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How Support Networks Accelerate Your Business Success · The One Small Change Podcast

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Welcome to the One Small Change. And as always, I am thrilled that
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you chose to spend time with me and embark on this journey of exploration and
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transformation. And if you don't already know, I'm your host, Yvonne
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McCoy, and I bring almost 30 years of entrepreneurial experience, and
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I have a passion for discovering growth through the power of seemingly
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small change. And my goal is to bring you somebody
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fantastic who is going to give you some information to
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help you to grow your business in a unexpected and
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delightful way. And this week, we have the amazing
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Julie Kraski. And no, it's not Kraski, it's.
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Say it again. Help me. Help me.
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Kraschinsky. Kraschinsky. I tried.
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Guys, if you've listened to more than one podcast, you know this is
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the hard part for me. Yeah, okay. And what she's
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gonna do, as, as always, is she's gonna share something that
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happened, a small, unexpected or insignificant decision that.
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That sparked a remarkable transformation and growth either in her personal
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or in her business life. But what we know is those are the things
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that make you the
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expert and not just an expert.
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Julie, thank you so much. Thank you for letting me slaughter
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your name. So tell everybody. It won't be the
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first time. Tell everybody who you are, what
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you do, and. And what happened to make you the expert.
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Oh, thanks. Thanks, Yvonne. I'm so glad we met. I'm so glad
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to be on your show. And yeah, so I have a long
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history of entrepreneurship, and it wasn't always that way because I started out
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in corporate America, did that for many, many years, and then I decided when I
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started family, I wanted to be a stay at home mom. And so I did
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that for two years. And then I was having mommy mush brain and I'm like,
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whoa, I gotta. I feel like I want to do something right. And so I
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started in direct sales back 33 years
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ago, 34 years ago, and
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didn't really know what I was doing. You know, never ran a business before,
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but going through the trainings and all that, I just fell in
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love with the leadership and empowering women and that became
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my passion, even though I retired from that business in
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2021 to fully immersed into
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coaching women entrepreneurs and how
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to have a successful business, but not have
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it run their life and let it fit into their life and not have their
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life fit into their business. And that's what I've been doing since then.
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And. And, you know, one of the things that, you know, I think drew us
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together is we have the same philosophy. And the
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first part of it is that women are just so amazing and they don't see
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their value. And I think the other thing is the
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whole concept of
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not letting your business run your life, that you, you know, that you need. You
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get into business so you can have the life that you want, and then
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you spend all your time in your business and you have no life. Yeah, Right.
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And so that is like kind of a, A, a basic thing that
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we both share. So when you're talking with
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women, what are some of the first things you know that you learned that you
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share with them? Well, for me, every
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person's journey is different. So when I get together with a
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woman, whether I'm doing a gifted coaching session or
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they're working with me, I come
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what I'm going to say, like, empty. Like, I'm coming to listen to them.
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I'm not coming to interject my experiences because I
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remember going through my divorce and I remember people telling me, like, oh, I
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didn't do that, or, oh, I walked away with nothing, or, I don't do this,
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I don't do that. And I'm so lucky that I
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didn't listen to everybody, that I was listening to my wise counsel.
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And because everybody, maybe 10 women
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have gone through a divorce, but every situation is different.
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Right. So I don't come with an agenda.
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When I meet with somebody, I honestly ask some
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questions that help them come up with their own
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brilliant insights. Because just like you said, you know,
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we have amazing. Women are amazing. Like I think you said to me
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when we first talked is, if women ran the world, it would be such
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a better place. Right.
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So. So let me ask you this. Yes.
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Because I have, I have something that I probably will add, but I want to
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get your perspective first. Okay. And I
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absolutely agree with you. You know, you and
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I have a lot more in common than I thought we did. You know, people.
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People always go, do you want me to send you this about myself? Do it.
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I'm like, no, I just want to experience you the way that you are and
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see. Because if you tell me what, what I should expect,
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then I'm not going to see the things about you that I think are special.
