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Military Desertion, 8-Hour Interrogations & Sleeping Rough: My Path from Ghana to Cambodia · Babes, how did you get here

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  that this is always on my mind and even when I'm not here, my spirit is here and just
• 0:04
  earn your respect in that way. But ultimately, if they don't care about my vision,
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  when I'm at home doing bedtime and they're having to still keep the the shit running,
• 0:15
  no one's going to care. Exactly. And so like the whole babes gave them like still the
• 0:21
  harshness of the message, but removing the harshness. So the seriousness was left. But it was still
• 0:26
  love. And the point is, I had so many young people. My first team, there were all like 15,
• 0:31
  16. Oh my god. They didn't know anything about anything, but I loved working with people that
• 0:35
  were so fresh because again, there was no pushback because they knew that they didn't know anything.
• 0:40
  You get like experience chefs, they're going to tell you, oh, this is how we do it in my kitchen.
• 0:45
  There's I don't care. Like, respectfully, I don't actually care. I just wanted this way, please.
• 0:49
  And so like most of my chefs started as kitchen portals. And again, it's that teaching and like,
• 0:56
  making sure they're learning it your way, being clear, keeping your head in the game,
• 1:00
  even when you want to fly off. And I didn't know, but now that's like my children, basically.
• 1:06
  Yeah. My my work team were my kids, but they were my first kids. It's amazing how like food
• 1:11
  plays a big role in in general in life. So nursing, I did nutrition and dietetics.
• 1:19
  Okay. In general nursing. So you do all the things anatomy and physiology, psychology,
• 1:24
  nutrition, dietetics. So there I learned a bit about food and nutrition and my diet changed.
• 1:30
  Okay. Pretty much. So people are like, man, it's suffocating genetics. Like you never get fat or
• 1:36
  and when I lose in doubt and I was cooking for my wife every day when she was, I got fat with her.
• 1:42
  What are you talking about? Because she was craving different things. You know, I just make them.
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  I couldn't say no, but yeah. Then I ended up in nursing.
• 1:56
  Nursing taught me about the pharmaceutical industry. Things I didn't know.
• 2:02
  Yes. Until I realized that every time I saved a pharmaceutical to somebody, their head
• 2:09
  was going off, but their liver and their kidneys were getting ripped. And this I didn't like.
• 2:15
  This was another reason why I decided to not be a part of that kind of movement.
• 2:23
  Now I did nutrition and dietetics, but then as a fitness instructor. Okay. So I dived
• 2:31
  from what we call it, curative health, where the problem is already caused.
• 2:38
  Right. And then you just cure it. Right.
• 2:41
  Not caring about the side effect or whatever of the drugs you just cure it.
• 2:46
  To more preventive health. Yeah. So people are like, oh, why did you decide to do personal training
• 2:52
  and stuff like that? Sure. I have the certificate. I actually got them like not too long the
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  goal as a certified personal trainer and then certified nutritionist, advisor for health.
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  But then the thing is, when I was doing the nutrition, then I realized all the things that you
• 3:09
  put in food, how they affect you mentally, how they are. And this is the reason why I would wake
• 3:15
  up every day, go get fresh stuff, cook for my family. Yes. This I will not miss. Oh, your babies
• 3:20
  in good hands, babes. It was a little bit big part of like agreeing to like stay home.
• 3:28
  You know, like, okay, somebody should, should not be ordering all those snacks. Yep.
• 3:35
  And I've realized there's been a big cut off on sweets and snacks after I took over the kitchen.
• 3:42
  Okay. So now it's coconut water. Love it. Rather than like all the other drinks and other stuff.
• 3:48
  And those juices are sneaky. And the fruits are the snacks. And the breakfast is homemade yogurt and nuts.
• 3:57
  It's there's nothing out of that and the other dishes are the bunch of the side dishes
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  all from fermented vegetables and stuff like that. Yeah. So for that, I'm happy that I'm
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  able to do that. And yeah, I hope that my family enjoys the kind of dishes that I make.
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  But yeah. Yep. Yep. One time. If you're alive for the postcard, what would the picture look like?
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  Very chaotic. Very uncertain. Okay. I would say young age, my sister's, I would say my nephew died.
• 4:35
  Okay. From your sister's child. Yes. I was super young. I had just finished senior high school waiting
• 4:43
  for my result to go to the university. Right. And then she died. He died. And then the cause was
• 4:53
  religious because there is a religion that says that you do not do blood transfusion. I don't
• 5:00
  want to mention names. Okay. I understand. Yes. And so your sister practiced that religion. No, my
• 5:05
  sister's then boyfriend, then the boyfriend practiced that religion. So then there was delay in
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  like blood transfusion. Sure. Maybe passed away. We had taken care of this baby for five years already.
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  Did your sister and the boyfriend stay together? No, it will never happen. My sister will never
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  agree on that. Okay. So this happened. Then at that moment, I told my dad if I could be a doctor.
• 5:32
  Okay. And be that doctor who gives blood transfusion without giving a shit just to save the life
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  after that you go home and deal with your religion. Right. Right. Cause the life was more important
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  than anything. So that was when I got engineering five years old. And with this, it was hours and
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  hours of this baby being on our shoulders, taking care of him, like everything. Like he was literally
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  solid pillar of the family. Right. So yeah, that was it. That would be one part of the postcard. Sure.
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  That moment where like I decided, Hey, I would be a doctor if this is the case. And because I
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  couldn't be a doctor, because I did general arts. Okay. Government, history, literature and
• 6:19
  language. Okay. And you needed to do sciences. Right. But then the only place I could do
• 6:25
  divot too was nursing because it's more like caregiving. Right. So then I said, okay,
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  then I will do nursing. Right. So then I went into doing nursing. Right after nursing,
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  I was like, what is the next point of like upgrading myself? And it was just, okay,
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  you're doing the military for six months and then you're getting double salary. Okay. And I can
• 6:49
  and you didn't calculate the 25 years of your life. But then also that's a long time. That's
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  a long, that's your whole life. I've never heard of this before because you have to join the army
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  when after only after you're 18. Okay. So yeah. So yeah, I did that, enjoyed it. It was a childhood
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  dream because I, but then fortunately, I didn't shoot any guns or stuff like that. And then I
• 7:14
  also was able to take care of people in nursing also opened my eyes a little bit to like how big
• 7:22
  farmer is playing a big role because I, after four years, I realized the lesson that I did was more like
• 7:30
  somebody comes in, you ask them, what is wrong with you? They tell you whatever is wrong with them.
• 7:35
  You go to the lab, you take a sample, you do the diagnostic test to confirm, you know what is
• 7:41
  wrong, but then you give them medicine for all the signs and symptoms. Right. Rather than going back
• 7:46
  to the national, there was not national, what do we call natural ways of treating those things.
• 7:51
  A little bit of sunlight, more water, rest, eating healthy, stuff like that, cleaning your environment.
• 7:57
  That was out of the window. There was always we are selling you some drugs. Right. So they say that
• 8:03
  if your doctor is not asking you about how you're moving, exercising, watch your eating and your
• 8:09
  sleep partying, it is a drug dealer. Yeah. He's not a doctor. Yeah. Right. So this has been my eyes
• 8:14
  and that would be another part of that. And then I became very okay. I'm tired of doing this. I'm
• 8:21
  feeling guilty a bit. I'm getting tired of that every day. Yes, sir. Yes, sir. Yes, sir. Yes,
• 8:27
  sir. All the time uniform to uniform. Okay. Let me put some art because in what we call it during
• 8:36
  the war times, there was no art. Right. And then art grew up after war because then people were
• 8:42
  had things their hands, but didn't know what to do with it. So they turned into like creative things.
