How's It Going Down? The Hip-Hop Songs That Taught Me to Accept Crumbs—And the Women Who Are Teaching Me to Refuse

The General's Briefing · Apr 19, 2026 · 41m

It's Sunday morning, April 19, 2026. I'm 41 years old, four months shy of my 42nd birthday. And I just woke up with a realization: I deserve to be valued. Not simply treated as pussy. Not simply treated as "high value pussy that is supposed to be unattainable." But valued as a whole human being.

And I'm asking myself: How did I get here? How did I learn to accept crumbs? How did I learn that I'm not worthy of love?

The answer came to me, clear as day: Hip-hop taught me. At 11 years old.

In this episode, I break down four songs by male artists—DMX's "How's It Going Down," Jay-Z's "Money, Cash…