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The Bizarre True Story Behind 'A Toxic Love Story' · Murder Files Unsealed

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Speaker 1: I want you to just imagine waking up tomorrow, you know,
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in your own.
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Speaker 2: Bed, right, just a totally normal morning.
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Speaker 1: Yeah exactly. You pour your coffee, you check your phone,
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and suddenly you realize you are staring down a life
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sentence for a terrifying violent crime.
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Speaker 2: A crime you absolutely did not commit.
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Speaker 1: Right. But the kicker is the evidence against you. It
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is completely flawless.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like threatening emails traced directly to your location.
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Speaker 1: Exactly, and terrifying online ads with you know, your digital
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fingerprints all over them.
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Speaker 2: Plus an actual physical victim with torn clothes pointing the
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figure directly at you.
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Speaker 1: But you know with absolute certainty that you never created
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a single piece of it. So today is Wednesday, July
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twenty two, twenty twenty.
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Speaker 2: Six, which happens to be the exact premiere date of
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the new Netflix documentary A Toxic Love Store.
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Speaker 1: Yes, and today our deep dive is tearing apart the
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completely documented, terrifyingly real case behind.
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Speaker 2: That film, because honestly, the premise sounds like something cooked
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up in a night's room, right, But the terror of
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this situation is rooted in cold, hard, documented reality.
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Speaker 1: It really is.
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Speaker 2: We're analyzing a case that began in Anaheim, California, in
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twenty sixteen. And our goal today isn't simply to recount
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a true crime narrative.
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Speaker 1: No, we really want to deconstruct a masterclass and manipulation exactly.
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Speaker 2: We need to examine how completely ordinary tools things sitting
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in your pocket right now, like email apps, local classifieds,
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emergency dispatch services, how they can be weaponized.
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Speaker 1: Because it's about how a bad actor can actually recruit
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the American justice system, you know, hijackets built in blind spots,
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and just turn it into a personal attack dog.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's institutional hacking at its finest.
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Speaker 1: Okay, let's unpack this. I want to set the table
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for everyone listening, because the core elements here are just staggering.
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Speaker 2: They really are.
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Speaker 1: We have a Deputy US Marshall, his brand new wife,
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and an ex girlfriend who somehow ends up falsely accused
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of orchestrating this elaborate and credibly violent rape fantasy harassment campaign.
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Speaker 2: Which feels massive. Yeah, it feels totally cinematic, right.
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Speaker 1: But it happened in a regular suburban neighborhood to real.
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Speaker 2: People, it did, and the sheer mechanics of the crime
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are bizarre. I mean totally convoluted, But the true focal
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point of our analysis today needs to be the institutional vulnerabilities.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, the blind spots exactly.
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Speaker 2: We have to figure out how a completely fabricated reality,
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literally constructed out of digital smoke and mirrors, managed to
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glide right past the critical thinking filters of local law enforcement.
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Speaker 1: It almost permanently destroyed an innocent woman's life in this.
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Speaker 2: Case forces us to reevaluate our default settings regarding who
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we trust, you know, what kind of evidence we consider undeniable, and.
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Speaker 1: Why a badge can sometimes completely short circuit the skepticism
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we just normally expect from our police.
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Speaker 2: So we really need to look at the foundation before
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we look at the trap itself.
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Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, let's talk about the ex girlfriend. Her name
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is Michelle Hadley back in twenty thirteen. She is a
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twenty nine year old graduate student.
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Speaker 2: Right, she's working on her MBA.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's ambitious, she's driven, and she meets a guy online.
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His name is Ian Diaz, and India.
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Speaker 2: Is not just some random guy she met on the internet.
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He is a deputy US Marshal.
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Speaker 1: Which is huge.
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Speaker 2: That detail absolutely cannot be overstated. The US Marshal Service
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is the enforcement arm of the federal courts.
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Speaker 1: Right, they hunt fugitives, they manage high level security exactly.
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Speaker 2: It's a premier federal law enforcement agency. So they hit
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it off. Things move relatively fast, right, yeah, very fast,
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and they take a massive step they buy a condominium
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together in Anaheim.
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Speaker 1: From the outside, you look at this and think, well, perfect,
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two young, successful professionals setting up their lives in southern California.
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Speaker 2: The American dream basically, right.
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Speaker 1: But I'm stuck on this one specific detail about the condo.
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It's a roughly five hundred thousand dollars property.
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Speaker 2: Uh huh.
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Speaker 1: But Michelle is the one who puts down the fifteen
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thousand dollars down payment out of her own pocket.
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Speaker 2: And that financial detail that is the absolute lynchpin of
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everything that follows.
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Speaker 1: Really, why do you think that condo down payment is
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so crucial to understanding the later conflict?
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Speaker 2: Well, because a shared mortgage is traditionally viewed as this
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ultimate symbol of domestic stability. Right, It's signals commitment, But
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a mortgage is also illegally binding tether. Oh, I see
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Michelle putting down the capitol is crucial. That fifteen thousand
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dollars represents her financial independence, her leverage in the relationship,
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and her undeniable legal right to occupy that space.
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Speaker 1: But we should talk about what was actually happening inside
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that space though.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. It wasn't a happy home.
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Speaker 1: No, because while the outside world sees this successful power couple,
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the reality inside those walls was incredibly dark. The accounts
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that emerged later paint a picture of severe pervasive.
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Speaker 2: Control, which is a huge red flag.
