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: this naughty thing we're planning to do. I'm like just
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  Speaker 4: actually stressed out from class and need my little.
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  Speaker 5: Genuinely stressed out.
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  Speaker 2: And then how did you get caught?
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  Speaker 5: I was stopped on.
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  Speaker 4: I actually can't remember bridge it with.
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  Speaker 2: My I honestly, I didn't think you would have been
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  Speaker 2: type of person.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was smoking. It was more that's the only
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  Speaker 1: time he was suspended.
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  Speaker 4: I think, So there were other times where it was
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  Speaker 4: like threatened or whatever. But yeah, I was like, I
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  Speaker 4: wouldn't say I was a naughty kid, but I did
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  Speaker 4: get swept up in the moment.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, who was the disciplinary one at hunt? Who have parents?
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  Speaker 5: Thank you for actually bringing that up.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, I guess I guess my fractured home life kind
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  Speaker 4: of contributed to Yeah, it's like but disciplinary. I don't know,
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  Speaker 4: Like I guess both my parents were disciplinarian in a way.
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  Speaker 4: But there is something about them being separated where you
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  Speaker 4: never truly have to answer to anyone too much, Like
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  Speaker 4: you can always stories can be you know, you can kind.
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  Speaker 5: Of play parents.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, Like if I was ever in trouble, I could
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  Speaker 4: always just gossip about Dad to mom.
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  Speaker 5: You know, She's like, where on your homework?
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't know, but do you know what
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  Speaker 4: Dad said the other Like he said, this is a
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  Speaker 4: really weird thing, and she's interested. So I could always
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  Speaker 4: which I think kind of is bad. Like I do
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  Speaker 4: think I gossip a lot now because I grew up
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  Speaker 4: being able to yeah.
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  Speaker 8: Dad's good and your girlfriend yeah yeah, quickly change that will.
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  Speaker 5: Always be a bit interested in a tidbit of your life.
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  Speaker 2: I'll blame having an older sister from my last gossip. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, guess, guess what, ash you do love gossip?
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  Speaker 4: There's always something, you know how evolutionary things always get
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  Speaker 4: people out of bad behavior, like I don't know, you'll
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  Speaker 4: you'll or something like, well, gossip was actually an evolutionary
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  Speaker 4: tool because it was the collition of the information about
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  Speaker 4: the mob and the tribe and you were just trying
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  Speaker 4: to like survive, and it's like not used a piece
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  Speaker 4: of shit, but you can like use these things like oh.
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  Speaker 5: It's actually about survival.
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  Speaker 4: It's because I'm a woman and gossip's my only tool
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  Speaker 4: in the tribe.
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  Speaker 1: And before they had.
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  Speaker 3: Delivered thing, they just gossiped its way like Chinese whispers
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  Speaker 3: the next person.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, anyway, let's get back on track.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, sorry, I am a mother. Let's get more into Yah.
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  Speaker 2: So your son is currently with your sister.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, my sister Hannah, who's twenty two, and she's awesome,
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  Speaker 4: but yeah, she we drove here and the windscreen wipers
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  Speaker 4: were on the whole time and she just didn't notice.
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  Speaker 2: Oh fuck, like she just.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, she's kind of she was awesome, but like saying,
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  Speaker 4: she just doesn't Yeah, she's not aware there's.
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  Speaker 1: Between you and her, like, yeah, not to point that out. Sorry,
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  Speaker 1: but she's quite young.
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  Speaker 5: And I'm quite.
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  Speaker 2: Going back to the divorce parents, is this?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, second family? I'm sorry, simply two half two half
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  Speaker 5: eas Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That's enough of that. That's enough questioning for me. I
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  Speaker 1: just want to get the whole picture.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, what else do you want to do?
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry for Ash, That's okay, that's all right, He's uh,
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  Speaker 2: I get it, take it away, keep going.
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  Speaker 1: I was going to say, okay, so why't.
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  Speaker 7: Ask about the parents, the divorce parents. I want to
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  Speaker 7: know about about Chris my boyfriend.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, okay, what do you want to know?
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  Speaker 2: Boy?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: What did you meet?
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  Speaker 5: We met at a party through a friend. What it was.
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  Speaker 5: He was having a party at his house.
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  Speaker 1: He was having the party you just said a party,
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  Speaker 1: not his party.
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  Speaker 5: It was his party.
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  Speaker 4: And I was with some friends actually the boys from
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  Speaker 4: the Buttuda Advocate and my friend Lovely boys, my friend,
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  Speaker 4: my friend Dixie. I just arrived and at first sight
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  Speaker 4: for me maybe and Chris, what do you think?
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  Speaker 5: He's just really hot.
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  Speaker 2: It's a bit of a because mostly that it's a
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  Speaker 2: power play as well. It's his house, his party. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: he's got the upper hand, do you reckon?
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  Speaker 4: I kind of think arriving to the party is a
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  Speaker 4: bit of upper hand. I think hosting a party in
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  Speaker 4: a very weak position really a little bit because you're
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  Speaker 4: worrying about how the party is going to go, your
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  Speaker 4: toilets being.
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  Speaker 5: The people taking big dumps. Ship people are doing it.
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  Speaker 1: You walked down and you like took a big ship
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  Speaker 1: in the hay.
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  Speaker 5: I'm in control, I have the upper hand. Don't go
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  Speaker 5: in there.
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  Speaker 1: You kind of think like it's my party, I've got
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  Speaker 1: pick of the birds.
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  Speaker 5: But then that is true, that is true. I think
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  Speaker 5: you could make a case either way.
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  Speaker 4: I think there is a vulnerability in having a party
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  Speaker 4: because like if it's a if it's a failure, that's
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  Speaker 4: embarrassing and people are kind of using your house just
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  Speaker 4: however they want, and you're the one that.
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  Speaker 5: Has to be like, guys, can you not get there?
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  Speaker 5: Like yeah, you have to be a bit a bit
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  Speaker 5: of a sort of what's the word anal attentive?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't do I can't host events.
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  Speaker 5: Because I'm just yet it.
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  Speaker 4: She's just too anxious and you're worried about who's talking
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  Speaker 4: to who and who's having a good time, and.
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  Speaker 5: Like, I'm just out of my mind the whole time.
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  Speaker 2: Who was spearheading the conversation about starting a family?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, isn't it mostly the woman? I feel like men don't.
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  Speaker 1: It's a good question.
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  Speaker 4: Men don't know that they want it until it happens.
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  Speaker 4: Like he was very like he was like, yeah, it'd
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  Speaker 4: be cool, and then I sort of pushed it down
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  Speaker 4: the track.
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  Speaker 5: And then even.
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  Speaker 4: Like when I was pregnant, like he was obviously excited
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  Speaker 4: and everything, but it felt like he went but I
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  Speaker 4: made all the decisions about what prem we're getting.
