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"IS PERFECTION THE ENEMY OF GOOD?" AND OTHER MIDLIFE QUESTIONS · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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  Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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  you to let it go and don't look back, with nationally acclaimed
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  professional organizer Christine Stone and self-proclaimed Hot
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  Damn Mess radio and TV personality Eden Kendall.
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  Welcome everyone to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast for
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  women over 50 and that also includes Women Over. 60 yes,
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  very shortly, women over 60 besides me, it will be you.
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  Yep, and we're going to talk about that in this and coming
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  episodes for sure. But our topic today is going to
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  sound crazy. It's the vegan plus bacon
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  philosophy, and we will explain that the vegan plus bacon
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  philosophy. It's a whole thing online.
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  But before we get to that, you and I got to spend some quality
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  time together with our chaperone, my husband at the KC
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  and the Sunshine Band show. Look.
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  At my smile. It was fantastic.
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  It was so. Much fun.
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  So much fun. He was so gracious on stage, you
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  know, just, he surrounded himself just like he told us he
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  did with so many talented people.
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  And he gave them all their moment, including the woman that
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  you couldn't stop raving about, Maria, who is over 60 and
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  crushing it as a singer and backup dancer.
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  Yes, yes, I I told you about her in the fall when I went and saw
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  him with my husband and we told him about it.
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  If you go back to our KC episode and he remembered when we met
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  him and I was so in awe of that, that he remembered.
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  He said, oh, I told Maria all about you too.
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  So I was so thrilled that he actually remembered who we were.
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  Yeah, when we were walking up, we were in a line.
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  It was like a meet and greet line.
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  You may remember. He, I don't know if it was still
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  recording when he invited us to come backstage and say hello.
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  But we get backstage and he he saw us approach and he said,
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  ladies, you're here. I've been looking for you at my
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  other Florida shows. I didn't remember what city, but
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  I've been looking for you and I told Maria about you.
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  And then after we did our photo with him, he turned to my
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  husband and said this you're you're a lucky guy.
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  And my husband, we walked out and my husband said, did you
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  hear what he said? He said you are very lucky to
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  have me. I was like I missed.
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  That I. Heard him say you are lucky so.
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  It was a night. It was a night.
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  I loved every minute of it. And he's lost a bunch of weight
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  recently. Remember, he told us he'd been
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  playing a lot of tennis and had a coach.
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  He looked great. He looked great, he sounded
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  amazing. It it definitely worth seeing.
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  I mean, they give you a show and could you believe how long they
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  played? I mean, I was looking at my
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  watch going I'm normally have been sleeping in bed for 2 1/2
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  hours. I am in awe of how they can do
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  this and be wide awake and be, you know, I, I could never like
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  and it was a weeknight, which for me is very rare going out on
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  a weeknight. They clearly have naps during
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  the day. Maybe not the babies, maybe not
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  that young little lady that was the dancer.
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  She may not need a nap. She might just sleep until 9:30.
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  Ten would be good. But I'm going to say that and
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  we'll ask her because guess what?
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  We're going to be speaking with her.
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  We will ask Maria if some of the older folks on that tour take
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  naps. During the night.
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  Because they have to. There's just no chance.
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  So we'll ask about that. What is on your radar this week?
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  OK, So what is on my radar? I had a wedding to go to and it
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  was a formal wedding. If you're over 60, maybe even I
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  I don't know about the ladies over 50, but if you're over 60
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  and you are trying to find a formal dress for a wedding, good
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  luck. Good luck.
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  You either have to look like an old lady, I mean old lady, like
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  80 year old lady, or they're just unattractive or the colors
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  are off. It was so terrible.
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  So what did I do? I ended up just wearing
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  something I already had, which of course it was black.
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  Hello. And it was fine.
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  It was fine. I've just worn it to so many
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  weddings that I wanted something new.
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  But I might have to go into dress designing because I'm
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  telling you, it is slim pickings out there for ladies over 60
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  when it comes to formal wedding attire and you don't want to
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  spend thousands of dollars. For someone.
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  Else's wedding. If you're the mother of the
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  bride's groom. That's, you know, you can spend
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  a little more. Than want to but I'm saying no
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  no. Well, I told you for my
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  daughter's wedding, my dress cost $175 and no one could
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  believe it, but I said, and it was sequins and gold.
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  But I was not spending thousands of dollars on a dress that I
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  would never, ever, ever wear again.
