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He’s Just Not That Into You & Jared Freid Explains Why · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Laala. Is that a Lauren?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? How did you know?
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  Speaker 3: Because we had a Lala in my high school, the
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  Speaker 3: girl with a I mean, I'm referencing someone I haven't
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  Speaker 3: thought about in like one hundred years, But there was
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  Speaker 3: a la La that was Lauren.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's exactly right. They called me Laala Bee in
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  Speaker 2: high school.
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  Speaker 3: Lala b Yeah, that's hilarious in Utah.
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  Speaker 1: That's like out of a movie about Utah High School.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Hello, gorgeous. It is Laala Kent. Today's guest is
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  Speaker 2: fucking hilarious, brutally honest, which I love, and completely relatable.
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  Speaker 2: Jared Freed. He is a voice behind the U Up
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  Speaker 2: and Jay Train podcast, a killer stand up comic, and
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  Speaker 2: basically the dating translator slash guru that we all really need,
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  Speaker 2: especially well especially me. We're talking about the games guys
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  Speaker 2: play and why your screenshots to the group chat are
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  Speaker 2: valid therapy, So let's jump right into it. Is that true?
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  Speaker 2: I'm so terrified of screenshots being sent that, like, when
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  Speaker 2: I get text messages, I will literally call you on
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  Speaker 2: the phone. And that happened after legal stuff happened, okay,
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, but even like amongst my friends,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm not saying shit in this text because
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  Speaker 2: you're not going to pull this up.
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  Speaker 1: I guess.
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  Speaker 3: You know, when we talk about screenshots, it's usually on
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  Speaker 3: the UU podcast, it's a you know, just eight out
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  Speaker 3: of ten times it's a woman who's writing in being like,
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  Speaker 3: what does this exchange mean? It's not to like get someone,
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  Speaker 3: it's more like, because that's where I come in. I'm
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  Speaker 3: ten percent away from every guy someone is dating, so
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  Speaker 3: I can I'm not one hundred percent Like if you
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  Speaker 3: think of the math of it, like, yeah, whatever you're
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  Speaker 3: going through, you're dating, and you're dealing, you're confused about something,
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  Speaker 3: you're dealing with a guy who's straight.
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  Speaker 1: Dude, who I am.
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  Speaker 3: I've done what he's doing, you know, in my own life,
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  Speaker 3: and not because I'm trying to be mean or trying,
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  Speaker 3: but because it's uncomfortable to date someone in you know.
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  Speaker 3: And there's another side. I think a lot of women
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  Speaker 3: in dating think that there's this like this guy who
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  Speaker 3: doesn't know how to text them back, but also as
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  Speaker 3: a master manipulator, like they kind of like and that
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  Speaker 3: can't be true. Maybe it's someone with their own insecurities,
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  Speaker 3: just like you. That's trying to figure out getting themselves
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  Speaker 3: to the best place.
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  Speaker 1: That they can be. We all live in the key
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  Speaker 1: of me. We all live the story. We're the main characters.
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  Speaker 3: So like a lot of times people when they write
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  Speaker 3: in they're like they're looking at these text messages, They're like,
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  Speaker 3: I don't understand what's going on here, And then I
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  Speaker 3: look at it and I go, I can tell you
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  Speaker 3: exactly what's going on because I can see what this
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  Speaker 3: person's trying to angle at, what they're trying to do.
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  Speaker 3: Because again, like the guy you're seeing, if you're listening,
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  Speaker 3: if you have an issue with dating, I'm not one
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  Speaker 3: hundred percent different than that person. None of us are, right,
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  Speaker 3: I'm within one bell curve. I'm with than one standard
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  Speaker 3: deviation of your the guy you're seeing, and most of
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  Speaker 3: us are very close to one another and how we
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  Speaker 3: feel and how smart we are, and you know, it's
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  Speaker 3: not that much difference between one person and the next.
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  Speaker 3: So I my job on the Up podcast is to
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  Speaker 3: be is to try and give voice to the straight
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  Speaker 3: male perspective that I do think is missing. I think
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  Speaker 3: you know, when straight men talk about dating and they
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  Speaker 3: generally get a platform online, they sound like assholes.
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  Speaker 1: They it's the worst people.
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  Speaker 3: It's bad actors that are looking to get a following
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  Speaker 3: that get the platform. And the reason you up is
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  Speaker 3: kind of like just like been around. We've been around
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  Speaker 3: for seven years and we have people that love our show.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not saying that we're not a big show, but
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  Speaker 3: like we've kind of just like flown by because a
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  Speaker 3: lot of the stuff is diet and exercise, and that's
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  Speaker 3: really the most.
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  Speaker 1: Boring advice no one wants to hear that no one
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  Speaker 1: wants to hear.
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  Speaker 3: It's like die, Yeah, well they're not texting because they're
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  Speaker 3: you know, they're just trying to like they want to
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  Speaker 3: keep you as an opt.
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  Speaker 1: Like that's not really like a fun dating take, but it.
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  Speaker 2: Is the take are most Do you ever get people
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  Speaker 2: that write in that are maybe texting communication is all
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  Speaker 2: they have, Like we know that like meeting in the
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  Speaker 2: DMS or meeting in an app that's kind of like
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  Speaker 2: the norm.
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  Speaker 3: Now that's totally fine, there's no shame on that. I
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  Speaker 3: think that's great. But you don't get to know someone
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  Speaker 3: unless it's in person.
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  Speaker 2: So so do you do you tell people do a
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  Speaker 2: bort mission?
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  Speaker 3: Then if like no, I would I don't tell people
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  Speaker 3: what to do. I give them. I give them a
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  Speaker 3: strategy that would work on me. You know, when I
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  Speaker 3: give someone advice, it's what it's something to do and
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  Speaker 3: if you do.
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  Speaker 1: It, it'll work because it would work on me.
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  Speaker 3: So if you give me an example like the one
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  Speaker 3: you're talking about right now, Hey, i've been texting with
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  Speaker 3: this guy for three weeks, he won't make a plan.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I want him to ask me out.
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  Speaker 3: I want him to make a plan because to most women,
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  Speaker 3: that is attractive. When a guy makes a plan, I
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  Speaker 3: know that he knows that there's a reason he's not
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  Speaker 3: making the plan.
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  Speaker 1: He might just want to be.
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  Speaker 3: Building trust with you so that you guys can meet
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  Speaker 3: up in more casual settings.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: He might be texting and texting and texting because he
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  Speaker 3: has someone else he's dating.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, but.
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  Speaker 3: These are all on the spectrum. On the spectrum, there's
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  Speaker 3: a spectrum of answers. Yeah, I can't tell you what
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  Speaker 3: it is, but I can get I can say to
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  Speaker 3: that person who's been texting with a guy for three weeks,
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  Speaker 3: you let's look in the mirror and say, hey, what
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  Speaker 3: do I want?