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Speaker 1: Ian wasn't just like a jealous boyfriend. He was installing
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security cameras inside their own home.
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Speaker 2: Wow, inside the condo.
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Speaker 1: Inside the condo, he was calling her incessantly to track
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her movements.
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Speaker 2: You see, course of control rarely starts with a massive,
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dramatic incident, and it's a slow, methodical erosion of boundaries.
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Speaker 1: It just creeps up on you, exactly.
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Speaker 2: And we have to analyze how that control operates when
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the person executing it carries a federal badge. Society often
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misinterprets early signs of intense monitoring as passion or protectiveness, right.
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Speaker 1: Like, oh, he just cares about me so much.
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Speaker 2: But Ian wasn't just crossing standard relationship boundaries. He was
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dictating her physical autonomy.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, demanding she gets specific fake nails, requiring her to
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get a belly button piercing.
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Speaker 2: He was essentially customizing her.
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Speaker 1: It feels like this relationship dynamic was a psychological terrarium,
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Like Michelle was living in this enclosed glass environment where
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Ian totally controlled the temperature, the humidity, the lighting.
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Speaker 2: That's a highly accurate analogy.
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Speaker 1: She is stuck inside and he is standing on the outside,
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adjusting the dials of her reality. And what makes it
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so hard to escape is the badge.
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Speaker 2: Right, absolutely, the badge provides an aura of unquestionable authority.
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When a federal law enforcement officer tells you that their
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way is the correct way, or implies that certain behaviors
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are expected, it carries the implicit weight of the government.
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Speaker 1: It creates total cognitive dissonance for the victim.
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Speaker 2: Exactly, how do you tell the person who perfectionally enforces
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boundaries for the federal government that they are violating your
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personal boundaries.
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Speaker 1: It's just an impossible power imbalance, and it bled into
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their intimate life in ways that are deeply disturbing and
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incredibly relevant to the later frame up.
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Speaker 2: The sexual coercion.
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Speaker 1: Right, he was pressuring her into very specific, highly uncomfortable
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sexual fantasies, and these fantasies heavily involve the concept of
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strangers and cameras.
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Speaker 2: We are looking at a pre existing psychological playbook here.
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The fixations that Ian exhibited during the relationship, the surveillance,
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the introduction of non consenting third parties, the manipulated sexuality,
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these were not random quirks.
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Speaker 1: They were testing grounds.
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Speaker 2: Precisely, they were established patterns of behavior. He was already
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exploring how to leverage vulnerability and digital recording in a
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domestic setting.
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Speaker 1: Which means when the relationship finally implodes in August of
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twenty fifteen, those concepts are already sitting right there in.
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Speaker 2: His toolkit, just waiting to be weaponized.
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Speaker 1: And that breakup is explosive. But let's go back to
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that financial tether you mentioned. When they break up, Michelle
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doesn't just evaporate.
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Speaker 2: She can't.
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Speaker 1: She put down her life savings on that condo. She
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can't just walk away from fifteen grand.
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Speaker 2: And for someone like Ian who requires absolute dominance, having
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a former partner retain a legal and financial claim over
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your living space, that is an intolerable loss of power.
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Speaker 1: He couldn't stand it.
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Speaker 2: The breakup did not sever the dynamic of control. It
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just changed the battlefield. The shared legal interest in that
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Anaheim condo became the catalyst for a massive criminal conspiracy.
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Speaker 1: So Michelle had a right to be made whole, to
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get her back, or to force a sale.
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Speaker 2: But Ian one of the property and he wanted her erased.
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Speaker 1: So Ian stays in the condo, the condo that, mind you,
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still has Michelle's name on the deed, and he moves
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on with blinding speed. He gets on a dating site
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and quickly meets a woman named Angela. She also goes
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by Angela Connell in some records, and we.
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Speaker 2: Are talking about a timeline of just a few months.
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Speaker 1: Right by February of twenty sixteen, Ian and Angela are married.
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Speaker 2: The speed of that courtship is a massive red flag.
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Moving a brand new spouse into a home that is
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actively tangled in a bitter legal and financial dispute with
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an ex partner is just a recipe for extreme volatility.
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Speaker 1: You are baking tension right into the architecture of their
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daily lives. It's exactly I can't imagine a more combustible setup.
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You have the new wife literally sleeping in the physical
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space that legally belongs to the ex girlfriend, and.
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Speaker 2: It explodes almost immediately it does.
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Speaker 1: By May of twenty sixteen, Ian and Angela go to
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the authorities. They walk into a local police station and
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claim they're living in terror.
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Speaker 2: They tell the cops they're being relentlessly harassed and threatened
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by an anonymous emailer.
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Speaker 1: And what was the handle the emailer used?
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Speaker 2: The handle was lilithus Truth. And this is where we
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really need to start dissecting the calculation behind the frame up.
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Speaker 1: Okay, let's get into it.
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Speaker 2: Because the choice of the name Lilith is highly specific.
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Speaker 1: Why Lilith? What does that signal to the police when
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they look at this file?
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Speaker 2: Well, in various mythologies, Lilith is often depicted as Adam's
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first wife in the Garden of Eden, and the core
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of the Lilith myth is that she refused to be
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subservient to Adam. Oh wow, right, She demanded equality, and
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when she was denied, she left the garden and was
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subsequently demonized in folklore, often associated with stealing children in
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the night.
