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Cliff Notes: MARY J. BLIGE'S TAKEAWAYS FROM PAYING $30K A MONTH IN ALIMONY · Earn Your Leisure

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  Speaker 1: You've talked about in the past where you had to
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  Speaker 1: go on tour to pay alimony. Yeah, to your ex husband.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if the numbers correct not Google. I
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  Speaker 1: saw it was like thirty thousand a month or something
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  Speaker 1: like that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, correct us if we're wrong.
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  Speaker 1: So, looking back on it in hindsight, what would you
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  Speaker 1: have done differently when you first got married in terms
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  Speaker 1: of shielding your assets?
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  Speaker 3: I would have never let a person have that much
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  Speaker 3: power over my money, my life, over anything ever again,
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  Speaker 3: So I would. I would Now I'm learning, I'm in
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  Speaker 3: control of my business, I'm in control of my life,
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  Speaker 3: and it's mandatory that I learn more about finance business,
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  Speaker 3: you know, so I don't ever have to be robbed
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  Speaker 3: again by you know, maybe somebody you think you can trust,
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  Speaker 3: you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: So do you think that it was more so just
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  Speaker 1: a lack of education somebody playing on you not knowing things.
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  Speaker 3: And then perfectly, yes, it was a lack of education,
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  Speaker 3: and it also was just trusting people to help you
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  Speaker 3: when you don't know and you hope that they're going
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  Speaker 3: to help you and not steal from you and lie
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  Speaker 3: to you, and and and and and just trying to
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  Speaker 3: take control over your life. So yeah, exactly. You hope
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  Speaker 3: that people would help you when you don't know, and
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  Speaker 3: a lot of times what happened to me, They rob you,
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  Speaker 3: you know. So it's best to get education so you
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  Speaker 3: don't have to depend on anybody to control your money
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  Speaker 3: or to help you, you know, you know, to to
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  Speaker 3: help you keep your money in a safe place.
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  Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Keeping your I mean, we spoke about this a little
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  Speaker 2: bit earlier before you came on. It's important to make money,
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  Speaker 2: but it's more important to keep the money. Yeah, And
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  Speaker 2: so we've had plenty of conversations and people in entertainment
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  Speaker 2: and the one thing that they always talk about. In fact,
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  Speaker 2: Joe spoke about it, Steve Harvey spoken Candy about it.
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  Speaker 2: It's paying taxes.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, so so check it out.
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  Speaker 3: Speaking of taxes, I owe so much money. I never
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  Speaker 3: thought I was ever going to get out of debt.
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  Speaker 3: I'm out of debt now.
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  Speaker 4: But I mean I owed millions, millions, like hundreds of
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  Speaker 4: millions of dollars in taxes, and I think, right, you know,
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  Speaker 4: I'm sorry, I lost my train of.
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  Speaker 2: Thought, go back to it. So I was right, we
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  Speaker 2: were gonna get to that. So the lack of education
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  Speaker 2: around that. Right as you're getting this large sum of
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  Speaker 2: money you accumulating, give how are we even getting educated?
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  Speaker 1: Who are we.
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  Speaker 2: Surrounding ourselves to protect ourselves to make sure that we
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  Speaker 2: are paying tax? Is it a financial somebody in our.
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  Speaker 3: Team a great business manage team, and you have to
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  Speaker 3: have Now I have the wisdom. Now I look at
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  Speaker 3: my payroll. That's not my money. My taxes are not
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  Speaker 3: my money, My times are not my money.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm like, pay my pay pay my business, pay
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  Speaker 3: my payroll, pay my taxes, pay my times, any all
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  Speaker 3: of that money. I don't even want to see it
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  Speaker 3: because it doesn't belong to me. And that's how I
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  Speaker 3: was moving period. I was moving like that period. But
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  Speaker 3: nobody listened to me. When I was married. I was like,
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  Speaker 3: pay my taxes, pay my times, do everything, and then
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  Speaker 3: you know, they didn't listen to me. So you know,
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  Speaker 3: but he was in control of everything, so he wasn't
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  Speaker 3: gonna you know, we don't want to do all of that,
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  Speaker 3: but you know that's that's how I do. Those things
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  Speaker 3: are important to me. Payroll, taxes, times, anything that. You know,
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  Speaker 3: if anyone's doing a service, you have to pay them
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  Speaker 3: for it, you know, and you have to call people back.
