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Reset before 2026- Episode 7 · Sip Happens

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  I'm Alexandra. I am Lynn.
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  I'm Rose and this is Sid happens.
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  We wanted to just give you a heads up, this podcast is all
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  for fun and entertainment. We are sharing our own.
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  Thoughts and stories? Not professional advice, so
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  relax, enjoy and don't take us too seriously.
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  Let's get this started. Welcome to Sid happens.
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  What's in your cup today? I actually just finished my
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  decaf sheet, so I probably along our little chat here, here, I
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  have to get a refill. How about you, Rosie?
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  I'm having a protein shake for my dinner.
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  I'm obsessed with the premier coffee.
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  You guys have the Premier Protein.
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  No, I do like that flavor the. Coffee one, Yes, the hubby
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  doesn't like it. It's a little strong but my
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  hubby doesn't like it either because he says there's an after
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  taste. Do you mix it with anything?
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  I don't. I see people mixing it with
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  coffee. Yes, but I've tried it.
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  I don't know, maybe I don't have the ratio right.
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  It's just been off. You have to get the ratio right,
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  But I use it. It's more like it's my Creamer
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  into the coffee because then I don't add anything else.
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  But I'm getting protein because remember, I'm in my fitness era.
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  So protein is my it's my game. I like that one in the caramel.
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  The salted caramel is really. Good.
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  I don't think I've tried that one, but I was going to ask if
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  you liked any other brands. My theory though, I told this to
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  my husband this week. If it tastes good, is it really
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  healthy? I question that.
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  Protein shake but it is good and I refuse to read the ingredients
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  list. I sell protein.
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  Good luck, my friend. You're gonna read it.
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  Good luck. It's delicious.
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  It's really good. What am I?
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  Drinking. Yes.
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  What are you drinking? Yes, I made you a decaf iced
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  latte with caramel. It's delicious.
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  That's why I was like, wait a minute, is this decaf?
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  Because I do just a little bit of coffee but I don't feel the
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  coffee vibe. So it's decaf.
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  Decaf that is safe. I like it.
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  It's been that kind of day. So it's.
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  Really the end of the. Year.
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  It's all like Aaron. Why do we do this to ourselves?
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  The stress all year, I'm like, I'm not going to be stressed.
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  I'm going to do everything, kind of.
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  Plan early because that's my plan and here I am and I have
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  like 0 gifts. Why do we do this to ourselves?
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  Don't know. And yeah, so I think, I think
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  this ties right into a topic for today about reset before 2026.
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  I feel like in terms of goals, I think I've accomplished quite a
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  bit and probably surprised myself because it happened live.
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  Guys, Can you believe this? Like this is happening?
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  We've talked about this and this is what, 6th, 7th episode?
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  Like it happened really quickly though, like we're going to do
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  this and within a few weeks, like everything was going
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  forward. Does that make sense versus
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  like, oh, this is an idea, let's sit on it for a while?
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  We sat on it for a while because I feel like we talked about this
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  over summer. We all work.
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  We already knew the date was going to be October launch,
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  right? But I think because of that, and
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  I'm so glad we're stuck with it. I'm like, October is not going
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  to be here. I have time.
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  And then October showed up and we're like, wait a minute and
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  here we are. And The funny thing if you think
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  about it is we didn't even really got together as a unit
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  until April. Yes, if you think about that
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  April, my birthday was in the March and we got together.
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  I think it was the 1st of April or something to have our PJ
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  party grown up PJ party or spa. I think it was like beauty is.
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  But I was inspired by you, Alexander.
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  You are the one who kind of instilled it in me to take care
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  of myself. Like yeah, let's let's do face
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  mask. It was the first night I met
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  you, Rosie. But yeah, like, that was April.
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  And then I think we just click. We just, I don't know.
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  You know how you meet some people and you have conversation
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  and you plan things out, especially as moms sometimes
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  think things falls through the crack or you're like, yeah,
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  let's see it again. And it's been 3 months and it
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  hasn't happened and you're like crap life happened.
