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What were the reasons for hiding your pregnancy...? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake up with au playing and the club on nine.
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  Speaker 1: So there is a video that's going viral on.
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  Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure it started on TikTok so, which means
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  Speaker 2: the videos about a month old and I only got
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  Speaker 2: wind owver yesterday.
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  Speaker 1: Story for another day.
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  Speaker 2: It's a grandmother walking into a hospital room, all right,
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  Speaker 2: and she's there because she's there to visit her daughter
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  Speaker 2: because the daughter was like, oh, there's something wrong with me.
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  Speaker 2: Whatever she whatever she was told to come to hospital
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  Speaker 2: is not the reason she's actually at the hospital. When
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  Speaker 2: she gets to the hospital, she realizes that her daughter
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  Speaker 2: has just given birth. But she didn't know that her
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  Speaker 2: daughter was pregnant. Wow, So it's you can just listen
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  Speaker 2: to her emotion. You can just hear that she's shocked.
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  Speaker 2: And then I want to discuss this with you. And
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  Speaker 2: then she goes into the bathroom and she closes the
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  Speaker 2: door and she has a little cry. Everybody keeps asking
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  Speaker 2: me because and then she says, this is why you
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  Speaker 2: were staying away from me for the like for this
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  Speaker 2: for so long. You were staying away from me because
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  Speaker 2: you were hiding your pregnancy. So the entire time I'm like, okay,
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  Speaker 2: it's very strange. To hide your pregnancy from your mom, right,
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  Speaker 2: But I mean each to his own.
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  Speaker 1: But what I wanted to.
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  Speaker 2: Know is there are people who do hide their pregnancies.
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  Speaker 2: What was the reason for you hiding your pregnancy?
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  Speaker 1: I can't even I mean, frank, it's like when I
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  Speaker 1: was pregnant.
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  Speaker 3: When I was pregnant, still wanting to give birth. No,
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  Speaker 3: I can't imagine. I can't imagine. There's a few reasons,
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  Speaker 3: like embarrassment or whatever the case is, right, but I
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  Speaker 3: mean maybe for the first few months, but hiding your
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  Speaker 3: your full term.
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  Speaker 2: I told the company I was when I was eight
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  Speaker 2: months pregnant, which actually upset me because you guys just
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  Speaker 2: thought I was fat, which.
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  Speaker 4: Really, well, nobody wants to ask. Nobody wants to be
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  Speaker 4: the person who's like, oh, just wondering, because what if
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  Speaker 4: it is.
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  Speaker 1: Like a fire.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, I made sure when you're pregnant, Yeah I was.
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  Speaker 5: She must like a loose fitting shirt.
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  Speaker 2: Also, I think for me it was just that, you know,
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  Speaker 2: media and people, I just wanted to get on with it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because now if you're pregnant, then that's it's for
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  Speaker 2: the next seven months. That's all any journalist is ever
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  Speaker 2: going to ask you about. It's what in our field,
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  Speaker 2: It's all I'll ever have to talk about is the
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  Speaker 2: fact that I'm about to have a baby. So I
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  Speaker 2: just wanted you to give you guys a month so
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  Speaker 2: you can have a go with it, and then we
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  Speaker 2: have a baby and then we back to work.
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  Speaker 4: So I didn't hide it, but I just didn't obviously
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  Speaker 4: waited twelve weeks to announce it, but I didn't actually
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  Speaker 4: didn't announce it for I was at supersport at the time,
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  Speaker 4: and I knew, like, oh gosh, I'm not going to
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  Speaker 4: be on TV for much longest. I'll try to push
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  Speaker 4: it as far as I could before I told him,
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  Speaker 4: But I think I only told them at like fourteen
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  Speaker 4: weeks as opposed to twelve.
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  Speaker 3: But very specific reason, like for example and Eela, that
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  Speaker 3: you would I mean, that is very unique reason that
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  Speaker 3: you're going, Not because of the publicity you'll receive.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just now every single thing we talk about
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  Speaker 2: is going to have to revolve around this.
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  Speaker 1: We can never now even talk about.
