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Sent to Heal or Sent to Hurt? Discerning Godly vs Toxic Relationships · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  Hey sis, welcome to Girl Date the Good Guy podcast, the space where we strip
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  away the noise and get real about toxic cycles, healing, and stepping into the love God has for us.
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  I'm your host, Emily Jordan, and I've been where you are, heartbroken,
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  confused, and chasing love that didn't come,
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  Hey sis, today we're diving into how to tell when someone was sent to hurt you
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  versus when someone was sent to heal you.
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  Because sis, both come wrapped in charm.
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  Both can look like love, but only one leads you closer to God.
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  Here's the thing nobody tells you. The devil studies your patterns too.
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  He knows the kind of man you fall for, the one that talks just right,
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  looks just right, says all the right things, but what you don't see is the assignment behind it.
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  See, the enemy doesn't always come to destroy with chaos at first.
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  Sometimes he comes dressed as your type. He sends someone that mirrors your
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  wounds, not your healing, someone that feeds your fear of being alone,
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  someone that reminds you of the love you wanted so badly to work before.
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  It's not always obvious.
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  In fact, it usually feels like finally.
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  Finally, someone who understands me. Finally, someone who sees me.
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  But before you know it, you're losing peace, doubting yourself,
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  questioning your worth, and shrinking the woman you were becoming just to keep their love.
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  That's not God. That's a trap.
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  When God sends someone, their love doesn't demand your peace as payment.
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  They don't manipulate you, drain you, or make you question your value.
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  When God sends someone, it feels like rest, like Excel, like the noise in your
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  head finally goes quiet.
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  God's person doesn't heal you for him. They heal you with him.
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  They don't want to replace God. They remind you to return to him.
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  Their presence doesn't pull you off of your purpose. It aligns you deeper in
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  it. And you know how you can tell the difference?
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  The devil's person will break you and call it love. God's person will build
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  you and call it partnership.
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  But here's the part we can't skip. You have to be healed enough to discern the difference.
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  If you're still carrying wounds from the one the devil sent,
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  you'll reject the one God sent.
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  Because real love will feel unfamiliar after pain. It will feel calm and you'll think it's boring.
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  It will feel safe and you'll think it's fake.
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  It will feel easy and you think it's too good to be true.
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  Sis, that's not boring. That's peace.
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  That's what you prayed for. But peace will always feel foreign to a heart that's only known chaos.
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  So before you start praying for the one, ask God to heal the part of you that keeps choosing almost.
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  The devil's goal was to break your heart so you'd build walls.
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  God's goal is to heal your heart so you'll build discernment.
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  One teaches you to fear love. The other teaches you to trust God.
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  So yes, the devil sent someone to hurt you. but God is sending someone to show
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  you that love doesn't have to hurt to be holy. Let's pray.
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  Father, thank you for revealing that not every connection is divine.
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  Give us the discernment to know the difference between distraction and destiny.
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  Heal the parts of us that confuse chaos with chemistry and prepare our hearts
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  for the love that reflects you.
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  In the mighty name of Jesus, amen.
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  If this episode spoke to you, take a moment and breathe.
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  Because maybe God is reminding you that your story isn't over,
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  sis. He's just shifting the cast.
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  Share this episode with another woman who's breaking her cycle and stepping into her healing.
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  And remember, girl, date the good guy.
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  Thank you for tuning in to Girl Date the Good Guy. Until next time,
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  keep your heart soft, your standards high, and your faith even higher. Bye.