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I will already have updated. So
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when you talk to people about how they should take
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advice or as they're looking at what they
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want to do, what is like, the one thing that you always say,
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the one thing I always say is that
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any idea that I give you is never going to be as good as the
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idea that you come up with on your own.
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If you create Enough space and
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quiet to listen to your inner guidance
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system, your inner knowing, your gps I call my
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genius power system. It's always guiding me in the
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right direction. You know what to do.
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Many women know what to do. They're afraid to take that
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step because they want to know the whole entire plan.
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Now, I don't want to waste my time going this way or that way. How
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do I know how long to stay that route before I pivot?
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You know, all those things. So I just help guide them to really
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tap into their inner knowing and let that
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be your guide. Like, I have it right up on my board up
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there. Go with your gut. Well, and you know what?
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That, again, I think, is. It's so important that I don't think
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that's something. All right? So I. I
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tend to look at how patterns come about historically. And
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so, you know, in school, we're turned. We're taught to follow a certain thing,
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not to think out of the box. And so that's why everybody wants the answer.
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How do I get to the answer? And so my question is almost
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the same as your question. What is your. What is your dead reckoning?
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Where is it that you want to end up? You know what, when you celebrate
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your 100th birthday, how do you want people to
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describe you? Not, she was responsible and she
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worked 70 hours. What do you want them to say about you and about
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your energy and how you. How you brought life to the room?
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And when you do that, it changes everything. Right?
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And to me, confidence is having enough
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certainty that you can make a decision. Not that you have the answer or
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that it's perfect, but that you're okay with whatever the outcome, that
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you're willing to take responsibility for whatever the outcome is and.
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Correct. And. And. And what I also want
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to add is this happens to us regardless where we are in business.
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I did my workshop once, and somebody said to me, can I talk to
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you? Do you have a minute? And I was like, sure. And she was like,
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you know, I just thought I wanted to give you some. Some thoughts. And I
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was like, okay, great. And she said, you spent too long on that slide. And
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I go, I know. And I can't seem to, you know, and then
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she said, and you should do this, and you should do this, and you should
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do this. And I was like, wait a minute.
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Let me. Let me ask you. I mean, the things that
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she said were, like, really good. And I said, what do you do? She
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said, I'm in entertainment. And I go, that's the problem.
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I'm not an entertainment. I don't want
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my workshop to totally just entertain you. I'm not there to be a stand
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up. I mean, I probably could have been a stand up comedian,
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but so you have to, you have to know
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where somebody else is coming from. Yeah. To see
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if their advice even makes sense for you. And so in order
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to do that, you have to know where you're going, you know,
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And I just did a post that I. That one of my things that I
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say all the time is it doesn't matter how fast you're going. It only
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matters, you know, it doesn't matter how if you're going, if you're going in the
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wrong direction. Right, right. Yeah. But the flip side of that
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is, which I haven't said very much, is if you
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do small things on a regular basis, it will get you
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big results. The consistency. And I had to admit
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in my post today that I have played Solitaire for
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761 days straight.
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Do not judge me. I have the same
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streaks going with some games that I play. It's. We like to
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gamify things. Well, it's like to win.
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And I think once you do it and you do it on a regular basis,
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it's like, well, I don't want to like, I don't want to like lose my
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streak. Yeah. Right. But imagine what would happen
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if you called one person every day,
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not 10 on your list, but just one. Taking a note over here,
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you know, it's so funny, like you were saying how in tune we are. I
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just had most of this same conversation last night with my group
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that I have that I run. Same thing we talked about one
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step that you can do repeatedly over
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and over and over again. You know, we stop
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too soon. Like you stop right before the next.
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Yes. Because you're giving up. And
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I think a lot of times as women, we get bored with the
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task at hand. We get bored with repeating
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ourselves because we think, oh, the same people are
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listening to us over and over again. They're going to get sick of me. I
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have to come up with something new. But you're not talking to the same
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people all the time. Well, first of all, that's true of all
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entrepreneurs because we're innovative by nature
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and so we're curious and so we're like all over the place. And
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so one of my note, this says, I wrote this
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down because I. Every woman I talked to last week said I'm all
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over the place. So here's, here's what
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I've learned and, and I'd love to have your take on this.