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Speaker 1: That is so calculated.
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Speaker 2: By choosing Lilith's truth, the orchestrators are not just claiming
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they have a stalker. They are drafting a very specific
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psychological profile for the police.
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Speaker 1: They are basically implying the stalkers scorn, ideologically driven, aggressively independent,
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and holding a massive grudge over a past relationship.
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Speaker 2: Exactly. It's completely engineered. They are writing a movie script
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and casting Michelle as the villain.
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Speaker 1: And the emails themselves start out relatively grounded, almost to
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make sure the police connect the dots early on.
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Speaker 2: They need to establish the motive right.
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Speaker 1: Early emails say things to Angelo like you stole in
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my life and good luck getting back to the condo.
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Speaker 2: They are pointing a giant, glowing neon arrow directly at
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the real estate dispute.
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Speaker 1: Establishing a motive is step one in any police investigation,
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and the perpetrators knew this. They basically handed the police
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the motive on a silver platter.
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Speaker 2: But the escalation of the emails is what truly reveals
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the strategy. They don't just stay at the level of
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a property dispute, No.
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Speaker 1: They become horrifically violent. They do incredibly violent. The emails
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start threatening a purported child. They attach graphic, gruesome images
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of decapitated bodies and aborted fetuses.
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Speaker 2: It's incredibly dark.
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Speaker 1: And they deliberately weave in religious themes and specific idiosyncratic
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phrasing that Michelle had actually used in some angry emails
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to Ian right after their breakup months earlier.
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Speaker 2: This is a concept we see in advanced manipulation. I
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can call it establishing.
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Speaker 1: False continuity false continuity.
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Speaker 2: Right by echoing Michelle's exact phrasing from older, verifiable emails,
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Ian can sit down with the detective, pull up the
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old emails and say, look at how she spoke to
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me a year ago. Now look at how Lilith is
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speaking to my wife.
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Speaker 1: It is undeniably the same person exactly.
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Speaker 2: They are spoon feeding local law enforcement a narrative that
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perfectly aligns with a highly dangerous, unhinged ex partner.
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Speaker 1: But let's pause there for a second, because if I
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am a seasoned detective and someone hands me a stack
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of emails threatening to capitations and sending pictures of fetuses
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over a condo dispute, my first thought is that this
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is too much. It feels like a bad horror movie.
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Doesn't that level of theatricality make the police suspicious? Wouldn't
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they look at that and think real people don't talk
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like supervillains?
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Speaker 2: That's a great question. If a detective had the luxury
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of time, if they could sit in a quiet room
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for a month and analyze the linguistics in the pacing
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of the escalation, they might actually see the performance for
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what it is.
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Speaker 1: But they don't have time.
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Speaker 2: Right law enforcement operates on triage. The extreme threats were
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never designed to hold up under slow, methodical scrutiny. They
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were designed to trigger an immediate, visceral response.
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Speaker 1: You mean they're trying to force the police's hand.
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Speaker 2: Precisely, when you introduce credible sounding threats against a pregnant
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woman and you pair that with gruesome imagery, you activate
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what we might call the imminent threat protocol in a
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responding officer's brain.
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Speaker 1: The panic button.
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Speaker 2: Exactly. The police no longer have the luxury of slow analysis.
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They are ethically and legally obligated to act immediately to
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prevent a potential murder. The extremity of the threats bypasses
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the analytical brain and targets the reactive brain, and Ian,
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being a federal officer, knew exactly how to push those
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specific buttons.
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Speaker 1: That makes terrifying sense. The emails are just the primer,
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because then the harassment leaps off the computer screen and
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into the physical world.
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Speaker 2: This is where it gets incredibly dangerous.
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Speaker 1: And this is where Ian's pre existing playbook comes back
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right Suddenly, ads are posted on craigslists, and we.
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Speaker 2: Must emphasize the nature of these ads. This is not
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standard spam.
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Speaker 1: No, these are targeted, localized ads seeking men to fulfill
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a quote unquote rape fantasy with Angela.
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Speaker 2: It's horrific.
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Speaker 1: The ads feature photographs of Angela, They list the exact
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physical address of the Anaheim condo. They give specific instructions
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for these strangers to just show up at the door
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and force themselves inside.
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Speaker 2: This is a total violation of.
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Speaker 1: Reality and the most horrifying part of this entire scheme
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men actually showed up. Yeah, strangers literally drove to that
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condo expecting a willing participant.
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Speaker 2: This is the moment the psychological terror peaks. The perpetrators
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have bridged the gap between an anonymous digital thread and
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an actual, unpredictable physical danger. He made it really well
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by utilizing craizelists to recruit unwitting third parties. They manufactured
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a chaotic, highly volatile crime scene, and we actually.
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Speaker 1: Have bodycam footage of how this played out we do.
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On June thirteenth, twenty sixteen, local Anaheim police officers respond
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to the condo because of these men showing up and
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on the footage you see Ian Diaz put non show.
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He is in full deputy US marshal mode. He is
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aggressively looking at these local cops, visibly frustrated, demanding action.
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He tells them right on camera that Michelle Hadley needs
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to be put in and I quote fanging cuffs and
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in a padded room.
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Speaker 2: This specific interaction is a textbook example of institutional hacking.
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Oh so, Ian is leveraging his federal badge to completely
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short circuit the local officer standard operating procedures.
