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Feeling Behind · This Daring Adventure

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  Welcome
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  to
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  This
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  Daring
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  Adventure
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  podcast,
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  where
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  we
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  work
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  on
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  bridging
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  the
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  gap
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  between
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  where
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  we
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  are
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  and
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  where
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  we
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  want
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  to
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  be
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  in
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  order
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  to
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  live
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  a
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  bigger
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  and
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  bolder
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  life.
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  In
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  this
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  podcast,
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  we
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  will
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  provide
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  inspiration,
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  tips,
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  and
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  skills
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  you
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  need
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  to
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  make
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  your
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  life
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  the
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  adventure
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  you
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  want
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  it
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  to
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  be.
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  Here's
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  your
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  host,
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  mindset
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  mentor
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  and
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  life
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  coach,
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  Trista
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  Guertin.
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  Hey,
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  everybody.
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  Welcome
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  to
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  another
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  episode
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  of
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  This
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  Daring
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  Adventure.
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  Thank
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  you
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  so
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  much
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  for
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  joining
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  me
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  today.
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  Today,
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  I
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  wanted
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  to
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  talk
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  a
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  little
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  bit
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  about
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  feeling
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  behind.
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  It's
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  easy
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  when
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  we
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  set
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  a
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  goal
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  for
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  ourselves,
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  or
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  I
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  think
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  this
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  happens
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  in
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  our
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  careers,
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  in
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  our
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  lives
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  in
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  general,
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  maybe
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  we
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  see
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  other
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  people
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  around
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  us,
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  our
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  close
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  friends
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  and
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  family
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  could
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  be
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  buying
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  a
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  house,
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  it
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  could
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  be
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  getting
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  married,
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  it
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  could
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  be
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  degrees,
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  it
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  could
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  be
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  family,
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  it
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  could
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  be
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  business
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  related,
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  or
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  it
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  could
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  be
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  a
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  personal
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  goal
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  that
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  you
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  set
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  for
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  yourself.
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  And
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  the
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  idea
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  that,
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  you
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  are
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  not
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  where
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  you
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  should
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  be,
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  and
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  I
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  use
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  should
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  in
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  quotes,
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  and
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  that
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  somehow
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  you
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  are
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  behind.
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  let's
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  take
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  for
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  instance,
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  I
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  had
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  a
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  client
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  the
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  other
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  day
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  who
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  had
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  set
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  a
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  goal,
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  a
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  money
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  goal,
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  for
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  herself
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  and
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  her
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  business
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  for
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  The
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  quarter
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  and
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  she
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  was
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  feeling
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  behind,
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  she
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  was
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  a
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  month
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  into
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  the
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  quarter
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  and
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  feeling
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  basically
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  inadequate
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  and
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  that
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  her
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  target
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  was
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  unachievable,
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  even
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  though
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  she
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  still
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  has
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  two
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  months
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  left
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  in
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  the
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  quarter
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  and
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  She
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  was
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  at
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  20
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  percent
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  achievement
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  of
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  her
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  goal,
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  but
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  in
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  looking
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  around
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  at
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  some
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  of
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  her
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  colleagues,
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  other
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  people
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  who
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  were
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  in
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  business,
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  competitors,
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  had
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  more
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  clients
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  and
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  the
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  type
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  of
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  clients
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  that
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  she
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  wanted.
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  And
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  she
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  had
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  this
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  overwhelming
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  sense
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  of
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  disappointment
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  and
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  discouragement
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  and
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  jealousy
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  that
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  she
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  didn't
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  know
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  what
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  to
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  do
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  with.
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  And
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  at
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  that
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  point
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  she
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  was
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  feeling
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  like
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  she
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  was
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  never
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  going
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  to
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  reach
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  her
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  goal.
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  So
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  what
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  I
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  recommended
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  was
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  that
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  she
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  needed
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  to
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  allow
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  for
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  those
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  feelings
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  and
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  actually
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  just
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  feel
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  them.
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  The
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  best
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  way
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  to
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  go
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  through
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  an
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  emotion
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  is
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  by
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  allowing
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  it
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  and
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  feeling
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  it.
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  We
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  always
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  have
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  a
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  choice
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  as
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  to
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  how
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  we
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  want
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  to
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  respond
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  to
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  a
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  feeling.
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  We
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  can
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  try
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  and
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  resist
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  it
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  and
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  push
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  it
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  away
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  to
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  keep
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  from
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  feeling
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  it.
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  We
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  can
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  react
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  to
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  it,
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  which
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  looks
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  like
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  a
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  tantrum.
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  It
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  looks
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  like
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  slamming
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  doors,
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  yelling,
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  not
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  speaking
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  to
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  the
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  person,
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  getting
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  really
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  frustrated
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  and
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  angry.
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  It
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  could
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  be
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  by
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  numbing
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  and
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  buffering,
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  which
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  means
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  that
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  we
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  try
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  to
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  avoid
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  feeling
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  the
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  feelings
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  by
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  over
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  using
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  certain
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  things.
