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Resilience, Recovery & Personal Growth (S5) S11:E5 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hey guys, good evening, it is John
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Morley here, Serial Entrepreneur.
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So let's kick this off, guys.
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Again, hello and welcome, everyone, to the Inspirations
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for Your Life show.
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I'm John Seymour, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist,
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video producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate
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student, and a passionate lifelong learner, and I'm
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also going to be a published author very
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soon.
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So today I'm focusing on resilience, recovery, and
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of course, personal growth.
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We've talked about these before, but a little
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bit different tonight.
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Life will throw challenges at us, but how
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we respond defines the trajectory of our personal
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and our professional life and the course of
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success we take.
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Now, every choice, every pause, every small recovery
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compounds into, yes, a eureka moment, a momentum
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and lasting growth, and I think that's a
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very important thing to understand.
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So let's get right into this, all right?
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So first thing is resilience.
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Resilience allows bouncing back from setbacks.
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Every obstacle is an opportunity to become stronger.
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Recovery restores energy for action.
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Recharge your body and your mind to maintain
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consistent progress.
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I know sometimes that can seem very daunting
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for people, like, oh my gosh, John, like,
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how am I going to do this?
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I don't even know where to start.
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That makes sense, but I think we have
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to trust our gut a little bit and
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go from there, okay?
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Yeah, so growth comes, guys, from learning, not
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avoiding failure.
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We know that Einstein, I don't know if
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you guys know this, Einstein, actually Thomas Edison
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too, Thomas Edison found 999 ways the light
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bulb would not work.
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Yeah, 999 ways the light bulb would not
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work.
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So Thomas Edison famously stated that he had
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not failed, but rather discovered, as I said,
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999 ways that wouldn't work while developing the
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light bulb, this reflects his belief in learning
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from failures as a crucial part of the
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invention process.
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And I think a lot of us are
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hard on ourselves because we have not achieved
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what we want yet.
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We might not have done well yet, but
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we're on that path.
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And just as we're about to get there,
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we give up.
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And I don't think that's a good thing,
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but people do that because they get frustrated,
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they hear from other people, and that just
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never, never, never a good thing.
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So embrace every experience, guys, as a true
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lesson in life.
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And when you do that, your life will
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change.
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I promise you, but it does not change
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overnight.
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It does not change in one hour.
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It does not change in a week.
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It can take a little more time.
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Avoid harmful shortcuts.
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Quick fixes may feel easy, but slow long
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-term success is what happens.
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Resilience strengthens problem-solving.
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Challenges sharpen your ability to think strategically.
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Recovery prevents burnout, guys.
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Reg your breaks, preserve focus and creativity and
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clarity.
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So daily reflection compounds our wisdom.
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Take time, guys, to review decisions and adapt
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with your life.
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Small recovery, sustained performance, even brief pauses can
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maintain stamina.
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Yeah, a brief pause can do that.
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For major tasks, why is it people never
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want to do this for other tasks?
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We only do it for major tasks.
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We don't do it for other tasks in
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life.
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And these tasks are important, but they may
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not be major, but that doesn't mean that
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we should not give them the same respect
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and the same dedication.
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OK, it's these things that can make a
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really big difference, guys, in our life.
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All right, so avoid toxic patterns, identify habits
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that drain energy and replace them with constructive
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actions.
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And I know that sounds hard, but it's
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something we all have the power to do.
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Resilience, guys, sharpens strategic thinking.
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Pressure refines judgment.
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When you respond deliberately, you change.
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You become different.
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You become better.
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Recovery maintains mental clarity.
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Rested minds make better decisions and spot opportunities.
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You know, when you're doing something, maybe something's
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not working the way you want.
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You take a break.
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When you take that break, well, that's the
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opportunity for you to take your short-term
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information and commit it to your long-term
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memory.
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It happens automatically.
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You don't have to do anything.
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Growth, guys, accelerates with deliberate effort.
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Focused, intentional actions compound results faster.
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Avoid temporary gains that harm long-term success.
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Value long-term strategy over instant gratification.
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You know, a lot of people want instant
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gratification, but the truth of the matter is
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it actually winds up costing them more than
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they anticipated.
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It may not necessarily be money.
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It could be other resources.
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It could be people.
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So that's important to realize.
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Cost is not always something that we pay
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for monetarily.
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Resilience converts obstacles into opportunities.
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Every problem is, guys, a stepping stone for
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an advancement in your life.
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Recovery replenishes focus.