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Yeah. When I first started doing my workshop, and they're like, do
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you know, do workshop a month? And I'm like, the same workshop?
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Yeah. Gotta be kidding me. How boring is that? Right?
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But what I have learned is, one, even
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if I were to say the exact same thing, the people that come
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are different. Even the people that come multiple times are
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at a different place in their business, and they hear different things.
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Yeah. And so the energy in the room is different.
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Two, when you focus on one thing,
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you get to go deep and not spread yourself thin.
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So I love it. Yep. Exactly
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what we were talking about last night. And I asked my clients
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to actually commit for the next six months that
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we're together on one focus,
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just one laser focus, and that is it. And
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I'm like, there's going to be other things that you're going to accomplish along the
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way because you're so clear at your direction that you're
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going. And that's why we come together. I have. It's called the Joyful
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Momentum Collective. So we do it together. So you're not alone. You
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don't feel like, oh, my gosh, I'm taking the step. It's scary.
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Oh, I took the step. Now what? Do it again. So.
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So you said something really important, that, that
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if people were not paying attention, and
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that is, if you're building a business, you do not have to do it alone.
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And if you're smart, you won't do it alone. And what
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I mean by that is I
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started getting into communities very late in building
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my business, which was a huge mistake.
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And when you are in community and there are all
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different kinds of community, it could be a networking community, it could be a
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masterminding. It could be they're just all kinds of community. One of the
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first things that it does is it helps you to get clarity a lot faster.
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Yeah. You know, because you're not in your own head. You're. You're speaking
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what you. You know, what you're thinking out and getting reaction.
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So tell me, tell me some of the benefits you. That you think of community
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and the type of community that you have. Oh, yeah,
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100%. I'm looking back and
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I've looked at. I always said I'm a gatherer of
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people because I have different groups of, like, my
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girlfriends from grade school and middle school. So 11 of us,
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you know, 11 of us, and we're going on a. Our big
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birthday trip in the fall together, all being together for the
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first time. In a long time. And although we have a group tech, so we're
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always, you know, seeing what's going on in everybody's life and cheering each other on
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and being there for them. Then I joined Mary Kay, and
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that's a huge community where I still have friends.
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Even though I stepped away from my directorship position, I still have
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clients and things like that. I don't work with them anymore. They just order. But
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still, that huge community was so important to me.
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And now being in my E Woman network community, that's another
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community of women and a few good men. And now I'm creating
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my own community around my coaching. So
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it's not networking, but they, you know, they're getting to know each other and stuff
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like that. It's not focusing on networking. So
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community. And I talked about this last night, how important
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it was for each one of them to create their own community. And.
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And you. You have different kinds of communities. Yeah. Like, one
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of the things that I think is so amazing about you is you have your
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personal community, right? Yes. And I'm talking about a community
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other than your family. Right. Okay. Yeah. Your
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family is family. You don't get to pick them. You
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know, you get to love them, but you don't get to pick them. I mean,
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my mother used to call me up and go, you know, Tessa, I go, mom,
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I'm working, but you're home. And I'm like,
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but I'm still. I work from home. I work from home, mom. You know,
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and, like, you know, and it was fun, you know, your family,
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your family remembers everything that you've done wrong since
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you were a child. When I was in my 60s,
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my father was still telling the story about how he took me camping and I
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was cooking the corn, and he kept saying, is it done
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yet? Is it done yet? And I said, no. And he finally said, yvonne, it's
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got to be done. And I'm like, it's not yellow yet. And it was white
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corn. I didn't know white corn, but, I mean, I'm like a full. Yeah,
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right. They remember everything. Yeah. So
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your community has got, you know, and as you go around the different groups, you're
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going to find. I like this group. This group has much more of the philosophy
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that I have. Right. This group is a good group to do this with,
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but the thing that it will do for you, it will
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increase your learning curve. You will go find more ideas
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and stuff than you could ever do by yourself. And it's exactly
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from being in a community event that I found
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My. My tagline or whatever, you know, you don't
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need to be fixed. You just need to be found. Because they. Somebody was.
