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Speaker 1: Right before the cameras got there. That's when I realized
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Speaker 1: that this affair was still going on.
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Speaker 2: Stay tuned.
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Speaker 3: We'll get to my conversation with Melody Chie right after
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Speaker 3: these quick ads.
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Speaker 2: Welcome to Reality with the King.
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Speaker 3: It's me Carlos King, the King of Reality TV and
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Speaker 3: one of the most sought after executive producers in reality
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Speaker 3: television with over ten years a production experience. Twice a
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Speaker 3: week on Reality with the King, we'll sit down with
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Speaker 3: my friends across the entertainment industry, recap our favorite reality
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Speaker 3: shows and revisit unforgettable moments that we are still talking
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Speaker 3: and tweeting about.
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Speaker 2: Hey, rain Drops.
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Speaker 3: Today's guests on Reality with the King is my girl
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Speaker 3: Melody Cherie from Love and Marriage Huntsville.
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Speaker 2: As you all have been seeing on social.
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Speaker 3: Media, a lot has been happening with Melody and her
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Speaker 3: ex husband Martel, So we get in to a little
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Speaker 3: bit of that in addition to how she found out
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Speaker 3: that Martell was dating Charie Whitfield from the Real Housepots
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Speaker 3: of Atlanta. But we also get into a very deep
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Speaker 3: conversation about Melody being a force multiplier. How when I
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Speaker 3: first met her, I knew she was a star honey,
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Speaker 3: and what you all can expect from this season of
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Speaker 3: Love and Marriage Huntsville. Without further ado, get in to
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Speaker 3: my conversation with Melody Cherie. So today I have a
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Speaker 3: very special guest. She is always booked and busy. She
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Speaker 3: is one of the stars of our favorite show, Love
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Speaker 3: and Marriage Huntsville. Is an R and B singer, She
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Speaker 3: is an entrepreneur, she is a CEO. She is in
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Speaker 3: the beauty business. She is one of my favorite people
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Speaker 3: in the world. I've known her for so many years,
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Speaker 3: and I am happy to report.
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Speaker 2: She has not changed.
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Speaker 3: She is still the same woman I met in the
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Speaker 3: hotel lobby.
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Speaker 2: Eight years ago, and she is.
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Speaker 3: Winning in live and to my straight male listener, she's
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Speaker 3: also seener. I'm talking about Melody be force multiplier. Melody Sureie,
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Speaker 3: Hello Melody, let's talk about the first day we met.
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Speaker 3: So back in the dayDay day, guys, I was living
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Speaker 3: in Atlanta, and I am somebody who understands that there's
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Speaker 3: so many great people in the world that you sometimes
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Speaker 3: just don't walk up at the cafeteria or at the
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Speaker 3: gas station and just meet them or even during a
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Speaker 3: casting call. So long story short, I have this consulting
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Speaker 3: side of the business to where people would come pay
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Speaker 3: a fee and picture show IDEA long story short, this
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Speaker 3: beautiful blonde woman with a short halle Berry cut and
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Speaker 3: a Gucci dress emerged from the lobby at a hotel
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Speaker 3: get your monath the gutter.
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Speaker 2: Her husband was there too, and to have this meeting.
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Speaker 3: And I've said this before and I'll say it again,
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Speaker 3: it was love at first sight. I was like, this
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Speaker 3: woman is a star and I need to get into
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Speaker 3: business with her. I fell in love with you instantly, Melody.
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Speaker 3: And whenever I meet people who want to be on
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Speaker 3: reality television, I always give them the Melody effect. And
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Speaker 3: what that means, my listeners, is Melody was herself. She
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Speaker 3: was not trying to be anyone else but her, and
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Speaker 3: that's what I fell in love with. And that's the
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Speaker 3: reason why I left that hour long conversation in the
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Speaker 3: lobby and said, I am going to be working with
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Speaker 3: this woman.
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Speaker 2: One day in a big capacity.
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Speaker 3: But tell the listeners, Melody about that meeting from your perspective.
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Speaker 1: Well, first, Carlos, I have to say thank you so
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Speaker 1: much for those kind words. I really really appreciate it.
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Speaker 1: Even though I've heard you say it multiple times. I
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Speaker 1: just want you to know every time I hear it, Okay,
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Speaker 1: I am very thankful and just so thankful for the
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Speaker 1: friendship and relationship we've been able to build from all
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Speaker 1: those years ago and then look where we are now. Right.
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Speaker 1: But I remember, you know, meeting with you in the lobby.
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Speaker 1: I'll be honest. At first, I was nervous because I
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Speaker 1: never had a consultation with a producer before, so I
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Speaker 1: didn't know what that was going to be like, right,
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Speaker 1: But you were so I remember your smile. It was
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Speaker 1: so big and bright, just like now, big and bright
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Speaker 1: and just welcoming, you know what I mean. So I
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Speaker 1: didn't feel shy, nervous, intimidated any of that. So when
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Speaker 1: you talk about me being myself, you set the stage
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Speaker 1: for me to, you know, feel comfortable talking to you
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Speaker 1: and opening up and being myself and sharing you know,
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Speaker 1: this idea that Martella and I had in terms of
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Speaker 1: a reality show in Huntsville, Alabama. But I remember sitting
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Speaker 1: with you, having a treatment prepared, sharing with you the
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Speaker 1: idea and what we thought a show would be like
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Speaker 1: coming from Huntsville. And I remember at the time you
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Speaker 1: were like, let me ask you this, what you think
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Speaker 1: about being on Real Housewives, right. I remember you asking that,
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Speaker 1: and then my husband at the time was like, no,
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Speaker 1: I don't want to do that. I don't want to
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Speaker 1: lose my wife, right because at the time, everybody listen
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Speaker 1: at the time, everybody is seen on how we're going
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Speaker 1: through stuff for getting a divorce, and so I remember
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Speaker 1: walking away from that meeting and feeling like just feeling good,
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Speaker 1: you know, feeling like something is going to happen, something
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Speaker 1: is going to come from this, and now here we
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Speaker 1: have love and Mary chunstill on the Oprah Winfrey Network.
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Speaker 2: No, and the rest is history.
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Speaker 3: And what I want my listeners to know, and I
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Speaker 3: thank you too for that compliment, Melody, is the fact
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Speaker 3: that it wasn't like you and I had this meeting
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Speaker 3: and then the next day Love and Marriage Hunts Bell
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Speaker 3: came out of it. So when Melan Martel met with me,
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Speaker 3: they had this show I did called No Holds Barred,
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Speaker 3: and I was like, Okay, I think it's a great idea.
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Speaker 3: Let's keep in touch because at that time, guys, I
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Speaker 3: was working on season six of the Real house Spots
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Speaker 3: of Atlanta, So my mindset as a creative was that show.
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Speaker 3: And I was like ooh, Melody and Nini and Phedra
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Speaker 3: and Candy and Kenya.
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Speaker 2: It could be very interesting.
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Speaker 3: But something told me, no, Carlos, there's something bigger for her.
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Speaker 2: So we kept in touch over the year.
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Speaker 1: That's we did like three to four years.
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Speaker 3: Melody wasn't these people that I encountered today where I
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Speaker 3: have a meeting with them and they want to be
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Speaker 3: on TV by Tuesday.
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Speaker 1: Oh no, No, it doesn't work like that, guys, I
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Speaker 1: promise it doesn't work like that.
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Speaker 2: No, it doesn't at all.
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Speaker 3: And I will always give you the promise because you
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Speaker 3: were patient, you were You're the opposite of thirsty.
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Speaker 2: You weren't begging me. You would send me videos of
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Speaker 2: you at Gala's and what you and Martell were doing
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Speaker 2: with the homes, and we just kept in touch.
