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Happy Hour #207: New Adventures · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is any and Samantha, and welcome stuff.
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  Speaker 2: I never told your production by her radio.
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  Speaker 1: And welcome to another happy hour where it's not sex
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  Speaker 1: and the City. Because this week has been crazy.
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  Speaker 2: We are yes, yes, but will it will happen?
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  Speaker 1: It will We're coming. We're coming for it for real.
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  Speaker 2: Uh.
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  Speaker 1: I had a family emergency, so like I had to
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  Speaker 1: scramble and rearrange some things. And my coworkers are amazing
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  Speaker 1: and work with me, so I appreciate that. But this
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  Speaker 1: happy hour, I'm gonna talk a give an update about
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  Speaker 1: things happening in my life that aren't horrible, but they
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  Speaker 1: are a little bit anxiety ridden. But that's okay. We're
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna get into it before we start. This is
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  Speaker 1: a happy hour, so if you are doing anything happy
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  Speaker 1: hour ish, do so responsibly. Also not sponsored by any
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  Speaker 1: of the things that I'm going to talk about currently
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  Speaker 1: or we're going to talk about. We could be we
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  Speaker 1: should be call us yeah things for here. Annie, are
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  Speaker 1: you doing happy hourish things?
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  Speaker 2: I am? And I forgot to open it before the noise. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: if you don't like the sound of a can opening,
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  Speaker 2: then skip five seconds.
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  Speaker 1: Uh.
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  Speaker 2: Anyway, I had a bunch of friends over recently. There's
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  Speaker 2: a lot of stuff going on right now. There's birthdays,
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  Speaker 2: there's holidays, there's all kinds of things. And they all
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  Speaker 2: bought me kind of different beers. And this is a
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  Speaker 2: very spring, citrusy beer.
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  Speaker 1: I see the lemonon there.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the can is very pretty. I actually haven't had
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  Speaker 2: one yet, so this is what goes.
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  Speaker 1: I like it. Yeah, is it a pale l.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's a Belgian l Yeah, citrus Belgian l.
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  Speaker 1: Oh those are That's a good combo. I like that.
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  Speaker 1: It's the tasty m h nice I am. It's been
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  Speaker 1: a kind of a busy week and I am running
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  Speaker 1: off of fumes essentially with weird sleep schedule and bouncing about.
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  Speaker 1: So I have been drinking a lot more coffee or
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  Speaker 1: a lot more caffee recently. I have gotten into actually
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  Speaker 1: getting buying my own chies. I've concentrated chai to make
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  Speaker 1: myself a chai lattes, so I have that on hand
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  Speaker 1: as well as my water, because you know, you gotta
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  Speaker 1: counter it. Be responsible, drink that water right right right? Yes,
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  Speaker 1: mineus bubbly And I wonder if there's any connotations, but
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  Speaker 1: I probably shouldn't drink that much bubble of water, but
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  Speaker 1: I really like it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we can talk about that later. We were talking about.
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  Speaker 1: That, okay, okay, and he's ashowing me. And today I
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  Speaker 1: was just going to give you an update about what
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  Speaker 1: is happening. I had told you that I am venturing
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  Speaker 1: into new hobbies and things that like growth, personal growth,
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  Speaker 1: where like it's not a midlight crisis necessarily, even though
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  Speaker 1: I've had ten and he has told me. But it's
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  Speaker 1: just like you know, kind of finding new passions and
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  Speaker 1: new loves. And I've been doing a lot more like
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  Speaker 1: working out zoom, but I've done it for ten years though,
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  Speaker 1: like it's been a thing that I've always done. I've
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  Speaker 1: always loved dancing. I've always had the idea that I
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  Speaker 1: would love to choreograph my own routines. But I'm not great,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm okay in some of the things, and I
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  Speaker 1: can get you to move well today, very like I've
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  Speaker 1: been waiting for a while. I told y'all, I think
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  Speaker 1: in December, right, this was my plan that I was
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  Speaker 1: gonna I was gonna go for it and a little
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  Speaker 1: bit of hesitation, and I have like a playlist with
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  Speaker 1: about six of my own routines nice, great, and that's
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  Speaker 1: been ready to go. I got certified in it, and
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  Speaker 1: then I started sitting my application and I think the
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  Speaker 1: second week, first week of January, because I'm like, I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna do this nothing. I heard nothing. I heard nothing.
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  Speaker 1: I did it again. I heard nothing. I had my
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  Speaker 1: instructor friend, who has been my zomitator of the entire time,
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  Speaker 1: do it for me. Nothing when I tell you it's
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  Speaker 1: been a month of like nothing, even to the point
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  Speaker 1: that he actually would text her and be like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: have you seen this person's uh application, She's really great,
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  Speaker 1: And then even like did one for me as a referral,
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  Speaker 1: like sit in the referral nothing Annie. So I kind
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  Speaker 1: of just was like, you know what this might be
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  Speaker 1: telling because I am very much that person, especially when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to being doing anything new or things that
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  Speaker 1: like I have no control in that. I take it
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  Speaker 1: as a sign if it's not working, then it's not
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  Speaker 1: meant to be. I'm not going to push whatever whatnot.