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A whole bunch of people was trying to help a woman do something.
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And I got really frustrated and I went, do you have clients?
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She goes, yes. I said, do they love you? She said,
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yes. I said, do they get great results? She said, yes. I
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said, then you don't have a delivery issue.
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You know, once you have them, you're gold, Right? So you
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don't need. Everybody's trying to fix you. You don't need to be fixed. You just
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need to be found. And everybody in the room went.
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And I was like. I was like, that's it. I mean, you know, you can't
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get that kind of reaction by yourself. So. So the
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other thing is, I think that you talked about
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is being
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in community helps you to see.
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All right, so when you're in community, there's always going
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to be somebody who's ahead of you, and there's always going to be somebody who
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isn't as far as you are. And so that is always, I think, a
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surprising thing that you mean, that you say to yourself, oh, my God,
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I know this, and they don't know this. Even people. Sometimes you say things
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to people who are well established and they go, you
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know, you think to yourself, why don't they know this? Right,
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yeah. So community is a wonderful, wonderful.
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It's a reflection and it's a way to see yourself
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as you are growing and see that everybody is growing.
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So for sure, yeah. So
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let's talk about this. We talked about women,
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and our experiences, I think,
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are one of the reasons that, you know, we have seen women struggle
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and seen women, you know, whatever. What is
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the one thing, you know, I take a look at patterns, and
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so what is like one pattern or one
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limiting belief? That is a biggie.
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Oh, boy. I think the biggest
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repeated pattern that I
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see in women and used to be in myself,
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too, and even in different instances, it still shows up, is
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like, who do I think I am
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basically? You know, it's not like, why me?
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And then when they. It's comparison, really, comparing yourself to other people. And
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I really kind of help people. And I always tell my
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clients, too, when I'm speaking, I'm speaking to myself,
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either my past self or my present self that still needs to hear it over
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and over again to have it land. And
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what I've really learned, and you had asked
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one when we talked earlier, too, is like. Was like a small thing
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that you've Done to make a change. You know, instead of a really big thing,
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it's more of showing up every day instead of like, what do I need to
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do today? And shifted to
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who do I need to become today? Right. And
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shift your identity of how you see yourself, because that's how other people
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see you. And then there's other times where people see something in you and you're
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like, oh, really? Like, I don't see that in me because
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it's your natural innate ability that was given to you,
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so you don't see it. Well, it's interesting because
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in the workshop I do this thing called the three word exercise, which I was
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talking about. How do, how do I want people to describe me when I'm 100?
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And that's how. That's how I lost almost 200 pounds.
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Is that because
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at one time I weighed 440 pounds? No way.
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And, and you know, one day it said, I don't want to be like this.
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Yeah. What's missing from my life? And the first thing that came up
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was energy. I have absolutely no energy. I mean, everything,
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everything was like, you know, you go downstairs once a day
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and you come upstairs once a day. Do you know I mean it? You know?
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And I was like, I want to be energetic. And then I asked a friend
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of mine that knew me in college, and I said, if you had to describe
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me, because I was thinking that's when I felt like I was the most energetic.
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And I said to her, when I. When you knew me, then what would have
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been the one word you used to describe me? And she said,
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adventuresome. And I went, I mean, it was like somebody hit me in the head
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with a brick. I was like, oh, my God, there is
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not that person anymore. There's no spontaneity. There's
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no adventure in my life. Right? And
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then I said the same thing to my husband who knew me then. And he
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said, you were the most intriguing woman I'd ever met. And I was
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like, oh, my God. Right? And. And for
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business, I've substituted curiosity for
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intriguing. Right? But I got up every morning and
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said, what can I do today that is energetic,
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adventuresome, and intriguing or curious? I love
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that. Whenever I got ready to eat something, I would say, is this what
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an energetic, adventuresome or curious person would eat?
