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WE TOOK FAN CALLS AND GAVE BRUTALLY HONEST ADVICE! · NORMAL GAYS Podcast

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  Here's question pre context. Should I just give the fuck up?
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  She's a lesbian, Yeah, obviously.
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  Girl. You got I got the scent, you got
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  the Butch scent. I'm kind of scared.
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  I'm a little scared of you too, but you sound.
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  I know she's got power tools that she could kill me with.
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  The other boss that I have is never there.
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  He's always off to Germany or France.
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  Nobody gives up. So anyway, my piece of your
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  boss. I thought Clarkson looked great
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  with those titties and we want to see Clarksons tits Let's
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  stop. Encouraging him hey guys welcome
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  back to normal gaze where we take on insanity I'm Brad
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  palumbo here with. Clark, make sure you subscribe.
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  We're going to be taking voicemails from you guys who
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  asked for our advice and if you want to send one in for the next
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  time we do this, you can at the link in the description.
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  Just any sit like. Differently because my butt
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  hurts. From getting ran through my.
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  That was crazy valid. OK, anyway, yeah, you can work
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  life, romance, anything politics for advice, anything you want
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  advice from 2 extremely abnormal normal gaze the links in the
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  description. Now let's listen to the first
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  one, which is one of our our normies here complaining about
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  her boss. Let's see.
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  Hey guys, just right off the bat want to say I love the channel,
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  really enjoy Brad and Clarkson. You guys playing off each other.
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  Clarkson, you're a terrible influence on Brad and I
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  absolutely love it. Keep it up, but here's question
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  pre context. Should I just give the fuck up?
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  She's a lesbian, Yeah, obviously.
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  Girl. You got I got the scent, you got
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  the Butch scent. And there's nothing wrong with.
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  Nothing wrong with it. I think it you're kind of
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  intimidating. I'm kind of scared.
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  I'm a little scared of you too, but you sound.
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  I know she's got power tools that she could kill me with.
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  Oh my God. I'm just kidding.
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  We love you girl. Thank you for the compliment.
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  I'm on the complete opposite end of you guys.
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  Normal lesbian quotation marks around normal.
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  All right, that's. Kind of.
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  I'm a psychic. Also, but the odds are on this
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  channel actually, that's to be fair, there's a lot of straight
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  women that watches. I think that I actually am a
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  psychic. Oh my, did I tell you guys did?
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  I tell you guys. Well, part of being a psychic.
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  Is literally walked in today and said I think I'm in mania.
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  Well, did I tell you? You know how I found out my ex
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  was cheating on me was through a dream, a lucid dream where I
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  knew I was dreaming and I woke up and I followed the advice of
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  whatever it was that was talking to me in that dream and I found
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  him cheating. I have a lot of weird dreams
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  like that. So women already in general are
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  very very left-leaning. Not even trying to take into
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  context women within the alphabet mafia.
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  I'm much more. Oh, I think they're out of
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  order. This is not the one about the
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  crazy boss. That's OK, They're not in the
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  order I inserted them in, so it's something else.
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  More central right leaning similar to you, Brad.
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  Do I even bother trying anymore? Because I swear I just, you
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  don't have to see absolutely a line with me on everything.
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  I would prefer we have some basic common ground, but most
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  women in general are very, very liberal.
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  And it's it's exhausting, bro, it's exhausting.
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  I'm so tired. Yeah, I would.
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  I'm so. Tired.
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  I'm really tired. You guys got anything?
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  I love to hear it. Meanwhile, keep up the great
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  work. I think that obviously you
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  should not give up. I don't know.
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  I I think that this is a pessimistic mindset from a lot
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  of people in the gay community, and I think it's overblown.
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  But it comes from experience. It does.
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  It comes from experience. Lesbians is worse.
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  Lesbians is worse. You're you're totally right.
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  And progressives that's. Very true Gays I.
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  Agree that like at least now compared to 5 or 10 years ago it
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  was worse. Now gays are like a little more
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  used to the idea that you might not be woke, and if you're hot
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  enough, they're probably gays. Don't really have like even the
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  woke ones you can, you can get it out of them.
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  They're not actually woke. Like they're not.
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  I mean some of them they. Pretend like they are, but then
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  the minute you actually are, like come on, like you really
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  think this and they're like, well, I just don't.
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  I care about like, I have empathy and it's like, OK, so
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  you don't think. They're literally just talking
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  about. I'm not talking stop that.
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  He's going to see this. I'm sure it's worse with women.
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  I don't know, I. Think it's worse with women.
