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171: Unexpected - Preeclampsia (S6 E6) · Reality TV Cringe

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Hello, and welcome to Reality TV Cringe. I am one of your hosts,
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Delia here with my real tight homegirl and my daughter in law. Hi
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everybody, we are here to discuss unexpected teens. We got some babies on
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the way, we got some pre eclampsia, We've got some danger girls.
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Yeah. Now, before we get into it, we do have to issue
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thank you in advance. So, Beatrice, how about those debates? Girl,
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this is not a political podcast, but you don't have to be partisan
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in any way. I mean, we're all here in America, most of
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us are here. Wat that? Right? Was that hilarious? I was
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texting with my brother and he's like, I forget where I was. I
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was out somewhere. Yeah, And he's like, are you watching this horseshit
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right now? Just like I'm absolutely not watching. Is it all right?
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Is it good? He's like, it's not good, it's bad. It's
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a dark way first watching. If you've ever seen him, we are living
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in class. It's appropriate. I think that we're in a dumpster, yes,
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observing it. All the memes were fired though. After the debate,
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I mean it was I was just like, wow, this is better than
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reality television. It's real. It's reality with it's crazy. Wow. Wow,
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this is an interesting year of twenty twenty four. We're in it together,
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Rackley. All right, let's talk unexpected. We just watched this together,
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you and I because I have the day off to day. That's great
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when this happened, enjoying it, hanging out. We'll kick us off,
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all right. Well, let's start with Anaya and Day Day Honey girl,
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honey, Anaya's mom. What's her name? Ashley? Ashley, She's the
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word. I was triggered. She was the word. I don't understand.
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I mean, how can you look at your kid who's saying I feel unwell?
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I really look it. She looks terrible, and you say, you're
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being dramatic. I mean, where's the maternal instinct? She hain't got none.
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She doesn't care. She sits in every single scene with her stink ass
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face, just upset at the world for whatever reason, but taking it out
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on her daughter, who's clearly ill, who has a history of high blood
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pressure pre eclampsia, who does not look good, and you're just like,
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I can't be arsed to drive her to the hospital because it's far away.
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This is my only day off. I work hard. I work over forty
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hours a week. I'm like Jesus Christ literally watching seriously, like, I
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get it, you're tired, you're working a lot, but you have a
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daughter who's pregnant, she's about to burst, she's about to have this baby,
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heavy with child, and you're not gonna like take any kind of concern.
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They call her aunt, Anaya's aunt, who's twenty four, and it's
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like, yeah, you should go to the hospital, duh, and as
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she's like, I'm gonna sit here and wait, I'm gonna wait for something,
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and it's dramatic. Oh my god. Absolutely, And so day Day
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is the one who ends up taking Anaya to the hospital and he's got to
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at some point carry her into the hospital because she's crying, she's in terrible
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pain. They finally get into the hospital, they wheel her into a room
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and she's going to need to be induced. So now we're gonna have to
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call Ashley, her mother, and Ashle's like, yeah, what's going on,
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what's happening? And the doctor or the nurse says, yeah, well
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we have to induce her. And she's like okay, well I guess I
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better haul my ass down to the hospital, which is what you should have
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done in the first place. Can somebody please tell me out there that this
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woman is getting dragged on social media because I'm not up on social media like
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that, but is she getting dragged because she needs to be dragged for being
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a piss poor mother? I mean, she is absolutely horrible. It's like
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wild to me. And even when she's talking to the nurse. She's got
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an attitude and she's like, well, can you just wait? Do you
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have to induce her? Why can't you just wait? And then nurses like,
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there's literally no benefit. Your daughter's freaking blood pressures one sixty over seventy
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four. We need to just do this now. And Anaya on the couch