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What is the purpose? Why am I eating this? What is the purpose of this?
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Right. And so the same thing is true. When you're uncertain about
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the kind of decisions that you're going to make. One of the things that you
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can say is, is this the kind of action that an
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energetic, adventuresome, curious person would take?
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And your actions become much bigger. Yeah.
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Right. And so that is like a huge thing. And, and,
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and on top of that, I think one of the things that we don't
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do, there are two things. I'm sorry,
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this is supposed to be your interview, and I'm, you know, But. But I
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think we. We tend to want to wait until we're, you know, until we
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practice to be perfect. We don't acknowledge
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our celebrations as we go along. And, you know, for a long
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time, I've said, you know, the thing that I'm proudest of is even though I
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lost almost £200, it's 150, that I kept off.
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And what I realized the other day is I have now, I'm. Now that
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I'm now at 170, that I've kept off and never
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acknowledged those other. Other pounds in between. So you
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gotta celebrate as you go along. Even the small things. Were you on
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my call last night? I think it's. Were you a fly
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in the room? Because I think it's the
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astrology or whatever. Because there is definitely a movement
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about, I want my life to be good. I want to have more life in
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my life. Yeah. All right. So one of the limiting
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beliefs that I see all the time, too, limiting beliefs I see from people all
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the time, is one has to
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do with money. Oh, yeah. So. So what do you
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see in. In that arena? Oh, yeah, a lot of that.
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And I've learned, really,
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over the years, it took a lot. I had that too. Like, I had
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that, oh, I can't do this, because I was looking
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at my bank account to inform my decisions. And when I
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shifted that when I learned. But it took a long time
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to, like, I learned from my mentors and coach. Like, you tell money where to
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go. If you're letting your money direct your life,
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you're never going to be happy because you're never going to have too much and
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you're never going to have enough, and you're never going to have too low. So
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it's designing your
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life and telling your money where to go. Instead of saying, I can't
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afford this, I would either say, like you said,
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curiosity, how can I afford this?
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Or if you really,
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truly are not ready to take the step to spend the
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money there, I would also feel more
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empowered to equip somebody to say, I'm
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choosing not to put my money in that area right now. That's
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more empowering. That's not my priority.
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But here's, here's the other thing. You know, what I tell people
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is, you know, we say, I don't
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have time, I don't have money. Those are our basic go to's when we don't.
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But there really is a, a deeper reason under that
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I don't, you know. Yeah. So what I say, I say to people all the
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time, if this were free, would you do it? Yeah. Oh, yeah, of
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course. Of course I would. All right, so. So the time and the money is
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not really. It's not the thing. Right, right. But what I
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find so often is
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when people, when they have that belief that they won't, they
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don't invest in themselves, then it becomes harder to ask somebody
25:03
to invest in them. Right. I, I listened to a coach
25:07
once say, what's the most that you ever paid for a program?
25:11
That's probably where you're stuck. Because
25:14
if you ask somebody to pay more than that, then you start
25:18
thinking, well, you know, that would be a struggle for me. So that's, you know,
25:21
you start getting into that downward spiral. And I was like, this is so
25:25
smart. Right? Yeah. So it's like one of the things
25:29
that helps you is as you invest in yourself, not only do you
25:33
get the benefit of the investment, but it also puts you in a place
25:36
where you can charge what you're worth because
25:40
you know what the benefit is. Yeah.
25:44
Oh, wait for a minute. Yeah. But no, it's easy to say
25:47
that too, for somebody. And like, I've had people say, no,
25:51
you don't understand. I don't have the money. It's
25:55
not in my bank account. And I'm like, is
25:58
that what you want me to agree it with?
26:02
No. You know, so let's change your story. We're always telling ourselves
26:06
stories, so let's make up a good one.