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  You can't wear it again. No, because it's in all the
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  photos. It's in every photo.
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  It can't be worn again. I just, I have a thing about,
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  you know, formal attire, I guess, because as you get older
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  and I don't know if you see this, what are the chances that
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  you're going to be going to a lot of formal events?
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  You're not. A very rare.
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  Carpet season. No.
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  And I just even weddings, most of them that I go to are more
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  they're not black tie. So you just don't want to invest
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  in a lot of really dressy, sequiny things that cost a lot
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  of money. I'm getting ready to host a
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  black tie event and I'm going to go on a rental site, right?
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  Look for something great and then if that doesn't workout,
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  I'm coming to your house. I don't know if I have anything
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  left but my daughter just did that for a wedding she's going
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  to. She renting or she came to your
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  house? No, no, she's done that a lot.
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  No, for a dress because it was formal also and it was the most
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  stunningly beautiful dress that was normally like 8 or $900 and
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  she rented it and she's going to send it back.
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  So I mean it fit her like a glove.
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  That's. That's fantastic.
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  That's that's what I'm planning to do.
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  I have a little bit of time before that rolls around, but
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  yeah, that's the plan. So what's on yours?
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  Well I just watched a fantastic ROM com on Netflix called Office
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  Romance. I watched it last.
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  Night. Did you start?
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  Jennifer Lopez and Brett Goldstein from Ted Lasso?
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  He plays Roy on Ted Lasso. Their chemistry, I think.
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  Maybe the best chemistry. She's ever had with another
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  actor. Ever, ever ever.
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  Fantastic chemistry and they're doing a lot of press together
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  and chemistry exists, but much? Better than and I'm a huge
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  wedding planner with Matthew McConaughey, and with her, I
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  thought this chemistry was it looked real.
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  It was so fantastic, and he's one of those guys that sometimes
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  he looks sexy to me and sometimes he looks the complete
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  opposite. He's also in Shrinking, which is
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  by the makers of Ted Lasso, and he's a writer, so I knew he was
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  one of the writers on this. He was a writer at on Ted Lasso
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  and wasn't ever going to be in Ted Lasso.
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  He was just one of the creators and so I knew he had this very
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  edgy, funny sense of humor. This is a sweet ROM com, but
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  it's edgy. It's like a no they did not go
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  there kind of howl out loud laughter movie.
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  It's so funny. And I was happy to see chest
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  hair is back. How about you?
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  Big time chest hair is. Back.
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  I loved it. I loved it.
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  Big on another show I'm watching Rivals, which is a British.
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  Show. And and rivals it was made.
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  It's a it's an English show and it's sometimes you know, you can
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  tell like it's an American show made to be in England.
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  This is like British to the point where sometimes I'm like,
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  thank goodness the sub captions are on.
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  But Declan, one of the main characters is very hairy and
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  they just did a slow motion scene where they said unbutton
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  your shirt, show some hair and he's riding a horse in his hair.
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  It's just. I've always had a thing about
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  men who shaved their chest because to me, hair means you're
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  a man. When you don't have hair, it's
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  like you're a boy. I don't know why I feel that
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  way, but that's how I've always felt.
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  So I was never into the shaving of the chest hair kind of thing.
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  I mean, I know. I'm not a chest hair person but
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  I would never prefer shaved over really.
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  Wait, wait, I'm that's another thing she like and I like the
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  hair. I laugh because we always make
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  comparisons how how different we are.
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  So let's get away. Because if we were, if we were
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  friends like we are now, back in the day, the single days, we
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  would never have to fight over guys, right?
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  Because you can have all the hairy ones.
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  Maybe it's because I'm Greek and Lebanese and it's the Middle
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  Eastern thing and you just don't see men with shaved chests that
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  are older, like my age. I think that's.
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  Survival of the fitting your your your heritage would never
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  have been able to procreate and continue without the women were
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  bred with an aversion to hair. Right, exactly.
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  So the only way to continue keeping the the Greek
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  livelihood, you have to have that inner like desire to be a
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  really man there. It's science.
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  Yeah, but it was good. I highly recommend it if you
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  like ROM coms. I thought it was so right there.
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  I mean, I just. Love this romance on.
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  Netflix, it was so. Really, really funny.
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  It's a it's a great movie. It's a great movie.
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  You got anything else on your radar?
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  The only other thing is I have been experimenting with a lot of
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  eye patches. I'm really pirate.
