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Stop Judging Yourself When Things Go Wrong · Intuitive Coaching with Amy Radio

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  Speaker 1: Hey, it's Amy with Intuitive Coaching with Amy Radio, and
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  Speaker 1: this is your sacred space for energetic alignment, spiritual growth
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  Speaker 1: and miracle level living. Let's talk about I have another
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  Speaker 1: stop show for you. Stop judging yourself when things go wrong.
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  Speaker 1: This has also been coming up a lot in session.
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  Speaker 1: People are experiencing various life upheavals.
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  Speaker 2: And it's not just that life's.
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  Speaker 1: Not going in the way they want right now, it's
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  Speaker 1: that on top of it all, they're judging themselves through
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  Speaker 1: the whole process. Right, you should have done better, like
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  Speaker 1: right like, we can be really nasty in our minds.
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  Speaker 2: So we're going to talk about that. And it's sneaky.
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  Speaker 2: It's very sneaky. The way it shows up.
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  Speaker 1: It seems like it's keeping us on track, but actually
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  Speaker 1: it's keeping us stuck. Judging ourselves when things go wrong
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  Speaker 1: doesn't serve us well. The inner voice that says I
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  Speaker 1: should have done better, I messed up. I should try
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  Speaker 1: this hard, you know, try harder. I should have not
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  Speaker 1: said that, I should have shown up sooner. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: good enough. I mean, you know, the truth is we've
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  Speaker 1: all been there on some level. But I'm talking about
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  Speaker 1: the people who let it hang out and just kind
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  Speaker 1: of taint all the good that they're doing. I was
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  Speaker 1: speaking to a woman this weekend who it reached out
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  Speaker 1: to me and she wanted to really talk, and so
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  Speaker 1: I said, sure, you know, I had some time.
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  Speaker 2: And so.
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  Speaker 1: All I heard was her self judgment and her self
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  Speaker 1: criticism as I tuned into her psychically, and so I
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  Speaker 1: had to even stop and I say, well, tell me, really,
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  Speaker 1: what's going on? What is the state of your situation?
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  Speaker 1: And it was actually very blessed and very prosperous, but
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  Speaker 1: it was her as she's moving through this shift and change.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, things are where she wants them to be.
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  Speaker 1: No, but as she's moving through it, she's moving through
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  Speaker 1: it and blessing, they're showing up for left and right.
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  Speaker 2: But during the whole and I've been there.
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  Speaker 1: Where she's just criticizing herself and telling herself she's wrong
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  Speaker 1: and bad and she should have done this differently, and
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  Speaker 1: that creates this low level constant anxiety that just follows
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  Speaker 1: you around where you can't do anything right. When you're
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  Speaker 1: in that space, it's not fun. It's not fun. And
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  Speaker 1: I've been there, so I get that it happens. When
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  Speaker 1: you beat yourself up, you actually block yourself from receiving
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  Speaker 1: the guidance that you need. You don't see your blessings.
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  Speaker 1: Spirit is always trying to show us the way. But
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  Speaker 1: if you're in self judgment, if you're telling yourself you're
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  Speaker 1: not worthy or wrong, whatever version of that language shows
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  Speaker 1: up for you, you can't hear Spirit. You can't receive
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  Speaker 1: why because some part of you doesn't even think that
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  Speaker 1: you deserve Spirit's help even as you're praying. So I've
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  Speaker 1: said this many times on this program. Even if you've
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  Speaker 1: made a mistake, you don't have to carry that shame.
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  Speaker 1: Forgive yourself because God has already forgiven you. The moment
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  Speaker 1: you recognize that, you stop prolonging your suffering, You stop
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  Speaker 1: getting staying stuck in chaos and stress and drama and
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  Speaker 1: overwhelming Oh my God, because the truth is, God is
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  Speaker 1: so good to us. And you know, just as I
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  Speaker 1: was sharing about this woman, she had so many blessings
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  Speaker 1: that were showing up for her, so many blessings, but
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  Speaker 1: she couldn't really see them and appreciate them because she
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  Speaker 1: has this nasty little inner critic criticizing every move she makes,
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  Speaker 1: every breath she takes.
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  Speaker 2: She can't get it right. So what do you do?
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  Speaker 1: You got to start looking at your circumstances without the judgment,
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  Speaker 1: you know. So if you're a challenge, just see the
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  Speaker 1: challenge as it is. Oh, you know, my job is.