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  Speaker 1: Well, I want a first date.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, that's simple. I would go text that guy. Hey,
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  Speaker 3: it's been really fun communicating here. You got to be
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  Speaker 3: positive and you got to ask for what you want.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: So, hey, it's been really fun talking to you. Live
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  Speaker 3: in the reality because it has been fun. You have
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  Speaker 3: enjoyed the three weeks of texting, even though you want
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  Speaker 3: something else, right, Okay, so acknowledge I've had a really
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  Speaker 3: good time texting the last three weeks. I think it's
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  Speaker 3: time for me to meet in person. I'd love to
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  Speaker 3: get together, make a plan, and I'm in I'm free
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  Speaker 3: Tuesday and Wednesday next week.
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  Speaker 2: All right, So you give him the days you let
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  Speaker 2: him know I'm down for the cause. Here's the days
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  Speaker 2: i'm free.
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  Speaker 3: Let me know I have given And again, we all
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  Speaker 3: want to be all women want, most women want to
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  Speaker 3: be pursued. So what you've done is now given him
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  Speaker 3: all the tools, the wood, the hammer, the nails to
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  Speaker 3: build the house. Okay, so it can feel It doesn't
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  Speaker 3: feel as good as you wanted, but you're nothing's gonna
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  Speaker 3: feel as good as you wanted.
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  Speaker 1: Three weeks in text and they haven't made a plan.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm getting it to Like the point if you're
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  Speaker 3: gonna sit there and text him for three weeks.
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  Speaker 1: It's because you want a date.
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  Speaker 3: So let's put out the hammer, put out the nails,
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  Speaker 3: put out the wood, and now he can build that house.
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  Speaker 3: This is an adult who had the ability to match
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  Speaker 3: with you on an app and make you believe there
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  Speaker 3: were a fun person enough to go out with them
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  Speaker 3: and spend time with them. So they have the ability
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  Speaker 3: to make that plan. They will either make that plan
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  Speaker 3: when you say, hey, I'm free Tuesday and this has
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  Speaker 3: been fun.
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  Speaker 1: I'm free Tuesday or Wednesday, make a plan. I'm in.
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  Speaker 1: If they do anything but make a plan for Tuesday
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  Speaker 1: or Wednesday, that's it.
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  Speaker 2: Call it a day.
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  Speaker 1: At that point, it's make a plan or I'm done.
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  Speaker 3: And you don't have to say anything because you're not
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  Speaker 3: gonna teach anybody, right, You're not teaching someone who doesn't
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  Speaker 3: want to be taught. So a lot of times it's
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  Speaker 3: a lot of women that write in, and I say
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  Speaker 3: women because I'm in the position of like speaking, you're
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  Speaker 3: you're the I'm responding to their emails, so like, I
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  Speaker 3: don't want to group women together.
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  Speaker 1: If this doesn't apply to you, that's fine. My point is.
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  Speaker 3: That when women write into the showy they're looking, They're like,
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  Speaker 3: I'm They're They're like, I'm so confused.
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  Speaker 1: You're not confused, you're turned off.
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  Speaker 3: If you the more, every time you say confused, just
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  Speaker 3: say turned off and they'll answer all your questions.
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  Speaker 2: Oh I like that because I would much rather be
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  Speaker 2: turned off than confused.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because you're not confused. You're a smart woman.
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  Speaker 2: Used leaves me vulnerable. Turned off means you're giving me
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  Speaker 2: the ick and I'm kind of like working my way out.
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  Speaker 3: Here's the thing about turned off doesn't mean it's over.
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  Speaker 3: You know, being turned off and communicating that that's a
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  Speaker 3: real motivator to someone that really wants to get to
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  Speaker 3: know you. Any woman who has ever told me, ah,
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  Speaker 3: that thing you're doing kind of turns me.
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  Speaker 1: Off, made hit me in the core.
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  Speaker 3: So if you really want to and it also it's
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  Speaker 3: a person with taste, it's a person I respect, a
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  Speaker 3: person who respects themselves. And I'm not here to be
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  Speaker 3: a motivator. Like I'm not here like tell you you're
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  Speaker 3: great and wonderful. Like I'm just saying, like how I
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  Speaker 3: hear these things? Okay, you know, Like I'm not trying
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  Speaker 3: to say like like I do, like think everyone is fine,
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  Speaker 3: everyone's for someone, but like I just hear a lot
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  Speaker 3: of bullshit from smart people. You know, I'm confused. Well,
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  Speaker 3: you're college educating. You got to this point.
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  Speaker 1: Well, it's not confused about anything but this.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know. But that sounds like you want to.
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  Speaker 3: Fucking have a It sounds like you want to put
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  Speaker 3: confusion in the way of having taste.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you can't talk about having this is something where
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  Speaker 2: like the heart is speaking right and like you could
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  Speaker 2: be a Harvard graduate and the heart just fixates on
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  Speaker 2: what it wants. I continue, at the age of thirty four,
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  Speaker 2: almost thirty five, to be attracted to men who make
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  Speaker 2: me work really, really fucking hard.
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  Speaker 1: Who are you dating right now? Laala? Nobody? Nobody? Are
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  Speaker 1: you texting with anybody?
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  Speaker 2: So I like to say that I'm yes. My whole
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  Speaker 2: thing is when you say are you dating? That puts
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  Speaker 2: me in a box of potential, whereas when you say
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  Speaker 2: are you talking to this person? It leaves me to be.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't ask those questions though.
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  Speaker 2: No, you said are you dating?
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  Speaker 1: I said, no, you're seeing anyone? Are you like talking
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  Speaker 1: to anyone that's talking?
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  Speaker 2: I like talking better? Well, I think I never I've
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  Speaker 2: never talked about this at all.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I think what you're doing like to me, like
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  Speaker 3: when people ask why their dating issues, I've kind of like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, you try to make this edible for people,
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  Speaker 3: like conversation, especially because again, like this is all marketing.
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  Speaker 3: Dating dating talk is very it can be. It's the same,
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  Speaker 3: it's not. There's not a lot to say. But I
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  Speaker 3: do believe there's such a.
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  Speaker 1: Thing as back alley dating and main street dating.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, what's the back alley?
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  Speaker 3: Back alley dating is meeting someone on an app, having
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  Speaker 3: no friends in common, and going out for drinks. That's
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  Speaker 3: something that no one knows about, no one cares about.
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  Speaker 3: There's no there's no repercussions, no will ask questions how
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  Speaker 3: to go with Jake?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: Like and again I used a fake name. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I have gone about my life saying I don't date
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  Speaker 2: right now, I don't talk to anybody such a woman.
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  Speaker 1: Women, Women do this on off switch.
