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DILEMMAS: RELATIONSHIPS · Relatables

• 0:00
  Speaker 1: Baddies, we have got a very exciting announcement for you.
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  Speaker 2: I am so excited.
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  Speaker 3: As you know, we've been loving reading and experiencing The
• 0:11
  Speaker 3: Housemaid by Freedom McFadden with you guys, and a little
• 0:16
  Speaker 3: while ago one of you baddies suggested, what about we
• 0:20
  Speaker 3: all go watch the movie together.
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  Speaker 1: When it comes out.
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  Speaker 2: Amazing idea and we thought, hmmmm, we said we're on it.
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  Speaker 1: It was a shot in the dark.
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  Speaker 3: It was a massive, blindfolded dart throw at nothing, but
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  Speaker 3: for some reason it landed right in the bullseye. We
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  Speaker 3: have the privilege of inviting you baddies to a special
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  Speaker 3: advanced screening of The Housemaid.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god. We are going to be there and
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  Speaker 2: we're going to enjoy the movie together for the first time.
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  Speaker 3: We all we want to experience it with the baddies.
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  Speaker 3: So couple of things. We don't have all the fine
• 1:01
  Speaker 3: details yet, but what we do have is it's on
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  Speaker 3: the nineteenth of December, yep, in Sydney afternoon. Yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 3: this is a Sydney only event, so apologies if anyone
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  Speaker 3: is anywhere else.
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  Speaker 1: We did our best, yes, but hey, we take what
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  Speaker 1: we get. We're very excited.
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  Speaker 2: And a few lucky baddies get to see the movie early.
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  Speaker 1: Yep.
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  Speaker 2: But otherwise, the movie The Housemaid is being released on
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  Speaker 2: Boxing Day. Yes, so if you miss out Boxing Day,
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  Speaker 2: the Housemaid by FREEDA. McFadden and the movie that stars
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  Speaker 2: some wonderful stars will be in theaters on Boxing Day.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And Jake, how do the baddies potentially get their hands
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  Speaker 2: on this occasion?
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  Speaker 1: You know us, and you know we.
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  Speaker 3: Love everyone equally, but we show some priority to our
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  Speaker 3: special batties over on Patreons. So on Thursday, the eleventh
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  Speaker 3: of December, you guys will be finding out how to
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  Speaker 3: secure your spot to come to the advanced screening of
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  Speaker 3: the house made with us.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm so excited, Jake. The link to Patreon will
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  Speaker 2: be in the description.
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  Speaker 1: Yep.
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  Speaker 2: If you want to head over there early, that's how
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  Speaker 2: you do it. But the rest of the details are
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  Speaker 2: coming coming up.
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  Speaker 1: On dilemmas, did you guys have sex last night?
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  Speaker 3: No?
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  Speaker 2: Really, we're just film me outsideide.
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  Speaker 1: Do you guys have sex last night?
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  Speaker 3: No?
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  Speaker 1: What are you talking about? Is that you? Yeah? We did.
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  Speaker 3: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka
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  Speaker 3: Daddy and my podcast co host Addie aka Mummy.
• 3:00
  Speaker 1: I was going to say the man, but doesn't really
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  Speaker 1: work with my name.
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  Speaker 3: A little inside information if anybody doesn't remember how we
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  Speaker 3: got the names mummy and daddy. It was the very
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  Speaker 3: first Patreon episode we ever did, I believe.
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  Speaker 2: Can you can you refresh my memory too?
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  Speaker 1: I don't remember. I think it was the first.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know why I'm mummy, but I don't know
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  Speaker 2: how we got the names. It actually didn't really have
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  Speaker 2: anything to do with why your mummy and why I'm daddy.
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  Speaker 2: I think it was the first ever Patreon episode, or
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  Speaker 2: maybe one of the first, And it was the first
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  Speaker 2: episode or the first in a long time that I
• 3:41
  Speaker 2: wore shorts on Oh.
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  Speaker 1: And yeah, I do remember that.
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  Speaker 2: It was in the wooden Lodge set up and you're like,
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  Speaker 2: Daddy's wearing short dude.
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  Speaker 1: Really I was in bally and.
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  Speaker 3: You said something like, oh, you want shorts, and I
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  Speaker 3: was like, yeah, daddy wears shorts on Patreon.
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  Speaker 1: And then you said if you're daddy, who am I?
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  Speaker 1: And I was like mummy and we.
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  Speaker 3: Just like ran with it, and then we created we
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  Speaker 3: manufactured personalities to go with it. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I like how it happened organically.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, even though it's a very common one because I
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  Speaker 2: know we mean well a mummy and daddy.
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  Speaker 1: She'd think gigs are daddy and daddy, daddy and daddy.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone's just mummy and daddy or daddy and daddy. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: everyone just calls themselves that it's easy.
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  Speaker 2: And you guys listening, no one else has this are
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  Speaker 2: the baddies.
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  Speaker 1: That is very true.
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  Speaker 2: And Jake the other week I said we would start
• 4:29
  Speaker 2: each Dilemma's episode with a dilemma. Oh, do you have one?
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  Speaker 1: Let me think? Not? Really?
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  Speaker 3: Really you, I.
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  Speaker 2: Reckon I could think of one. I got quite a
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  Speaker 2: few things going home by life.
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  Speaker 3: I could create a dilemma nothing that I would say
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  Speaker 3: needs specifically urgent help.
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  Speaker 1: Give me one, teke a nothing one. I just remember then.
