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(#17) From Impostor to Icon: Feeling Safe Manifesting MORE · Alignment With Jenn

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Hello, welcome to this episode of Receive.
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I am your host, Jen De Stacy, and I am looking forward to
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having a beautiful conversation with you this morning.
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Maybe it's not morning for you, but it's morning for me.
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And today what I really want to talk about is feeling safe
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manifesting more. So something that a lot of my
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clients and a lot of the people in my community talk about is
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that when they reach a new level, right?
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They start to see signs and evidence that they are close to
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manifesting the thing that they want, right?
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Maybe they start a new relationship and it's super
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duper exciting or they start to get a lot of opportunities,
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right? I work with a lot of actresses.
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They start to get a lot of a lot more roles and a lot more
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opportunity. Or you're interviewing for a new
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job or your business starts to take off, right?
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There's almost, you can think of it as like the plane beginning
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to take off and you're at that acceleration point where things
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are starting to move more quickly.
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And what can happen is it can trigger a fear response in our
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human body, in our humanness, because our soul is wired for
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expansion. Your soul is here to grow and
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evolve and to change and to receive everything to really
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expand and to create as much as possible in this lifetime.
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That's the goal of your soul is to push and change and grow and
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push the boundaries versus your human aspect.
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Your subconscious mind and your nervous system is wired for
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safety. Safety is a huge, huge, huge
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priority. And for your subconscious mind,
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it's really kind of the main driver is keeping you safe.
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And that's awesome, right? We love that about the
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subconscious mind. We want someone who's always in
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our corner, always, always looking out for us to be safe.
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The problem, OK, the problem is that the subconscious mind
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associates familiarity with safety.
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So things that are familiar, right, where you currently are,
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your current job, not being in a relationship or being in a
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relationship, right, those are familiar.
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Not being as successful as you want to be, that is familiar.
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And so on a certain level the mind associates it with safety.
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And So what happens is when we start to enter this quantum leap
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where reality starts to change, where we start to see evidence
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and proof and things really start changing rapidly for us,
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the survival wiring can get activated and it can start to
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cause fears and doubts and self sabotaging behaviors.
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So it can cause thoughts like, Oh my gosh, what if I can't do
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it? What if I'm judged?
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What if I fail? What if people make fun of me?
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What are they going to think, right?
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What if I succeed and I mess it all up?
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These thoughts can come and it can create anxiety and fear
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within the nervous system, even on a very, very subtle level.
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It can cause things like procrastination or overthinking,
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kind of shrinking back, right? Have you ever noticed that
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you'll be barreling towards success and then you'll you'll
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put on the brakes like, oh God. And you may not even notice for
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months that you've done it. But if you look back, this is
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probably something you'll identify through your own
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history in some capacity because it's very, very human.
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There's this interplay, right? Where our soul is like rocketing
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towards the things that we want. And our human aspect is staying
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kind of anchored a little bit in the past and really the way that
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we bridge that desire for expansion, right?
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The most amazing life that we could possibly create and that
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desire for safety and groundedness is by creating
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safety within our system and by creating coherence or harmony
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within our system. And that's really what I want to
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talk to you about today because, and this is something that is
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multi layered, right? There's practices and tools that
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I will give you that you can do on a daily basis, but then there
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are also deeper fundamental shifts in your consciousness and
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in your energy that need to be made in order to really embody
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this sense of safety. So safety really is the bridge
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between that vision and that reality.
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OK. And when your subconscious mind,
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when your nervous system, when your human aspect begins to
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leap, the more that you can create that safety for yourself,
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the more that your actions are going to flow, the more that
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you're going to feel less of a desire to sabotage, the more
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that you're, you're going to allow it to happen and you're
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going to trust the process. And I do want to briefly just
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mention that something that happens for a lot of people
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during this leap phase, right? When you start to get more
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opportunities, more speaking engagements, more noticing on
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social media, more job opportunities, what can happen
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is this imposter syndrome can come up, right?