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  Speaker 3: You're always dating, You're always out there. If you're single,
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  Speaker 3: you're always out there. Okay, if you're unspoken for, you're
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  Speaker 3: always looking. That is that is a thing people say
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  Speaker 3: to themselves to not be feel like they failed. You're saying,
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  Speaker 3: I'm not dating right now, so that you'll never feel
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  Speaker 3: like a night when Red Dreid ray rejection. That is
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  Speaker 3: like to me, like, I get it, I get it,
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  Speaker 3: like I wish I I'm in my whe fase, so
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  Speaker 3: you don't feel bad about fucking some dude. That's why
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  Speaker 3: men don't do that. I've never heard a guy in
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  Speaker 3: his whole phase. I've never I'm not dating right now.
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  Speaker 3: Every guy's always dating, always looking, always not looking. And
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  Speaker 3: this is something that you don't have to do. Like
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  Speaker 3: I know you, but like you're like.
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  Speaker 1: On the podcast, I say I'm not dating right now, Well,
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  Speaker 1: you're always dating.
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  Speaker 3: And the thing that I always get put in the
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  Speaker 3: position of saying is that men are not naive idiots.
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  Speaker 3: We are more emotionally intelligent than women give us credit for.
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  Speaker 3: So the idea that he would hear this and go
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  Speaker 3: you like me is crazy.
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  Speaker 1: That'd be him. He'd be an asshole for doing that.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, because you're hitting on something that like has been
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  Speaker 3: a big piece of advice that I've said to people
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  Speaker 3: is if you're going out with your friends and getting
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  Speaker 3: like a daytime.
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  Speaker 1: Sprits or whatever.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, hey, and this is who that that's the exact
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  Speaker 3: hang you want. Hey, I'm with my friends. We're having
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  Speaker 3: a sprits. If you and if you're with any friends
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  Speaker 3: want to come, m you're more than welcome, open invitation,
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  Speaker 3: no harm, no foul.
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  Speaker 1: You know you don't come, that's okay, you got other
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  Speaker 1: things going on.
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  Speaker 3: But what you're doing when you say I'm out with
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  Speaker 3: my friends and having fun and would love for you
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  Speaker 3: and your friends to come to again, that's the that's
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  Speaker 3: the main street date that you want because friends are there. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that is you seeing them again.
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  Speaker 1: This is about you seeing.
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  Speaker 3: If they're the right partner for you, you seeing them
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  Speaker 3: interact with your closest and best. Of course it is,
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  Speaker 3: but we all talk about it hypothetically. You know, Oh,
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  Speaker 3: I they gotta get along with my friends, and I
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  Speaker 3: gotta be able to leave them alone at a party. Well,
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  Speaker 3: you haven't invited them to a fucking party. You never
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  Speaker 3: invite them out with your friends because you're afraid of
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  Speaker 3: your friends going what happened to Jason and then you go,
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  Speaker 3: well bo bo work out? Well fuck off, that sucks.
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  Speaker 3: Deal with it, you know, like you know, take the chance,
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  Speaker 3: you know, so if you like them again, that's what
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  Speaker 3: makes me go, do I like the person? I do
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  Speaker 3: this all the time in my life. Oh, I would
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  Speaker 3: love to invite someone to come hang with my friends
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  Speaker 3: if we're out, But I'm like, do I like them
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  Speaker 3: enough to give that part of my life to them?
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  Speaker 3: That's hard too, That's a that's taking responsibility from me,
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  Speaker 3: you know, like I back away from a lot of
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  Speaker 3: like really nice people that I go. It wouldn't be
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  Speaker 3: fair of me to because when I was younger, I
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  Speaker 3: didn't really care, you know, hang with my friends, meet
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  Speaker 3: my parents.
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  Speaker 1: Who cares? They don't care because I.
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  Speaker 3: Didn't deal with what women have to deal with a lot, right,
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  Speaker 3: I didn't have to deal with like what happened to
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  Speaker 3: them and did they end it with you?
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  Speaker 1: And so the societal stuff. Ok of like the pressure.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of women feel that, like you're a failure
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  Speaker 3: if it doesn't work out with the person you brought
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  Speaker 3: home to your friends and family.
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  Speaker 1: I do understand that's a different game.
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  Speaker 2: Well, it's a lot of pressure because I think especially
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  Speaker 2: for women who start getting older, of course they want
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  Speaker 2: it to work out. And there's that whole thing. If
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  Speaker 2: I'm still single at thirty, like I'm going to marry
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  Speaker 2: my best friend. That's our deal. So to come home
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  Speaker 2: again and again to be like, oh, it didn't work
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  Speaker 2: out with this one, it didn't work out with that one.
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  Speaker 2: I think that we are programmed to think that others
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  Speaker 2: are going, what's wrong with you? That none of this
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  Speaker 2: is working now.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, I don't envy it.
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  Speaker 3: I only started feeling what's wrong with you, like the
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  Speaker 3: last couple of months, Like I'm forty. When you turn forty,
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  Speaker 3: I think men get that, like forty, never marry, no kids.
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  Speaker 1: I think that becomes more, but never like it is
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  Speaker 1: for women. I mean, like I anyone have a.
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  Speaker 2: Biological clock as well for women where it's like I'm
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  Speaker 2: in my thirties.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's all shit I don't have to deal with, right,
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  Speaker 3: But also that's like sewn into the fabric of society.
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  Speaker 3: Like it's stuff that like I don't envy you know,
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  Speaker 3: Like but if anyone this is where like the online
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  Speaker 3: voice for men is so gross because they never seem
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  Speaker 3: to acknowledge that, like it's a different battle for women,
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  Speaker 3: Like all those guys that are like pieces of shit
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  Speaker 3: online that like right give like hot takes on dating.
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  Speaker 3: They all just kind of have this like they never
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  Speaker 3: really acknowledge that, like the pressures are different on the
• 14:55
  Speaker 3: other side, they're way different, right I And that's something
• 14:59
  Speaker 3: that like I fully acknowledged.
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: That's like I've you know.
• 15:03
  Speaker 3: But also that's why like the messaging that I you know,
• 15:07
  Speaker 3: or my perspective, I try to let people know, like, yeah,
• 15:10
  Speaker 3: that doesn't matter.
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: To me as much as it does to you. Okay,
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: Like that's good to know.
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: Like what's that the age range of women who are
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: reaching out to you?
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: Oh, we get you know, it's weirdly getting wider.
• 15:22
  Speaker 3: Because there's so many women in their you know, fifties
• 15:25
  Speaker 3: and sixties who are like getting single now and people
• 15:30
  Speaker 3: in there in that age group who have never dated
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: with the internet and now they're like single. So we're
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: getting that. But you know, mostly twenty we were like
• 15:39
  Speaker 3: a twenty seven to like you know, if I'm to
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: give it a ten year at twenty seven to thirty seven,
• 15:44
  Speaker 3: but like again I'm forty, there's people around my age
• 15:47
  Speaker 3: who look that reach out and we have I mean
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: it's really just mostly women. Well yeah, but I love
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: when men listen too, because like, of course, like I'm
• 15:56
  Speaker 3: not like, you know, I do stand up. I go
• 15:58
  Speaker 3: around the country. When I first started doing stand up
• 16:01
  Speaker 3: or started going on the road, I've been doing stand
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: up for fifteen years. And then I, you know, kind
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: of like stumbled upon I wanted to do a podcast,
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: and then I like basically was like, hey, and here's
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: my email, email in and all the email questions were
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: from men looking for dating advice, but all the male
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: dating advice was.
