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AN INSIGHT INTO THE MALE BRAIN · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables. Okay, no this Saturday. Actually I
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  Speaker 1: was he's keen to hang out with my partner, but
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  Speaker 1: they just keep saying Saturdays are for the boys.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just drinking with my friends. It's not that big
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  Speaker 2: of a deal.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's a bit tricky because how am I
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  Speaker 1: supposed to book any time in?
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  Speaker 2: Why do you need to book anything in? Why don't
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  Speaker 2: we just player by year? See when something pops up.
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  Speaker 2: The way you're talking is you're fifty percent of the
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  Speaker 2: person you have potential to be, and you're looking for
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  Speaker 2: the other fifty percent in a girlfriend, where in reality,
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  Speaker 2: a relationship is one hundred percent of a person going
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  Speaker 2: to another one hundred percent.
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  Speaker 1: Of a person. Yeah, one hundred percent. Wait a second,
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  Speaker 1: these girls are very smart. Do they want us to
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  Speaker 1: be naked?
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  Speaker 2: Fact, that's such a good point, because I was looking,
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  Speaker 2: I was like, I can't wear fucking socks.
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  Speaker 1: I can't wear.
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  Speaker 2: Relatable.
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  Speaker 1: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka Buddy,
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  Speaker 1: We were so devastated. It was a full episode. It
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  Speaker 1: The audio, though, is all good. There's no video, but
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  Speaker 1: the audio is all good. So it ends abruptly. So
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  Speaker 1: what we're going to do is we're going to put
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  Speaker 1: it on Patreon one of these days. We're good, Actually,
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  Speaker 2: It's already worthy money as it is, but there's an
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  Speaker 2: extra little perk. But today, Jake, I'm in the mood
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  Speaker 2: to argue, yep with you? What are we arguing about today?
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  Speaker 2: Saturdays are for the boys? Yeah, they for and against.
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  Speaker 2: I actually don't know which one I want and why,
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  Speaker 2: to be honest.
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  Speaker 1: With you, like like I didn't, we'll see what happens.
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  Speaker 1: So which one do you would you prefer to argue?
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  Speaker 2: I think it'd be fun to argue for the boys.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah it wouldn't, but obviously it doesn't really matter. It funer, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: maybe like logic and see whoever wins gets to make
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  Speaker 2: the decision.
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  Speaker 1: Okay you call it in the air. Yeah, okay, I
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  Speaker 1: haven't won one yet, No you haven't, and it should
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  Speaker 1: be fifty to fifty. Yeah, tales ever fails with a
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  Speaker 1: big one? Heads? Oh my god? What the hell? It
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  Speaker 1: bounces on the cart. It's a good flip too, what
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  Speaker 1: the King's head as well, guys, I don't know if
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  Speaker 1: you can see this, what do you want? I think
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna argue for against I think I want to
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  Speaker 1: try and argue against Saturdays for the boys.
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  Speaker 2: Sweet, So I get to be toxic.
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  Speaker 1: Who do you reckon?
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  Speaker 2: It's better being toxic? You were me, you did good
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  Speaker 2: with like girls and guys can't be best.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I went heavy. Yeah, I went heavy into it.
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  Speaker 1: And you know what's funny is we we've actually had
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  Speaker 1: a couple of emails about it. Yeah, we have. We have,
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  Speaker 1: even though at the end of it we were fully like,
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  Speaker 1: oh yeah that's how we really feel. But yeah, people
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  Speaker 1: still maybe just like my arguments were so good, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: such a good actor.
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  Speaker 2: People people just like couldn't get it out of their head.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah that's what we want.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm going to start then, because I'm toxic. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: get in the toxic mind, getting the toxic mind. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I don't even know. Okay, I might have chosen.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe we should also pretend like we're both in relationships too, okay,
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  Speaker 2: Okay get each other, you know, like you're with your
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  Speaker 2: partner and I'm with mine, and like.
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  Speaker 1: This is okay, And yes, that would actually help. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that helps. I think that helps the angle.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm going to be like, oh, here we go, Jake,
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  Speaker 2: what are you getting up to this Saturday?
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  Speaker 1: What am I? I'm arguing, Oh, you know, Okay, no
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  Speaker 1: this Saturday. Actually I was, he's keen to hang out
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  Speaker 1: with my partner. But they just keep saying Saturdays are
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  Speaker 1: for the boys.
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  Speaker 2: They are are they?
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  Speaker 1: Mate? You really feel that way?
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  Speaker 2: I agree, that's because that's when all the boys finish work.
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  Speaker 2: We all have time off.
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  Speaker 1: We've worked hard all week, mate, put in the time,
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  Speaker 1: put in the effort.
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  Speaker 2: It's my time to relax with my friend.
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  Speaker 1: I just I find it's so hard to organize anything
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  Speaker 1: with them though, because I can't obviously book in a
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  Speaker 1: Saturday because Saturdays are for the boys, and so I
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  Speaker 1: also work all week and we have to kind of
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  Speaker 1: commute to see each other, and so Friday isn't very
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  Speaker 1: good because he never wants to come see me on
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  Speaker 1: Friday after work, after work because Saturday is coming up,
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  Speaker 1: which he needs to get ready for and day drinking
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  Speaker 1: apparently is a big thing. And then on Sunday always hungover.
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  Speaker 1: They're always hung over, and it just really makes me
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  Speaker 1: feel like they don't value me in the relationship. They
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  Speaker 1: don't want to spend time with me. I just feel
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  Speaker 1: I don't feel good.
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  Speaker 2: That's a very very good point. So you think he's
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  Speaker 2: choosing his friends over your relationship. I do so to say, and.
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  Speaker 1: I'm scared to bring anything up because whenever I bring
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  Speaker 1: something up, it's just I can't run my head around it.
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  Speaker 1: So when I tell them that I can't wrap my
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  Speaker 1: head around it, it's always, Oh, you're trying to control me.
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  Speaker 1: You kind of do this.
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  Speaker 2: And I was about to say, are you deeping this
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  Speaker 2: too much? I'm just drinking with my friends. It's not
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  Speaker 2: that big of a d I yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But it's a bit tricky because how am I supposed
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  Speaker 1: to book any time in?
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  Speaker 2: Let's just why do you need to book anything in?
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  Speaker 2: Why don't we just play it by year? See when
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  Speaker 2: something pops up?
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  Speaker 1: That's just not how life works. Go okay, because the flow.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the thing is why am I? Why am I not? Like?
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  Speaker 1: Why do I have to play it by year? But
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  Speaker 1: for some reason, every single Saturday for the rest of
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  Speaker 1: time is booked in. When you're not really playing it
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  Speaker 1: by year, it's booked in for Saturdays because Saturdays are
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  Speaker 1: for the boys. So technically that's a little hypocritical of
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  Speaker 1: you to say, because you don't want me to book
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  Speaker 1: anything in, but you're willing to book something in every
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  Speaker 1: single week for fifty two weeks.
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  Speaker 2: A year, eight a minute.
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  Speaker 1: If we're getting technical here, Technically speaking, we haven't booked
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  Speaker 1: anything here, like there's no time, there's no place. It's
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  Speaker 1: just it's sort of a given that will go figure
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  Speaker 1: out what we do on said Saturday.