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  But I feel like with us, we understood.
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  And I think because we're also neighbors and friends and we're
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  texting each other, maybe that accountability helped us a lot.
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  Because before we knew it was like June or something.
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  We talked about vacation and then we kind of mapped out this
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  whole State Happens podcast. So I'm, I'm proud of us.
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  We're doing the thing, guys. We're doing it.
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  I think location, location, locations are on our side
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  because we're in such close proximity that it just makes
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  sense. Even spontaneous recordings.
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  Get togethers. To jump to somebody's house
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  because it's. Kind of.
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  Quite of coordination to get, you know, husbands out of that,
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  out of the space or the children, are they asleep?
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  And we have different schedules. It's really, it's really hard to
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  coordinate, but we're making it work.
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  So that's True's dedication, I'm thinking.
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  About what you said about when you started going to the gym,
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  it's also about making it work. We are in close proximity, but
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  we're also very intentional of our schedules and this works.
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  So we're always talking about it.
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  What works best for you? When we come to an agreement and
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  we have certain days and times, that works.
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  Best, right? I feel like that's the first
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  step because if we leave it like up in the.
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  Air, she'll never happen. Yeah.
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  That's my thoughts about it, but definitely helpful that we are
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  very close, but the intention we just clicked and the intention
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  stay here, let's go, let's go for it.
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  We're also very easy going. Yes, we.
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  Are very flexible and I think that helps too because it's like
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  we come with a topic or something trending and we're
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  just, we're just slow. So I like the vibe.
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  So those are the things I hope to carry into 20262025.
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  Feel personally, it's been challenging with top of the
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  life. You know, man, that postpartum
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  really kicked my butt the second time around.
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  I'll tell you that with the mom brain and trying to accommodate
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  with like a new schedule and planning vacations and working
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  full time because I do travel sometimes for work, I travel
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  quite a bit in the springtime. Not that I'm thinking about it,
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  but it was nice because I got to see some family.
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  I got to visit my brothers and visit my nephews.
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  I just came back from visiting my best friend.
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  So those are little things that fills my cup.
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  Like I was able to accomplish all of those things.
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  But there are some things that I'm like like that exhaustion,
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  that not sleeping enough and that poor planning or the time
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  management that I had to let go of because you know me when it
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  comes to time management, everything is planned out and it
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  needs to go that way. But I had to let go of that
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  quite a bit, taking me out of my comfort zone.
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  So we'll see. I don't know if that's a
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  permanent thing, but as of right now, it's working for my family
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  because man, everything revolves around toddlers time right now
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  because it's like is, is, is it bedtime?
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  Is it not time? Is it food time?
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  Are we eating dinner? Like all of those things needs
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  to be checked off the list before I can fully function.
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  So I think when we're talking about resetting, those are the
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  things, the key things that pops into mind of like things I wanna
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  leave behind and what I wanna carry into 2026, which is this
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  beautiful friendship. You should give yourself a lot
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  more grief. But when I look at you, I'm
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  thinking I have a say it. Well, mom and I juggle a lot and
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  I look at you. You work full time, you're doing
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  side hustles. You'll have to under four small
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  children, a husband who's going to school at the same time.
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  I'm like, I don't know how they do it because I don't have that
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  much on my plate. And mine is always kind of
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  tumbling over and things are spilling.
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  Oh look, don't you? Worry it still tumbles.
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  One of the things I'll say I'm proud of for 2025 is this whole
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  fitness journey because like I said, postpartum was different
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  the second time around and I I remembered one of my goal for
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  the year was when Oliver starts school, I wanted to start going
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  to the gym and I'm happy to say that it's still happening.
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  I'm so proud of. I.
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  Am so proud that I, you know, the discipline in my 20s.
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  I guess it's paying off finally. I'm, I'm doing the work.
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  I definitely want to bring that momentum in 2026, but I do.
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  I don't want to be those people either.