• 8:46
  Okay, let me do some art. I picked up a camera and then it became. Oh, wow. With the camera,
• 8:52
  I can see the rest of the world. That would be another side of the postcard. Right. And then
• 8:57
  seeing another part of the world out of curiosity and having a camera was like, Oh, okay, your past
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  what is missing? So now photography becomes a survival thing. Right. No, so I do the survival thing
• 9:11
  for a couple of years until I the survival ends and then all of a sudden my wife comes in.
• 9:19
  And I will just say this, but thanks to my wife, I'm able to say no to things I don't want,
• 9:24
  to jobs I don't want. Yeah, my wife will say I would pay you that. You just stay with me.
• 9:32
  Sure. Seriously, don't go for it. Every yes you're saying kind of devalues without you being
• 9:39
  happy of saying that yes, devalues your craft as an art. So thanks to my wife, I'm able to say
• 9:45
  very positive notes on my chest. But well, at first a few years ago, I would say yes just because
• 9:52
  I want to make that cash. I don't want to miss it. Yeah. You know, so yeah, that will be that part
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  of the postcard and then the next part will be breaking up with my ex girlfriend who is now my wife.
• 10:11
  And then realizing that oh, there is money enough to do. A lady will be attracted to somebody if
• 10:19
  they have a certain kind of life, right? Because trust me, working in the tattoo shop, I was living
• 10:24
  upstairs of the tattoo shop. Okay. Because I didn't want to pay lots of money on rent. I was the
• 10:29
  saving saving saving. So yeah, I took that chance. I was leaving. But then I realized that was
• 10:35
  hindering a certain part of my life from developing that is being like full-grown man taking responsibility,
• 10:40
  having a place to, you know, you want to have a dog, you have to have a nice place to keep it. So
• 10:46
  you want to have a girlfriend, you have to have a boat, you have to have a home, nice place,
• 10:50
  stuff like that. And I wasn't thinking of all this because I wasn't thinking of having to go. So now
• 10:55
  breaking up with my wife, I took the chance. Okay, this is a period of self-development. Take the pain,
• 11:00
  land from it. So I got my own place. I cleaned it up nicely. I went to the gym. Make sure I'm healthy.
• 11:08
  I started eating healthy more, looking good, taking care of my health and face and everything.
• 11:14
  Like I'm Batman. So when she met me again, I was a completely different person, right? Now she
• 11:20
  could visit my apartment. We could go out on dates, like things like this, you know. So that would be
• 11:26
  another part of the postcard. And then the next part will be telling my wife, telling the parents,
• 11:32
  my parents-in-law that, hey, I'm with this person. And then they're like, okay, take your time,
• 11:38
  at least know him for two years. Okay. And then the next month period doesn't come. And now we have
• 11:44
  to go back and tell them that we are sorry. We cannot take your advice because you're ready.
• 11:51
  Goodness. How did they take the news? My mother-in-law was pretty quiet, which is understandable. She's
• 11:59
  a mom who cares for the daughter. So it's really, really understandable. And I had to like, you know,
• 12:04
  build the trust gradually. My father-in-law, very religious, Christian, and very like open,
• 12:13
  travel a little bit. So he was like, okay, you're going to be fine. We will care for you,
• 12:20
  just be ambitious and work on your goals, support each other. So it kicked off, I was lucky, yeah,
• 12:26
  to be honest. So that would be another phase of the postcard. And then the phase where I call
• 12:34
  like opportunities after meeting my wife, like so many doors have opened for me. Like I can travel
• 12:40
  to Korea now just because I have like a half-year-old kid without applying for visas, stuff like that,
• 12:46
  yeah? Literally. Okay. You know, for a couple of years, and then I just renew it for more years.
• 12:52
  So, and the job opportunity there, I just met a guy who owns a suit company, actually supplies
• 12:59
  for big brands, who just set up his own company as like a flagship store kind of. So now he's also
• 13:07
  aside the company itself producing, now he's also making his own brand, where I could be a model,
• 13:14
  I could be a photographer, I could be a videographer, and I could be managing his social media,
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  which are all these things I have done just in survival phase. So do you guys move to Korea?
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  We're not thinking of it. Okay. And I'm thinking of doing one week in Korea to make the money. Okay.
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  Move back here, spend beneath my means, save up. Okay. So that is the plan, because my wife's job,
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  we don't know where we're going to be. Okay. United Nations, we can go anywhere. So yeah, that
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  will be how messy I told you the first card. The first card is like from Germany to Australia,
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  to France, to Korea, to wherever, you know. But yeah, that has been life so far.
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  Thank you very much for sharing it with me. Thank you.
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  Thank you.
• 14:23
  And they're having to still keep the ship running. No one's going to care.
• 14:26
  Exactly. And so like the whole babe gave them like still the the harshness of the message,
• 14:33
  but removing the harshness. So the seriousness was left. But it was still love. And the point is,
• 14:38
  I had so many young people. My first team, there were all like 15 16. Oh my god. They didn't know
• 14:43
  anything about anything. But I loved working with people that were so fresh because again,
• 14:48
  there was no pushback because they knew that they didn't know anything. You get like experience
• 14:52
  chefs. They're going to tell you, oh, this is how we do it in my kitchen. Bays, I don't care.
• 14:57
  Like respectfully, I don't actually care. I just wanted this way, please. And so like most of my
• 15:02
  chefs started as a kitchen portals. And again, it's that teaching and like making sure they're
• 15:07
  learning it your way, being clear, keeping your head in the game, even when you want to fly off.
• 15:12
  And I didn't know. But now that's like my children basically. Yeah. My my work team were my kids,
• 15:19
  they were my first kids. It's amazing how like food plays a big role in in generally in life.
• 15:26
  So nursing, I did nutrition and dietetics. Okay. In general nursing. So you do all the things
• 15:33
  anatomy and physiology, psychology, nutrition and dietetics. So there I learned a bit about
• 15:38
  food and nutrition and my diet changed. Okay. Pretty much. So people are like, man, it's
• 15:43
  suffocating genetics. Like you never get fat. And when I lose in dub and I was cooking for my wife
• 15:50
  every day when she was, I got fat with her. What are you talking about? The question was craving
• 15:55
  different things. I just make them like I can't say no, but yeah. Then I ended up in nursing.
• 16:06
  Hmm. Nursing taught me about the pharmaceutical industry. Right. Things I didn't know. Yes. Until
• 16:13
  I realized that every time I saved paracetamol to somebody their headache was going off, but their
• 16:21
  levers and their kidneys were getting ripped. And this I didn't like. This was there. Another reason
• 16:28
  why I decided to not be a part of that kind of movement. Now I did nutrition and dietetics, but
• 16:36
  then as a fitness instructor. Okay. So I dived from what do we call it? Curative health,
• 16:47
  where the problem is already caused by and then you just cure it by not caring about the side
• 16:53
  effect or whatever of the drugs you just cure to more preventive health. Yeah. So people are like,
• 17:01
  oh, why did you decide to do like personal training and stuff like that? Sure. I have the
• 17:06
  certificate. I actually got them like not too long ago as a pacified personal trainer and then
• 17:11
  certified nutritionist. Okay. Advisor for health. But then the thing is when I was doing the
• 17:17
  nutrition, then I realized all the things that you put in food, how they affect you mentally,
• 17:23
  how they are. And this is the reason why I would wake up every day, go get fresh stuff, cook
• 17:29
  for my family. Yes. This I will not miss. Oh, your baby is in good hands, babe.