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  Speaker 3: The answer is twelve, you know, sending more because I
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  Speaker 3: think a lot of people might hide it at the
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  Speaker 3: office because they know that now they're going to take
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  Speaker 3: maternity leave. Maybe the boss feels weird about it.
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  Speaker 4: Well, also, I'm like, obviously hit it on camera. It
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  Speaker 4: on camera, guys, but you're not wear fourteen weeks the
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  Speaker 4: way I thought I was so thin, Like I really did, like.
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  Speaker 1: I was fine.
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  Speaker 4: I was fine up until thirty two weeks, and then
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  Speaker 4: I just remember, like the nurse is saying, like, I,
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  Speaker 4: We're not going to weigh you anymore. I was just
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  Speaker 4: like like sucking my stomach in.
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  Speaker 5: Wait, were they out of numbers on the scale something
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  Speaker 5: like that?
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  Speaker 4: They said, everybody's a lot of biscuits.
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  Speaker 1: I don't never scale. It has a lot of resk
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  Speaker 1: in the winter.
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  Speaker 4: I've had night and I think there's a lot of
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  Speaker 4: reasons to hide it. I don't like this video because
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  Speaker 4: there's such a beautiful journey from between a mother and
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  Speaker 4: a daughter when you're preparing to have a baby, with
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  Speaker 4: pregnancy and everything that goes with it, so bonding that
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  Speaker 4: to then suddenly not be part of it and not
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  Speaker 4: be part of the excitement in the build up to
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  Speaker 4: the day, and then arrive at the hospital and be
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  Speaker 4: told here's your baby for me. I actually think that's
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  Speaker 4: really I'd possibly cut off my daughter really.
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  Speaker 1: But then how would you have a relationship with your granddaughter?
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  Speaker 4: Well you she didn't want me to because I wasn't
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  Speaker 4: part of the pregnancy.
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  Speaker 2: Oh one one eight thirty eight nine four seven. Why
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  Speaker 2: did you hide your pregnancy? Or somebody you know that
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  Speaker 2: hit the pregnancy. Maybe you're up for promotion and you
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  Speaker 2: know for while that if you say to someone, hey,
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to be gone for three four months,
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  Speaker 2: you you won't get it. Or maybe you want a
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  Speaker 2: job and they ask you the job.
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  Speaker 1: So do you have kids?
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  Speaker 2: You're like no, Oh, meanwhile, you presy brewing one, so
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  Speaker 2: then you hide that as well because you want to
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  Speaker 2: clinch the job.
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  Speaker 5: You're such nice people, very professional reasons. Sometimes people don't
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  Speaker 5: tell you'all because y'all is witches. You're a bunch of witches,
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  Speaker 5: and we're not trying to get y'all to put any funny.
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  Speaker 1: Stuff on the mom and her baby.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, they are people who believe that sort of
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  Speaker 5: stuff where they think something bad will happen if they
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  Speaker 5: tell you too soon.
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  Speaker 1: TI Beginner says, you'll a bunch of liver hexes. That's it.
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  Speaker 1: Zero eight four.
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  Speaker 2: Double zero double zero nine four seven centers a voice note,
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  Speaker 2: Why did you hide your pregnancy. Do you know anybody
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  Speaker 2: who hit their pregnancy.
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  Speaker 1: You're the dad of the child.
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  Speaker 2: You guys hit the pregnancy from certain people. What was
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  Speaker 2: the reason?
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  Speaker 1: What was the.
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  Speaker 2: Reason I hit my pregnancy because I was scared of
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  Speaker 2: my mama. I was twenty seven years old, come working independent.
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  Speaker 1: I hate my pregnancy. For seven months.
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  Speaker 6: I hit my pregnancy at the office. I didn't want
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  Speaker 6: anyone to know. I was embarrassed. I think for me
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  Speaker 6: it was because of age. I was forty one and
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  Speaker 6: it was a UPSI baby, so I ate my acy.
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  Speaker 2: I think for the first three or four months that
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  Speaker 2: was because I was very young, very very young.
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  Speaker 1: And today that daughter is a civil engineer.