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Speaker 3: And when I thought the time was right, so I
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Speaker 3: left the Real Housewolves of Atlanta and I said, you
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Speaker 3: know what, I really want to figure out something with
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Speaker 3: Melody and Martel because I said, this woman, Melody Chari
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Speaker 3: is a star and I want to put her on
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Speaker 3: a big platform. And courtesy of just having these conversations
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Speaker 3: over the years, when I called you and.
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Speaker 2: Said, girl, I'm ready, what were you thinking.
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Speaker 3: Did you think like Carlos child By, or did you
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Speaker 3: think like, Okay, this may be it.
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Speaker 1: You know what, I did not feel like Carlos By.
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Speaker 1: I remember when you said, oh my gosh, I want
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Speaker 1: to work with you guys, I'm going to send you
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Speaker 1: a contract. I want to get you a show. I
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Speaker 1: remember that phone call, you know. And for me, I
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Speaker 1: think because if you've been someone who'd been none responsive
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Speaker 1: when you know in the text thing, I might have
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Speaker 1: felt like, oh whatever, he full of it. But you
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Speaker 1: always responded, you know what I mean. You always responded
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Speaker 1: when I communicated things with you, share with you how
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Speaker 1: hunts fell as a city was growing and moving up.
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Speaker 1: You were always responsive. So because of that, that built
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Speaker 1: a certain level of kind of trust, a great level
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Speaker 1: of communication. So then when you communicated to me, Hey,
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Speaker 1: I'm going to work with you, I felt like that
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Speaker 1: was real, you know, and so I was like, oh, oh, shoot,
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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Even after that, there was
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Speaker 1: still a process, not very long, but a few months
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Speaker 1: where it was still a process of shopping and all
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Speaker 1: of that. So I will tell anyone who's interested in
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Speaker 1: getting into television, particularly reality TV, you have to just
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Speaker 1: trust God's timing, and you have to know that whenever
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Speaker 1: it's time for whatever your creative idea is to happen,
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Speaker 1: it's going to happen. And things don't happen overnight. Like
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Speaker 1: Carlo said, you have to be patient. That still does
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Speaker 1: mean being consistent and persistent, but also being patient. So
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Speaker 1: I didn't just meet with him, sit back for years
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Speaker 1: and not reach out to him at all and just
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Speaker 1: feel like, oh, well, you know when it's meant to
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Speaker 1: be at a ball in my lap. No. I stayed
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Speaker 1: in contact with him, sending him pictures and information and
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Speaker 1: putting in my part that I could. As a word,
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Speaker 1: we even created a silver Real, Carlos. I don't know
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Speaker 1: if you remember.
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Speaker 2: I do you know?
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Speaker 1: We even paid videographers and created a silver Real. So
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Speaker 1: we still were working as we were still patiently waiting
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Speaker 1: to hear from you.
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Speaker 3: Oh one hundred percent. And the thing about this podcast is, yes,
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Speaker 3: we spilled the tea and get tea and all that stuff,
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Speaker 3: but this podcast is really an inspiration not just for
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Speaker 3: fans of reality TV, but also people who just want
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Speaker 3: to excel in life. And one thing I know about
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Speaker 3: this generation that we're in a lot of them not all,
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Speaker 3: so don't read me on Twitter. But a lot of
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Speaker 3: people nowadays, Melody, they want it now and they want
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Speaker 3: it fast. And you were patient because you and I
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Speaker 3: both knew that God's timing overhauls everything. I had to
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Speaker 3: leave the real house spots of Atlanta, and I tell
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Speaker 3: people this all the time. There would be no Love
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Speaker 3: and Marriage Huntsville for two reasons. A obviously if I
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Speaker 3: never met Melody Martel, but also B I had to
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Speaker 3: leave that big show that took so much of my time.
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Speaker 3: I had to move to Atlanta to produce that show.
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Speaker 3: When I left the show, moved to LA focused on
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Speaker 3: my production company, Kingdomain Entertainment. The first idea I had
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Speaker 3: was working with Melody of Martel. But before we get
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Speaker 3: into the success of Love and Match hunts Bill, I
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Speaker 3: need for my listeners to know this.
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Speaker 2: As a little girl growing up in.
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Speaker 3: The South, did you always know that you were a star?
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Speaker 3: Because baby, I can spot a star in three seconds,
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Speaker 3: and with you, it took point zero zero zero zero
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Speaker 3: zero zero. I did the moment you said hey, I said,
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Speaker 3: oh Lord Jesus, we have a forced multiplier here. But
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Speaker 3: let me know, did you always know you were destined
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Speaker 3: to be a star.
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Speaker 1: You know what, absolutely I did. I You know, growing up,
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Speaker 1: I was always performing, singing, playing the piano, pageantry, talent shows.
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Speaker 1: You know, even though I come from a very small town,
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Speaker 1: one with light Brunda Jaut. Unfortunately, I grew up in
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Speaker 1: a community and with a family that was encouraging, that
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Speaker 1: showed me so much love. So before I became an adult,
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Speaker 1: I heard many people saying, Oh, you're going to be places,
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Speaker 1: you are going to do great things. A matter of fact,
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Speaker 1: what's so funny. I played community baseball for like a
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Speaker 1: year or two, right, and I remember my coaches gave
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Speaker 1: me a name, Hollywood. That was the name they gave me, Hollywood.
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Speaker 2: I love hearing that.
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Speaker 3: And it's funny because what your name as a kid
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Speaker 3: or a teenager or young adult kind of shapes your destiny.
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Speaker 3: And you've been called Hollywood, it is evident that you
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Speaker 3: were destined for Hollywood, Honey.
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Speaker 2: And that's nothing to cast me out.
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Speaker 3: Yes, when when Love and Mage Huntsville first debuted, did
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Speaker 3: you know that it would one day be the number
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Speaker 3: one unscripted show on Oprah's network.
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Speaker 1: Not at all. I did not. I had no idea
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Speaker 1: because a lot of times it takes viewers a while
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Speaker 1: to get into a new show, right. I feel like
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Speaker 1: Carlos with Love and Marriage Huntsville. It came out the
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Speaker 1: gate just like boom, you know what I mean. So
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Speaker 1: I wasn't expecting, especially that quickly, for us to be
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Speaker 1: a number one show, you know. But I think that
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Speaker 1: what the viewers loved was they loved the transparency and
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Speaker 1: the authenticity and seeing real life happening on the screens
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Speaker 1: and on the television that's not scripted. You know, we
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Speaker 1: can watch movies all day and those are roles, right,
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Speaker 1: and we may relate to them. But whenever you're seeing
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Speaker 1: reality TV, real people, their real lives, and you're like,
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Speaker 1: wait a minute, I've been through that, or hey, I
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Speaker 1: know somebody who's going through that right now. Wait my
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Speaker 1: supposter going through this, and now let me watch this show,
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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. And so it just it
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Speaker 1: went through like a wildfire, I think, and viewers, once
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Speaker 1: they got into it, they couldn't stop.
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Speaker 3: No. It is so true because I produced and created
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Speaker 3: shows before Love and Marriag hunts and like you said,
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Speaker 3: sometimes it takes a minute for a show to hit.
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Speaker 3: Sometimes child a show doesn't hit at all and it's
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Speaker 3: canceled the first season. I'm not exempted that I've had
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Speaker 3: a show I created, it was canceled the first season.
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Speaker 2: Things happened. I don't believe in failures. I believe in
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Speaker 2: God saying I'm repositioning your destiny. Girlfriend.