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  Speaker 3: I actually do have one, pretty easy, pretty simple. But
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  Speaker 3: I actually have been thinking about it, and I'm not
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  Speaker 3: really sure what I want.
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  Speaker 1: To get Beth for Christmas ooh at all? Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: can't relate.
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  Speaker 2: I've already got Cassie's Christmas presents.
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  Speaker 1: Really, yeah, you can also tell me what they are
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  Speaker 1: want me to forll them to?
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  Speaker 2: You got no idea? She sent me links bottom I
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  Speaker 2: forgot where they are I think something's to do with
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  Speaker 2: like cooking.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, so she.
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  Speaker 3: Would prefer to just say this is what I want,
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  Speaker 3: you get it, yeah, and actually wouldn't buy herself.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. And also it kind of comes back to you
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  Speaker 1: know how we have.
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  Speaker 2: The debate about what engagement ring to buy your partner,
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  Speaker 2: and obviously the woman should pick it because she's.
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  Speaker 1: Going to be wearing it for the rest of her life.
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  Speaker 1: Christmas presents, Damn dude, that's funny.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, So I really want to get Beth a dice
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  Speaker 3: and hair rout, but they're fucking like eight hundred dollars.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Cassie wanted a Ninja creamy in the like five hundred.
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  Speaker 3: See, I think I think I could spend five hundred
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  Speaker 3: and be like that's fine, But I don't know, not
• 6:01
  Speaker 3: not like I mean to be fair. Look, I could
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  Speaker 3: spend a thousand and be like that's fine. You know,
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  Speaker 3: you can spend whatever you want, don't care what anyone spends.
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  Speaker 3: But I also I wanted to be.
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  Speaker 2: Special and I wanted to be also have to think
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  Speaker 2: how much she's going to spend on you, because she
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  Speaker 2: she spends three hundred and you spend a thousand.
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  Speaker 1: We actually so Jesus, she's quit her job.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, she's got it. She's working casual and doing like
• 6:20
  Speaker 3: then her own thing. But I did say to her,
• 6:23
  Speaker 3: I was like, we let's set a limit just so
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  Speaker 3: you're you have ease of mind. So I believe we
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  Speaker 3: set a limit of three hundred.
• 6:29
  Speaker 1: We can't be that. Yeah that's true. Yeah, you can't
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  Speaker 1: do that. Since that's again it needs it needs me
• 6:34
  Speaker 1: three hundred bucks. Okay, what could you get up?
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  Speaker 3: I was thinking right now, she's been super busy with
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  Speaker 3: work for the last four years of her life.
• 6:43
  Speaker 1: But she does You're about to say four weeks for
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  Speaker 1: four years of her life. So, but she does.
• 6:49
  Speaker 3: Really love to bake and cook. She hasn't been doing
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  Speaker 3: any of that. So I'm thinking, do I get her
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  Speaker 3: three hundred dollars worth of like fucking kid like you
• 7:00
  Speaker 3: know that brand of lacroc or whatever, just like wicked
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  Speaker 3: baking shit and wicked cooking shit.
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  Speaker 2: Let me but then do some research on what I
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  Speaker 2: bought Cassie. She bought something cool for cooking. Don't really
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  Speaker 2: know what it is, but again, no.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it's for cooking. It's not that cool
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  Speaker 1: it is to her if she loves cooking. Yeah, that is.
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  Speaker 2: Quite a dilemma. Common below what Jake should get Beth.
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  Speaker 1: Because also she's not gonna listen she this also comes
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  Speaker 1: out after Christmas.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, anyways dilemmas. The theme is relationships beautiful.
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  Speaker 1: All right, we love that. Tell me to go first? Yes, please?
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  Speaker 3: This one you can argue this is a relationship was
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  Speaker 3: pretty good though. Ready This baddie says I dated a
• 7:48
  Speaker 3: guy back in summer. Thinking back, he was definitely not
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  Speaker 3: the guy I was looking for emotionally because we literally
• 7:55
  Speaker 3: had nothing to talk about. But he was good looking,
• 7:59
  Speaker 3: and most importantly, he's got the perfect dick and just
• 8:06
  Speaker 3: so easy to come. When I did it with him,
• 8:10
  Speaker 3: whoa and then she's gone. Ah, So here comes a dilemma.
• 8:15
  Speaker 3: I used this lube back in his place, and it
• 8:18
  Speaker 3: was probably the best I've ever used. It doesn't dry
• 8:22
  Speaker 3: or burn, and it lasts long. I hate myself for
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  Speaker 3: not having taken a photo of it. Things ended a
• 8:28
  Speaker 3: while ago, and now I'm with another guy, and I
• 8:31
  Speaker 3: just really need to know the brand of that lube. God,
• 8:35
  Speaker 3: but it would be such an enormously tremendous explosive mistake
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  Speaker 3: to text him again. After all, these months because it
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  Speaker 3: really took me a while to get over him.
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  Speaker 1: But oh god, the lube was good. Or maybe it's
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  Speaker 1: him question mark, question Mark wasn't just him. Here's my
• 8:53
  Speaker 1: question is are you trying? Are you?
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  Speaker 3: He's this new guy, like he's not doing it for us,
• 8:59
  Speaker 3: he's not doing it for you. So you're thinking maybe
• 9:01
  Speaker 3: it was a loube the other guy.
• 9:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but it was him. Fuck, poor girl. This is tough.
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  Speaker 2: Oh because if she's if she didn't say she has
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  Speaker 2: a new dude, I was like, just go sleep with
• 9:11
  Speaker 2: me one more time, yeah, and find out.