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Mental resets allow you to tackle complex tasks
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with precision.
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I find this a lot with studying, you
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know, sometimes we're working on something and it
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has a few levels to it.
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When we start to get part of it
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and then we take a break and we
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come back, it seems a lot easier to
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understand because now it's like we've coded the
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world with how we're going to do it.
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And I think that's an important piece that
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a lot of people, you know, they miss
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that whole concept.
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They miss what that means.
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And under stress, it causes more problems.
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So calm persistence, guys, keeps you moving forward.
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When pressure mounts around you, very nice team,
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recovery creates space for decision making.
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So pause evaluates and makes choices aligned with
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goals.
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Growth builds character over time.
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Personal development compounds as you learn from experience.
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Avoid inconsistent actions, guys.
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Momentum depends on reliability and deliberate follow through.
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And your reliability is actually predicated on a
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couple of things.
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It's predicated on how well your body is
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running.
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So that means you got to have good
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food in your system, good nutrition, got to
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have a good mental and spiritual diet.
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You also have to make sure that, you
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know, when you're doing these things, that your
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attitude is in alignment.
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If it's not, you're going to have a
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problem.
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What happens if you don't put gas in
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your car?
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Your car just stalls.
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What happens if you put bad gas in
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your car?
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It may not go as far.
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The engine might not sound as great.
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Resilience, guys, maintains composure.
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Emotional control is a key competitive advantage.
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Recovery sustains momentum.
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Strategic rest keeps energy available for critical tasks,
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guys, critical tasks.
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Growth compounds with experience.
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Every success and failure contributes to your personal
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well-being and your development.
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But people say to me, John, you know,
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I don't know what to do.
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And then, you know, they talk to a
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friend, and the friend doesn't have any experience.
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But suddenly, they think this person is going
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to be able to help them, but they
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don't have any business experience or experience in
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the area that they may need.
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Maybe it's not business.
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Avoid shortcuts, guys, that weaken learning because the
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shortcuts that weaken learning are just going to
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frustrate you so much.
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Deep engagement ensures real understanding and skill, right?
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Skills can be refined.
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They can get better in life, right?
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Resilience enhances emotional endurance.
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The ability to handle stress strengthens confidence.
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So if I can handle stress, I can
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handle confidence.
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Stress is something that tests us.
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And what we have to realize is that
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it's short-term, especially if we're making the
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right decisions.
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We're going to hit some stress hurdles sometimes.
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That's going to be normal.
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But we have to realize that that's important
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for our success path.
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Recovery, guys, restores alignment with priority.
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So take time, guys, to reassess and adjust.
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Focus.
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Growth thrives on consistent effort.
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Not the once in a while effort.
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Not the effort that you do just because
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you had nothing else better to do.
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Daily incremental improvements, guys, produce major results.
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Daily, daily, daily, consistent.
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People that do stuff for one day or
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one week or one month, and then they
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stop, and the behavior goes away, and now
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they haven't gotten anywhere.
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Because they haven't done it long enough.
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Avoid the distractions, guys, that stall progress.
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Protect your time and your mental energy to
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maintain flow.
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So when we think about flow, like flow
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with rivers, flow with the ocean, flow of
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our life, when we think about all these
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different kinds of flow that we have, I
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think that makes a huge, huge difference.
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And that huge difference can actually help you
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reach a completely different trajectory.
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One that's got more success than you ever
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imagined.
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Resilience, guys, plus recovery, plus growth, equals unstoppable
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momentum.
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Let me say that again.
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Resilience, with a big plus sign, plus recovery,
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plus growth, equals unstoppable momentum.
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Resilience, plus recovery, plus growth, equals unstoppable momentum.
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Resilience, plus growth, plus the recovery, is unstoppable
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momentum.
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Resilience, plus recovery, two R's, plus growth.
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So resilience, recovery, growth, is unstoppable momentum.
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Resilience, to bounce back.
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Resilience, to be able to be strong.
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And the recovery, right?
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So resilience is how well we can kind
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of hold up.
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And recovery is how we basically come back
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again if we get knocked down.
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And then our growth.
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And that equals unstoppable momentum.
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Harness these forces, guys.
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They're keys in life.
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And they'll help you own your path and
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create lasting impact.
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I think sometimes people, when you see a
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path, and the path is not, let's say,
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the most comfortable thing, people are like, oh,
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do we have to go this way?
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Isn't there a shorter way?
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Is there another thing we could do instead
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of this?
