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10. Apgriaraha: Detachment as Ultimate Freedom · Lately with Lexi

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to Through the Veil,
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  where we explore the weekly themes I'm teaching in my yoga
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  classes and workshops.
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  SPEAKER_00: This week, we're diving into the fifth yama in Patanjali's Yoga Sutras.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we are completing our journey through the five yamas.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today's final yama is aparigraha,
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  which is the practice of detachment and really the freedom that
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  comes from letting
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  SPEAKER_00: go.
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  So over the past four weeks now,
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  we've explored ahimsa,
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  which is nonviolence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Satya,
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  SPEAKER_00: which is truthfulness,
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  SPEAKER_00: Asteria,
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  SPEAKER_00: which is living from abundance and Brahmacharya,
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  SPEAKER_00: which is energy conservation.
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  I'll link all of those previous episodes in the show notes in
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  case you are catching up.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the thing I want to share about yogic philosophy that I love.
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  SPEAKER_00: These yamas are practical to implement into our daily lives.
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  They're really the foundation for cultivating fulfillment and
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  inner peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ultimately, these are two things that we all desire at our core, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We all want to feel more fulfilled.
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  SPEAKER_00: We all want to feel more peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what this is all about.
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  SPEAKER_00: So Aparigraha invites us to ask ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: what am I holding onto that might actually be holding me back?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now,
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  SPEAKER_00: this yama comes from Sanskrit,
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  SPEAKER_00: like all of the yamas,
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  SPEAKER_00: and the literal translation is non-grasping or non-possessing.
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  SPEAKER_00: So in the Yoga Sutras,
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  SPEAKER_00: Patanjali says,
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  SPEAKER_00: "...when non-possessiveness is firmly established,
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  SPEAKER_00: knowledge of the why and wherefore of existence arises."
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, what does that mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well,
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  SPEAKER_00: essentially,
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  SPEAKER_00: when we stop grasping,
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  SPEAKER_00: when we release our tight grip on the things that we desire,
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  SPEAKER_00: we start to gain clarity about our true nature and our purpose,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: what's really authentic to us.
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  SPEAKER_00: So aparigraha includes non-greed,
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  SPEAKER_00: non-attachment,
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  SPEAKER_00: non-hoarding,
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  SPEAKER_00: also encompasses simplicity,
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  SPEAKER_00: generosity,
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  SPEAKER_00: and sustainability.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's not about having nothing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about requiring less.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about holding lightly what we do have.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's also about recognizing that possessions can actually possess us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about it.
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  They require our time,
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  our energy,
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  our attention,
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  maintenance,
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  mental bandwidth.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I could go on and on.
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  And here's where this practice becomes especially relevant in
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  just the busy modern
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  SPEAKER_00: world that we live in today.
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  We all know we are living in an age of consumerism and also
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  instant gratification.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Amazon same-day delivery,
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  SPEAKER_00: countdown timers pressuring us to add things to our cart,
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  SPEAKER_00: Uber Eats bringing food to our door in minutes.
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  We have been so conditioned to believe that just because I want
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  something,
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  SPEAKER_00: I should have it and I should have it now.
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  SPEAKER_00: But at what cost?
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  SPEAKER_00: We're drowning in stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're suffocating under the weight of our own accumulation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not always, but often.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're exhausted by this sense of more and trying to maintain it all,
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  SPEAKER_00: store it all,
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  SPEAKER_00: manage it all,
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  also earning enough to afford it all and for many living beyond
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  our means.
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  And it's this never-ending race to the bottom keeping us stuck
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  on autopilot and
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  SPEAKER_00: also oftentimes preventing us from truly feeling our feelings.
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  So often we start to acquire more when we're avoiding feeling
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  something that is
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  SPEAKER_00: uncomfortable,
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  SPEAKER_00: whether that's pain,
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  SPEAKER_00: fear,
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  SPEAKER_00: sadness.
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  SPEAKER_00: We will just buy something, retail therapy or...