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  Speaker 3: But but also she end up really liking him and
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  Speaker 3: struggling over Fuck.
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  Speaker 1: This is tough.
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  Speaker 3: Though some people you just connect sexually not emotionally.
• 9:22
  Speaker 2: I actually have a really good response, like, obviously there's only,
• 9:26
  Speaker 2: like I don't know, ten lub brands you can buy
• 9:28
  Speaker 2: from most shops, not even ten five, Go buy all
• 9:31
  Speaker 2: five of them, all ten of them, and over the
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  Speaker 2: next week use them all.
• 9:35
  Speaker 1: If you saw it, would you recognize it?
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  Speaker 3: Well, it's I think it's if you feel it, would
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  Speaker 3: you recognize it? I feel actually if you saw it,
• 9:40
  Speaker 3: you'd recognize it. Yeah, unless he always like got it
• 9:42
  Speaker 3: out and you're just like this is great.
• 9:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and you just never looked at.
• 9:45
  Speaker 2: It, and you can also like was it centered, like
• 9:47
  Speaker 2: you could cut down like a couple of things.
• 9:50
  Speaker 3: I just I'm not a loop guy.
• 9:53
  Speaker 1: I'm not a lip guy.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like it gets too sticky for me.
• 9:56
  Speaker 3: It's I would like to it makes it messier.
• 10:01
  Speaker 2: Too fair.
• 10:01
  Speaker 1: It's also not really my decision.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 10:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and Cassie doesn't like it true.
• 10:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 10:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, if she said it, I'll use it. Actually. Yeah,
• 10:10
  Speaker 1: if it was needed, yeah, use it. Yeah, but it's
• 10:12
  Speaker 1: not neat No, if it was needed, i'd definitely use it.
• 10:20
  Speaker 2: But back in the day, did a coconut oil? Yeah,
• 10:25
  Speaker 2: you've told me this. I've never done that. Yeah, it
• 10:27
  Speaker 2: wasn't that good for the old backdoor.
• 10:29
  Speaker 3: I actually don't know because I've never tried that was
• 10:31
  Speaker 3: a different friend, but we've been told that.
• 10:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe me try that coconut oil.
• 10:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, cheaper too organic, Yeah, it's no chemicals. Yeah, coconut oil.
• 10:44
  Speaker 1: That solves your problem.
• 10:45
  Speaker 3: Also, the other thing I'm thinking is, obviously you never
• 10:49
  Speaker 3: looked at the bottle and he always used it. But
• 10:50
  Speaker 3: otherwise you would just go online and look up all
• 10:52
  Speaker 3: loup brands from whatever country you're in, or just all
• 10:55
  Speaker 3: lub brands in the world and just you scroll find it.
• 10:57
  Speaker 1: Let's go. So, I mean, think about this. Should you
• 11:01
  Speaker 1: text him because the lube was so good? I think no?
• 11:08
  Speaker 1: But ready, was it him or was.
• 11:10
  Speaker 3: It the lube computing?
• 11:14
  Speaker 1: It was him? Is the new guys shit at sex? Yes?
• 11:19
  Speaker 1: No computing. Yeah, that was no computition, no computation.
• 11:24
  Speaker 2: I was going to say, is the real dilemma that
• 11:28
  Speaker 2: you don't like this boy?
• 11:29
  Speaker 3: Because also, to be fair, she didn't even say like
• 11:32
  Speaker 3: she wants the loop to get the sex better.
• 11:34
  Speaker 1: She's just saying that she really liked the loop. Maybe
• 11:36
  Speaker 1: the sex of this dude is fine.
• 11:37
  Speaker 2: Also, but if you were the dude in the new relationship,
• 11:40
  Speaker 2: could you know your girls thinking about the lube with
• 11:42
  Speaker 2: the last dude?
• 11:44
  Speaker 1: Oh no, you couldn't tell me that the lube is
• 11:46
  Speaker 1: from a past relationship.
• 11:48
  Speaker 2: Or that like she's thinking that, fuck, this would be
• 11:50
  Speaker 2: better with some lube from the old relationship.
• 11:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but you would never tell me that.
• 11:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but the thoughts even like a little bit dangerous.
• 11:57
  Speaker 1: What do you mean, like, how is it dangerous if
• 11:59
  Speaker 1: he finds out?
• 12:00
  Speaker 2: Like so obviously she's having sex with this new man
• 12:03
  Speaker 2: and then like a week ladder So, oh that was good,
• 12:05
  Speaker 2: but fuck that lube would make it better from my
• 12:08
  Speaker 2: last relationship.
• 12:09
  Speaker 1: But she's not gonna say that.
• 12:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, I'm thinking of those thoughts. Dangerous, toxic.
• 12:13
  Speaker 1: Ah, think about it.
• 12:17
  Speaker 3: You carry old tricks to new relationships, do you things
• 12:20
  Speaker 3: you've learned in past relationships you bring with you?
• 12:21
  Speaker 1: I guess so if it works there, and it works now,
• 12:24
  Speaker 1: why not use it? You gotta Yeah, someone's got to
• 12:29
  Speaker 1: have cooked there.
• 12:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Initially it's a lude company. So takeaways are, don't
• 12:35
  Speaker 2: message him, just trial an error.
• 12:38
  Speaker 1: Coconut oil. Throw that in there, and then yeah, attend
• 12:41
  Speaker 1: to the coconut oil.