26:10
And, and I think that, you know, I. If you can't put food on your
26:14
table, then I don't want you to take my program. Exactly. Right. Because you have
26:18
to be at a, at a certain level. But if you tell me, you
26:21
know, I have all these memberships and I have all these things that I'm
26:25
paying for that I'm not getting benefit from, well, then we've got some place
26:29
to work if you want some help. So I think, I think that,
26:32
you know, I had somebody who, who I, I was talking to,
26:36
and I finally said to her, do you want a hobby or do you
26:40
want a business? I'm just passionate about this. I said, I get
26:44
that. Yeah, but do you Want to be passionate as just
26:47
an advocate and whatever, or do you want to
26:51
have a business and make money, you know, because you have to support
26:55
yourself. Right. And then I said. Then she
26:59
kind of gave me her idea. And I said to her, I said, but here's
27:02
the thing. This is what I feel very strongly about,
27:05
is I think we're in the age of implementation. People
27:09
don't need a but so much information, but they do
27:12
need to figure out how to customize it and personalize it so that they
27:16
can use it. Yeah. And so any program to me,
27:20
has to have some kind of component like that in it. And so
27:24
she goes, no, I'm just going to have the workshop and send them off.
27:28
And I said, that's like selling somebody a pair of shoes and only giving them
27:31
one shoe. Yeah. You know,
27:35
so I think, you know, again, I'll go back to community. Sometimes if you don't
27:38
say your ideas out loud, nobody knows what you're talking about. You know, you don't
27:42
see where the, you know, the pitfalls are that you can avoid. Okay,
27:46
so this is before we run out of time, because you and I philosophically
27:49
could talk about all kinds of things.
27:53
I usually like to ask, what are three things that you say to people that
27:57
you want them to do that's going to help them?
28:02
You know, I jotted a couple things down here, too.
28:06
You know, the one thing was every day, ask yourself, who
28:10
am I becoming like is the goal that I've set?
28:14
You know, am I showing up as that woman who is
28:17
acting as if I already have this? Right.
28:21
The other thing is what I also said too, is do
28:25
something. I didn't say that in this way, but do something
28:29
that creates joy and
28:33
brings your energy up and makes you feel. You do the thing
28:37
that you've been avoiding doing because it makes it easier. And
28:41
then you're not going to hack people. You're attracting people
28:44
because you have that energy, because people could feel the energy. Right?
28:48
And then so when you're ready and you do something to take, you know,
28:52
joyful action, then I would say, take joyful, intentional action.
28:56
What is the one thing that if I did
29:00
that today and I put it on rinse and
29:03
repeat every day, I know that it
29:07
is going to start a movement, and then we
29:10
can create some momentum. And that's why I called my the
29:14
Joyful Momentum Collective, because I
29:18
want people to come in, start taking action,
29:23
get clarity, take action and keep taking action so you can get some
29:26
momentum. We keep stopping and then starting all over again.
29:31
So we lose momentum. That's why we think like we're starting from scratch all
29:34
over again all the time. So, so, so again with,
29:38
with the things that I say, it's like you're not starting over, you're continuing
29:42
on. And, and, and the other thing, just as
29:45
a tip that goes into what you just said, I, I used,
29:49
I have this thing that's called the, the divided to do list.
29:53
And you know how we make these lists. So on the left hand side is
29:56
all the things that I have to do and I divide the page in
29:59
half and on the right hand side are the things that I want to do.
30:03
Right. And if you pick something that you want to do and do that
30:07
first, your day will be so
30:11
energetic. You're so excited. The energy. And not only
30:14
that, whatever you have to do will fill the
30:18
time that you have. And you will never have time left over to do what
30:21
you want to do. I mean, it just, it just does because you, you, you
30:25
play with it a little bit more. You go, can I do a little this?
30:28
Can I do you know where if your time is tighter, you go, it's good
30:32
enough, you know, for whatever that thing is that you have to do.
30:35
Okay. So you also have a gift for us. I do.