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  It
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  could
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  be
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  shopping,
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  it
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  could
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  be
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  gambling,
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  it
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  could
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  be
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  eating,
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  it
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  could
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  be
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  drinking,
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  it
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  could
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  be
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  drugs,
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  it
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  could
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  be
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  anything
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  over
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  the
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  amount
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  that
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  we
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  normally
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  would
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  be
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  able
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  to
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  enjoy
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  it,
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  and
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  so
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  that
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  it
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  has
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  a
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  net
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  negative
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  effect.
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  Instead
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  of
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  just
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  having
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  a
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  scoop
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  of
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  ice
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  cream,
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  we
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  have
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  the
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  entire
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  container.
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  That
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  is
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  your
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  clue
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  that
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  you
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  are
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  trying
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  not
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  to
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  feel
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  your
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  feelings.
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  But
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  the
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  fourth
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  way
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  is
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  to
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  actually
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  feel
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  the
• 4:22
  feelings,
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  to
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  allow
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  it
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  to
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  be
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  there
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  in
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  you
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  and
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  to
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  process
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  it
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  through.
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  An
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  emotion
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  is
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  a
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  vibration
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  in
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  your
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  body.
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  It
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  is
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  harmless
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  if
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  you
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  allow
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  it
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  to
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  be
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  there.
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  It
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  will
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  move
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  through
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  you,
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  typically
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  pretty
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  quickly,
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  sometimes
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  within
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  a
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  few
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  minutes.
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  Sometimes
• 4:42
  we
• 4:42
  have
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  different
• 4:44
  circumstances
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  that
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  maybe
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  elicit
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  a
• 4:48
  stronger,
• 4:49
  bigger
• 4:50
  emotion
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  that
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  may
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  take
• 4:51
  some
• 4:51
  time
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  to
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  move
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  through
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  and
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  to
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  process.
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  Grief,
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  despair,
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  sadness.
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  Sometimes
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  those
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  take...
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  A
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  longer
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  time
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  to
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  process,
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  but
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  for
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  what
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  we
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  were
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  talking
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  about
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  with
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  my
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  client
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  in
• 5:08
  terms
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  of
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  disappointment,
• 5:09
  discouragement,
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  and
• 5:10
  jealousy,
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  allowing
• 5:12
  those
• 5:13
  things
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  to,
• 5:15
  which
• 5:15
  means
• 5:15
  sitting
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  with
• 5:16
  it,
• 5:16
  feeling
• 5:17
  it
• 5:17
  in
• 5:17
  your
• 5:17
  body,
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  you
• 5:18
  can
• 5:19
  typically
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  move
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  through
• 5:20
  them
• 5:21
  relatively
• 5:22
  quickly,
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  sometimes
• 5:25
  it
• 5:25
  can
• 5:25
  be
• 5:25
  a
• 5:25
  few
• 5:25
  minutes,
• 5:25
  and
• 5:26
  sometimes
• 5:26
  it
• 5:26
  can
• 5:26
  be
• 5:27
  a
• 5:27
  day
• 5:27
  or
• 5:28
  two.
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  And
• 5:31
  also,
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  these
• 5:34
  emotions
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  have
• 5:36
  a
• 5:36
  message
• 5:37
  for
• 5:37
  us.
• 5:38
  And
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  sometimes,
• 5:42
  looking
• 5:43
  at
• 5:44
  what
• 5:44
  the
• 5:44
  message
• 5:45
  could
• 5:45
  be,
• 5:46
  what
• 5:46
  are
• 5:46
  the
• 5:46
  thoughts
• 5:47
  creating
• 5:48
  these
• 5:48
  emotions,
• 5:49
  and
• 5:49
  what
• 5:49
  can
• 5:49
  we
• 5:49
  learn
• 5:50
  from
• 5:50
  them?
• 5:51
  And
• 5:51
  are
• 5:51
  they
• 5:51
  serving
• 5:52
  us?
• 5:53
  And
• 5:54
  what
• 5:54
  we
• 5:54
  want
• 5:55
  to
• 5:55
  do
• 5:55
  is
• 5:55
  allow
• 5:56
  ourselves
• 5:57
  to
• 5:57
  feel
• 5:58
  whatever
• 5:58
  emotion
• 5:58
  that
• 5:59
  comes
• 5:59
  up.
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  If
• 6:00
  it's
• 6:00
  disappointment,
• 6:01
  you
• 6:02
  allow
• 6:02
  yourself
• 6:02
  to
• 6:02
  feel
• 6:03
  the
• 6:03
  disappointment.
• 6:05
  Sit.
• 6:06
  Get
• 6:06
  comfortable,
• 6:08
  take
• 6:08
  a
• 6:08
  few
• 6:09
  deep
• 6:09
  breaths,
• 6:10
  and
• 6:11
  find
• 6:12
  where
• 6:12
  that
• 6:12
  disappointment
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  is
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  in
• 6:14
  your
• 6:14
  body.
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  How
• 6:16
  does
• 6:16
  it
• 6:16
  feel?
• 6:17
  Where
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  is
• 6:17
  it
• 6:17
  located?
• 6:19
  What
• 6:19
  does
• 6:20
  it
• 6:20
  look
• 6:20
  like?