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  Speaker 2: But it's always going to be with the boys. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that's booked in.
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  Speaker 1: You have a whole entire day booked out, even play
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  Speaker 1: like it might start. It's because something doesn't mean it's
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  Speaker 1: not booked in.
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  Speaker 2: It might be eight am one day, it might be
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  Speaker 2: eight pm one the same.
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  Speaker 1: I understand that, but you're just leaving out a pretty
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  Speaker 1: being factor here is that it's always going to be
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  Speaker 1: on that day, and that whole day is taken up
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  Speaker 1: and I'd taken away from me.
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  Speaker 2: I don't see why this is a problem. We sleep
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  Speaker 2: next to each other every night, Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But that's sleeping. Yeah, you get on from work, all right.
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  Speaker 1: He gets home from work and he's tired, and he
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  Speaker 1: talks about, oh, working all day and been on my
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  Speaker 1: feet all day. I didn't choose the job you did.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't choose to even start dating me. If you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to spend time with you don't spend time
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  Speaker 1: with me, maybe I don't want to spend time. I
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  Speaker 1: picked the boys, Ye, buff walking away.
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  Speaker 2: Fuck, that was a good one. I was hated that
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  Speaker 2: we really got into character then, didn't we I think
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  Speaker 2: I was.
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  Speaker 1: Really getting into like that. I was like, this is bullshit.
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  Speaker 1: You can't fucking it is a Yeah, the whole Saturdays
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  Speaker 1: for the My younger brother in Canada, he's man. I
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  Speaker 1: think he's eighteen, and he has a he's eighteen and
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  Speaker 1: grew up in Canada. Are very close like obviously same
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  Speaker 1: continent continent as the Milk Boys, right, and yeah, he
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  Speaker 1: has a They have.
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  Speaker 2: A big influence on like how the youth are growing up.
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  Speaker 1: Really over there, bro really holy fuck, Like he's not
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  Speaker 1: a party boy and I don't even know if this
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  Speaker 1: is like his thing. I don't think he's a real
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  Speaker 1: like toxic kid, but he just has this like he
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  Speaker 1: likes them and he has a big banner that they
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  Speaker 1: is their merchant. It says Saturdays are for the boys,
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  Speaker 1: and it hung up in his room, and I just
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  Speaker 1: whenever I go to Canada, I look at it and
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  Speaker 1: I just think, sure, he's going to take that down today.
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  Speaker 1: To tell you what that is?
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  Speaker 2: Was he repellent.
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  Speaker 1: Boy? You know what? If fully is? You know what?
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  Speaker 1: With the Milk Boys, it's like, so they preach all
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  Speaker 1: this stuff about like, you know, being for the boys
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  Speaker 1: and stuff, and I mean camaraderie great, I don't I
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  Speaker 1: don't think camaraderie is bad. But so they have all
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  Speaker 1: these videos of then like you know, everything's for the boys,
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  Speaker 1: and like they maybe they act a bit toxic, but
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  Speaker 1: they still get girls, which is what younger dudes want.
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  Speaker 1: And they get these girls because maybe off camera they
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  Speaker 1: don't act like this, or maybe it's because they have
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  Speaker 1: a big following, or maybe it's because they have a
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  Speaker 1: lot of money. I don't know. But then so they're like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: we act like this and we have a fun life
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  Speaker 1: and we get girls. So then these young like seventeen sixteen,
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  Speaker 1: seventeen eighteen year olds are like, well, I'm gonna act
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  Speaker 1: like that, but they're not gonna get like they're gonna
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  Speaker 1: get a rude shock when it comes. Yeah, and push
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  Speaker 1: comes to shove.
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  Speaker 2: Those guys only get any sort of attraction because of
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  Speaker 2: the status they've built in life, not because of like
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  Speaker 2: the people they are that even they're terrible role models
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  Speaker 2: for kids, they really are not good role models. The
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  Speaker 2: head of Nope Boys, Kyle got done cheating when he
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  Speaker 2: was in Australia. I saw that video while he was
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  Speaker 2: dating someone famous or some TikToker or something.
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  Speaker 1: And she, I know the girl is something to do.
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  Speaker 1: She's like heavy into sports. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I think she was a heaps like normal, like cool check. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: she was dating Kyle. They were dazing head of Nokboys.
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  Speaker 2: And then a video came out on TikTok where he
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  Speaker 2: had his arm around a girl like it was on
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  Speaker 2: her four you page, and then another one came out
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  Speaker 2: and he's like, noh, fuck this and she broke up
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  Speaker 2: with them.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, she finds out No, he I saw a video
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  Speaker 1: of her talking about it. Yeah, he called her. Didn't
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  Speaker 1: admit it, but he called her while he was still
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  Speaker 1: in Australia, I think, and broke up with her. So
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  Speaker 1: this video came up my for you page because she
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  Speaker 1: came up and she goes imagine finding out your boyfriend's
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  Speaker 1: cheating on you by scrolling on TikTok.
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  Speaker 2: What a good role models fucking breaking up on the
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  Speaker 2: phone too.
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  Speaker 1: But to be fair, like.
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  Speaker 2: I remember when I was adeen and like I didn't
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  Speaker 2: have a girlfriend. I hadn't had one on that point,
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  Speaker 2: like a proper one, and like some of my friends
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  Speaker 2: did it.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, what are you doing? Man? Yeah, you're
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  Speaker 1: whip like.
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  Speaker 2: Those for the boys.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, facts I saw.
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  Speaker 2: I get it too, because like when I was my
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  Speaker 2: naive self and disparting and being like, think of my friends.
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  Speaker 1: With everything, I was like, what are you doing?
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  Speaker 2: Like I just got out fun.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah no, I guess maybe it's a part of life
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  Speaker 1: that you go through together.
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  Speaker 2: I think you gotta like learn it on your own accord. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: definitely it is tough. But man, what's been going on
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  Speaker 2: with you?
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  Speaker 1: I haven't seen you much lately.
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  Speaker 2: So in Jake's World, actually, well we should.
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  Speaker 1: We spoke about how we wanted to do it, but
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  Speaker 1: so this episode is going to be like sort of
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  Speaker 1: because we did an episode called girls Girls Only that
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  Speaker 1: did really well. So you did a poll on that episode,
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  Speaker 1: do you guys want a boy's only episode? And it
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  Speaker 1: was like ninety six percent Yes, or something. Yeah, with
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  Speaker 1: all these votes, So this episode's kind of dedicated that.
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  Speaker 1: That's why we did that argument. Yeah, it's Saturdays for
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  Speaker 1: the boys.