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as she's recounting this, is like, yeah, if it's precampsia, there's
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like a risk of death, and her mom calls her dramatic again on the
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couch. It's wild. Also, Anaya tested positive for COVID too, so
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she's got COVID. We saw that in the preview. So her mom's calling
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her dramatic while she's got COVID and she's got preglamsy yet. So I'm wondering
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when this was actually filmed because I know that, like the copyright date was
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twenty twenty three for the show, although we're in twenty twenty four obviously,
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but I'm wondering if this was filmed in twenty twenty one or twenty twenty two,
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because she's wearing her COVID mask. COVID's a big deal, and we
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find out because we were watching the preview for the rest of the season,
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because we are on TLC Instagram at Aline and we were we found out that
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Ashley always forget her. Ashley kicks Data out of the birthing room. Yes,
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so he gets to miss his yeah son's birth because Ashley's mom doesn't like
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her like him, or if it's COVID time, maybe only one person can
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be there in the it's just the room. I don't know. We're gonna
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have to see why he gets removed. But I'm just like this woman,
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everything about her is terrible. I feel awful for Anaya. I feel bad
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for day Day. And also in the preview for the rest of the season,
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we see that day Day's going to I guess enlist in the Air Force
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and he's going to leave and he's going to bounce. I mean it sounds
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like, well, that's how Anyah's framing it, because her mom is probably
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saying that to her, like, oh, day Day's going to be a
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shit father because all men are terrible. All men are going to walk out
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on you, like she's probably telling her that. Meanwhile, Dada on the
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couch is like, I don't want to be a dead beat because my dad
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was a dead beat, and I would feel immense regret if I did that,
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And I want to believe him. Yes, I hope that he does
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that. He's he's a chad beat. I mean exactly, He's doing the
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very best that he can. And it's like in so many of these different
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scenarios with these different teen mothers, their parents and especially their mothers are looking
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through the filter of their own trauma and trying to get their daughters to make
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these decisions based on the shit that they didn't do in their own lives.
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And you can see it with Ashley, you can see it with Kaylee's mom,
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Mandy. You can see it with Lily's mom. Oh my god,
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she's probably the worst. She's terrible, trying to force their opinions on these
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kids that they already fucked up because they weren't good parents in the first place,
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Right, Ashley, I mean, let them make their own mistakes,
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even if you think it's a mistake, Let them fucking do it. When
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I got married to your daughter, my biological father, who was a deadbeat
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and is a dead beat, tried to message me and be like, oh,
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you're making the biggest mistake. You're so young, blah, blah blah,
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And I'm like, first of all, I'm a whole ass adult,
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Let me make my own choice. Second of all, who are you exactly?
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Yeah? Who and where are you? You were even a part of
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my life? So shut the fuck up. But I hate that kind of
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stuff. It's like, just let your kid make the mistake, learn from
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it. That's what they're supposed to do. You don't need to be telling
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them what to do and how to live their lives just because you fucked your
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own life up? Right? What makes you an authority after you fucking trashed
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your own timeline to come in on this kid's timeline and tell them how to
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live their life according to you, so trashed your own timeline exactly. Anyway,
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all these mothers can get it from me today. Oh they're all terrible,
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Starting with Ashley. She's the worst. She's so mean. She's willing
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to sit on her ass and watch her daughter be in pain and suffering instead
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of taking her to the hospital where she needs to be because she could die
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and this baby could die as well. Yes, it's wild to me.
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I just couldn't believe that. And then she's going to show up acting all
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worried in the delivery room, and she's going to act like she's she actually
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cares, but she can start taking control as well and telling everybody what to
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do. Oh, I do not like her. I do not like her.
