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Ep 6 | When the Body Speaks: Listening Instead of Fixing · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, Conversations for
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the Sensitive Soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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to fix. so today it's clear to me that really
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talking to the heart of you know women's depth
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of caring um lately in my own um exchanges with
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family and um clients of mine the bodies messages,
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you know, are not something that we're necessarily
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raised to understand. And as you know, I speak
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from my heart and I speak from my own personal
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experiences. And I know that when I, you know,
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was being raised in the 70s and the 80s, that
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You know, it was, if you had a symptom, then
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you go to the doctor and they tell you what they
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think it is and they tell you what they think
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will help you. And what we're not raised, most
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of us, to understand is that these, what we call
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symptoms, are communication from our body. There
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are messages for us to tune in and listen to.
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But most of us are not raised in a way that really
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honors the wholeness of who we are. And when
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we live in a world that has become increasingly,
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you know, tech heavy and electronic based and
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you know more congested sensitive people you
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know those of us who have this um sensory intelligence
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uh is what i keep feeling is the best words to
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describe it right is that our bodies are always
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communicating to us whether we have this high
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sensitivity trait or whether we don't But those
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of us who have this high sensitivity trait have
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access to, again, a higher intelligence, not
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just what we consider intellectually and not
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even what we consider emotional intelligence,
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but also a level of sensory intelligence. And
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again, there is a differential susceptibility
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component to this. Even though approximately
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20 % of the population have this high sensitivity
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trait, not everybody is paying attention to the
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body's communication, right? Because last week,
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I talked about, you know, that high rise building.
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And so when we're born into this world, into
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the density, right into that, you know, ground
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level where we're very conditioned, right? We're
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raised in a culture and a society that really
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thinks in ways that necessarily don't support
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us, but we don't know the difference. The brainwaves
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that we're at in those earlier years, it just
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takes in what's been playing. right? I talk about
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it like they're, they're records, right? So we're
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raised with this openness and the records that
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are played through our culture, our society,
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our home, right? Family, friends, you know, it
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just comes right into us. And then we don't necessarily
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understand that those patterns, those old records,
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that conditioning continues until we hit a point
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in our path where we're either curious or questioning
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or spontaneously woken up, right? We're no longer
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living completely immersed in that density of
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that ground level. And this is what I really
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wanted to speak to today is because, you know,
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when we prioritize other people's needs when
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we prioritize a company or a job or a client
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whatever your business field is over ourself
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we're abandoning ourself and what happens if
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we're abandoning ourself like there's a split
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within us right so we're separating what the
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the truest part of us is is trying to communicate
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right like our soul expresses through the body
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it's what helps us to say like hey is this really
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good for you because look what's happening within
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your body um as a result and believe me i used
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to think that my body uh was betraying me i came
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into this world just feeling so much love and,
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you know, just wanting to share love in this
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world. And so when I was so blessed to be married
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and to be ready to have children, my body was
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showing me that it was going to give me every
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roadblock. that I at the time thought was possible
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right my body would tell me like nope you're
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you're not even gonna conceive or okay you need
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to have all these injections and procedures to
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try to conceive to well I just need to go on
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vacation because this is so stressful and then
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I'd conceive but then I would end up having a
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baby with an extra chromosome and then I would
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suffer deeply into miscarriages. And so I definitely
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felt very called to want to understand, again,
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not only our mind, because, you know, again,
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working in psychiatric wards since the age of
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19, because I was very fascinated with the mind.
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You know, I finally got to a point where I was
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just like, okay, what? is going on with our body
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now again this is not something that i ever learned
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in school and this is where my heart goes out
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to a lot of people you know who are suffering
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who are experiencing pain you know because those
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old programs that say there's something wrong
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with me you know i need a procedure i need a
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medication Like that's not the healthiest relationship
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to have with the body. But I understand like
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we don't all get exposed to the same information,
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right? And so really this podcast is my way of
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saying to you out there who, again, are sensitive
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women and who are curious and, you know, who
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are feeling like these old patterns of conditioning.
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not serving you but yet you don't know how to
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create a new life experience for yourself you
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know that's what I'm here sharing it is absolutely
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possible even if you are in a place that says
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I don't believe it's possible because that was
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me I did not believe that I could change my life.