• 17:35
  It was a little bit big part of like agreeing to like stay home. You know, like, okay, I
• 17:41
  somebody should should not be ordering all those snacks. Yeah. And I've realized there's been a
• 17:47
  big cut off on sweets and snacks after I took over the kitchen. Okay. So now it's coconut water.
• 17:55
  Love it. Rather than like all the other drinks and other stuff. And those juices are sneaky.
• 18:01
  And the fruits are the snacks. And the breakfast is homemade yogurt and nuts. It's there's nothing
• 18:09
  out of that. And the other dishes are the bunch of the side dishes all from fermented vegetables
• 18:15
  and stuff like that. Yeah. So for that, I'm happy that I'm able to do that. And yeah, I hope that my
• 18:21
  family enjoys the kind of dishes that I make. But yeah. Yep. Yep. Yep. Sometimes if your life was
• 18:30
  a postcard, what would the picture look like? Very chaotic. Very uncertain. Okay. I would say
• 18:41
  young age, my sister's, I would say my nephew died from your sister's child. Yes. I was super
• 18:51
  young. I had just finished senior high school waiting for my result to go to the university. Right.
• 18:57
  And then she died. He died. And then the course was religious because there is a religion that
• 19:08
  says that you do not do blood transfusion. I don't want to mention names. Okay. I understand.
• 19:13
  Yes. And so your sister practiced that religion? No. My sister's then boyfriend, then the boyfriend
• 19:20
  practiced that religion. So then there was delay in like blood transfusion. Sure. Maybe passed away.
• 19:26
  We had taken care of this baby for five years already. Did your sister and the boyfriend stay
• 19:31
  together? No, it will never happen. My sister will never even agree on that. Okay. So this happened
• 19:37
  then at that moment, I told my dad if I could be a doctor. Okay. And be that doctor who gives
• 19:46
  blood transfusion without giving a shit just to save the life after that you go home and deal with
• 19:50
  your religion. Right. Because the life was more important than anything. So that was when I got
• 19:57
  into nursing five years old. Five. And with this, it was hours and hours of this baby being on
• 20:05
  our shoulders taking care of him like everything. Like he was literally solid pillar of the family.
• 20:15
  So yeah, that was, that would be one part of the postcard. Sure. That moment where like I decided,
• 20:22
  hey, I would be a doctor if this is the case. And because I couldn't be a doctor because I did
• 20:26
  general arts, government, history, literature and language. Okay. And you needed to do sciences.
• 20:32
  I needed to do sciences. Right. So but then the only place I could do that too was nursing. Right.
• 20:38
  Because it's more like caregiving. Right. So then I said, okay, then I'll do nursing. Right.
• 20:42
  So then I went into doing nursing. Right after nursing, I was like, what is the next point of like
• 20:49
  upgrading myself? And it was just, okay, you're doing the military for six months. And then you're
• 20:57
  getting double salary. Okay. And I can save. And you didn't calculate the 25 years of your life.
• 21:02
  I didn't calculate that. But then also a long time. That's a long that's your whole life. I've
• 21:06
  never heard of this before. Because you have to join the army when after only after you're 18. So
• 21:12
  yeah. So yeah, I did that. Enjoy it. It was a childhood dream because I, but then fortunately,
• 21:21
  I didn't shoot any guns or stuff like that. And then I also was able to take care of
• 21:27
  people in nursing. Also opened my eyes a little bit to like how big farmer is playing a big role.
• 21:35
  Because that I after four years, I realized the lesson that I did was more like
• 21:40
  somebody comes in, you ask them, what is wrong with you? Right. They tell you whatever is wrong with
• 21:45
  them. You go to the lab, you take a sample, you do the diagnostic test to confirm, you know what is
• 21:52
  wrong. But then you give them medicine for all the science and symptoms. Right. Rather than going
• 21:56
  back to the national, there was not not national, what do we call natural ways of treating those
• 22:01
  things. A little bit of sunlight, more water, rest, eating healthy, stuff like that, cleaning
• 22:07
  your environment. That was out of the window. There was always we are selling you some drugs.
• 22:13
  Right. So they say that if your doctor is not asking you about how you're moving, exercising,
• 22:18
  watch your eating and your sleep partying, it is a drug dealer. Yeah. He's not a doctor. Yeah.
• 22:23
  Right. So this has been my eyes and that would be another part of the
• 22:28
  and then I became very okay. I'm tired of doing this. I'm feeling guilty a bit. I'm getting tired
• 22:35
  of the everyday yes, sir, yes, sir, yes, sir, all the time uniform to uniform. Okay.
• 22:42
  Let me put some art because in what we call it during the war times, there was no art. And then
• 22:49
  art grew up after war because then people were hard to think their hands but didn't know what to do
• 22:55
  with it. So they turned into like creative things. Okay, let me do some art. I picked up a camera
• 23:00
  and then it became, oh wow, with the camera, I can see the rest of the world. That would be another
• 23:06
  side of the postcard. Right. And then seeing another part of the world out of curiosity and
• 23:10
  having a camera, I was like, oh, okay, your past world is missing. So now photography becomes a
• 23:17
  survival thing. Right. No, so I do the survival thing for a couple of years until
• 23:25
  I the survival ends and then all of a sudden my wife comes in. And I would just say this but
• 23:32
  thanks to my wife, I'm able to say no to things I don't want, to jobs I don't want.
• 23:37
  Yeah, that's a privilege. My wife will say, I would pay you that. You just stay with me.
• 23:42
  Sure. Like seriously, don't go for it. Every yes you're saying kind of devalues without you being
• 23:49
  happy of saying that yes devalues your craft as an art. So thanks to my wife, I'm able to say
• 23:56
  very positive notes on my chest. But at first a few years ago, I would say yes just because I
• 24:03
  want to make that cash. I don't want to miss it. Yeah. You know, so yeah, that will be that part of
• 24:10
  the postcard. And then the next part will be breaking up with my ex girlfriend who is now my wife.
• 24:21
  And then realizing that, oh, there is money enough to do. Lady will be attracted to somebody if
• 24:29
  they have a setting kind of life, right? Because trust me, working in the tattoo shop, I was living
• 24:35
  upstairs of the tattoo shop. Okay. Because I didn't want to pay lots of money on rent. I was the
• 24:40
  saving saving saving. So yeah, I took that chance. I was leaving. But then I realized that was
• 24:46
  hindering a certain part of my life from developing that is being like full grown man taking responsibility,
• 24:51
  having a place to, you know, you want to have a dog, you have to have a nice place to keep it.
• 24:57
  So you want to have a girlfriend, you have to have a boat, you have to have a home, nice place,
• 25:01
  stuff like that. And I wasn't thinking of all this because I wasn't thinking of having to go. So now
• 25:06
  breaking up with my wife, I took the chance. Okay, this is a period of self development. Take the pain,
• 25:11
  land from it. So I got my own place. I cleaned it up nicely. I went to the gym. Make sure I'm healthy.