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: Like this, chick, how do I fuck? And it was like.
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: Very like, so, do you think men think with their
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: dick more so than like anything else?
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: Yes, and no I do.
• 16:32
  Speaker 3: But I'm I'm saying at the time, there was like
• 16:34
  Speaker 3: a young group of men listening because you were because.
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: I was twenty seven when I started.
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: You were young.
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: Started doing the podcast, and then when women started listening
• 16:42
  Speaker 3: to podcasts, I started getting all these emails from women,
• 16:45
  Speaker 3: and that's when the show got interesting. And then you
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: up started with Betches and we did the male female counterpoint.
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: You know, I do the show with Jordana Abraham. She
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: started Betches with her, you know, with Sammy and Aleen.
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: They're you know, three friends that went to college together.
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: So like I've been kind of so we have had
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: this podcast like the last seven years, and it's it's
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: just very like and now you have people that listen
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: with their spouses, that listen with their boyfriend them and
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: that I always know the couples like good because like
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: we're talking about things, like we're bringing up subjects live.
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: We tape, no, we tape, but like it's Wednesday and Friday, but.
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: The couples are calling in. You're not answering questions from
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: a video that they said.
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: We got emails, mostly emails. We've got voicemails in the past.
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: We just had a couple on our Benefits episode come
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: on to have a fight where.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: We were like judge Jay and Jay where we.
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: Played like couples court and they had a dispute like
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: an argument about like he had a friend that was
• 17:43
  Speaker 3: reaching out to go to the zoo together, and we
• 17:46
  Speaker 3: like talked it out. It was really fun and it
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: was like really like really good, Like maybe.
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: Told m to not go to the zoo. Did he
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: do it?
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: He wasn't going, but they like he couldn't understand why
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: she was upset that he would go to the zoo with.
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: A female friend.
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and how why the zoo was like such a
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: sticking point.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: So it was all it's a good conversation.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: But I did like that guy and her like they've
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: been together like three years, you know, like and they're.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: Calling it what zoo did they go to? Dear mind?
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: He was in Amsterdam, I think because they were from Amsterdam. Okay, yeah,
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: they've been to my show in Amsterdam.
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: So she was upset that he reached was going to
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: go to the zoo with That's a little weird to
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: me too.
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: It is weird.
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: They acknowledged it like they were way more again, like
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: they were way more cool. Like this sounds like he's
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: going to the zoo to fuck this woman, you know,
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: but it's not.
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: It wasn't like that at all. Like it was.
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: Actually like I did understand his perspective. It turns out
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: the friend there's a deeper thing going on there, like
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: where the friend is kind of having issues in their
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: life and he was kind of being he kind of
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: felt like he was helping them by being a friend
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: of them. So like it was like that stuff was
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: working and it was just interesting.
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: What's like the most intense message that you've gotten where
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: you're like, I don't think that I could help you
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: with this.
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: I those are the hard ones because you're like, I'm
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: no therapist, I have no y.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: I try to say it to.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: You, I'm like, well, I have to imagine that people
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: do kind of look at you as a therapist when
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: they come to you.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: Well, I always say they should go.
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: We try to, you know, you try to push people
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: like get a professor, because professional can give you the
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: tools like to get through these things.
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: Like I can't do that.
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: I can just give an opinion, like I'm not gonna like,
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: you know, I'm there to have fun with the subject, right,
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: so when it gets into.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: That territory, it's hard for us to even do it.
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: I I kind of like you stick to like breaking
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: down the dms and you keep it light and you
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: just stay in your male perspective.
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: And also like yeah, and also telling people like hey,
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: this is like sometimes people write in about this like
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: story they think is not that serious, and you're like, eh,
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: this is serious, right. I think those are like sometimes
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: like even just hearing like that from someone who's not
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: your friend, Like you know, I think people why to
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: people write into a podcast. They go, we the beauty
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: of giving advice on a podcast. I don't have to
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: make eye contact with the person.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, your friends.
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: When your friends give you advice, they soften, you know,
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: they and they also give advice from the perspective.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: Of knowing you from high school when you were La
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: La B. You know, like you know, like that's a
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: different you.
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: And then you don't trust the advice because you go, well,
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: you're just saying that's a La La B.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: You don't know me now.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: So when I get an email, I'm reading what they
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: wrote to me.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it.
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: And I also, like, you know, I like reading the
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: emails because the answers are sometimes in them, you know,
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: the things people point out to us, it says a
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: lot about them.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: Sometimes you can tell someone's trying to like get you
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: on their side before they've even asked a question, and
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: like I can see it in the email. I'm like,
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: you don't have to fucking make yourself a victim to me,
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: right right? And oh, they dump me on a Tuesday?
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: Can you believe it was a Tuesday? I get that,
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: you know, they describe the dump and I'm like, yeah,
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: you were dumped, okay, move on, right, But you see
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: that in emails because when you go a brunch with
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: your friends and you're like, and it was six weeks
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: after my birthday and your friend goes, oh my god.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: We love to right, we love to rub each other up.
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: You do, And that's okay. I get the fun in that,
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: But like when I see that, I have to be
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: the person that's like no one because the fuck.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: Right, you know, like six weeks ago, okay, move on.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: Move on my birthday.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: You didn't make me take your side more.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: He can still be a dick without it being your
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: birthday six weeks ago.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: I think that's the other thing that's really hard is
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: just because someone breaks up with you. Like, I've never
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: understood why people fixate on like how the person broke
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: up with them. I'm totally fine with an email, post
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: it note, text message in person. In fact, i'd actually
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: rather you send me a text because I don't want
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: to fucking see you after.
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: Well, that goes to the societal stuff. I'm starting to
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: up I because it's like they're trying to show you.
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: I think a lot of people want to vilify the
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: other person for ending it so that they're not seen
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: as the loser that they were. You know, when you're
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: dumped and your friends are getting married. You don't want
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: to be the scene as the person who fucked up
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: a relationship, so they need a reason why And okay,
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: why did you break up?
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: Well, he ca can you believe this type of person?
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: He broke up with me at my house at three
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: o'clock on a Tuesday?
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: Can you even believe?
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: And they're trying to build them up as like this
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: villain so that you go, you have no more questions,
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: You don't question if it was them at all. You
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: know that's kind of the move.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: And how do you feel about ghosting?
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: I'm against it. I don't think that's I think it's rude.
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: I mean I've ghosted. I don't I'm not proud of it,
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: like right like. And also think the problem with ghosting
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: is that the definition has become so vague that no
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: one even again. You just said, send me a text.
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: Some people go, don't text me at all. We've been
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: on one day. Why would you dump me?