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That's one of the most common things that happens as we start
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to expand because what's happening is you have this old
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identity, right? And identity is the strongest
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driving force that drives all of our behavior.
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You have this old, old identity of who you used to be, right?
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And everything that means to you.
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Then you have this new identity that you're barreling towards.
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And there can be this disconnect of wait a second, like I'm
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stepping into this next level and I'm becoming this new
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person, but I've never been there before.
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Can I do it? I've never done it.
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Can I really do this? Does that mean I'm really this
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person if I've never done it before?
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And it's going to bring up discomfort.
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And the reason I want to bring up imposter syndrome is because
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every single successful person in the entire world has
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navigated it at some point. And they may not have called it
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imposter syndrome, but they've navigated shifting from one
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identity to another because you do not create a new reality, a
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new experience for yourself unless you shift your identity,
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right? Tony Robbins says that our
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identity is the thing that we are going to always want to stay
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in alignment with. We will do anything to stay in
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alignment with our identity. So that being true, in order for
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you to create and manifest that new level, your identity must
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shift, it must upgrade. And that's normal.
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And that not, that's natural. And the residual I'm thinking of
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almost like the wake on a boat of that is the imposter syndrome
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that can come up, right? That I'm not ready, I'm not
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qualified. Who am I to do this?
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That is normal and that is natural.
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And that is because of that tug between the expansion mansion
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and the safety. And that's honestly the dynamic
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that the more that you can get comfortable with dancing within
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that tug, the more you're going to create the life that you've
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always envisioned for yourself, OK.
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And because the truth is that when you learn to rewire your
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subconscious mind, you learn to rewire your nervous system, you
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learn to create coherence in your field.
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And when I say coherence, all I mean is harmony, right?
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I mean, I mean peace, not survival emotions of fear and
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anxiety and doubt. I mean these new emotional
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states of joy and peace and happiness, regardless of what's
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happening in your 3D, regardless of what's happening outside of
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you, because you do have that power, even though it might feel
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like you don't. With a more that you're able to
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cultivate those, you are able to see the world in a completely
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different way. Because what happens is as you
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shift from more of those survival emotions, those fear
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emotions, into trust and faith and expansion and joy and love
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and harmony and oneness, you tap into the infinite field of
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possibilities. You tap into the quantum field.
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And that allows you to see the world in a way that you've never
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seen the world before because what's happening right now is
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you are literally looking through a peephole.
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That is your perception of all that is you can see through a
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peephole. So maybe you can see like a
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person in a building, right? You see a very small amount.
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And what is actually available to you is everything outside of
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that people, right? And what happens is as you
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elevate your emotional state, as you elevate your consciousness,
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honestly, it's one in the same. You will expand that people and
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you'll be able to see more opportunities and possibilities
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that are available to you because they're available right
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now. That's the thing.
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Just because you haven't traveled to Spain doesn't mean
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that Spain isn't there and available to you.
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And then you travel to Spain and you know when you travel
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anywhere new, whether it's a new city or a new restaurant or a
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new country, you recognize that it expands your awareness,
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right? You become aware of things that
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you've never seen before, new customs, new cultures, new ways
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of being that you've never seen before.
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And that's the same journey that you go on as you expand your
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consciousness, as you expand that people by elevating your
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vibrational state, by elevating who you are, by elevating your
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identity, and you begin to see possibilities that you never
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knew existed. The funniest thing to me is that
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so many of my clients will come to me and they'll be like, you
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know what's wild Jen, is I got this opportunity, but it's been
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sitting there for months and I never noticed it, right?
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This is what has happened to me before.
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I wanted money for a mastermind, a year long mastermind that I
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wanted to do. And I kept thinking like how am
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I going to get this money? I don't know like right.
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I got really in my head about it and then I, I shifted my
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consciousness, right. I shifted my emotional state.