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I do not prefer her me neither. Then we have Kayleie and Graham
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right and they're setting up for her baby showering Jicky Becky, Graham's mother,
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meth mom Becky. So if you recall last week, they were talking about
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the baby shower for Kaylee and they were wondering whether Graham the dad and his
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mother, Becky were going to show up to the baby shower much less to
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help set it up and to break it down. But of course the night
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that they were supposed to join them, the night before the baby shower,
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Graham and Becky don't show up because Becky's sick and apparently Graham's always sick and
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Becky's always sick, and Graham's like, well, we couldn't come to help
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you set up the baby shower because my mom was in the hospital. And
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then on the couch when Becky's talking about her sickness, it's actually bipolar,
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and she's like, you know, I get really anxious. I spend a
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lot of time in my bed. So it doesn't even sound like she went
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to the hospital. No, she was coming down off of something off of
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me. I really think so, I mean really, because she's got the
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look. Yeah, I mean I have family who has bipolar, like actual
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bipolar. I see what it does to people. I'm not saying she doesn't
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have it or whatever, but like I have family that have bipolar. They
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have kids, and they show up and they still do things, and they
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try their best even when they're having their really low moments or they're really manic
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moments. But I'm like, Becky, you on drugs, bitch, something's
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going on. You ain't doing shit. And she expects to be in the
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delivery room. Girl, this was news to me. We heard it in
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this episode. Mandy's talking about how Becky's never there. Becky's never facilitating the
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kids getting together or having Graham show up at the appointments. Becky's not doing
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dick, not doing shit, but she wants to be there when the baby
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comes into the world. And I'm like, are you fucking kidding me?
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A birth is not a spectator sport. No, just because you're related to
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the woman having the baby doesn't mean you get to be in the delivery room
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for all they ask is out No, that's my coochie yeah to be seeing
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this is my quarter cat to me. And if I don't even want the
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father in there, he's not going to be in there. This is a
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medical procedure happening to my body exactly. And you and your bum ass forty
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two year old grandma bullshit can get the fuck on. I know she triggers
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me too. All these mothers they're terrible, are triggering to me. They're
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really freaking terrible. And then she's talking about how she wants the baby to
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know her and she wants to be the grandma and I'm like, and she
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wants the baby to be able to come over to her house without Kaylee there,
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I know, which is wild. I would never try ever a kid
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to be with you, meth mom. No. And poor Graham, Like
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I mean, with Graham, I can understand him being sick, like in
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terms of his stress and like being upset. He's fifteen, he's a child
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and he can't drive himself, so like, I get it, But like
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Becky, you're the adult, be mature, drive your son over to see
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his baby. Mama, Like, it's not that hard. She's in bed
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the entire time. Hi. But then we were listening to Mandy, who's
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Kaylee's mother, talk about all that she has done to facilitate the relationship between
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Graham and Kaylee. And she talks about how she would drive over to Graham
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to get Graham, bring Graham back to her house, but she was also
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the one I imagine taking Kaylee over to Graham's house really yeah, which is
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where Kaylee ultimately got pregnant. Yep. Because we heard Becky say last week
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that you know, she wasn't there because she's working, and she'd come home
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and she'd find Kaylee there and they were obviously bugged. They were getting it
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on. And that's because Mandy delivered her yep, like a gift to Graham's
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house. Pretty much. Yeah, all of these people suck so deeply and
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terribly. They're really terrible. And like, Mandy, I get that you're
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frustrated that you have to do all this stuff, but I'm like, your
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fifteen year old daughter's pregnant, and like, how about we talk about your
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irresponsibility as a parent as well. Right, And there's the scene with Kaylee
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and Mandy again. Mandy her mother, and Kaylee's driving them to the Lions
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Club so that they can set up, and she's just bitching at her mom.