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  What I would say is maybe expand your pool and try to like meet
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  someone online or meet someone like not just super local to you
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  because the bigger the pool is the more likely it is that
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  you'll find someone. But don't give up like you
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  should. I'm also going to preach some
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  individual responsibility here, OK?
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  Because not all work people are intolerable.
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  They, some of them are, I would say, like some people on the
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  left if you were very much woke. Refers to a subject of that that
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  tends to be. OK, but if you are very much
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  like entrenched in political media, if your algorithms are
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  all political, you can train your brain to find woke where
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  it's not off of like small disagreements.
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  And I'm saying this because I used to be a lot more right
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  wing, but I think maybe start with yourself and have.
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  And if you want other people to have an open mind, have an open
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  mind and have those discussions and if they are intolerable,
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  then sure. But I think some understanding
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  for both sides can. Actually another thing you can
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  do that might work but also might not, but you could try it
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  is like put it in your dating profile that you are something
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  other than liberal like and and like on what's it?
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  Called. Yeah, I have.
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  Moderate in mind. That will sort itself out that
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  anybody who is like unhinged, right?
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  Anybody who's so close minded that they wouldn't want to date
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  you because of it won't match with you in the first place.
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  Yeah, you could put moderate in there that would help, but like
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  don't put like your political beliefs in your bio or anything
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  because like that's. AI would asks for that on hinge,
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  no? I'm talking like on like Tinder
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  or something. I don't know.
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  Where do lesbians meet? Home Depot?
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  No, I I have no idea. Actually, no.
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  Home Depot is where gay guys go. Is it?
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  Yeah, apparently there's like cruising.
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  It's like a spot where all of us go.
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  You would know from your side. I don't.
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  I don't need to do that really. Because you were so familiar
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  with that app. It's like I DoorDash all my
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  food. I DoorDash my men too.
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  They come to me. Anyways, we spend a lot of time
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  on this one. We wish you the best of luck.
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  And guys become a channel member.
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  Yeah. Say something to make them
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  become a member. Do something to make them want
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  to. I don't.
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  Know. You'll unlock early.
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  No wait that's the wrong channel.
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  You will unlock weekly members only videos.
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  I know. But we've been doing this for a
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  while now, and we have a while yet to go.
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  So let's listen to our next voicemail.
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  Oh my God. Hi so I want to tell you about
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  my freak boss who is a complete and.
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  Here's the one I thought degenerate.
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  Goblin. Degenerate goblin is crazy.
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  He has a history of like being a creep around the women in my
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  workplace. Long story short, he likes to be
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  disgusting. Girl.
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  I need you to get to the point. Like brushed some other girl's
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  hair and like touched her shoulder at this.
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  That we. Had all together and everybody
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  saw it and nothing was done because nobody cares because the
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  company that I work for is kind of the Not to mention the other
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  boss that I have is never there. He's always off to Germany or
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  France. Nobody gives a So anyway, my
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  piece of your boss has an issue with me getting up every 60 to
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  90 minutes to stretch my legs and walk around because he has
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  an issue with me existing. I guess because he's such a
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  goblin and he hates women. So I'm wondering what you think.
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  Maybe you think it's really funny.
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  Maybe you think I should sit my ass down and get back to work.
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  Bitch. Oh, like the Kim Kardashian man.
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  You really love your. Show, thank you so much.
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  I think it depends on how long your walks are. 5 minutes is I
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  think. Yeah, but it's.
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  In a corporate environment, I think it's good that you you're
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  actually there's studies to prove that getting up once an
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  hour be more productive. So I if I were you.
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  I I'd just probably find another job challenge, get a job.
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  Do that challenge. I think really my, I mean, I
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  guess to be honest, I've never, I guess I've never had a boss.
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  I did the first couple of years but then I've been working for
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  myself so I don't have a ton of insight into the normal 9 to 5
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  our. Market is really bad right now.
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  That's true. But what I'm saying is I think
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  when you have an entrenched bad boss, it's it's very difficult
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  to dislodge them. Yeah, until I get them removed
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  or fired or anything like you, you're the most realistic path
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  is to to to find a new position off or transfer within your
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  company or something. I want to know about the hair
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  brushing. Yeah, that's weird.
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  Why was it he just brushed her hair like out of nowhere?
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  Like he just grabbed a brush or he used his fingers or what?
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  I don't know, that is weird. That that honestly that gives
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  gay. But bitch, your hair is a mess.
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  But it sounds like that. Sounds like something I do.