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Some people go, I was ghosted. We went on
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: one day. You never text it again. So it gets confusing,
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: you know, right and wrong.
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: The minute we give names and we make everything a
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: victim plea is the minute we don't know what to
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: do so, like, listen, I have we kind of like
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: on our show the ghosting thing, where like if someone
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: is asking you to go on a date again and
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: you are going away, like maybe you should say, hey,
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: this Isn't you have.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: To send an uncomfortable text?
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I no one text you asking for that day,
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: Like maybe there's no reason to send that text.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: No. I think ghosting is for me when I've been ghosted,
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: it's like we were straight fucking kicking it. We were dating,
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: you were around my friend, you were we were in
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: each other's beds, and then you just fall off the
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: face of the earth like that as well, right, Like
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: there's a little more at stake, right if you're just
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: texting dming and then they just never respond.
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: I just this is why words matter, you know, Like
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: because people talk about I got ghosted on the dating app.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: Then they've with someone they've never met and they spoke
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: to No.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: I don't call it, but I'm saying.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: People do, so I'm with you.
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: To me, ghosting is someone had sex with you and
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: then they never spoke to you again, even and especially
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: when you try to speak to them and say hey,
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: where you've been and they don't answer.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: Like you had.
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: It takes two to be ghosted, right, you know, like
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: if you just wait for someone to text you and
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: they don't do it.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Were you ghosted or did you?
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: Were you afraid of getting an answer and both people
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: became afraid and one person became afraid to text you
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: and you became afraid to ask for an answer.
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: Honestly, I just think that people are terrified of the
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: word like forever. Right, people are so much everything is
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: so accessible. You're swiping right, you can literally change your location.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: You can have a one night stand in a matter
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: have that connected in a matter of seconds, right, Like
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: people are too accessible now where I think men are
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: more guilty of this than women. I think women crave
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: companionship and family and stability more so than men, And
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: I think that's why you probably get a plethora of
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: messages because it's very, very hard to get inside the
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: mind of a dude.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: I agree with what you're saying.
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: I think also on that subject, like men don't want commitment, well,
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: I think it's also where does that fear come from?
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: The way you are judged as a man is like
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: can you provide do you have the ability?
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: You know? Are you going to be.
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: There for that family, Like, are you like all those things,
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: all those life things that come up, Someone is now
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: your responsibility. Yeah, when a man, when I fail on
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: my own, I can fail in the dark, I can
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: fail in quiet. Yeah, I do feel in me the
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: fear of like failing and telling someone that has now
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: made my pursuits theirs as well when you're in a partnership,
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: Like that's really hard to like, I can't imagine, you know,
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: sharing those failures with someone. I think that's really hard
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: to do because you know, when you're three months in
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: with someone, you can kind of fake it your all potential, right,
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: you know. And I think that's a very male thing
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: to me, Like I feel it, like and I think
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: when I've dated someone, their lack of fear of like
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: let's just be in a relationship and see what happens
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: is like crazy to be. Yeah, like there's no thought
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: of like like they're just like, yeah, of course, I'm right.
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: Every woman has been every woman I've ever dated has
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: been ready to be you know, settled down since twenty two.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: You know, I'm just saying like that generally, and you go,
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: you have no fear of this, You've never thought twice,
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: you know, and then it's funny because now you get
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: and now I'm at the age where you start hearing
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: from the people who settle down quickly that.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: Go, ah, you know, we never you know, maybe that
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: was you know, like.
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: The second guest, the third party is coming in out
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: a marriage.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: That's extreme. That's what people like to hear.
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: I don't know they like to hear about that, But
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: I don't know how much that's happening.
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: At least, I'm not getting a lot of offers to
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: be the third you know.
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: I think it's more women, right, Like I only like men,
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: Like I've hooked up with chicks. But if I were
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: in a marriage, there's no way that I would want
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: a second dude.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: Oh why I'm saying dude on the side, that's what
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: I would more like open marriages, like I you hear
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: about all these things, lots you hear about all these things.
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: I think there they take up space in the room.
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: Like I was thinking more like, well he doesn't care,
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: come with me, you know, you go, that's not really happening,
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: like you know, like like swinging. Yeah, like you hear,
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: I think it's taking up space in the room where
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: it's not really deserved. I think like this whole like
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: like it's like we had this whole thing in we
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: did our you podcast on the road, so we went
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: and did a dating show. Yeah, we did a dating
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: show on the road. Fifty city or fifty twenty something cities.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: Everywhere was bad, the worst dating place. Everyone's claimed their
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: city was the worst for dating, which means there's no
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: good city for dating.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: Okay, there's nobody.
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: You say, though, really quickly, what would you say is
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: the hardest city to date in?
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: They all have their different problems, Okay.
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: Like like New York, there was like disposability, there's always
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: another you could swipe and never run out of people.
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: Totally San Francisco. The women in San Francisco had a
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: saying the goods are odd, but the odds are good,
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: meaning there's a lot of men, yeah, but they are weird.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: They're like tech bro coder types. So that was their issue,
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: is that you're dealing with a lot of people on
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: the spectrum and you know or that was like the
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: Silicon Valley area, you know that area of the country. LA.
• 29:35
  Speaker 3: The problem was that Peter Peter Pans and the pursuit
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: is something else that was major city stuff. They're pursuing
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: something else but a relationship. You know here when people
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: in La everyone's got dreams that are bigger than and
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: different than family and.
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: Settling down, so that takes priorities.
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: So yeah, But the one thing that I noticed in
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: San Francisco was like E and M, ethical non monogamy
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: was like a big thing that they had an issue with.
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: And it's funny, like a subject like that you hear
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: about ethical non monogamy because it's like if you're in
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: a liberal leaning city, like ethical non monogamy, and it
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: was just like weird. It was funny to see the
• 30:19
  Speaker 3: predicament of a very liberal crowd in San Francisco have
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: this issue.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: They were like I don't fucking want that. I want
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: a boyfriend.
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: But these guys would put this like liberal kind of
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: wall up because you couldn't be like against someone's lifestyle.
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: But it was like, ethical nominogamy is a thing, but
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: it's a thing for there are less people doing it
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: than you would think, like that are.
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: Able to do it.
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: To say you're on a dating app looking for ethical nominogamy,
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: like that can happen, so you have to acknowledge it.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: But it's not happening as much as people are just.
• 30:51
  Speaker 3: Using that so they don't get blamed for when you
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: guys break up and you know, it makes you half
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: a boyfriend's instead of a full boyfriend.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: It's all like bullshit. It's just the fuckery of dudes,
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: you know.
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: Like it's like and I look at it a nice
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: smile because I don't give a fuck, right Like, I'm
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: not that I don't. I don't not give a fuck,
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: But I'm not like, I'm not sold that this is
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: some high minded individual.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: I think this is just a new word you've given
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: to I want to fuck a bunch of people, you know,
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: so I so I laugh at it because and it's like.