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I did believe that I was who I was and love me
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or leave me like I am who I am. I'm not going
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to change, but life showed me, um, really in
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a spontaneous way. that there is so much more
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than I previously understood and believed. And
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so I come from that place of it is absolutely
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possible. So I'm speaking to you because the
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messages that our body give us are an invitation
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for us to connect more deeply with ourselves,
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right? To to understand that when we're outsourcing
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right our our body and you know a professional
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may say this test or that test um that's not
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always what's best I mean I personally have had
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a doctor who never met me in person who therefore
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never looked at me doesn't doesn't know anything
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about my lifestyle who wanted to go into my heart
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with a camera and then if they found something
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that was concerning that they would then put
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a stint in my heart or i don't know the right
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terminology and i was in like shock that somebody
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would recommend that to me and Immediately, my
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body and my voice said, no, because if I'm under
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sedation, I'm not the one choosing. You are.
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And you do not know enough about me or my lifestyle
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or anything significant for me to even consider
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this. So that's just one example. And believe
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me, there are countless, you know, amazing professionals
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who would never do that. And I really want to
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acknowledge that, right? Like the conventional
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approach and how our society shifted after that
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Flexner report, you know, in the early, you know,
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1900s, which shifted away from you know, more
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of the natural approaches like homeopathy, right?
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Like naturopathic doctors and chiropractors and,
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you know, osteopathic doctors, like things just
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shifted and it became very, you know, power and
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profit based. And I'm here to say that those
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of us who are highly sensitive, have the ability
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to wake up even sooner out of these very unhealthy
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habits. And when I say unhealthy habits, I mean,
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even within ourselves, like I said, that was
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a really unhealthy habit that I had of, of saying,
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I can't change. This is who I am. And my path
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is probably gonna repeat my mom's. That is something
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that I really believed. about 15 years ago, even
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longer now, I guess. But again, I was guided
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into something so much more life showed me that
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there is this whole other realm of possibilities.
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And we just need to be curious, you know, and
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so I'm inviting you to really like pause and
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connect with your heart. Connect with your breath
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and breathe, of course, nice and slow and deep.
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And just check in if there are some beliefs that
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you're aware of that don't serve you and the
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life you want to live. Or if there are people
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in your life who you have extended some authority
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to, who are not in alignment with what you feel
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and believe is true and best for you. Because
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this is what's so important is we need to understand
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that we're sabotaging ourselves when we abandon
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ourself, right? When we look to somebody else
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to know better than we know for ourselves. I'm
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telling you, being a highly sensitive person
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is not an easy path to walk. The experiences
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that we live through tend to feel way larger
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than they do to people who don't have this trait.
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And it's not a punishment. It really is a sensory
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intelligence that we need to understand to connect
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with and to really develop. It's like we have
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the ability, but it doesn't mean that we're using
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it, right? Like I said, before I had my whole
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awakening in 2008, or even in 2000, I think it
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was around 2004 or five, when I finally realized
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that my body wanted to get off medication it
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wanted to detox it wanted to cleanse it wanted
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a reboot in a sense right like there's no judgment
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from me and i really encourage you to be kind
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and gentle with yourself If you are somebody
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who has previously, you know, felt like you couldn't
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change or, you know, you didn't understand the
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communication from your body, or if you know
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and love someone who either still doesn't understand
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the importance of developing that relationship
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with their own body and their own inner guidance.
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Because again, I honestly don't. I don't know
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that we can understand. I think it's really a
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mystery around who and when and why some are
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waking up earlier than others. And when I say
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waking up, I mean out of that density, out of
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that ground level living where, you know, what
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we see is so narrow, right? Where a lot of suppressed
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emotions and unresolved trauma is still so much
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in the body and I have really felt deeply aligned
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with you know what nature reveals what quantum
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biology especially As I've learned from Dr. Catherine
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Clinton, you know, with her quantum biology health
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training, there is so much research and evidence
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that now explains things in a way that I didn't
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have the language when I had my spontaneous spiritual
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awakening. I understood nothing about it other
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than when I was awakened. my body shifted, how
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I ate shifted, like my whole way of being changed.
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And that can happen to us, like I said, spontaneously,
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just like that, with no explanation, no preparation.
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So we think. And for other people, it can be
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smaller in the sense of It's smaller, it's gradual,
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right? And therefore, maybe there's a little
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bit more ease with it when it comes on slowly,
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you know, because then you have time to integrate
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it, right? But I'm speaking to those who are
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waking up and maybe they're feeling more fear
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as they wake up. And when I say wake up, meaning
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like they find themselves doing things that they
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previously would not have done. I spoke with
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a woman recently who she mentioned that she decided
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to leave her marriage. And that was something
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that she had previously never considered doing,
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right? And it's about honoring. ourselves right
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even if we don't understand and when we can honor
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ourselves with love and compassion and we can
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communicate with others with that type of love
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and compassion um you know we we get to live
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our life more freely and authentically and step
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into a world that has infinite possibilities
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But why I talk about the body today is because
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we can have an awakening as far as, you know,
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I kind of felt like my head was in the clouds,
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you know, like I was aware that there was something
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so much more than the physical world, but I didn't
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really understand it. And so for a long time,
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I didn't know how. I was living. It was confusing
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in a sense, because when you're used to living
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a certain way, thinking certain ways, because
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again, we all have that type of subconscious
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programming, right? It provides a structure.