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  Speaker 2: Very boy orientated, boy problem boy world, the way boys
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  Speaker 2: think and try and give you a bit of an insight.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. So I think the idea I had for having
• 11:48
  Speaker 1: a little catch up at the start this episode is
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  Speaker 1: I have a probably more of a universal problem and
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: I wanted to bring something that's like kind of tricky
• 11:58
  Speaker 1: in my life as a guy, but also at the
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  Speaker 1: same time it's something that I really like about being
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  Speaker 1: a guy. Okay, yeah, I'm intrigued. So Okay, I actually
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  Speaker 1: spoke about this on a Passenger Princess episode. So I
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  Speaker 1: spoke about I was like, oh, there's like a couple
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  Speaker 1: I've got, like just a couple of things in my
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  Speaker 1: life that I'm just starting to accept. It's just like, oh,
• 12:22
  Speaker 1: life is happening to me, you know, nearly twenty five
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  Speaker 1: in like ten days or whatever. And so one of
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  Speaker 1: them was that I'm struggling to I'm starting to accept
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  Speaker 1: but also struggling to accept that our our friend group
• 12:36
  Speaker 1: is actually like falling apart a bit, you know, like
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  Speaker 1: really starting to grow apart. And you just never think
• 12:42
  Speaker 1: it was going to happen. Like we have a tattoo. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like we have a lot of us in our group
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  Speaker 1: we have we have that same tattoo. So like and
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  Speaker 1: it's funny though, because like if you see one of
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  Speaker 1: them at the gym, like you still talk to them
• 12:54
  Speaker 1: and stuff and basically what else. So what I was
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: talking about was how and I didn't I didn't really
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  Speaker 1: I knew there weren't listen, so I didn't mind. I
• 13:01
  Speaker 1: didn't name any names, but I didn't mind talking about it.
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  Speaker 1: I was just talking about how they wouldn't listen. Nah, Well,
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  Speaker 1: I mean I just assumed they don't. Yeah, no, one
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  Speaker 1: said like a half real and they also, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: your friends support your show. I remember you saying that
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  Speaker 1: you saw a friend of ours that's part of our
• 13:22
  Speaker 1: group that came into the group a little later that
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: we're not super close with. When you were out with
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  Speaker 1: your girlfriend on New Year's Day or the second of it,
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  Speaker 1: you went out for that boogie. So when you went
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  Speaker 1: out and how, I don't know, maybe you could tell
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  Speaker 1: it better. I just remember I was telling it in
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  Speaker 1: the Passenger Princess episode of like Oh Oddie was with
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  Speaker 1: a friend and he was telling the other day like, oh, like,
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: you know, apparently there's a couple of our friends that
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  Speaker 1: just are sick of us or something. And I was like,
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  Speaker 1: what sick of us? Wasn't the right word? Like maybe
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  Speaker 1: like not jealous, but like spot.
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  Speaker 2: Is that the right word?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but like basically one of our friends was saying
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  Speaker 1: to you about something that our friends were saying behind
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  Speaker 1: our backs. And he was like, I can't tell you who.
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  Speaker 1: I can't tell you who, and it was just and
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't nice. And so I was talking about that
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, it just sucks because you
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  Speaker 1: have a pretty good idea of who it is and
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  Speaker 1: you would consider this person one of your best friends.
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  Speaker 1: And so I was talking about it, and then at
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  Speaker 1: the end of the episode, I was like, oh, maybe
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  Speaker 1: I'm overthinking it. Maybe I just need to reach out,
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  Speaker 1: like see just I don't know, see if it's not
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  Speaker 1: say anything, but just see if they even want to
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  Speaker 1: hang out. And so that's I had the idea, is
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  Speaker 1: that why you did that? That I've gone to golf
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  Speaker 1: because I actually wanted to play golf with JJ. And
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: then I saw a couple of our mates at the
• 14:40
  Speaker 1: gym just somehow luckily saw like three mates of the
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  Speaker 1: gym at the same time, and I was like, oh, well, actually,
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  Speaker 1: I said, what are you doing next weekend? Me and
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  Speaker 1: JJ are going to go play golf? Do you want
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  Speaker 1: to come? And they were like, actually, yeah, I do.
• 14:52
  Speaker 1: And so I think I was semi overthinking it. I
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: think that the friend that said it to you wasn't lying,
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: but maybe made it seem worse than it is. Could be,
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: could be still haven't gone to golf. Yeah, And so
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: then here's something funny about what I like about men. Okay,
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: being a man. So I organized golf. Yeah right, oh yeah,
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: this is fucked it. I organized golf, and so I
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: didn't think twice better. So I organized golf and I
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: could only do Sunday this coming Sunday. So all the
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: boys originally were like, oh, yeah, cool, can do Sunday,
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: And then I think a couple of them couldn't. And
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: then a few more of them were like, oh, like yeah,
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: I'd prefer Saturday. And so there was a couple couldn't
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: do Sunday. And then so basically I wasn't checking like
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: our group chat because like my notifications don't come up
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: and so I didn't check the group chat before booking
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: golf for Sunday. So I called up booked an amount
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: of time to have like a fair few people, and
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: then I went to go tell everyone on our group chat,
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: and I noticed that they were talking about wanted to
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: do it on Saturday, and I was like, oh shit,
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: like and they weren't doing it at us. They were
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: not doing out a spot. They were like, oh, yeah,
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: we'll just check to see if Craige can come on Saturday,
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: blah blah blah. And so then I was like, oh,
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: I booked Sunday, and then I went and then I
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: sent another video going oh shit, I just checked the chats.
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: Didn't realize you guys wanted to go Saturday. I've booked Sunday.
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: If he's a key for Sunday, then all good. And
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: then they were all still like, nah, I prefer Saturday.
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: And then they still didn't know I couldn't come Saturday
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: at this point, and so then eventually I was like, oh,
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: actually can't go Saturday. And I think I didn't think
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: twice about it, Like I didn't feel I didn't feel hurt,
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: I didn't feel like they were being rude. I was like, Oh,
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: they just can't do Sunday or don't want to, so
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: they want to do Saturday. Fair enough, So I said, oh,
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: you guys go this week. I will just organize one
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: that I can come to. Yeah, And I didn't think
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: twice about it, and then I called the golf course
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, hey, I don't need as
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: many people. I'll keep the I'll go on my own though,
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: like I'll just keep one space for myself. I'll go
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: mine because I want to play golf anyway, I've organized it.
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: And so then I was on the phone last night
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: to Beth, and the reason I can't play Saturday is
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: because so I'm going to best place tonight. It's Thursday today,
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: and I'm staying there until Saturday afternoon in Sydney, and
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: then I was going to come home on Saturday afternoon
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: and play golf on Sunday with the boys. And so
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: the reason I was staying all day and Saturday is
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: because Beth's working from like seven till ten and Henry
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: and her roommate's not there, and it just like I
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: just Henry can't be alone for like that long, and
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: he would have been alone for like a full ten
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: hours if I had to leave early enough to go
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: play golf with them. And so last night on the phone,
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Beth asks me, She's like, who are you playing golf
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: with on Sunday? She just knew I was playing golf.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: She goes, who you're playing with? And I was like, oh,
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: change of plans. Actually, I'm playing on my own. I
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: told her the story, and she goes, that's so sad.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: She goes and I was like, oh, why, Like I
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: don't really care, and so and she goes, if that
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: was a girl's group, and I like, a girl in
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: my group organized something on a Sunday and everyone said yes,
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: but then no one wanted it to do it on Sunday,
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: so they organized it Saturday. The group would be in flames. Yeah,
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: And I was like, oh really. I was like kind
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: of like, oh, I didn't even feel like affected by
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: it whatsoever, because they didn't do it to not have
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: me there.
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: No, they just like boys being boys.