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  Speaker 5: I could really barely get him.
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  Speaker 4: But I do feel like, yeah, he didn't care about
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  Speaker 4: all of that stuff or maybe couldn't conceptualize it. And
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  Speaker 4: then as soon as the baby was in front of him,
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  Speaker 4: it was like, which you guys probably remember that feeling
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  Speaker 4: of like can't really conceptualize.
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  Speaker 5: And then it's there and he just.
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  Speaker 4: Could not stop crying. Really, and he's not a crier.
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  Speaker 5: At all. He was crying so.
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  Speaker 4: Much, like our baby had to go to nick You
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  Speaker 4: for a few days because he inhaled a lot of
• 12:20
  Speaker 4: liquids tears and he was okay, like he was stable
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  Speaker 4: and everything, Like he was really just there for monitoring.
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  Speaker 4: And my boyfriend cried so much that the nurse in
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  Speaker 4: nick You was like, hey, man, are you okay?
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  Speaker 5: It's like the place where the most crying happens.
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  Speaker 4: He still was crying more than anyone. Yeah, Like he
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  Speaker 4: just could not believe happiness, like absolutely overwhelmed by the love,
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  Speaker 4: and ever since then has been so much more involved
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  Speaker 4: than any Like, you know, we can talk for so
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  Speaker 4: long about like, oh, I think we should buy this
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  Speaker 4: type of food and I think this, and he looked
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  Speaker 4: like he's pooh. Was like he just went from being yeah,
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  Speaker 4: I couldn't get him really interested.
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  Speaker 5: To yeah, that's all we talk about. He's obsessed.
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  Speaker 2: That's the dream though, right, But you would want that
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  Speaker 2: as opposed to you being like can you please just
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  Speaker 2: change an happy?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah?
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  Speaker 5: No, he's the best. Dat he's awesome.
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  Speaker 2: Where do you think that reluctance came from? It?
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  Speaker 5: Just I just think I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, I think it's kind of a cultural thing,
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  Speaker 4: like people are very anti natalist, you know, Like I
• 13:30
  Speaker 4: do think there's a bit of anti baby.
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  Speaker 5: Sentiment in the air, And I don't know what came first.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, is it because it's harder for people to
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  Speaker 4: is it the breakdown of society where it's like people
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  Speaker 4: aren't earning enough money to have a baby, or like
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  Speaker 4: they're not you know, it's harder to meet a life partner,
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  Speaker 4: and so you just kind of take on this attitude
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  Speaker 4: of like babies. I don't know, I do feel like
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  Speaker 4: there's a bit of that.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's a bit of a there's two sides
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  Speaker 2: that there's one side of people being like it is amazing,
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  Speaker 2: like it's life changing, I have purpose, and the other
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  Speaker 2: side where it's like rule my life, Yeah, I can't
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  Speaker 2: do anything anymore.
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  Speaker 4: But like both like every day I'm like this is fucked,
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  Speaker 4: and then I'm in the same day I'm I've never
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  Speaker 4: smiled more in my life, Like it's just the joy
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  Speaker 4: is crazy.
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  Speaker 5: But it's every day I'm like, what have I done?
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  Speaker 1: Is wrong?
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  Speaker 3: It is you know we were talking about this before
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  Speaker 3: where it's like like you can't truly love something all
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  Speaker 3: the time, No you're like yeah, You're like, oh.
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  Speaker 1: This is amazing.
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  Speaker 3: And then you're like then they like smash a glass
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  Speaker 3: off the thing, and you're like.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, totally absolutely.
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  Speaker 5: But it's such an exercise.
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  Speaker 4: And like, like I had a friend the other day
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  Speaker 4: who doesn't want kids, and he was talking about how
• 14:49
  Speaker 4: he took all day to make a sandwich and I
• 14:53
  Speaker 4: was I had just had no sleep and it was
• 14:55
  Speaker 4: just so like just to get to this place where
• 14:58
  Speaker 4: we were going, heading up for a gig, it was
• 15:02
  Speaker 4: just so much, baby, and I'm like struggling, hunched over zips,
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  Speaker 4: like just your whole day so hard. And he said
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  Speaker 4: like he was describing making this sandwich all day and
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  Speaker 4: then he kind of was like, oh, sorry, because he
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  Speaker 4: knows how hard.
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  Speaker 5: My day is. But in my mind, I'm like, no, don't.
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  Speaker 4: Be sorry, Like I'm I love even though it's I
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  Speaker 4: was complaining.
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  Speaker 5: I love doing this for my son.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and like I get to see him, like I
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  Speaker 4: saw him see a rainbow for the first time, and
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  Speaker 4: it's like it's all worth it.
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  Speaker 2: It's like watch my son see a rainbow for the
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  Speaker 2: first time and that moment, or make a sandwich all day,
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  Speaker 2: like yeah, yeah, it.
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  Speaker 5: Sounded pretty good actually, but yeah it is.
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  Speaker 4: It's a funny, it's yeah, I guess it's also designed
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  Speaker 4: perfectly like because before you do it, you just don't
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  Speaker 4: know how good it is. So like people who haven't
• 15:58
  Speaker 4: done it or don't want to do it.
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  Speaker 5: They'll never feel that. So it's kind of good.
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  Speaker 2: You don't know what you don't know.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, you don't know what you don't know. But yeah,
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  Speaker 5: it is fucked for pregnant, like not as easy as
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  Speaker 5: I assumed. Maybe I think we tried like five months.
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  Speaker 4: Oh wow, so yeah, like I thought it would be boom,
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  Speaker 4: but five months.
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  Speaker 5: It's not as long, I know, like other people have
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  Speaker 5: that much.
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, will you spend your twenties trying not to get
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: pressed exactly and then when you try and get pregnant
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: like oh wow, this is actually.
• 16:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I've had a lot of common Why is this
• 16:36
  Speaker 5: not taking?
• 16:38
  Speaker 4: They always made it out like like just one of
• 16:40
  Speaker 4: them was gonna be like and I'm like, well, millions.
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: It's sort of like if you're throwing off ship at
• 16:45
  Speaker 3: the wall, something's going to stick, right, likest.
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: What come is I'm imagining Becky just like covered in
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: like sick, Something's going to stick.
• 16:57
  Speaker 5: Yeah, Chris is.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: There like nothing else.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: Like Matt from the Jungle.
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: When Chris found out, was he on board or was.
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: Yeah, like immediately was really happy. But I just think
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: before then didn't have the drive that I did, Like,
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: wasn't as alongside me as I would have wanted. But
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: I just I don't know whether it was hormonal or whatever,
• 17:23
  Speaker 4: but I was like, it's happening, and I just knew
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: he'd love it once he did it.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, was it an easy pregnancy.