• 25:19
  I started eating healthy more, looking good, taking care of my health and face and everything.
• 25:25
  Like I'm Batman. So when she met me again, I was a completely different person, right? Now she
• 25:31
  could visit my apartment. We could go out on dates, like things like this. You know, so that would be
• 25:37
  another part of the postcard. And then the next part will be telling my wife, telling the parents,
• 25:43
  my parents in law that, hey, I'm with this person. And then they're like, okay, take your time,
• 25:49
  at least know him for two years. Okay. And then the next month period doesn't come. And now we have
• 25:55
  to go back and tell them that we are sorry, we cannot take your advice because you're ready.
• 26:02
  Goodness. How did they take the news?
• 26:06
  Um, my mother-in-law was pretty quiet, which is understandable. She's a mom cares for the daughter.
• 26:11
  So it's really, really understandable. And I had to like, you know, build the trust gradually.
• 26:18
  My father-in-law, very religious, Christian, so, and very like open, travel a little bit.
• 26:25
  Yeah. So he was like, okay, you're going to be fine. We will care for you, just be ambitious and
• 26:32
  work on your goals, support each other. So it kicked off, I was lucky, yeah, to be honest.
• 26:39
  So that would be another phase of the postcard. And then the phase where I call like opportunities,
• 26:46
  after meeting my wife, like so many doors have opened for me. Like, I can travel to Korea now,
• 26:51
  just because I have like a half-year-old kid without applying for visas. That's like that, yeah.
• 26:58
  Literally. Okay. You know, for a couple of years, and then I just renew it. Right.
• 27:02
  For more years. So, and the job opportunity there, I just met a guy who owns a suit company. Okay.
• 27:09
  Actually supplies for big brands. Right. Who just set up his own company as like a flagship store
• 27:16
  kind of. Right. So now he's also aside the company itself producing. Now he's also making his own
• 27:21
  brand. Right. Where I could be a model. Right. I could be a photographer. I could be a videographer.
• 27:29
  And I could be managing his social media, which are all these things I have done just in survival
• 27:35
  phase. So do you guys move to Korea? We're not thinking of it. Okay. And I'm thinking of doing one
• 27:41
  week in Korea. Okay. To make the money. Okay. Move back here. Right. Spend beneath my means. Right.
• 27:47
  Save up. Okay. So that is the plan. Because my wife's job, we don't know where we're going to be.
• 27:52
  Okay. United Nations. We can go anywhere. Right. So yeah, that would be how messy. I love
• 27:58
  the postcard. The postcard is like from Germany to Australia to France to Korea to wherever.
• 28:05
  You know. But yeah, that has been life so far. Thank you very much for sharing it with me.
• 28:11
  Thank you. Yeah.
• 28:13
  Yeah.
• 28:15
  Yeah.
• 28:17
  Yeah.
• 28:19
  Yeah.
• 28:34
  Time. And they're having to still keep the shit running. No one's going to care. Exactly. And so like the
• 28:40
  whole babe gave them like still the the harshness of the message but removing the harshness. So the
• 28:46
  seriousness was left. But it was still love. And the point is I had so many young people. My first
• 28:52
  team, there were all like 15, 16. Oh my god. They didn't know anything about anything. But I
• 28:56
  loved working with people that were so fresh because again, there was no pushback because they knew
• 29:01
  that they didn't know anything. Yeah. You get like experienced chefs. They're going to tell you
• 29:06
  oh, this is how we do it in my kitchen. There's I don't care. Like respectfully. I don't actually
• 29:10
  care. I just wanted this way. Please. And so like most of my chefs started as kitchen portas
• 29:16
  and again, it's that teaching and like making sure they're learning it your way, being clear,
• 29:21
  keeping your head in the game, even when you want to fly off. And I didn't know. But now
• 29:26
  that's like my children basically. Yeah. My my work team were my kids, but they're my first kids.
• 29:32
  It's amazing how like food plays a big role in in generally in life. So nursing, I did nutrition
• 29:41
  and dietetics. Okay. In general nursing. So you do all the things anatomy and physiology,
• 29:46
  psychology and nutrition and dietetics. So there I learned a bit about food and nutrition and my
• 29:52
  diet changed. Okay. Pretty much. So people are like, man, it's African genetics. Like you never
• 29:57
  get fat or fat. And when I lose in dub and I was cooking for my wife every day when she was,
• 30:03
  I got fat with her. What are you talking about? Because she was craving different things. You know,
• 30:08
  I just make them like I can't say no, but yeah. Um, then I ended up in nursing.
• 30:19
  Nursing taught me about the pharmaceutical industry. Right. Things I didn't know. Yes. Until I
• 30:25
  realized that every time I said, proceed them all to somebody their headache was going off,
• 30:33
  but they are livers and their kidneys were getting ripped. And this I didn't like. This was there.
• 30:39
  Another reason why I decided to not be a part of that kind of movement. Now I did nutrition
• 30:47
  and dietetics, but then as a fitness instructor. Okay. So I dived from what we call it creative
• 30:58
  health, where the problem is already caused. Right. And then you just cure it. Right.
• 31:04
  Not caring about the side effect or whatever of the drugs you just cure it. To more preventive
• 31:11
  health. Yeah. So people are like, oh, why did you decide to do like personal training and stuff
• 31:16
  like that? Sure. I have the certificate. I actually got them like not too long to go. Okay.
• 31:21
  As a pacified personal trainer and then certified nutritionist. Okay.
• 31:25
  Advisor for health. But then the thing is when I was doing the nutrition, then I realized
• 31:31
  all the things that you put in food, how they affect you mentally, how they are. And this is the
• 31:37
  reason why I would wake up every day, go get fresh stuff. Yes. Cook for my family. Yes.
• 31:42
  This I will not miss. Oh, your baby is in good hands, babe.
• 31:46
  It was a little bit big part of like agreeing to like stay home. You know, like, okay,
• 31:52
  somebody should should not be ordering all those snacks. Yeah. And I've realized there has been
• 31:59
  a big cut off on sweets and snacks. After I took over the kitchen. Okay. So now it's coconut
• 32:07
  water. Love it. Rather than like all the other drinks and other stuff. And those juices are sneaky.
• 32:13
  And the fruits are the snacks. And the breakfast is homemade yogurt and nuts. It's there's nothing
• 32:21
  out of that. And the other dishes are the bunch of the side dishes all from fermented
• 32:27
  vegetables and stuff like that. Yeah. So for that, I'm happy that I'm able to do that.
• 32:31
  And yeah, I hope that my family enjoys the kind of dishes that I make. But yeah.
• 32:39
  Yep. Yep. Yep. One times. If your life was a postcard, what would the picture look like?
• 32:45
  Very chaotic. Very uncertain. Okay. I would say young age. My sister's, I would say my nephew died.
• 32:58
  Okay. From your sister's child. Yes. I was super young. I had just finished senior high school
• 33:05
  waiting for my result to go to the university. Right. And then she died. He died. And then the cause
• 33:14
  was religious because there is a religion that says that you do not do blood transfusion.
• 33:22
  I don't want to mention names. Okay. I understand. Yes. And so your sister practiced that religion? No.