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Speaker 3: When Love and Marriage Huntsville first debut, it felt like
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Speaker 3: every week there was a different audience that was watching it,
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Speaker 3: and the conversations of the show got bigger, and then
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Speaker 3: it became a talk of the town word of mouth.
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Speaker 3: And then obviously everybody was so invested in your marriage
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Speaker 3: at the time with Martel, because in reality television, you
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Speaker 3: have never seen a couple talk honestly about the turmoil.
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Speaker 2: They were going through.
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Speaker 3: Did you know going into shooting that first season that
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Speaker 3: at the end of the day, I signed up for
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Speaker 3: this and I'm going to put all on the table
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Speaker 3: because that's what i signed up for.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely, absolutely, So going in I knew straight out the gate,
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Speaker 1: if I'm going to do reality TV, I'm going to
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Speaker 1: be real, and so that was my mindset out the gate. Now,
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Speaker 1: I will tell you there was still an interesting twist
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Speaker 1: for me because before we started filming season one, I
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Speaker 1: thought my marriage was in a good place right before
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Speaker 1: the cameras got there. That's when I realized that this
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Speaker 1: affair was still going on. So that is why coming
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Speaker 1: got the gate. Viewers got that real raw emotion from me.
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Speaker 1: They saw me crying, they saw me upset, they thought
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Speaker 1: me throwing, saw me throwing clothes across the room. They
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Speaker 1: saw all of that because it was real. And I
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Speaker 1: think that the audience can feel and can tell when
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Speaker 1: something is authentic. And I can also tell when you
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Speaker 1: put it on for the camera and looking for moments right.
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Speaker 2: We'll get to that later.
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Speaker 4: I'm serious.
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Speaker 3: Because Melody brings that up on the new season of
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Speaker 3: Love and Marriage Huntsville that debuts September tenth, ninety eight o'clock.
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Speaker 2: Continue.
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Speaker 1: Now, people can tell and they can feel that. And
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Speaker 1: I think a lot of times people are taught you
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Speaker 1: hold stuff in, and this is what leads to traumatized adults.
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Speaker 1: Even as children, you're told to hold things in. Don't
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Speaker 1: speak on this, don't speak on that. What happens in
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Speaker 1: behind my door stays behind my door. What happened in
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Speaker 1: the household stays in the household. But being able to
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Speaker 1: express myself and release those emotions was therapeutic for me
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Speaker 1: in a sense right and eventually helped lead me to
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Speaker 1: get to a place of my healing because I have
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Speaker 1: an outlet, you know what I mean. So reality TV
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Speaker 1: becomes is good for many different reasons. People are forced
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Speaker 1: to have conversations that they may normally wouldn't have, discuss
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Speaker 1: certain things that they may normally would push out for
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Speaker 1: a year or two. So it is a good thing
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Speaker 1: for sure.
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Speaker 3: If there was no love in marriage hunts, Bill, do
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Speaker 3: you think you and Martell would still be married?
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Speaker 1: Us being divorce honestly has nothing to do with the
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Speaker 1: love and marriage hunts. But I'll be quite frank with you.
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Speaker 1: There were more people dming me, rooting for me to
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Speaker 1: make my marriage work.
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Speaker 2: There were more.
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Speaker 1: People wanting me to stay like y'all have these beautiful children.
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Speaker 1: There were more people for the marriage than against the marriage.
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Speaker 1: They loved seeing this beautiful black young power couple. They
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Speaker 1: loved seeing that, they loved seeing us with our kids
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Speaker 1: and as a family unit. So more people didn't want
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Speaker 1: me to leave than the ones that didn't want me
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Speaker 1: to leave. So me leaving was solely me and God choice.
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Speaker 1: It had nothing to do if I went with what
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Speaker 1: more of the fans thought I would still be married.
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Speaker 2: Truth be told, No, it's crazy and we need to
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Speaker 2: talk about that.
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Speaker 3: I have never been a part of a show where
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Speaker 3: people were advocating for a marriage to stay when it
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Speaker 3: was evident that this other person in this case, Martel,
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Speaker 3: was still having the affair, got another woman pregnant. You
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Speaker 3: would think that the world would say bitch, lee by
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Speaker 3: close the door, like girls sell off.
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Speaker 2: I remember being a target. Oh my god on the airplane.
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Speaker 3: I've been stopped walking down the street by black women
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Speaker 3: and men who have said to me, please tell Melody
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Speaker 3: to take my tail back. And I was so shocked
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Speaker 3: because I was like, oh, I thought it would be
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Speaker 3: obvious of why she decided to leave in and listen.
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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna be very honest Melody.
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Speaker 3: A lot of people in the black community have said, well,
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Speaker 3: he's a good father. Well, you know, at the end
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Speaker 3: of the day, you know he didn't mean it, and
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Speaker 3: she should give him another chance. And one thing that
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna be very honest because I don't lie. Melody
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Speaker 3: can tell you. I even have had moments with Melody
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Speaker 3: and say.
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Speaker 2: Girl, take him back. I met Shaw together and she
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Speaker 2: said Carlos, if y'all get my phone so I understand it.
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Speaker 3: Do you think a lot of it is because in
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Speaker 3: the black community, especially when you're in the South, and
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Speaker 3: I'm not going to talk about the things I've witnessed
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Speaker 3: in my earlier years growing up in Detroit, a lot
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Speaker 3: of women have stayed when their man has cheated or
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Speaker 3: is still cheating, because a lot of women feel in
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Speaker 3: our community, at the end of the day, it's better
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Speaker 3: to know the devil you're in bed with versus a
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Speaker 3: new devil. And what that means to my listeners is
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Speaker 3: a lot of women stay in marriages where they know
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Speaker 3: their man is cheating because they feel like, why would
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Speaker 3: I leave him to risk dating or marrying another man
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Speaker 3: who's going to do the same thing to me? Was
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Speaker 3: that part of your process in deciding whether or not
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Speaker 3: you wanted to leave him?
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Speaker 1: Well, what I would say is, when you talk about
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Speaker 1: taking a risk, right, I would say, instead of doing that,
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Speaker 1: maybe I would want to bet on myself on finding
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Speaker 1: someone or someone finding me who does treat me the
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Speaker 1: way they should treat me and who doesn't do all
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Speaker 1: the cheating and all the bullcrap. Right at the end
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Speaker 1: of the day, it is still a chance and a
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Speaker 1: risk so to speak, that you're taking. So sometimes you
20:20
Speaker 1: just got to be willing to bet on yourself. And
20:23
Speaker 1: guess what, for me in my situation, I got to
20:26
Speaker 1: a place where, you know, you know my song tell
20:28
Speaker 1: Tale Signs, I said, I don't rather be alone because
20:31
Speaker 1: you've got issues. That's what I meant. I'd rather be
20:35
Speaker 1: alone than settle see that one sit well with me
20:40
Speaker 1: going to sleep every night knowing that this joker is
20:43
Speaker 1: out here doing this, that, and the other. Because it
20:44
Speaker 1: goes back to your self worth and what you think
20:47
Speaker 1: about yourself. I think that's something that we have to
20:50
Speaker 1: work on also in the Black community, self love, self respect,
20:55
Speaker 1: What do you think your worth? What do you think
20:57
Speaker 1: you're worth? Is that all you think of yourself? And
21:00
Speaker 1: so I literally after leaving the marriage, worked on, hey,
21:04
Speaker 1: let me make sure that I love me to a
21:07
Speaker 1: point where I never sit in a situation like this
21:10
Speaker 1: again when I probably should have been left. You know
21:13
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. And so that goes back to learning yourself,
21:17
Speaker 1: spending time with yourself, facing any abandonment issues that you
21:21
Speaker 1: may have, which a lot of times people are suffering
21:24
Speaker 1: from abandonment issues. Where they've grown up. Women have grown
21:27
Speaker 1: up with their father maybe not being present in their life,
21:29
Speaker 1: so they're afraid of being alone. They're afraid of being
21:33
Speaker 1: without a man in their life, so they settle for
21:35
Speaker 1: any and everything. When it comes to that, it's different
21:39
Speaker 1: timing for everyone. May God bless people on their journey
21:42
Speaker 1: who are in situations like that. I get DMS all
21:45
Speaker 1: the time from women who are like, you have inspired me,
21:48
Speaker 1: You've given me strength. I'm about to leave my thirteen
21:50
Speaker 1: year marriage. I'm about to leave this twenty year marriage.