• 17:32
  Speaker 4: It was physically, but we had a like we had
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: a pretty hectic time At my seventeen week scan, it
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: was actually it was earlier.
• 17:45
  Speaker 5: I maybe had an earlier scan at like fourteen weeks.
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: So I'm really bad at talking, seriously, I feel it's
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: a new skill to like talk earnestly, Like, especially as
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: a comedian, you just always want to get laughed. So
• 17:59
  Speaker 4: you're like, oh, they accept me, so to speaking covered
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: and come exactly, and then you laugh and I'm like, Okay,
• 18:07
  Speaker 4: everything's all good, and now I have to be earnest
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: and no. So at my fourteen week scan, the lady
• 18:14
  Speaker 4: sort of couldn't see all of the heart, but she
• 18:17
  Speaker 4: didn't seem worried she was like, Oh, it's just really
• 18:19
  Speaker 4: small and he's in a weird position, so come back
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: in a few weeks. So I didn't think anything of it.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: That my GP was like, that's normal. So I went
• 18:28
  Speaker 4: back at seventeen weeks like happy as Larry. Everything up
• 18:31
  Speaker 4: until then had been perfect, perfect, perfect, So I just
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: never thought anything of it. And then she was doing
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: the scan and this lady wasn't saying anything, and I
• 18:42
  Speaker 4: was like, can you see what you're looking for? And
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: she said, oh, I think I can. I'm just going
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: to get the obstetrician to talk to you.
• 18:50
  Speaker 5: And so then it was.
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: Just like like the worst feeling I've I actually haven't
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: talked about his phages but and so then I got
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: put into a little room for fifteen minutes by myself,
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: and the obstetrician walked in and just pushed the tissues
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: towards me. You're kidding, yeah, And she said it's not
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: good news, and I started crying, and she basically started
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: describing what it was, but never kind of got into
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: like you just want information, Like I was like, so
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: does this what does this mean?
• 19:23
  Speaker 5: Like am I so we have to terminate it or whatever?
• 19:26
  Speaker 5: And she said we just don't know.
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: She's actually quite strange as an obstitution, Like this lady.
• 19:31
  Speaker 5: She because when I was crying, she goes, Oh my god,
• 19:35
  Speaker 5: she goes, this is actually the worst part of my job.
• 19:39
  Speaker 5: I was like.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 19:43
  Speaker 5: I was like, okay, sorry, why.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: Do we do the best? Yeah?
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: Right, So she was like, he has this thing called
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: I suspect he has this thing called tetralogy of Fallow.
• 19:56
  Speaker 4: And it's I know it's called Tetralogy of Fallow.
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: The things I know.
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: I wish it was more simple because no one can
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: remember it.
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: It sounds like a JR.
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: Tolkien novel or something, but it's it's like, there's four
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: things that have gone wrong with the heart, so they
• 20:17
  Speaker 4: only need to correct too, and that's the whole, and
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: there's the valve. But the thing is it can be
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: a sign of other abnormalities. So I didn't know whether
• 20:26
  Speaker 4: I was going to have what he had had genetic abnormalities,
• 20:30
  Speaker 4: and we would have to terminate at like twenty weeks,
• 20:32
  Speaker 4: which would have been so horrible anyway, So we went
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: in at twenty weeks and had everything done and they
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: were like, no, he's actually completely healthy and normal except
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: for this thing, and they said.
• 20:44
  Speaker 5: It was actually funny because a lot of like I
• 20:46
  Speaker 5: got a lot.
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: Of comfort from the women who were like, it's okay, darling,
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: everything's going to be fine. We have so many kids
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: who come in with this gets fixed. And I liked
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: that kind of caring, feminine reassurance.
• 20:57
  Speaker 5: Whereas my boyfriend, who's.
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: Half Chinese, doesn't like all of that very fairy talk.
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: And he loved the doctor because the doctor was this
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: Chinese guy, this little guy called doctor guy, and he
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: just looked at it and he said, we can.
• 21:09
  Speaker 5: Fix, we can fix, and he's like, it's fine, I
• 21:12
  Speaker 5: fix all the time. It's fine out.
• 21:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And like my boyfriend like enjoyed a Chinese man
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: who knows what he's talking about, like assuring us of
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: and so, yeah.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: At least you had both ends of the spectrum, like
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: you have your self touch of the you had like
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: the firmness of the Chinese doctor.
• 21:31
  Speaker 5: So totally everyone's covered.
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And so they do. They f it's kind of
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: their bread and butter surgery. There's literally today would be
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: two three kids right now at Westmead getting it done.
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: It's like something that they'd fix a lot, but it
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: is something that to fix.
• 21:48
  Speaker 5: To fixate its open heart surgery. Yeah on a baby.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, sorry, baby, not a child.
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: And so this is all happened like so this is
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: before I've had the baby. So they're all very confident
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: and like we fix it all the time. And they
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: make me feel like, you know, back to the pregnancy,
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: just you know, he's healthy and like we'll fix it.
• 22:08
  Speaker 5: And these are all the steps.
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: But you know, I'm reading things online and there's a
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: big spectrum and there's people who've had a really terrible
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: time with it. But I also think you have to
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: remember when you're reading stuff online, the sort of person
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: who posts in online forums is a very anxious person.
• 22:24
  Speaker 5: Usually, do you know what I mean?
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: Like, so, yeah, anyway, so I just tried to be
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: positive and stuff, and then I had the baby and
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: it's suddenly like, oh, they're going to do this to
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: my baby. And so that then became like I had
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: been quite positive and like it's fixable, blah blah blah,
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: and then suddenly it was like, but what if it's
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: not and what if something goes wrong?
• 22:48
  Speaker 5: And then I had this little baby?
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: How long until they have the surgery?
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: So they didn't know, so the heart kind of takes
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: a little while to settle when the baby's born, Like
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: there's a few little vowels and stuff that open and shut,
• 23:01
  Speaker 4: just in general, so they just had to see how
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: it all settled and then keep an eye on it,
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: and then they would decide based on how much oxygen
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: he's getting and everything. So when he was born, they
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: said probably around in six months. We had a surprise
• 23:16
  Speaker 4: hospital visit. They can go blue. They go blue when
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: the valve gets constricted, and it can happen like if
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: they're having a big crying fit or whatever.
• 23:26
  Speaker 5: So that just added because they cry.
