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All right, everyone, this is Inspirations for Your
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And the master topic for the week, because
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you know we do a master topic from
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Saturday through Friday, and it is Series 5,
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Show 31, Master Your Choices Before They Master
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You.
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Now the granular topic, How to Recover from
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Bad Decisions, Series 5, Show 31, Episode Number
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Okay.
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So this is Inspirations Real Life, and I
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am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montclair State University, a passionate lifelong learner, and
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so grateful now to be a published author.
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Yes, guys, thank you so much.
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It is really a pleasure to be an
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author and to have so many people that
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love the content I produce.
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Every one of us has made a decision
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we wish we could undo, right?
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Whether it involved our career, finances, relationships, health,
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or simply saying the wrong thing at the
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wrong time.
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You see, mistakes are part of life.
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The good news is that one bad decision
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doesn't determine your future.
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I think a lot of people out here
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miss that concept.
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They don't realize that they actually can, you
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know, have an effect on that.
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I think that's a very important thing, guys,
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that many people don't understand.
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They don't understand, like, why this is this
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way or what's going on, and I want
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to tell you that there is so much
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potential out there if you just believe in
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yourself, all right?
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So the decision doesn't determine your future, the
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one you made.
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It's the pattern that determines your future.
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What matters most is what you choose to
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do next.
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Today, I'm going to explore 30 practical principles
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that will help you recover from bad decisions.
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We all make them, and grow through adversity,
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and of course, move forward with greater wisdom
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and confidence.
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Are you ready?
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I know I am.
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Number one, please own your mistakes.
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Growth begins when you honestly acknowledge your decisions
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without blaming others or making excuses.
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You know, when you are in a problem
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and you're not part of the solution, well,
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then you're part of the problem, okay?
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If you can't be part of the solution,
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you are part of the problem.
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So that's an important thing for us to
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understand, for us to learn about.
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Number two, learn without excuses.
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Learn without excuses.
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That is really important.
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So many people make mis-excuses because they
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think that's the way.
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It's not.
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Excuses delay improvement, okay?
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Honest reflection helps you grow stronger and wiser.
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Every setback teaches, and every challenge contains a
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lesson, guys.
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Look for the wisdom instead of focusing only
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on the disappointment.
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I think you'll probably be a lot happier.
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Number four, take responsibility.
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Responsibility gives you the power to change your
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future.
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Ownership creates opportunity.
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You know, number five, correct your course.
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A wrong turn doesn't mean the journey is
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over.
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No, it just means we have to retool,
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rethink.
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Make the adjustment and continue moving forward.
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Number six, forgive yourself.
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Holding on to guilt just prevents progress.
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Learn the lesson, then give yourself permission to
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move on.
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Number seven, focus on solutions.
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The past cannot be changed.
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But today's decisions can create a better tomorrow.
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So if you made some bad decisions, don't
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lose sleep over it.
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Number eight, build results.
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Every challenge you overcome strengthens your ability to
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face the next one with confidence.
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Number nine, stay accountable.
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Hold yourself to a higher standard.
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Accountability creates lasting personal growth.
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And you know, this is what you may
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be doing when you're alone, but when other
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people see it, excuse me, live show, so
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we're going to sneeze, we sneeze right on
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the air.
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All right, sorry about that, guys.
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But this is a live show.
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What I want to let you know is
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that this is what creates lasting personal growth.
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See, what you do in your personal and
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private life filters into, I should say, dominoes
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into your public life.
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We want to be accountable, not because we
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have to, but because it's the right thing
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to do, okay?
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Better decisions begin with better thinking.
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Challenge old habits and embrace wiser perspectives.
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Number 11, learn quickly.
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The sooner you recognize a mistake, the sooner
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you can make positive changes.
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But again, don't beat yourself up because maybe
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you're not getting it the first time.
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I don't want you beating yourself up.
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I want you to appreciate what you're doing,
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and I want you to know that if
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something's not right, you can learn from that.
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You can learn from that.
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I think that's an important thing.
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And that's something that a lot of people
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miss, that they can make that big change,
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okay?
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A very, very big change.
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A change that I think will help so
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many people get where they want to be
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and stop being stuck.
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Being stuck, guys, is no fun, but being
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stuck and not knowing how to get unstuck,
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that's a problem.
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That's a problem.
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I think if we understand how our thoughts
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are creating our world, we'll be able to
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change it, okay?
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We'll be able to change it.
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That's a very big thing, okay?
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Very, very, very, very important.
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Let's move on to point number 12.
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Never, never, never, never, never, never, never, never,
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never, never, never, never, never repeat avoidable mistakes.
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Doing the same thing over and over again,
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expecting different results, guys, that's insanity.
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So stop it.
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Don't do that, okay?
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Wisdom isn't avoiding every mistake.