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  That's so obsessed with the gym. It's OK to have a cookie, it's
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  OK to eat, you know, enjoy some food time or self-care time with
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  your friends. Enjoy the birthdays and don't
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  get the whole cake but have a slice, have the icing or
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  something you know? I mentioned it and I like the
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  thought process. Like you're not going to ruin in
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  two to three weeks what you've done the whole year.
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  And that's not a mindset that I've had for a long time because
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  of the perfectionism. Yeah.
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  Like, it has to be perfect. No, I can't do this.
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  I can't do that. But the take away that I've
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  taken from you, your fitness journey is find what works.
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  Yes, and stick to it. And it won't be perfect.
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  There are days that you won't go, and it's OK.
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  My mindset has been all or nothing for a very long time.
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  And that's what I've been working on this year.
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  I've had some progress and I definitely want to continue
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  going forward because for me, I've started.
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  I signed up for the gym at the beginning of the year because
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  that's when most of us do. The gym is full in January and
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  then people fall off in February, March.
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  And that's exactly what happened.
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  I stopped going abroad in April. And I told you guys, stop paying
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  it right, because I'm going to go.
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  Yeah, I just can't. Have yourself that.
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  Can't find the right time until I finally realize I'm not going
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  to go. And I cancelled it and I started
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  working out about 3 to 4 weeks ago at home.
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  I've had the things there. I almost pushed it out to 2026.
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  It's November. Like it doesn't matter.
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  I'll just start at the beginning of the year and I'm like, no,
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  we're changing that. Yes, there's no perfect time.
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  Then I started and I'm feeling good.
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  I find the time frame that works.
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  That's awesome. I'm also like just giving myself
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  praise. I don't have to work out five
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  days a week, 1-2 hours, right? What I used to do when I was 20.
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  No, we have a life now. Do what works and that's that's
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  mom life, self-care, do all of those.
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  It doesn't have to be complicated.
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  And I think that's what, you know, I tried to share anyway
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  with my friends, with you guys, is that if it's 5 minutes, 10
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  minutes, whatever works, it still counts.
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  It still fills your cup. Progress over perfection, That's
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  what I'm thinking. Did you?
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  See my sticker perfection scratched out.
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  Perfect that. Is my motto going into 2020 so.
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  People always want to wait for the perfect moment and make do a
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  break. But when you can make a change
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  today, even when it comes to meals, when you, you know, binge
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  on something that you shouldn't have, and then you're like, I'll
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  start on Monday. No, don't start.
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  Monday. So start now, yeah?
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  The coffee, remember you were saying you were eating, I think
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  it was sweets in the evening. So instead you started having a
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  big coffee. Definitely Thanksgiving with all
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  the ties in the house. It was not the case.
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  But they're out of the house now so that helps.
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  I need more. Time.
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  Well, as we're wrapping up for 2026, anything we want to leave
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  in 2025? I think it's funny that you
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  always point out that I'm so flexible and so what's the other
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  word that you use? Spontaneous.
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  Yes. I actually, that's one of the
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  things that I want to tune back on because I wing a lot of
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  things. But the goals that I made for
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  myself this year I didn't get to because I was waiting most of
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  the time. I was a registered nurse in
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  Germany and I started the process of getting my license
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  here in Florida, which I got the evaluation and everything done
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  and all I needed to do is just go do a remedial class to get
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  approved to do my NCLEX RN, which is the test, the board
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  test for your registered nurse license.
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  And since I've been just winging it, waiting for the money to
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  come, instead of being like, OK, we're just gonna gonna put the
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  money in there no matter now and leave it in there.
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  Now I've been dipping into the money because things are
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  happening in the house. Things are happening with the
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  car. I think I had four new tires
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  over the like, over the year. But it's hard.
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  You know, you have these goals and you don't get to them.
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  It's like the end of the year. I set that goal for March and
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  now it's like it's December and I haven't done it and I should
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  do it. And it's it's for for my family,
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  right? Everything is getting more
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  expensive. And having a registered nurse
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  paycheck is way better, even if I do it part time.