21:53
Speaker 1: And so I never thought or imagined that me publicly
21:58
Speaker 1: going through humilion, going through depression, divorce, that it would
22:04
Speaker 1: lead to just encouraging and inspiring so many women eventually
22:09
Speaker 1: to choose self. So that's when it becomes for me
22:12
Speaker 1: what I call purpose work, because it's bigger than me,
22:15
Speaker 1: and it's bigger than just being on a TV show.
22:17
Speaker 1: And I think that's why I have so many supporters
22:20
Speaker 1: and why I have been able to connect to so
22:22
Speaker 1: many people.
22:22
Speaker 3: You connect with people through the television screen because you're
22:26
Speaker 3: so authentic and you're so honest.
22:28
Speaker 2: And one thing I want to share with people is
22:30
Speaker 2: this show is not fake.
22:32
Speaker 3: And when you see Melody on the screen and she's strong,
22:36
Speaker 3: but you guys don't know that.
22:38
Speaker 2: I'm going to share and mal has no idea talk
22:40
Speaker 2: about this, Oh lod I'm going to some exclusest Honey
22:47
Speaker 2: on the podcast. I love it when Melody.
22:50
Speaker 3: Told Martell to keep his penis in The Household season one,
22:54
Speaker 3: that epic scene, that moment where people are like, this chick,
22:58
Speaker 3: Melody is the one to well, you guys don't know
23:01
Speaker 3: is I was there on set and Melody Melody left
23:06
Speaker 3: the doc. We were on a boat because Kimmy and
23:09
Speaker 3: Marie just got married, and they went to the top
23:12
Speaker 3: of the deck. She comes down, she rushes to me,
23:16
Speaker 3: and she breaks down in my arms. And I'm bringing
23:21
Speaker 3: this up to say, I can tell you guys that
23:26
Speaker 3: this woman's strength is so admired because it takes a
23:33
Speaker 3: strong woman to give all of that in front of
23:36
Speaker 3: the world.
23:38
Speaker 2: And to have these conversations.
23:41
Speaker 3: And I wanted to share that because I think a
23:43
Speaker 3: lot of people think, oh, mel thinks she's there, She's that,
23:46
Speaker 3: y'all have no idea. There's tons of conversations Melody and
23:49
Speaker 3: I have had in person.
23:51
Speaker 2: Over the phone. She's cried, I cried she's hugged.
23:55
Speaker 3: I hugged, and you're You're such this powerhouse that I
23:59
Speaker 3: think a lot of people think you're like, oh whatever,
24:02
Speaker 3: she's heartless, she's a tough cookie.
24:05
Speaker 2: But I really want people to know that what you have.
24:08
Speaker 3: Gone through on this show obviously is a huge part
24:12
Speaker 3: of the success of Huntsville.
24:14
Speaker 1: You gonna make me cry right now.
24:17
Speaker 2: I don't cry.
24:18
Speaker 1: No, well no, because you're bringing.
24:20
Speaker 4: Back you know.
24:21
Speaker 1: I just I don't even know if you remember this too,
24:23
Speaker 1: but you came to Huntsville to one of my mamosas
24:26
Speaker 1: with Melody events. To remember that.
24:28
Speaker 2: I know, I was about to say y'ah, And that.
24:30
Speaker 1: Was another moment when I literally broke down and I
24:34
Speaker 1: was charged because it was my event and part of
24:38
Speaker 1: again purpose work, you know, to go out and encourage
24:42
Speaker 1: all these women who traveled from all over the country
24:45
Speaker 1: to come to my event. You know, I don't know
24:47
Speaker 1: if you remember, but I made a decision that Martel
24:50
Speaker 1: wasn't invited. He could not be present. I had just
24:53
Speaker 1: found out maybe the day or a couple of days before,
24:55
Speaker 1: this joker was still cheating. When I thought we were
24:58
Speaker 1: good yet again, when I I thought we were good
25:01
Speaker 1: and I was heartbroken, and I was like, how do
25:04
Speaker 1: I go and encourage these women who are here? And
25:09
Speaker 1: I'm literally battling my own emotional breakdown right now, you
25:14
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And even in that moment, you
25:17
Speaker 1: were there. I remember you hugging me. I remember crying
25:20
Speaker 1: on your shoulder then too, and my whole team being there,
25:23
Speaker 1: them surrounding me, and we still went out there and
25:26
Speaker 1: we kept that they are the mostas with Melody, though
25:31
Speaker 1: we sure did. We sure did.
25:33
Speaker 3: No, you sure did, because you have to get in
25:36
Speaker 3: front of a crowd of women. And I'm not exaggerating
25:41
Speaker 3: when I say this. A woman said to you in
25:45
Speaker 3: front of a large audience. She said, Melody, you give
25:50
Speaker 3: us hope, and you're like the Harriet Tubman for women.
25:54
Speaker 3: You are the Angelo of women. And I was like,
25:57
Speaker 3: and again, this is still season one. People saw you
26:01
Speaker 3: in the first eight episodes. Deal with that, and as
26:03
Speaker 3: we were shooting this new season, the fact that you
26:06
Speaker 3: were able to impact these women, and that's when I knew, like,
26:10
Speaker 3: this woman is going to go place this and you
26:12
Speaker 3: have gone places so much so there's a place right
26:17
Speaker 3: now in your career where people are now putting your
26:21
Speaker 3: name in conversations of some of the greats in reality television,
26:24
Speaker 3: like Anini Leegs, a Tammy Realman, a Tiffany Pollard. How
26:29
Speaker 3: does it feel to know that people are really giving
26:33
Speaker 3: your props in terms of like you are on your
26:36
Speaker 3: way of becoming one of the greatest reality stars of
26:40
Speaker 3: all time?
26:40
Speaker 2: Do you receive that, you know what, I'm just.
26:43
Speaker 1: So thankful, you know, when you mentioned, like you said,
26:46
Speaker 1: those names of the greats, and the fact that my
26:49
Speaker 1: name is even brought up in conversation, I'll be honest,
26:51
Speaker 1: the fact that there are people who call me mail Yancey. Right,
26:55
Speaker 1: I'm a huge VUPSE fan and people literally call me
26:58
Speaker 1: mail Yancey. Those things and conversations sometimes feel surreal because
27:03
Speaker 1: it's like, wow, I still don't feel like, oh, I've
27:05
Speaker 1: made it. I probably will never feel like that, because
27:08
Speaker 1: that's just not how my mind works and things. But
27:11
Speaker 1: I am thankful and just you know, humble to be
27:15
Speaker 1: in those kind of conversations because there are so many
27:18
Speaker 1: women before me who have done amazing things, who have
27:22
Speaker 1: put reality TV, for example, out there, Tammy Roman and
27:26
Speaker 1: her you know, being very again transparent and authentic. You know,
27:30
Speaker 1: when she first came out with reality TV, and like
27:34
Speaker 1: you said, many leads, and you know, there are so
27:37
Speaker 1: many amazing, amazing women and we all one thing we
27:41
Speaker 1: all have in common is that we've all gone through things.