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  No, but she make it sound like he's a creep.
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  Oh yeah, he sounds like a creep. I wonder why he doesn't like Is
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  she lesbian? Maybe.
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  If he if she's lesbian, that's probably why he it's probably
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  not because you're a women, a woman, it's probably because
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  you're a woman that's not available to him.
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  A lot of straight men like lesbians in theory, but then
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  when they meet them they get annoyed.
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  Well, they only like them on certain websites, yeah, which to
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  be fair, I don't like them in any context, so.
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  I'll be nice to the lesbians today.
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  Why? Do you have sunglasses on?
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  Because I told you I was feeling manic.
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  OK, I can do whatever I want. Is that what your doctor tells
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  you to do in that scenario? OK.
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  Buy a car tonight or something on Carvana and get it delivered.
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  That's a terrible idea. Ford Bronco.
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  That's what I want. That's expensive.
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  It's like. You can get a used one for like
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  30. You don't need that just to take
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  TikTok videos in. The lighting is so good.
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  For the YouTube video you do every three months, yes.
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  And it's all a tax write off that that would solely be using
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  it for what? What stupid idiot bitches say
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  when they want to waste money, they go.
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  It's attacked right off. Stupid idiot bitch is.
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  Actually, I think he went too far on that one.
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  Bitch twat, bitch. You asked someone 5 seconds ago.
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  Because she is a. It's called normal gaze.
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  We use that word. Wait, SO is fine but stupid
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  idiot bitch is too far? Yes, because it was directed at
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  me. OK, but not literally.
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  I'm just saying I'm sorry. I don't really get it.
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  I'm just being dramatic. Why?
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  Don't we listen to our next voicemail?
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  I. Don't really have anything this
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  I. Don't need you or your brand new
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  bitch, I do. Love you guys so much but I did
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  have a question for Clarkson. I was wondering like if Clarkson
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  still has views like from his like conservative ways that line
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  and with today, like I know he's not a conservative anymore, but
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  I was just wondering if he had any views that he used to have
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  that he still has today. Yeah, I, I don't think a lot of
• 11:24
  my views changed, like not a lot.
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  I think they've just expanded like particularly with like
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  welfare and things like that. I used to be very much like,
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  against any form of, of the federal government intervening
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  in individuals lives and helping them out because I just thought
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  that the government does everything terribly.
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  But yeah, I mean, I, I don't know.
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  What do you think? What?
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  I mean at my views I, I feel like I show a lot of
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  conservative views on this channel, like specifically.
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  I mean non binary not being real.
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  Non binary not being real, but that's just like culture war
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  stuff. I'd say.
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  Like I don't believe in cutting taxes anymore because we have
• 12:01
  such a high deficit. I think it's in our best
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  interests to not cut taxes but cut spending.
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  It's things like that. In theory, I still believe in
• 12:11
  having low taxes from the federal government, but in
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  circumstance, I don't think that's like a good thing for us
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  to do right now. So I think that my views have
• 12:19
  just gotten a little bit more complex.
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  A lot of what changed though is just your views on partisan
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  politics, which doesn't neatly map on to Conservative and
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  Liberal in ideology anymore. Sure, you just soured on Trump
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  and the mega. I would say that I'm like a I'm
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  a pragmatic liberal that's open to finding realistic solutions
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  that. I mean, I think as I think a lot
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  of your views are still more or less right of center.
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  Yeah. But also it depends.
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  What does that even mean? Like you, you're a free speech
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  supporter. Is that a right of center view?
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  I mean a. Few years ago.
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  I think it's both because liberals believe in free speech.
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  Leftist on. Theoretically they do, but in
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  recent history they don't. But then also you could say that
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  with the background just. Say it's the same thing with
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  Trump. So like.
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  Yes, I so I was just. Complicated.
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  So I don't know. I mean, what other things are?
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  They're like economic policies. Feel like you're you are not
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  like leftist on border and immigration no and also your
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  takes on Islam. My takes, yeah, like the
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  cultural issues I'm still right wing on, I would say, because I
• 13:22
  don't believe in like being so empathetic that you become.
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  Naive. You're like your individual
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  responsibility instead of entitlement and victimhood is
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  central to your perspective on the world.
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  And that is whether we like it or not.
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  Like a right wing coded perspective.
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  Sure, but I don't let that cloud me from seeing actual data.
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  So like, just because I believe you should be providing for
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  yourself and making a living doesn't mean that I don't
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  believe in having food stamps given to people.