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  So I need to not wing so much and have certain roles and set
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  them and follow through with them.
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  So I think that's one of the things that would be mind and
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  fear resolution. I'm not being as spontaneous as
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  I have been. In this specific area, yes.
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  OK, I accept. What about you, Rosie?
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  I have also admired Lynn Spontaneity.
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  How do you say? That.
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  So I've been wanting to channel a little bit more of that, being
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  more flexible as I'm moving forward with that, letting go of
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  that perfectionism and being so by the book because I get
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  overwhelmed. So it's like a catch 22.
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  Like I have this perfection, I have this perfect plan, and then
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  I don't follow through with a perfect plan.
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  And then I'm feeling defeated because in the moment I'm
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  feeling overwhelmed. So one thing that I'm practicing
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  is less is more plan for less because that way I can feel
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  happy and proud. And then once I do that, then
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  the next day I compound and I do a little bit more versus in the
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  moment I just kind of freeze. I'm very hard on myself.
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  So that doesn't help either. So I'm just trying to be more
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  flexible. Let's go with the flow with
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  motherhood. It's been hard because I keep
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  going back to just used to be so much easier.
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  So acceptance is something that I also want to bring into 2026.
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  Like this is the reality and I need to stop arguing with
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  reality because that's when I get really upset and nothing
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  good happens. That doesn't create any good
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  result. There were definitely things
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  that went well and I just kind of want to build upon that.
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  Like I said, I started working out like it doesn't have to be
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  on a Monday or at the beginning of the month.
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  I think I started randomly on the 8th or something.
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  I can't remember the date, but it wasn't, it wasn't the 1st of
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  the month. Yeah.
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  And I just did it. Yeah.
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  Let's just keep moving forward with that.
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  It doesn't have to be perfect. So the podcast was something
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  that I had in my mind. Like there's so many projects
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  like you're mentioning that I had in my mind for 2025 that
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  never got done. But it doesn't have to take that
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  much time. You just have to decide and
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  follow through kind of relating those kind of tasks together and
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  be like, let's just take that forward.
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  What do you want to do? And just don't overthink it.
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  Don't overthink it. I like that.
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  I think for me it's just tying back to the whole delegating
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  because I took on a lot this year, a lot.
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  And I think you even mentioned it like that overwhelmed feeling
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  where I just couldn't pinpoint it.
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  Like my mental health, I needed to prioritize that because I
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  just felt so drained and almost like I was getting sick.
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  I think my brain was just. Mental exhaustion.
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  Here's the thing. I was just so burnt out and I
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  couldn't shake it. And usually a day of self-care,
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  you know, I mean. Many.
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  Petty a massage usually does it for me, but I've been struggling
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  lately to get out of it, get out of that fuck.
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  And now that I'm verbalizing it, I'm realizing it.
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  I have been in that fuck for a while and I'm not really sure
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  what it is. So I want to leave that in 2025
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  and start fresh in 2026. In the sense of reach out to my
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  village and, you know, delegate to my husband.
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  He can't help with the kids. I don't have to do everything
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  myself. I like that.
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  I'm like, I want to be at the end where I come home and
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  everybody's fine. Everybody's alive.
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  And that freak out because I have to be gone for two or three
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  days, you know, of course I want to be close to my family, but
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  that whole plenty. It just takes a lot.
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  It drains a lot out of me. So that's one of the things I'm
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  looking forward to work on for my 2026 goal.
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  The 2025 was definitely a learning curve.
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  So to our listeners, my reminder would be to pause, allow
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  yourself to pause and reflect, and figure out the things you
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  need to leave in 2025 and the rest, Let's carry it with us in
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  2026. Now we want to hear from you.
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  What are you leaving in 2025 and carrying into 2026?
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  Remember to pause, reflect, and carry on the things that fuel
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  you and take progress over perfection.
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