27:44
Speaker 1: We've all struggled with something, and we've all had to
27:47
Speaker 1: pull from deep within and pull that inner strength from
27:49
Speaker 1: our ancestors, from our creator and continue to push forward
27:53
Speaker 1: as women. And so I think it's beautiful. I'm just thankful.
27:57
Speaker 3: And these women that you mentioned, a lot of them
28:00
Speaker 3: follow you on Instagram.
28:02
Speaker 2: They love you.
28:06
Speaker 3: How does it feel to know that you got the
28:08
Speaker 3: blessings of these women? And I'm pretty sure you watched
28:11
Speaker 3: on TV before you started Huntsville Portia.
28:15
Speaker 2: And it's funny because when I see people coming, I'm
28:17
Speaker 2: like you probability too.
28:22
Speaker 1: I feel blessed, thankful, you know, Morris Kill Harper, like
28:25
Speaker 1: you said me me, Porsia. These are all people that
28:28
Speaker 1: I'm communicating with regularly via the phone. So in real life,
28:32
Speaker 1: you know, I just feel blessed. And what I do, Carlos,
28:36
Speaker 1: is in every one of those situations, I just continue
28:39
Speaker 1: to be me, you know, continue to be true to
28:42
Speaker 1: who I am. A lot of times people don't get
28:45
Speaker 1: to see the silly side of male, like to have
28:48
Speaker 1: fun side of mail because of you know, the reality series.
28:51
Speaker 1: But people who get to talk to me away from
28:53
Speaker 1: the camera, I'll be having them cracking up, like that's
28:55
Speaker 1: what I do, you know. So you know, I love
28:58
Speaker 1: to see people laugh. I love to see people in
29:00
Speaker 1: happy spaces. And so for me, anyway that my energy
29:03
Speaker 1: and my light that God has given me can pour
29:06
Speaker 1: that into others, that's how I move and that's what
29:09
Speaker 1: I do. So you know, I just I go into
29:12
Speaker 1: all those situations being male.
29:14
Speaker 2: I love it. I love it.
29:15
Speaker 1: I feel like I say all the time when I
29:17
Speaker 1: post inspirational things on my story. You know, separation brings
29:23
Speaker 1: about elevation and seeing myself now getting to meet people
29:28
Speaker 1: who inspire me, people who you know I've watched as
29:32
Speaker 1: a little girl myself, and you know, now I'm being
29:35
Speaker 1: able to be in the rooms with them and have
29:37
Speaker 1: conversations and shake hands with these people. You know, it's
29:40
Speaker 1: an amazing feeling and it's an amazing moment. I don't
29:43
Speaker 1: take it for granted. I'm thankful to God every single
29:46
Speaker 1: day and my goal and desire is to represent Kingdom
29:50
Speaker 1: and you know, to continue to be the light that
29:53
Speaker 1: I was sitting here to.
29:54
Speaker 3: Be and it is shining. It's crazy. I feel like
30:00
Speaker 3: you're just getting started.
30:03
Speaker 2: Amen, who child, These.
30:06
Speaker 3: Are just getting spicy. But stay tuned for more of
30:09
Speaker 3: my conversation with Melody. Will be right back after this
30:13
Speaker 3: quick break. This is Reality with the King and I'm
30:26
Speaker 3: Carlos King. Let's get back into my chat with Melody.
30:33
Speaker 3: How do you feel, Melody? We're now four seasons and
30:37
Speaker 3: how do you feel when people say, oh, Melody, you change,
30:42
Speaker 3: You walk around like you're the star.
30:44
Speaker 2: Of the show. You are a mean girl now, blah
30:49
Speaker 2: blah blah. How does it feel to know that's what
30:53
Speaker 2: people say sometimes about you?
30:55
Speaker 1: Well, what I will say is is in for anyone
31:00
Speaker 1: and four years you haven't changed, then you need to
31:03
Speaker 1: evaluate yourself and four years you should have grown, You
31:07
Speaker 1: should have improved, You should have gotten to a place
31:09
Speaker 1: to where maybe you don't accept the same things you
31:12
Speaker 1: accepted four years ago, Maybe where you don't engage in
31:15
Speaker 1: conversations that you used to engauge in engaging four years ago.
31:19
Speaker 1: Maybe you don't you know, hang even sometimes with the
31:23
Speaker 1: same people that you hung with four years ago, Like
31:26
Speaker 1: this isn't anything uncoming we see it time and time again,
31:29
Speaker 1: where people grow evolved and if everyone everyone's not we
31:33
Speaker 1: said all the time, everybody's not meant to go with
31:35
Speaker 1: you on your journey. Your journey is your journey. And
31:37
Speaker 1: so for me, it's not that Ooh, I think I'm
31:40
Speaker 1: better than everybody, or ooh I'm looking down on anyone.
31:44
Speaker 1: I'm focused on my purpose and I'm focused on my journey.
31:47
Speaker 1: I'm focused on my healing. I have four beautiful babies
31:50
Speaker 1: that I'm responsible for. I literally did just go through
31:53
Speaker 1: a the divorce, and you guys have seen firsthand what
31:56
Speaker 1: that has been like. So me choosing to not want
31:59
Speaker 1: to engage in certain things or certain types of foolishness,
32:02
Speaker 1: for me, it's just what it is. If you don't
32:04
Speaker 1: like it, you don't like it, call me whatever you
32:06
Speaker 1: want to call me. That's okay too. It ain't stopping
32:08
Speaker 1: no coins in my pocket, so you know that's okay.
32:11
Speaker 1: I feel like I have a close enough relationship with
32:14
Speaker 1: God to where if I was moving in a way
32:17
Speaker 1: that was not pleasing to him, he would let me know.
32:19
Speaker 1: Because I'm a dreamer, Carlos and I have been since
32:22
Speaker 1: I was a kid. I've had times in the past
32:24
Speaker 1: few months where God has told me you need to
32:27
Speaker 1: do X, Y, and Z, and I've reached out to
32:30
Speaker 1: whoever that may have been, and I've said the apology
32:33
Speaker 1: that I may have need to say, to have need
32:35
Speaker 1: to say for whatever part I played in whatever right.
32:37
Speaker 1: So I have a decent spiritual relationship. You know what
32:41
Speaker 1: I'm saying in tune with myself that if there was
32:44
Speaker 1: something God didn't like, he let me know first before
32:48
Speaker 1: he told you, he'd tell me first.
32:50
Speaker 3: I thought that's right. Though I feel the same way.
32:52
Speaker 3: I'm like, y'all can stay what y'all want about me.
32:54
Speaker 2: I'm here to.
32:54
Speaker 3: Please God, not please man or woman. Yeah, care less
32:58
Speaker 3: about what y'all think about me. I know who I
33:00
Speaker 3: am and I know whose I am. And speaking of which,
33:05
Speaker 3: where were you when you found out that Martell was
33:07
Speaker 3: dating Charie?
33:09
Speaker 1: I don't remember where I was. It came across my timeline,
33:13
Speaker 1: like I don't, I don't, I promise I don't remember.
33:20
Speaker 1: I guess it wasn't that important, Like it's no staple
33:22
Speaker 1: in my mind. I don't remember.
33:23
Speaker 2: Let me ask you this, were you surprised at the pairing?
33:27
Speaker 2: Like the world was To be honest with you.