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  Sure, but you apply it to individual scenarios like like
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  thin hair and. Yeah, like I I can make in my
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  opinion on someone is like you're kind of a piece of, but
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  that doesn't necessarily mean that that translates to
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  government policy if like they're a victim acting person.
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  I don't know. Yeah, I get what you're saying.
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  Yeah. Anyways, so I guess I didn't
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  ask. Hi, guys.
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  That's OK. Whatever.
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  Guys, hope you guys are doing great today.
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  All that I really wanted to say is that I thought Clarkson
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  looked great with those titties. And you know Christy Gnome's
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  husband is not the first man to wear giant tits.
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  And whoever the other YouTube that wore giant tits, Tim
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  Delanic, his stream, was not the second to do it.
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  So why can't Clarkson wear tits? We want to see Clarkson's tits
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  stop. Encouraging him.
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  Amen. Amen.
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  You're at. You know what?
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  We want to see Clarkson's tits. Amen, you guys.
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  He's already so narcissistic y'all are just guessing.
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  So I just want to say like I want to thank you for sending
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  this message and I appreciate it so much.
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  I don't know if you have an extra few bucks around, but if
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  you really want to see my tits, you can find me on only fans.
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  But if you don't, I occasionally post my tits on my Instagram.
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  I do it for and my Twitter. So if you want to see them
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  there, then actually if they buy me fake tits, I'll wear them.
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  It's just they're $100. That's the only reason.
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  That's the only reason I didn't do it.
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  It wasn't worth it because we only make what like how much
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  from a video? I don't know like a well
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  performing video will be like $200 you.
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  Probably would have performed better if I wore tits too.
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  We. Could put that in the thumbnail,
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  yeah. That'd be fun.
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  Maybe I'll do it again. All right, Hi.
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  Brandon Clarkson. I'm looking for some dating
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  advice though. I'm a 24 year old living in
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  Hawaii and I was on a trip to Vegas a few months ago and met
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  this really nice guy. We hung out the whole week.
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  I even extended my stay to stay with him a little bit longer.
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  That's what you would do of. Course, I've been back.
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  We've been texting and calling every day and I'm just wondering
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  like. Is it worth?
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  It to try to do long distance. He is trying to start his career
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  as a performer and that's probably going to be in Vegas.
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  And I'm a PhD student out here in Hawaii, though I'm not
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  leaving here anytime soon. But I've tried dating out here
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  and it's just like literally horrible.
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  Like every guy is just an ass and it's a small island.
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  So like everyone's been with each other and it's just not a
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  good vibe. So I'm kind of done with the
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  dating scene here, so and I really like this guy and.
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  Like. I do long distance.
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  It's the tough question. I don't know if you guys can
• 16:41
  help me with it, but appreciate everything you guys do Thanks.
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  I'm a yes. I think the most meaningful
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  thing for human beings in life is relationships.
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  So if you find someone that is worthy of pursuing you make that
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  work. Designers make it work.
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  And you prioritize it. And you might have to go to a
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  different school. Or or or if you graduate, you
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  maybe look for a job in Vegas one day.
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  Wherever it might. Be long distance for a couple
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  years. It is, especially for gay people
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  or where obviously there's a smaller pool.
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  But really for anyone it is so hard to find someone who you're
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  compatible with and that is such a key aspect of life and so
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  important. I really think it should be
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  priority almost any over anything else.
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  Obviously distance is not easy, but I also.
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  It's not at all. See, I was actually in a
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  situation like this about a month ago.
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  There's this really, really like great guy who lives in LA, but
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  like he's not moving anytime soon.
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  I'm not moving anytime soon. And I actually I'm getting, I'm
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  kind of contradicting myself here because that stopped me
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  from pursuing it, but. You're very high need.
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  Yeah. And also, yeah.
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  So that's, I don't know. I mean, I get why you wouldn't
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  want if like the cards are just not aligning.
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  But The thing is is I don't even know if I actually am in the
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  place for a relationship and I wouldn't want to sour the the
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  opportunity with a really good guy by doing it long distance.
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  And you know, I don't know. So I mean, it really just
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  depends on the circumstance, but I think that in the grand scheme
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  of life, like you don't want him to be the one that got away.
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  Katy Perry, you should listen to that song.
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  If it doesn't work out, it'll be it'll make you feel good.
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  Well, it'll make you sad. Wouldn't that make him feel
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  worse? Yeah.
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  But sometimes it's good to purge so.
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  OK, up next. Hi Clarkson, I'm Brad.
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  My name is Habiba and I'm a proud mommy.
