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237. Transurfing | Winning the Pendulum Game · The Kathie Owen Perspective Podcast

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  Have you ever felt pulled into drama you didn't even wanna be part of?
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  Like one minute, you're minding your own business and the next you are sucked into gossip, politics, or somebody else's chaos.
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  That my friend is what vadim Zealand.
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  In Reality Transurfing calls a pendulum.
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  We are gonna talk about that today.
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  You're listening to Kathie's Coaching podcast.
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  I'm your host, Kathie Owen.
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  So what is a pendulum?
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  No, I'm not talking about the thing that swings inside a clock.
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  A pendulum is an invisible energy structure and it's created when a group of people focus on the same idea, belief or conflict.
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  Think of it like this.
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  Politics?
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  Pendulum.
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  Office gossip?
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  Pendulum.
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  Hustle culture?
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  Pendulum.
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  Even your favorite sports team?
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  Yep.
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  A pendulum.
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  Pendulums are like shadows.
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  They don't have minds, they don't have hearts, and they don't have intentions.
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  They just exist and they live off of one thing.
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  Your energy.
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  And here's the spooky part, you can't actually defeat a pendulum.
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  Zealand says it like this.
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  You can never get the better of a pendulum just as you can never outrun your own shadow.
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  Ouch.
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  That means the moment you fight it, you've already lost.
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  See, pendulums don't care if you are for them or against them.
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  They don't care if you're cheering or booing.
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  The fact that you're reacting at all.
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  That's food, that's energy, and that's how they survive.
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  By the way, did you know that I include a blog post on every episode that includes bonus resources and more?
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  I hope to see you there.
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  Back to the episode.
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  So, let me give you an example.
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  Say you work in an office where gossip runs wild.
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  Everyone whispers about who's getting promoted, who messed up, or who's slacking off.
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  You tell yourself you won't get involved, but then a coworker pulls you aside and says, did you hear what happened with Susan?
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  Boom, you are in the game.
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  Even if you say, I don't wanna talk about it, you've still given energy.
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  You leave work drained, anxious, frustrated, and guess who's smiling in the background?
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  The pendulum.
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  So what do you do?
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  Vadim Zealand says, you've got two choices.
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  Abandon the game.
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  Stop feeding the pendulum.
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  Withdraw your energy completely.
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  No reaction, no resistance.
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  Walk away or become the pendulum's favorite.
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  This one's kind of unique.
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  Use its momentum to your advantage.
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  Ride the energy instead of fighting it.
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  That's where the magic happens.
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  Now becoming the favorite doesn't mean you're selling your soul.
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  It means aligning the pendulum's energy with your own goals.
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  Say your company is obsessed with hustle culture.
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  Everyone brags about working 70 hour weeks.
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  You could get sucked into it and burn out, fight against it, and complain.
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  Or you could ride the wave you position yourself as the person who gets incredible results without the burnout.
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  You become the example of smart productivity.
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  You're no longer resisting.
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  You are redirecting, and suddenly the pendulum is working for you, not against you.
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  Here's another example from sports fandom.
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  When a football team wins, the city goes crazy.
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  The pendulum is massive, collective and powerful.
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  When the team loses, the pendulum still gets fed through outrage, blame and anger, but the wise fan.
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  They enjoy the game without letting their emotions get hijacked.
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  They play along without being controlled.
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  That's what it looks like to dance with a pendulum without getting trapped.
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  So how do you handle pendulums in everyday life?
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  I'm so glad you asked.
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  First of all, you notice the hook when you feel triggered or pulled into conflict.
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  Pause and ask, is this a pendulum?
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  Number two, drop importance.
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  The more serious you take it, the more energy you feed it lighten up.
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  Shrug it off.
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  And number three, float.
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  Don't fight.
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  Fighting feels heavy, floating feels light and keeps you in the flow.
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  Step aside and let the pendulum swing right past.
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  Number four, and one of my favorites is use humor.
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  Pendulums do not like humor.
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  Laugh at the situation.
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  And its grip dissolves.
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  And number five, redirect your energy.
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  Focus on your own venture, your work, your health, your creativity.
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  Build something so strong that pendulums fade into the background noise.
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  So here's the truth.
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  Pendulums are not going away.
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  They're shadows.
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  They will always be there.
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  But here's the good news.
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  You don't need to outrun them.
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  You don't need to defeat them.
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  You just need to wake up, step aside and play your own game because the pendulum is just a shadow.
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  But you, you are the source of light.
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  So the next time you fill that pull, whether it's gossip, politics, hustle, culture, or sports teams or anything else, remember, you don't have to feed the pendulum.
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  You can choose differently, and that choice is your freedom.
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  All right, that's my episode for today.
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  I trust that you found it helpful, and if you know someone who can benefit from this, please share it with them.
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  And until next time, I will see you next time.
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  Peace out and Namaste.