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The Sweet Spot When It Comes To Age Gaps In A Relationship · The Cubby and Christine Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: 106.7 Light FM. Good morning. It's Covey. It's Christine, producer Kristen.
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  Speaker 1: Just in here discussing relationships. Yes. Because there's this little
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  Speaker 1: research study about the sweet spot for long-term success in
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  Speaker 1: a relationship as far as the age gap is concerned.
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  Speaker 1: And all of us, I don't know if we fit
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  Speaker 1: into this exactly, but our relationships are working. So I'm
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  Speaker 1: sharing this with you and saying take it with a
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  Speaker 1: grain of salt. The study is finding that between zero
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  Speaker 1: and three years is the perfect age gap for a
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  Speaker 1: relationship to last long term, lesser chance of divorce rates.
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  Speaker 2: That's a lower number than I thought because I'm happily
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  Speaker 2: married and we're 10 years apart in age. I'm not
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  Speaker 2: saying like our difference is what everyone should be, but.
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  Speaker 1: But it's working.
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  Speaker 2: But it's working. And I thought 10 would be kind of,
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  Speaker 2: I thought it'd be a higher number, basically, like seven
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  Speaker 2: or eight.
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  Speaker 1: No, they don't give you that. And that's Kristen with
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  Speaker 1: her husband. They're seven years apart.
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  Speaker 2: Seven years.
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  Speaker 1: And, you know, they're doing well. I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: whammy anybody in this room. But you guys are doing,
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  Speaker 1: you're doing really well. You're having beautiful relationships and kids
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  Speaker 1: and it's all going well. The reason that's cited in
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  Speaker 1: this that it might not go well if there's a
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  Speaker 1: bigger age gap is because basically you're not on the
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  Speaker 1: same page. You want to have the same views on money, health, careers, kids, retirement.
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  Speaker 1: So the bigger the age gap, the more chance that
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  Speaker 1: you're wanting things at different times.
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  Speaker 2: It didn't work out for Martha Ray and Mark Harris.
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  Speaker 2: Remember that?
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  Speaker 1: You've got to help me here. What reference is that?
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  Speaker 2: I know that was a very deep cut. Martha Ray.
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  Speaker 2: Remember the old actress did denture commercials before she passed?
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: And she married this publicist named Mark Harris. Oh. And
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  Speaker 2: they were 33 years apart.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, wow.
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  Speaker 2: Martha Ray. And people said that he married her for
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  Speaker 2: the money. And he pretty much did, kind of. Uh-huh.
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  Speaker 2: But he was saying how much he loved her. And
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  Speaker 2: if I showed you YouTube videos, it would bring back
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  Speaker 2: some memories, I think.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Because people thought that... This guy was kind of a
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  Speaker 2: whack job because, you know, it was clear that he
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  Speaker 2: was with Martha Ray for the money.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But I don't even know what he's doing.
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  Speaker 1: What ultimately happened?
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  Speaker 2: Well, she died. That's a problem.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay.
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  Speaker 2: When you marry someone a little bit too old, there's
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  Speaker 2: that chance. But she passed away in 19. Oh, here
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  Speaker 2: it is. Martha Ray, born in 1916. Mark Harris, born
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  Speaker 2: in 1949. When they married in September 1991, Ray was
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  Speaker 2: 75 years old. Harris was 42 years old. making him
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  Speaker 2: roughly 33 years her junior. So, yeah. Martha Ray. Didn't
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  Speaker 2: work out. Well, maybe it did work out.
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  Speaker 1: Well, we don't know because you said she passed.
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  Speaker 2: Right, she passed.
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  Speaker 1: Was she happy when she passed?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if it was going well when she
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  Speaker 2: passed or if it was falling apart.
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  Speaker 1: You know, like you said, this is a deep dive.
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  Speaker 1: It is. We just don't have these details. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: we see it in Hollywood all the time, don't we?
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  Speaker 1: But usually it's the actor, the man, who's older and
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  Speaker 1: the woman who's a lot younger. And again, it's like,
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  Speaker 1: I promise you no judgment whatsoever. It's like love is love,
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  Speaker 1: whatever works for you. It's just, I think, if you're aligned.
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  Speaker 1: If you're both wanting the same thing at the same time.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't matter if you're 15 years apart, but you're both,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, wanting to get a house together or
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  Speaker 1: wanting to have kids. You're just, that part is so important.
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  Speaker 2: You'd be a good therapist.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, thanks.
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  Speaker 2: And now a Martha Ray Polyden commercial from 1981. Are
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  Speaker 2: you ready? Here's the audio. Martha Ray. Here we go.
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  Speaker 2: Is it playing? That's not working. No. When I clown
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  Speaker 2: in front of that camera, this big smile needs something extra.
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  Speaker 2: Extra strength, polydine green. It gets my dentures sparkling clean.
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  Speaker 1: Watch. Tough lab stains.
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  Speaker 2: Now you remember her? Now extra strength, polydine.
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  Speaker 1: It's fantastic.
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  Speaker 2: Gets tough stains clean even in between.
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  Speaker 1: So take it from a big mouth.
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  Speaker 2: Extra strength polythene green gets tough stains clean.
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  Speaker 1: I think she was a character actress, maybe 40s, 50s
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  Speaker 1: or something like that.
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  Speaker 2: And then she ended up doing commercials and stuff like that.
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  Speaker 2: All right. If you remember Martha Ray or if you
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  Speaker 2: just have a... What is your gap? What is the
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  Speaker 2: age gap in your relationship? We want to hear from you.
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  Speaker 1: And does it matter?
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  Speaker 2: And does it matter?
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Let us know if it matters.
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  Speaker 2: Can you text us? Because so far we've been on
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  Speaker 2: the air for about an hour and a half and
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  Speaker 2: no one's texted.
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  Speaker 1: 44363.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if anybody's tuned in really. 4-4-3-6-3. Are
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  Speaker 2: you listening? Are you awake? Do you have a heartbeat?