• 33:28
  My sister's then boyfriend. Then the boyfriend practiced that religion. So then
• 33:34
  if there was delay in blood transfusion, baby passed away, we had taken care of this baby for five
• 33:40
  years already. Did your sister and the boyfriend stay together? No, it will never happen. My sister
• 33:45
  will never even agree on that. Okay. So this happened. Then at that moment, I told my dad
• 33:53
  if I could be a doctor. Okay. And be that doctor who gives blood transfusion without
• 33:59
  giving a shit just to save the life after that you go home and deal with your religion. Right.
• 34:04
  Cause the life was more important than anything. So that was when I got into nursing five years old.
• 34:11
  Five years old. And with this, it was hours and hours of this baby being on our shoulders,
• 34:18
  taking care of him, like everything. Like he was literally solid pillar of the family. Right.
• 34:27
  So yeah, that was it. That would be one part of the postcard. Sure. That moment where like I
• 34:33
  decided, Hey, I would be a doctor if this is the case. And because I couldn't be a doctor,
• 34:37
  because I did general arts. Okay. Government, history, literature and language. Okay. And you
• 34:43
  needed to do sciences. I needed to do sciences. Right. So but then the only place I could do
• 34:47
  David too was nursing. Right. Because it's more like caregiving. Right. So then I said, Okay,
• 34:53
  then I will do nursing. Right. So then I went into doing nursing right after nursing.
• 34:58
  I was like, what is the next point of like upgrading myself? And it was just, okay,
• 35:06
  you're doing the military for six months. And then you're getting double surgery. Okay. And I
• 35:10
  can save. And you didn't calculate the 25 years of your life. I didn't calculate that. But then
• 35:16
  all the time, that's the long, that's your whole life. I've never heard of this before. Because
• 35:20
  you have to join the army when after only after you're 18. Okay. So yeah. So yeah, I did that.
• 35:28
  Enjoyed it. It was a childhood dream because I, but then fortunately I didn't shoot any guns
• 35:34
  or stuff like that. But then I also was able to take care of people in nursing.
• 35:42
  Also opened my eyes a little bit to like how big farmer is playing a big role. Because
• 35:48
  after four years, I realized the lesson that I did was more like somebody comes in, you ask them,
• 35:54
  what is wrong with you? Right. They tell you whatever is wrong with them. You go to the lab,
• 35:59
  you take a sample, you do the diagnostic test to confirm, you know what is wrong. But then you
• 36:04
  give them medicine for all the signs and symptoms. Right. Rather than going back to the national,
• 36:10
  not national, what do we call natural ways of treating those things? A little bit of sunlight,
• 36:15
  more water, rest, eating healthy, stuff like that, cleaning your environment. That was out of the
• 36:21
  window. There was always we are selling you some drugs. Right. So they say that if your doctor is not
• 36:27
  asking you about how you're moving, exercising, watch your eating and your sleep partying,
• 36:32
  he's a drug dealer. Yeah. He's not a doctor. Yeah. Right. So this opened my eyes and that would be
• 36:38
  another part of the and then I became very okay. I'm tired of doing this. I'm feeling guilty a
• 36:45
  bit. I'm getting tired of the everyday yes, sir, yes, sir, yes, sir, all the time uniform to
• 36:52
  uniform. Okay. Let me put some art because in what we call it during the war times, there was no art
• 37:01
  and then art grew up after war. Because then people were had things their hands, but didn't know what to
• 37:07
  do with it. So they turned into like creative things. Okay, let me do some art. I picked up a
• 37:11
  camera and then it became, oh, wow, with the camera, I can see the rest of the world. That would be
• 37:17
  another side of the postcard. Right. And then seeing another part of the world out of curiosity and
• 37:22
  having a camera was like, oh, okay, your past, what is missing? So now photography becomes a survival
• 37:30
  thing. Right. No. So I do the survival thing for a couple of years until
• 37:37
  the survival ends and then all of a sudden my wife comes in and I will just say this, but thanks to
• 37:44
  my wife, I'm able to say no to things I don't want to jobs. I don't want. Okay. Yeah. That's
• 37:50
  pretty good. My wife will say, I would pay you that. You just stay with me. Sure. Like seriously,
• 37:55
  don't go for it. Every yes you're saying kind of devalues without you being happy of saying that,
• 38:02
  yes, devalues your craft as an art. So thanks to my wife, I'm able to say very positive
• 38:09
  notes on my chest. But at first a few years ago, I would say yes just because I want to make that
• 38:16
  cash. I don't want to miss it. Yeah. You know, so yeah, that will be that part of the postcard and then
• 38:24
  the next part will be breaking up with my ex girlfriend who is now my wife. Right. And then
• 38:35
  realizing that oh, there is money up to do. A lady will be attracted to somebody if they have
• 38:42
  a setting kind of life, right? Because trust me, working in the tattoo shop, I was living
• 38:47
  upstairs of the tattoo shop. Okay. Because I didn't want to pay lots of money on rent. I was the
• 38:52
  saving, saving, saving. So yeah, I took that chance. I was living. But then I realized that was
• 38:58
  hindering a certain part of my life from developing that is being like full grown man taking responsibility,
• 39:03
  having a place to, you know, you want to have a dog, you have to have a nice place to keep it. So
• 39:09
  you want to have a girlfriend, you have to have a boat, you have to have a home, nice place,
• 39:13
  stuff like that. And I wasn't thinking of all this because I wasn't thinking of having the
• 39:17
  so now breaking up with my wife, I took the chance. Okay, this is a period of self development,
• 39:22
  take the pain, land from it. So I got my own place. I cleaned it up nicely. I went to the gym,
• 39:30
  make sure I'm healthy. I started eating healthy more, looking good, taking care of my health and
• 39:36
  face and everything. Like I'm back. So when she met me again, I was a completely different
• 39:41
  person. Right. Now she could visit my apartment, we could go out on dates, like things like this,
• 39:48
  you know, so that would be another part of the postcard. And then the next part will be
• 39:52
  telling my wife, telling the parents, my parents in law that, hey, I'm with this person. And then
• 39:59
  they're like, okay, take your time, at least know him for two years. Okay. And then the next month
• 40:04
  period doesn't come. And now we have to go back and tell them that we are sorry, we cannot take
• 40:10
  your advice because you're ready. Goodness. How did they take the news?
• 40:19
  My mother-in-law was pretty quiet, which is understandable. She's a mom cares for the daughter. So
• 40:23
  it's really, really understandable. And I had to like, you know, build the trust gradually. So my
• 40:30
  father-in-law, very religious, Christian, so and very like open, traveled a little bit. So he
• 40:37
  was like, okay, you're going to be fine. We will care for you, just be ambitious and work on your
• 40:44
  goals, support each other. So it kicked off, I was lucky, yeah, to be honest. So that would be another
• 40:52
  phase of the postcard. And then the phase where I call opportunities, after meeting my wife,
• 40:59
  like so many doors have opened for me, like I can travel to Korea now just because I have like a
• 41:05
  helper and kid without applying for visas. Literally, you know, for a couple of years and then I
• 41:12
  just renew it for more years. So and the job opportunity there, I just met a guy who owns a
• 41:19
  suit company actually supplies for big brands. Who just set up his own company as like a flagship
• 41:27
  store kind of. So now he's also aside the company itself producing. Now he's also making his own
• 41:33
  brand, where I could be a model, I could be a photographer, I could be a videographer,
• 41:41
  and I could be managing his social media, which are all these things I have done just in survival
• 41:47
  faith. So do you guys move to Korea? We're not thinking of it. And I'm thinking of doing one
• 41:53
  week in Korea to make the money, move back here, spend beneath my means, save up. So that is the
• 42:01
  plan, because my wife's job, we don't know where we're going to be. United Nations, we can go anywhere.