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I let it go and then I woke up in the morning with this idea of
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how to get this money for this mastermind.
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This was four or five years ago at this point.
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And I I saw things differently and I had the solution almost
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just like dropping a Pebble into water.
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I knew exactly what to do. I was able to do the mastermind
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and the solution had been there all along, but I hadn't seen it
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through my peephole. I had to widen my peephole.
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So kind of a funny word to keep saying peephole, but that's what
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happens when you elevate your consciousness, when you elevate
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your emotional state. And as we go through this
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journey of expansion, going from the current level to the new
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expanded level, the way you are going to allow this to be smooth
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and powerful and easeful for yourself is buying being a
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master of your emotional state, a master of your consciousness
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and shifting your perspective of the world and not allowing those
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survival emotions to dominate how you feel, right?
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In part, part of this is your willpower.
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It is your strength, It is your ability to say, no, I do not
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want to participate in that thought.
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I do not want to participate in that emotion.
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And part of it is rewiring and clearing your system and your
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field so that we, it's easier. There's not much as much combat,
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right? And I've seen this over my
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journey of working with many, many, many women is that some
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women will come to me and they will be very deeply in survival
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emotions. They'll be very deep, deeply in
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anxiety and fear. And I don't judge them because
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that's how I used to be. I used to be so anxious.
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You would be shocked how anxious I was.
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I was anxious about whatever you could feel anxious about.
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I would be like, yes, sign me up, right?
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And that is where certain people are.
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And I think we've all kind of been there, maybe on our
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journeys. But in order to move from there
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to expanded consciousness and high vibrational emotions where
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you can see solutions, attract synchronicities, attract
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opportunities to yourself. It's not like like, OK, I'm just
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going to wake up one day and decide it.
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Yes, that can happen for some people, right?
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If you look at Eckhart Tolle, that's what happened to him in
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an instant. It can happen in an instant
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where your consciousness can shift and your whole experience
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can shift. But for most people, it's going
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to be a more gradual process of clearing and healing and
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shifting, right? And that's what I help people
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with is no matter where you are on your journey, I help you
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learn those tools and those strategies.
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So that way you can easily and effortlessly shift your emotions
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to really vibrate at that frequency.
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Because honestly, that's when manifestation becomes easy.
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So what I want to share with you is I want to share two other
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components to this. That was a pretty long
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introduction to what we're going to be getting into, but I think
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it was really important. So the first thing I really want
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to share with you is 3 beliefs that I'd love for you to really
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anchor into your system to create this.
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The safety in yourself as you expand.
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Because beliefs are the foundation of our consciousness
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and our consciousness is everything.
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It's absolutely everything. The thoughts that you think, the
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beliefs that you hold are everything.
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They determine your entire reality.
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And then I want to give you some practical tools to help you
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navigate the feelings of unsafety, the low vibrational
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emotions, the survival emotions that can come up as you create
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that expansion, right? Because it's not a perfect, OK,
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you hear me say this. And then it's easy to do it,
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right? It helps to have some tools to
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guide you along the way. And I will say it's a journey,
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right? There's some days where I wake
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up and I'm like, yes, I am. I feel so good.
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I feel so elevated. And then there's some days where
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it's more work. And I've been doing this for
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over 10 years and I still find that.
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So I share that with you because I don't want you to judge
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yourself. I don't want you to be mean to
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yourself. That doesn't help anything.
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So the first belief that I really want you to anchor in to
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create this sense of safety is shifting the way that you view
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fear. Because part of the issue is
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that as we expand, new fears will come up because fears are
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tied to the unfamiliar, right? The things that we don't know,
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the things that are uncomfortable.
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So fear is a natural part of the process, but I don't want you to
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view fear as a red light, as a oh boy, I need to stop.
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I'm not ready for this. It's uncomfortable.
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I want you to view fear as a misperception, as an illusion,
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right as I'm seeing something here that isn't true.