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  SPEAKER_00: gosh,
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  SPEAKER_00: now I even see like on commercials on like Amazon Prime,
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  you can be in the middle of a commercial and you can click a
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  button and it'll add
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  SPEAKER_00: whatever the commercial is selling to your Amazon account.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it's crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what I wanted to share is a quick personal story.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I experienced something firsthand that
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  SPEAKER_00: earlier this year when I was living in France.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I stayed in the smallest apartment of my entire adult life.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was 35 meters squared.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that is roughly like 375 square feet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know what I discovered?
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  SPEAKER_00: Less created space for so much more.
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  SPEAKER_00: There was so much more presence in my life being in such a small space.
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  SPEAKER_00: I felt more creative.
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  SPEAKER_00: I felt a lot more freedom.
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  SPEAKER_00: I found myself going out a lot more and exploring the world around me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't buying as many things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Heck, I had a mini fridge.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I could only have a few things in the fridge at a time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is a part of European culture that I absolutely love.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I've taken that with me, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Smaller homes,
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  SPEAKER_00: less storage,
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  SPEAKER_00: intentional consumption,
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  SPEAKER_00: quality over quantity,
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  walking to local markets instead of buying in bulk at a
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  warehouse store where you
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  might have things expire or go bad before you even have the
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  opportunity to use it
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  SPEAKER_00: all.
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  Or you just shove it in the back of your closet or cabinet and
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  you totally forget
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  SPEAKER_00: about it,
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  SPEAKER_00: right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Also,
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  SPEAKER_00: another thing I absolutely loved about my time in France was slow,
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  SPEAKER_00: long meals and lunches,
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  SPEAKER_00: savoring meals instead of just convenience eating.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I got back to the US,
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  SPEAKER_00: I brought these practices with me,
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  SPEAKER_00: living with less,
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  SPEAKER_00: even when I have had access to more.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it has been so incredibly freeing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll never forget when we moved from,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: one bedroom apartment in downtown Nashville to a three bedroom home.
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  SPEAKER_00: I cannot tell you how quickly we accumulated so much stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like we furnished every single room.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was gorgeous, but we really didn't need all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we ended up,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: moving and selling a lot of our stuff and donating a lot of our stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then, you
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's really changed things now,
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  SPEAKER_00: having moved into a bigger place again,
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  SPEAKER_00: to just really not want more than I need.
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  I love actually spending time outside of my home and meeting
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  people in the community.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's an effort that I've personally brought into my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think it's really relevant to what we're talking about this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: So
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  Here's what I want you to understand about this concept of
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  non-attachment.
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  So from a spiritual and yogic perspective,
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  in yogic philosophy,
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  nothing truly belongs to us.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are temporary stewards of everything we think that we own.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't own our possessions.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't own
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  SPEAKER_00: people.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't even permanently own these bodies that we're walking around in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything is impermanent.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is something all the sages and yogis understood and understand.
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  So trying to hold on to things,
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  trying to make the temporary permanent,
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  it creates suffering.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Buddha taught this.
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  SPEAKER_00: The yogis understood this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when we forget this, we grasp, we cling, we hoard.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in that grasping, we lose our freedom.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, the ego does a funny thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ego loves to identify with what we have.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I am what I own.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am my achievements.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am my title.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am my house.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am this political affiliation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am my car.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am my perfect manicure.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am my Instagram following.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am the money in my bank account.
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  But this final yama,
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  this practice of non-attachment dissolves these false
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  identifications and
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  SPEAKER_00: And it reveals that we are not our possessions.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are so much more than what we have and what we've accumulated.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's an important distinction.
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  SPEAKER_00: So detachment does not mean indifference.
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  SPEAKER_00: It does not mean not caring.
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  SPEAKER_00: Detachment means caring deeply while holding lightly.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we can love without possessing.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can work passionately without being attached to specific outcomes.
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  SPEAKER_00: This has been such a big shift in my own life personally,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially when I was living in France because I
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  SPEAKER_00: you know, I had to make this shift.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was such a shedding of,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: my identity where previously I had wrapped up my identity so much
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  tying it to my work and my accomplishments and the companies
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  that I supported and
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  SPEAKER_00: the growth that I've made.