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And at some point she's say, is there anything else you want to
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say to me? I know, I'm just like, I wish my daughter
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would have tried. I wish my daughter would have tried talking to me the
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way that Kaylee feels so free to talk to her, I know mother,
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and Mandy just takes it. She doesn't say, stop the goddamn card,
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give me these keys. This is no longer your car. If you don't
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like it, you can walk. I was, ma, I'm like,
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this girl is just reading Mandy, and Mandy's letting her. So, Mandy,
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you get what you settle for if you're going to allow your kids to
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do this. Well, now you got a kid with a kid, I
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got a sixty year old husband. You're terribly unhappy, and you got Becky
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walking all over you. Right, this is the life that you're creating for
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yourself. Everything is just you pushed out Mandy reader to filth. Well,
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and that's the thing. Mandy was like, I feel like it's unfair the
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way Kaylee treats me. Because I take all of the brunt when she should
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direct it towards Graham and his mom, Becky, And I'm like, okay,
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then give her a consequence, a repercussion. I mean, teach her
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how to be a person in the world. All she does is spoil the
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I'm doing. You think Kaylee's going to be in ten years? What kind
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of parent do you think Kaylee's gonna be if you continue to spoil her like
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this? She's not going to be a good one. I can tell you
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that, no at all. And then they actually get everything set up for
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the baby shower and people start arriving, and of course Graham and Becky show
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up late. They show up after everything's been set up right, they don't
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have to do any of the work, and Becky tries to be all super
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friendly with Kaylee like their best friends, and Kaylee's like, this is weird
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because she's never like this. So it's all for show because the Grammers are
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there and Mandy's there, so she has to pretend like she cares. And
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they show up for like ten minutes and then leave. Yep, don't help
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them to clean up, don't help them to break down in and out.
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I would be so pissed. Yeah, but you really can't blame Graham because
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once again, he's a child and he's under the influence of his parental figure,
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Becky, and this is how Becky is teaching him to show up in
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a co parenting relationship. So he thinks this is okay because this this is
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how Becky shows up in her parenting relationship. She spends all of her time
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in her room sleeping or anxious or yelling. Because I'm telling you right now,
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she looks mean to me. She's probably screaming and yelling. And when
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you look at Graham's affect, the way he carries himself, that's an anxious
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kid. That's a kid that's been traumatized. I wonder where that comes from.
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Well, Becky, methm that's where it comes from. And so Mandy
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and Kaylee don't feel like Graham and Becky are going to be involved really at
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all. Wants the baby's born, they're not going to but she wants to
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be in the delivery room, of course, just to say that she was
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there. But then she'll never be involved, and then she'll take pictures and
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she'll show it to her friends. Look at my grandbaby that doesn't even know
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my name, right because she's high on myth all the time. Right.
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And then, last, but not least, we have Lily and Lawrence,
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who are kind of a boring couple, but it's Christmas Day for them and
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they got all these toys for their kids and their kids. I'm super happy.
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And we were talking about that, and I was just telling you,
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like, that is the most precious and beautiful experience when your little ones when
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they're like three, four, five, sixty seven, when they're little and
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they wake up at like four in the morning and they can't wait to get
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to the presence under the tree and they come into your bedroom and they wake
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you up, and you were up, you know, until two in the
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morning, wrap it those presents and having whiskey and stuff. Yeah, so
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you're tired, you're hungover, but it is such a beautiful experience to like
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take those little ones to the tree and open the presents. But Lawrence wasn't
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feeling it. No, Lawrence is like, can I go back to bed?
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I'm like, this is this is the These are the best moments of
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your life. Oh and these are the best years ever because the kids have
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the most magic and the most fun. You believe in Santa. Yes,
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they had the little footprints for Santa. I love that so much. And
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once they get older, they're not gonna give a shit. No, they're
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gonna be like, give me money, Yeah, don't wake me up,
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give me a new Xbox or a PlayStation. You're gonna be paying so much
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money for that Christmas. But like when they're little, everything's cheaper. They're
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happy with everything, and they're talking, they're so they're just so lovely.
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But that's the thing about life, Like when you're that young and you're so
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harried and the kids are screaming and running around, you don't really have the
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wherewithal to understand that these are the most beautiful moments in your life. Yeah,
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not until you're my age, some old lady looking back thinking to yourself.
