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The Probability Tree to Living Your Best Life · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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issues. Brought to you by the
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hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Oh, hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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Hypnotist, you can be listening to a hypnosis session created
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for a client that was making really good progress.
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In the past. But due to a change in
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circumstances relating to. Their job?
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And certain key social things put them on a path they were
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previously, and they didn't really want to be that way.
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They wanted to kind of be a different version of themselves.
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And what you're going to hear on this hypnosis session is a
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phrase that I love, which is this idea of probability trees.
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And clearly it's a metaphor, but it's a metaphor that I think is
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really, really useful because most people have a sense that in
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life, one major decision sends them on a different trajectory.
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And while they're on that trajectory, it also increases
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the possibility or probability of other things happening.
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So for example, if just on a whim you decided to live in a
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different part of the world, a different country, after making
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that decision, there's lots of things that are almost
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impossible to happen to you and lots of other things that are
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highly likely simply because you're living in a different
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part of the world. And that's a good way of
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thinking about more nuanced things when it comes to a
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probability tree. If someone drinks a lot of
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alcohol, for example, they increase the probability of
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certain health consequences, but also certain other ramifications
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depending on how they are when they're under the influence of
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alcohol. Some people, for example, under
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the influence of alcohol, tend to take other drugs or they
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might eat more or they tend to might spend more money.
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They might, you know, do online shopping or gambling while
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they're under the influence of alcohol.
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So one thing can quite often lead to another thing, which
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then leads to another thing. In this particular hypnosis
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session, it encourages the client to consider two different
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branches of this probability tree.
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And it's good to frame things on a spectrum.
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So imagining your worst life and your best life and then thinking
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what increases the probability of your worst life.
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And it probably is certain decisions and consistent habits
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and behaviours that increase the probability of that.
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Equally, the best life in your future, again, is probably going
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to be an echo of consistent decisions over time.
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And most people have a sense of what they would be.
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And this hypnosis session enables you to explore different
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possibilities. That's the great thing about the
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future. Nothing is guaranteed.
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It's just all about probabilities and possibilities.
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And there's a few phrases here that talk about turning
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possibilities into inevitabilities, this idea of,
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well, if you do something enough, it almost becomes
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inevitable that these good things happen as a consequence.
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If you feel like this is useful for you, great, continue
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listening. If you want something a bit more
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bespoke, there will be a link in the show notes where you can
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check out a free consultation call to explore working with me.
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And right now, because at the point where I'm publishing this,
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it is Black Friday, for the next three or four days I'm going to
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be offering a discount code for any one to one sessions.
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So if you. Use 20% off SO20 percent sign
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OFF in the coupon code box in the checkout.
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You will get 20% discount on anyone to one session.
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So if you've been thinking about this anyway, it might be worth
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considering that now. The link in the code will be in
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the show notes. For now, though, find a quiet,
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comfortable place where you won't be.
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Disturbed. Relax.
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And enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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you breathe in, breathe in a resourceful feeling of calm and
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relaxation, and on the outward breath allow your eyelids to
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close, and as they close, feel a sense of release, releasing
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tension, and then breathing in a deep breath of resolve, a
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resolution to open up possibilities and probabilities.
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Scan your body for any clues of tension, and as you breathe out,
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give permission to release that tension.
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And maybe that's slowly at first, but just get a sense that
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that tension is melting away, perhaps around your forehead,
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your jaw, your neck or shoulders.
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Just imagine it softening, loosening, dissolving in some
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way. Feel it leave your body in that
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outward breath, and then breathe in even more of that
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resourcefulness. And some of those resources
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might be confidence, belief. I want you to think of a version
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of you from the past where you were proud of your choices.
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As you breathe in and breathe out, feel that you are awakening
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that version of you. And perhaps you can recall a
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particular tonality of in a dialogue that is more impulsive,
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more gratification seeking, and just get a sense that as that
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version of you awakens, a different version of you becomes
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dormant, starts to go back, go back to the past, become less
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influential, breathing in resourcefulness, exhaling
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tension. And I want you to imagine a
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beautiful garden with a large oak tree.