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was just like boys being boys, and like
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: on my part, lack of communication because I didn't even
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: check the chat and so I said that and then
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: she basically I think she felt bad, and she goes, well,
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: she goes, why don't you bring Henry home with you
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: on Saturday leaving with Joanna? And then on Sunday, Joanne's
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: coming here anyway to hang out with me and she'll
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: just bring him then, and I was like, oh, yes,
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: fair enough. So I just message Hi when I was like, oh, boys,
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: sort it out a way for me to play golf?
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: You got a spot still, and they're like yeah, yeah.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: I was like, and so best just felt really bad.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: She was like, that's so sad. I can't believe you
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: just told.
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: Me that easy going, like, it's so one of the
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: good characteristic traits of being.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: To go out. Yeah, Like, the problem I had was
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: that I initially was like, oh, my friends don't like
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: me anymore. My friend group was falling apart. No, let's
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: figure it out. And so I was like, I'll reach out,
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: try and throw an olive branch out there, and it worked,
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: and then maybe what they did was really rude. I
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: no idea, but I was just like, I like just
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: didn't give a shit, and so I think, what my
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: that's my bad thing. But then the thing I like
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: about being a dude is that our friendship isn't going
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: to fall apart because of that. Yeah, you know what
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: I mean. Yeah, I see exactly where you come from.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: So yeah, long ramble, but yeah, that's what happened. I've
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: been thinking along.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: I've been thinking a lot about how like our friendship
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: groups falling apart, which, like face value, is very like
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: hard to accept. But also I've sort of looked at
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: it a little bit of a different way, and like,
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: although we don't hang out anymore, I'm part of the
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: reason I don't make much of an effort to hang
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: out with certain people. Same But it's also like I
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: kind of look at it as this is the first
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: time we've all had the means to do what we
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: actually want to do in life. We have money, we
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: have like the brains, we have the mental capacity to
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: back what we want to do in life, and we're
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: all going our own journeys and we're all experienced. We're
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: growing as people in the way we want to grow,
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: whereas beforehand we've all been forced to be in the
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: same place as life, same place in life. Yeah, so
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: like I've been looking at as like, oh fuck, oh well,
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: I am losing my friends just a little bit.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: But like they're doing what they want to do, we're
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: doing what we want to do is completely.
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: Different, So it's so hard to relate to each other
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: and like come at the end of the day or
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: on the weekend and be like i's hang out and
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: then we tolk and we don't have any of the
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: similar interests we used to anymore.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: No, we don't really, so it's just growing. And I
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: guess that's like the harsh reality of life is just
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: like ah, fuck, yeah you do. I didn't think it's
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: gonna happen in our group, Like nah, you don't think
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: it's gonna happen. Yeah, And the thing is there was
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: like we're not not friends, no, and it's like nothing happened.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: There was no fight, there's no like we wouldn't avoid
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: each other. Like when you see him at the gym,
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: it's like yo, you say high, like long time I
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: see and then you have a little catch up. Then
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: I literally saw one of the gym I saying he's like, well,
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: I won't see you in three months. There is anything
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: else gonna talk, yeah, exactly about I was like, I
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: don't know, it's really nice though, it's funny, like and
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: it's just I don't know, it's just the way we are.
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: I guess, like I don't think like I think there
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: would be people out there that would say the way
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: you guys are talking is really sad. But for some reason,
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: is it a problem that I don't feel like it is.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: I don't think it's a problem. I think as long
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: as you feel happy with your relationships. Although they don't
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: hang out all the time, but if they did that, like,
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: it's not there's no mal intend in it. Yeah, like
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: they didn't do it because they're like, oh fuck, let's
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: make sure we can't. It would be it would be
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: funny if like now he said I can come Saturday, voice.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: Be like all right, we're not going, like actually were can,
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: and then they went so yeah, yeah, like there was
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: just I think the difference between boy and girl groups
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: is guys sort of unconsciously do it and just do
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: whatever feels right, whereas girls would if.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: They didn't like a girl, potentially make the effort to
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: not invite someone. Yeah, guys don't really do it even
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: if we didn't like someone in the group, like properly
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: didn't like them, but still but they're still welcome to come.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah. True, there's no one that I can't stand to
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: a level of like I'm literally going to avoid.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like I'm going to change the events so they
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: can't come. Like, no guy would ever do that. They
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: they're just com and be like, hey man, they're not
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: talked about.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it. It's very weird. So have you got
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: what about you? Man? I do my man boy problem?
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: My life is.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: I think it's relatable because you've done it ever since
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: you started dating your girlfriend, and I think most people
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: in a relationship probably like do it. I'm going to
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: call it loving on a schedule. Is the first time
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: in my relationship that I've had to love on a schedule,
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: and I'm learning to do so that's not a.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: Bad thing by any means.
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: I'm just learning it and that it's what I'm dealing
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: with at the moment because my girlfriend got a new
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: job and she's actually working like eight till four Monday
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: to Thursday. Yep, completely fine, completely fine, go her like,
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: I don't care about that. And then she has like
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: her own life, yeah then she has Yeah, then then
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: she has her own life, and then like and then
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: we plan like things around that whereas before because our
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: lives like we do what we want.
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah we can. Really the beauty of our job
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: is that like, when you do have a relationship, you
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: can really mold your day around there. Yeah. The tricky
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: thing is, though, is if you do it a lot
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: and then you get to a point where I like,
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: I'm sick of molding my day around yours, just like wait,
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: can I even put my foot down exactly?
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: And beforehand, she had like a really early job at
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: a gym as a receptionist, so she was done by
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: eleven o'clock. Yeah, so but now she's working like full
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: days and she's tired, and then, like you said, she
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: has a full life, which I'm all for.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and she's like it's like.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: Learning to communicate when we're tired and make time and
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: quality time on the weekend. And it's just like I'm
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: just figuring out how I want to do that, and
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: that's what's going on in my life.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: That is that's that's funny. Yeah, And it's so yeah. Well,
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: so obviously like Monday to Thursday, it's not written off
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: to hang out, but you would hang out a lot
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: less now month from mondays Oh yeah, she's only just
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: started too, so I'm like she's got to settle and
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: like get so right now. It's the hardest, Yeah, she'd
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: be actually tired and stuff. I'm not I'm not complaining
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: like not seeing her at all anything like that, but
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: she's also like I don't expect to see her on
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: a Tuesday because she's tired, she wants She wakes up
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: the next day and goes to the gym at five
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: am and then goes to work. Fuck man, I can't
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: believe she does that day.
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like she's drowning and I'm proud of her, but
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: like it's also just like, oh, I've good, this is different.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: Figure out how to make this work. So you also
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: don't like it's like, yeah, you could say I'll come
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: stay at your place or whatever, but then yeah, if
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: she's getting up for five am to go to the gym,
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: because like you know, she's on the grind, then you're
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: up at five. And it's also tricky for our position
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: because our life is so multiple, we do a lot
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: of things. But it's also like I could do that,
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: but also also like it impacts my day, but my
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: day isn't set, like I don't have to be at
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: work at eight o'clock. See, I feel for that. I
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: think it's funny that you say that. I feel the same. Yeah,
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: and what I actually so for the longest time, I've
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: been really bad at like voicing, so like when I
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: don't know, like voicing that I really do want a routine.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: As much as it's like we say the nine to
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: five sucks, it's also like the routine's great. So like
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: nine to five for us is good because it's like
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: we're doing it because we want to do it right
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: and so on. Say, I think it was Monday. I
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: was like, they have this thing. I still have this thing.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: Even though we can work whenever we want, I still
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: have this thing that like Monday to Friday other work days,
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: and so this Monday just gone. On Sunday night, I
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: stayed at best place. We went out for dinner. It
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: was because it was the only day we could hang out.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: And so I was like, oh, well I'll stay the
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: night because I can. Yeah. I just feel like it'd
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: be fucked if I was like, no, I don't want
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: to even though I can.