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: A lot of these like swingers and this, it's all
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: stuff people bring up that avoids diet and exercise, that
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: avoids the reality of dating is really very normal, and
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: it's hard and you're looking for someone, and those aren't
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: your problems, you know, the problems aren't everyone's swinging.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: I I think that everyone's swinging. I think a lot
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: of people more more people are cheating than not cheating.
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: And I think that health.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: More people are cheating than not cheating.
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: Yes, I think most peopleship want me. I've never cheated before.
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: Know what I'm saying is that your problem in dating
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: right now?
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: You know, I would have a really really hard time
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: being committed to someone because I don't know that I
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: could wholeheartedly I believe that they weren't fucking around on me.
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: I would hope, I think we all would hope that
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: you meet someone that makes you feel so good and
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: safe that that won't be the reality. I can understand
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: from the outside looking in. Listen, I'm cynical about dating too.
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: I would hope that the person that I end up
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: with that's not even.
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: Like a thought a thought in your mind.
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I would hope, But I understand what you're saying.
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: A lifetime is a really long time together.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: Listen. I am not I am not naive.
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: I am That's why this iszar and there's good times
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: and bad times and all those things. But if you're
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: going into dating being like I'll never trust anyone, and
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: you probably won't.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: Let's put it this way. If I were dating somebody
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: and I trusted him and we were solid and we
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: had a beautiful relationship, and someone came to me and said, law,
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: I really need to tell you something I have been
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: hearing that he's doing this behind your back. Sure I
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: wouldn't defend him. I would say that, but that's.
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: Different than what you said. I listen, I'm with you.
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: If someone said that to me about my brother, I go,
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: I'll take that into account and now I'm gonna have
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: a talk. Yeah, that sucks, But like if you're living,
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: if you're going into dating expecting that to happen with everybody,
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: like I think you're.
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: Probably going to expect it. At some point. People who
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: have been married for twenty five years are now coming
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: forward being like I just found out that he's fucking around.
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: I'm with you, But anything can happen.
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: That's very like any like you know, a huge fire
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: can come over Los Angeles and take out half the homes,
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: and that's.
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: What I'm saying.
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: So so like if you said that your whole life
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: and then it happened, you go, you go around going, well,
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: I was right, Well you didn't really live life.
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: I fully agree with.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: You, you know what I mean.
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: So it kind of to bring it back to dating
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: and not to like not to use someone's pain that
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: people are like currently going through to make a point.
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: But like if you're going into dating like, well, it's
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: gonna be there's gonna be cheating, Like I like, I
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: think you're fucked Like I I, I don't think you're
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: gonna like be in love.
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: I don't think you're gonna you gotta let go like
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: that stuff is like I don't know, I I you know,
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: and I have that. I have my own version of that.
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: Like, you know, if I go into a relayship thinking like, oh,
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna get bored of any relationship, of course you.
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: Bring the third party, that's right, see, but that's healthy.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: I feel like if you're in a marriage and you're like, oh,
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: we got together at like you know, twenty five, because
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: that's young depending on where you live. We've been together
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: a long fucking time, and I know I want to
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: be with them forever, but like it's a little stuffy.
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: How do we spice it up while still you know,
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: you always I don't know, porn, nipple, yeah, do that
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: whole thing, do.
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: Some weird shit together? I don't know.
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: These are the questions that I would probably call you with,
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: as you.
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: Can listen, I've given that.
• 35:35
  Speaker 3: I've always thought I've always had this great idea that
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: there should be a monthly check in with relationships where
• 35:42
  Speaker 3: every month you sit, you have a date night, you
• 35:44
  Speaker 3: have a dinner, yeah, and then you write on a
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: letter something that you've like. It was like I think
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: it was. I gave this idea a long time. I'm
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: always going to get creative. I'm always going to get creative.
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: I have the right, I have the ability to because
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: I'm not in it. When you're in it, you kind
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: of get less creative because there's someone else there and
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: you know them and you're like, I can't. But I
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: always thought it was a good idea to write three
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: things on a card, something something that made you happy
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: about them, something that really made you happy this month,
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: something that really annoyed you this month, and something you'd
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: like to try together, and you put it on a
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: card and then you slide across the table and they
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: slide theres across the table and you fill it out
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: and then you trade them and then you have this
• 36:26
  Speaker 3: like nice dinner where you're getting a little fucked up
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: and or you have your dinner whatever.
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: And I think that's like a very sweet thing.
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: Again, I'm saying that while alone, single, not in relayship,
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: I you know someone might look at me and go,
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: that's never gonna happen. Maybe you do it once a year.
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: I don't know, it'd be a sexy night. Wouldn't be
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: sexy and exciting for a relationship. You're twenty five years in,
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: you get that card and they're like, yeah, I want
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: you to like, you know, put the nipple clamps on
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: to night and they're in the in the fucking back
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: seat of the car, Like that'd be fucking.
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: Cool or cool? Right?
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: So, And you know, you really made me angry when
• 37:00
  Speaker 3: you did this, and I never told you that, and
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: I'm happy I'm getting the release to do it now.
• 37:05
  Speaker 3: And it really turned me on when you did this,
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: and I never would have told you that.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: And you should create a game.
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: I think it's a well listen, it's just a card.
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: It's a piece of paper.
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: No, you should make money off.
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: Of right, Well, listen, if you do that, send me
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: money or come to my show.
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: I have I do stand up. This isn't I'm not
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: being very funny now, but I know, but let's.
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: Talk about your stand up. Where are you next?
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: When does this come out? I'm in Braya this weekend,
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: so I'm doing shows in Bray.
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: Was that in California.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: How do you not know that? I don't know any
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: It's an hour away from here. That's why I'm here.
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: Oh, that's why you're in town.
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: Well, we did some other podcasts for the U up
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: to like promote the U Up.
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: I'm here to promote the U podcast and.
• 37:44
  Speaker 3: Then I'm in Braya this weekend, so I'm like an
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: hour away and then I go back to Delray Beach
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: on Sunday night.
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: No, I don't know what a surfer.
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: It looks like not like me.
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: But you know you live in Florida now, No, this is.
• 38:02
  Speaker 3: More like lay on the beach and complain about my
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: body beach, not like surf beach.
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what we do in Florida.
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: Everyone's getting eaten and by sharks in Florida right now.
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: So you're the second person to tell me this. I
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: haven't heard a watch shark. I haven't seen one shark.
• 38:15
  Speaker 3: I go in the ocean every day. I'm there every day.
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: Just a matter of time. Well, this is where we
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: see you.
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: I'll send it your love.
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: Well, let me just tell you, because I am actually
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: concerned about it. What you're supposed to do.
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: Punch it in the nose. That's what they say.
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: You're not supposed to swim away from it at all,
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: so you keep your feet planted. You look like a
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: big guy. Punch it right in the night.
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: I am not going to do anything. I'm gonna scream.
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: If you ever saw me with seaweed, you'd be like,
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: like I touched seweed. I'm like, I'm the worst.