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Speaker 1: It's like an autoimmune disease of the justice system, the
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system's natural defenses, the responding officers, the detectives. They're being
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tricked into attacking healthy tissue because the virus is disguised
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as one of their own self.
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Speaker 2: That is an excellent way to conceptualize it. Confirmation bias
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is perhaps the most powerful and dangerous force in any investigation.
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Totally when a perceived authority figure, a fellow brother in
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law enforcement, presents responding officers with a neatly tied, emotionally
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charged narrative. The natural instinct of those officers is just
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to believe him.
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Speaker 1: The badge creates an immediate, unearned shortcut to trust.
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Speaker 2: Exactly, Ian is not presenting himself as a chaotic victim.
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He's presenting himself as an expert who has already done
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all the police work for them. He is diagnosing the
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suspect and prescribing the arrest, and.
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Speaker 1: The autoimmune disease kicks into overdrive. Just a few days later,
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on June twenty four, Angela Diez calls nine to one one.
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She sounds utterly terrified.
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Speaker 2: Playing her part perfectly, she.
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Speaker 1: Tells the dispatcher that a man just tried to rape
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her in the garage of the condo. When the Anaheim
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police arrive, with their lights flashing, they find a highly
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distressed victim.
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Speaker 2: They find a scene that perfectly matches the digital threats
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they've been reading for weeks.
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Speaker 1: Angela has a torn shirt, she has visible redness, actual
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physical marks on her neck and her breasts. She is crying.
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Speaker 2: It looks like a close case.
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Speaker 1: She tells the officers that Michelle Hadley orchestrated the entire attack.
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She points the finger directly at her, and the system
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does exactly what it is programmed to do. Michelle Hadley
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is arrested that exact same day.
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Speaker 2: At twenty nine years old, a woman with absolutely no
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criminal history is taken into custody and charged with felony,
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attempted forcible rape.
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Speaker 1: In stalking, charges that carry the very real potential of
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a life sentence in a California state prison.
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Speaker 2: It's unfathomable.
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Speaker 1: I really want to dig into the psychology of that
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June twenty fourth incident, though. Staging an attack on yourself
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is a massive, massive leap from sitting behind a keyboard
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sending fake.
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Speaker 2: Emails, huge escalation.
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Speaker 1: Well, what does this all mean? How do two people
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cross that line? What is the psychology of someone who
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is willing to physically tear their own clothes and cause
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visible redness to their own body just to win a
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real estate dispute.
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Speaker 2: What you're describing touches on a psychological oncept known as folly,
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a do or a shared delusion, though in the context
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of this specific criminal conspiracy, it is probably more accurately
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described as a shared malice.
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Speaker 1: Shared malice right.
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Speaker 2: When two individuals who both possess high needs for control
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and potentially exhibit profound antisocial or narcissistic traits. Come together,
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they create a highly insulated echo chamber.
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Speaker 1: So they basically feed off each other's worst impulses.
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Speaker 2: Exactly inside that echo chamber, extreme deviant actions slowly become normalized.
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For Angela, she likely inherited Ian's profound vendetta against Michelle.
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Speaker 1: It became her war too.
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Speaker 2: The condo wasn't just a building. It was a symbol
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of her rightful place in Ian's life, and Michelle was
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the encroaching threat. When you combine the complete dehumanization of
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your target with the adrenaline thrill of a successful deception.
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Speaker 1: You lose all perspective you do.
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Speaker 2: The physical act of tearing a shirt and staging a
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crime scene ceases to feel like a crime. To the perpetrators,
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fels and necessary almost heroic, tactical maneuver to win a war.
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They completely decouple their physical actions from the catastrophic human
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consequences those actions will cause.
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Speaker 1: It is so chilling to think about and for anyone
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listening right now. I mean, think about how heavily we
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rely on things like nine to one one calls and
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police body cameras.
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Speaker 2: We treat them as gospel.
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Speaker 1: We really do. We view them as the ultimate objective
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arbiters of truth. If we hear a panicked voice on
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a nine to one one tape, or see a torn
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shirt on a police body cam, we just assume we
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are looking at reality.
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Speaker 2: But this case fundamentally proves that those tools only capture
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the performance right.
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Speaker 1: They only capture what the actors choose to present to
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the lens or the microphone.
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Speaker 2: That is a crucial distinction. Technology in the hands of
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law enforcement is only as objective as the context surrounding it.
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The camera does not lie about what it sees, but
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it cannot tell you if what it sees was manufactured.
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In the short term, the physical staging and the invocation
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of the Marshal's badge worked flawlessly. The Anaheim police acted
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exactly as Ian and Angela scripted them to act.
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Speaker 1: So the trap completely snapshut. Michelle is hauled off to
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face life in prison, and.
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Speaker 2: Ian and Angela think they've won.
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Speaker 1: But they make a massive hubristic mistake. They get greedy.
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Speaker 2: Always happens.
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Speaker 1: We will get to their eventual downfall, but first we
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have to talk about the human cost of this frame up.
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We have to talk about what happened to Michelle during
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her eighty eight days in the Abyss.
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Speaker 2: We really must, because for almost three entire months, the
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fabricated reality completely superseded the actual reality.
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Speaker 1: Michelle is arrested and she does not waiver for minute one.
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She adamantly maintains her innocence.
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Speaker 2: He tells the truth.