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we can pretty much say yes to everything around
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: when we have to do our work around them, yeah, which.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: And it's like good but bad. Yeah, it's a champagne problem,
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: but it's also a problem. So I basically was in
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: my head like I need to. I was like i'd
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: like to because and so the reason why I was
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: in mead is because this year I've given myself the
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: goal of just wanting to fall in love with the
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: gym again. And so I have my routine now where
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: every day I'll wake up, go for a fifteen minute walk,
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: and then I do a little bit of work from
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: like eight till nine, have breakfast, do a little bit
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: more from nine till like ten forty five, then go
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: to the gym. I find a really like going on
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: the gym at eleven, and as soon as I get
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: home lunch because like, I don't want to go to
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: the gym and have like and then I ate lunch
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: straight away. And then on the days we record, as
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: soon as I'm done lunch, you come over to record
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: and then but other than that, I would just like
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: go edit or work more. And so this particular day
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: we weren't recording. It was just going to be like
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: a work day. And so on Monday, I didn't get
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: I had to drive home from Sydney. I didn't get
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: home until like maybe nine, but I had to go
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: grocery shoping because I didn't have any food and so
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: I was like, Fuck, my day isn't going to get
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: started until so so late. And I was like, you
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: know what, though having the flexibility means I could do
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: the same routine, but it's just like everything's going to
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: be pushed back a few hours. So I did that. Basically,
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: I just as soon as I got home, I did
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: the amount of work I would want to do, and
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: then I ate. So I just pushed everything back just
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: like that little bit further and it seemed to be fine. Yeah,
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: it is very good.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's also like setting boundaries for yourself and
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: your relationship. It was like, although I can make everything work, yeah,
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: like I don't have to.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: No, it's funny, isn't it. Maybe it's probably conversation like
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: that we should both have with that girlfriends Like I'm
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: not we could bring it up like I'm not having
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: this conversation with you to say that you've been doing
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: something wrong. Yeah, it's that I was molding everything around
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: you for so long and I don't know, I don't
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: want to do that anymore. It doesn't sound good. Don't
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: think that sounds good because it's like I'll still mold
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: stuff around you because I want to see you, but
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: at the same time it's like I'm I'm okay, not great,
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: but I don't know how I wouldn't say it like that.
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: I've been molding my life around you because I haven't been.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: It's because I also do what I want.
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: I think it would be more like setting up your
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: job how you want it to look, and then telling
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: her that this is my job, although it's very flexible,
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: this is how I like to work, yeah, true, yeah,
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: and then saying like, this is my schedule. I know
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: what yours is because your work is set, yeah, and
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: like let's work around both of our schedules together.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: Maybe that's better.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: It's probably is better, yeah, because like you do have
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: we do have routine, exact same thing, like the way
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: I like to edit a couple of hours in the
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: morning and everything like that. And then there's also days
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: where I'm like, oh fuck it, I'll just hang out
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: of you.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: It is so like tomorrow, for instance, Beth, she has
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: a day off Tomorrow and then she's working all Saturday,
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: and so this week, the only day I can see
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: her is all Friday. So I was like, well, look,
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: I'll just take all Friday off it as well, because
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: I can't. Yeah, And I mean, to be honest, thinking
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: about like it, I'm not worried about it, I guess, and.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: It is a very Champagne problem. But imagine, like so
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: I'm like trying to love on a schedule with how
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: I was a phrased it. Imagine like two people on
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: two separate city That's what I Yeah, I was just
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: thinking that at least we don't have a fucking schedule.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good point. Actually we're really winging about
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: nothing because like imagine someone that worked at a cafe
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: and then someone worked at a restaurant. Yeah, and their
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: schedules don't line up ever, and they don't have any flexibility.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: It's not like they can be like, oh, take Friday,
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: you're true. They can't just be like, yeah, you know what,
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: I will actually start three hours later for you. They can't.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: They'll get fucking fire. Yeah, exactly. That's tough. So me,
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: I wonder if there's any it's probably dilemma's in the
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: dilemmas about that, But if anyone's going through that, I'd
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: love to read a dilemma, and.
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: I think there would be heaps as well, also, like balancing,
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: Like we've talked about friends, jobs, and like prioritizing time
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: with your girlfriend when your schedule's alive, Like that'd be
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: that's so relatable.
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: So maybe what's something to take away from that? But
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: everyone's going through the same problems.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that your friends are if you haven't, Yeah, but
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: you're going in different ways.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: If you haven't problems with your friendships, You're not the
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: only one. It's okay, it's normal, yeah if.
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: You and I think it's also normal too, because even
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: I was just thinking in the back of my head,
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: I was like, are we going to sound like we're
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: fucking winching when we have a good job.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: I was like, it's okay to have a problem when
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: you're doing good. Yeah, to say, if you have a
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: champagne problem that you think is a champagne problem, it's
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: still a problem. Yeah, it's still problem to be a problem. Yeah.
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: If you're doing good and then you've got a problem,
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: it's it's still a valid problem in your life, exactly.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like you know, you built the life the way
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: you wanted it to be built. So if it's a
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: problem for you, it's a problem for you. Yeah, exactly.
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: Good takeaway. It's that time of the episode where we
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: read some of your dilemmas.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: You know what to do.
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: It is at the top of the description of this
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: episode or link in bio on Instagram.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: Scroll down.
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: It says weekly dilemmas and it's all anonymous because we
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: are idiots. That was clean off the tongue. You didn't
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: want to hear the episode, which corrupt I forgot what
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: to say.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: Okay, dilemma.
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: My boyfriend works twice a week at a daycare and
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: one of those shifts, a girl from school tries to
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: flirt with him.
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: Definitely a coworker.
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: A couple months ago, she managed to get his number
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: for something work related in brackets he didn't really explain
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: and has since slid into his DMS a lot now.
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: Occasionally he would mention some conversations of her to me
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: and show me texts that she has sent, and when
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: I say it's weird, it's very weird. It was blatantly
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: obvious that she was trying to flirt with him, and
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: yet for some reason, he continues to message her. There
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: was one conversation where he joked that he had her
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: number on speeddar because I have to be in a
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: low mood most of the time. When he does talk
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: to her. He seems to joke about the messages, but
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: I do let him know I'm not entirely comfortable. I
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: have told him that it's pretty obvious that this girl
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: is flirting and to block her. And he seems to
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: think that that will get him fired because the girl
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: is friendly with the boss. Am I wrong for asking
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: him to stop message her? Or is it okay since
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: it's a colleague. This has been very confusing for me.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: Damn son, Oh, I think that's completely disrespectful, very disrespectful.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: Like yeah, and the fact that he can't see it
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: with his two eyes, that's crazy. He doesn't care raing No, I.