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: So when he would cry, like normal people are freaking out,
• 23:31
  Speaker 4: but I'm freaking out because I'm worried he's going to
• 23:34
  Speaker 4: go blue. So like all of my anxieties were just
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: so heightened. But then I also had a really normal experience,
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: like whenever I talk to other mums, we were dealing
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: with the same thing that I just had such an
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: extra worry. And then we had a hospital stay that
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: was unexpected. He had a blue spell during one of
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: his checkups and then it was suddenly like we're getting
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: rushed to Westmead Hospital and we were there for a week,
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: and I don't know, if you've ever been on a
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: ward with a child, it's just like I had a
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: little You have to put them to sleep, and there's
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: six other babies screaming, and then it's a nightmare and
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: the nurses come in, so you just I just get
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: him to sleep, and then the nurse would come in
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: and take.
• 24:17
  Speaker 5: His blood pressure and he'd wake up screaming, and.
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: I'd get him settled, and another baby would wake up screaming,
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: and I just didn't sleep for the entire I felt
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: like I was in hell. There was a woman next
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: to me and her little girl, Huffsa. She had a
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: little girl and she was coming down off she'd just
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: had heart surgery and she was recovering and she was
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: in delirium. So her little girl screamed for like twenty
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: three hours of twenty four hours. They couldn't do anything,
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: and then they and then there's like hell, yeah, and
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: that she happened to my son as well.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: I've never heard never I know that.
• 24:51
  Speaker 5: Yeah, well hope that's a good thing.
• 24:53
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: I get like, like for them to scream, do they
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: explore what, like why they screamed so much?
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: They just so not all of.
• 25:03
  Speaker 5: Them get screaming delirium.
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: My son went cross eyed, which was actually I'm laughing now,
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: but I it was like it was fucked.
• 25:13
  Speaker 5: I was so upset because no one knew what was
• 25:15
  Speaker 5: going on either. They were like, we don't really know
• 25:18
  Speaker 5: why he's doing that.
• 25:19
  Speaker 4: We can do a brain scan tomorrow, and I'm like,
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: please don't talk about We've.
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: Just done the heart.
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: I know, because the whole time it's been like, you know,
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: with the brain, that's that's very scary.
• 25:30
  Speaker 5: It so seems so unknown.
• 25:31
  Speaker 4: But with the heart, like even though it's horrific, it's
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: a pump, like, it's mechanical.
• 25:36
  Speaker 5: They can fix it.
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: Like my midwife would always say, like he's got a
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: pumbing issue, but we can fix it.
• 25:41
  Speaker 5: And that kind of calmed me down, is there?
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: And this is like a confronting question. So apologies to classes,
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: but you know, you think all the feedback you're getting
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: from the medical staff is that this is fixable and
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: this is not something that we haven't dealt with before,
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: we have experience here. But at the same time, open
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: heart surgery is full on in your head. Are you
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: also trying to manage expectations of like I wanted to
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: go well, but things might not work out. I know,
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: where's your head at? Leading into that five months.
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: I was just so mental because yeah, it's like how
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: do you love? I loved this thing that I felt
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: also like he could be taken from me, and like
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: they would talk about, you know, they have to tell
• 26:23
  Speaker 4: you what they're going to do in the surgery, and
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: I never wanted to be told, but you know, they
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: have to break his sternum and his blood is outside
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: of his body.
• 26:34
  Speaker 5: He's they stop his heart as.
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: A five month old like this, and he was you know,
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: I know everyone thinks their baby special, but like he
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: just is so full of life and so happy, and
• 26:46
  Speaker 4: like I couldn't.
• 26:47
  Speaker 5: Yeah, there was.
• 26:48
  Speaker 4: It was very tough because I felt like I had
• 26:52
  Speaker 4: to confront his death all the time. Like I just
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: felt like every day I had to think, like every
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: time he smiled or did something, I was like, you
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: might die.
• 27:01
  Speaker 5: And it almost made me scared of him.
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: Like like I was scared of his weakness. And I
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: also think other people were were a little bit too,
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: because we always It's like when people talked about him,
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: they always said.
• 27:13
  Speaker 5: Like look how strong he is it look how big.
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: And tough he is, and it was almost like are
• 27:19
  Speaker 4: we saying this because to love him being weak, it's
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: like can we not love him as a weak baby? Like, yeah,
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: he has to show how strong he is in every
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: other way, do you know what I mean?
• 27:30
  Speaker 5: And I like, yeah, exactly.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: For you to be like, well, it's like everything's okay,
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: and it's like it's not.
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: And even like when he was recovering from the open
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: heart surgery, he didn't recover as quickly as they had predicted.
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: He actually caught COVID somehow during operation or just after,
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: and yeah, so he was under sedation for longer and
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: it was a scary time, but the doctors and the
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: nurses were like, it's okay, he's recovered, ring Like he's
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: taking his time and he's recovering at the pace he
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: needs to. He doesn't have to recover perfectly, you know.
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: And like everyone recovers from yeah, and that includes a
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: five month old baby totally.
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: And I think, yeah, we had had this whole narrative
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: of like, oh, he's so tough, he's going to kick
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: surgery and the balls, and like it's actually like it's
• 28:19
  Speaker 4: actually okay that he didn't and he's still lovable. So yeah,
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: it was a very tough time, like I was. It
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: was weird because yeah, in so many ways I had
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: a you know, he was a normal baby, and but
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: I just could not enjoy it in the same way.
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: And I like, really, it feels like life has started now.
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: Yes, So the lead up to the surgery, not knowing
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: when it's going to happen, I suppose they.
• 28:43
  Speaker 5: Said yes, but then we did lock it in.
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: Okay, So after that hospital stay that the surgeon was like,
• 28:49
  Speaker 4: let's just.
• 28:49
  Speaker 5: Lock it in. We'll do it. And the lead up
• 28:52
  Speaker 5: is just I mean, I lost my mind. I was
• 28:55
  Speaker 5: just like I would.
• 28:56
  Speaker 4: Just walk around crying, weeping in public, like I don't know, you,
• 29:02
  Speaker 4: I just it was just so sad.
• 29:04
  Speaker 5: So I'm going to cry. It's so funny that I
• 29:08
  Speaker 5: was talking about being having come.
• 29:13
  Speaker 4: But yeah, it's it's like a it's oh my god,
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: it's embarrassing.
• 29:18
  Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, obviously it's a sad topic.
• 29:22
  Speaker 4: But he's really good now, Like he's really he's really strong.
• 29:27
  Speaker 5: He's actually already.
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: Lifting other than you waiting for surgery or is it normal?
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: Like everything is well?
• 29:39
  Speaker 4: They tell me like they're they're like, yeah, he can
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: do everything. He needs to check up every year for
• 29:43
  Speaker 4: the rest of his life, and he will need when
• 29:47
  Speaker 4: he's older, like when he goes through puberty, they will
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: need to put another valve in.
• 29:51
  Speaker 5: That's the main thing.
• 29:52
  Speaker 4: But the surgeon seems to think that they won't have
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: to do open heart again, that they can do most
• 29:57
  Speaker 4: of these things via catheter. So I'll always worry, like
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: I'll just always freak out.