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  And in France and in French culture,
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  you don't really talk about work that much.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not a part of the normal conversation.
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  And it's so freeing when you finally get this that our
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  identity,
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  it's just not these things.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's so much more than that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And listen,
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  you can have preferences without demanding that they manifest
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  exactly as we
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  SPEAKER_00: envision.
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  SPEAKER_00: So attachment says, you know, it must be this way or else I'll suffer.
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  SPEAKER_00: And detachment says, you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: I prefer this, but I'm okay either way.
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  SPEAKER_00: I trust the unfolding.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when we stop grasping, we discover abundance.
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  SPEAKER_00: The tighter we grip, the less we actually have.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when we open our hands,
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  SPEAKER_00: literally and metaphorically,
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  SPEAKER_00: we start to create more space to actually receive,
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  SPEAKER_00: receive what's truly authentic and right for us.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this connects us directly back to a stadia from a few weeks ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: So non-stealing taught us about enoughness.
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  SPEAKER_00: Non-grasping really deepens that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what would happen if you let go?
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  SPEAKER_00: What would become available when you release your grip?
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  SPEAKER_00: On our yoga mat,
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  SPEAKER_00: this can show up as releasing attachments to achieving a certain pose,
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  SPEAKER_00: towards perfecting a certain arm balance,
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  SPEAKER_00: and letting go of comparison to others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Accepting that every time we step onto our mat, it's different.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're different,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially as women,
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  SPEAKER_00: the time of the month,
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  we're going to feel very different in our body and on the mat
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  at different times
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  SPEAKER_00: throughout the month.
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  SPEAKER_00: And,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: Shavasana is the ultimate practice of letting go,
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  SPEAKER_00: lying there,
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  SPEAKER_00: releasing control,
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  SPEAKER_00: just surrendering completely.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is this why I love yoga so much?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's just such a metaphor for the
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  SPEAKER_00: journey and the experience as a mystic and as spiritual seeker.
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  SPEAKER_00: And off the mat, this shows up everywhere, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We grasp at possessions.
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  SPEAKER_00: We hoard resources out of fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: We try to control outcomes.
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  We hold on to relationships that have ended or we've received
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  all that we could
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  SPEAKER_00: receive out of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We cling to old identities that no longer serve us.
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  SPEAKER_00: We accumulate stuff we don't need,
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  SPEAKER_00: we don't use,
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  SPEAKER_00: or we don't even like,
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  SPEAKER_00: and then we're afraid to let it go.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what's at the root of all of this grasping?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, it's fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fear of scarcity,
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  SPEAKER_00: fear of lack,
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  SPEAKER_00: fear of not having enough,
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  SPEAKER_00: fear of not being enough,
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  SPEAKER_00: fear of impermanence and loss,
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  SPEAKER_00: right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You could probably say that all of this comes down to the fear of death,
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  SPEAKER_00: which,
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  SPEAKER_00: side note,
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't think we talk about death enough,
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  SPEAKER_00: and it's definitely a topic I want to cover because I think...
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  SPEAKER_00: There's just so much beauty in that conversation.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I digress, but we'll definitely get back to that at some point.
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  So this week,
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  I want to invite you and me and all of us to sit with a couple
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  questions.
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  Ask yourself,
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  what are you holding on to that's actually holding you back?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where in your life is attachment creating suffering?
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  How much of your identity is tied to what you own or what you
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  do or what you've achieved?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what would simplicity create space for in your life?
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  SPEAKER_00: Take time to journal around these prompts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Notice when you're wanting to buy something,
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  SPEAKER_00: for example,
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  or control an outcome or hold on to something that is just
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  beyond ready to be
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  SPEAKER_00: released.
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  SPEAKER_00: Awareness is the beginning of true liberation.
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  so this yama it's a practice like all of the yamas it's a
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  gentle ongoing process of
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  releasing and opening so i wanted to share three ways you can
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  start to integrate
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  non-attachment and this wisdom into your life so the first is
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  very simple and it's
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  SPEAKER_00: practicing physical simplicity so start small
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  SPEAKER_00: Let go of one thing, maybe every day this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be something in your closet you haven't worn in a year.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be a kitchen item you never use.