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: Think he likes the attention.
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I think the excuse of get out of jail
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: free card and it's not the excuse of she's friendly
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: with the boss and that will get you fired. Is
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: literally like you could fucking sue the company. The boss
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: wouldn't do that. I guarantee you the boss isn't worried
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: about if you blocked her. Not if you're a good worker,
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: he's gonna be like, I'm not getting rid of him
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: because he blocked you. Get over it. So he's confident
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: that he's a good worker and worth the money that
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: they spend on him, and he can block it.
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: And I don't even think it needs to come down
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: to blocking, because maybe that scene is a little bit toxic,
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: but your boyfriend should just be like, oh, I'm sorry,
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to talk to anymore, leave the number
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: in the phone, and just never reply unless it's work related. Like,
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: I also don't think it needs to come to a
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: block to be comfortable in their relationship. But this guy's
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: obviously lost your trust by doing this action.
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what was that little thing? Remember? Remember that the
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: ted talk you brought once about little things of trust?
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, what was that around? Good question, man, long time.
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: That was a long time ago. Trust trust, trust, Come on.
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: It was like you think it was that how to
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: gain trust again? Feed me, feed me? And I remember
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: being like, there was little things that can break trust, right,
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: So like, let's say that you and I are dating
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: and I'm trying to have a conversation with you and
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: you're on your phone and you realize I'm trying to
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: talk to you, but you're still on your phone and
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: you don't really hear what I say. So I'm like,
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: what did I say? And you say I don't know. Yeah,
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: So it's like little things like that are going to
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: make me lose trust that I can't even fucking talk
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: to you while you're on your phone, because I also
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: don't trust that you're gonna get off your phone when
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: I start talking, so I'm not valuable. Yeah. And it's like,
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: you don't you don't want to sound dramatic, but like,
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: I guess, yeah, that's no. I think I think that's
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: a really good point, just the fact that he's making
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: it seem like such a minuscule thing talking to a colleague,
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: and like he said, it was just the word colleague,
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: like like there's not a big deal when it is
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: a big deal. Yeah, And he's sort of invalidating your
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: emotions by saying that because there's this extra scenario, there's
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: a colleague where in reality he should be doing way better. Yeah.
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: I find I find it hard to give benefit of
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: the doubt in these situations. A like I am trying
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: to think here. I think Beth said to me once,
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: I don't know what what the situation was, right, I
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: have a feeling we it was just like a maybe
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: a friend of hers or something, and or it was
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: like a dilemma. I can't fully remember. Maybe she listened
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: to an episode it was a dilemma and it was like, oh,
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: my boyfriend, he said to me, he's not one hundred
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: percent sure how he's feeling right now. I don't know
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: if Beth is just like mega strong minded in this way,
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: but she was like, if you said that to me,
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: I would just break up with you because if you don't, like,
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: if I know that you don't love me as much
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: as I love you, and like I know where my
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: value's at, Like, if you're just going to disrespect me,
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: then I would just break up with you, Like it's
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: no brainer. I think that is a very strong mindset. Yeah.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: I think a lot of people like that. No, but
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: when she but I also like if Beth was to
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: come to me and be like check, I don't know
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: how I'm feeling and be like, oh, well I'll make
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: this easy for you, you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah,
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: I think that's why you work well together. Yeah, but yeah,
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: I see where you're going. I think, And like, if
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: Beth was had this guy at her work that I
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: was like, I had the strongest feeling was flirting with
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: her and then got her number and she was like
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: always always texting him and then would make jokes of
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: like when I'm in a bad mood, She's like, this
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: is the reason why I've got James Dunber on speed dial.
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: What the fuck? Yeah, I was going to say.
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: What she should do is be like to her boyfriend,
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: you've crossed the boundary here. Yeah, like you're starting to
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: lose my trust or you've lost my trust. Yeah, I'm
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: not going to give you an ulterior automotive you know
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: what to do.
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not going to give you an automatum. That's stupid.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: I'm just not comfortable with this. So and then see
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: what he does.
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: Then if he's like it's just a colleague again, then
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: be like, fuck you, I'm putting myself first.
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: True, it's a hard thing to do, but I think
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: he should do it. Yeah.
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And he's just like he's just trading you, like
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: the dirt under your shoe. He is, you voiced how
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: you feel, and he just like keeps doing it. That's
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: like just rubbing salt in the wound.
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like even though he could argue all day that
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: technically he's not like you know, doing he's not like
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: cheating or anything like that that's just because he's not
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: cheating doesn't mean he's not doing the wrong thing.
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, And I think that's relatable. Is like so
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: many relationships have all these problems that it faced value
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: might seem miniscule, Yeah, but they're not, like because society
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: has told you that that's just always just a collie,
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: Like all these problems should be like just brushed under
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: the door mat or whatever, Like they actually do have
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: a lot of value, and like, yeah, I think your
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: emotions are completely valid, very valid.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: Maybe you should maybe you should just start messaging it, dude,
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: fight fire with fire, Like your boyfriend is very clearly
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: like he's pushing you away. Yeah, like anyone from an
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: outside perspective hearing what you just your dilemma would say
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: that he's pushing you away, and like you're getting pushed
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: away even though you don't want to be pushed away.
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: So very like eventually, like obviously you still look at
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: him as like, oh, but like the guy fell in
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: love with which is so fair, and so eventually you're
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: going to realize you're being pushed away and then you're
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: gonna let it happen, and then you're gonna do this.
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: So I reckon. Yeah, you just put your foot down. Yeah,
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: I think put your foot down to I have one
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: from a male to do with our Boys episode. I'm
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: a twenty three year old guy who's looking for a girlfriend.
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: I've been single since I was twenty and never had
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: the chance to meet someone new. I've been on and
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: off dating apps, but it probably just doesn't work for me.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: Plus I don't have many friends and no social life
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: for whatsoever. I don't have any specific hobby or interest
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: that lead me to new people. So how can I
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: possibly find a girl? I want a serious relationship? Thanks?
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: Ah? No, man, Okay, we can help this guy out
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: heaps so much.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: First, my first initial thought is like, right now, is
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: it a good time to get a girlfriend? No? Not
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: at all.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the way you described like you said, I have
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: no likes, no hobbies, your mindset towards those things isn't
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: very good. Let's flip that you can get a new hobby,
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: find out what you like, get your passion, find your spark,
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: become the independent king that you are, ye, and then
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: the girl will come. But if you're in this state
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: of I'm not going to say you're miserable, but like
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: in this state of like unknowingness, Like that's not where
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: you should be going into a relationship.
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: From agreed, I couldn't agree more so.
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: I think you need to find your spark. And then
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: it's cliche, but like your girls and girlfriends come when
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: you least expect it.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: It's weird and it's like or actually, well remember this,
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: you're you know, you went to therapy because you felt
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: like you didn't need it. And there's a very popular
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: saying out there that the best time to go to
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: therapy is when you feel like you don't need it. Honestly,
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: the best time to have a girlfriend is when you
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: are in love with yourself and feel like you don't
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: need it. Yes, and then what it will happen and
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: you're this healthy version of yourself. Like I don't want
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: to say you're not healthy, but you know, it seems
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: like from that small word, of the small amount of
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: words you've given us, it's like, so you don't have
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: a group of friends, you don't have a so you
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: don't have any interests, So that would kind of translate
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: you don't probably don't really have any passions, so maybe
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: there's just like not much of you right now? Yeah,
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: you you want to try and build yourself.