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  No, not those kind the ones you put under your eyes and I
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  literally I must have four of the round containers in my
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  refrigerator and then some that are in their own, you know, peel
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  off bag. I am been on a the hunt to find
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  the perfect deep huffing, you know, takes away the blacks, you
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  know, dark circles, fine lines and wrinkles.
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  And so far I have one that is really, really on my radar, but
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  it's too soon to discuss. But this is what I've been
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  doing. I I try them at different like
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  morning in the evening, one-on-one eye.
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  Documenting it? Are you writing it down?
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  I definitely have it documented in my head because I'm so picky
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  about what I'm targeting so I will get back to you guys, but I
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  am determined to find the perfect eye under eye patch.
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  I love it. Thank you for doing the work.
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  Thank you for doing the work. My last radar thing is I feel
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  like I went to talk about this before and didn't, but argon oil
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  and that is for my hair and also skin.
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  And then lately I've been using it like on my eyelashes and on
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  my eyebrows. It's just pure, 100% pure argon
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  oil, which is often recommended for people to smooth out their
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  hair and get rid of the frizz. But I've been really kind of
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  leaning into it. I even added a little one of my
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  bottles. I even added a little perfume
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  to. So when I put it all over my
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  skin, I get my perfume smell, which I know is not your thing,
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  and one more thing, you. Sell my facial.
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  Expression. She's not a perfume person, but
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  but yeah, so to me it's like a very inexpensive kind of locks
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  in the moisture after a shower. I put some of my hair gives me a
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  little more shine little what do they call it?
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  Slip, little slip on my hair. So if I do this, if my hair
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  slips, it's I just that's what's on my radar right now.
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  Just look it, look it up, investigate it.
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  It's a. Jehovah oil.
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  That's a. Similar oil.
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  It's a similar oil. Some oils they say are more.
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  I think the word is committagenic where it doesn't
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  go into your port. You know, and that's why I use
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  Jehovah oil, because my face breaks out.
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  Right, so. You're still ladies, any of you
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  over 60 FYI. Oh, I had I've today I had a
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  little a little pimple right here and I said to my husband, I
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  must have my period. He's like that.
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  It's a miracle. I'm like, that would not be a
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  miracle. So after hysterectomy, I don't
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  think. So, yeah, right.
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  Exactly. You have nothing to blame that
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  pimple on. Yeah.
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  I don't know what caused it. I was like, what are you doing
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  down there, buddy? All right, why don't we take a
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  quick break and come back with our topic, which is vegan plus
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  bacon. I know it sounds strange, but I
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  promise there is some some research that went into this
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  one. We'll be right back.
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  Welcome back. We are talking today about the
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  vegan plus bacon principle, which basically stemmed from a
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  video where somebody said, let's say you want to be a vegan, but
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  you know you can't give up bacon.
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  All right, so be a vegan plus bacon.
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  And the way that this is meant to be taken is all or nothing.
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  Thinking makes change harder, meaning if you think it has to
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  be all or nothing about everything you do in life, it
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  makes it harder to start. So the all or nothing thinking
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  is kind of like this. And I'm going to tell you some
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  of the things it could apply to exercise, reading, studying,
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  therapy, practicing instruments, eating more vegetables, being on
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  social media less. And the idea is, let's take
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  exercise, for example. If I go decide I want to start
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  going to the gym, I have to go for an hour every day.
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  Or how about this? You could go for 20 minutes or
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  10 minutes or 5 minutes. You don't have to decide like
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  some big blanket statement, I'm going to do this and I'm going
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  to do it all the way. You don't have to whole asset.
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  You can half ass it sometimes and still get benefits.
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  I think I was told go all the way in.
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  I agree. I I have noticed, especially now
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  that I'm older, that if I try to do something to the extreme like
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  that, like where I'm just going to cut out a whole food group or
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  I'm just going to exercise for two hours straight.
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  Never happens anymore. It's it has to be where I have
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  some sort of flexibility in it because I almost feel anxiety
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  when I do it the other way. Like, Oh no, I had, you know, 1
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  mini chocolate chip cookie. Now I'm doomed and and then you
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  feel guilty and anxiety. So I don't buy into the all or
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  nothing type way of doing things.
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  I don't care what what it involves.
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  I mean, even in organization, people are like, if I don't
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  organize the the whole entire house, forget it.
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  I mean, one room won't do because then there it just never
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  happens. It never works that way.