• 30:04
  Speaker 5: And he's so active and sometimes I'm like, just chill, chill. Yeah,
• 30:10
  Speaker 5: I just want him.
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: To be a ballet dancer or something. I wanted to
• 30:12
  Speaker 4: be athletic, but like not contact sport. Yeah, And I'm
• 30:16
  Speaker 4: just scared that he was going to want to play rugby.
• 30:19
  Speaker 5: And because there's a famou you.
• 30:21
  Speaker 4: Do know Sean White, the Olympic snowboarder, he has tetralogy
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: A fellow really yeah, so he needed like three open
• 30:27
  Speaker 4: heart surgeries before.
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: The age of five, flying in the air like twenty
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: feet out of our heart.
• 30:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and like he you know, did football, and like
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: they can definitely do apparently whatever other kid does.
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: I will not tell George that George reading.
• 30:46
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm like, You're going to just live with mummy.
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: Like you know, when you go through that traumatic experience
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: as a parent and you come out the other end.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: And we spoke before about the fact that parenting is amazing,
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: but those are moments are matched with moments where it's exhausting,
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: it's relentless, it's so bloody hard. Do you ever get
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: guilt your life? You know? I thought I might lose you.
• 31:12
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and you're pissing me on Yeah, yeah, totally. And
• 31:16
  Speaker 4: then and then that's even harder because I'm like, I'm
• 31:19
  Speaker 4: not even allowed to have the normal.
• 31:22
  Speaker 5: Experience of being pissed off at your kids.
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it does feel like I was it almost the
• 31:28
  Speaker 4: different ways in which I feel I've been robbed emerge
• 31:33
  Speaker 4: like I don't even I wasn't even prepared, Like he's
• 31:36
  Speaker 4: he's not a great sleeper, but only because we are.
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: You know, for the first six months of his life,
• 31:42
  Speaker 4: they said, don't let him cry too much because he
• 31:44
  Speaker 4: might go blue and lose oxygen. And then he has
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: his heart fixed, and they're like, yep, he's good. His
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: heart's like fixed. You can let him scream his head off,
• 31:53
  Speaker 4: but that's a very hard thing for us to do.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: We don't want to do that.
• 31:57
  Speaker 4: So because of that, he just runs rings around us,
• 32:01
  Speaker 4: like we just do whatever he wants. Like yeah, which
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: you know probably isn't good for him. Like, I know
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: that I need to teach him to sleep, and that
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: will require me like dealing with my own anxiety around
• 32:15
  Speaker 4: his health for his own sake.
• 32:17
  Speaker 5: But that's just really hard to do.
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: And yeah, I just feel angry sometimes that I can't
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: even do I can't do that, Like, but yeah, I.
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: Don't know what does a sleep team look like for
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: you guys?
• 32:31
  Speaker 5: Well, just he does what he wants. We kind of
• 32:35
  Speaker 5: cater to that.
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: No, we tried to. You know, he has his stories
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: and his toys and stuff. We're slowly getting him to
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: learn to fall asleep without the boob.
• 32:48
  Speaker 5: But I've fed to sleep just.
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: For every Yeah, it's easy, and you know, I'm like,
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: he's been through.
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: So much, Like I'll give him some titty.
• 32:57
  Speaker 5: Yeah, given the boob when they love It's like who
• 33:00
  Speaker 5: am I to take it from him? And you can
• 33:02
  Speaker 5: always find someone to justify it.
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: But I think every parent. We have another friend who's
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: got a baby that doesn't sleep, and the dad is like,
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: I just can't if the baby's sleeping, Like I've just
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: got to go in there, and you know that you're
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: doing a disservice to the baby. But you're like, we
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: used to rock Marley to sleep every single nap she
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: had and then transition into a car like we were.
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: We gave her like a life of pure luxury and
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: so then when it was time for her to like
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: fend for herself, she was like, yeah, you've You've held
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: my hand every step of the way, and now you
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: can let go.
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: Transition is like it's like handling a explosive.
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: You're like, and you start hating any sound like yeah,
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: the I'm like, if I had.
• 33:45
  Speaker 5: A gone, I would have shot a bunch.
• 33:47
  Speaker 4: Of dogs, like or like someone's doing repairs in the building.
• 33:55
  Speaker 5: I'm like, oh, you're you're plumbing just had to be
• 33:57
  Speaker 5: fixed to.
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: Like my daughter, or like maybe my daughter was having
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: a nap and it would be like the neighbor hated this.
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: I reckon. She just drilled on purpose. I get a call,
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: I'm going to go over there. I'm like, go on, yeah, Like.
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: It gets so Psycho. I was laughing the other day.
• 34:18
  Speaker 4: I mean I'm still in it. Like but with my family.
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: We went to visit my family over Christmas and I
• 34:24
  Speaker 4: was inside having a nap with George, just got him
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: to sleep.
• 34:27
  Speaker 5: He was in a really good nap, and there was
• 34:29
  Speaker 5: a freak do you know.
• 34:30
  Speaker 4: What a whirlyworli is? It was like a mini tornado. Yeah,
• 34:36
  Speaker 4: a freak whirly whirly whipped through my parents seriously, and
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: it lifted all the lawn furniture in the air and
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: a big umbrella and my stepmom tried to grab it
• 34:51
  Speaker 4: and she got all lifted.
• 34:56
  Speaker 5: Seriously. She nearly died.
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: Everyone's screaming and I'm in the room and I come
• 35:00
  Speaker 4: out and I'm like, he just.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: Got to sleep.
• 35:06
  Speaker 8: So it's funny how like psychotic you get, like because
• 35:17
  Speaker 8: I know that, like.
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that it's so precious, especially like a nap. The
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: naps in the day sets you up for what your.
• 35:25
  Speaker 5: Night's going to fucking you think it does, and it's
• 35:27
  Speaker 5: like does it?
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: It does, and.
• 35:30
  Speaker 5: You're like, we have to get on.
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: The schedule again, and then there's just like one noise.
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: You're like, for god, I know, yeah, And.
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: You have no control over anything that you think if
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: you can control nap time and weak windows and stuff.
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: But my parents were over the other day and both
• 35:48
  Speaker 3: kids have been like, didn't up all day. It was
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: like a really big.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: Day for them.
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: My parents came in the late afternoon, so they're excited
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: again because my parents are there, and then they go
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: after sleep.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: My dad's such a gone death, I reckon, so allowed
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: to Yeah. Every five minutes, I'm like shut and he's like,
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: we here to visit you. I'm like, I wish I
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: did it. Now they're away again.
• 36:11
  Speaker 4: It's like they punish you, the parents, like they like
• 36:15
  Speaker 4: seeing us in turmoil.