33:30
Speaker 1: I didn't even put much thought into it. I just said, oh,
33:33
Speaker 1: and I kept scrolling, like seriously, I was like, oh,
33:35
Speaker 1: kept scrolling. I didn't put much thought into it. Here's
33:38
Speaker 1: what I think. I think sometimes people forget that, first
33:44
Speaker 1: of all, me and Martel haven't been together since twenty
33:46
Speaker 1: twenty April of twenty twenty, and I think that people
33:50
Speaker 1: forget that I've already seen him dating people.
33:54
Speaker 4: So you have.
33:55
Speaker 2: I didn't know that Melody Holy he had a whole
33:58
Speaker 2: relationship in the marriage.
34:00
Speaker 4: Oh well, we knew about that outside of her, yeah,
34:06
Speaker 4: side of her even Yeah, I've seen so I this
34:10
Speaker 4: wasn't the first time I've seen him with a woman
34:12
Speaker 4: that's not me.
34:13
Speaker 1: So it didn't move me. It didn't ruffle any well,
34:16
Speaker 1: first of all, went anyway. I divorced him, But it
34:18
Speaker 1: didn't do anything to me. It didn't stir any emotions.
34:21
Speaker 1: It didn't make me feel any kind of way. It
34:23
Speaker 1: was literally a scroll, and I kept, you know, scrolling
34:27
Speaker 1: like I had people reach out to me girl and
34:30
Speaker 1: just see and I was just like, Okay, y'all, I
34:32
Speaker 1: don't care. You know, God bless you on your journey,
34:35
Speaker 1: Like that's how I am. God bless you on your journey.
34:37
Speaker 2: I could care less no, And that's one thing I
34:40
Speaker 2: know about you.
34:40
Speaker 3: And it's funny because one thing about you and I
34:45
Speaker 3: we're very close and we talk often, we text often,
34:48
Speaker 3: we email often, and.
34:49
Speaker 2: We zoom often.
34:51
Speaker 3: And what's funny is the world assumed that I set
34:56
Speaker 3: up Charaene Martell because obviously I did Housewives, I'm coolish,
35:00
Speaker 3: I'm Cooper Martell obviously, and a lot of people thought like, Okay,
35:04
Speaker 3: Carlos set this up.
35:06
Speaker 2: And a lot of people also say, like Sea Melody,
35:09
Speaker 2: don't trust Carlos.
35:10
Speaker 3: And what was so funny is you and I get
35:14
Speaker 3: a kick out of people's assumptions when it comes to
35:18
Speaker 3: our friendship and our relationship. And we'll get to that
35:22
Speaker 3: in a second too. But did you think like the
35:25
Speaker 3: world thought like, is this that Carlos King mash up?
35:28
Speaker 1: Listen, I'm so sorry, but I didn't think that because
35:30
Speaker 1: I ain't think nothing about it, Like it didn't even
35:34
Speaker 1: go through my mind to be on someding Carlos said
35:36
Speaker 1: this stuff like it was. I didn't think anything about it.
35:41
Speaker 1: I did not. I just did not, like not even
35:43
Speaker 1: to think who put it together or who did I
35:46
Speaker 1: didn't think nothing about it. I did it, I think
35:49
Speaker 1: because I'm so far removed for me. For me, it's
35:52
Speaker 1: been more so focusing on ensuring that my personal identity
35:56
Speaker 1: and my brand is no longer attached as much as
36:00
Speaker 1: possible attached to martl. That that's all I be focused on.
36:05
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, And I don't think nothing
36:09
Speaker 1: about it.
36:09
Speaker 2: That's interesting now I never looked at it that way.
36:12
Speaker 3: You're so focused on identifying Melody Cherie, which is why
36:16
Speaker 3: you drop Holtes.
36:17
Speaker 2: Now I get the reason for the last name drop
36:20
Speaker 2: because you want to.
36:21
Speaker 3: As much as you can disassociate yourself from that part
36:26
Speaker 3: of your life and to reintroduce yourself to the world
36:31
Speaker 3: as this woman.
36:32
Speaker 2: Like you guys met me Mary. You met me as
36:34
Speaker 2: this married woman who was going through this.
36:37
Speaker 3: And now that I have divorced this situation, not only
36:43
Speaker 3: did I divorce Martel, you divorce any attachment with that
36:46
Speaker 3: outside of the beautiful kids you guys have together, obviously,
36:49
Speaker 3: but your focus is on let me show the world
36:56
Speaker 3: who this new woman is perfect.
37:00
Speaker 2: That is outside of him.
37:02
Speaker 3: And that's how I feel when people try to say
37:03
Speaker 3: things like, oh, Carlos, you're messy, You talk about these
37:05
Speaker 3: Housewives because you're bitter, which is stupid to me, but
37:08
Speaker 3: for me, I get what you mean now about having
37:11
Speaker 3: to be at a place to where you leave a
37:14
Speaker 3: situation like when I left Housewives. I'm gonna be honest,
37:18
Speaker 3: it was hard for me to watch the show after
37:21
Speaker 3: that because I was trying hard to disassociate myself from
37:26
Speaker 3: the show, because when I left, I wanted to just
37:30
Speaker 3: focus on my new venture of the company and love
37:34
Speaker 3: and Match Huntsville. And now that it's been five years
37:38
Speaker 3: since I left, I now want to talk about the show,
37:43
Speaker 3: and I.
37:43
Speaker 2: Use this podcast to do it.
37:45
Speaker 3: But it's because I allow those five years for me
37:47
Speaker 3: to disassociate myself from that show. So now when people
37:51
Speaker 3: think of Carlos King, they think of loving marriage, and
37:54
Speaker 3: you want people when.
37:55
Speaker 2: They think of Melody should read to think of Melody.
38:00
Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, you got it. I mean, you perfectly said,
38:04
Speaker 1: you know. And so that's the process of where I am,
38:07
Speaker 1: what I'm going through. So of course every now and
38:09
Speaker 1: then I still have questions come up, but a lot
38:12
Speaker 1: of times my answers are I have no convent, I
38:15
Speaker 1: have no thoughts because I don't even think about that,
38:17
Speaker 1: you know, perfectly.
38:19
Speaker 2: Said no, I know because no, it just hit me.
38:23
Speaker 3: So I got one more shady question though, do you
38:25
Speaker 3: think do you think it's a real relationship or PR stunt?
38:29
Speaker 1: I have no idea. I don't know.
38:32
Speaker 4: I don't know.
38:33
Speaker 1: Is that what they're saying. I don't know.
38:35
Speaker 3: The girls are saying it's a pr stunt girl, that's
38:39
Speaker 3: what they're saying.
38:41
Speaker 2: I don't.
38:43
Speaker 4: God bless everybody on their journey, Honey, that's a Southern
38:48
Speaker 4: woman for you.
38:52
Speaker 1: Got God bless everybody on their journey.
38:56
Speaker 2: So when it comes for your journey, are you dating anybody? Melody?
39:03
Speaker 4: I am not.
39:04
Speaker 1: I can honestly say that I'm not dating anyone. I
39:06
Speaker 1: have dated since you know, after I left Martella, I dated,
39:09
Speaker 1: but I'm not currently dating anyone. I haven't dated anyone
39:12
Speaker 1: in a while, actually, and I like it kind of
39:16
Speaker 1: this way. It's nice.
39:18
Speaker 2: Really, you don't miss the US.
39:19
Speaker 1: I hop up, I hop up and go where I
39:22
Speaker 1: want to go, when I want to go, how I
39:23
Speaker 1: want to go. I ain't got to ask no questions.
39:25
Speaker 4: You know.
39:25
Speaker 1: I just got back from Cancne. I hear Atlanta to day.
