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Going Childless · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American Mamas. Dear Mamas, do
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  Speaker 1: you think women today who are choosing to go childless
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  Speaker 1: will one day regret it?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American Mamas. And joining us now.
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  Speaker 1: Our American Mamas, Terry Nedeville and Kimberly Burleson. Now, y'all
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  Speaker 1: both have three children. Um, and y'all don't regret any
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  Speaker 1: of it, right?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. But there are a lot of women that are,
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  Speaker 1: are choosing to go childless. And the question is, is that,
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  Speaker 1: is that going to be good for them longterm?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Well, this 36 year old actually posed that question on
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  Speaker 4: the internet and went viral. She asked the question, she said,
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  Speaker 4: I'm 36 years old. Will I regret staying child free?
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  Speaker 4: So I went to the comments of course. And I
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  Speaker 4: could not believe the number of people. I'd say the
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  Speaker 4: majority were saying, you'll never regret it. You'd never want children.
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  Speaker 4: Even people with children were telling her, no, don't do it.
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  Speaker 4: Just don't do it. You don't want this. And that
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  Speaker 4: she even responded, I'm shocked by this. I'm shocked at
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  Speaker 4: the number of women. So I'm reading this and I'm thinking,
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  Speaker 4: is this a jealousy thing that's at play? Are people
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  Speaker 4: just I have a friend who doesn't have children. She's
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  Speaker 4: made the choice to not have children, and yet she
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  Speaker 4: never talks about it. She never brings it up. So
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  Speaker 4: in my mind, I always thought about this with divorced couples.
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  Speaker 4: When a divorced couple talks about their ex so much
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  Speaker 4: and how much they hate them, I believe they still
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  Speaker 4: love them.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: So when a mom, a childless mom, talks about not
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  Speaker 4: having kids so much and rally, rally, rally, not having kids,
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  Speaker 4: I believe they have regret.
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  Speaker 1: And they're masking it.
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  Speaker 4: They're masking it.
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  Speaker 3: And why... Why do you suppose that they are encouraging
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  Speaker 3: other people not to have children?
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  Speaker 4: I think misery loves company. It makes them feel better
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  Speaker 4: about their own life, their own decisions. They feel better.
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  Speaker 4: You said the question to me the other day. You said,
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  Speaker 4: do you think Chelsea Handler is really happy?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely not.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Because she's one that touts that. All the time. She'll say, oh,
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  Speaker 3: it's 1 o'clock in the afternoon, and I'm waking up
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  Speaker 3: because I don't have children. I don't have to. I
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  Speaker 3: thought you're missing out on the greatest gift God could
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  Speaker 3: ever give you. I'm sad for her, but I really
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  Speaker 3: don't understand why anybody would just press upon somebody not
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  Speaker 3: to have children just because they don't.
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  Speaker 1: Well, so Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez just came out this last week
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  Speaker 1: or so and said she's freezing her eggs.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 1: So that she might still have children later. She's 36.
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  Speaker 1: She's running for re-election. She may end up running for Senate.
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  Speaker 1: She may end up running for the presidency.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 1: She I guess she was engaged in that engagement fell apart.
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  Speaker 1: But she's she's kind of the icon, really, of what
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  Speaker 1: a lot of these these young ladies who are childless
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  Speaker 1: are like, hey, look, if I don't have kids, maybe
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  Speaker 1: I could go become this rich and powerful member of
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  Speaker 1: Congress or senator or maybe even president. But kids would
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  Speaker 1: hold me back from that.
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  Speaker 3: And I wonder, at the end of her life, let's
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  Speaker 3: say that she has chosen not to have children. And
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  Speaker 3: I'm sure some people are happy like that. They're happy
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  Speaker 3: with their spouse. But I wonder, at the end of
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  Speaker 3: your life, when you're in the bed and maybe you
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  Speaker 3: have friends, maybe, that are still left to come around
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  Speaker 3: your bed, do you start thinking... oh, I think I
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  Speaker 3: missed out on something because where are the children? Where
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  Speaker 3: are the people that love you the most, your spouse
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  Speaker 3: and your children? I always think about Chelsea Handler because
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  Speaker 3: she's a single woman with no children. So she depends
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  Speaker 3: on her friends for her happiness and she hops from
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  Speaker 3: bed to bed apparently. And she's got a lot of.
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  Speaker 1: Very famous friends. I mean, Jennifer Aniston's a great friend
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  Speaker 1: of hers and she's got other celebrity friends.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. And that's fine if that's her choice to live
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  Speaker 3: like that. But to try to get others to live
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  Speaker 3: Like that.
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  Speaker 4: That's the part I don't understand about this.
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  Speaker 3: I don't get it.
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  Speaker 4: I get it if you're making a life choice.
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  Speaker 3: Because I wouldn't push Chelsea to get married and have children.
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  Speaker 3: Just because it worked for me so well. So why
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  Speaker 3: this big push?
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  Speaker 4: That's what I don't get.
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  Speaker 3: It's so strange.
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  Speaker 4: It is strange.
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  Speaker 1: But I guess there is this, I keep coming back
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  Speaker 1: to a lot of this, folks on the left, I
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  Speaker 1: really think they have a very messed up relationship with
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  Speaker 1: a lot of their family members because they keep wanting
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  Speaker 1: government to be their family.
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  Speaker 4: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 1: And if you have kids, government's not your family. You
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  Speaker 1: don't have to rely on your government. You've got family, right?
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  Speaker 1: But if we're encouraging people not to have kids, then
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  Speaker 1: doesn't government become your family at that point?
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  Speaker 4: I think you're absolutely right because there's power in family traditions.
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  Speaker 4: There's power in unconditional love. There's power in the bond
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  Speaker 4: with a child. And that child becomes your priority for
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  Speaker 4: your life. And you'll do anything to protect that over
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  Speaker 4: what anyone else says, whatever government or anybody else, that becomes,
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  Speaker 4: that family becomes everything. And so we have all seen
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  Speaker 4: that there's a threat to that. There's a threat towards
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  Speaker 4: family values. There's a threat towards Christianity. And so I
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  Speaker 4: think it's all these people trying to disrupt it as
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  Speaker 4: much as possible.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm just going to say for anybody that's wondering
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  Speaker 1: about this, I think the One of the best examples
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  Speaker 1: I've ever seen of why you should have family is
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  Speaker 1: the Spinks sisters. Y'all's family is amazing. And not just
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  Speaker 1: you and just the two of you, your sister, Lindsay,
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  Speaker 1: their kids, generations before you, generations after you, the fourth
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  Speaker 1: of you've never seen the 4th of July at Terry's
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  Speaker 1: house when the entire family is there and the connectivity
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  Speaker 1: and the, you guys show up for people in a
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  Speaker 1: way that, man, if you've never had family, you want that.
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  Speaker 3: Well, thank you. It's been passed down.
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  Speaker 1: Right. And that's the whole point because your kids are
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  Speaker 1: going to continue that tradition too because it's been passed down.
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  Speaker 1: Through what? Through family.
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  Speaker 3: That's right.
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  Speaker 1: If you'd like to ask our American Mamas a question,
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  Speaker 1: the Ask the Mamas button. Terry Nutterville, Kimberly Brillison, thank
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  Speaker 1: you so much. Thank you. Thank you.