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: Oh for sure, for sure. I mean they're like, we've
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: done it, now you've got it.
• 36:21
  Speaker 5: And they think we're insane.
• 36:22
  Speaker 4: Like I think they just put us down when we
• 36:25
  Speaker 4: were tired and they just didn't follow all this stuff, whereas.
• 36:28
  Speaker 5: We're like, we actually need five hours before bedtime in
• 36:31
  Speaker 5: order to get the sleep.
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: Pressure.
• 36:35
  Speaker 3: Everyone thinks sleep, everyone think about being yeah, and then.
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: They're looking at Chris and being like, wow, he's such
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: a great father, he's so hands on.
• 36:47
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I guess so. I think there's a bit of
• 36:49
  Speaker 5: that reluctant. I don't know what they're thinking.
• 36:52
  Speaker 4: I think I think I'm such a psycho that they're
• 36:55
  Speaker 4: mostly focused on.
• 37:00
  Speaker 5: I'm still mental, I reckon, if you can't.
• 37:03
  Speaker 9: Tell you, I haven't picked up, just come out of
• 37:08
  Speaker 9: the jungle. So you think I'm coming off the back
• 37:14
  Speaker 9: of April being mental for so many years, and it's
• 37:18
  Speaker 9: completely I feel like, it's.
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: So it's so normal to be like, we're all so
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: hyper sensitive in that mind your way, in the absolute
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: thick of it's got nothing on that you remember that
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: you're like.
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: People people who are in the first years amazing, amazing.
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: But there was also the hell it's like we also
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: we joke a lot. Is like I don't remember, we
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: don't remember. You forget all about this until you have
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: another one, and then you forget all about it all
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: over again.
• 37:49
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean. And also it's like, but I love it,
• 37:53
  Speaker 5: like I'm in hell, but I love it. And it's
• 37:56
  Speaker 5: hard to explain that you.
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: Have produces is like trying to understand it doesn't no parents.
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: When you're like, it's hell, but I've like, but I'm
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: I've acclimatized to it, used to it, and I've got
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: a comfy seat.
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: It becomes You're like, it becomes like your whole hobby,
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: your whole life. You're like this, I actually don't can't
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: see it any other way anymore.
• 38:22
  Speaker 4: I know, And I feel like it's a like you
• 38:26
  Speaker 4: you're passing on like not having kids for me felt
• 38:30
  Speaker 4: a bit like refusing to have your turn in Tiggy,
• 38:34
  Speaker 4: you know, like the kids, yeah are Actually I'm like
• 38:39
  Speaker 4: I've come down an ancestral line of like, you know,
• 38:42
  Speaker 4: I've got a pretty interesting family, like we all do.
• 38:44
  Speaker 4: But like my dad's family, his mum was Aboriginal, his
• 38:48
  Speaker 4: dad was Russian. You know, it's just hectic, and it's
• 38:53
  Speaker 4: just like women for so long have just been like
• 38:57
  Speaker 4: squatting out kids in absurd circumstances, so difficult, and it's
• 39:02
  Speaker 4: just so funny for me to be in like bed
• 39:05
  Speaker 4: ordering uber eats, like no, I don't think I can
• 39:07
  Speaker 4: do it.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: Strategy like don't knock it, don't look me in the eyes.
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: Like my my grandfather's indigenous and he was one of fourteen.
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah fuck did his mum do fourteen? And we've got
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: like two and we're like, don't wake them up?
• 39:22
  Speaker 5: Yeah exactly.
• 39:23
  Speaker 4: And it just felt like it like it's my turn
• 39:25
  Speaker 4: and I just had to do it.
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: I don't know, how are you finding doing it in
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: regards to.
• 39:32
  Speaker 4: Work, It's in some ways it's really good because I
• 39:36
  Speaker 4: used to be so neurotic about putting you know, like
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: I'm going to try this new joke and I get
• 39:42
  Speaker 4: really doubt if it didn't work or whatever.
• 39:43
  Speaker 5: And now it's like fuck it. Like I'm quite free
• 39:45
  Speaker 5: of mind.
• 39:46
  Speaker 4: Like I go, I'm doing bedtime, dinner time, it's bath.
• 39:51
  Speaker 5: And then I have to get in a like uber
• 39:52
  Speaker 5: and go to a gig and I just have to
• 39:54
  Speaker 5: try it.
• 39:55
  Speaker 4: And I think that kind of I don't give a
• 39:57
  Speaker 4: fuck attitude is like helpful.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, as your material change them, it.
• 40:02
  Speaker 4: Has, Yeah, but then you also have a lot of
• 40:05
  Speaker 4: time to think about stuff like I'm lying there with
• 40:07
  Speaker 4: this during nap time, and you have like time to
• 40:10
  Speaker 4: be a bit you know, I can write, Yeah.
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: The things that you didn't maybe, like you might just
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: be walking down the street with your baby and you're
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: like okay, and then you get home and you're like, okay,
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: I'm waiting for the baby to wake up. Way, I'm
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: observing things that happened different now.
• 40:25
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And you're also just rooted in, you know, humanity
• 40:30
  Speaker 4: a bit more Like when I talk to Uber drivers now,
• 40:32
  Speaker 4: it's like we're both like.
• 40:33
  Speaker 5: I love my kids.
• 40:34
  Speaker 4: It's like I fucking love my kid, and it's like
• 40:36
  Speaker 4: you're all The other day was at the airport in
• 40:39
  Speaker 4: Coffs Harbor and I saw this mom and it was
• 40:41
  Speaker 4: so cute her little her girl was coming to Sydney
• 40:44
  Speaker 4: and she had her little Sydney outfit on, like oh
• 40:47
  Speaker 4: you know, little Ara and William's boots and she had
• 40:49
  Speaker 4: a little backpack Sydney. Yeah, it's just so excited and
• 40:54
  Speaker 4: the mom, you know, you could see her saying goodbye
• 40:57
  Speaker 4: to her and it's like, oh, you know, And I
• 40:59
  Speaker 4: really felt that, like, oh my god, they grow up
• 41:01
  Speaker 4: and then they leave, and I just might not have
• 41:03
  Speaker 4: ever observed that before and understood.
• 41:05
  Speaker 5: It's like you you see what roots people to.
• 41:09
  Speaker 4: Or like binds them to the earth, like why they work,
• 41:12
  Speaker 4: why they do these things, like.
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: You do it no greater purpose?
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and you just love and it's fun to show
• 41:19
  Speaker 4: a new human being how to enjoy the world. Like
• 41:22
  Speaker 4: I just think about my son's the experiences he gets
• 41:26
  Speaker 4: will will have in his life, like just even I
• 41:30
  Speaker 4: don't know, waking up on a nice morning and smelling
• 41:33
  Speaker 4: like a nice smell, and I think about him doing that.