• 6:20
  Does
• 6:20
  it
• 6:20
  have
• 6:21
  a
• 6:21
  color?
• 6:22
  Does
• 6:22
  it
• 6:22
  have
• 6:22
  a
• 6:22
  shape?
• 6:24
  Allow
• 6:25
  it
• 6:25
  to
• 6:25
  be
• 6:25
  there,
• 6:28
  knowing
• 6:28
  that
• 6:28
  it's
• 6:29
  just
• 6:29
  a
• 6:29
  visitor,
• 6:30
  it's
• 6:30
  temporary,
• 6:31
  and
• 6:31
  it
• 6:31
  cannot
• 6:32
  harm
• 6:32
  you.
• 6:34
  Sit
• 6:34
  with
• 6:35
  it.
• 6:36
  Breathe
• 6:36
  into
• 6:36
  it.
• 6:38
  And
• 6:38
  just
• 6:39
  focus
• 6:39
  your
• 6:40
  mind
• 6:41
  on
• 6:42
  the
• 6:42
  space
• 6:44
  where
• 6:44
  that
• 6:44
  emotion
• 6:45
  sits
• 6:45
  in
• 6:45
  your
• 6:45
  body
• 6:47
  and
• 6:47
  allow
• 6:47
  it
• 6:47
  to
• 6:47
  be
• 6:48
  there.
• 6:50
  Then
• 6:50
  you
• 6:50
  want
• 6:50
  to
• 6:50
  do
• 6:51
  the
• 6:51
  same
• 6:51
  thing
• 6:52
  with
• 6:52
  any
• 6:52
  other
• 6:53
  emotions
• 6:53
  that
• 6:54
  may
• 6:54
  have
• 6:54
  come
• 6:55
  up.
• 6:55
  For
• 6:55
  her,
• 6:55
  it
• 6:55
  was
• 6:56
  inadequacy,
• 6:57
  jealousy,
• 6:58
  and
• 6:58
  discouragement.
• 7:00
  So
• 7:00
  you
• 7:00
  go
• 7:00
  through
• 7:01
  the
• 7:01
  process,
• 7:01
  allow
• 7:02
  it
• 7:02
  all
• 7:02
  to
• 7:02
  be
• 7:03
  there.
• 7:03
  Sit
• 7:03
  with
• 7:04
  it.
• 7:04
  If
• 7:04
  your
• 7:04
  mind
• 7:05
  wanders
• 7:05
  off
• 7:06
  while
• 7:06
  you're
• 7:06
  sitting
• 7:07
  there,
• 7:08
  just
• 7:08
  bring
• 7:08
  it
• 7:08
  back.
• 7:09
  It's
• 7:09
  okay.
• 7:10
  It's
• 7:10
  like
• 7:10
  a
• 7:10
  meditation.
• 7:11
  You
• 7:12
  just
• 7:13
  Find
• 7:13
  your
• 7:13
  mind
• 7:14
  wandering
• 7:14
  and
• 7:14
  you
• 7:15
  just
• 7:15
  keep
• 7:15
  bringing
• 7:16
  it
• 7:16
  back.
• 7:17
  Bring
• 7:17
  it
• 7:17
  back
• 7:17
  to
• 7:17
  that
• 7:18
  place
• 7:18
  in
• 7:18
  your
• 7:18
  body
• 7:19
  where
• 7:19
  you're
• 7:19
  feeling
• 7:19
  that
• 7:19
  emotion.
• 7:21
  Allow
• 7:22
  what
• 7:22
  you're
• 7:22
  feeling.
• 7:23
  Don't
• 7:23
  dismiss
• 7:24
  it.
• 7:25
  And
• 7:25
  love
• 7:26
  yourself
• 7:27
  through
• 7:27
  it.
• 7:28
  Give
• 7:28
  yourself
• 7:29
  that
• 7:29
  time
• 7:30
  and
• 7:30
  that
• 7:30
  space
• 7:30
  and
• 7:31
  that
• 7:31
  attention
• 7:31
  that
• 7:31
  you
• 7:32
  need.
• 7:34
  Then,
• 7:35
  once
• 7:35
  you've
• 7:35
  processed
• 7:36
  these
• 7:36
  emotions
• 7:37
  and
• 7:37
  allowed
• 7:37
  them
• 7:38
  through,
• 7:38
  they
• 7:38
  will
• 7:39
  have
• 7:39
  dissipated.
• 7:41
  You
• 7:41
  can
• 7:41
  start
• 7:41
  to
• 7:41
  look
• 7:42
  at
• 7:42
  the
• 7:42
  thoughts
• 7:42
  that
• 7:43
  have
• 7:43
  created
• 7:43
  these
• 7:44
  feelings.
• 7:46
  Why
• 7:46
  are
• 7:46
  you
• 7:46
  feeling
• 7:47
  disappointed?
• 7:48
  Why
• 7:48
  are
• 7:48
  you
• 7:49
  feeling
• 7:49
  inadequate
• 7:50
  or
• 7:50
  jealous
• 7:51
  and
• 7:51
  discouraged?
• 7:53
  Journal.