• 42:07
  So yeah, that would be how messy. The postcard is like from Germany to Australia, to France,
• 42:16
  to Korea, to wherever, you know. But yeah, that has been life so far.
• 42:21
  Thank you very much for sharing it with me. Thank you.
• 42:32
  You
• 42:45
  to still keep the shit running. No one's going to care. Exactly. And so like the whole
• 42:50
  babes gave them like still the harshness of the message, but removing the harshness. So the
• 42:56
  seriousness was left, but it was still love. And the point is I had so many young people.
• 43:01
  My first team, there were all like 15, 16. Oh my god. They didn't know anything about anything,
• 43:06
  but I loved working with people that were so fresh, because again, there was no pushback,
• 43:11
  because they knew that they didn't know anything. You get like experience chefs. They're going to
• 43:15
  tell you, oh, this is how we do it in my kitchen. There's I don't care. Like respectfully,
• 43:19
  I don't actually care. I just wanted this way, please. And so like most of my chefs started as
• 43:25
  kitchen portas. And again, it's that teaching and like making sure they're learning it your way
• 43:30
  being clear, keeping your head in the game, even when you all fly off. And I didn't know, but now
• 43:37
  that's like my children basically. Yeah. My my work team were my kids, but they're my first kids.
• 43:42
  It's amazing how like food plays a big role in in general in life. So nursing, I did nutrition
• 43:51
  and dietetics. Okay. In general nursing. So you do all the things anatomy and physiology,
• 43:56
  psychology and nutrition and dietetics. So there I learned a bit about food and nutrition and my
• 44:02
  diet changed. Okay. Pretty much. So people are like, man, it's African genetics. Like you never
• 44:07
  get fat or fat. And when I lose in doubt and I was cooking for my wife every day when she was,
• 44:13
  I got fat with her. What are you talking about? Because she was craving different things.
• 44:18
  I just make them like I can't say no, but yeah. Then I ended up in nursing.
• 44:29
  Nursing taught me about the pharmaceutical industry. Things I didn't know. Yes. Until I realized that
• 44:36
  every time I saved paracetamol to somebody their headache was going off, but their
• 44:43
  levers and their kidneys were getting ripped. And this I didn't like. This was there.
• 44:49
  Another reason why I decided to not be a part of that kind of movement. Now I did nutrition and
• 44:57
  dietetics, but then as a fitness instructor. Okay. So I dived from what do we call it creative
• 45:08
  health where the problem is already caused. Right. And then you just cure it. Right.
• 45:14
  Not caring about the side effect or whatever of the drugs you just cure it. To more preventive
• 45:21
  health. Yeah. So people are like, oh, why did you decide to do like personal training and stuff
• 45:26
  like that? Sure. I have the certificate. I actually got them like not too long to go. Okay.
• 45:31
  As a certified personal trainer and then certified nutritionist. Okay.
• 45:35
  Advisor for health. But then the thing is when I was doing the nutrition, then I realized
• 45:41
  all the things that you put in food, how they affect you mentally, how they are. And this is
• 45:47
  the reason why I would wake up every day, go get fresh stuff. Yes. Cook for my family. Yes.
• 45:52
  This I will not miss. Oh, your baby is in good hands, babe.
• 45:57
  It was a little bit big part of like agreeing to like stay home. You know, like, okay, I
• 46:03
  somebody should should not be ordering all those snacks. Yeah. And I've realized there's been a
• 46:09
  big cut off on sweets and snacks after I took over the kitchen. Okay. So now it's coconut water.
• 46:17
  Love it. Rather than like all the other drinks and other stuff. And those juices are sneaky.
• 46:23
  And the fruits are the snacks. And the breakfast is homemade yogurt and nuts. It's there's nothing
• 46:31
  out of that. And the other dishes are the bunch of the side dishes, all from fermented
• 46:37
  vegetables and stuff like that. Yeah. So for that, I'm happy that I'm able to do that.
• 46:41
  And yeah, I hope that my family enjoys the kind of dishes that I make.
• 46:49
  Yep. Yep. Yep. One times. If your life was a postcard, what would the picture look like?
• 46:55
  Very chaotic. Very unsettling. Okay. I would say young age, my sister's, I would say my nephew died.
• 47:10
  Your sister's child? Yes. I was super young. I had just finished senior high school waiting for
• 47:16
  my result to go to the university. Right. And then she died. He died. And then the cause was
• 47:26
  religious because there is a religion that says that you do not do blood transfusion.
• 47:33
  I don't want to mention names. Okay. I understand. Yes. And so your sister practiced that religion? No.
• 47:38
  My sister's then boyfriend, then boyfriend. The boyfriend practiced that religion. So then
• 47:44
  if there was delay in blood transfusions, maybe passed away, we had taken care of this baby
• 47:50
  for five years already. Did your sister and the boyfriend stay together? No, it will never happen.
• 47:55
  My sister will never even agree on that. Okay. So this happened. Then at that moment, I told my dad
• 48:03
  if I could be a doctor. Okay. And be that doctor who gives blood transfusion without giving
• 48:09
  a shit just to save the life after that you go home and deal with your religion. Right. Because
• 48:14
  the life was more important than anything. So that was when I got into nursing five years old.
• 48:21
  Five years old. And with this, it was hours and hours of this baby being on our shoulders,
• 48:28
  taking care of him, like everything. Like he was literally solid pillar of the family. Right.
• 48:37
  So yeah, that was that would be one part of the postcard. Sure. That moment where like I decided,
• 48:44
  hey, I would be a doctor if this is the case. And because I couldn't be a doctor because I did
• 48:48
  general art, okay, government history literature and language. Okay. And you needed to do sciences.
• 48:54
  I needed to do sciences. Right. So but then the only place I could do that too was nursing. Right.
• 49:00
  Because it's more like caregiving. Right. So then I said, okay, then I'll do nursing. Right.
• 49:04
  So then I went into doing nursing right after nursing. I was like, what is the next point of like
• 49:11
  upgrading myself? And it was just, okay, you're doing the military for six months. And then you're
• 49:19
  getting double surgery. Okay. And I can save. And you didn't calculate the 25 years of your life
• 49:24
  didn't calculate that. But then also that's a long time. That's a long that's your whole life.