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People look for the shortcut.
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I just mentioned not to use the shortcut,
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but why is it people use shortcuts?
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I think people use them because they heard
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from others that you don't have to go
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all the way around the mountain.
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We can just cut through.
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But when we cut through, we miss the
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beautiful outdoors, the scenery.
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We might even miss the opportunity of bumping
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in or meeting somebody that might actually help
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us, all because we're looking for a shortcut.
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Now, I'm not saying everybody's looking for a
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shortcut.
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But the thing about shortcuts is they are
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so tempting for people.
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You know, here you are doing the right
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stuff.
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I'll give you a perfect example.
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Being in school when I was a student
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in high school, I remember studying for my
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tests and doing very well.
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And I remember other people, friends, who got
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annoyed with me because I wouldn't let them
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cheat off my test.
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And I said to myself, why are they
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annoyed at me?
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Like, what kind of friends are these that
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would get annoyed at me because I wouldn't
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let them cheat?
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Like, that's wrong.
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And that's putting pressure under me.
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I soon realized that these aren't friends I
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want to be with.
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And you know what happened?
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After a while, they just came back and
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it didn't really matter to them that I
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didn't help them cheat.
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Once in a while, they would throw to
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my face like, oh, you know, you're getting
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an A.
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And, you know, we're only getting a B
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or something.
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Because, you know, you know the answers.
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And we could, and I just don't even,
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I don't even respond to it.
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I know being in grammar school, it was
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different.
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Tests were different in grammar school.
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My favorite one was the spelling test.
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And I was an A speller.
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Well, my grandmother on my dad's side had
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bought me something called Speak & Spell.
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You might know Speak & Spell.
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Speak & Spell is an electronic device where
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it has the words.
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And you could basically sit there and you
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could spell the words.
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Now, I remembered a couple things that Speak
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& Spell did.
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One, you turn it on and it would
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have vocabulary mode.
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So this was really cool.
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So vocabulary mode was kind of neat.
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So it'd be like, say it, entertainment, say
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it.
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And you would say all these words and
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you're kind of like watching them.
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You're going back and forth.
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And it's like, now spell superficial.
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And then you put the words like S
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-U-P-E-R.
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So, and it was kind of neat, but
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back then you couldn't add your own words.
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But my grandmother was very picky in that
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she wanted me to do very well in
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spelling.
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And I remember every week we would have
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a spelling test.
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And whenever I had a spelling test, my
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grandmother would know about it.
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And usually I was staying at my grandparents
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about once a week.
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My parents were traveling.
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And it was kind of good because they
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were going over like my stuff.
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The thing I always liked to my grandmothers
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is that when I stayed there, so I
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would get up in the morning and she'd
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be up early.
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And she'd be making me eggs, scrambled eggs,
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Taylor ham, or sausage and toast.
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And then she'd always have some type of
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pastry that she got it.
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At this time, it was called the Waika
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Bakery.
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That's not around anymore.
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And so when I got up to do
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the spelling test the first time, we had
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a couple of things.
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We had something called Spelling Bee.
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And Spelling Bee was when you were called
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up to the front of the classroom.
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And you had to like, John, your word
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is prevaricate, I would say.
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So I'd have to say the word, use
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it in a sentence.
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And then I have to say the word,
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use it a sentence, spell the word and
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say it again.
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So prevaricate, P-R-E-V-A-R
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-I-C-A-T-E.
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The boy, unfortunately, prevaricated when he
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was talking about his experiences on his trip.
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Prevaricate.
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Now, I was allowed to use different tenses
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of the word.
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And if you didn't do that format, like
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I mentioned to you, guess what happened?
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Well, you'd be told to sit down.
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But here's the great thing.
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When you did really well the Spelling Bee,
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okay, so John, Melissa, Joseph, and Paul, you're
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all exempt from the spelling test tomorrow.
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You all have an A.
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And that was kind of cool.
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Right?
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But what I learned is that testing in
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grammar school is different than testing, you know,
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in, let's say, after fifth grade, after fourth
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grade.
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And then testing in high school was different.
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And testing in college is even different.
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Not only do you have different types of
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studying, but you have different types of ways
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to take the tests.
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Like in college, a lot of some professors
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use something called a Scantron.
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We have to take a number two pencil
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and you have to like fill in the
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dots, which is a pain.
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So what's changed?
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I think as you grow and you learn,
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you have to realize that the same method
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that was used in the past may not
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always be used in the future.