• 7:53
  Journaling,
• 7:55
  writing
• 7:55
  down
• 7:57
  what
• 7:57
  your
• 7:57
  thoughts
• 7:58
  are
• 7:59
  and
• 7:59
  exploring.
• 8:01
  What
• 8:01
  is
• 8:02
  the
• 8:02
  thought
• 8:02
  that's
• 8:03
  causing
• 8:04
  those
• 8:04
  emotions
• 8:05
  specifically
• 8:06
  and
• 8:06
  where
• 8:07
  did
• 8:07
  they
• 8:07
  come
• 8:07
  from?
• 8:09
  So
• 8:10
  her
• 8:11
  thought
• 8:12
  in
• 8:12
  this
• 8:12
  instance
• 8:13
  was
• 8:14
  that
• 8:14
  she
• 8:14
  was
• 8:14
  behind.
• 8:16
  And
• 8:16
  she
• 8:17
  had
• 8:18
  an
• 8:18
  idea
• 8:19
  of
• 8:19
  how
• 8:20
  much
• 8:20
  she
• 8:20
  wanted
• 8:21
  to
• 8:21
  make
• 8:22
  in
• 8:22
  this
• 8:22
  But
• 8:24
  without
• 8:25
  the
• 8:25
  emotion,
• 8:26
  she
• 8:26
  is
• 8:27
  able
• 8:27
  to
• 8:29
  think
• 8:29
  a
• 8:30
  little
• 8:30
  more
• 8:30
  rationally
• 8:31
  about
• 8:32
  the
• 8:32
  situation.
• 8:34
  Knowing
• 8:34
  that,
• 8:35
  for
• 8:35
  instance,
• 8:36
  if
• 8:36
  you
• 8:37
  have
• 8:37
  a
• 8:37
  money
• 8:37
  goal
• 8:38
  for
• 8:38
  a
• 8:38
  quarter,
• 8:39
  you
• 8:40
  may
• 8:40
  not
• 8:40
  necessarily
• 8:42
  earn
• 8:43
  that
• 8:43
  money
• 8:44
  in
• 8:44
  equal
• 8:45
  amounts
• 8:45
  day
• 8:45
  by
• 8:46
  day.
• 8:47
  It
• 8:47
  will
• 8:47
  come
• 8:47
  in
• 8:47
  various
• 8:48
  amounts
• 8:48
  at
• 8:48
  different
• 8:49
  times,
• 8:50
  and
• 8:52
  it
• 8:52
  is
• 8:52
  possible
• 8:53
  that
• 8:53
  you
• 8:53
  could
• 8:53
  make
• 8:53
  it
• 8:54
  in
• 8:54
  a
• 8:54
  relatively
• 8:55
  short
• 8:55
  time.
• 8:56
  You
• 8:56
  could
• 8:56
  go
• 8:56
  an
• 8:56
  entire
• 8:57
  month,
• 8:58
  and
• 8:58
  then
• 8:58
  start
• 8:59
  bringing
• 9:00
  in
• 9:00
  the
• 9:00
  money.
• 9:01
  You
• 9:01
  could
• 9:01
  bring
• 9:02
  in
• 9:02
  the
• 9:02
  money
• 9:02
  on
• 9:02
  the
• 9:03
  last
• 9:03
  day.
• 9:05
  The
• 9:06
  idea
• 9:07
  that
• 9:09
  the
• 9:09
  possibility
• 9:10
  exists
• 9:11
  out
• 9:12
  there,
• 9:13
  that
• 9:13
  the
• 9:13
  money
• 9:13
  may
• 9:14
  come
• 9:14
  in
• 9:14
  at
• 9:15
  different
• 9:15
  times,
• 9:15
  in
• 9:16
  a
• 9:16
  different
• 9:16
  amount,
• 9:18
  and
• 9:18
  then...
• 9:19
  It
• 9:19
  is
• 9:19
  possible
• 9:20
  that
• 9:20
  it
• 9:20
  could
• 9:20
  come
• 9:21
  in
• 9:21
  all
• 9:21
  within
• 9:22
  the
• 9:22
  last
• 9:22
  month,
• 9:23
  exists,
• 9:25
  if
• 9:25
  you
• 9:25
  believe
• 9:25
  it,
• 9:27
  and
• 9:27
  if
• 9:27
  you
• 9:27
  can
• 9:27
  allow
• 9:28
  for
• 9:28
  it.
• 9:29
  You
• 9:30
  can
• 9:30
  find
• 9:30
  evidence
• 9:31
  for
• 9:32
  it.
• 9:33
  Look
• 9:33
  at
• 9:33
  other
• 9:33
  people
• 9:34
  who
• 9:34
  have
• 9:34
  done
• 9:34
  similar
• 9:35
  things,
• 9:36
  or
• 9:37
  perhaps
• 9:37
  you've
• 9:37
  done
• 9:37
  something
• 9:38
  similar
• 9:38
  in
• 9:38
  the
• 9:38
  past.