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  It could be books gathering dust,
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  papers creating clutter,
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  like whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't just throw these things away, like give them away, donate them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as you let go, notice what it feels like in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you noticing fear arise and
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe relief, maybe spaciousness.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, there's no right answer here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you feel a little bit of all of those things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just observe.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know,
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  SPEAKER_00: before purchasing anything this week,
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  SPEAKER_00: pause and ask yourself,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: do I really need this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Will this truly enhance my life or am I trying to fill a void?
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  SPEAKER_00: you know, practice what I like to call the seven day rule.
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  SPEAKER_00: If there's something that you want to purchase,
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  SPEAKER_00: maybe it's above,
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know,
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  SPEAKER_00: a few hundred dollars,
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  SPEAKER_00: uh,
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  SPEAKER_00: wait a week before buying anything non-essential.
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  And you'd be amazed how often impulse purchases and that desire
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  like passes.
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  SPEAKER_00: So,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: another practice that I love is like one in one out,
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  SPEAKER_00: meaning when you purchase something new,
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  SPEAKER_00: let something you have go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um,
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  SPEAKER_00: This keeps the flow moving rather than just accumulating,
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  and it really helps us become more conscious in our spending
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  and circulation of
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  SPEAKER_00: money and our participation in consumerism.
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  The second practice is around cultivating generosity,
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  which is always so timely in November.
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  SPEAKER_00: and around Thanksgiving.
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  And when you're not grasping,
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  what you'll find is that giving starts to become natural.
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  SPEAKER_00: So practice generosity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Give something away.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be something that you own.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be a compliment.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be your time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be giving somebody your attention, your presence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Give without expectation.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like that saying.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's in such a beautiful song.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I can remember what it's called, I'll link it in the show notes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to say it's called Woman of Hope.
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  And in the song,
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  they repeat several times,
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  when you're feeling helpless,
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  help someone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nothing feels better than that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's priceless.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you have the capacity, consider donating.
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  SPEAKER_00: donating again, time, energy, resources.
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  And this kind of leads into our third practice and it's around
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  releasing outcomes,
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  SPEAKER_00: releasing outcomes and not just outcomes,
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  SPEAKER_00: but like our attachment to those outcomes.
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  So choose a situation in your life where you're attached to a
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  specific outcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's a relationship,
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  SPEAKER_00: maybe it's a project at work,
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  SPEAKER_00: maybe it's how you want something to unfold and
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe you write this down.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can journal this and just write down,
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  SPEAKER_00: I release needing things to happen in a particular way.
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  SPEAKER_00: I trust the unfolding.
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  SPEAKER_00: Write it down,
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  SPEAKER_00: say it out loud,
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  SPEAKER_00: and then practice surrendering throughout the day,
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  SPEAKER_00: throughout your week.
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  SPEAKER_00: And just allow yourself to practice this karma yoga.
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  So this karma yoga from the Bhagavad Gita is acting without
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  attachment to the
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  SPEAKER_00: fruits of our actions.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, we can have intentions, of course.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can have our preferences, but hold them lightly.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the path of a yogi.
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  SPEAKER_00: When plans change, practice flexibility.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't practice yoga to become physically flexible.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, we do, but we don't because it's so much more than that.
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  We're practicing yoga to become flexible in the mind and to
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  release those attachments.
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  SPEAKER_00: So as you practice these different tools, remember what Patanjali said.
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  SPEAKER_00: When non-possessiveness is established, clarity arises.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll start to understand your true nature.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll see that you're not your possessions.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are not your achievements.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are not your identities.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are already whole.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are already complete.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are a child of God.
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  SPEAKER_00: You do not need more to be more.
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  And there's something profoundly liberating that happens when
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  we stop grasping.