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Speaker 1: She tells the detectives. I didn't send those emails, I
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didn't post those ads on Craigslist. I didn't hire anyone
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to attack her. But she is just utterly crushed by
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the sheer weight of the official, state sanctioned accusations against her.
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Speaker 2: We need to take a hard look at the mechanics
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of preacher trial detention in the United States. Yeah, we
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are all taught the phrase innocent untill proving guilty. It
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is the bedrock of our civic understanding of the law.
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Speaker 1: Sure, it's what they teach you in school.
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Speaker 2: But in practice, when the state is presented with what
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appears to be a flawless victim narrative, especially when that
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narrative is aggressively endorsed by federal law enforcement, the presumption
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of innocence just evaporates.
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Speaker 1: It completely disappears.
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Speaker 2: It becomes a legal fiction. Pre trial detention is not
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a neutral holding pattern. It is profoundly punitive.
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Speaker 1: It is designed to break you. Yes, I want everyone
20:35
listening to genuinely try and picture this. Imagine the sensory
20:39
deprivation of being locked inside a concrete cell. You have
20:42
zero control over the lights, the food, the temperature.
20:46
Speaker 2: You're completely at the mercy of the system.
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Speaker 1: You are facing the prospect of dying in a prison cell.
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And outside those walls, you know the seasons are changing,
20:54
your friends are going to work, and the entire the
20:57
local news anchors, the police chief, the prosecutors has collectively
21:02
reviewed the evidence and publicly agreed that you are a monster.
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Speaker 2: The isolation is absolute, and the collateral damage begins the
21:08
second the handcuffs.
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Speaker 1: Click, it's a meeting.
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Speaker 2: While Michelle was sitting in that cell fighting for her life,
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her actual life was being dismantled. She lost her job immediately.
21:18
Her graduate studies, the NBA program she had put all
21:21
her ambition into, were completely.
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Speaker 1: Derailed because of the sensational nature of the charges. Her
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name was plastered across the Internet.
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Speaker 2: Which means her future credit applications or housing applications, any
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background check a future employer might run.
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Speaker 1: All ruined, ruined. It's like a Kofka esque nightmare or
21:39
a real life glitch in the matrix. You are screaming
21:42
the truth, but the system is programmed to only hear
21:46
the lie.
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Speaker 2: And we have to acknowledge the physiological toll here too.
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She developed severe post traumatic stress disorder. I can't even
21:53
imagine the sheer trauma of being comprehensively gaslight by the
21:57
entire apparatus of the state is an event that literally
22:00
alters your brain chemistry. You were telling the truth, but
22:03
the entire world insists you are lying.
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Speaker 1: And the most insidious part of it is that Michelle
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was tasked with an impossible burden.
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Speaker 2: Proving a negative almost impossible to do.
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Speaker 1: How do you definitively prove to a detective that you
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didn't send an anonymous email when a US marshal is
22:19
standing in the room swearing that you did.
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Speaker 2: You generally cannot unless the perpetrators make a logistical error
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that the system simply cannot ignore.
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Speaker 1: And that is exactly what happened. Because while Michelle is
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sitting in that cell suffering, Ian and Angela are free.
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They won they have the condo. The ex girlfriend is
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locked in a cage but they couldn't stop. They were
22:40
addicted to the game, and that addiction to the game
22:43
is exactly what brought their house of cards down.
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Speaker 2: The hubris of the successful frame up is often what
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brings it down.
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Speaker 1: So Michelle is in a concrete cell, cut off from
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the world, no phone, absolutely zero access to the Internet whatsoever.
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But out in the world, the police suddenly receive another
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threat to email from the Litlis's truth.
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Speaker 2: Account, which breaks the whole illusion.
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Speaker 1: Right, how is that even physically possible?
23:06
Speaker 2: It isn't, And that is the logistical impossibility that finally
23:10
broke the spell. The moment an email was sent while
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the prime suspect was verifiably locked in a high security
23:16
holding facility, the local police were forced to acknowledge a
23:20
massive flaw in their narrative.
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Speaker 1: They couldn't ignore it anymore.
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Speaker 2: Exactly this impossibility sparked digital forensic specialists to enter the
23:29
investigation and look vastly deeper than the superficial narrative they
23:33
had been handed.
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Speaker 1: The physical evidence, the torn shirt, the crying on the
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nine one one call had completely blinded the local detectives.
23:40
But digital forensics is different. It is it doesn't care
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about tears.
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Speaker 2: Digital forensics operates in a realm, entirely devoid of human
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emotion or bias.
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Speaker 1: Here's where it gets really interesting. This unraveling is a
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masterclass in why you cannot outsmart the architecture of the Internet.
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Speaker 2: It really is.
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Speaker 1: The forensic investigators start pulling the threads, They look at
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the Craigslist postings, they look at the email headers, and
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they start tracing the IP addresses.
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Speaker 2: Now, Ian and Angelo were not entirely tech illiterate. They
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tried to hide. They used VPNs, virtual private networks, and
24:12
proxy servers to try and obscure the origins of their
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Internet traffic.
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Speaker 1: A lot of people believe that using a VPN makes
24:18
you a digital ghost.
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Speaker 2: It doesn't. We need to explain how this actually works.
24:22
A VPN is essentially just a secure tunnel between your
24:26
device and another server on the Internet. Okay, it masks
24:29
your IT address for the website you are visiting, making
24:33
it look like your traffic is coming from the VPN
24:35
server location rather than you're living them.