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It provides a consistency. It's familiar, right?
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Even if your life isn't as fulfilling as you'd
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like it to be, you know, it's consistent, right?
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But when like the ceiling is removed in a sense,
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It can be disorienting, right? And this is where
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my own path has helped me to see the importance
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of understanding the communication from our body,
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connecting with it on a daily basis, right? Having
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healthy practices and also understanding the
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importance of connecting with nature, you know,
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with. feeling the sun on our skin our eyes you
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know how important that is to to our body's um
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vitality right to being barefoot on the earth
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you know or hands on a tree right that our bodies
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actually run on a negative voltage and um how
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do we care for that right like if we're inside
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all the time like often our work or our schools
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right they they may not consider how important
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it is for us to get outside every day but this
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is something that is essential to our well -being
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the sun the earth you know and even understanding
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the moon and the influence that the moon has
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on our experiences but I just really want to
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spread more love and more kindness and more compassion
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for each and every one of us because we really
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do all have such unique paths. Whether you realize
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that you are an eternal soul here having a human
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experience in a human body or not, You still
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have a very unique path. And your heart has absolutely
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things that it's communicating. And so is your
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body. And getting into a loving relationship
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with ourselves is what changes it. We think it's
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so easy to love other people. Easier than it
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is to love ourselves. We really can't give to
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others what we don't have for ourselves. So that's
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why a lot of people feel depleted, right? Especially
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as sensitive women, we tend to be, you know,
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the head of the family in the sense of we see
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the needs of others. And so we're wanting to
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meet the needs of others. But we're so focused
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externally because we don't have that connection
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within ourselves. that we just give and give
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and give to everyone else even again if that's
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a job right a family member um and there's so
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much that gets entangled in that which is why
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you know i say understanding what it means to
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be a highly sensitive person is unwrapping the
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gift of what it means because whether you view
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it as a gift or a curse or something just neutral
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which is fine it's not like it's one or the other
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um but it's a way to understand the differences
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within yourself and why you feel things so deeply
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so i just want to say i'm really honored to know
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so many beautiful sensitive souls And I'm so
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grateful that I have had the opportunity to wake
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up out of the old patterns and old conditioning
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that I inherited from, you know, my upbringing
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and even from my ancestors. That I want to remind
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each and every one of you that you have your
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own beautiful heart and soul and your own vibrational
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frequency. And you're not alone. You never have
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been, even if you have believed that you are.
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Because that, again, is something that I can
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relate to. You know, I did used to believe that
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I was alone, that I had to carry it all, that
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I had to do it all. You know, those are things
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that, you know, trauma can imprint in us. Or
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again, we can bring it from one lifetime to another.
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But the more we're willing to soften, the more
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we're willing to heal, right? We need to feel.
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to heal remember that density is about what we've
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been suppressing what's been you know frozen
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in a sense within our fascia and that crystalline
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the liquid crystal matrix within us and so i'm
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here just to remind you that you really have
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everything you need inside of you and I understand
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that when we start waking up to that truth, it's
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not always, you know, rosy. It's a bumpy path
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and you don't have to walk it alone. You're not
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alone, but it may feel like you are. And if you
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want to have support, if you want to receive
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reminders, you know, that there's nothing wrong
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with you. Healing is not the easy path. Being
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a highly sensitive individual is not an easy
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path. It's really a commitment to yourself, to
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bringing yourself back into the moment and to
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honor your path, your pace, your purpose. You
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are very important place in this life. I just
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want to let you know that I see you and I feel
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you and how deeply your heart loves. And I'm
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just so grateful. So as a reminder, we're here
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together to rise, reclaim, remember. Where the
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heart leads. The body remembers and the soul
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awakens. If you're ready to rise out of old conditioning
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and return to your own rhythm, you're always
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welcome to walk with me. You can listen here
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and you can also join the Rise and Realign Lunar
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Letter or explore deeper support through the
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Realign Journey. And you can find everything
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at realignwithmelissa .com slash links. Take
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good care of you. Much love and light.