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  I am an artist. I.
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  Illustrate and do graphic design, and I animate and do
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  music. And the advice I want from you
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  is kind of how to get into the creative field that you're in.
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  I mean, you guys produce your own content and you seem really
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  successful. Is that what we're calling it?
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  What you produce content. Why are you He just paused this
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  to come from my neck. Like bitch it's giving jealous.
• 19:08
  He's like escaped the rat race really.
• 19:11
  I'm feel like I'm just kind of stuck living this nine to five
• 19:16
  basic life and it's not really meant for me.
• 19:19
  And I want to do more and I want to inspire people like you do.
• 19:22
  And it's really hard starting out.
• 19:25
  I don't think we inspire people. At the very beginning of it, you
• 19:29
  don't really have many people to turn to or many connections.
• 19:32
  And I just want to know how do I get to the point where you're at
• 19:37
  or what advice you have for me to kind of break out into
• 19:41
  content creation? Thank you so much.
• 19:44
  I love you guys. You're amazing.
• 19:46
  Keep doing what you're doing. Bye.
• 19:48
  So you want to be famous like me, is what you're saying?
• 19:51
  Y'all, you need to be careful with your.
• 19:53
  I hope that you're sending in that you're not guessing about.
• 19:56
  Yes, his head is already big enough.
• 19:58
  Anything in life that you start out, I already gave this advice
• 20:01
  to them. You're going to start out as a
• 20:03
  failure everything or as a beginner or you're going to look
• 20:05
  like you're not doing it right. You just have to RIP the
• 20:07
  Band-Aid off and be consistent and do it.
• 20:09
  Oh my first two YouTube videos were so bad.
• 20:11
  Yeah. But also I will say, like you
• 20:15
  have to have a realistic perspective of yourself to
• 20:18
  understand how you're being perceived.
• 20:19
  A lot of people make content, but the content is just really
• 20:23
  bad. It kind of goes to like the star
• 20:27
  power thing where like some people just have it and some
• 20:29
  people don't. I don't think that's true.
• 20:30
  I think it can be learned. It's a skill that can be
• 20:32
  learned, but it comes naturally to others.
• 20:35
  So if your content, like when you're making it, you need to be
• 20:38
  very conscious of how you're being perceived because like it
• 20:42
  or not, like the content might just not be good.
• 20:46
  You know what I mean? Like if you're making content
• 20:48
  for years on end and it's not getting any traction, like stop,
• 20:52
  it's it's not good revisit. I'm not saying stop, like if
• 20:54
  it's your dream go after it, but like you're probably the problem
• 20:58
  and a lot of creators think they're just creative people.
• 21:00
  I'm shadow band. They think they're shadow band
• 21:03
  or. They just think that their
• 21:04
  creativity deserves to be applauded in mass.
• 21:09
  But The thing is, it's like creativity that is that is taken
• 21:12
  in by the masses is not the best creativity.
• 21:15
  It's the most palatable. And there's a very big
• 21:18
  difference between a creative artist who is a great artist but
• 21:21
  people may not fall into, may not like it, versus an artist
• 21:25
  who can make art that appeals to everybody at TJ Maxx.
• 21:27
  So it's like you get very confused and being in mass
• 21:30
  appeal and garnering followers versus actually following your
• 21:33
  creativity. And you have to find a balance
• 21:35
  between those two things. The other thing I would say is
• 21:39
  try to think about what you could offer that's different or
• 21:41
  unique in some way. Try to find some niche that you
• 21:45
  could maybe be involved with. Right.
• 21:47
  Yeah, you. Need a niche at first you do.
• 21:49
  And then you can branch out from a niche, obviously, but and then
• 21:55
  I would say pick one platform. Like say, you know what, I'm
• 21:58
  going to start just making Tik toks about Love Island or
• 22:01
  whatever it is. Don't quit your day job.
• 22:03
  Come up with. Your day job.
• 22:05
  Schedule that you could do and then what I always tell people
• 22:08
  to do is to commit ahead of time to a certain period of time.
• 22:13
  Like I'm going to like on YouTube, I'm going to post twice
• 22:16
  a week for six months and then re evaluate because what what
• 22:19
  people and see if it's working. See if it's not, then change.
• 22:23
  Because what a lot of people do is say I want to try it, then
• 22:25
  they just do one or two videos. It doesn't do well and they give
• 22:28
  up and they don't know that if they had kept going, it would
• 22:31
  have eventually succeeded. Or the flip side is they just
• 22:34
  keep doing it and waiting for it to work and waiting and waiting
• 22:36
  and waiting endlessly and it doesn't and they're investing
• 22:38
  time into the wrong Ave. in their life to be successful.