24:38
Speaker 1: So if Ian is sitting in Anaheim, the VPN makes
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it look like the Lilith emails are coming from, say, Chicago.
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Speaker 2: Correct, But the tunnel itself has an entrance and an exit.
24:48
The VPN company owns that tunnel, and if law enforcement
24:52
has the legal subpoena power to demand the connection locks
24:55
from that specific VPN provider, they can see exactly whose
24:58
home IP address connected to that tunnel at the exact
25:01
moment the harassing email was sent out the other side.
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Speaker 1: So it's not fool proof, not at all.
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Speaker 2: VPNs and proxies are robust tools for general privacy, but
25:09
they are highly vulnerable against skilled forensic analysts armed with
25:12
federal subpoenas.
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Speaker 1: So the investigators peel back those layers of digital obfuscation.
25:17
They look past the VPNs, and the trail does not
25:21
lead to Michelle Hadley's devices.
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Speaker 2: It leads directly, undeniably to devices controlled by Angela dis
25:28
It points to the MAC address of her personal cell phone.
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Speaker 1: And a MAX address. Just for clarity, is like a hardware.
25:34
Speaker 2: Thing, right exactly. It's a unique hardware identifier assigned to
25:37
a network interface controller. It's essentially the permanent digital fingerprint
25:42
of a specific piece of hardware, like a smartphone or
25:45
a laptop. You can mask your IP address, but masking
25:49
your device's physical MA stress while operating on private networks
25:53
is significantly harder.
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Speaker 1: And the digital fingerprints were everywhere. The IP logs pointed
25:58
right back to the router and the Anaheim conough and incredibly,
26:01
some of the logs even pointed to a router located
26:03
at Angela's father's home in Arizona.
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Speaker 2: Which definitively proved that Angela was continuing to actively manage
26:10
the frame up and send threats while she was traveling
26:12
out of state.
26:13
Speaker 1: But it wasn't just Angela acting alone. When the investigators
26:16
finally secured warrants to examine Ian's government issued laptop, the
26:20
highly secure machine provided to him by the United States
26:23
Marshall Service, they found the smoking gun.
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Speaker 2: It's astounding.
26:29
Speaker 1: They found fragments of the harassing little of emails physically
26:32
saved on his federal computer. The digital correspondence linking to
26:36
the Craigslist responders pointed right back to his devices.
26:40
Speaker 2: They were utilizing federal government property to draft the destruction
26:44
of an innocent citizen's life, And once that digital thread
26:47
was pulled, the entire sweater of their fabricated reality unraveled.
26:51
Speaker 1: What else did they find when they dumped the devices?
26:54
Speaker 2: Investigators discovered a pathological litany of fabrications. That extended far
26:58
beyond Michelle like what. They uncovered evidence of entirely fake
27:02
pregnancies that Angela had manufactured to manipulate Ian or others
27:05
in her life. They found forged medical notes from doctors.
27:08
Speaker 1: Wow.
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Speaker 2: They found digital evidence of them impersonating other women online.
27:12
They even found altered paychecks. The sheer scale and volume
27:16
of the deception painted a picture of individuals who utilized
27:19
fraud as a primary coping mechanism for life.
27:22
Speaker 1: The incredible irony here is just staggering. The exact tools
27:27
Ian and Angela used to execute this frame up. You know,
27:30
the anonymity of the Internet, the reach of Craigslist, the
27:32
speed of email are the precise tools that provided the unforgeable,
27:37
irrefutable proof of their guilt.
27:40
Speaker 2: They really thought they were untouchable.
27:41
Speaker 1: They thought technology was their weapon, but the architecture of
27:44
the Internet was actually building their prison cell.
27:47
Speaker 2: If we connect this to the bigger picture, this case
27:50
perfectly illustrates why digital forensics has become the ultimate light
27:54
detector in modern policing. Absolutely human beings lie eyewitnesses. Remember,
28:01
police body cameras only capture the curated performance happening within
28:04
the frame of the lenb and a nine.
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Speaker 1: To one to one dispatcher. Only here's the panic you
28:08
consciously inject into your vocal cords.
28:10
Speaker 2: But ip logs, mechi addresses and server connection histories, they
28:14
have no agenda none, They cannot be intimidated by a
28:17
US marshal's badge, and they're completely indifferent to a torn shirt.
28:21
They simply quietly record the data of what actually occurred.
28:25
Speaker 1: With the digital evidence undeniable, the roles completely invert. The
28:29
supposed victim becomes the accused, and the accused becomes the victim.
28:33
Speaker 2: But justice, it turns out, moves at very different speeds depending.
28:36
Speaker 1: On who you are, right, So the digital evidence completely
28:40
exonerates Michelle. Once the district attorney sees these ip logs,
28:44
what happens? Does the system immediately self correct?
28:47
Speaker 2: It does, But the timeline of accountability is where we
28:49
see the final glaring institutional bias of this case. We
28:53
have to look at the split reckoning of Angela Diez
28:56
versus the andds Okay.
28:57
Speaker 1: January twenty seventeen, the digital evidence is fully processed, the
29:02
Orange County District Attorney's office officially drops all charges against
29:05
Michelle Hadley. Finally, District Attorney Tony Racaka's publicly clears her name,
29:10
standing before the press and calling her an innocent victim
29:13
of a diabolical scheme, And on that exact same day,
29:16
Angela Diaz is arrested.