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: No, you're getting eaten, there's no.
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: Way, and you're breaking off soon. Florida is going bye bye,
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: so you know what you're.
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: Getting as it floats away.
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we can only hope that you're not there. When
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: it happens, we'll see I'm not there a lot.
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: I'd love to I can't wait to go back. I
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: really liked being in Delray Beach. I'm like, I'm just.
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: Like enjoying because New York it's so hard to do
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: anything right. When you're living in New York. It's like
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: I would have shows at night, and it's like if
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: you want to, like go to a beach in New York,
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: it's like far planned for six months, Like it's far.
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: There's like the Rockaways, but like even that, it's just
• 39:27
  Speaker 3: everything is exhausting. Like I love living in New York.
• 39:29
  Speaker 3: Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those like
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: hate on it because I left.
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: Like I love New York City. It's just a different lifestyle.
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: Do you have you started dating in Florida.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: I've gone on some dates in Florida.
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: Do you talk about them? On the Uup podcast.
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: I talk about my dating life. I try to.
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: I don't talk about people specifically. I try to be
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: as classy as I can be. But I mean, if
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: anyone's ever gone on a day with me, I'd assume
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: they know what I do.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: And I've talked about what I do, and.
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: I try to be but like, and I do understand
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: like if I talk about a date just hypothetically or
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: in general, and I can understand someone being like like
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: hearing that and going, oh my god, what are they
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: gonna say? Because I'm being honest. But like I've I've
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: never felt the need to like make someone else look
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: you feel bad.
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: That's okay, That's not my goal. It's for me to relate.
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: I want people to like like, like, I can say
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: that the dates that I've been on in Florida. It's
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: the difference is driving. I think driving puts a pressure
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: on a date that I never really thought it would.
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: That's something I feel in my body and my soul
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: is no I know how to drive driven my whole life.
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: It's just the idea that like, this is an important
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: thing I'm going to.
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: I'm going New York.
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: You walk to the date, you go into a bar,
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: you walk home. It's just I don't know. I think
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: it's just one of those things that makes it feel
• 40:58
  Speaker 3: different for me. It feels like it's like we are
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: heading to an event. And also, I think in New York,
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: La is similar. Everyone's trying to chase something. Everyone's looking
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: to do something. You don't go to LA or New
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: York to not do something right.
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: We came to chase the dream.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: Ye dream or career or just a hustle.
• 41:25
  Speaker 3: I think when you're in Florida, and this isn't even
• 41:28
  Speaker 3: just dating, just the people you meet. Everyone's got a story,
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: everyone's done something, everyone's been somewhere. Everyone's got how they
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: ended up in Florida. That's their story, not what they're
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: gonna do, it's where they've been. So that's a difference.
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: The mindset is different.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: So it's like you go on a date in Florida, it's.
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: Like, well, I was dating this person. I lived with
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: them there. I did you know I used to work here.
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: I moved here because it's all those stories right New York.
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: The stories are different. I'm here to do this.
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: That feels like very sex in the city to me.
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: Like when I picture people dating in New York, it
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: literally I can only picture sex in the city or girls.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: Well that show that show nailed.
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: It, Sex and the City or girls Sex and the City.
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: I know that show nailed it. Like they there's so
• 42:17
  Speaker 3: many things that I talked about. They are like, that's
• 42:19
  Speaker 3: sex and the City was like I had no idea,
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: but they nailed it.
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because you talking about like walking to the date,
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: going into a bar, leaving and walking home like it
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: just sounds very I lived in the West Village. Yeah,
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: way less pressure. You're right, like the whole car situation,
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: and that adds another level of pressure. I think for
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: a dude, because it's like I have to pick her up.
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: I can't her to uber like that's gonna be a
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: red mark. If someone not for me, I would actually
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: prefer to driver uber Like I'm not trying to have you.
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: I'd rather be the date that's me. But listen, this whole.
• 42:56
  Speaker 3: Like a lot of people look for rules so that
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: they don't have to have their own opinion.
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: I just I meet there, meet me there at eight,
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: meet me there at six.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: Also understand that the girls, we all like to talk.
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: We asked the details. Did he pick you up? Now
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: you have the pressure of no, he had me uber?
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: Ew he had you uber? What you We didn't think
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: that that was a big deal. I didn't think that
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: was a big deal. But now they're putting it in
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: my head that that's fucking lame. But I'm not concerned
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: with that, right and I am.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: Dating is a different beast for women.
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: And if a guy doesn't acknowledge that he's trying to
• 43:37
  Speaker 3: beat you in a conversation, he's a real piece of shit.
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: To me.
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if you can't acknowledge that we're If you can't acknowledge,
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: it's different.
• 43:46
  Speaker 3: And because you have all these like sad boys, I
• 43:49
  Speaker 3: don't know. I hate to acknowledge like online people, but
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: like you see it online, like the comments are like
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: I put up like my special.
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: I have a special on Netflix.
• 43:59
  Speaker 3: It's a thirty seven in single and it's there's a
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: part where I talk about the ick. I started talking
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: about the ick in twenty twenty one. Yeah, and I
• 44:07
  Speaker 3: was like it was because a friend of mine. She
• 44:09
  Speaker 3: was like she wouldn't fuck a guy who wore khakis.
• 44:12
  Speaker 3: And I was like, that was it khakis? That's why
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: you're out. And she's like, yeah, it's like one thing
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: and you're out. And then I was like, oh, that's crazy.
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: I was like I would never have that. And then
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: so then I started asking people on the road what's
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: the one thing? And then I found out the ick
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: from Love Island, UK. They were saying that and I
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: was like, oh, I'll use that and I was like,
• 44:30
  Speaker 3: does anyone have like an ick? And like people, I
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: was like, it's one thing where you were like I'm done.
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: So I went around the country collecting ix and you know,
• 44:38
  Speaker 3: so I had the bit. The bit had the beginning
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: and an end and in the middle. It was a
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: fun way to like interact with the crowd.
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: I love that, so I kept doing it. I started
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: collecting them.
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: So on the special like I talk about like these
• 44:49
  Speaker 3: very specific ones that I heard on the road, but
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: also my perspective of like I have no relation to it,
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: Like there isn't one thing a woman could do to
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: make me, not like want to fuck her, you know,
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: Like so that's the whole bit.
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: But you know, I forgot why we were talking about this.
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: Just women the way women think and men acknowledging like different.
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: Right the comments for men being like, yeah, these losers
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: would be like any woman who wouldn't have sex with
• 45:21
  Speaker 3: you for sitting crisscross apple sauce, this.
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: Is real, is a real uh elitist you know they
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: do all. You know, it's a real you know, shallow person.