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  And just like all of the Yamas,
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  like this is not something we do once and like we're masters.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a lifelong practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so we want to come back to this as much as possible.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whenever we can catch ourselves with the opposite of non-attachment,
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  SPEAKER_00: when we're attaching,
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  SPEAKER_00: can we catch ourself in that,
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  SPEAKER_00: bring some consciousness to that experience so we can start to shift it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how we create true alchemy in our lives.
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  And when we do this,
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  we discover that what we've been carrying,
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  we never needed to carry.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those stresses,
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  SPEAKER_00: those anxieties,
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  SPEAKER_00: those worries,
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  SPEAKER_00: those fears,
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  SPEAKER_00: like there's no more,
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  SPEAKER_00: we don't have capacity to keep carrying that around.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we realize that ultimately,
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  SPEAKER_00: like when we do that,
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  SPEAKER_00: we're just,
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  SPEAKER_00: we're trying to protect ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: but we're trying to protect ourselves from things that,
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  you know don't actually matter and we start to see clearly
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  freedom isn't found in
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  having more it's discovered in requiring less so what you're
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  grasping might be
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  exactly what's keeping you from receiving you know tight fists
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  can't catch what's
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  trying to flow but when we open our hand when we release our
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  grip we start to
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  SPEAKER_00: create space and
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  SPEAKER_00: for that flow, for those miracles.
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  SPEAKER_00: So as we move through this week, let's practice simplicity, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's set that intention collectively together to practice generosity,
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  SPEAKER_00: practice letting go physically,
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  SPEAKER_00: mentally,
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  SPEAKER_00: emotionally,
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  SPEAKER_00: and spiritually.
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  SPEAKER_00: And start to notice the spaciousness that begins to emerge.
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  SPEAKER_00: Notice the peace that comes from not constantly...
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  protecting,
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  managing,
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  trying to maintain access,
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  and notice the joy of giving freely.
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  SPEAKER_00: Notice the freedom of not needing things to be exactly as you planned.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember, detachment isn't about caring less.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about loving more freely.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about recognizing that everything is temporary.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything is impermanent.
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  And in that recognition,
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  we find the courage to hold life with open hands.
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  SPEAKER_00: In letting go, we find ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: In releasing, we receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: In simplifying, we discover abundance.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the promise of non-attachment.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the freedom waiting on the other side of attachments.
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  So take this intention for yourself for this week and come back
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  to it anytime you
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  find yourself hoarding or overspending or purchasing things
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  unconsciously and just
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't judge yourself,
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  but just be a witness and come back to this practice to create
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  more spaciousness,
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  SPEAKER_00: to create more of that surrender and trust that you are divinely led,
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  SPEAKER_00: you are supported,
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  SPEAKER_00: you are divine and innately worthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is your innate God-given birthright.
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  that wraps up the fifth yama of the yoga sutras the yamas are
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  of course these
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  external ethics and this like code of ethics that we can live
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  by and i want you to
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  stay tuned for next week because we're going to start reviewing
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  the niyamas which
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  SPEAKER_00: are the internal ethics so we're going to keep going deeper here and
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  And I just want to thank you if you have been following this
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  series so far.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've got a lot more to get through.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to Through the Veil.
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  Make sure to subscribe on Substack to go deeper and to be the
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  first to know about
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  SPEAKER_00: my next workshop or retreat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Mark your calendar for winter solstice, December 21st.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will be leading my next in-person workshop in Southwest Florida,
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  SPEAKER_00: and I would love to have you there.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's going to be a two hour workshop.
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  And if you joined us for the fall equinox,
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  it'll be similar,
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  but different.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love these workshops.
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  And as always,
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  all of the links to work with me are in the show notes below.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know I mentioned France in this episode and stay tuned.
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  I'm going to drop that right here,
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  right now that it's on the radar for a retreat.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm thinking next, uh, late summer, early fall.
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  SPEAKER_00: So stay tuned for that, but that's all I have for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have a beautiful week practicing the art of letting go.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to share your reflections or feedback from this episode,
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  SPEAKER_00: be sure to drop a comment on Substack.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would love to hear your takeaways.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have a beautiful week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Aum.
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  SPEAKER_00: Peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Amen.