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I would give anything to go literally anything to go back to when my
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daughter was three years old and it was Christmas morning. I'm like, oh
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my god, if I could just experience that with new eyes, I would
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cherish every moment. Yes, yeah, And like Lily for the most part,
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is trying her best. Like she's talking about how she grew up super
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poor like us, and how she didn't get anything for Christmas, and so
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she went all out. I mean, she had so many fucking gifts there
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for her kids and everything. And it was weird though that she spent all
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this money and like didn't talk to Laurence about it. Yeah, And we
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recall last week he was kind of complaining about it because he was just learning
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that she had spent I guess over budget for the Christmas presents, and she
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was just like, well, it's Christmas. Yeah, it's one time a
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year. It's a crazy, special, magical time of the year. And
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Lawrence doesn't really have any say yeah in that, And I was like,
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what's going on with that? Why do you feel like you can just go
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out and buy whatever you want and not talk to your husband about it?
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Yeah? I don't really like that. Like I understand you want to go
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crazy and you want to give your kids a good experience, so that's fine,
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but like maybe agree upon a budget and go from there, especially when
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you have a wedding date set in three months and you want to spend twenty
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thousand dollars. Girl, right now she wants to spend thirty thousand, and
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Lawrence is putting his foot down and saying it's going to be twenty thousand,
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but like, how's anybody going to raise in this economy? Yeah, twenty
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thousand dollars thirty thousand dollars of extra money in three months, I don't understand
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it. But you could also tell with Laurence that he didn't know about any
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of the presents that she bought. He didn't participate in any of the purchasing
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of the presence, and he was kind of just checked out. But we
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have to give him props. He is a young man. He is taking
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care of Lily's first daughter, Aliyah, he's taking care of his son.
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He's working hard, and he's showing up on Christmas, and so that's wonderful.
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Yeah, And he kind of reminds me a little bit of how my
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dad was when I was a kid, because my dad was working swingshift all
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the time, and he was always kind of like reserved, kind of quiet.
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And I look back on it now and I'm like, he was tired,
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Yeah, and he's working a lot, and he was like trying to
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make ends meet for us and we still had, you know, good Christmases
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as kids. So it's like I kind of look at Lawrence in that light
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Lily's kind of being critical of him, like he's not helping out with like
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picking up after all the kids is mess after opening all the presents and stuff
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like that. I'm like, well, maybe he's just tired and stressed and
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it's a lot of money, lest maybe let's give him a little bit of
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grace. And then later that day, Lily's parents show up, and Lawrence's
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mom shows up because they're going to have Christmas dinner there, and Lily's meth
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dad shows up with his no teeth, missing some teeth, but like he's
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been sober sounds like for a little while. Ye maybe I was hoping that
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we had some sobriety spanning some years. But apparently Lily had taken both of
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her kids over to see him last winter. Lj's only like two something like
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that last winter, and he was pissed, drunk, drunk, didn't know
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who he was. He was completely out of it, and apparently he went
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to rehab since then, so now he's showing it for Christmas. But like,
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well, Lily's not like super hopeful about it, because I guess that's
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what he does. Like he'll get clean for a little while and then he'll
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go back to it and judge it by those teeth. I'm sure he's going
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to go back to my God, So judge, where do you get that
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from? I don't even know. Listen, i grew up in Methtown,
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Oregon. I'm allowed to judge. You can clock it. I can well.
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The biggest thing that's happening though, in this scene is that Lily is
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preparing to tell everybody, including Laurence's mother, ooh, my love, she's
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great thought, she was fantastic that they're getting married in three months time.
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And she knows that her mother has some ancient trauma and is looking through the
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filter of her own bullshit. Her mom, who is still not divorced from
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her metht Out dad even though she left him like fifteen years ago, and
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has been with this other guy for the entire time, who's treating her well
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and continuously proposes to her, but she keeps saying no because it's too expensive
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to get divorced. And I've been divorced seventeen thousand times, and I can
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tell you right now, if it's amicable, it's not expensive, not at
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all, hardly anything. You can get a mediator. You don't even need
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a lawyer. But I digress. So Lily's nervous, and she's also tired
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of her mom's bullshit because anytime Lily tells her the mom what she wants to
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do, the mom comes here, she comes on or bullshit talking about what
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Lily needs to be doing and how marriage is bad and it's really expensive when
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it doesn't work, and shut up Lily's mom. I mean, just let
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them get married again, Like I said, let the kids make their own
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fucking mistakes. It's not your life, Like, let them do it.