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: Any all, you won't have sex with me because I
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: have a you know, anyone who would get the ick
• 45:37
  Speaker 3: from a velkral wall is a shallow person. I'm like, no,
• 45:41
  Speaker 3: you're not acknowledging that when women go on dates, they
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: don't have to be attracted to you, Like the ick
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: comes from giving chance after chance for someone that checks
• 45:53
  Speaker 3: a lot of boxes for you, and then they do
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: the one thing that they're like, I'm I'm out. And that's
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: a funny predict because I don't go on a day
• 46:02
  Speaker 3: with a woman that I'm not attracted to.
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: That's just my penis won't let me leave the house.
• 46:07
  Speaker 3: Oh, it's just the way it is, you know, I mean,
• 46:10
  Speaker 3: like you said, do men think with their dick in
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: for dating to go on the day with you.
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, my penis is a very strong dictator.
• 46:19
  Speaker 3: You cannot leave the house unless my penis wants to
• 46:22
  Speaker 3: leave the house. But that's also that's good and that's bad.
• 46:26
  Speaker 3: It's good because you're on a day with a guy
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: you know is attracted you.
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: It's bad because that might be the only reason I'm
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: on the day with you.
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: Right, And then you go at the back alley dating happening, right.
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: And now they're trying to fuck. But like then then
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: you're on the date.
• 46:39
  Speaker 3: Being like, well, you know, they they seem to have
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: friends and they have a good job, and my friends said,
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: they really are cool, but it takes a minute for
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: them to open up.
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: And now you're three dates in with someone you've hated.
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: Can I tell you a funny meme I saw?
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: Sure.
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: It says these girls won't date a man because he
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: lives with his mom, but they'll date a man that
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: lives with his wife.
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: It seems pretty on part of me not saying all
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: women are like that, but we just have we're complex creatures.
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: I feel like the men are very simple, yeah, and
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: we are very.
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: Complex, am I attracted, so I go.
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: So that's like when those guys are saying your shallow,
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: it's like, no, you're not acknowledging. Like, no one's saying
• 47:24
  Speaker 3: you that a guy who he has a Alkir wallet.
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: Shouldn't be fucked.
• 47:29
  Speaker 3: We're saying that this woman didn't want to fuck a
• 47:32
  Speaker 3: guy who had an Alkir walt.
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: One woman's is another woman's husband.
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: Totally.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: That's like, that's what makes a bit fun, That's what
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: makes X fun.
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: Like, you guys do have it easier, though.
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: I'm not trying to. I'm not trying to.
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: You know, we have to step in with all of
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: these things happening, and you guys get to step in
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: and kind of just like yam who I am, and
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: we have to just accept it. Whereas like we go
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: through this constant it's like you have to be independent,
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: but you have to make me feel like you're actually
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: that I'm taking care of you. You need to have
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: a full time hustle, but like, come home, take care
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: of these kids.
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: You need a full time hustle and cook and clean.
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: That's kind of kind of nineteen fifties.
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: You would think we evolved, but we haven't. And by
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: the way, if you don't feel this way like congratulations,
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: like I would listen to.
• 48:22
  Speaker 3: No, I mean, like listen, there's pros and cons to everything.
• 48:25
  Speaker 3: I'm not trying to, you know, compare plights. I don't
• 48:28
  Speaker 3: think that's helpful. I acknowledge. Yeah, it's a different game
• 48:33
  Speaker 3: you're playing. You know, this is chest and checkers.
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: I'm going to call in with my next DM.
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: Please and do it right now. Tell you whether.
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: I'm already sitting day five.
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: I want five.
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: I want to see dat five shitting bricks.
• 48:50
  Speaker 3: This guy who plays for you know, he's got training
• 48:53
  Speaker 3: camp right now. I don't know what type of sport Hockey, no, baseball.
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: No, I'm not telling you any skateboarding. Where can people
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: find you before we sign off at.
• 49:05
  Speaker 3: Jared Freed on Instagram Wizard of ha on TikTok if
• 49:10
  Speaker 3: you search, Yeah, I was given the nickname the Wizard
• 49:13
  Speaker 3: of Hawes and it's become I give to say it
• 49:17
  Speaker 3: all the time.
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: I like it.
• 49:19
  Speaker 3: Jared Freed on Everything, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok is Wizard of
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: hop But if you search Jared Freed, I come up
• 49:26
  Speaker 3: and I'm on the road. Okay, so all over this
• 49:29
  Speaker 3: country I'm doing a so my specials out on Netflix
• 49:33
  Speaker 3: thirty seven.
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: In a single.
• 49:35
  Speaker 3: I have a new special I just taped in December
• 49:38
  Speaker 3: that is an hour story about going to the beach
• 49:39
  Speaker 3: with my parents.
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: Amazing.
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: I hope that's going to be on a streamer. We'll see, Okay.
• 49:45
  Speaker 3: And now I'm touring a new hour that I've been
• 49:48
  Speaker 3: working on since December and it's getting better. That's not
• 49:51
  Speaker 3: there yet, but it's getting better. And it's about going
• 49:54
  Speaker 3: to Europe alone and being forty in single, it's I'm
• 49:59
  Speaker 3: talking more about dating because that's what's going on in
• 50:01
  Speaker 3: my life and how much I hated going to Europe
• 50:04
  Speaker 3: alone and I didn't fuck one woman.
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: Uh so my sad ten day alone journey.
• 50:13
  Speaker 3: So it's called the Table for One Tour and I
• 50:17
  Speaker 3: think it's a very fun hour.
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: It sounds amazing.
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just like my parents are like, why would
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: you go to Europe alone? That was like the first question.
• 50:24
  Speaker 3: I'm like, you get went down, that didn't do anything.
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: So that's the stand up.
• 50:32
  Speaker 3: And when I do stand up, it's for the whole room,
• 50:34
  Speaker 3: Like I want everyone to have funk, so like I'm
• 50:38
  Speaker 3: not there to like fuck with you. It's just a
• 50:40
  Speaker 3: fun show and bring your friends. I always tell people
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: bring their friends because.
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: And your parents.
• 50:44
  Speaker 3: You can bring your parents great. I love when people
• 50:46
  Speaker 3: bring their parents to my shows.
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: And uh, the U podcast.
• 50:51
  Speaker 3: I think everyone listening to this show would get value
• 50:55
  Speaker 3: from subscribing to the UP podcast, whether that be on
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  Speaker 3: YouTube or any podcast app.
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: We're really good at what we do, so.
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: I think I'm obsessed with anything that beches does.
• 51:06
  Speaker 3: So Betches is the best I you know, listen, that's Uh.
• 51:09
  Speaker 3: That's been the greatest pleasure of my life is working
• 51:12
  Speaker 3: with Betches and being able to like be with, like,
• 51:16
  Speaker 3: you know, three friends that I've gotten to watch their
• 51:19
  Speaker 3: careers grow and they've been a part of making my
• 51:22
  Speaker 3: career grow. So it's really a sweet familial thing.
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: So good. I'm very congratulations on everything that you're doing.
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: You guys, Thank you for listening to another episode of
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: the Give Them a La Podcast. I'm going to catch
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: you guys on Monday for the bonus and again next week. Bye.