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  You have to take small baby steps to me and doing something
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  that is that, especially being a vegan for me, I'm a huge meat
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  eater and that would be really tough for me.
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  Right. But let's just say, and exactly
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  what you just said, but let's just say you, like me, are
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  trying to increase your protein intake and there's a meal that
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  you want to have at a restaurant that you love.
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  And the meal that you love at that restaurant doesn't have
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  meat in it. OK, So I'm trying to get more
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  protein, but I'm still going to go to the place where I love
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  their blah, blah, blah salad because not every meal.
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  I'm still going to benefit from the other two meals during the
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  day where I got the protein in. So I didn't do three meals that
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  day. OK, You don't have to just
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  decide, throw your hands up in the air and say I'm a failure.
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  And I think the way that they described it in the in the
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  slideshow that I have in front of me basically was saying,
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  here's an example of practicing the piano.
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  I have to practice my hardest piece every single day.
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  Or how about this? You could take a break.
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  You could play something different.
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  You could practice just scales for 5 minutes, or you could play
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  chopsticks for one minute. You're still playing the piano.
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  Yeah, I mean, my philosophy, and this isn't fatalistic, this is
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  just, I would say in the last 10 years, So since I turned 50, my
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  philosophy is so say everyone wants to go to a steakhouse, but
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  you don't eat steak. My philosophy is if I miss that
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  steak, even though I really, really, really want it, if I
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  drop dead tomorrow and I'm up in heaven and I'm looking down and
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  I'm like, you could have just eaten that one steak.
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  It wouldn't have killed you because you're dead.
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  I mean, I feel like people miss out on some pleasures and
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  enjoyment, especially as they get older and they still try to
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  stick to that same philosophy. I feel like you're missing out
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  on a lot of pleasurable things that you know bring you joy and
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  you don't do them. Or you're afraid to put a label
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  on something because you don't think you're doing it as much as
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  someone else. And this happens all the time in
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  the running community. I'm not a runner like you're a
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  runner. Well.
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  You know, you say that, but if you run and it's at, you know, a
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  15 minute pace and you're doing it once a month, you're running,
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  you know, it's nobody's here to decide who's doing it the most.
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  Well coming from a non runner you're right.
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  If you run even up the block, you're a runner to me, right?
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  Exactly. It's all relative and you don't
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  have to be all into any one thing.
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  So you know, to say I'm not an artist but you like to doodle,
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  then you're then you're an artist.
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  And as far as I'm concerned, you're what you want to be.
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  And you don't have to check every single box to be a part of
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  any single movement. You don't have to complete every
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  single task to feel like you're worthy of calling yourself
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  anything. And that's, that's vegan plus
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  bacon. That's saying, you know, maybe I
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  should have more plant in my diet.
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  So. I'll eat some more plants.
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  Doesn't mean you have to cut out everything else, just you do
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  you. Boo has the.
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  Well exactly, and also, I mean every day is a different day.
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  I always say that about everything, the mood you're in.
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  Something bad may happen one day, but tomorrow is a new day.
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  Same with OK if you had a piece of bacon, it doesn't ruin your
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  whole week. Tomorrow's a new day and just
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  pick up where you left off. I think people beat themselves
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  up so much much over little tiny things.
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  And that's the joy about being over 50 is you don't really beat
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  yourself up that much anymore over, like, the little things
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  because there are so many other real important things that you
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  don't do what you did when you were under 50 where you, like,
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  really focused on, like you said, vegan plus bacon.
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  I can't. Yeah.
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  You know. There there's a saying, and I
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  want to give you the opposites of this saying, but there's a
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  saying that says good enough is the enemy of excellence.
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  But in this particular case, perfection is the enemy of good.
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  I agree. On that for a minute, if you
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  feel like you're not doing it all the way doesn't mean you're
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  not doing it, Good for you for doing or not doing whatever it
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  is. IIA 100% agree.
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  And that's why in my business people want everything to be
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  perfect and then it is and I leave and it becomes normal life
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  where people are living in their home and enjoying it and then
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  they feel like it's not perfect anymore.
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  And you can do both. It doesn't have to be all the
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  time, seven days a week, 24 hours a day.
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  I just think that people get to extremes and then and then they
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  get depressed and miserable. Exactly.
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  Exactly. So no more perfection, no more
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  striving for perfection. Let's strive instead for some
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  happiness and some forgiveness and some good.
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  And enjoying one day at a time because that's really all we
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  have in my opinion. I mean, you're not guaranteed
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  more than that. So enjoy the day.