• 41:36
  Speaker 5: It makes me happy. First, Yeah, just new.
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: Things like trying to get on their level too, with
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: seeing something for the first time, like when as adults,
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: when I'm like, fucking look that you imagine.
• 41:50
  Speaker 5: Like everything everything.
• 41:53
  Speaker 4: Dropping astard all day and then we're like go to sleep,
• 41:57
  Speaker 4: Go to sleep?
• 41:58
  Speaker 9: Where the.
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: I just want to rainbow? You just tell me a
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: fucking rainbow? You like, go to sleep? Now anything?
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: Is it hard to work at the same pace, like
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: at the moment I laid fringes on. Yeah, speaking to
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: other comedians and they'll do like consecutive shows like ten, fifteen,
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: twenty shows back to back.
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and you're probably talking to the men doing it
• 42:22
  Speaker 4: as well, which is very different. Like I don't actually
• 42:25
  Speaker 4: not to be like I'm the only because I'm not.
• 42:27
  Speaker 4: But I don't know many women who've I'm still breastfeeding
• 42:31
  Speaker 4: and stuff. I don't really know women who've gone back
• 42:33
  Speaker 4: to it in this way. And I'm actually a bit nervous,
• 42:37
  Speaker 4: to be honest, Like I'm excited to do the show
• 42:39
  Speaker 4: and I hope that it's good and people like it,
• 42:42
  Speaker 4: but I'm really scared to do it. Then you can't
• 42:48
  Speaker 4: like when I've done Adelaide and Melbourne. You know, you
• 42:51
  Speaker 4: do your show and then you go home and you
• 42:52
  Speaker 4: think about what worked and didn't work, and you can
• 42:54
  Speaker 4: really like put that time into it and I just can't.
• 42:58
  Speaker 5: I mean I can. I'll have to find.
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: Ways to do that to keep my little human alive exactly.
• 43:03
  Speaker 5: It's just that there will be balancing and.
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: I hope that's okay, you'll take him.
• 43:08
  Speaker 5: Yeah. So luckily Chris has been able to take time
• 43:10
  Speaker 5: off work so I can tour and stuff.
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: Wow, ok, yeah cool, Yeah, I know.
• 43:16
  Speaker 5: Crazily. I'm the bread winner and I'm a comedian. It's
• 43:19
  Speaker 5: like not, it's not normal.
• 43:22
  Speaker 4: I remember when I realized I needed money to It's
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: a really crazy but I realized. I was at the
• 43:32
  Speaker 4: Now salon and this rich woman was talking to me
• 43:36
  Speaker 4: and I said, oh, yeah, I'm thinking about having a baby.
• 43:38
  Speaker 4: We started talking and she said, oh, what do you do?
• 43:41
  Speaker 4: And I said I'm a comedian and she went.
• 43:46
  Speaker 5: And she said what does your partner do? And I
• 43:49
  Speaker 5: said he's a social worker, and she went like she
• 43:53
  Speaker 5: could not hide her disdain.
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: You're working in like, I don't know, as an avatar,
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: or like killing animals entertain people.
• 44:07
  Speaker 5: Yeah, an avatar at least has a regular paycheck.
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: Say you're a frustration a dead animal.
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: I think the work is admirable.
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: On your side.
• 44:20
  Speaker 5: I don't think she meant it was not admirable.
• 44:22
  Speaker 4: I think she was just like, what are you going
• 44:24
  Speaker 4: to do for money? You have a it's not a
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: real thing to do.
• 44:28
  Speaker 5: And she's not wrong.
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: You're proving her, proving her wrong.
• 44:32
  Speaker 5: That's true. That's true.
• 44:34
  Speaker 4: I have done well And if people just want to
• 44:35
  Speaker 4: keep buying tickets, that would be really good.
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: Put some information in the show notes.
• 44:40
  Speaker 5: Definitely, Yeah, please.
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: Or two questions. Okay, I know that it's still early days,
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: like you're still with a newborn, so maybe way too
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: premature to ask this question, but will you go a second? Yeah?
• 44:53
  Speaker 5: I would love to.
• 44:54
  Speaker 4: I feel like it would be very healing to go
• 44:56
  Speaker 4: through the process and hopefully not have something go, you know,
• 45:01
  Speaker 4: the health thing or fucked if it happens again.
• 45:04
  Speaker 5: It's not a gen anything, it's just a freak accident.
• 45:07
  Speaker 5: But I would love to.
• 45:09
  Speaker 4: I just don't know how. We don't have family in town.
• 45:12
  Speaker 4: It feels like we're just handballing him back and forth.
• 45:14
  Speaker 4: We haven't nanny once a week. Day Care could be
• 45:17
  Speaker 4: life changing, and it is. I used to be like
• 45:19
  Speaker 4: no daycare, and now I'm like, what about daycare?
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: Honestly, I think like I think we waited.
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: We waited till Marley was like definitely beyond twelve months. Yeah,
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: we put her in for a couple of days a
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: week and we just, yeah, you.
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: Don't know yourself.
• 45:34
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm thinking eighteen months two days a week.
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: We change.
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: We forget that.
• 45:39
  Speaker 3: It's like the stimulation that they get to like it
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: might be like feel like I'm just off boarding.
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: It's to someone else, but they have so much.
• 45:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah, new toys, and he does come alive with other people,
• 45:51
  Speaker 4: like he gets bored of me and then loves.
• 45:54
  Speaker 5: He'll be grizzly and then we go out and he's
• 45:55
  Speaker 5: like weaving and.
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: Everyone and then just do so much with Yeah. It's
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: you know, and there's other kids doing the same ship.
• 46:02
  Speaker 5: So I think I am thinking.
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: The waiting lists in Sydney are pretty extream, So we're
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: just going to add to totally.
• 46:10
  Speaker 4: I should I think once I have a little and
• 46:13
  Speaker 4: you know, once he gets at the moment, we're just
• 46:15
  Speaker 4: still definitely in the trenches of like totally it's just
• 46:18
  Speaker 4: physically hard.
• 46:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but you mentioned we handball, Yeah, and it's every
• 46:24
  Speaker 3: couples doing the same thing. We're like, you know, like
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: you taking for now and get some rare a lot
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: of families going through all that. But when you when
• 46:33
  Speaker 3: you have two, it does become a bit more difficult.
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: But then they sort of go together.
• 46:37
  Speaker 5: I know, and you kind of need you need. You
• 46:41
  Speaker 5: can't play a ball game without four people.
• 46:44
  Speaker 4: You kind of need two kids, two adults for family holidays.
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: You can't play with three. But it's a bit ship.