• 9:40
  Refocus
• 9:41
  your
• 9:41
  brain
• 9:42
  away
• 9:43
  from
• 9:43
  that
• 9:43
  scarcity
• 9:44
  mindset
• 9:45
  and
• 9:45
  that
• 9:45
  negativity
• 9:46
  and
• 9:47
  the
• 9:47
  problem
• 9:47
  mentality
• 9:49
  that
• 9:49
  our
• 9:49
  brain
• 9:49
  tends
• 9:50
  to
• 9:50
  default
• 9:51
  to.
• 9:51
  It
• 9:52
  wants
• 9:52
  to
• 9:53
  find
• 9:53
  reasons
• 9:53
  why
• 9:54
  this
• 9:54
  won't
• 9:54
  work.
• 9:55
  It
• 9:55
  wants
• 9:56
  to
• 9:56
  find
• 9:56
  reasons
• 9:57
  why
• 9:57
  it's
• 9:57
  not
• 9:57
  possible.
• 9:58
  It
• 9:58
  will
• 9:58
  tell
• 9:58
  you
• 9:59
  all
• 9:59
  of
• 9:59
  these
• 9:59
  things.
• 10:00
  Refocus
• 10:01
  it.
• 10:01
  Reason
• 10:02
  it
• 10:02
  through.
• 10:04
  Then
• 10:04
  you
• 10:05
  want
• 10:05
  to
• 10:05
  think
• 10:05
  about
• 10:06
  what
• 10:06
  does
• 10:06
  behind
• 10:07
  even
• 10:07
  mean?
• 10:09
  It's
• 10:09
  possible
• 10:09
  that's
• 10:10
  not
• 10:10
  even
• 10:10
  a
• 10:10
  thing.
• 10:12
  It
• 10:12
  doesn't
• 10:12
  exist
• 10:14
  and
• 10:14
  that
• 10:15
  you
• 10:15
  are
• 10:15
  actually
• 10:16
  only
• 10:16
  going
• 10:16
  to
• 10:16
  be
• 10:16
  behind
• 10:17
  if
• 10:17
  you
• 10:17
  tell
• 10:18
  yourself
• 10:18
  that
• 10:18
  you're
• 10:18
  behind
• 10:20
  and
• 10:21
  what
• 10:21
  are
• 10:22
  you
• 10:22
  behind
• 10:23
  of?
• 10:25
  It's
• 10:25
  basically
• 10:26
  an
• 10:26
  arbitrary
• 10:27
  deadline
• 10:27
  that
• 10:28
  you
• 10:28
  created.
• 10:30
  you
• 10:30
  don't
• 10:30
  know
• 10:30
  what
• 10:31
  the
• 10:31
  future
• 10:31
  holds.
• 10:31
  You
• 10:32
  don't
• 10:32
  know
• 10:32
  what's
• 10:32
  going
• 10:32
  to
• 10:33
  happen.
• 10:34
  And
• 10:35
  we
• 10:35
  like
• 10:35
  to
• 10:36
  set
• 10:36
  a
• 10:36
  goal
• 10:37
  for
• 10:37
  ourselves.
• 10:37
  We
• 10:37
  like
• 10:38
  to
• 10:38
  set
• 10:38
  an
• 10:38
  end
• 10:38
  date
• 10:39
  for
• 10:39
  ourselves
• 10:41
  because
• 10:42
  that's
• 10:44
  the
• 10:44
  work
• 10:45
  that
• 10:45
  we
• 10:45
  want
• 10:45
  to
• 10:46
  do.
• 10:47
  It
• 10:47
  channels
• 10:48
  our
• 10:48
  energy.
• 10:49
  It
• 10:49
  focuses
• 10:50
  our
• 10:50
  attention.
• 10:52
  But
• 10:52
  it's
• 10:52
  completely
• 10:53
  made
• 10:53
  up
• 10:55
  and
• 10:56
  we're
• 10:56
  really
• 10:57
  just
• 10:57
  guessing
• 10:58
  at
• 10:58
  that
• 10:58
  point
• 11:00
  whether
• 11:00
  we
• 11:00
  can
• 11:00
  do
• 11:01
  it
• 11:01
  in
• 11:01
  that
• 11:01
  period
• 11:02
  or
• 11:02
  not.
• 11:03
  And
• 11:04
  our
• 11:04
  opportunity
• 11:05
  is
• 11:06
  to
• 11:07
  see
• 11:07
  what
• 11:07
  we're
• 11:07
  capable
• 11:08
  of
• 11:08
  and
• 11:08
  to
• 11:08
  push
• 11:08
  ourselves
• 11:09
  and
• 11:09
  to
• 11:09
  grow
• 11:09
  and
• 11:10
  to
• 11:10
  learn
• 11:10
  and
• 11:10
  to
• 11:10
  try.
• 11:12
  And
• 11:12
  that's
• 11:13
  the
• 11:13
  experience.
• 11:14
  It's
• 11:14
  who
• 11:15
  we
• 11:15
  become
• 11:15
  along
• 11:16
  the
• 11:16
  way.
• 11:17
  whatever
• 11:18
  you
• 11:18
  set
• 11:18
  for
• 11:18
  yourself,
• 11:20
  it's
• 11:20
  just
• 11:20
  a
• 11:20
  guess.