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  I say have that cookie. That's just me, but.
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  Have that bacon, can you vegan? Yeah, have that bacon, have that
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  one cookie, like the sprinkle thing that's going on right now,
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  the sprinkle cakes. Yeah, the dot cakes or whatever
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  you call them. I literally was like, I'm having
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  one of those, end of story. Like I saw that they made them
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  at a local bakery. I'm like, I'm going up there and
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  I'm getting a dot cake. I reached out yesterday to a
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  bakery that's doing a bunch of those dot cakes and I was like,
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  when can I show up and record a segment with you for our TV
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  show? Because Yum.
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  I love sprinkles so I lean heavily into the sprinkles.
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  And you know what? I'll join you and have one with
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  you. Let's put that back on our
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  radar. Yes, yes.
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  You don't know what they are. Look them up.
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  Yes. OK, great.
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  So we're going to take a quick break and come back with some
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  organizational tips for you, at least one good one.
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  We are back and we're we're we're going to talk about an
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  organizational tip. I actually saw this.
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  Are we going to do this one, the one I saw and sent to you and
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  ask you what you thought called house mapping.
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  And house mapping is about moving things around to I guess
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  aid you and being more organized or prevent you from being less
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  organized. This is something that you have
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  an opinion about. Well, first of all, I always
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  like to say this. Whatever it takes to get someone
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  organized, I'm 100% on board with.
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  I never say what anybody is doing is negative or not working
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  because everybody's different. And if it works for you IA 100%
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  think you should do it. I did read about this and it
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  said house mapping is a single simple decluttering method that
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  you might already be doing. This is just where you simply
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  map out the problem areas in your home, identify where
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  clutter builds up most, and create systems that make
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  cleaning easier to maintain. That was the gist of it.
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  And so for instance, if you're always throwing laundry in this
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  one corner of the bedroom, instead of doing that, go get a
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  hamper and put it in that corner.
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  Or go get a tree and put it in that corner.
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  Like something more decorative so you're not throwing it on the
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  floor and you're putting it in the laundry every room.
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  So like I said, I mean, I personally just my philosophy is
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  everything just needs a home and it will stay organized.
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  But if this is something where it's more to me, this is
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  something more about habits. You're in the habit of doing
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  something and so you're trying to break that habit.
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  And how can you break it? Well, put a laundry basket in
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  that corner instead of throwing the clothes on the, on the
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  floor. And I do think that would work
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  for some people. I really do.
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  I think you're, once you break those habits, then you retrain
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  your brain and you think about it before you do it.
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  So, oh, I'm not going to do that because now I have a hamper
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  there. So I I I definitely think it's
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  worth a try for sure. It makes all the sense in the
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  world to apply it to the way you think.
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  Because in my own bathroom, I had this little narrow area and
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  you said slide a hamper in there.
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  And then whenever that hamper is not there, like maybe we've
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  rolled it down the hallway to do the laundry, it only takes about
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  5 minutes before I see a pile of clothes in the exact spot where
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  the hamper was. Nobody's saying, oh wait, the
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  hamper's down the hall. Let me go ahead and walk down
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  the hall. It's just that's the spot our
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  brains are going to the spot. My husband moved the garbage can
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  in the kitchen across the room as a permanent home.
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  And I'm telling you, it is making me bonkers.
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  I have. I'm wondering, will I ever not
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  have to go zigzag to find the garbage can?
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  Oh. My God, that's so.
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  Funny. So I think you know,
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  geographically we're we're conditioned, but it is all about
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  habits like you just. Said right, right.
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  But like I said, try it. It doesn't hurt.
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  Yeah, it doesn't. Try thinking about it if you
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  have a place where you know the mail is always getting dropped
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  keys, whatever. Maybe.
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  A basket or an organizer right in that spot.
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  So it's about some geography. All right, well, that that about
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  does it for this episode. So we talked a lot about not
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  letting perfection get in the way of you being good.
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  I know there are some people out there who would say the
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  opposite, but hey, that's their podcast.
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  You can go listen to you for us, we're like, you do your best and
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  we're happy to hear you. We always love it.
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  If you could share a podcast with just one girlfriend, one
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  sister, one cousin, anyone you can think of.
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  And until we meet again, remember you can Add all the
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  broccoli you want to your diet, but if you think you can't add
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  that one piece of bacon, that idea, you can let it go.
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  And don't look back.