39:28
Speaker 1: I'm leaving for La in the morning. I ain't got
39:30
Speaker 1: to ask nobody if they think I should go, and
39:31
Speaker 1: they want to go, can I get promyan No, da
39:33
Speaker 1: da da, I do what I wanted to go where
39:35
Speaker 1: I want to go. Baby, this is living, honey, you
39:37
Speaker 1: got I mean, Carlos. You gotta keep in mind I
39:41
Speaker 1: got married at twenty two, twenty two, business teaching children,
39:48
Speaker 1: all of that for years. So now I'm single, and
39:54
Speaker 1: I'm enjoying being able to move how I want to move,
39:57
Speaker 1: like you know, and rediscovering me and traveling and all
40:02
Speaker 1: of vega stuff. Now, don't get me wrong, I have
40:04
Speaker 1: of course worked on myself to do the healing and
40:06
Speaker 1: self work I need to do should I decide to
40:10
Speaker 1: be in a relationship, but it's just not something that
40:12
Speaker 1: I'm just so antsy about, you know, and just like,
40:14
Speaker 1: ooh God, when you gonna see me somebody? Yeah, when
40:17
Speaker 1: you gonna see me somebody?
40:18
Speaker 4: No?
40:19
Speaker 1: No?
40:19
Speaker 3: And I believe you and I know you so well
40:22
Speaker 3: to know that that is the truth, because you have been,
40:26
Speaker 3: like you said, married since twenty two, and I think,
40:29
Speaker 3: looking back at it, that's a young age, yeah, to
40:32
Speaker 3: be married. Because I always tell women and don't laugh
40:37
Speaker 3: my say this melody, I feel like a woman in
40:40
Speaker 3: her twenties, she should be a whole.
40:42
Speaker 2: I feel like every woman should have a whole phase
40:45
Speaker 2: and men too, men too. I'm not going to exempt
40:50
Speaker 2: the men. I feel like in the twenties you have
40:53
Speaker 2: to be a whole. And by a whole, I.
40:56
Speaker 3: Mean explored, experiment, experience, date, use protection of course, cause
41:02
Speaker 3: we got monkey pops and laryngietis and Lethard whatever child.
41:06
Speaker 3: We have a lot of things happening in the sposter water.
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Speaker 3: So AnyWho, I feel like, well, I don't.
41:12
Speaker 1: Want to be a hole. I ain't never been a hole,
41:13
Speaker 1: and I don't want to be a home. Now, that
41:15
Speaker 1: didn't what I'm saying. No, I say I'm enjoying, traveling
41:18
Speaker 1: and enjoying life. But I ain't say nobody to be
41:21
Speaker 1: in the hole. No, no, I said, let me tell you.
41:23
Speaker 1: Let me tell you my favorite phrase. Hang out don't
41:26
Speaker 1: mean hook up. See people seeing you're hanging out with somebody,
41:28
Speaker 1: they think y'all hooking up.
41:30
Speaker 2: No nothing. Now, I just feel like not to be
41:34
Speaker 2: a hole. But I feel like saying that fact. I
41:39
Speaker 2: think I think people will get it. But I say
41:41
Speaker 2: it that way. When I say a hole, I mean
41:46
Speaker 2: hope for lee you're able.
41:48
Speaker 1: To trying to clean it up that the Lord.
41:55
Speaker 2: The Lord is working on me.
41:56
Speaker 3: When I say be a hole in your twenties, I
41:59
Speaker 3: mean hope believe you're able to just experience life before
42:04
Speaker 3: you settle down with just one person.
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Speaker 1: Okay, you clean that up really well. I like that.
42:09
Speaker 1: You know what I will say is looking back at
42:13
Speaker 1: it now. First of all, I'm very thankful that I
42:15
Speaker 1: did get married at a young age, because I do
42:18
Speaker 1: feel like it costs me to avoid certain things that
42:21
Speaker 1: a lot of young twenty year olds go through and
42:24
Speaker 1: experience established very quickly, you know, two parent household with
42:29
Speaker 1: my kids, you know what I'm saying. So I am
42:30
Speaker 1: thankful for the experience that I had. But I will
42:33
Speaker 1: also say, when I look at I guess how quickly
42:37
Speaker 1: I got married because we've been dating for nine months
42:40
Speaker 1: and then he proposed and we got married like seven
42:42
Speaker 1: months later. Love bombing gets real, right, And when you're young,
42:46
Speaker 1: that looks cute, So to the young girls who watch
42:49
Speaker 1: your podcast, when you're young, that is cute. When someone
42:52
Speaker 1: is I'm not gonna say, smothering you, but always wanting
42:55
Speaker 1: to be up under you and trying to get all
42:57
Speaker 1: your time trying to get all your teachers called love
43:00
Speaker 1: is really what it is. It seems like, ooh they
43:03
Speaker 1: really into me, Oh they really care about me. But
43:06
Speaker 1: sometimes a person is love bombing you because they want
43:10
Speaker 1: to be able to control you and have you to themselves,
43:12
Speaker 1: not because they're necessarily the right person for you, but
43:16
Speaker 1: they see the light in you and they see who
43:18
Speaker 1: you are right, So you have to be careful. You
43:21
Speaker 1: have to be careful. It's best to take things at
43:24
Speaker 1: a slow pace, to grow into certain things, build friendship,
43:28
Speaker 1: and don't just you know, at twenty one, I was
43:32
Speaker 1: twenty one, don't be love bombed and then be married
43:35
Speaker 1: at twenty two.
43:36
Speaker 2: I couldnot agree more.
43:39
Speaker 3: So, are you twenty something, your old that's listening, or
43:43
Speaker 3: even your early thirties. Your twenty should be to experiment
43:46
Speaker 3: with life, your career and all those things. And to me,
43:50
Speaker 3: your thirties should be used to set things in place,
43:53
Speaker 3: find the husband or the wife, find the career in.
43:56
Speaker 2: Which you want to go to, so that when you're
43:58
Speaker 2: my age. I want to tell you all that much,
44:00
Speaker 2: but with your mind you know exactly.
44:04
Speaker 3: Thank you because I looked as good as black do
44:06
Speaker 3: on crack, so you're able to enjoy life, and that's
44:12
Speaker 3: been the biggest thing for me, and I can see
44:14
Speaker 3: that shining through with you. So before I let you go,
44:18
Speaker 3: we got to get into this new season that's coming
44:22
Speaker 3: on September tenth, eight o'clock on the Oprah Winpen Network
44:25
Speaker 3: Love and Match Hunts Bill. Without giving so much away,
44:30
Speaker 3: what can you say to us about this upcoming season?
44:34
Speaker 1: Well, I will say first, the most interesting piece I
44:38
Speaker 1: think is that the first part of the season due
44:41
Speaker 1: to me, you already know, refusing to film with my ex.
44:45
Speaker 3: Yeah, that was me, and I will call her and
44:50
Speaker 3: she would say Carlos, and I would say never.
44:52
Speaker 1: Mind, yep, So refusing to film with my ex. This
44:59
Speaker 1: second half, you guys will see us on camera together,
45:03
Speaker 1: So I know that's going to be a big thing,
45:05
Speaker 1: you know, just people seeing how we're gonna interact, what
45:07
Speaker 1: the dynamic is going to be like. Of course, seeing
45:11
Speaker 1: us come together in regards to protecting our kids from
45:15
Speaker 1: people who are old enough to be bullying them and
45:17
Speaker 1: stuff like that. So you guys are going to see
45:19
Speaker 1: that happen. And I think just more of the evolution,
45:26
Speaker 1: whether good or bad, friendships and marriages and even you know, businesses,
45:32
Speaker 1: what's going on and what's happening. I think you're going
45:34
Speaker 1: to see more business as well, business side side of
45:37
Speaker 1: things this second half, more so than you did the
45:40
Speaker 1: first half.