• 11:22
  Being
• 11:23
  behind
• 11:24
  is
• 11:24
  not
• 11:24
  a
• 11:24
  thing
• 11:27
  and
• 11:27
  I
• 11:28
  tell
• 11:28
  my
• 11:28
  clients
• 11:29
  that
• 11:29
  if
• 11:29
  you
• 11:29
  set
• 11:30
  a
• 11:30
  goal
• 11:30
  for
• 11:30
  yourself,
• 11:31
  say
• 11:32
  it
• 11:32
  was
• 11:32
  this
• 11:32
  quarter
• 11:34
  and
• 11:34
  you
• 11:34
  get
• 11:34
  to
• 11:34
  the
• 11:34
  end
• 11:35
  and
• 11:35
  you
• 11:35
  haven't
• 11:36
  exactly
• 11:36
  reached
• 11:37
  your
• 11:37
  goal,
• 11:38
  you
• 11:38
  can
• 11:38
  just
• 11:38
  roll
• 11:39
  it
• 11:39
  over.
• 11:40
  You
• 11:40
  can
• 11:40
  just
• 11:40
  keep
• 11:40
  going
• 11:43
  and
• 11:43
  go
• 11:43
  until
• 11:44
  you
• 11:45
  reach
• 11:45
  that
• 11:45
  goal.
• 11:47
  There's
• 11:47
  still
• 11:47
  opportunity
• 11:48
  there.
• 11:48
  There's
• 11:49
  still
• 11:49
  growth.
• 11:49
  There's
• 11:50
  still
• 11:50
  so
• 11:51
  much
• 11:51
  you
• 11:51
  can
• 11:51
  learn
• 11:52
  when
• 11:52
  you
• 11:53
  do
• 11:53
  this
• 11:53
  work.
• 11:55
  And
• 11:57
  question,
• 11:59
  what
• 12:00
  benefit
• 12:01
  is
• 12:01
  your
• 12:01
  brain
• 12:01
  getting
• 12:02
  by
• 12:03
  believing
• 12:03
  that
• 12:04
  you're
• 12:04
  behind?
• 12:06
  And
• 12:07
  it
• 12:07
  is
• 12:08
  nothing
• 12:08
  more
• 12:09
  than
• 12:09
  just
• 12:09
  trying
• 12:10
  to
• 12:10
  slow
• 12:10
  you
• 12:10
  down
• 12:11
  and
• 12:11
  protect
• 12:12
  you.
• 12:13
  But
• 12:16
  you
• 12:16
  don't
• 12:16
  need
• 12:16
  that
• 12:17
  protection.
• 12:18
  The
• 12:18
  brain
• 12:19
  thinks
• 12:19
  it's
• 12:19
  doing
• 12:20
  you
• 12:20
  a
• 12:20
  favor.
• 12:22
  But
• 12:23
  in
• 12:23
  actuality,
• 12:25
  this
• 12:25
  is
• 12:25
  a
• 12:25
  holdover
• 12:26
  from
• 12:27
  when
• 12:27
  we
• 12:28
  were
• 12:28
  living
• 12:28
  in
• 12:28
  caves
• 12:30
  and
• 12:31
  we
• 12:32
  were
• 12:32
  trying
• 12:32
  to
• 12:33
  conserve
• 12:33
  energy,
• 12:35
  seek
• 12:35
  pleasure
• 12:36
  and
• 12:36
  avoid
• 12:36
  pain.
• 12:37
  But
• 12:38
  today
• 12:38
  that's
• 12:38
  no
• 12:38
  longer
• 12:39
  necessary
• 12:40
  and
• 12:40
  it
• 12:40
  doesn't
• 12:40
  serve
• 12:41
  us.
• 12:43
  So
• 12:43
  the
• 12:43
  next
• 12:43
  time
• 12:45
  you
• 12:45
  hear
• 12:45
  yourself
• 12:46
  telling
• 12:46
  you
• 12:47
  that
• 12:47
  you're
• 12:47
  behind,
• 12:49
  that
• 12:49
  you're
• 12:49
  not
• 12:49
  going
• 12:50
  to
• 12:50
  reach
• 12:50
  your
• 12:50
  goal
• 12:50
  or
• 12:51
  that
• 12:51
  you
• 12:51
  should
• 12:51
  be
• 12:51
  further
• 12:52
  along
• 12:52
  than
• 12:52
  you
• 12:52
  are.
• 12:54
  Take
• 12:54
  a
• 12:54
  pause,
• 12:57
  understand
• 12:58
  and
• 12:58
  become
• 12:58
  aware
• 12:59
  of
• 12:59
  what
• 12:59
  emotion
• 13:00
  is
• 13:00
  coming
• 13:00
  up
• 13:00
  for
• 13:01
  you.
• 13:02
  Allow
• 13:02
  that
• 13:02
  emotion
• 13:03
  and
• 13:03
  process
• 13:03
  it
• 13:04
  through.