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Because the truth is that if you have full trust in the creator
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and a higher power, even in your higher self, the more evolved
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versions of yourself, you remember that nothing real can
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be threatened, nothing fear. You recognize that fear does not
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mean that something is wrong. It is not an indicator to stop.
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It is an indicator to expand and to grow.
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And my hope is that for you, you start to view fear as what can I
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push into here in order to grow and expand, right?
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I hope you start to get excited when you experience fear because
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it means that you're on to a new level, right?
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If you never experienced fear, it's because you're staying in
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your comfort zone. And your comfort zone is nice,
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but it's not what your dreams are made of.
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Your dreams are not living in your comfort zone.
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So recognizing that when you experience fear, recognize that,
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OK, I'm just perceiving something inaccurately.
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I can see this in a different way.
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I can look at this in a new way, and it will allow me to move
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through this more peacefully, more calm, right?
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And even if you still feel the butterflies, even if you still
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feel the fear, recognizing that, it doesn't mean that anything is
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wrong. Of course in Miracles, I love
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this quote from A Course in Miracles and it says those who
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are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without
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anxiety. And that goes back to having
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that deep faith, that deep certainty in the higher power,
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in a creator, in that energy that creates worlds, even if
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it's the quantum field, the infinite field of possibilities.
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If you're more scientific minded, it is recognizing that
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the solutions are always available to you in every single
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moment. And so when you see something
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with fear, it can close our perception.
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It makes that people even smaller.
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And so our goal is to shift how we're viewing fear so we can
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open up that people, people and we can see possibilities and we
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can recognize that there's nothing wrong here.
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I just need to change my perception.
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I just need to look at this differently.
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OK. So that's the first belief I
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really want you to anchor into is that fear is a misperception.
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It is an illusion. And all it means is that you
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need to change the way you're looking at the situation.
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It doesn't mean anything is wrong.
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OK. The second is recognizing that
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challenges are opportunities. So as you move along your path
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from point A to point B, where you are to where you want to be,
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there will be challenges. That's the nature of growth and
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expansion of your soul is there are meant to be challenges.
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Challenges do not mean something is wrong.
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It does not mean it is not your path.
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It means that you need to push yourself and you need to face
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the discomfort in order to grow and expand and become the person
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that you need to be in order to access point B.
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That's it. Discomfort doesn't mean you're
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failing. It doesn't mean that you're on
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the wrong path. It doesn't mean anything is
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wrong. It's an indicator that you're on
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the edge of something amazing. The more that you are able to
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anchor in and say, you know what?
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I choose to face this discomfort.
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I choose to move through it and I have faith and trust that I
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will be OK. The more light you are going to
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reveal, the more that you are going to be able to access
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wisdom and opportunities and guidance in order to navigate
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this with power and ease. And there's that.
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What's that movie Bruce Almighty?
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I think it's Bruce Almighty where Morgan Freeman, I think
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he's playing God. I honestly can't remember.
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I haven't seen that movie in years, but he talks about how he
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has this quote and it's like if you pray for patience, God isn't
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going to give you patience. He's going to give you an
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opportunity to practice patience, right?
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If you pray for courage, he's not going to give you courage.
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He's going to give you opportunities in order to build
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courage. And that's the same thing along
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your manifestation path. If you want something, you say,
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I want to be an actress, I want that job, I want that new
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relationship. OK, great.
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Let's let you become the person you need to be in order to
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access that. It doesn't mean you're unworthy.
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It means you need to expand your container, your vessel in order
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to hold that vision for yourself.
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So you can kind of think of challenges as like like your
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training ground, right? If you go to the gym, let's say
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you go to the gym and you're like, I'm going to get such a
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good workout in. And you go and maybe you have a
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trainer and you're like, you leave and you're like, Dang, I
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don't really feel like I did that much.
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Maybe you go to a class and it wasn't as hard as you wanted.