30:40
We've created an assessment and it's a
30:44
really short, like under three minute, like a
30:47
survey type thing. But it gives you immediate results to find out
30:51
where you might be holding yourself back. Like where are you
30:55
stuck, where are you starting and stopping
30:58
just to identify that. And it does give you your answers right away.
31:02
You don't have to wait to get an email or anything like that. So
31:06
it's just Julie K. Can't wait to do that. Yeah.
31:10
Okay. Coaching.com assessment. So
31:13
that's fine. It's just easy. It'll. It'll be in the notes so you guys
31:17
can find it really easy. And the
31:21
other thing, of course, is the, the, the fun question of
31:25
when was the last time you did something new for the first time?
31:29
I saw that I was trying to think of what was new for the first
31:32
time. It doesn't have to be totally new. It can be something you
31:36
went back to, something that you haven't done for a long time.
31:41
I was trying to think of that. I really, I don't know. I. This was
31:44
my birthday month and we're still in it. So
31:48
I always celebrate. Thank you.
31:51
Notoriously, I have a spa day with my
31:55
daughter and her girlfriend since sixth grade and one of my
31:58
girlfriends. And this time, what a great role model. Right. We did that
32:02
ever since they turned 21. We started doing that together
32:06
and. But I expanded. My birthday went
32:10
like three whole weeks with trips, little
32:14
trips and little getaways. Came home for a day, did the
32:17
spa day, went away again. So I felt like this was
32:21
my best birthday ever. Even though it's one of those that people go like, oh,
32:25
my gosh, you're that old. You know, I'm like,
32:29
I get. I have energy, I have, you know,
32:32
fun is one of my pillars. So I'm just
32:36
milking it right till the end of the month. I decided this year it was
32:39
going to be. Not going to be over at the end of the month. It's
32:42
going to take the rest of, you know, and just keep celebrating
32:46
it. I think that's fantastic. And the fact that you're going.
32:50
You haven't done it for a while, but in. In the fall, you're going on
32:53
your girlfriend trip. Yeah. It's been a number of years.
32:57
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And it'll be different because it's been a couple of years. So
33:01
it'll be like. Yeah, almost like the first time again, except better.
33:04
And that's one of the things that I almost said, oh, I can't do it
33:08
because we're actually going on a trip out
33:12
east. Like, I'll be getting back and being home for like
33:16
four days after being gone for 10 days and then
33:20
going again. But I'm like, you know what? Life is too short to say
33:23
no. I work for myself. It's all going to be
33:27
okay. You have to say yes. Absolutely.
33:30
Absolutely. Okay. I hate to stop this, but we gotta.
33:34
So we do. We do. So for those who are listening, I hope your
33:38
first step will be subscribe, and I hope you will share and engage on social
33:41
media with this. Because one of the reasons that I do it is that I
33:45
want to help you supercharge your business and create a community
33:49
where that's happening on a regular basis. And
33:53
through this, I want you to be able to grow
33:56
and have an impact. And so I hope you'll continue to, you know,
34:00
join me for the one small change as we go through this journey together.
34:04
And if you haven't seen it already, the first episodes, and there are a couple
34:07
of other episodes in there that I call the Clarity. The Clarity
34:11
calls that you can look at as well. So,
34:15
Julie, what are your last words of wisdom? What. What is
34:19
things that you always say to your clients,
34:23
do something fun first, then
34:27
take action. I love that. Do something fun first,
34:30
then take action. Okay, guys, we have to wrap this up. And
34:34
the thing that I want you to remember is the change can be simple, but
34:38
it's not always easy. It requires courage, resilience, and a
34:42
willingness to step out of your comfort zone. So, you know, my
34:45
mantra is I must be making, you know, a big change
34:49
because I've never felt this miserable before.
34:53
So acknowledging it is a good thing. And so I
34:57
hope that you will continue on the journey of bold vision and innovative
35:00
possibilities. Until next time, I hope you will stay
35:04
very, very curious. Julie, thank you.