• 49:28
  I've never heard of this before. Because you have to join the army when after only after you're
• 49:32
  18. So yeah. So yeah, I did that. Enjoyed it. It was a childhood dream. Because I, but then
• 49:43
  fortunately, I didn't shoot any guns or stuff like that. And then I also was able to take care of
• 49:49
  people in nursing. Also opened my eyes a little bit to like how big farmer is playing a big
• 49:56
  role. Because I, after four years, I realized the lesson that I did was more like somebody comes in,
• 50:03
  you ask them, what is wrong with you? They tell you whatever is wrong with them. You go to the lab,
• 50:09
  you take a sample, you do the diagnostic test to confirm, you know what is wrong. But then you give
• 50:15
  them medicine for all the signs and symptoms. Right. Rather than going back to the national,
• 50:19
  there was not national, what do we call natural ways of treating those things? A little bit of
• 50:24
  sunlight, more water, rest, eating healthy stuff like that, cleaning your environment. That was
• 50:31
  out of the window. There was always we are selling you some drugs. Right. So they say that if your
• 50:36
  doctor is not asking you about how you're moving, exercising, watch your eating and your sleep
• 50:42
  partying, it is a drug dealer. He's not a doctor. Yeah. Right. So this opened my eyes and that would
• 50:48
  be another part of that. And then I became very, okay, I'm tired of doing this. I'm feeling guilty
• 50:55
  a bit. I'm getting tired of that every day. Yes, sir, yes, sir, yes, sir, all the time, uniform
• 51:02
  to uniform. Okay, let me put some art because in what we call it during the war times, there was no art
• 51:11
  and then art grew up after war. Because then people were had things, yeah, hands, but didn't know what to
• 51:17
  do with it. So they turned into like creative things. Okay, let me do some art. I picked up a
• 51:21
  camera and then it became, oh, wow, with a camera, I consider the rest of the world. That would be
• 51:28
  another side of the postcard. Right. And then seeing another part of the world out of curiosity and
• 51:32
  having a camera was like, oh, okay, your past world is missing. So now photography becomes a survival
• 51:40
  thing. Right. No, so I do the survival thing for a couple of years until
• 51:47
  the survival ends and then all of a sudden my wife comes in. And I would just say this, but thanks to
• 51:55
  my wife, I'm able to say no to things I don't want to jobs. I don't want. Yeah, that's great.
• 52:01
  My wife will say, I would pay you that. You just stay with me. Sure. Like seriously, don't go for it.
• 52:08
  Every yes, you're saying kind of the values without you being happy of saying that yes,
• 52:13
  devalues your craft as an art. So thanks to my wife, I'm able to say very positive
• 52:19
  notes on my chest. But at first a few years ago, I would say yes, just because I want to make that
• 52:26
  cash. I don't want to miss it. Yeah. You know, so yeah, that will be that part of the postcard. And then
• 52:34
  the next part will be breaking up with my ex girlfriend who is now my wife. And then
• 52:45
  realizing that, oh, there is money enough to do. A lady will be attracted to somebody if they
• 52:52
  have a setting kind of life, right? Because trust me, working in the tattoo shop, I was living
• 52:57
  upstairs of the tattoo shop. Okay. Because I didn't want to pay lots of money on rent. I was the
• 53:02
  saving, saving, saving. So yeah, I took that chance. I was leaving. But then I realized that was
• 53:08
  hindering a certain part of my life from developing. That is being like full grown man taking
• 53:12
  responsibility, having a place to, you know, you want to have a dog, you have to have a nice place
• 53:18
  to keep it. So you want to have a girlfriend, you have to have a boat, you have to have a home,
• 53:23
  nice place, stuff like that. And I wasn't thinking of all this because I wasn't thinking of
• 53:27
  so now breaking up with my wife, I took the chance. Okay, this is a period of self development,
• 53:32
  take the pain, land from it. So I got my own place. I cleaned it up nicely. I went to the gym,
• 53:40
  made sure I'm healthy. I started eating healthy more, looking good, taking care of my health and
• 53:46
  face and everything like I'm back. So when she met me again, I was a completely different
• 53:51
  person, right? Now she could visit my apartment. We could go out on dates, like things like this,
• 53:58
  you know, so that would be another part of the postcard. And then the next part will be
• 54:03
  telling my wife, telling the parents, my parents in law that, hey, I'm with this person. And then
• 54:09
  they're like, okay, take your time, at least know him for two years. Okay. And then the next month
• 54:15
  period doesn't come. And now we have to go back and tell them that we are sorry, we cannot take
• 54:20
  your advice because you're ready. Goodness. How did they take the news?
• 54:29
  My mother-in-law was pretty quiet, which is understandable. She's a mom cares for the daughter,
• 54:33
  so it's really, really understandable. And I had to like, you know, build the trust gradually. My
• 54:40
  father-in-law, very religious, Christian, and very like open, traveled a little bit. So he was like,
• 54:48
  okay, you're going to be fine. We will care for you, just be ambitious and work on your goals,
• 54:55
  support each other. So it kicked off, I was lucky, yeah, to be honest. So that would be another
• 55:02
  phase of the postcard. And then the phase where I call opportunities, after meeting my wife,
• 55:09
  like so many doors have opened for me, like I can travel to Korea now just because I have like
• 55:15
  half her in kid without applying for visa stuff like that, yeah, literally, you know, for a couple
• 55:22
  of years and then I just renew it for more years. So and the job opportunity there, I just met a guy
• 55:29
  who owns a suit company, actually supplies for big brands, who just set up his own company,
• 55:36
  as like a flagship store kind of. So now he's also aside the company itself producing, now he's
• 55:43
  also making his own brand, where I could be a model, I could be a photographer, I could be a
• 55:50
  videographer, and I could be managing his social media, which are all these things I have done
• 55:56
  just in survival phase. So do you guys move to Korea? We're not thinking of it. Okay, and I'm thinking
• 56:02
  of doing one week in Korea, okay, to make the money, okay, move back here, spend beneath my means,
• 56:09
  save up. Okay, so that is the plan, because my wife's job, we don't know where we're going to be,
• 56:15
  United Nations, we can go anywhere. So yeah, that would be how messy. The first card is like
• 56:22
  from Germany to Australia to France, to Korea to wherever, you know, but yeah, that has been
• 56:30
  life so far. Thank you very much for sharing it with me. Thank you.
• 56:34
  Thank you.
• 56:56
  The kind of dishes that I make. Yeah. Yep, yep, yep.
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  If your life was a postcard, what would the picture look like?
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  Very chaotic. Very uncertain. Okay, I would say.
• 57:14
  Young age, my sister's, I would say my nephew died from your sister's child. Yes, I was super
• 57:24
  young. I had just finished senior high school waiting for my result to go to the university. Right?
• 57:30
  And then she died. He died. And then the course was religious, because there is a religion that
• 57:41
  says that you do not do blood transfusion. I don't want to mention names. Okay, I understand.
• 57:46
  Yes. And so your sister practiced that religion? No, my sister's then boyfriend, then the boyfriend
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  practiced that religion. So then there was delay in blood transfusion, baby passed away,
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  we had taken care of this baby for five years already. Did your sister and the boyfriend stay
• 58:04
  together? No, it will never happen. My sister will never even agree on that. Okay, so this happened
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  then at that moment, I told my dad if I could be a doctor. Okay. And be that doctor who gives
• 58:19
  blood transfusion without taking a shit, just to save the life after that, you go home and do
• 58:24
  it with your religion. Right? Because the life was more important than anything. So that was when
• 58:30
  I got into nursing five years old. And with this, it was hours and hours of this baby being on
• 58:38
  our shoulders, taking care of him, like everything. Like he was literally solid pillar of the family.
• 58:47
  Right. So yeah, that was it. That would be one part of the postcard. Sure.