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It doesn't feel great, right? We want that challenge because
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we want to become more. We all do.
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Nobody wants everything handed to us.
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Something that always struck me is at 1 of Tony Robbins events,
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he talked about how he said that the most difficult clients that
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he's worked with are people who were born with everything.
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They were given absolutely everything, like all the money,
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every single thing they could have wanted as children.
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And he's like, they have a lot of emotional challenges because
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they wanted to have to earn it, right?
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And that goes back to the Kabbalah concept of bread of
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shame of on a soul level. We don't want everything handed
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to us. We want challenge, right?
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The issue is that if we are unaligned, if we are living in
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survival emotions, the challenge can feel way too challenging for
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us, right? It can feel really pushy and
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heavy. And that's where these tools and
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these practices come in. So the third belief, and this is
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the belief that I am building the vessel to hold all that I
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desire. And this really dovetails with
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belief too. So in Kabbalah, they talk a lot
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about how you are a vessel, right?
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Your soul is a vessel and it is designed to hold light and light
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is everything that you could want, fulfillment, love,
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abundance, joy, whatever it might be and every single
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challenge you can think of as it is expanding your vessel so you
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can hold more. What will happen is this happens
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a lot with lottery winners, right where they'll win the
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lottery and then a year later, two years later, they'll be
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exactly back to where they started because they didn't have
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the vessel to hold that financial wealth right.
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It was too much light too fast. And, and that's something that
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we want to expand our vessel to hold more.
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And there's so much beauty and so much joy in that journey,
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right? And I think about myself, when I
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had my supplement business, I started it and I didn't know
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really anything about business. I didn't know anything about the
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supplement industry. I didn't know anything about.
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I knew a little bit about social media, but not as much as I
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realized I needed to know. And so through that business, I
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had to grow into the kind of woman who could hold more
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responsibility, who could hold more visibility, who could hold
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more abundance. And it was really expanding my
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vessel in so many ways, right? Not just business, but
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financially. Then when I decided I didn't
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want to do that anymore and I wanted to start my coaching
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business, it was like a million times easier.
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My social media grew really fast.
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The business grew really fast because I had the vessel to hold
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it right. I had gone through those
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challenges. And so that doesn't mean you're
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going to have to go on the same journey if you decide to start a
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business, but it means that we all have asked.
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Aspects of our soul that need to grow.
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And so those challenges, seeing them as opportunities to really
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expand that vessel. And so as you move from point A
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where you are to point B, and you start to have more of those
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synchronicities and those experiences, even when
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challenges come up, when you view them as opportunities,
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you're going to be like the most powerful woman in the room,
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truthfully. So I want to shift gears a
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little bit and I want to talk a bit about practical tools to
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show your body that you are safe as you expand, right?
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Because we don't want our body pulling us back and sabotaging
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us and all of those things, right?
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We want to continue to expand and to grow.
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And so one of the big things I really want to talk about is a
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style of meditation that I personally absolutely love.
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I really love it and in my group are actually doing one of these
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meditations this month. But it's a style of meditation
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where it creates coherence in your brain.
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So between the two hemispheres of your brain, it creates
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synchronicity. So they begin to work together
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rather than out of sync. And then they also become
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coherent with your heart. So your entire brain and your
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heart become coherent. And that you can think of as
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like the most powerful signal you can send out to the universe
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to attract synchronicities and opportunities and experiences.
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And I can't really get into how this meditation works here.
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There's different, you know, you can search heart coherence
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meditations on YouTube and you can find some of them.
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I have some of them in my group. But that and a really, honestly
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a really simple way to do it. And you know, this is like level
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A and there's many levels to this.
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There's much deeper levels would just to be to put your hands on
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your heart and focus on your heart space and begin to breathe
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into your heart space. That will start to create that
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coherence because your heart is actually sending more
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information to your brain than your brain is sending to your
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heart, which in my mind that shows how important the heart is
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in controlling the energetic signals that we're sending out
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to the universe. And when we are in fear and when
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we are in survival emotions, our energy is less in our heart and
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it's more in our lower energy centers.