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Plus was it Lawrence's mom? She's like, it makes sense to me.
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I'm super excited. We'll throw a dope party. It's gonna be great.
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Like, you guys should get married because you guys have been living together since
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you were nineteen, Like might as well, it's just a piece of paper.
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Yeah, And Lawrence has been here the entire time taking care of Lily
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and all of these children, and so they should be married and get the
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benefit of that because there are benefits, tax benefits and health benefits and otherwise,
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and so yeah, get married. And just because it didn't work for
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you, Lily's mom, doesn't mean it's not gonna work for Lily, which
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Lily tries to tell her in the kitchen. She's like, I'm already in
22:40
a better position than you were at my age, even though you had a
22:42
baby when you were sixteen, Like I had a baby when I was sixteen,
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Like Lawrence is sticking around. Yeah, we have a home, we
22:48
have kids, We're making it work. You didn't do that right, don't
22:52
take that shit out on me exactly. But her mother cannot help her,
22:56
so no, she can't. And we even see it in the preview when
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Lily's trying to get all the wedding plan stuff getting going. She's like getting
23:04
a little overwhelmed, and her mom's like, yeah, see, I told
23:07
you so, it's overwhelming. It's a lot. It's like, oh,
23:11
fuck off. And I was telling you, like again, we were watching
23:14
this together. I'm like my mother in law from my second marriage. She
23:18
was the most wonderful, saintly person. She wasn't saintly, but she was
23:23
just so fantastic. And for example, when I got really sick after I
23:29
had my child, your wife, I went into a coma. I was
23:32
in the hospital for like on and off for months. Like she flew up
23:36
to Illinois, to Chicago, she took care of my daughter. She was
23:40
there for me, but like she never imposed like her ways on me.
23:45
She never told me how to be a parent, like when we made major
23:48
decisions that I'm sure she didn't necessarily, Like she never told us that she
23:53
only ever supported us. Yeah, juxtaposed that with my own mother. May
23:57
she rest in peace, who I love. But like when I gave birth
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and I got really sick, I couldn't nurse for obvious reasons, like I'm
24:04
in an actual koma mom, And she's like, but you can still nurse.
24:08
And I'm in the actual hospital being narctized NonStop twenty four seven. You
24:14
could still nurse. You could pump and nurse. I'm like, I literally
24:17
can't do that. And she was like l leche league on steroids, yeah,
24:22
making me feel so bad because the milk wasn't coming. I was sick,
24:26
and she was on the phone every single day guilting me about actually nursing.
24:30
And then my mother in law she's like, I raised all five of
24:33
my kids on formula. We got doctors, we got nurses. It's gotta
24:37
be lawyers, like it's going to be all right. And I'm just like
24:40
thank you, Yeah, And ever since then, I always told myself that's
24:45
the kind of mom in law I'm going to be, or the mother i'm
24:48
gonna be. I'm just gonna be like you guys, go and do your
24:49
own thing, have your kids parent them the way that you want to,
24:55
even if I don't agree, Like, do whatever the fuck you want.
24:57
I'm just here to support you and be there for you when you need me
25:00
and spoil the kids. And spoil the kids. Yeah, and do that.