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I want you to get a sense that as you look at the trunk, the
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trunk naturally goes off in different directions.
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Large branches become medium branches become lots of small
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branches. And I want you to imagine that
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this tree represents every possible iteration of your life.
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I want you to get a sense that some of these branches take your
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life in a positive, fulfilling, wonderful direction of pride,
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accomplishment, satisfaction, wonderful good feelings.
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Other branches of this tree are more self-destructive, but I
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want you to get a sense that every branch of the tree is
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capable of persuading you it's the ideal branch for you.
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They say that the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
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Any person that you've seen living the consequence of self
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destruction didn't realize they were on that path until it was
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too late. Something random happened.
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Something happened that created a chain reaction, a ripple
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effect that meant that they were living with the consequences
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previous choices that they didn't know would take them that
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way. So let's explore a branch of
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this tree that seems like it's a good, enjoyable, pleasurable
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place, but leads to somewhere undesirable.
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I want you to imagine looking up the trunk to a particular
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branch, and we can just call this branch impulsiveness or
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gratification, whichever word resonates the most, or something
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else. A place where this branch is all
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about short term sensations, feelings that don't last very
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long but feel appealing in the moment.
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I'd be drinking something, smoking something, snorting
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something. But let's go down that branch.
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Or perhaps you can imagine for the first few years of that
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branch, a few near misses, but no major catastrophes.
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And if you can recall a few near misses, let me know about
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nodding your head. What if the near misses are like
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warning flags, letting you know where things could go,
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encouraging you to take a different branch of the tree?
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But let's just imagine we ignore all of those warnings, put them
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down to bad luck, just imagine them no big deal, and continue.
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And I want you to see a version of you at your current age
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halfway down that branch of the probability tree.
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And I want you to see impulsive decisions that prioritize
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things, that make you feel good in the moment but perhaps aren't
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leading you to anything positive.
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See that version of you drinking, smoking, snorting, and
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for a while, no big deal. The occasional argument.
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Observe yourself with periods of disappointment, self loathing,
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but no big deal. I want you to see that the
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further along that branch, the more of those tiny branches all
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lead to somewhere. Somewhere that you wouldn't want
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to be. I want you to get a sense that
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if your life in the future was to end up being a waste, being
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miserable, being full of regret, frustration, anger, it's more
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likely to be on this branch of the tree.
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And I want you to explore one specific branch, and maybe it's
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the worst possible branch that stems off that tree.
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Imagine your life 5 or 10 years in the future, where everything
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you love and value the most you've lost.
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Or perhaps something catastrophic happens to your
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health. That means either you don't
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exist or you're not capable of living life the way you would
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choose. And when you found a future like
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that, let me know if you're nodding your head.
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And then step into that version of you perhaps hours or days
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before it reaches its very worst conclusion.
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And like a good twist in a movie, you start thinking
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backwards and the clues were there all along.
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But it moaning makes sense after you've seen the twist.
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I want you to put yourself in that future version of you.
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But the clues were there all along.
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All of those near misses were warnings.
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All of those opportunities to be discerning that weren't taken
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were missed opportunities. And if it all seems to make
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sense how you ended up in this undesirable place, let me know
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by nodding your head. And maybe you can amplify and
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make it worse. Sometimes when people find
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themselves in a dark situation, they use the very strategies to
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self medicate that difficult situation rather than improving.
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What if it leads to even more reckless or destructive
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behaviour? What if it leads to some form of
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tragedy or waste? But I want you to feel this is
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just a possibility and imagine going backwards through time,
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reversing key decisions that led you to that place.
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Maybe you've had the experience of seeing one of those maze
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puzzles in a puzzle book or newspaper.
