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Season 2 - Episode 208 - Defining failure · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today we're talking about
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  failure, and we're talking about it in a completely different
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  context than what some people would be used to talking about
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  it. So for me, when I grew up,
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  teachers, parents, nobody discussed failure other than it
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  was a bad thing and there was certain connotations to it that
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  were, you know, just, you know, you didn't do well.
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  It was a failure. And for me, it never really felt
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  100% right. But I accepted it because that's
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  what everybody else was talking about.
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  Then I heard that quote from Thomas Edison about in the
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  process of doing all of his experiments to get us with to
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  the light bulb that he, you know, quote UN quote failed 1000
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  times. But he did not questioned by
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  that with the reporter, he said I did not fail 1000 times.
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  I figured out what did not work 1000 times and that resonated
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  with me because it felt so true. So most of us have a context for
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  that. So the real question comes down
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  to, as a human being, how do you define failure?
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  So for me, it's not about having things not work.
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  You know, the first chicken coop that I got, I thought, oh, this
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  is going to be more than big enough.
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  This is going to be great. And then after having it for a
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  year, I recognized that. It was not great.
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  It was greater than a lot of people had.
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  But for me, it was just not great.
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  It was not how I wanted my girls to be spending their time.
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  I wanted them to be able to have space from each other.
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  I didn't want them to pick on each other.
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  I wanted them to have, like, you know, their own little areas
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  that they could have and not feel squished.
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  Because half of the problem when chicken coops is the squishing.
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  That's where they get their nasty behaviors from.
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  It's, you know, that phrase all cooped up.
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  It's real, my friends. Very real.
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  So I didn't look at that like it was a failure, that I bought the
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  wrong size coop. I looked at it like, OK, I
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  learned something here. It taught me something.
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  So it wasn't a failure. Some people might have thought
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  it was a failure and probably a costly failure because I paid to
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  have the shed and then I converted it to the coop.
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  So yeah, it was, it was a bit of money to do that.
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  But, you know, I didn't look at it like it was a failure.
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  So I I started thinking about the fact that OK.
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  Recently, in converting, you know, working in this new studio
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  to be able to have a place where I can go and record classes and
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  other things, I started thinking to myself, well, you know, we
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  started off and that was not the intention for that space
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  originally. Does that mean it was a failure?
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  No. I learned something and I
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  realized that my definition for failure is very different than a
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  lot of people. I realized that my definition
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  for failure is giving up on something and knowing you still
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  want it. But for me, that's the
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  definition. And when I recognize that, it's
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  like, wow, okay. So I don't know that that's
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  something that I had ever really considered before.
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  And still I until I started consciously thinking about it.
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  Then I started asking some friends and some clients and
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  getting their opinions on it and they were like, wow, I guess.
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  I don't know. My true definition of failure.
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  And like most things, we are very poor at discerning our own
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  definitions of things until we really put some energy into it.
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  So for me, that's the definition.
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  If I really want something and I give up on it, that's a failure.
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  If I don't want it and I give up on it, that's very different.
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  That's just me making a decision that I learned enough
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  information and I decided I no longer want to align with it,
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  pursue it because it no longer fits in with me, and then I move
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  on. But it's not about giving up.
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  It's just about that other piece.
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  It's about, you know, when you give up, that's a true failure
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  because you're just like, you know what, I'm throwing the
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  towel and you know what? I I I can't see how to get here.
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  I still want it. If I just give up.
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  That's a real failure. Because we know better in
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  ourselves. We know better.
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  We know that we should not be feeling that way.
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  We know that we should do better, be more and and stay on
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  point. We know we should do better.
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  We could try something. We could ask for someone else's
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  help, perspective, whatever it might be.
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  But the truth is. Not doing that and still wanting
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  it, Still having that yearning. That's the failure.
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  Knowing that there's some yearning desire inside of you
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  and saying, hey, you know what, just because I don't know how or
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  just because I can't see the path clearly, that means I
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  should just quit. And for me, that's when you
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  start to die with your music in you.
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  So figure out what is your definition of failure so you can
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  avoid it. And if yours is very similar to
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  mine and you have things on your list and they are there for you
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  to say, hey, they have things weighing in your heart that you
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  want to get done while you're in this portion of your life.
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  It's not about just giving up. It's about saying, you know
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  what? I can do this because if it's in
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  your heart, make it happen. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I'll see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.