25:03
But I'm never gonna step on your toes if you tell me no sugar
25:06
though, Like I'm not gonna sneak it now you need, you know,
25:08
on your date night. I'm not gonna give the kids shure. I'm not
25:11
gonna be that kind of grandparent. Oh yeah, I'm just gonna give them
25:15
sugar. No. But I mean, but if you said something that I
25:18
shouldn't do, like, I'm going to listen to you. Like that's why
25:19
Lily's mother bothers me so much. You're just going to estrange yourself from her
25:26
entire family exactly. That's the thing. And it's like I can understand it
25:30
from like the meta perspective. If I zoom out and I'm like I get
25:33
where you're coming from. Lily's mom. I understand that you're trying to like
25:37
be a parent and just be like, no, please, don't make them
25:38
the same mistakes and like let me try and rectify it through you, like
25:42
in my own way or whatever. I understand it. But stop, there's
25:45
like a there's a certain point in time where like you have to let go
25:49
as a parent, as a grandparent and just be like, Okay, it
25:52
is what it is. I'm oldest, fuck right, I'm in my sixties.
25:56
Let me just whatever, let me just be only fifty two. Yo.
26:00
Oh I thought she was under success. She's most but like, for
26:03
example, when you got married, Okay, yeah, the first time I
26:07
got married, I was eighteen years old. Yeah I stayed married for eight
26:10
years, which is a long time actually, but I was very young and
26:14
it was never going to work out. And so when my daughter tells me
26:17
she's gonna marry you, and y'all are nineteen slash twenty, I'm thinking to
26:19
myself, well, should I tell them about my own personal experience? Should
26:23
I give my opinion? Absolutely not. I supported you. I became an
26:27
efficient so I could marry you. And that is like how I feel parents
26:33
should be like if for some reason something doesn't work out, like, I'm
26:37
going to be there then too. I'm going to be there for the whole
26:38
fucking thing, supporting you. That's what parents do. Well, No,
26:41
a lot of parents don't. Well no, I mean that's what parents should
26:45
do. That is what they should give. But a lot of parents are
26:47
just like whatever, fuck you, Like, I told you not to do
26:49
it, right, and which is why you ended up not telling some of
26:52
your family too, right. I didn't tell any of my family right because
26:56
you knew they were going to be like what the fuck? Oh yeah,
26:57
they would have talked me out of it. I was too stubborn, and
27:00
I'm like, no, I'm gonna do it anyway, right, FuG off.
27:03
And so then I told everybody via Facebook after the fact, after the
27:07
fact, like oh yeah, we got married a couple of months ago,
27:10
and most of them were supportive and some of them were a little bitter about
27:14
it, but I'm like, you know, it is what it is.
27:15
It's your life. It's life. You can do what you want. I
27:18
knew none of them were going to approve, so I'm like, I'm just
27:22
gonna do it anyway, and look at you now like eight years later,
27:25
the success story that you are making it all work and love that for you.
27:30
Yes you do. Yeah, it can happen. Just because it didn't
27:33
work for you doesn't mean it can't work for somebody else, which is what
27:37
Lily is trying to tell her mother, but her mother doesn't want to hear
27:41
it. Her mother is still on her bullshit about divorce being super expensive,
27:45
Like I can't believe that the biofather toothless, toothless and homeless, the toothless,
27:51
not homeless, ned is sitting that's from Beverly Hills, but he's sitting
27:56
there with the guy who wants to marry the wife, and they're all talking
28:00
about it as if it's so normal, as if it's so expensive to divorce,
28:03
Like what does meth dad have? No exactly what kind of property is
28:08
he going to have to split? That's what I'm saying, sixty year old
28:11
fifty two year old mom. Seriously, I'm like, it'd be one thing
28:15
if like you guys were both really rich and it'd be super expensive to like
28:18
go through all of your stuff or whatever and get a lawyer and all that.
28:22
But no, he's literally an alcoholic and a drug and literally put it
28:26
all up his nose, and he has the audacity at the Christmas dinner table
28:30
to say it's cheaper to keeper I know, Like you're not keeping anybody.