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It's more in those survival centers.
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And so we have less power to create and to call in the things
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that we want. So that's one tool I will give
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you is you can explore deeper meditations in this.
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I'm not going to get into it today for the sake of time, but
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that simple 1 is just placing your hands on your heart and
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breathing in your heart and saying things like I am safe, I
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am OK, anchoring yourself into that safety.
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And there's a lot of different tools we can use to show our
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nervous system or safety or safe.
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Another one is just taking really nice deep, slow breaths,
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right? And you don't just do this when
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anxiety or fear comes up. You do this throughout the day
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because what you're doing is you're creating like a culture
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of safety within your life. Another one is moving more
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slowly, talking more slowly, not rushing, not booking things
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back-to-back to back-to-back, giving yourself some space in
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the day. Those are ways you show your
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body and your mind you're safe. I'm safe.
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This is safe, right? Another way, and I will mention
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this probably on every single podcast because I, I feel like
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it's the cheat code to life is subconscious rewiring work like
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what we do in my community. Because your subconscious mind
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is, it is so important in you feeling safe.
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If you have beliefs and fears and doubts and unresolved trauma
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in your subconscious mind, that's going to play out outside
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of your awareness until you become aware of it, until you
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heal it. And so that can show up as fears
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and doubts and anxieties and feeling triggered all the time
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or feeling fearful or not being able to go after the things that
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you want because your subconscious mind is kind of
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keeping you anchored in the past.
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OK. Another aspect of this would be
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things like nervous system regulation.
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So that could be like breath work, EFT tapping, somatic
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movements, meditation is really good for regulating your nervous
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system. The breathing that I talked
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about, subconscious rewiring even really helps to regulate
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your nervous system. So those are a lot of ways that
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you can show your body that you are safe, right?
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Another one, a really big one, is just how you're talking to
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yourself, right? I think it's really, really
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important to recognize and to notice the questions that you
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are asking yourself on a daily basis.
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So something that I noticed with a lot of my clients who feel
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stuck is the questions that they ask themselves are keeping them
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stuck, right? So if you want a new job and you
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keep asking yourself, why can't I get a new job?
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What's wrong with me? Your brain is designed, it's
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very, it's going to take that and it's going to start finding
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reasons why you can't get a job, why, why there's things wrong
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with you, right? If you ask yourself, why doesn't
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anyone want to date me? Why is dating so hard?
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Why do all men suck? That's what you're going to get
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in your reality. So start to notice your thoughts
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are literally a series of questions and you answering
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those questions, it's like an internal conversation happening
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all day long. Notice what you're asking
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yourself because that's probably also sabotaging the level of
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safety that you feel. So I think I've shared a lot
25:34
today and I hope that it came across well because I feel like
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it was just a rush of information and that just kind
25:41
of came through me. And I'd honestly some of that I
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didn't even expect to say. But think about it as it's
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basically three different levels, right?
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There's the level of creating coherence in your system and
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your emotions, and there's the level of your beliefs and what
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you're believing. And then there's the daily tools
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that you're practicing, right? And the daily things that you're
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practicing in the daily ways that you're being.
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And those are all creating safety.
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So it's not just one quick fix of how do I stop sabotaging
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myself and fearing moving from A to B.
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It's fundamentally shifting how you're showing up.
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It's fundamentally shifting what you're believing.
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It's fundamentally shifting your identity and becoming that new
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version of you and feeling safe doing that.
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So I hope that you found this incredibly helpful.
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Please leave a comment and let me know what you thought.
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Let me know if you have other questions.
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But yeah, I hope that you've enjoyed this.
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I hope it's giving you some new insights and I look forward to
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seeing you in the next episode. Bye.