• 12:44
  Speaker 3: The thing about coconut oil, right is summertime easy?
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah? You know it's it's oil.
• 12:51
  Speaker 3: If you finger in how much I've used it A
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: coming on? So like you dip your finger in, it's
• 12:57
  Speaker 3: like it's water.
• 12:58
  Speaker 1: It's oil.
• 12:59
  Speaker 2: It goes like milk ya.
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: Winter solid, I'm dead serious. So you pick it out
• 13:05
  Speaker 3: in a chunk and then you have to like let
• 13:07
  Speaker 3: it melt. Missed the computer?
• 13:08
  Speaker 2: Have you done any research on like, I know it's
• 13:10
  Speaker 2: all natural on Like if it's okay to going to
• 13:13
  Speaker 2: her girl's vagina.
• 13:16
  Speaker 3: Computing, sure dancer isn't. Nope, I have not done research.
• 13:22
  Speaker 3: But I heard it from a friend of a friend,
• 13:26
  Speaker 3: and there you tried it. And actually, you know what,
• 13:29
  Speaker 3: I bet you the time, I bet you when I
• 13:32
  Speaker 3: used it, I was in a relationship when I use it.
• 13:34
  Speaker 3: When I used it, I'm pretty sure me and the
• 13:38
  Speaker 3: current girlfriend at the time would have looked it up.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So like I we're not done. I don't think
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: we would have just put some ship in a fucking
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: pus bro. That's crazy. I think we would have looked
• 13:49
  Speaker 1: it up.
• 13:50
  Speaker 4: You and hers conversation, She's probably try back in the
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  Speaker 4: stone age too, and you were like computed, just let
• 14:01
  Speaker 4: me try, let me fucking.
• 14:03
  Speaker 3: With it was back in the stone age tree when
• 14:06
  Speaker 3: you actually had to use Google, Like my Google search
• 14:09
  Speaker 3: would have been can coconut.
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: Or go in a computing I've got to computing, s Galler.
• 14:17
  Speaker 2: We try, okay, good one to start computing.
• 14:22
  Speaker 1: We will know after this.
• 14:24
  Speaker 2: That's crazy, okay, my one juicy tea alert saren emoji
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: siren emoji.
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: Oh shit, yeah, that'll get our attention. If you want
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: us to read your dilemma, put that.
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: In last year at my brother's twenty first, I got
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: tipsy and ended up hooking up with a mutual friend.
• 14:42
  Speaker 2: Before things got heated, I asked if he still had
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: a girlfriend. He said no, but the next morning he
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: confessed he had lied. Now he occasionally messages me begging
• 14:54
  Speaker 2: for a repeat performance because it was in quotes so good.
• 14:58
  Speaker 2: I've told him to back off unless he's single, but
• 15:01
  Speaker 2: he was persistent until recently.
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: That's crazy.
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: Fast forward to today, he and his girlfriend are not
• 15:09
  Speaker 2: only together still, but also expecting.
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: A baby in November. Oh, I thought they had broken up,
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: but they're expecting the first time. Okay, so they're together
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: and now they're expecting a baby. Yeah. I took the
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: only out of it.
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: My ADHD took over the fast.
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  Speaker 3: Fucking hell, dude, Wow, okay, I don't No.
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: Well, you've got two equations here, kind of like girl code,
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: she has a right to know, and then kind of
• 15:44
  Speaker 2: like it's not really your problem.
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: Here's the thing, right, if you were gonna do it,
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: you probably should have sent the hate girly message.
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: Way before the day you found out, Like.
• 15:58
  Speaker 3: Is the only reason you're now considering because she's pregnant.
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a tough one too, because she has a
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: right to know. But then also you kind of like, I.
• 16:09
  Speaker 3: Don't know, and if he's done it with you, I
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: can guarantee you he's done it with others.
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: And he was consistently massaging you after.
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: So he's like begging you to have run it back
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: because it's like such a good performance, right, imagine imagine
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: begging to cheat on your girlfriend.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: That's crazy.
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: He was begging his girlfriend. Yeah, crazy, Yeah, that's so
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: icky too. What do the men think that would work?
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: Like, come on, you said no already, but like, fuck
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: be sure? It was so good? Fuck off? Yeah?
• 16:42
  Speaker 3: Can I be honest? I think you shouldn't say anything.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know, Actually, what would are you ready? Okay?
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: I was single. I slept with someone. They said they
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: were single. Next day they said they weren't single.
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: They messaged me a lot to run it back because
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: my dick was so good, and where else is something
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: really nice?
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: No, just kidding. I don't know if I would tell.
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: I think for the situation, you don't know the girl,
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: even though she has a right to know, I think
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: leave it.
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: I actually wait, didn't we like one time talk about
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: how you should tell the girl but it doesn't come
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: from you, like spread a rumor.
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: We've had the justifications or maybe not that what you're thinking.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: But also if you message the girl and said, hey,
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: I slept with some and so six months ago.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: A lot of the time I think it's a lie.
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so they always thinks a lie, right, Like why
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: would you wait this long? Yeah, here's one thing that
• 17:39
  Speaker 3: was like can you suck get spread a rumor that
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: doesn't come from you? So she eventually finds out then
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: messages you. So it's like spread a rumor that you
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: guys slept together, and then eventually she messages you and
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: you're like, oh shit, yeah he actually he told me
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: he was single, Like oh my god, I'm so sorry.
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: So like it was you, but like you know, he
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: actually knows. And she scanned out kind of on her own,
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: Like is that crazy?