• 22:42
  So I think you should set a defined period with reasonable
• 22:46
  goals that you that aren't going to be huge, but aren't going to
• 22:48
  be like tiny, tiny in terms of the content you're and then
• 22:53
  start doing it on the side. And then if it's going to
• 22:57
  succeed eventually, you can pivot.
• 22:59
  But don't don't like quit your day job and.
• 23:02
  Think about the viewer. This isn't about your
• 23:03
  creativity. This is that about their
• 23:05
  experience. Yeah.
• 23:05
  Think about something you can offer that other people want,
• 23:09
  rather than what you want to do. Which are.
• 23:12
  Those are not the same. Thing they can be aligned, but
• 23:15
  they're also very rarely they're not yeah, like I don't want to
• 23:19
  talk about politics and I battle with it every day but that's
• 23:22
  what people calling me for yeah. So.
• 23:25
  All right, next note. Hey guys, love you both.
• 23:30
  Really hope I get picked. I'm a pick me I'll.
• 23:34
  Own it, she. Checked the words out of my
• 23:35
  mouth so. I in all of my relationships,
• 23:39
  I'll be honest, it has started with me kind of initiating or at
• 23:44
  least just being super upfront. Like like I've like given my
• 23:49
  number, I'll say like, you know, I'm into you or like whatever it
• 23:52
  is. But.
• 23:54
  I kind I'm 35 and single still and I'm kind of wondering if
• 24:01
  that's maybe not the best approach considering I'm single
• 24:06
  and have been for a while. So I'd love to know how you guys
• 24:10
  feel about like, making the first move.
• 24:13
  Who should do it? Gender roles come into play.
• 24:16
  I'm. Going to either of you like to
• 24:18
  be the one to pursue? Or.
• 24:20
  Be pursued, girl. Yeah.
• 24:22
  Curious about that. Dynamic.
• 24:24
  Girl, thank. You love you.
• 24:26
  I gotta I love you too, but let me just tell you the problem is
• 24:29
  right here and you are looking like this because it.
• 24:34
  The problem is not whether or not you allow men to approach
• 24:37
  you. The problem is probably you.
• 24:39
  Explain. Like if you're if you're having
• 24:42
  a lot of trouble finding a relationship and it's just not
• 24:45
  working out with all of these different types of men.
• 24:47
  You're probably initiating with the wrong men.
• 24:50
  No, it's not even initiating. It's like these men probably
• 24:53
  meet you and then there's something that you're doing that
• 24:56
  is off that you haven't self reflected on.
• 24:59
  But instead you want to go to the effort of least resistance
• 25:02
  and say, well, maybe I shouldn't actually put any effort and I
• 25:04
  shouldn't approach. No, because The thing is, is a
• 25:07
  lot of women approach men and it works.
• 25:10
  Yeah, because men. Men like to be approached,
• 25:12
  especially nowadays. Especially now in the climate.
• 25:15
  Well, is this a lesbian? Did she say men?
• 25:18
  I I assume men because she asked about gender roles.
• 25:21
  I assume that she's dating men. Yeah.
• 25:25
  So let's just operate on that basis.
• 25:27
  If not, then for now what we said.
• 25:28
  But we don't. We couldn't give you any advice
• 25:30
  on lesbian stuff either, so. Absolutely not.
• 25:33
  And we don't want to know about it.
• 25:34
  We don't want to hear about it. We don't want to think about it.
• 25:36
  Keep it nasty. I mean, yeah, but my mind likes
• 25:40
  to. My mind likes to explore.
• 25:42
  Just joking please. I like to think about things.
• 25:44
  Slipped out of context, so. Bad on this?
• 25:46
  You could. So I think it's not I, I, I
• 25:53
  don't think the problem is that you're putting yourself out
• 25:55
  there first. I think especially many
• 25:57
  heterosexual men now, I've like made it feel like they can't
• 25:59
  just hit on women, right? And so if you at least at least
• 26:03
  open the door to it and they're all so dumb.
• 26:05
  So like, if you just sometimes want to be like, I feel like I
• 26:08
  made it so clear that I was interested in him and he didn't
• 26:10
  get it and he has no idea. So I think there's nothing wrong
• 26:15
  with initiating a little bit and then let him take it.
• 26:18
  Can I, can I just cut this off? Because you know what?
• 26:20
  I got to see what you look like. I'm sorry.