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: Well, I think also what Jake said before, how him
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: and Beth if they said they'd lost feelings would just
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: break up with you. That's because they're a strong, independent person.
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: But if you go into a relationship with the mindset
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: I want a girlfriend or I want a boyfriend, when
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: you get in it, your mindset will be like I'll
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: do anything to make this work.
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And that's semi toxic. It's not great because it
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: just gives that other person all this power. Yeah, and
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: it just.
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: Gets like I was just like, Okay, I'll make everything work,
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: Like yeah, that's fine, Like.
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: I'm all for fighting for a relationship, yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: but you both need to be putting the same amount
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: of effort in yeah and yeah, Like the way you're
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: talking is kind of just like very I guess.
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: The way you're talking is you're fifty percent of the
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: person you have potential to be, and you're looking for
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: the other fifty percent in a girlfriend, where in reality,
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: a relationship is one hundred percent of a person going
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: to another one hundred percent of a person.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, hundred percent.
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: So you've got time you say it was twenty three
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: or twenty three, you got mate your time problem.
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: It takes fucking six months to find yourself. Yeah. Fuck,
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: I mean I just say, like, doesn't have to be
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: the gym, doesn't have to be fitness or anything. I
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: would just say, like, unless you want it to be.
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: But I don't know, just I find falling in love
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: with It could be anything, even though like a lot
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: of girls don't like it. It can be gaming these girls
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: out there that love gaming. If you love gaming, it
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: could be gaming. If you like you surely you love something.
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like even if you're not great at a basketball,
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: like running, like pick up anything.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: It's it's a yeah, there's something attractive about someone that's
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: like just I don't know all there. It's also when
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: you hit about twenty twenty two, twenty three, twenty four, it's.
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: Also nice to go pick up old hobbies you used
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: to like and see if you still like them.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: Like I had a year or two off soccer, and
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: when I came back for that first year, I really
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: enjoyed myself. Like it wasn't for the long run, but
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: I had a year I was like, oh, this is
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: still fun.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: You had had a couple of years off Fortnite maw.
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, that's it exactly.
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: I come.
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: But you're you go through a little phases in your life.
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: And if you used to like something and maybe you're
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: struggling for a hobby, be like, may well, I used
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: to like playing chess.
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, let's go back to chess. Whatever it is. Yeah,
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: I don't care anything. It could be anything. Time to
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: maybe laugh at our gender, yeah, which is we like
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: to do everything.
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: Let's poke fun and laugh.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: Let's poke fun and laugh. And I don't know it.
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: I feel like it's the healthiest. Yeah, it is the
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: healthiest thing.
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: And actually it could help out ten percent of male
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: listeners maybe true.
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you never know. So this is things guys wear
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: that a cringe because if anyone needs help with fashion,
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: it's men.
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: And so we get these on Instagram, and I was
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: scrolling through them quite a lot, thank you very much.
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: There was a lot, and I was thinking to myself
• 41:53
  Speaker 2: when I was scrolling, I was like, I can't wear
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: fucking anything, That's what I was thinking. And then I
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: was also thinking.
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: I was like, wait a sec. These girls are very smart.
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: Do they want us to be naked? Fact, that's such
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: a good point. Because I was looking I was like,
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: I can't wear fucking socks. I can't wear the most
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: popular one. Things guys wear that a cringe skinny jeans.
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: There was I reckon. There was at least two thousand responses.
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: Ninety percent of them were skinny jeans.
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: Okay, that was way more than two thousand rolled. There
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: was heaps. Yeah, and I would like to say Jake
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: was a bit of a pioneer of the old baggy jeans,
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: and I wasn't too far behind.
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: No, no, we're on the baggy jean now.
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: I saw one said cargoes, but fuck you, I'm around.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: No. Cargoes are good. Yeah, cargoes are good. That's what
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: I was like. I saw a couple of people contradicting themselves.
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: It's like, let's get on the same level here, girls. Okay,
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: but these are the ones I pretty much agree with too. Okay, cool?
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: Oh I chose ones that I don't even really h
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: things guys wear that are cringe. Black Nike socks pulled
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: halfway up to their calves with white air Force ones.
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: Oh facts, bro, Yeah, I can be on board with
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: that one.
• 43:02
  Speaker 2: It's like their mom's got their fashion, like air Forces
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: and some socks for Christmas.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: Oh my god. Things guys wear that a cringe, the
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: forbidden shorts and in brackets, it says the girls know, oh, I.
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: Know exactly what they are. Cheese grater jeans. That's what
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: the ford are. Those ones with like that weird little
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: jagged pattern on them.
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I hate that. That's what.
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure that's what the forbidden I hate. Yeah,
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: I hate them too, Oh my god. Things guys wear
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: to the cringe.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: Chain necklaces, Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm fully fully on
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: board with it.
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: Takes like a certain top of man to be able
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: a rock a chain necklace, and most of them are.
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a that's a good one. Things guys wear
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: that a cringe. Crocs.
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: They're comfortable and they're functional, very practical.
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: You can put that, put them into famall drive and
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: you can do active.
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: That'd be my beach shoe. It's been hot the sand,
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: yeah flow yeah.
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: Do you think about the practicality. You can get them
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: wet and they'll be dry and no time.
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: Exactly, mate, surely they didn't say lightning the queen crocs
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: just cross, Yeah, yeah, exactly cross.
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: I got a one of a kind.
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: Mate. Things guys wear that a cringe wearing loafers with
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: no socks. Loafers with no socks, So your shoes these
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: are a mule.
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: I would call that a loafer. No, No, do you
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: know what a loafer is? I thought that was a loafer. No,
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: I have a pair of loafers in my closet. They're
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: a proper shoe's And I know what they mean. A
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: loafer is like a full leather shoe, like a fool
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: like you slip it in and it's like, I took loafers,
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: show your shoe. These are a mule. I thought that
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: was what they were talking about. Well, here's the funny
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: thing is things guys wear that a cringe birken stock.
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: I'm literally wearing socks. I thought girls love that. No,
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: apparently they're allowed to wear them, but not.
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: I thought that were nice things guys wear that the
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: cringe low sock.
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: I've got ankle socks here, and why why can't I
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: wear ankle socks? Boy? I posted a story one time
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: Beth and I went to the gym together and we
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: did a leg date, and I posted a story of me.
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: I was walking down some stairs and I was struggling
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: because it's hard to go downstairs once you've done a
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: leg day And she was filming me and I was
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: wearing ankle socks and someone replied to my think ankle
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: socks ick? Yeah? What I was like, why?
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, No, we're not talking about those sockets. We're just
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: talking about ankle socks. Yeah.
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: I don't understand either. I have to say I threw
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: all mine now, but yeah, you know what I've literally,
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: I've not given a shit. I still have them. I
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: wear them good on you. Yeah. Things guys wear that
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: a cringe. Sports jerseys, I can see that. Yeah. I
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: don't ever unless it's like a cool like vintage one.