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  Speaker 3: You know, sometimes people just want to you know what, Okay,
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna get back to you.
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  Speaker 3: It's not always so much about you know, people vendors
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  Speaker 3: beating your door down because you know they're just being aggravated.
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  Speaker 3: They just want to know that you are acknowledging them
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  Speaker 3: if you owe them money. You understand what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: So if you don't call people back, you know, it
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  Speaker 3: creates a bad image for you. It creates, you know,
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  Speaker 3: chatter that you don't do handle do business properly. You
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  Speaker 3: understand what I'm saying. So, yeah, those things are important
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  Speaker 3: to me. Now.
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  Speaker 1: So this is strength of a Woman's Festival. And a
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  Speaker 1: lot of times when we think about pre numps, it's
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  Speaker 1: always from a man's perspective, like a man wants his
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  Speaker 1: wife to sign a pre numb before they get married
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  Speaker 1: because he has more money. But there's not always the case.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes in your situation, the woman could be the breadwinner
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  Speaker 1: or the woman can have more money. So what are
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  Speaker 1: your thoughts on pre numps and how would you approach
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  Speaker 1: you or what advice would you give as far as
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  Speaker 1: for a woman that may be wealthy all off and
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  Speaker 1: they're looking to get married.
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  Speaker 3: Get a pre nump. Because I didn't have one, and
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  Speaker 3: that's why I was in I ended up having to
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  Speaker 3: just give everything away because it's so let me just speak,
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  Speaker 3: it's so whack right now that men, you know, can
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  Speaker 3: come at you and get and you know, I'm young,
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  Speaker 3: and get alimony. So when I was getting a divorce,
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  Speaker 3: I was like, you mean to tell me I got
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  Speaker 3: to pay him? And he cheated and he lied and
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  Speaker 3: he stolen. You know, not to get all petty, but
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  Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. You mean, I gotta pay
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  Speaker 3: him for cheating and lying to me and ruining my life.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, and and the lord is you have to
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  Speaker 3: you know, so I say, get a pre nup, cover
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  Speaker 3: yourself up.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm telling you men this crazy. My wife has here,
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  Speaker 2: So baby, I love you.
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  Speaker 5: An illegal alien from Guatemala charged with raping a child
• 9:14
  Speaker 5: in Massachusetts. An MS thirteen gang member from Al Salvador
• 9:18
  Speaker 5: accused of murdering a Texas man of Venezuelan charged with
• 9:22
  Speaker 5: filming and selling child pornography in Michigan. These are just
• 9:26
  Speaker 5: some of the heinous migrant criminals caught because of President
• 9:30
  Speaker 5: Donald J. Trump's leadership. I'm Christy nom the United States
• 9:33
  Speaker 5: Secretary of Homeland Security. Under President Trump, attempted illegal border
• 9:38
  Speaker 5: crossings are at the lowest levels ever recorded, and over
• 9:42
  Speaker 5: one hundred thousand illegal aliens have been arrested. If you
• 9:45
  Speaker 5: are here illegally, your next you will be fine nearly
• 9:49
  Speaker 5: one thousand dollars a day, imprisoned and deported, you will
• 9:53
  Speaker 5: never return. But if you register using our CBP home
• 9:57
  Speaker 5: app and leave now, you could be allowed to return legally.
• 10:00
  Speaker 5: Do what's right, leave now. Under President Trump, America's laws,
• 10:05
  Speaker 5: border and families will be protected.
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  Speaker 2: Sponsored by the United States Department of Homeland Security,