45:40
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you'll see more of the business side.
45:43
Speaker 3: Melody has a Skinker line that's doing very well. But
45:47
Speaker 3: like she said, you also get to see just what
45:50
Speaker 3: co parenting looks like. And one thing that I've learned
45:53
Speaker 3: working with Niini Leeks when she divorced Greg, May he
45:56
Speaker 3: rest in peace. One thing she said to me during
45:59
Speaker 3: season four was I need a break, Carlos, just just
46:05
Speaker 3: allow me to be at home and to be still.
46:10
Speaker 2: You know, I love this show.
46:11
Speaker 3: I would give you whatever you want. But when I
46:14
Speaker 3: say to you, I don't want to do this, just
46:16
Speaker 3: respect my wishes. And that's what you said to us.
46:20
Speaker 3: You said, Carlos, you know I love this show.
46:23
Speaker 2: YEP, I just can't do it right now. I can't
46:25
Speaker 2: fill with my ex right now. I just can't. I
46:27
Speaker 2: may wake up one day and say let's do it.
46:29
Speaker 2: As of right now, I cannot do it.
46:32
Speaker 3: And I'm happy to say we all of course supported you,
46:35
Speaker 3: and yeah, yeah, and the fact that you said I'm
46:39
Speaker 3: not gonna give too much away but it's very interesting
46:42
Speaker 3: what brings Melody and Martel together. We get to see
46:45
Speaker 3: something happen with Miss Wanda at this event, which, by
46:50
Speaker 3: the way, outside the episode and it is I mean,
46:57
Speaker 3: Melody was dressed as mister t and she was ready
47:03
Speaker 3: to rumble.
47:05
Speaker 2: But but outside of that, you still get some business.
47:12
Speaker 2: So let's be clear, y'all love the dripa eight away.
47:15
Speaker 2: I don't care how much y'all say, y'all don't y'all do.
47:18
Speaker 2: But anyways, it's a much balanced season.
47:21
Speaker 1: And but you know what, Carlos, can I say something
47:24
Speaker 1: back to it being real? Back to it being real?
47:28
Speaker 1: That was still very real for me, Meaning had cameras
47:31
Speaker 1: been present or not, had I had seen her at
47:35
Speaker 1: Target or Walmart, it would have been the same thing
47:38
Speaker 1: for me. It was just the reality of it, you
47:41
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like it wouldn't. It didn't matter
47:42
Speaker 1: at that point where anything went down or what cameras
47:45
Speaker 1: were present. It was just what it was gonna be.
47:48
Speaker 1: So that's back again real. It was real.
47:52
Speaker 2: Oh it's real, and it gets real up in here.
47:54
Speaker 3: But the only thing I will say is the moment
47:58
Speaker 3: you think you figured out out, you haven't And this season.
48:04
Speaker 3: I will say this, this season has more twists and
48:07
Speaker 3: turns than every other season.
48:09
Speaker 2: Like the moment you think like okay, we're.
48:12
Speaker 3: Good, something happens and you're like, wow, we ain't good
48:16
Speaker 3: and then you're like.
48:17
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh wait. So it's it's a roller coaster.
48:22
Speaker 3: That we will be addressing at the reunion. So Melody,
48:27
Speaker 3: where can people find you? Follow you, support you and
48:31
Speaker 3: all those things?
48:32
Speaker 2: My love?
48:33
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, so follow me Melody s hope,
48:37
Speaker 1: don't worry. My brand team is working on getting my
48:40
Speaker 1: user name change anyway, But melodys hopt Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram,
48:47
Speaker 1: and please, you know, support. My biggest thing that I'm
48:50
Speaker 1: running right now is my Seventh Avenue skincare line, which
48:53
Speaker 1: is super important to me. I actually, Carlos grew up
48:55
Speaker 1: on Seventh Avenue, and you know that is where I
48:59
Speaker 1: learned the orders of hygiene, taking care of myself, taking
49:02
Speaker 1: care of my body and my skin, and I suffer
49:05
Speaker 1: from a skin condition where my great grandmother, I actually
49:07
Speaker 1: posted a picture form my story today, she actually had
49:10
Speaker 1: given me something to help with that, so I got
49:13
Speaker 1: that incorporated in my skincare line. Working with a black
49:15
Speaker 1: female chemist, She's been a chemist for over eighteen years. Listen,
49:19
Speaker 1: I let me tell you what. It warms my heart
49:22
Speaker 1: when I place orders with her and she sends me
49:24
Speaker 1: an invoice. You know what I'm saying, Because it's that exchange,
49:28
Speaker 1: It's that black dollar. You know what I'm saying, Black creative.
49:30
Speaker 1: I'm supporting you, you supporting me. That is what it's
49:34
Speaker 1: all about, you know. So seventh Avenue skin care is
49:38
Speaker 1: dear to my heart, so make sure you guys check
49:40
Speaker 1: it out as well. But yes, follow me, Melody as hope.
49:43
Speaker 1: I love giving inspirational things as they come to my
49:46
Speaker 1: spirit and let me say something. It's not always about
49:48
Speaker 1: me or what I'm going through at the time. Sometimes
49:50
Speaker 1: God just drops things in my spirit. When he does,
49:53
Speaker 1: I share him. I don't know who is for. I
49:55
Speaker 1: don't know nothing. If it hits you, it he's you.
49:57
Speaker 1: If it don't it don't pass a collection plate, Tappy,
50:00
Speaker 1: then okay. But just you know, if you're wanting some
50:04
Speaker 1: positivity encouragement, then come and follow me. Yes.
50:08
Speaker 2: So thank you, Melody so much for hopping on Reality
50:11
Speaker 2: for the King.
50:12
Speaker 3: You were one of our most requested reality starts to join.
50:17
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, well, thank you, my love. I love you.
50:20
Speaker 1: I love you too. A shout out to the melimeters, Honey,
50:23
Speaker 1: we can't forget them.
50:24
Speaker 2: Shout out to the yes and melimeters. Can y'all leave
50:28
Speaker 2: me alone? Now? Me and Melody are good. We do
50:30
Speaker 2: not have beep. Melody is such a super special.
50:39
Speaker 3: Human being, and I hope this conversation between her and
50:44
Speaker 3: I allowed you guys to really understand the woman behind
50:50
Speaker 3: love and marriage, hunts, Bill and all of the amazing
50:52
Speaker 3: stuff she has going on. She's so deep and so
50:56
Speaker 3: humble that I feel like people have this misconception that.
51:01
Speaker 2: She's like this diva.
51:02
Speaker 3: And I gotta tell you, guys, Melody has never once
51:06
Speaker 3: yelled at your boy.
51:07
Speaker 2: We never once got into an argument.
51:09
Speaker 3: Even when she disagrees with my opinions on things, she
51:14
Speaker 3: always does it with class and grace.
51:17
Speaker 2: And when it comes to her.
51:18
Speaker 3: Position on this show, I know that the stars are
51:22
Speaker 3: always going to aligne from Melody because she's such a
51:25
Speaker 3: good woman with such a good spirit. And I guarantee
51:29
Speaker 3: all of you you're going to see much more of
51:33
Speaker 3: Melody Charie throughout the years. Nine o'clock a Central on
51:41
Speaker 3: the Oprah Winfrey Network.
51:44
Speaker 2: Here's a clip for.
51:45
Speaker 1: You guys, going, Oh, we just declaring a true sport today.
51:53
Speaker 2: Are you about a propose?
51:56
Speaker 1: It seems like they're hiding something shady.
51:58
Speaker 3: Vote they'll collect it.
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