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  Speaker 7: I'm very proud of her.
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  Speaker 3: That was going to be my second question, because why
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  Speaker 3: did you hide your pregnancy? And looking back, why does it.
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  Speaker 1: Not matter now?
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  Speaker 3: Because I think a lot of people in the moment
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  Speaker 3: for many reasons, anxiety related or strass So you're worried
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  Speaker 3: about someone saying something you don't announce, well, you keep
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  Speaker 3: it longer.
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  Speaker 2: But do you see how women judge themselves. Hey, you're
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  Speaker 2: very young, you hide it. You feel you're old. You
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  Speaker 2: at forty one, you hide it as well, because you're ashamed.
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  Speaker 2: You twenty seven working independent, have your own car, home, everything,
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  Speaker 2: medical aid.
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  Speaker 1: You hide it from your mom. You're not married, you
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  Speaker 1: hide it. You know you married.
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  Speaker 2: You hide it because you have to tell you It
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  Speaker 2: shows your dad that you've been having intercourse.
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  Speaker 1: On my word, do you know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 2: Like, there's just all these reasons, Fundy you and Alberton
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  Speaker 2: welcome to an ELM club.
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  Speaker 1: Hire Ellen mcloub how are you, Fundy?
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  Speaker 8: Well?
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  Speaker 9: How are you?
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  Speaker 8: Guys?
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  Speaker 1: Were great? Why did you hide your pregnancy?
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  Speaker 9: I was an intern at the time, and I was
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  Speaker 9: just about to sign my permanent contract, so I decided
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  Speaker 9: not to tell them until I had started the position,
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  Speaker 9: and I think I was about like five six months.
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  Speaker 9: And then I only told them, and I only disclosed
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  Speaker 9: because we're going on the trip and I had to
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  Speaker 9: tell them, eh okay.
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  Speaker 1: And then when you did.
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  Speaker 9: Disclose, everything was cooled, was well received. And then I
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  Speaker 9: also hit it from the rest of the world beside
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  Speaker 9: my close family and people at work who saw me
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  Speaker 9: obviously only because of you know, evil eye. And I
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  Speaker 9: only told everyone that I had a told I posted
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  Speaker 9: that I was pregnant when I had a three month old.
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  Speaker 2: Baby monitoring spirits is what they are called.
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  Speaker 1: This is why you'd hired it? And how old is
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  Speaker 1: the baby?
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  Speaker 4: Now?
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  Speaker 8: He's too.
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  Speaker 1: And love of your life?
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  Speaker 9: Eh, honestly, best thing that's happened.
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  Speaker 1: What's his name?
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  Speaker 9: His name is.
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  Speaker 1: Olul lutando o lun lund hand. Oh beautiful. We wish
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  Speaker 1: you many happy years with Olne.
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  Speaker 9: Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 1: Different reasons, eh, that's different reasons. Days you and foys?
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  Speaker 8: Hi?
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  Speaker 1: How would is it days as a D?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 1: It's d D. Okay, this is a story tell.
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  Speaker 7: Us, Okay, So my story is a little bit different.
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  Speaker 7: I actually hit my pregnancy because it was my default
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  Speaker 7: because I didn't even know I was.
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  Speaker 1: How when did you find out you are pregnant?
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  Speaker 7: I found that three days before I gave But.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, okay, what was happening? What happened? Did you have
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  Speaker 1: like a tummy egg?
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  Speaker 7: How it happened?
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  Speaker 8: Was?
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  Speaker 7: I had my first baby in twenty twenty four in July,
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  Speaker 7: so first time mom, you know, naturally, focusing on myself,
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  Speaker 7: worried about my baby. Come to August twenty five, I
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  Speaker 7: start having major back pain. So I got a doctor.
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  Speaker 7: Doctors like going for an X ray and you know,
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  Speaker 7: after you're afterwards. So when I went into the x ray,
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  Speaker 7: it's now apparently the norm that they do a blood
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  Speaker 7: test for.
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  Speaker 2: You, Yes, pregnant woman, Yeah exactly, oh.