• 26:23
  Because here's the thing. A beautiful woman approaching a
• 26:26
  man or somebody or a woman that's like drop, drop dead
• 26:29
  approaching a man, that wouldn't be a problem.
• 26:31
  So if you are an 8, let's say you're an 8 or you're a seven,
• 26:38
  OK, and you're approaching nothing wrong.
• 26:41
  Most of us are sevens and you're approaching men.
• 26:45
  There's something else that's odd.
• 26:46
  What? You're not A7.
• 26:49
  I I think I am. You're a six.
• 26:53
  But no, The thing is, is like, it's not just about like whether
• 26:57
  or not you might be very beautiful, but you also could be
• 27:00
  going for men that are not that are getting women that are
• 27:03
  prettier than you. True.
• 27:05
  I'm sorry, I just got to be truthful.
• 27:06
  You could be going after men that are way prettier than you,
• 27:08
  but it's just not realistic. And it's not, it's not
• 27:10
  realistic. It's not just about looks, it's
• 27:12
  about your expectations and they might not be balanced like.
• 27:16
  What's your height filter at? Right.
• 27:19
  So like when I have a few friends that are like similar to
• 27:22
  your age and they're single and I've had to have this
• 27:23
  conversation with them because they're really into these like
• 27:27
  top tier men who have women that can literally they're like gay
• 27:30
  men. They can get women delivered to
• 27:32
  their door and it's like it might.
• 27:34
  Be time to settle for the nice guy.
• 27:36
  Correct. So you have to.
• 27:37
  Well, you have two options. There's always a way out.
• 27:40
  OK, Ugly is not permanent living proof.
• 27:45
  You can get plastic surgery and try to go after those men.
• 27:48
  That's what I did. I I always had very high
• 27:51
  standards, but I couldn't get the men so I got really buff.
• 27:54
  And yeah, but anyways, So what I'm saying is that you need to
• 27:58
  be honest about your standards. Not standards like don't let a
• 28:02
  man cheat on you. That's different.
• 28:04
  And make sure you're going for men that are in your looks
• 28:08
  bracket, per SE, yeah. OK, Clavicular.
• 28:11
  Is that a thing? Oh, I was thinking of tax
• 28:13
  bracket, but with looks. But because I've seen that be a
• 28:16
  problem with a lot of people. And it's not just women, it's
• 28:19
  it's men too. Like a lot of men are single
• 28:21
  because they think they can get these, like, hot ass women.
• 28:23
  And it's like, you can't. Yeah.
• 28:25
  So everything is competition and unfortunately that's the reality
• 28:29
  of the dating market. So if you want to succeed, like
• 28:33
  any business or any any competitive environment, you
• 28:36
  have to be brutally honest with yourself in order to get better
• 28:40
  or you have to lower your standards a bit.
• 28:43
  Yeah, I was going to say, I don't think you initiating
• 28:46
  things is the problem. And I also don't think I'll just
• 28:50
  stop initiating and wait for someone to come to me.
• 28:53
  Is a viable strategy at 35 years old and.
• 28:55
  I hate that I had I don't like talking about woman's looks like
• 28:58
  that unless they're like body positive activists.
• 29:00
  But it's fine. And it's fine because like she
• 29:03
  sounds so sweet and that's probably going to hurt her
• 29:05
  feelings, but it's the true she might, she probably is very
• 29:08
  pretty, but that there's always somebody better looking.
• 29:11
  And if your standards are up here and even if you're a nine
• 29:14
  and you're going after 10s, there could be an imbalance
• 29:16
  that's causing the problem. So you just look at yourself and
• 29:18
  figure out if your standards are aligned.
• 29:20
  And give a nice mid man a chance.
• 29:23
  That's my other take. Yeah, I think that's well, no, I
• 29:28
  do. I don't agree with that because
• 29:29
  the mid men still cheat on you and then you got cheated on by
• 29:31
  now Go. No, why were they're not any
• 29:35
  more or less likely to cheat on you?
• 29:36
  A mid guy? Why?
• 29:38
  Well, if you lower your standards so much that it's
• 29:40
  unequal. Just said lower your standard.
• 29:42
  Yeah, lower, so it's equal, not low.
• 29:44
  Don't do the opposite, it can. Be a little bit lower.
• 29:46
  Maybe a little, but. Find a nice guy with the.
• 29:50
  I'm all about balance. Good.
• 29:52
  And it doesn't matter if he's not the the best looker.
• 29:54
  We just gave some terrible advice.