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Isn't it always easier to solve the puzzle when you start at the
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end and work backwards? You get to miss all of those
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dead ends and little traps. I want you to go from the future
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back to the present, noticing all of those things that were so
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easy to avoid. And when you get back to the
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present, let me know by nodding your head.
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And what if you were intentional the rather than go down that
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path to go down a different branch of the tree that
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increases the probability of you living your very best life.
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I wonder what choices you would make in the short term.
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The career or job to pursue, the nutrition you consume, the
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quality of sleep that you get, how often you exercise, how much
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water you drink to live your very best life.
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These small things aren't so small.
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I want you to get a sense that you make certain key changes.
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And because each time you do those things, you feel like
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you're buying a raffle ticket to live your best future life.
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These small things become rewarding things.
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These small things become fulfilling things, satisfying
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things. So imagine what the next few
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days and weeks would look like to just make sure you're on that
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branch of the probability tree. What people do you stop hanging
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out with? What things do you do to make
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things easier to do or more difficult to do?
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And then imagine everything has a cost, an opportunity cost.
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Everything you're not doing creates time, energy, and
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emotion to do different things, things which you do to increase
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the probability of living your very best life.
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And just think of two or three things that if you did them
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consistently, would make you feel proud of yourself, would
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make you feel like you've created momentum in your life
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that would make you feel like you're making progress.
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I want you to get a sense. Then all of these things that
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increase the probability you can do them just once.
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And if you do them just once, you're more likely to do them
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again. And if every time you do them
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you feel good, you'll end up doing them more often.
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Every time you have a really good workout makes you feel
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good, you increase the probability of having another
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really good workout. Every time you choose to drink
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something nutritious or cleansing and that makes you
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feel good, you're more likely to drink that thing again.
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And I want you to imagine observing a version of you where
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that future life, where you're living your best life.
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Isn't just a probability, it's an inevitable side effect of
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doing certain things consistently, being a certain
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way, doing certain things, feeling certain things, the way
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you reward yourself. The way you.
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Forgive yourself quickly for making a mistake the way you
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have. Stop losses so setbacks become
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blips rather than trends. See that version of you where
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living this incredible life in the future is an inevitability
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And when you found that place, let me know by nodding your head
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and then step into it. Feel what it would feel like 5
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or 10 years from now to be living your best life.
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You see a reflection of yourself in the mirror and you feel a
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sense of admiration, respect, pride.
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That is the person you intend to be.
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And what if being discerning, making great choices makes that
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future inevitable? And just like you did before,
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imagine going backwards, noticing you didn't have to be
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perfect, you didn't need to be disciplined every day.
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It's just doing certain things consistently made that future
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possible. So as you go backwards in time,
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notice what you were doing consistently.
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Notice how you got out of ruts, began new habits, changed your
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emotional state without relying on drink or drugs.
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When it all seems to make sense going backwards, you realise
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you're planting seeds of ideas deep in your subconscious mind
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to turn this not into a possibility, but into a destiny.
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And when you figured out a road map to that future, let me know
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by nodding your head. I want you to get a sense as you
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return to the base of the tree, you have infinite possibilities
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as to your future. No future is guaranteed.
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But feel that the more you do certain things, the more you
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increase the probability of 1 branch rather than another
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branch. So set the intention as to what
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kind of future you want, what kind of person you need to be to
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lead to that future, the kind of things you could choose to do to
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make it simple, cause and effect that you arrive there.
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But before you return to the present, take a deep breath in
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through your nose. Breathe in a sense of
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conviction, self belief, but also a sense of resolve,
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tenacity and resolve to do what's necessary to steal your
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life in the most useful and desirable direction.
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But now it's time to return to the here and now, taking all of
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these changes with you. New sense of clarity, new sense
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of resourcefulness, realizing that that version of you that
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doesn't need substances or drink is fully awakened.
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So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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wiggle your toes as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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you. Starting to count. 123 waking up
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456, more alert. 7-8. Open your eyes.
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Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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