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It's refusing to repeat ones you've already learned
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from.
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And again, that's not hard, right?
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Einstein said doing the same thing over and
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over again, expecting different results, guys, that is
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insanity, right?
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Number 13, stay positive.
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A positive mindset doesn't ignore problems.
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It believes solutions are always possible.
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Number 14, rebuild confidence.
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Confidence returns one good decision at a time.
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Keep making choices that move you forward, that
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push the needle in a direction to help
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you.
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I think that's an important thing, right?
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We always want to keep moving the needle
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forward.
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Number 15, let me have some more tea
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here.
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This is really good.
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Adjust your strategy.
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If something isn't working, don't abandon your goal.
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Just change your approach and keep going.
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Tweak, go back to the drawing board, right?
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You have to make a little change.
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Number 16, keep moving forward.
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Don't allow one bad decision to halt or
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stop your journey midway.
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You're halfway there.
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Every new step is an opportunity to create
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a better outcome.
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So let's treat it as that.
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Number 17, don't quit.
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Loved ones, friends, associates will tell you to
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quit.
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Don't quit.
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Setbacks in our life, they're temporary, unless you
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decide to give up.
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You see, one thing I've learned in life
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is we're going to get storms all the
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time.
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They're going to come and they're going to
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go.
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Most storms will come and they'll go.
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But one thing that never goes is tough
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people.
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So become a tough person.
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Be persistent, build your resilience, and you'll weather
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any storm.
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Persistence often separates success from failure.
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Number 18, progress is always possible.
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It's a mindset.
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No matter where you are today at this
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moment, positive change can begin with your very
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next decision, your next step, your next thought
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will create an inspiration for you to take
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action.
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That's powerful, guys.
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Our thoughts, guys, create our reality.
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Our thoughts create our reality.
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That's powerful, guys.
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Our thoughts create our reality.
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Number 19, experience creates wisdom.
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Life's greatest lessons often come from the decisions
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that challenged you the most.
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Don't think that the decisions are, and what
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you're experiencing is a way or a signal
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to stop.
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It's not.
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It's testing your resilience.
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Let experience become your teacher, okay?
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Don't become someone who's not humble.
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Don't be unteachable.
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We need to be teachable if we want
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to grow in this world, if we want
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to achieve our goals, and we want to
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help others achieve their goals.
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We have to remain teachable.
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We have to remain humble.
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Number 20, when you stay humble, humility allows
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you to accept correction.
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You know, you're able to get constructive feedback,
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right?
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And you continue the growth through your life.
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But if you develop an attitude or a
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habit, I'm better than everybody, that's going to
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be a problem.
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It's going to be a very, very big
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problem.
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I think sometimes people don't necessarily know what's
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happening, right?
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And that causes a lot of people to
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get frustrated, not because they want to be
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frustrated, but it happens, right?
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So we have to realize that.
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Number 21, build better habits.
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Build better habits.
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That's important.
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That's really important.
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And it's important to know that and how
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that can make a change.
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When we build better habits, our life becomes
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completely different.
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Daily habits shape long-term results.
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Replace unproductive routines and habits with the ones
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that will support your core values that can
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lead you up to your goals.
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Number 22, guys, make stronger choices.
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Every decision is a chance to become a
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better version of yourself.
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Choose what aligns with your values and your
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future, and your future.
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We don't want to take shortcuts, guys.
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We do not want to take shortcuts.
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I think that's important to know that if
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we're here to take shortcuts, we're going to
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miss a lot in our life.
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We're going to miss an awful lot, and
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we're going to waste a lot of time.
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Number 23, stay disciplined.
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I know you're going to say I'm motivated,
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but motivation fades, guys, with the tides and
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the weather and your mood.
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Discipline helps you continue making wise decisions, even
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when emotions or circumstances become difficult.
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When you just don't feel like it, discipline
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kicks in.
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Number 24, believe in growth.
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Belief is your reality.
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Your abilities, confidence, and wisdom can all improve
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with consistent effort and the willingness to learn.
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Every day is a new opportunity.
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Number five, approach it like that.
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Yesterday's mistakes don't control today's possibilities.
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Don't think they do.
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Every morning offers a fresh start.
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That's key.
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Number 26, turn failure into fuel.
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Use disappointment as motivation instead of discouragement.
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Let every setback strengthen your determination.
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So a setback is nothing more than some
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feedback to help you change your course.
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If you're ever in a GPS in your
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car or your phone and you make a
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wrong turn, it says, please make a legal
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U-turn, or recalculating.
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That's what we're doing.
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We're recalculating the path we need to take
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to get to our goals.
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Number 27, stay intentional.
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Don't drift through life hoping things improve.
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Make purposeful decisions that move you closer to
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your goals, that allow that needle to move
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for you.