• 13:05
  And
• 13:05
  then
• 13:05
  take
• 13:05
  a
• 13:06
  look
• 13:06
  at
• 13:06
  your
• 13:06
  thoughts
• 13:06
  that
• 13:07
  may
• 13:07
  be
• 13:07
  causing
• 13:07
  those
• 13:08
  emotions
• 13:11
  and
• 13:11
  reason
• 13:11
  your
• 13:12
  way
• 13:12
  through
• 13:12
  them.
• 13:12
  Use
• 13:12
  your
• 13:13
  prefrontal
• 13:13
  cortex.
• 13:14
  Be
• 13:14
  rational.
• 13:16
  See
• 13:17
  What
• 13:17
  thoughts
• 13:17
  are
• 13:17
  not
• 13:18
  serving
• 13:18
  you
• 13:20
  and
• 13:20
  if
• 13:20
  you
• 13:20
  can
• 13:21
  start
• 13:21
  to
• 13:21
  shift
• 13:21
  to
• 13:22
  other
• 13:22
  thoughts
• 13:23
  that
• 13:23
  may
• 13:23
  be
• 13:23
  more
• 13:24
  helpful,
• 13:25
  But
• 13:26
  understand
• 13:26
  that
• 13:27
  being
• 13:27
  behind
• 13:28
  is
• 13:28
  not
• 13:28
  a
• 13:28
  thing.
• 13:29
  It's
• 13:29
  an
• 13:29
  artificial
• 13:30
  construct
• 13:31
  that
• 13:32
  somehow
• 13:33
  we
• 13:33
  have
• 13:33
  picked
• 13:34
  up
• 13:34
  and
• 13:35
  we
• 13:35
  use
• 13:35
  against
• 13:36
  ourselves.
• 13:37
  It
• 13:37
  doesn't
• 13:37
  exist
• 13:39
  and
• 13:40
  Your
• 13:40
  power
• 13:41
  is
• 13:41
  in
• 13:42
  realizing
• 13:42
  that.
• 13:44
  You
• 13:44
  can
• 13:44
  set
• 13:44
  a
• 13:44
  goal.
• 13:45
  You
• 13:46
  can
• 13:46
  go
• 13:46
  after
• 13:46
  it.
• 13:46
  You
• 13:46
  can
• 13:47
  learn.
• 13:47
  You
• 13:47
  can
• 13:47
  grow.
• 13:48
  You
• 13:48
  can
• 13:48
  achieve
• 13:50
  things
• 13:50
  that
• 13:50
  you
• 13:50
  never
• 13:51
  achieved
• 13:51
  before.
• 13:53
  And
• 13:54
  if,
• 13:55
  for
• 13:55
  some
• 13:55
  reason,
• 13:56
  you
• 13:56
  get
• 13:56
  to
• 13:56
  the
• 13:56
  end
• 13:57
  date
• 13:57
  of
• 13:57
  your
• 13:58
  goal,
• 13:58
  and
• 13:58
  you
• 13:58
  haven't
• 13:59
  achieved
• 13:59
  it,
• 13:59
  just
• 14:00
  roll
• 14:00
  it
• 14:00
  over.
• 14:02
  The
• 14:02
  end
• 14:03
  date
• 14:03
  is
• 14:03
  arbitrary.
• 14:05
  Being
• 14:05
  behind
• 14:07
  is
• 14:07
  not
• 14:07
  a
• 14:08
  thing.
• 14:09
  Focus
• 14:10
  on
• 14:10
  yourself.
• 14:12
  Focus
• 14:12
  on
• 14:12
  the
• 14:12
  work
• 14:13
  that
• 14:13
  you're
• 14:13
  doing.
• 14:13
  Focus
• 14:14
  on
• 14:14
  your
• 14:14
  growth
• 14:14
  and
• 14:15
  your
• 14:15
  capacity
• 14:16
  and
• 14:16
  where
• 14:16
  you
• 14:16
  want
• 14:17
  to
• 14:17
  go.
• 14:18
  You
• 14:18
  don't
• 14:19
  need
• 14:19
  to
• 14:19
  compare
• 14:19
  yourself
• 14:20
  to
• 14:20
  anyone
• 14:21
  else.
• 14:23
  Stay
• 14:23
  in
• 14:23
  your
• 14:24
  lane.
• 14:25
  Work
• 14:26
  on
• 14:27
  becoming
• 14:27
  better
• 14:27
  than
• 14:28
  who
• 14:28
  you
• 14:28
  were
• 14:28
  yesterday.
• 14:30
  Focus
• 14:31
  on
• 14:31
  growing
• 14:32
  and
• 14:32
  achieving
• 14:32
  more
• 14:34
  this
• 14:34
  year,
• 14:35
  this
• 14:36
  month,
• 14:36
  this
• 14:36
  quarter
• 14:38
  than
• 14:38
  what
• 14:38
  you
• 14:38
  did
• 14:39
  previously.
• 14:41
  And
• 14:41
  that's
• 14:41
  the
• 14:42
  importance.
• 14:43
  It
• 14:43
  doesn't
• 14:43
  matter
• 14:44
  what
• 14:44
  anybody
• 14:44
  else
• 14:44
  has
• 14:45
  done.