• 29:56
  Yeah. Who the?
• 29:57
  Are we to give advice? This is probably we are better
• 29:59
  than that Jake guy though. Last one last voice.
• 30:02
  No. OK, If you guys want to send one
• 30:04
  in, go ahead and do it. We'll probably do this again so
• 30:06
  the link will be in the description.
• 30:07
  Hi guys, I adore the both of you so much.
• 30:10
  I look forward to your videos every single week.
• 30:15
  I guess I kind of just wanted to ask how to find my political
• 30:19
  ideologies or just opinions outside of biased opinions.
• 30:23
  I think it's really hard because there's pressure on both sides
• 30:26
  to decide right now in this very given moment.
• 30:29
  I would argue that I'm centered like right leaning.
• 30:35
  My fiance is pretty far right so we differ a lot in ideologies.
• 30:43
  The right is like just very mag right now which I totally
• 30:46
  disagree with. The left is like just insane and
• 30:51
  holding like strict to like gender ideologies and trans
• 30:54
  ideologies and I guess it's just like hard for me to find a
• 30:58
  position that I'm really comfortable with and I just
• 31:00
  don't want to be like easily influenced by either group.
• 31:04
  So any advice is appreciated once again, I love you both so
• 31:09
  much. Thank you SO.
• 31:11
  I have some questions about the far right boyfriend.
• 31:14
  He's definitely watch his neck Fuentes.
• 31:16
  If he does, then you need to you.
• 31:18
  Need to run if you're. Just if what you mean by that is
• 31:20
  he's just like a Trump supporter, Republican, has right
• 31:22
  wing beliefs, then he might be a great guy.
• 31:24
  Yeah. And he might be a great
• 31:25
  boyfriend and potentially husband.
• 31:27
  If he's a griper. You need to.
• 31:29
  You need to get the hell out. You need to pack your bags, you
• 31:32
  need to leave unannounced and. Become a lesbian.
• 31:35
  Of the night because that man is scary, Yeah.
• 31:39
  And dangerous like these. Or he's chronically online and
• 31:44
  is a low value man who gets his opinions from a 20 what, 4 year
• 31:49
  old little virgin boy? Like no.
• 31:52
  Repress about bottom. Yeah, well, no.
• 31:55
  But let's assume that's not the case and that you.
• 31:58
  Just ending marriages let's. Assume he's just like a normal
• 32:03
  right wing guy and that's fine to her actual question, I would
• 32:07
  say one unless you are going to be some sort of political career
• 32:12
  person, you actually don't need to figure out a political
• 32:17
  ideology that you would hear strictly to.
• 32:19
  It's OK to not actually as a normal 25 year old whatever
• 32:23
  once. Because social media makes it
• 32:25
  seem like you have to pick a side.
• 32:26
  You really don't if you're not involved in this and may you
• 32:30
  have technically have to pick someone to vote for every
• 32:31
  election. You don't have to pick a label
• 32:34
  and perfectly to it ideologically.
• 32:36
  And so I would say consume both, then make up your mind on any
• 32:40
  given issue what you think or don't and just keep an open
• 32:44
  mind. You there's no pressure really
• 32:46
  to because there's no test. But if you're worried about
• 32:49
  being manipulated in general, I think, and this isn't just with
• 32:52
  politics, you have to be very self reflective and understand
• 32:56
  where your biases come from and what they lean you towards.
• 32:59
  Like when I was very conservative, it's because I
• 33:02
  have like a strong, strong version to disorder and you
• 33:08
  know, like, and I'm very, very like prone to individuality,
• 33:13
  like those types of narratives that are associated with, with
• 33:16
  anything. But those biases dictated my
• 33:19
  political beliefs, which is why I got manipulated a lot on a lot
• 33:22
  of issues because I automatically took the side that
• 33:24
  my biases lean me towards because I didn't do as much due
• 33:27
  diligence when researching my opinions on it.
• 33:30
  So I think if you're very conscious of yourself, it'll be
• 33:33
  a long experience, but you'll be able to see your own behavior
• 33:38
  and how your biases influence it.
• 33:39
  And then you'll be able to see when you're being manipulated or
• 33:42
  potentially misled, not just in politics, but in anything.
• 33:44
  Hope that helps. All right, guys, thank you all
• 33:46
  so much for sending in your voicemails.
• 33:47
  If anybody is interested in check to check in the link in
• 33:50
  the description and that'll be it for this episode of Normal
• 33:53
  Gaze. We'll be back with more real
• 33:54
  soon.