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These are things that a lot of people,
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they miss because they're so busy looking at
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either just the trees or looking at the
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whole forest.
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We have to look at the whole forest
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and the trees all at one time because
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different perspectives allow us to see things differently.
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And you might be saying, John, well, I
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don't get that.
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So getting that is not something you're going
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to, let's say, fathom overnight.
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But you will get insights over time that
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will allow you to change your life.
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The question is, are you teachable?
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Are you humble enough?
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Are you willing to know that you don't
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know everything?
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Are you willing to know that?
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Or are you like, I know everything?
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That's important, guys, really important.
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Number 28, please build a stronger future, a
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stronger future, a future that's in align with
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your core values, not someone else's core values,
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not someone else's, your core values.
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Live the life that you want to lead
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or you will be sorry.
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Many people live other people's lives.
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They don't live the life that's in their
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heart.
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The choices you make today become the foundation
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of tomorrow.
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Choose to invest in the future.
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You want to create, right?
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You don't want to destroy.
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You want to remodel.
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Number 29, I'm going to say this.
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Never, never, never, never, never, never, never, never,
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never, never, never, never, never, never, never, never,
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never, never, never, never, never, never, never, never,
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never, never, never stop improving.
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Many times people do it because someone else
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said that they should stop improving.
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Don't do it.
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Your dreams are too important.
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Personal growth is a lifelong journey.
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Please continue learning, adapting, and becoming a wiser,
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better version of yourself with every experience you
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have.
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Don't let the naysayers try to tell you
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that you can't do something.
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Don't do that.
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You are the only one that ever can
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say you're inferior.
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Don't let anybody else put you down ever,
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ever.
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Number 30, mistakes become wisdom when you learn.
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I think that's an important thing.
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A mistake is nothing more than something you
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did wrong, but then you learn from it
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so you don't do it over and over
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again.
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You're not insane because that's what insanity is,
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doing the same thing over and over again,
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expecting different results according to Einstein.
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Mistakes only remain failures when nothing changes.
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If we do something wrong, aren't we going
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to try to fix it?
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Oh, I don't want to do it wrong
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again, right?
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When you learn from them, they become some
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of your greatest sources of wisdom.
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Wisdom.
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Wisdom is priceless, but some people think wisdom
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is something they can buy or something they're
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born with.
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You're not.
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Wisdom is something that you acquire in life.
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You learn it.
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As I get ready to wrap up today's
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show, every person in life makes mistakes.
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That's a fact.
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Every person in life experiences setbacks.
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That's a fact.
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The difference isn't found in who fails and
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who doesn't.
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No.
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The difference is found in what happens next.
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Do you keep going down the same path
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like Einstein said, being insane?
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I hope not.
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Or do you say, wait a minute, it
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didn't work that way.
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I've got to change my course.
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When you choose to take responsibility wholeheartedly and
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learn from your experiences, forgive yourself and keep
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moving forward.
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You see, your past becomes a source of
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wisdom instead of regret.
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Too many people hang their head on regret
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and they think they can't do something because
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of the way they feel.
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Okay?
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That's sad.
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Remember, ladies and gentlemen, your future is determined
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by your worst decision.
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Nope.
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It's determined by the choices you make starting
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right now.
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Every new day gives you another opportunity to
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think more clearly, act more intentionally, and build
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a stronger, more meaningful life that's aligned with
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your core values.
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I thank you so much for joining me
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today on the Inspirations for Your Life show.
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And if you didn't know me by now,
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I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
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host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at Montclair
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State University, passionate lifelong learner, and grateful to
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now be a published author.
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Ladies and gentlemen, until next time, please don't
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let yesterday's mistakes define tomorrow's possibilities.
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For if you do, your potential will be
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squashed.
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The opportunities that were meant for you will
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not even show up because you're blocking them.
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Please, ladies and gentlemen, learn the lessons.
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Learn each lesson.
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Make the adjustment, the course correction.
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Keep moving forward.
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And remember something, guys, that every wise decision
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you make today, starting today, is building the
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future you deserve.
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You deserve it.
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And if you don't think you deserve it,
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you're never going to get it.
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If you don't believe you're worth it, you
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won't get more.
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Please, ladies and gentlemen, learn to master your
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choices before they master you.
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And as I said, guys, never, ever stop
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growing.
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Never stop growing, never.
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I think the difference between success and failure
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is the people that quit, that go home
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early, learn from their peers, learn from others
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that are not good examples or good role
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models, and they kill the very precious spirit
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that makes us such powerful and deliberate creators.
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But we have to believe it.
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If we don't, we won't grow.
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We won't learn.
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And that's sad, guys.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, and please be sure to
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check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for more of my
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amazing, of course, inspiring creations.
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And I'll catch you next time.
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Be well, everyone.