28:34
This other cool guy who raised your children is the one who's taking care of
28:38
everything. I don't understand. I could never be me. I hope she's
28:42
getting ripped his shreds online and everybody's like, it's literally so cheap to get
28:48
divorced. My parents were broke as shit and got divorced on their own and
28:52
it was fine, and it was not amicable at all, like they were
28:55
fighting and they were going through custody battles and all this bullshit, but they
28:59
still got divorce even though we were broke as hell. Yeah, So like,
29:03
I don't know, it's an excuse and I don't understand it, don't
29:06
I don't know why. And it's like a weird curse that you keep putting
29:08
on your child, like trying to frighten her about the institution of marriage and
29:14
that this shit never works. It's like, well, you're starting to predispose
29:18
her to have a terrible marriage, Like why are you doing this from your
29:21
own traumatic space, Like just get divorced and then if you don't want to
29:25
get married again because you don't want to deal with the legality, that's fine.
29:27
Like, I don't know where they're living. It's common law exists for
29:32
them, and it exists in Texas, so it's like it does it can't
29:37
happen. But I don't know. They're just a weird fucking family. Everybody's
29:40
weird on this whole show. It's super weird. And the parents are so
29:41
infuriating, yeah, because they act like they're so smart and so mature,
29:45
and they're all pieces of shit. They all suck. And then we have
29:49
the preview for the rest of the season and Lily is like overwhelmed with all
29:53
the wedding stuff, obviously because it's a three month wedding and you want to
29:57
plan a twenty thousand dollars wedding and that, I mean, what is Lauren's
30:00
doing for work? Actually, though, like I mean, god bless it.
30:03
He's working really hard, but he's a young man. I'm sure he's
30:07
not pulling down six figures. Maybe he is, but I'm just like,
30:10
it's gonna take a lot for this young man to raise that kind of money
30:12
since you're not working. Lily that's why he's stressed out of the house.
30:15
That is, because you're in the house exactly. And then we have Graham
30:18
who's also stressed, and he's fighting with Kaylee. I don't know if he
30:22
stayed the night at her house or what, but he's like, I'm distressed,
30:26
and he starts crying every time I come over here. It's so stressful,
30:29
and like life is stressful. You have a child that's coming, Graham,
30:33
this is gonna be the rest of your life unless you bounce, which,
30:37
let's face it, he's totally going about going to and I hope Kaylee
30:40
will fight to get child support at least. Yeah, I mean he's working,
30:44
he's only fifteen or sixteen year old. It's not like she's gonna get
30:47
a ton of child support. But put that shit on the books, yep.
30:49
Set a precedent, and then if he doesn't pay, you can come
30:53
back in four arrears when he's twenty four years old. Honey, you can
30:56
get all that money. Then exactly, all these kids need to be putting
30:59
these young men on child support, they really you stick it in, You're
31:03
gonna have to pay, yes, ma'am. And then we also have Emily
31:07
crying because she's still pregnant and Nate's just sitting there, silent, not doing
31:11
anything. But she's also being dramatic. Well, and you can tell because
31:15
he's being quiet and he's so closed down that this is the kind of shit
31:19
she does all the time. And he's over it. Yep. He's hit
31:23
his limit with Emily and her crying and her bullshit. Yep. And we
31:27
also saw a clip on TLC's Instagram page she apparently moves out of Tarreen's house
31:33
and back in with her father because it was too terrible. Yeah, and
31:36
I get he called it. Taran and her were coming to conflict, right,
31:41
They were having problems, and Nate's pretty sad about it because he's like,
31:44
these are the two most important people in my life and they can't get
31:47
along. And I'm like, again, you shouldn't have put your peepee in
31:49
her. But he's a child. The parents need to show up and provide
31:55
some sexual education. It's all just a shit show, which is why we
32:00
watch it. That's why we love this is why we watch it. It's
32:02
pretty crazy. It is all these people are nuts and they are, well,
32:07
we got some babies coming. I know Anaya's about to give birth to
32:10
anayas I know, and we'll see how that goes. God stink ass grandmother
32:15
is gonna piss me off. I'm sorry, Auntie because she doesn't want to
32:19
be called grandmother. She's too young for that. Yeah, okay, lady,
32:23
whatever. Well, do we have anything else that we need to say
32:28
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