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I swear no, wait, wait a minute, wait
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: a minute. What's with all these girls going to BTV
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: Lost Paradise, all these festivals and they're wearing soccer jerseys?
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, explain that.
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: I'm going to go up to her name one player
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: from that.
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, explain that girl, explain that they look good. Let
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: us wear a jersey if we want to wear.
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: The jersey goes a long way. I've seen them around.
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just because you look hot at them. Things.
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: Guys wear that a cringe. Speedo's Oh my god, come on,
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: I agree.
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: Spears at the beach.
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: No, that's a no, I remember because we had we
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: used to row together. Yes, people didn't know that the
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: first time. That's like the first time I rock speedos.
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: At least you have a purpose there so you don't
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: feel as cringe and you're with a couple of guys
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: that are wearing speeds and you got to like put
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: a fucking g banger up when.
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: It is the most embarrassing thing when you're about to
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: jump in the boat and they're like, okay, wet the
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: seat and pull them up your ears.
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah weir they I really think, I know, like it's
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: in the water. Sure they can make like a system
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: where you like roll on like a Bally system old
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: boats did, yeah, instead of it's all like fiberglass. Yeah weird,
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: But I've I've got to agree with Speedoska.
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: Things guys wear that a cringe. The barely their mustache,
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: I think I can pass. I think mine passes zoom
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: in on yours. So here's I've been thinking about this,
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: like someone told me to die my musta because I
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: have like a lot of hair there. Yeah, but it's
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: just quite blonde like white ones. Yes, So I was
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: at the start people were telling me to die this.
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: I think I've I've waited it out long.
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: Ye, no, yours is good? Should I die in mind guys?
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: Or just shave it off? Wait? I would wait segment
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: in real life, segment on the pod. Shave it off diet.
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good idea, but you gotta leave it
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: on for like three minutes and ago. Maybe I should
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: what colors die?
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: Let's get like. I don't think we could go to
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: the barber shop and they do it for you.
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: That'd be kind of cool.
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, get someone, we get ash, Yeah, barber in Yeah,
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: it's get him on the pod. I don't know if
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: they die the censer. I actually think you'd need a hairdresser.
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: I don't know if barber's die hair Maybe we could
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: ask your head already.
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: Things guys wear that a cringe. Oversized pinky rings?
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: Why god? I mean I don't have a pinky ring.
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: So I was thinking the one on your finger, if that.
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: Was on your pinky, oh like a chunky Yeah if
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: I had, If this was, if this only fit on
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: my pinky, I would wear it on my pinky. I'm
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: tell you that right now. I've got to agree.
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: What so I don't think the pinky is a place
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: for a ring.
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: I disagree.
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: Okay, you're entitled to your opinion, man, you're entired to
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: your opinion.
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: Things guys wear that a cringe any designer bum bag
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: unless you're in balley and it's got fake one, Like
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: you're allowed to rock it because it's experience. But if
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: you're around here like just rocking and putting your phone
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: in there and stuff. Yeah, I don't care about the
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: functionality argument either. It's also not a flex. Men have pockets. Yeah,
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: we have pockets for a reason. It's also not a
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: flex someone has like a Gucci bot. It's not a flex.
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: It is not a by one that works. Also, if
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: someone's wearing a Gucci shirt and it's the ugliest shirt ever,
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: that's not a flex. Yeah. No, I don't care that
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: you can afford a Gucci shirt. I would think it's
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: better if you just knew how to dress like.
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: I think that's more valuable. Yeah, okay, this is my
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: last one.
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: Okay, I got a couple more after things guys wear
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: the cringe nose rings, not gonna lie. When I was younger,
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: I wanted one.
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: I've gone through phases why I've wanted one to.
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: I am glad I never got it. Yeah, rememb when
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: JJ got one, did he JJ got a nose It
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: wasn't a ring, it was a nose stud. You remember that,
• 49:28
  Speaker 1: I'm not JJ got a no stud, And I remember.
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: Should we get them to get it back, he wouldn't
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: do it. We'd have to pay him like money to
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: do it, because we have to pay for it and
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: get paying money.
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: I would love to pierce my ears, but I just
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: don't think I have the complexion for it. And I'm
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: too long and skinny.
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: I've got to be like bulky and like pierced. It
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: wouldn't suit me. Yeah, and tanned. Some people can rock
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: a good pieced ibrower. But also just for some reason,
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: we'd look like goths. Things guys wear that are cringe
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: testosterone injections. What how's that cringe?
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: I guess bodybuilders a cringe. Oh, I see, like I
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: understand the where she's looking from.
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Like the people who take and they look terrible.
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: I'm telling you, once I hit like thirty five, I'm
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: going straight onto your people that take it.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: They are wearing a designer bump back. Oh yeah, oh yeah,
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: and the fucking maybe they're wearing like what are they
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: called loafers without socks?
• 50:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: Things guys wear that a cringe. Underwear with holes in them.
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: You don't see them. Why is that your problem? They're comfortable,
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: uneas you're expensive.
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, underwear are expensive.
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: I went the Coles had a fifty percent of sale
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: on Bonds like two days ago, and I bought two packs.
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: It was still like twenty.
• 50:55
  Speaker 2: Two dollars or something. Really, I was like, Bonds, let's
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: get in the undie business.
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that there's that brand. Step one, let's make it.
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: Let's make some mondays. They're like, now, let's go upper echelon. Actually,
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: let's go with this upper echelon word.
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: Let's go premium. You don't know, whats up means like
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: hid the highest of quality. When you say that, you
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: can say upper echelon. Yeah, so this is going off
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: a Patreon conversation if you guys don't.
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: Know things guys wear that a cringe? This one, I
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: kind of I might be on board with it. A
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: guitar bag in public. Yeah, it's so niche. Though.
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: I thought they might like that we plays guitar got one.
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: It would be a funny video, like we go to
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: get a guitar case.
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: From like I don't know, Vinnie's or something. Yeah, some
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: business Saint Vincent's Paul. And then go make a video
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: of you, like just walking around and see you get
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: any girls just like something.
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: You know, it's a deterrent we have to see. It's
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: a deterrent scientific experiment o case my last one. Things
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: guys wear that are cringe an ego that is bigger
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: than their capabilities. Very cringe. That's very good, and most
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: of them don't have many capabilities, but they think they do. Hey,
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: it's because they chain necklace.
• 52:15
  Speaker 2: Knows bring like eyebrow thing, ego, ego facts. It's like
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: putting on an ego.
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: You need a big ego to try and rock them.
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, sorry if we ros some people, it
• 52:26
  Speaker 2: is what it is.
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: Some people need to be called out. I'm not happy.
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: I'll keep wearing them. I don't care. I know what
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: I like. Yeah, yeah, okay, we've got something new to
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: finish the episode. Guys, Very very exciting.
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: You might have picked on that we are trying to
• 52:44
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• 52:47
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• 52:50
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• 52:53
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• 52:56
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• 53:01
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• 53:11
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• 53:13
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• 53:15
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• 53:26
  Speaker 2: because we talk about him quite a lot of.
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• 53:30
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• 53:34
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