• 46:50
  Speaker 5: Yeah, it is a bit and the dynamics wrong.
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: It has to be two kids ganging up on the parents,
• 46:54
  Speaker 4: like totally.
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: It's even then.
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I've got my nieces.
• 46:58
  Speaker 3: She's an only child child, and I think there will
• 47:01
  Speaker 3: be the case. So I'm just like reluctant.
• 47:03
  Speaker 5: Oh no, I mean I'm an only child technically.
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: Winning thoughts and prayers with winning.
• 47:08
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm an.
• 47:10
  Speaker 4: Only child technically, but I do have two half sisters,
• 47:15
  Speaker 4: but you know, we didn't grow up together, so I
• 47:18
  Speaker 4: very much identify as an only child.
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, my kids, like they just bicker.
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we will caveat that. Previous conversation is the only
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: children are great, and they are fantastic.
• 47:30
  Speaker 4: I think they are cameras.
• 47:35
  Speaker 5: I think they take on a lot.
• 47:36
  Speaker 4: As an only child, you take on like you're very
• 47:39
  Speaker 4: aware of your parents' sonamkers when you have a sibling,
• 47:42
  Speaker 4: you're in your own Yeah, And I do get sad
• 47:45
  Speaker 4: sometimes because I think there is no one in the
• 47:48
  Speaker 4: entire world who knows what it's like to have my mum.
• 47:51
  Speaker 5: No one, you know, you can know her, but no
• 47:54
  Speaker 5: one will know what it's like to be raised.
• 47:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Whereas now with half sisters, we can talk about
• 47:59
  Speaker 4: my dad or whatever. And that is a novel experience
• 48:02
  Speaker 4: to have other people yea, being parented by my dad
• 48:06
  Speaker 4: whereas yeah.
• 48:13
  Speaker 5: Where are you going with this? Is this just in
• 48:15
  Speaker 5: a trail off?
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: I don't know if that sort of picked up a
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: bust is.
• 48:19
  Speaker 5: Like listen, Nick Cody was a lot more.
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: One more question I have for you, Becky. When George
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: is all grown up, yes, he's no longer living at home.
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: If that time does come, who knows is the one
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: thing you would want him to remember about the house
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: that he grew up in.
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 48:41
  Speaker 4: I just want him to remember like comfort and like
• 48:46
  Speaker 4: nice moments which his dad's really good at making, like
• 48:50
  Speaker 4: he really he knows, like Saturday morning, let's make pancakes
• 48:53
  Speaker 4: and put nice music on, and like coziness is such
• 48:56
  Speaker 4: a nice thing. And I also want him to feel
• 48:59
  Speaker 4: understand good. I want him to feel like, well, we've
• 49:02
  Speaker 4: really listened to him and made the effort to like
• 49:07
  Speaker 4: understand where he's coming from and his life.
• 49:10
  Speaker 5: And yeah, I don't know.
• 49:12
  Speaker 4: My parents can never remember my friend's names, and I
• 49:16
  Speaker 4: find that so frustrating. And it's like, I just want
• 49:18
  Speaker 4: to remember everything about his life, even if he finds
• 49:21
  Speaker 4: it over Mary.
• 49:23
  Speaker 5: I want to be an overbearing mom. I do. I
• 49:26
  Speaker 5: think it's nice.
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: I've really spoken for an hour, but it sounds to
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: me that you are a great mom and you have
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: a great partner who's also a great dads. So well done.
• 49:35
  Speaker 5: Thanks, thank you, that's really nice.
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: Thank you for spending some time with us.
• 49:39
  Speaker 5: Loved it, didn't I didn't know. I actually really love
• 49:41
  Speaker 5: hanging out.
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: With you guys. Thank you. Any chat about calm, I'm
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: all about.
• 49:46
  Speaker 4: I was a bit nervous, like, yeah, it's weird walking
• 49:49
  Speaker 4: into someone else's dynamic, But I think we've really got
• 49:52
  Speaker 4: a long guy's I think just if you want to
• 49:55
  Speaker 4: analyze how this.
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: Went, if you can come back anytime, you lie, I
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: can't come was like.
• 50:03
  Speaker 8: Can I come back?
• 50:05
  Speaker 4: It's also so fun to have permission to speak freely
• 50:08
  Speaker 4: about parenting because you know when you are at a
• 50:10
  Speaker 4: party and you there's people who aren't parents, and then
• 50:13
  Speaker 4: you are having a parenting chat and someone, a non
• 50:16
  Speaker 4: parenting person comes over and you're so yeah, you're so
• 50:20
  Speaker 4: self conscious about how boring you're being.
• 50:23
  Speaker 5: This podcast is really boring.
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: Non parents. Yeah, and you can see someone just like slowly.
• 50:33
  Speaker 3: We a lot of non parent listeners though or not
• 50:36
  Speaker 3: like some people are like, oh, it's my favorite podcast.
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: I have kids. Man, Well you're weird. Love you, Thank
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: you again.
• 50:46
  Speaker 4: No, thanks a lot, and and goodbye and at a point,
• 50:52
  Speaker 4: thanks guys, thank you.
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: Fun fact, we've had two guests that.
• 51:02
  Speaker 3: Have appeared on Cony now in this podcast.
• 51:04
  Speaker 2: Don't tell me who the other person was.
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: Who was it was?
• 51:11
  Speaker 3: It is Nick Cody, Nick Cody and Becky Lucas, which
• 51:15
  Speaker 3: is great for Australian comedy.
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: Both absolutely hairy, both absolutely hilarious. And if you found
• 51:24
  Speaker 2: Becky hilarious, anythink maybe I want to go see her
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: stand up. We have great news. You can see her
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: touring a new show. Things have changed, but the essence
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: remains all around the country. Tickets can be found in
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: the show notes.
• 51:37
  Speaker 3: That's that's an amazing name for a show. I will
• 51:41
  Speaker 3: just say.
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: That I like it very deep, Yes, mysterious.
• 51:44
  Speaker 3: Now, if you're listening, get out there and supporting you mum,
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: let me help her get back to work back on stage.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: And if you've enjoyed this episode, help us say it work.
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: Just help us. You can subscribe, review, give us a
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: few stars for you comments on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: follow us on social media tikt off, Instagram and Facebook.
• 52:04
  Speaker 2: We have a group there as well. And if there's
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: any guests that you would like us to interview, moms
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: or dads, anyone you may find interesting or hilarious, let
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: us know.
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: Until next time.
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  Speaker 6: Bye.
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: Two Doting Dads podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country
• 52:26
  Speaker 2: throughout Australia and the connections to land, see and community.
• 52:30
  Speaker 3: We pay our respects to their elders past and present
• 52:33
  Speaker 3: and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torrestraight Islander
• 52:36
  Speaker 3: peoples today