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: I don't know if that's crazy or not. I feel
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: like that's a good idea.
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: It's very intricate, but also I reckon just like peace
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: of mind for the dilemma center, just leave him, move on.
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: A yeah, maybe now that there's a fucking kid involved,
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: like it's probably gonna honestly, I wait, you could be
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: doing the kid a favor. Let's think about this, right,
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: should this child have parents that aren't together from the beginning,
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: or should this child grow up with parents that are
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: quote unquote happy. But he's done it once, he's probably
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: done it multiple times, therefore he will one hundred percent
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: do it again and karma will come around, all right, True?
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: I would say the truth is a bitch shouldn't know
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: him better?
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, like, do you should I reckon tell her? Oh?
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: I was thought that whole ring ring and role just
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: took me on was saying, don't tell her because CARMA's
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: going to come around and buy him in the arseny.
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: Know. What I'm saying is like, do you want this
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: kid to be like, experience what it's like to have
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: a happy family and then it be taken away, or
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: just like from the very start, experience what it's like
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: to have hopefully amicable co parenting.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: But also, I reckon, there's too much.
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: Power in the dilemma center's hands for the situation. I reckon,
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: let things just peter out to see.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: What happens and you move on. Yeah, okay, that's my advice.
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: Also, wouldn't blame if you want to tell her?
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Same, Yeah, oh, yeah, yeah, you know what you choose.
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I just said that you pick.
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: Ahl, right are?
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: I know my friend is cheating on her boyfriend. For
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: a few months back, my friend let me borrow her
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: phone to take some pictures, and while I was on it,
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: messages started popping up from a guy I've never heard of.
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: The messages were saying stuff like quote can't wait to
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: see you babe dot dot another one quote love you,
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: and some the pretty sexual stuff.
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: She doesn't know.
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: I've seen the messages, and every now and then I
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: get a glance at her phone to see her texting him.
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: Every time I ask about it, she swipes off the
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: chat and says it to her mum or her boyfriend
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: or something. I saw a message saying quote can't wait
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: to see you on insert date, and then the exact date,
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: she happened to be out of town the whole day.
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: So now I know she's seeing him and it's not
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: just an online relationship.
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: I even found I even found.
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: Out from a picture I've seen that the necklace she
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: wears he bought for her. My friend and her boyfriend
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: have been together for many years. I'm sure he has
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: no idea about this. Should I confront my friend, tell
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: her boyfriend, or do nothing.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: Oh, another tough one. Holy fuck? What the hell?
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: The hell? That one's really hard too, What the hell? Well,
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: so your best friend's the one that's cheating and obviously
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: not that close with her partner, but he also has
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: a right to know.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: I think who? So no, not who?
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: What type of person do you want to associate yourself with?
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: And what type of person do you want to call
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: your best friend? I like this, so yes, therefore you
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: confront her? I agree, yes, yeah, and you confront her. Okay,
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: you can still love her, you can forgive her, but
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: you have to know, let her know that you know
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: and that you think she needs to do the right thing,
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: and what she does can then depend on where your
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: friendship goes.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: Well.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: Computing good response, computing, very very mature response.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, very mature. Yeah, what would Spock say?
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: Because logic dictates that you should tell her, Logic dictates
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: that this could get messy. Yeah, I think that's great. Honestly,
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: you hit the nail on the head straight away.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: Fuck next dilemma.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: Okay, hi guys, I'm loving the pod. Here's my dilemma.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: Sorry if it's long, I kind of ran it a bit.
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: Do you think she's come back after writing the whole
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: thing and then wrote that again?
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah? Or do they know they're about a ramble?
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Maybe either way it's a good one.
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: I've been dating this guy for a little over a
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: year now, and I haven't noticed any big red flags
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: or deal breakers. A little background info is that before
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: we started dating, my best friend and I got into
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: a huge fight and we didn't speak for a few
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: months because she dislikes my boyfriend a lot. She told
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: me that she had heard bad things about him, like
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: he is known for cheating on multiple girls and being narcissistic.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: I ignored these things because what she told me didn't
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: make sense at the time and didn't match his character.
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: He always validates my feelings and makes me feel safe
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: around him. Even before we dated, he always treated me
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: so well. He didn't seem like the type to cheat
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: on anyone. She recently told me that he sent her
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: pictures and videos on snap of himself naked and asked
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: her to come over. I asked her for proof, and
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: she said she couldn't show me because snapchat tells you
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: when you screenshot, which is so valid. I talked to
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: my boyfriend and deny these things, and it really seemed
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: like he was being honest. I don't know if I
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: should believe my friend when she has had something against
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: him from the start and gets weird when we talk
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: about him. It does not seem like something he would do.
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: But now I'm questioning if she's right from the start,
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: what should I do in this situation? Oh my god.
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, who's lying? One of them is lying?
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: All right? Okay, wait, okay, okay, um.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: Why I would the friend come out of the blue
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: and say he just sent me naked pictures?
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: But also why wouldn't she screenshot? That's what I was thinking.
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't be scared at all. Who am I thinking about?
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: So?
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, if like, if my girlfriend's best friend send me news?
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: Oh wait, is that what it is? My girlfriend's best friend? No?
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: If my best friend's girlfriend, No, if it's if yeah
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: yeah yeah. If Cassie sent you to yeah yeah, I
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: wouldn't give a fuck. If she knew I screenshot of them,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: I'd be like boom.
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: I'd send her a message telling BODYE got your got
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: your bitch.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, yeah, I do. I think she could
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: be lying.