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  Speaker 2: Cut back on hours.
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  Speaker 1: It's going to make it difficult for me to hit
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  Speaker 1: my budget this month. This is happening. I accept that
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  Speaker 1: this is happening. You don't need the chatter that says,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, your whole life's going to fall apart.
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  Speaker 1: You should switch jobs. You've been working so hard, so
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  Speaker 1: you write all this stuff. You got to let that go,
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  Speaker 1: and then you've got to commit to solutions and.
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  Speaker 2: Really focus on solutions. What can I do right now
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  Speaker 2: to move forward?
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  Speaker 1: And I recorded this previously and there was some noise
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  Speaker 1: in the background, so I had to re record it.
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  Speaker 1: But one of the messages Spirit gave us i was
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  Speaker 1: recording it is not in the notes, is to take
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  Speaker 1: post its and write this question, what can I do
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  Speaker 1: right now to move forward? You may not be ready
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  Speaker 1: because of the judgment, right, you may not be ready
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  Speaker 1: to kind of take that high vibrational approach to this.
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  Speaker 1: But what I'll hope you get there is write on
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  Speaker 1: post it's three eight to four place them all over
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  Speaker 1: your life. What can I do right now to move forward?
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  Speaker 1: And just let yourself see the question over and over
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  Speaker 1: and over again, and that will start.
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  Speaker 3: To push that limiting judgy wudgie bear out of the
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  Speaker 3: focus of your mind and you'll start to give your attention.
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  Speaker 2: To what can I do right now to.
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  Speaker 1: Move myself forward and then to the best of your ability.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't think this is said enough and we
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  Speaker 1: code it in like, oh, you know, taking care of
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  Speaker 1: your nervous system. I'm not saying that's not true, but honestly,
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  Speaker 1: what it is, you just got to become and centered
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  Speaker 1: and kind to yourself. Let's throw all the spiritual language
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  Speaker 1: away right now and call it what it is. If
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  Speaker 1: you're not kind and nice to yourself in your mind,
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  Speaker 1: it's very difficult to believe that the God of all
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  Speaker 1: gods is going to be there for you. So you've
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  Speaker 1: got to find that intercom and you got to speak
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  Speaker 1: to yourself like someone you care about deeply. You've got
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  Speaker 1: to be your own ally right, and so call it,
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  Speaker 1: you know, call it regulating your nervous system, call it
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  Speaker 1: grounding yourself. I don't care about the language at this point,
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  Speaker 1: and I'll probably use all of those phrases on this show.
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  Speaker 1: At the end of the day, you got to find
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  Speaker 1: your way into calm, and you've got to be kind
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  Speaker 1: to yourself in your mind. You've got to be kind
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  Speaker 1: to yourself in your mind. And if you're really struggling
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  Speaker 1: with you know, this inner critic and you haven't been
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  Speaker 1: through therapy, then I would encourage you to seek it out.
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  Speaker 1: Call your health plan and say how do I get
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  Speaker 1: some therapy and go in and talk about this mean
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  Speaker 1: inner critic in your mind? I think I I, you know,
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  Speaker 1: spirit my spirit guds often give this recommendation.
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  Speaker 3: To people.
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  Speaker 2: Or previously.
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  Speaker 1: Now I'm practing more and more clients who've gone through therapy,
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  Speaker 1: but they'll you know, call me after and they'll be like, well, Amy,
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  Speaker 1: I just like, have you talked about that issue you
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  Speaker 1: were telling me about? No, not really talk about that issue.
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  Speaker 1: If you have a mean inner critic, talk about it.
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  Speaker 1: If you are disassociating, talk about it. You know, when
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  Speaker 1: I was suffering from a hypochondriac a hypochondria, I was
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  Speaker 1: a hypochondriac. It was when I was married and I
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  Speaker 1: was just so fed up with every little sensation in
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  Speaker 1: my body being this big drama in my mind, and
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  Speaker 1: I said spirit And I was in therapy at the
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  Speaker 1: time too. I was in therapy at the time, and
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  Speaker 1: I just it was sensing that I needed a different
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  Speaker 1: type of therapy. I've shared this before. So there was
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  Speaker 1: a time in my life where I had two therapists.
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  Speaker 1: One that was like more metaphysical, but I didn't know
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  Speaker 1: she was when I signed up with her. But we
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  Speaker 1: talked more about you know, life and energy, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: I could be very transparent about the work that I did.