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And so you have to adapt to these
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different mythologies.
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Because they're what the professor's requiring.
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And I just think that's a kind of
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an interesting thing.
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And so if you want to make a
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lasting impact in your life, you got to
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have resilience, you got to have the recovery,
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you got to have that great attitude.
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If you don't have the great attitude, okay,
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you're going to give up before you even
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start.
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You're going to make excuses for yourself to
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stop.
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And so thinking about, you know, lasting impact,
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thinking about how this works, and how a
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lot of people don't really understand that recovery
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creates the space for decision making.
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And taking a pause doesn't mean we're lazy.
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Taking a pause is something a lot of
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people do to think back on the information.
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And pausing also allows us to take the
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information from short to long term memory.
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But really, it goes from short term to
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long term when we actually rest.
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It could be a short cat nap, it
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could be sleeping at night.
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But that's when we actually take the information,
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and we commit to our long term memory.
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It happens automatically.
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But it does not happen unless we have
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good nutrition.
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We also, I forgot to say, we need
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good rest, right?
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The body needs rest.
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Anywhere from six to eight hours, depending on
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what your body needs.
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And we got to do this consistently.
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We've got to treat our body well.
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If we don't do this, and we keep
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pushing our body, what's going to happen?
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Our bodies say, you know what?
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I had enough.
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Like, I got to take a break.
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Well, you can't.
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Well, I'm just telling you I'm out.
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So you're on your own.
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So we got to listen to signs that
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our body's telling us, like, hey, you know,
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I need to rest.
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I need to rest.
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I need to understand where I'm going.
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And talking about resilience today, and recovery, and
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personal growth.
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Personal growth doesn't just mean growth in your
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own personal.
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It can also be in your business.
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Okay.
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Personal growth means we're starting one place.
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And we're using skills that we have, refining
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them, or learning new skills, so that we
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can go up the growth ladder.
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And what you're going to find is that
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when your mind and body start to use
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these tools, and you start to get better
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at things, you find it like a game.
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Um, I love studying.
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For me, I love studying, and I love
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creating mock quizzes, and just going back and
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testing myself.
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You know, at first, it can be a
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little daunting, because, you know, you want to
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get everything right.
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But as long as you give yourself plenty
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of time, like this midterm is coming up
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next week, I start studying a few weeks
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out.
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But I still study every day from class.
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So it's not like I'm just studying one
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time.
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I think when you make a decision, I
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don't care what subject you're in, I don't
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care what grade you're in, or what age
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you are.
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When you make a decision that you don't
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just want to pass the test, that you
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want to own the information, so that when
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that class is over, that information is mine.
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It's mine.
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And that's a whole different mentality to, I
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want to just do well on the test.
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Yes, I want to do well on the
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test.
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But I want to demonstrate mastery, and then
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own that material.
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That's what I want.
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And that's something a lot of people, they
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don't go for mastery.
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You think they go for mastery, but then
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they really don't.
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They go for the shortcuts.
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And you're only hurting yourself when you do
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stuff like that.
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Creating a lasting impact is getting the gifts
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of education, and using them to improve and
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better your life and others.
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So to help you become a better version
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of yourself, and help others become better versions
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of themselves as well.
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And when somebody says to you, you know
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what?
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Why do I want to become better?
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I just look at them.
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And they'll usually say something to me like,
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well, I don't need to change my life.
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I don't need to make it any better.
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You're going to get those people.
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Maybe because they don't feel they can grow.
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Maybe they don't have enough confidence in themselves.
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Could be a lot of reasons.
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Could be a lot of reasons.
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You guys can catch this show 24 hours
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a day at BelieveMeAchieved.com.
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I want to take the opportunity tonight to
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thank all of you for tuning into this
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episode.
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Whether it was your first time, or you've
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been on many times to watch or listen
27:27
to inspirations of your life.
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And remember one important thing, guys.
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Resilience, recovery, and growth.
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The two Rs and the G.
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Resilience, recovery, and growth are the three pillars
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that transform challenges into momentum.
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Resilience, recovery, and growth are the three pillars
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that transform challenges into momentum.
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And of course, success.
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Apply these principles daily.
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Protect your energy.
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And focus on deliberate actions to build unstoppable
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progress.
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And again, check out the show at BelieveMeAchieved
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.com.
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I'll catch you guys on another show real
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soon.
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Be well, everyone.
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Remember, you have the keys.
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Make the choice and use them.
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Take care, everyone.