29:18
Speaker 2: The system moves with remarkable speed against the civilian. Angela's
29:22
hit with ten felony counts, including kidnapping, false imprisonment, forgery,
29:27
and perjury, and.
29:28
Speaker 1: By October of twenty seventeen, she accepts a plea deal
29:31
and receives a five year sentence in state prison. Swift,
29:35
decisive justice.
29:36
Speaker 2: But what about Ian right?
29:37
Speaker 1: He is the US marshal. He is the one who
29:40
provided the institutional muscle, the knowledge of police procedure, and
29:43
the sheer intimidating presence that made the local cops arrest
29:47
Michelle in the first place.
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Speaker 2: He was the engine.
29:49
Speaker 1: When Angela goes down in twenty seventeen, does Ian go
29:52
with her?
29:52
Speaker 2: He does not. Ian initially escapes all formal accountability. The
29:57
local investigators and prosecutors focus the entire of their criminal
30:00
case on Angela.
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Speaker 1: I am stuck on this. How does a local police
30:04
department look at a conspiracy this massive? See the emails
30:08
on the husband's government laptop See him demanding an arrest
30:11
on bodycam, and decide to only charge the wife.
30:14
Speaker 2: You are looking at a textbook manifestation of the blue
30:18
wall of silence and the profound inertia of institutional protection.
30:22
It's so frustrated when a local municipal police department is
30:25
tasked with investigating a sworn federal law enforcement officer. There
30:29
is an immense inherent hesitation. It begins as professional courtesy
30:34
and rapidly morse into a devastating investigative blind spot.
30:38
Speaker 1: It's the assumption that a federal agent couldn't possibly be
30:41
the bad guy. Is the system designed to protect its
30:45
own effectively?
30:46
Speaker 2: Yes, His status as a deputy US Marshall created an
30:50
invisible shield that local detectives were either psychologically unwilling or
30:55
politically unable to pierce.
30:56
Speaker 1: It's easier to blame the wife.
30:58
Speaker 2: Much easier. It is much easier for a local precinct
31:01
to categorize Ian as a duped, naive husband who was
31:04
manipulated by his crazy new wife, rather than face the
31:07
massive jurisdictional and political headache of accusing a federal agent
31:11
of a complex cyber.
31:12
Speaker 1: Conspiracy, because that would be a nightmare for them.
31:14
Speaker 2: Bureaucratic systems are inherently designed to protect their own legitimacy.
31:18
To arrest a US marshal is to publicly admit that
31:20
the extensive vetting, the psychological profiling, the training, and the
31:24
ongoing oversight of a premier federal agency failed spectacularly.
31:28
Speaker 1: That is deeply frustrating for anyone who believes an equal
31:31
application of the law. I mean, think about this. It
31:35
took five years between Angela's conviction in twenty seventeen and
31:38
Ian finally facing federal charges, half a decade. How does
31:43
the wall finally break?
31:45
Speaker 2: The local authorities were never going to break it. It
31:47
required intervention from outside the local ecosystem. The FEDS, the
31:50
Department of Justice's Office of the Inspector General, the internal
31:54
watchdogs who police federal agencies. They took over the investigation.
31:58
They applied the scrutiny that the local detectives actively avoided.
32:02
Speaker 1: And when they finally looked with clear eyes, the evidence
32:05
was undeniable. They re examined that bodycam footage from the anaheimocondo,
32:09
but this time they weren't looking at it to confirm
32:11
Michelle's guilt.
32:12
Speaker 2: They analyzed Ian's behavior right.
32:14
Speaker 1: They noted how he was actively coaching the local cops,
32:17
how he aggressively directed the narrative, they dug into the
32:21
forensic backups of his devices, and finally the hammer falls.
32:25
Speaker 2: It took long enough.
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Speaker 1: In May of twenty twenty one, Ian Diaz is arrested
32:28
on massive federal charges conspiracy to commit cyberstocking, cyber stocking,
32:33
and perjury.
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Speaker 2: The federal trial commenced in March twenty twenty three, and
32:37
when the unvarnished digital truth was presented to a jury
32:40
completely devoid of his badge's influence, they convicted him on
32:44
all counts after less than two days of deliberation. Wow
32:47
TYBA Assistant Attorney General Kenneth A. Polite released a definitive statement.
32:52
He explicitly noted that Diaz quote abused his position as
32:56
a deputy US Marshal to execute an intricate so iyberstocking
33:00
scheme that framed an innocent person for sexual assault, leading
33:04
to her unjust imprisonment for eighty eight days.
33:07
Speaker 1: The ultimate fall from Grace. On June thirty, twenty twenty three,
33:10
IANDZ stands in a federal courtroom and A sentenced to
33:14
ten years and one month in federal prison.
33:16
Speaker 2: A decade behind bars, but that.
33:18
Speaker 1: Date, June thirty, twenty twenty three, holds a bizarre, almost
33:21
poetically beautiful significance for Michelle's future.
33:24
Speaker 2: The aftermath of this case is a profound study in
33:26
human resilience and the long shadow of trauma.
33:29
Speaker 1: On the exact day that Ian Ds was sentenced, Michelle
33:32
Hadley was in a hospital giving birth to her first child,
33:35
a daughter.
33:35
Speaker 2: That is incredible timing.
33:37
Speaker 1: She has spoken about this, calling the timing one of
33:39
the strange, beautiful patterns in her life. She calls her
33:42
daughter my rainbow after a very long storm.