• 58:53
  That moment where like I decided, hey, I would be a doctor if this is the case. And because I
• 58:58
  couldn't be a doctor, because I did general arts, okay, government history literature and
• 59:03
  language. Okay. And you needed to do sciences. I needed to do sciences. Right. So but then the only
• 59:08
  place I could do that too was nursing. Right. Because it's more like caregiving. Right. So
• 59:14
  then I said, okay, then I'll do nursing. Right. So then I went into doing nursing. Right after
• 59:18
  nursing, I was like, what is the next point of like upgrading myself? And it was just, okay,
• 59:27
  you're doing the military for six months. And then you're getting double surgery. Okay. And I can
• 59:32
  save. And you didn't calculate the 25 years of your life. But then also a long time. That's a long
• 59:39
  that's your whole life. I've never heard of this before. Because you have to join the army when
• 59:42
  after only after you're 18. Okay. So yeah. So yeah. I did that. Enjoyed it. It was a childhood dream
• 59:52
  because I, but then fortunately, I didn't shoot any guns or stuff like that.
• 59:58
  And then I also was able to take care of people in nursing. Also opened my eyes a little bit to
• 1:00:05
  like how big farmer is playing a big role. Because I, after four years, I realized the
• 1:00:11
  lesson that I did was more like somebody comes in, you ask them, what is wrong with you?
• 1:00:16
  Right. They tell you whatever is wrong with them. You go to the lab, you take a sample,
• 1:00:21
  you do the diagnostic test to confirm, you know what is wrong. But then you give them medicine
• 1:00:27
  for all the science and symptoms. Right. Rather than going back to the national,
• 1:00:31
  not national, what do we call natural ways of treating those things? A little bit of sunlight,
• 1:00:36
  more water, rest, eating healthy stuff like that, cleaning your environment. That was out of the
• 1:00:42
  window. There was always we are selling you some drugs. Right. So they say that if your doctor is not
• 1:00:48
  asking you about how you're moving, exercising, watch your eating and your sleep partying,
• 1:00:54
  he's a drug dealer. Yeah. He's not a doctor. Yeah. Right. So this opened my eyes and that would be
• 1:00:59
  another part of that. And then I became very okay. I'm tired of doing this. I'm feeling guilty
• 1:01:06
  a bit. I'm getting tired of that every day. Yes, sir, yes, sir, yes, sir, all the time uniform
• 1:01:13
  to uniform. Okay. Let me put some art because in what do we call it during the war times,
• 1:01:21
  there was no art. Right. And then art grew up after war. Because then people were had
• 1:01:26
  think their hands, but they didn't know what to do with it. So they turned into like creative
• 1:01:30
  things. Okay, let me do some art. I picked up a camera and then it became, oh, wow,
• 1:01:36
  with the camera, I can see the rest of the world. That would be another side of the postcard.
• 1:01:40
  Right. And then seeing another part of the world out of curiosity and having a camera
• 1:01:45
  was like, oh, okay, your past world is missing. So now photography becomes a survival thing. Right.
• 1:01:53
  No, so I do the survival thing for a couple of years until I the survival ends and then
• 1:02:01
  all of a sudden my wife comes in. And I would just say this, but thanks to my wife, I'm able to
• 1:02:07
  say no to things I don't want to jobs I don't want. Yeah, that's my wife will say I would pay you
• 1:02:14
  that. You just stay with me. Sure. Like seriously don't go for it. Every yes you're saying kind of
• 1:02:20
  devalues without you being happy of saying that yes, devalues your craft as an art. So
• 1:02:28
  thanks to my wife, I'm able to say very positive notes on my chest.
• 1:02:33
  But well, at first a few years ago, I would say yes just because I want to make that cash.
• 1:02:38
  I don't want to miss it. Yeah. You know, so yeah, that will be that part of the postcard. And then
• 1:02:45
  the next part will be breaking up with my ex girlfriend who is now my wife. And then
• 1:02:56
  realizing that oh, there is money enough to do. A lady will be attracted to somebody if they have
• 1:03:03
  a setting kind of life, right? Because trust me working in the tattoo shop, I was living upstairs
• 1:03:09
  of the tattoo shop. Okay. Because I didn't want to pay lots of money on rent. I was the saving saving
• 1:03:14
  saving. So yeah, I took that chance. I was living. But then I realized that was hindering a setting
• 1:03:20
  part of my life from developing that is being like full grown man taking responsibility, having a
• 1:03:25
  place to, you know, you want to have a dog, you have to have a nice place to keep it. So you want
• 1:03:31
  to have a girlfriend, you have to have a boat, you have to have a home, nice place, stuff like that.
• 1:03:36
  And I wasn't thinking of all this because I wasn't thinking of everything. So now breaking up with
• 1:03:40
  my wife, I took the chance. Okay, this is a period of self development, take the pain, land from it.
• 1:03:46
  So I got my own place. I cleaned it up nicely. I went to the gym, make sure I'm healthy. I started
• 1:03:53
  eating healthy more, looking good, taking care of my health and face and everything. Like I'm
• 1:03:59
  back. When she met me again, I was a completely different person, right? Now she could visit my
• 1:04:05
  apartment, we could go out on dates, like things like this, you know, so that would be another part
• 1:04:11
  of the postcard. And then the next part will be telling my wife, telling the parents, my parents in
• 1:04:17
  law that, hey, I'm with this person. And then they're like, okay, take your time. At least know him
• 1:04:23
  for two years. Okay. And then the next month period doesn't come. And now we have to go back and
• 1:04:29
  tell them that we are sorry, we cannot take your advice because we already
• 1:04:35
  goodness. How did they take the news? My mother in law was pretty quiet, which is understandable.
• 1:04:43
  She's a mom cares for the daughter. So it's really, really understandable. And I had to like,
• 1:04:48
  you know, build the trust gradually. So my father in law, very religious, Christian, so
• 1:04:55
  and very like open, traveled a little bit. So he was like, okay, you're going to be fine.
• 1:05:02
  We will care for you, just be ambitious and work on your goals, support each other. So it kicked
• 1:05:08
  off. I was lucky, yeah, to be honest. So that would be another phase of the postcard. And then
• 1:05:17
  the phase where I call like opportunities after meeting my wife, like so many doors have opened for
• 1:05:22
  me. Like I can travel to Korea now just because of I have like a half year in kid without applying
• 1:05:29
  for visa stuff like that. Yeah. Literally. Okay. You know, for a couple of years and then I just
• 1:05:34
  renew it. Right. For more years. So and the job opportunity there, I just met a guy who owns a
• 1:05:41
  suit company. Okay. Actually supplies for big brands. Right. Who just set up his own company.
• 1:05:48
  As like flagship store kind of. So now he's also aside the company itself producing. Now he's
• 1:05:54
  also making his own brand. Right. Where I could be a model. Right. I could be a photographer. I could
• 1:06:01
  be a videographer. And I could be managing his social media, which are all these things I have done
• 1:06:08
  just in survival. So do you guys move to Korea? We're not thinking of it. Okay. And I'm thinking of
• 1:06:14
  doing one week in Korea. Okay. To make the money. Okay. Move back here. Right. Spend beneath my
• 1:06:19
  means. Right. Save up. Okay. So that is the plan. Because my wife's job, we don't know where we're
• 1:06:25
  going to be. Okay. United Nations. We can go anywhere. Right. So yeah, that would be how messy.
• 1:06:31
  I love the first card. The first card is like from Germany to Australia to France to Korea to
• 1:06:38
  wherever. But yeah, that has been life so far. Thank you very much for sharing it with me. Thank you.