• 24:38
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm scared, not like who's in the wrong and
• 24:44
  Speaker 5: there's no real way of knowing, but also if he's
• 24:47
  Speaker 5: doing something so wrong like that, like why would you
• 24:50
  Speaker 5: care if you screenshot it?
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: You wouldn't.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: That's why I think she's lying, and he if you
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: should always I was GONNAE should always trust the person
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: by their actions, and if he's doing everything right, you
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: have no reason to doubt his trust and devotion towards you.
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: But this is just straight up ruined your relationship, like
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: genuine it's this has fully ruined your own.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: Because there's there's two reasons behind this. Either the girl
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: secretly likes your man and wants you to not to
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: be together or the way else would she want to
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: break him apart? Or the dude is a manipulative, narcissistic asshole,
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: very likely, and he's hiding everything.
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: I can't get around the fact that she didn't take screenshots.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: That's what I think, with the information we've been given,
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: we have to come to conclusions that all things considered, Yeah,
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: I think that logic dictates that she should shot.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: Okay, reasons as.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: To why she couldn't screenshot so for some reason, she
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: didn't want the guy to know she screenshotted.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: Is she scared of him?
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: But also but like even if she's scared of him, right,
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: she's got the proof.
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she got the proof. That's like a get out
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: of jail free card. Like she legit it. No matter
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: what he says, you could threaten her with anything. Yeah,
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: look at this bitch. You literally have our photo of it.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: Tell me that's not you.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, same tattoo, motherfucker, Like, tell me that's not you. Eh,
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: I think we can't look past that. Yeah. Fuck, I
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: has our two cents.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: These have the hardest dilemmas.
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's actually actually like where or do we do?
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: We?
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: Here?
• 26:33
  Speaker 3: We go?
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: Here we go, say to the friend. Entertain it, Yeah,
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: get more fuck it?
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, give me proof? Yeah yeah yeah, yeah, you know what,
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: if you're such a good.
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: Friend, all right, let's run this ship back, send him something,
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: all right, start messaging him. Let me know how it goes.
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: You don't even have to get nudes off him. If
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: he entertains the conversation with you that is clearly not platonic. Yeah,
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: let me know.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: And I believe you and.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: He should entertainer going off everything you've told me about him.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: That's a good plain. He's like, oh, finally I've got
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: my chance. Yeah.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: But if he doesn't, Yeah, can I here's the answer?
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: Fu can I? Okay? Who should I be annoyed at more?
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: My bestie or my ex?
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: Group of mates was staying at the den. I don't
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: know what the den.
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: Is because we were doing some volunteer work in the
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: morning and going to a ball that night, so the
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: group was us Sorry, So the group of us nine
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: decided to watch a movie gossip and drink. Once we
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: all decided to go to bed, a few had swags
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: and a few were sweet sleeping on the couches. I
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: woke up at two am and noticed that my best
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: friend was missing. I got up, went to the bathroom,
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: and when I went back to the couch, I heard it.
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: My best friend had got into my x's swag and
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: we're having a route, rather loudly.
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: For all to hear.
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: The next day, they both deny it, but the ones
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: of us that were awake know what really happened that night.
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: Is that it.
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so she should be she'd ask you who should
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: she be more annoyed at?
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: That's fucking crazy.
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: The best friend yeah, but also like this is why
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: I also kind of.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: Like, also, you're not your friend. Yeah, you not your
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: friend ship friends ship X.
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: Don't shop where you can continue to be friends of
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: your X doesn't work. It's insane, disrespecting X, disrespectful friend,
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: disgusting in all counts. Also the decency to go.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: Hard at least. Fuck.
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: I'm trying to think this a swag right next to everyone.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: How long have you been broken up for? That's my question?
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: And I'm trying to think what would I do if
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: I had confidence and it didn't affect me initially? I
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: would like him the walls of the swag and.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: Like let it fall on them.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: Fuck I reckon, Yeah, you could do something like that.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: I can just let it be you've lost a friend.
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: And film it for did you guys have sex last night?
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: No?
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: Really, we just film me outside and outside, like, do
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: you guys have sex last night?
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: No?
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: What are you talking about? Is that you? Yeah? Yeah
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: we did?
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: What a terrible friend. I hate those friends actually brings
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: up a good conversation. Who throw almost everything away to
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: get the opposite sex's pants down. There's a lot of
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: people who do that too. Their moles just disappear when
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: they can get some.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: Deck or vagina. It is interesting.
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: It's like, is there this crazy attraction because there was
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: such a long time where it was something that was
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: so off limits that you wouldn't even think about being
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: sexually attracted to them. But now that they're single, it's
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: a possibility. So now you just like have this hankering
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: to just fuck them.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: I've never had that neither neither.
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: Ah, yeah, craziness.
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it is funny too because, like I know, friends
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: too have had that exact mindset, not necessarily Saraihly with
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: an ex, but a girl who has been i don't know,
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: dating a dude for ages and then she's single.
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: Like, oh she has a bit on the market for ages. Yeah,
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: she's so like yeah, I'm like, oh yeah, sure, yeah.
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: I started like you can even like you can, I'm
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: having to emit when someone's attractive. Yeah, but I feel
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: like that I think they are like sexy, but I'm
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: not going to have sex with them if the chance arose.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: Oh ya, You're not going to try to have sex
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: with them?
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: No, And I always have that mindset of like they're
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: always in that category.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: For me as off limits, no matter what.