33:46
Speaker 2: It is an incredible juxtaposition of life moving forward while
33:49
the architect of her suffering is finally locked away. But
33:53
this raises an important question. You know, we must consider
33:56
the larger implications of wrongful accusations.
33:59
Speaker 1: Yeah, what happens after.
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Speaker 2: The legal resolution of a case. The dropping of charges
34:03
or even the conviction of the real perpetrators does not
34:06
erase the lived experience of the victim.
34:08
Speaker 1: Right, she fought back legally. In April of twenty twenty one,
34:12
Michelle received an undisclosed civil settlement from the City of
34:16
Anaheim for the wrongful arrest and the catastrophic failure of
34:19
their investigative process. But the money doesn't wipe the slate
34:23
completely clean, does it. The Internet is forever it is.
34:26
Speaker 2: When Michelle goes to apply for a business loan, or
34:29
seeks a new job, or looks for an apartment, a
34:32
formal background check might show she is cleared.
34:34
Speaker 1: But Google doesn't care about a background check exactly.
34:38
Speaker 2: A simple Google search by a hiring manager or a
34:41
landlord will still surface the public record of those original
34:44
horrifying charges. The headlines about the rape fantasy Craigslist stalker
34:50
still exist in the digital ether, so she.
34:52
Speaker 1: Is forced to constantly explain, no, I am not a
34:55
violent stalker. I was the victim of a federal law
34:58
enforcement conspiracy.
34:59
Speaker 2: That arnment to constantly defend your own cleared name is
35:02
an exhausting, lifelong burden.
35:05
Speaker 1: She has channeled that burden remarkably well. Though she started
35:08
her own retail business and she actively raises money and
35:11
advocates for a domestic violence shelter. She took the darkest
35:15
period of her life and weaponized her survival to help others.
35:18
Speaker 2: It's a huge testament to her strength.
35:20
Speaker 1: And that brings us back to why this specific deeply
35:22
bizarre true crime story matters to you, the listener, because
35:26
it proves a fundamental evolution in how we need to
35:28
understand human behavior. Extreme control and intimate partner abuse do
35:33
not always announce themselves with a black eye or of
35:35
physical altercation.
35:37
Speaker 2: Abuse is highly adaptable. It can mutate into weaponized bureaucracy.
35:41
It can manifest this complex digital manipulation. An abuser does
35:45
not need to lay a hand on you if they
35:47
can successfully recruit the local police department to act as
35:50
their proxy, executing their violence under the color of law.
35:54
Speaker 1: And it highlights a massive shift in how we consume
35:56
these stories. You know, the true crime genre is the.
36:00
Speaker 2: Definitely Audiences today are far more sophisticated. We're no longer
36:04
just looking for the simple mechanics of a who do unit.
36:07
Speaker 1: We want to understand the systems at play.
36:09
Speaker 2: We are demanding to see the institutional blind spots. We
36:12
want to expose the systemic failures that allow bad actors,
36:16
particularly those shielded by a uniform or a badge, to
36:19
manipulate the truth and destroy ordinary lives.
36:22
Speaker 1: And the Netflix documentary A Toxic Love Story relies entirely
36:26
on real evidence. There are no dramatic reenactments with actors
36:30
neither Ian nor Angela participated, which is crucial because it
36:33
strips them of their ability to spin their own narrative
36:36
or gaslight the audience.
36:37
Speaker 2: The facts speak for themselves.
36:39
Speaker 1: We have spent the last hour pulling apart a truly
36:43
terrifying inversion of reality. We saw a sworn federal law
36:47
enforcement officer, a man paid to protect the public, transform
36:50
into the architect of a vicious cyberstocking campaign alongside his wife.
36:55
Speaker 2: We saw a young, ambitious graduate student survive eighty eight
36:59
days in a concrete cage for a crime she couldn't
37:02
possibly have committed.
37:04
Speaker 1: And we saw how the cold, unfeeling digital footprints of
37:07
servers and IP addresses were the only things capable of
37:11
piercing the armor of a federal badge to finally deliver justice.
37:15
Speaker 2: It is a definitive warning about the fragility of our
37:17
freedom when faced with manufactured evidence.
37:20
Speaker 1: It really is. But I want to leave you with
37:21
one final, deeply chilling thought to mull over as you
37:24
go about your day. We have spent this entire deep
37:27
dive praising digital forensistre ip logs, device histories, mazeraddresses. These
37:33
are the tools that saved Michelle Hadley Because back in
37:35
twenty sixteen, digital evidence was relatively difficult to fake perfectly.
37:40
Speaker 2: The things have changed.
37:41
Speaker 1: Consider the reality we are living in right now. As
37:44
artificial intelligence, deep fakes, and voice spoofing technologies become exponentially
37:48
more advanced and widely accessible, we are rapidly hurtling toward
37:52
an arrow where digital evidence could soon be just as
37:54
easily fabricated as Angela's torn shirt.
37:57
Speaker 2: It's a terrifying thought if our.
37:59
Speaker 1: Digital lives can be so flawlessly weaponized against us by
38:02
someone who simply knows our passwords, studies our habits, and
38:05
utilizes AI to clone our phrasing and our voices. Is
38:09
true privacy even possible in modern relationships? Or are we
38:13
all just one compromised device away from someone else completely
38:16
and permanently rewriting our reality