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  Speaker 3: Good.
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  Speaker 2: I love those sessions.
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  Speaker 1: But then I had one hard nose, stick to the
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  Speaker 1: script cognitive behavioral therapist that helped me clear hypochondria. In
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  Speaker 1: ninety days, I have not had any moments like that
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  Speaker 1: that I used to suffer through ten years ago. And
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  Speaker 1: so I know therapy can help you if you let
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  Speaker 1: it help you. If you go in there saying I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna get better, it can be really supportive to you.
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  Speaker 2: That's just my sidebar on therapy because I think people are.
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  Speaker 1: Getting in there and they're like, well, I heard my
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  Speaker 1: psychic say that I need to probably be in some therapy,
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  Speaker 1: so tell me what's wrong. And then they don't get there,
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  Speaker 1: you know, what's going on? Right, you know what's going on,
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  Speaker 1: so say it. I mean yeah, And since then, anytime
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  Speaker 1: I've felt like I needed to go back into therapy,
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  Speaker 1: I say, hey, listen, this is what I'm struggling with,
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  Speaker 1: and we focus on that, you know, And then that
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  Speaker 1: when you take that approach to therapy, A, you attract
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  Speaker 1: a practitioner who will take you on that journey that
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  Speaker 1: you need to go on. And B you don't have
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  Speaker 1: to be in forever, right you you know, you can
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  Speaker 1: spend you know, two, three months, six months and then
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  Speaker 1: move into your life right, and then if you need
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  Speaker 1: to go back.
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  Speaker 2: You go back.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not saying for those that have been in
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  Speaker 1: therapy consistently over a long period of time, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: saying that that is bad either, But I'm saying I'm
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  Speaker 1: seeing a lot of people not do the work, and
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  Speaker 1: so do the work.
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  Speaker 2: Do the work. You already know what's going on.
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  Speaker 1: And as you shift out of self criticism and you
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  Speaker 1: find that calm and you focus on solutions and you're
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  Speaker 1: taking action, things start to shift. Things start to change change.
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  Speaker 1: You become way more receptive to intuitive guidance. You start
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  Speaker 1: to notice the cues, the nudges the ideas. You start
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  Speaker 1: hearing quality wisdom when somebody's been saying to you, hey,
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  Speaker 1: you might need to ply over here, you might need
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  Speaker 1: to apply over here, and you're ignoring in them because
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  Speaker 1: you can't hear them because you're mired in shame and
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  Speaker 1: self criticism and self judgment. You start to hear it
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  Speaker 1: and then you do and you're.
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  Speaker 2: Like, oh, it happened. It happened, right, It's so amazing.
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  Speaker 1: I love getting that call from a client who's like, Amy,
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  Speaker 1: I finally decided to hear you on that, and I
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  Speaker 1: did it, and this beautiful result came. Yeah. Yeah, we're
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  Speaker 1: not islands spirits on our side, but sometimes we have
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  Speaker 1: to shift our minds so we can be receptive to
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  Speaker 1: all the help from the universe. See in these moments
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  Speaker 1: when we feel like we've really messed up and we're
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  Speaker 1: praying for guidance, miracles, blessings, but because of that criticism,
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  Speaker 1: we can't even allow the blessing to come forward. And
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  Speaker 1: so you got to really shift out of that energy.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not saying it's easy, and you're not wrong
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  Speaker 1: for feeling that way. It's part of the human experience.
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  Speaker 1: But we're spiritual beings, right, and so our whole purpose
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  Speaker 1: of being here is to shift back into being spiritual beings.
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  Speaker 1: And one of that one of the ways you can
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  Speaker 1: do that is to let go of this self judgment
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  Speaker 1: and self criticism.
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  Speaker 1: To be hard, and you don't have to be hard
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  Speaker 2: You can act, you can create, you.
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  Speaker 1: Can live this gorgeous, beautiful life all while being kind
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  Speaker 1: to yourself. So today, just stop judging yourself, Just stop
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  Speaker 1: judging yourself. Just stop judging yourself and if you want
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  Speaker 1: so I'll change that. Thank you, Thank you for listening
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  Speaker 1: to the show. I look forward to connecting with you again.
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  Speaker 1: you so much for listening. I look forward to connecting
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  Speaker 1: with you again.
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  Speaker 2: Goodbye,