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's an interesting and the best thing to do,
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: if you're mature and responsible, would be if you're the
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: best friend to say, hey, Jake's come up to me
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: and said he has feelings for me.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: I know he's your ex.
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: How do you feel if I went through with that
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: or went on a date with him, and then you
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: could say I'm not comfortable with it, or that's fine,
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: I don't have any feelings for him anymore, and then
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: go on a date not just buck next to me.
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: I just think it's the craziest way to find out too, Like,
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: what a crazy way to find out that your friend
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: isn't your friend? So disrespecting a imagine like also imagine
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: being the ex boyfriend and the quote unquote best friend
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: and doing it, being like, can't belive you just got
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: away with that, and then the next day people were like,
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: did you guys have sex last night?
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: And they're like nah, and.
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: They did, and the reason like like like what, ma,
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: how can you deny it? Bro?
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: You're in a swag this like a millimeter thick, honestly
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: crazy spread with the hoes.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: It'll just be the best feeling I open.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: I would that's a bit of closure.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: For sure already.
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: Next dilemma, dilemma, I kind of know my answer, however,
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: I think I just want to know what you guys
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: are thinking. So last we met and decided to be
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: strictly fuck buddies ooh which I oh wait, I'm terrible
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: at abbreviations friends with benefits, which is basically the same
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: thing which.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: I was one hundred percent okay with.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: They wanted nothing serious because of graduation coming up then
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: and they would be across the country afterwards. I told
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: them that I wouldn't do long distance because of what
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: happened in my previous relationship. Tell me why they were
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: doing boyfriend duties on a friends with benefits salary in
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: brackets unless I'm crazy.
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: And looked into it too much.
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: This was all in a six month period, three months
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: of three months of it in person until I felt
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: them pull away, so I ghosted them first. Pretty sure
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: they took that as a challenge, talked to me again
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: two weeks later, and then ghosted me three months later.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: Jeez.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: And then she put a list of all the things
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: he was doing, and I guess we got to see
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: if this is like boyfriend Judy or not. Okay, one
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: good morning slash, good night texts.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: You can say.
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: Whether it's boyfriend or not friends of benefit. Yeah, all right,
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: so so ask me friends of benefits of boyfriend. Yeah,
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: friends of benefit or boyfriends. So good morning, slash, good
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: night texts. That's boyfriend, Hello slash, goodbye kisses. Boyfriend Three
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: our second date. I made dinner and they bought me
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: sparkling grape juice because I told them I couldn't have
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: alcohol hole because of my medical reasons.
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: Briend. Four.
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: They came to see me before leaving for a weekend.
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: My friend took my phone and said I miss you
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: text and they sent back, I miss you too.
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: Boyfriend. That's a bit fucking techy, butte great at conversations.
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: Ah, that could be a fuck with by like that
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: could be friends of benefits for this one.
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: Both forehead kisses, boyfriend holding the face kisses. Oh my god, husband, husband,
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: you reckon.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: That's great. That's fucking that's intimate.
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: Giving me comforting hugs on bad days.
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: Boyfriend.
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: We both really liked listening to podcasts and talked about
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: our thoughts on them.
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: That could be friends of benefits kept me company when
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: I was in the hospital. Boyfriend talked about what we
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: wanted in the future.
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: Boyfriend waited three days before we did anything.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: That's open to interpretation.
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: I was also like, I suppose it probably took three
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: days for him to say I want to be friends
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: with benefits. Yeah, Now a year later, this motherfucker comes
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: crawling back to me.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: A year later, I thought it was.
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: Going abroad, but came to visit after a game at
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: our college. I did ask them about last year Shenanigan's
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: and they avoided it and questioned it with humor whatever.
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: I was fine with a one night stand, but in
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: the middle of the season, they asked me what my
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: favorite flowers were, Like, brah, are you going to buy
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: me a bouquet of flowers or what? So we spent
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: the night together. He walked me out in the morning
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: and then kissed me goodbye. He told him to text
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: me when he got back, and he didn't and stop
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: talking to me.
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: Damn.
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: While we were together, we also joked about seeing each
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: other the following week, but nothing ever eventuated. What is
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: the logic behind this man and what was he thinking?
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: Sorry this is so long, but I don't know what's happening.
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: Shit. I mean, it's pretty obvious, like I think you
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: can recognize.
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: You can recognize what he's doing. But at the same time,
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: the fact that like you're asking is means I think
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: you might have had some feelings for him, but you
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: can recognize what he's doing. So you're trying to tell
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: someone else what he's been doing just to see if
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: they have a different answer when you know the answer,
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: and the answer is he's being a fuck boy and
• 35:53
  Speaker 3: you should fuck him off.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And it always comes back to if you haven't.
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: Heard it from the relatables before, from Mummy and Daddy,
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: is friends with benefits. Fuck buddies never work when you're
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: having that intimate interaction with anybody.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: It's too many emotions involved.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: Even if you both say, oh, I just want to
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: have sex, it's never just sex.
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: Ever, it's never just sex.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: Impossible, implausible, and one person or both people catch feelings
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: and then there's this confusion behind how you're feeling because
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: you've said you just want to have sex, but then
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: the intimate action is making you fall in love with
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: each other because it's a beautiful process, and you put
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: this silly little label on it, And yeah, I think
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: you got to ask yourself, like, did I have feelings
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: for him and I should have known better. Yeah, and
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: it's hard too because in your situation it's kind of
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: like sex is good and all, and hanging out with
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: him I really like. But then also I don't want
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: to stop that, but also we're not going to go
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: any further, So what do I do?