• 14:45
  It
• 14:45
  doesn't
• 14:45
  matter
• 14:45
  what
• 14:46
  anyone
• 14:46
  else
• 14:47
  is
• 14:47
  doing.
• 14:48
  Your
• 14:49
  experience,
• 14:50
  your
• 14:51
  opportunities
• 14:52
  are
• 14:52
  here
• 14:54
  in
• 14:54
  front
• 14:55
  of
• 14:55
  you.
• 14:55
  And
• 14:56
  are
• 14:56
  created
• 14:56
  by
• 14:56
  you.
• 14:58
  All
• 14:58
  right.
• 14:58
  That's
• 14:58
  what
• 14:59
  I
• 14:59
  have
• 14:59
  for
• 14:59
  you.
• 15:00
  If
• 15:00
  you
• 15:00
  would
• 15:00
  like
• 15:01
  to
• 15:02
  talk
• 15:02
  more
• 15:03
  about
• 15:03
  setting
• 15:04
  goals,
• 15:05
  achievement,
• 15:06
  what
• 15:06
  your
• 15:07
  capacity
• 15:07
  is
• 15:08
  and
• 15:08
  what
• 15:08
  you
• 15:08
  want
• 15:08
  to
• 15:08
  create,
• 15:09
  especially
• 15:10
  as
• 15:10
  we
• 15:10
  go
• 15:10
  into
• 15:11
  the
• 15:11
  last
• 15:11
  two
• 15:12
  months
• 15:12
  of
• 15:12
  the
• 15:12
  year
• 15:13
  and
• 15:13
  gear
• 15:14
  up
• 15:14
  for
• 15:14
  2024,
• 15:15
  I
• 15:16
  invite
• 15:16
  you
• 15:16
  to
• 15:17
  a
• 15:17
  one
• 15:17
  hour
• 15:18
  private
• 15:19
  coaching
• 15:19
  session
• 15:19
  with
• 15:20
  me.
• 15:21
  The
• 15:22
  link
• 15:22
  is
• 15:22
  in
• 15:22
  the
• 15:22
  show
• 15:23
  notes.
• 15:23
  You
• 15:23
  can
• 15:23
  get
• 15:23
  on
• 15:24
  my
• 15:24
  calendar,
• 15:25
  pick
• 15:25
  a
• 15:25
  time
• 15:26
  and
• 15:26
  day
• 15:26
  that's
• 15:26
  suitable
• 15:27
  for
• 15:27
  you,
• 15:28
  and
• 15:28
  let's
• 15:29
  talk.
• 15:29
  You
• 15:29
  can
• 15:30
  bring
• 15:30
  any
• 15:30
  issue
• 15:30
  that
• 15:31
  you
• 15:31
  wish,
• 15:32
  and
• 15:32
  coaching
• 15:33
  is
• 15:33
  one
• 15:33
  of
• 15:33
  the
• 15:33
  most
• 15:34
  powerful
• 15:34
  ways
• 15:35
  to
• 15:35
  help
• 15:35
  you
• 15:36
  accelerate
• 15:37
  your
• 15:37
  growth
• 15:38
  and
• 15:38
  your
• 15:39
  development
• 15:41
  and
• 15:41
  learning.
• 15:42
  It
• 15:43
  is
• 15:44
  one
• 15:44
  hour
• 15:44
  completely
• 15:45
  devoted
• 15:45
  to
• 15:46
  you
• 15:46
  and
• 15:47
  your
• 15:47
  life.
• 15:48
  So
• 15:49
  please
• 15:50
  join
• 15:51
  me.
• 15:51
  I
• 15:51
  would
• 15:51
  love
• 15:51
  to
• 15:52
  meet
• 15:52
  you.
• 15:52
  I
• 15:52
  would
• 15:52
  love
• 15:52
  to
• 15:53
  talk
• 15:53
  to
• 15:53
  you.
• 15:54
  Thank
• 15:54
  you
• 15:54
  so
• 15:54
  much
• 15:54
  for
• 15:54
  listening.
• 15:55
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• 15:55
  you
• 15:55
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• 15:56
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• 15:56
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• 15:56
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• 15:57
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• 15:58
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• 15:58
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• 15:58
  greatly
• 15:59
  appreciate
• 15:59
  it.
• 16:00
  Otherwise,
• 16:00
  I
• 16:01
  will
• 16:01
  talk
• 16:01
  to
• 16:01
  you
• 16:01
  next
• 16:01
  week.
• 16:02
  Bye
• 16:02
  bye.
• 16:03
  Thank
• 16:03
  you
• 16:03
  for
• 16:04
  listening
• 16:04
  to
• 16:04
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• 16:05
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• 16:05
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• 16:05
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• 16:06
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• 16:06
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• 16:07
  host
• 16:07
  Trista
• 16:07
  Guertin.
• 16:08
  We
• 16:09
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• 16:09
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• 16:09
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• 16:09
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• 16:11
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• 16:12
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• 16:12
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• 16:13
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• 16:14
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• 16:29
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• 16:30
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• 16:30
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• 16:30
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• 16:30
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• 16:31
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• 16:31
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