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  Speaker 7: Blood test the lady Catherine and she's like, oh, we
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  Speaker 7: can't do the blood test for we can't do the
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  Speaker 7: x ray because you're pregnant. So I'm like, okay, cool,
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  Speaker 7: you know, excited. She's like no, no, no, you're actually
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  Speaker 7: thirty seven weeks pregnant. And I'm like you've got to
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  Speaker 7: be kidding me, and she's like nope. And then they
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  Speaker 7: do skin and there it is a full grown baby.
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  Speaker 7: I went into chock fafe to say, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I can imagine.
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  Speaker 7: Okay, but yeah I've been. It was okay, how do
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  Speaker 7: I now tell my husband, Hey, we have a baby
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  Speaker 7: on the way. And it's very cool. Doctor still says okay, fine,
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  Speaker 7: you have two weeks. So I'm still excited, like, hey,
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  Speaker 7: I've got two weeks. You know I can still do this.
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  Speaker 7: So one behold, this is the Wednesday. On Friday night,
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  Speaker 7: I go into labor have a baby, and bear in mind,
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  Speaker 7: nobody knows, like my family, my mom, nobody. So after
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  Speaker 7: I'd given birth on the Saturday, I call everybody to
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  Speaker 7: be like, hey, there's a new baby, and nobody wanted
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  Speaker 7: to believe me. They were like, no, that's someone else's baby,
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  Speaker 7: or did you a doctor baby. I'm like, no, no,
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  Speaker 7: this is my baby.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, And when did you tell your husband d
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  Speaker 3: Did he find out when he's on his way on
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  Speaker 3: the way to the hospital.
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  Speaker 7: No, So when I when I found out, the nurse
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  Speaker 7: is like, I'm sorry, you can't make calls in help,
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  Speaker 7: but I'll allow you to send the checks. I'm like,
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  Speaker 7: I would really like to be a fly on the
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  Speaker 7: wall with my been reading those texts saying that I'm
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  Speaker 7: thirty seven weeks pregnant, and it was quite funny.
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  Speaker 8: He was really supportive, very excited as well, and.
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  Speaker 7: He was like, that's why I regardless, I think.
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  Speaker 8: I was more a little bit on the crazy side, just.
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  Speaker 7: You know, feeling bad for the.
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  Speaker 8: Fact that I actually didn't know.
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  Speaker 7: Everybody has seen me. So my mom and I love
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  Speaker 7: in Joburgh.
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  Speaker 8: My family lives in Durbin.
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  Speaker 7: Everybody had come up in July because it was my
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  Speaker 7: son's first birthday and everybody had seen me, so you
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  Speaker 7: couldn't tell anything.
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  Speaker 8: So that is why everybody didn't want to believe me
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  Speaker 8: when I did tell.
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  Speaker 2: Them, had you not put on weight or do you
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  Speaker 2: just thought, well, it's it's still the baby.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, because it was so fresh from my first baby,
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  Speaker 7: I just assumed that, hey, it's taking a little bit longer.
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  Speaker 7: But there wasn't a visible bump.
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  Speaker 1: And and and.
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  Speaker 2: In terms of like you know, getting your parent, every
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  Speaker 2: man's maybe.
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  Speaker 7: Normal, it was absolutely normal. There was no indication at all,
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  Speaker 7: and that was that's what kind of threw me off.
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  Speaker 7: So the guy and explained it to me, and he said,
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  Speaker 7: you know what, it's because your body was.
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  Speaker 8: Still recovering here.
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  Speaker 7: It was struggling to process.
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  Speaker 8: What was happening.
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  Speaker 7: So, yeah, but my baby is now, she's going to
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  Speaker 7: be a year in August. He's perfectly healthy, not one scared,
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  Speaker 7: not one test, nothing.
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  Speaker 1: And what's your baby's name? Surprise?
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  Speaker 7: My name is Yara Lily ya Alyn Lily, Lily Lily.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, well listens, listen to you lady.
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  Speaker 3: Every day I think I can't hear it all, and
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  Speaker 3: then I hear it all. The congratulations that's what.
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  Speaker 1: Back to making your morning and on nine four seven,