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: So you just keep doing it? Fuck, it's like a
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: reoccurring cycle.
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: And it's easy to get into, very easy to get into.
• 36:59
  Speaker 3: But moral of this story is, do not agree to
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: friends with benefits.
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: Never never, never never.
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: We've said it. The only time it ever works is
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: one night stand or something or like, but it's that
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: that's not it, or like you do it every six
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: months and there's a message, hey, come have sex.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: And you leave and don't talk, yes, something like that.
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: And to be fair, the only reason I say I
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: think that works is because it like sounds like it
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: would work, but I've never done that.
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and no one ever wants that.
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: You're not gonna want just a message saying you want
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: to root and then comes over and then after rooting,
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: you just leave about saying anything you want to cuddle,
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: you want to fucking ki.
• 37:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah, everyone wants to be in a relationship for the night. Yeah, yeah, Cat,
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: that's where feelings come in exactly.
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: It's like fuckingss Nesta and Cassian, Nassy and Nessie, I
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: can Cassian, yeahs Nassy Nassi.
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: That's there, that's their ship name. Yeah Nesta.
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: Nesta was like no, it's just sex, and Cassian loved
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: her and he couldn't admit it.
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: Well, he was very happy to be like, yeah, neess,
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: just sex, Come get this fucking egg plan.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: Well, a lot of dudes also like anything's better than nothing. Yeah, acts,
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: that's so true.
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: Okay, last one, This is a crazy story from a baddie. Okay,
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: hey guys, this is more of a funny slash crazy
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: story than a dilemma. I came home from UNI about
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: three weeks ago for holiday and met up with a
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: few of my girlfriends from secondary school. We pregamed and
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: then ended up bar hopping throughout the night. At this point,
• 38:30
  Speaker 3: I was a bit tipsy and horny, so I was
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: flirting with a couple of guys at the bar we
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: ended up going to. I saw this attractive guy and
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: just went for it. We talked for a while and
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: hit it off and ended up making out. I decided
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: fuck it and decided to have. So I decide fuck
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: it and decide to have a little one night stand
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: with this guy. We go to his place and we're
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: doing it, and all is well. The guy was great
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: and everything. That is, until in the middle of it,
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: he asks me to peg him. While I am an
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: adventurous GW, this still threw me off guard. I think
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: he noticed and immediately said I didn't have to if
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: I didn't want to. My first thought was no, but
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: honestly I was still horny and spontaneously decided, what's the
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: worst that can happen, so I agree this guy. This
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: guy then proceeds to pull out a strap on from
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: his closet and puts it on me and then lays
• 39:27
  Speaker 3: on the bed with his legs spread. At this point,
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: I just go for it and he starts moaning super loud.
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: I honestly find it pretty hot until he screams daddy
• 39:38
  Speaker 3: and another random guy's name he has a crush on someone.
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: At that point, I lost all horniness, and if I
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: were a man, I went soft. I took the strap
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: on off, grabbed my stuff, ordered the lift, and got
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: the fuck out of there. I will be erasing this
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: story from my mind.
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a that was just a confession. It was
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: just a bit of a confession.
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: I mean, that's actually a fucking that's a pretty funny story,
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: especially because like it was like it was all consensual
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: and stuff, and then you decided, I'm not this isn't
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: for me.
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: He's got a little bit too weird at the end.
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I got a little bit like too much for you.
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: And you got out of there, and I'm trying, like
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to think. I wonder like what made him
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: screaming on the dude's name, or he.
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: Must have a crush on them, or but there's kind
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: of like there's three boundaries right there, and he's done
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: all the right things.
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: Do you want to do it?
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: She said yes, the next one was daddy, and then the.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: Next one is another person's name.
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, be good in the bedroom is.
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's hard as well. It's like I think, so
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: she did think no, and then she goes.
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: You know what, I'd fuck it, I'll try it. Yeah.
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: But then I think we love an open minded bad Yeah,
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: we love it open minded baddie, And like you know,
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: reading it, all things can sitd I think that everything
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: was done properly and at least she can tell the story. Yeah,
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: I don't recond and race it.
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: It's kind of like, fuck, guess what happened on my
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: one nightstand? True, it's it's a story to be told.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: Let's be real.
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: It's a story to be told. And it's a good confession.
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: It is a good confession. Who was bigger than strap On.
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: Or his fuck?
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: He surely brought one that smaller in his own As
• 41:26
  Speaker 2: a man, you'd have to have.
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: You would have to like knowing a man's mentality to be.
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: Fair like as a girl like that. It's kind of
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: like that is it called dom like domin matrix type mindset?
• 41:39
  Speaker 3: Like?
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: And so yeah, it's like the dynamic shifted, like okay,
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: here we go.
• 41:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so at that point in time, she was kind
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: of obviously playing the dom and he was enjoying playing
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: the sub. Interesting, I could say that thing like hot
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: knowing you know, honestly the same, the dynamic shift not
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: for me, but not for me, nothing with them.
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: But I mean, it's not.
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: Something I've ever really even thought about. It's a funny story.
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: Well, Battie, that was another dilemmas.
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I hope you enjoyed it.
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: I'll just put a link in the description for generalized dilemmas.
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: If you've got anything going on at the moment, link
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: will be there.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and as you know, we answered them on the
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: Monday episodes exactly.
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: And also if you want more, there's stuff over on
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: Patreon book Club early actually episode every week, and there's
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: extensions of dilemmas here and there everywhere.
• 42:30
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