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  Speaker 1: So I kind of left it alone. I mean, we
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  Speaker 1: were still trying, don't get me wrong, but like I
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  Speaker 1: was like at peace with it might not happen. That's okay,
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  Speaker 1: I can go to my classes. I can do some
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  Speaker 1: routines in here and I can still be free. I
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  Speaker 1: decided this Monday that, you know what, I'll try one
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  Speaker 1: more time and see if this works. And that day
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  Speaker 1: I got a phone call. The next day he was like,
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  Speaker 1: do you want to come in for an audition? I
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  Speaker 1: was like, well, dang, And today I did an audition.
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  Speaker 1: So I had to go in, go in with a
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  Speaker 1: warm up, did a couple of routines, did another warm up.
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  Speaker 1: She's about your cold down. She's filming me. I got
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  Speaker 1: good reviews. I think she kept saying you're very energetic.
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  Speaker 1: Like that feels like when you tell a toddler about
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  Speaker 1: how much energy they have, you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: It kind of felt like that. But I'm like, you
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  Speaker 1: know what, I'm gonna get this a compliment. Yes, And
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  Speaker 1: then she's like you're good at queueing and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I've done it. But she's like, you've done this for
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  Speaker 1: a long time, and she was like, so you just
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  Speaker 1: got certified. I was like, yeah, like a month ago.
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  Speaker 1: She's like, huh, you're really good at this, and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I've been in classes for ten years. Also,
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  Speaker 1: some things just come naturally, like being a cheerleader, being
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  Speaker 1: all those things that that came through. But it was
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  Speaker 1: really kind of funny because I'm like, Okay, now she's
• 6:08
  Speaker 1: throwing out days that she would like me to be
• 6:10
  Speaker 1: at different clubs, which is if you know anything about
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  Speaker 1: about Atlanta, Like the running joke is to get to
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  Speaker 1: anywhere in Atlanta is fifteen minutes without traffic, but there's
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  Speaker 1: always traffic, So go ahead and plan thirty minutes or
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  Speaker 1: forty five minutes for that trip, and it could be
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  Speaker 1: zero point five miles. It's gonna take you that long.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, every dang time. So like that was like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I do travel already, so it wouldn't be
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  Speaker 1: too unusual. I am sad about the fact that I
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  Speaker 1: might have to miss some of the classes that I
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  Speaker 1: have already had, I will tell y'all. So with all
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  Speaker 1: of these things, I started having a little bit of anxiety.
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  Speaker 1: I did take a propopinal, if y'all know what that is,
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  Speaker 1: is for its like a low grade blood pressure medication
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  Speaker 1: for anxiety performance anxiety. I love that, y'all, like, because
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  Speaker 1: at one point I was like, oh, my heart's not
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  Speaker 1: racing like that, like that anxiety where I almost want
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  Speaker 1: to throw up. And I was like, oh, yeah, that's
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  Speaker 1: a good drugs is that drug? Because it really did
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  Speaker 1: help me be calm and like rational in my thinking,
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  Speaker 1: not not like racing thoughts because that happens to me
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  Speaker 1: a lot. So I came in and I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: all of these things were great. But then the anxiety
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  Speaker 1: this started coming, and I was like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: I had to teach a class. What if people don't come,
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  Speaker 1: What if they don't like me? What if they like
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  Speaker 1: don't like my routines? Because I am so self conscious
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  Speaker 1: about everything that if I have can't do it well,
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  Speaker 1: I won't do it at all. Like I've talked about
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  Speaker 1: this before and it's the same. I know I can dance,
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  Speaker 1: but I don't know if my routines are good. The
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  Speaker 1: few routines that I've showed so far, people love it,
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  Speaker 1: love it enough to copy it and do it themselves
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  Speaker 1: or do it without me being there. And I think
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  Speaker 1: that's the biggest compliment. But like I'm watching other people
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  Speaker 1: who are actually trained because I am not trained, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh no, I'm not as good as them.
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, I don't do that. Like people are like
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  Speaker 1: ballroom dancers or Latin Latin dancers, and I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: my stuff is not Latin, Like I do a lot
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  Speaker 1: of Latin dancers because it is zoom bud you're supposed to,
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  Speaker 1: but things I would create would be a lot more
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  Speaker 1: like hip hop, cardio jam type of thing. So I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I'm a little nervous, even though every class
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  Speaker 1: that I've ever like helped teach or whatnot, I've been
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  Speaker 1: complimented and told like my ego is being fed, so
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  Speaker 1: there's no reason for me to doubt it other than
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  Speaker 1: I am a doubter with a lot of performance anxiety
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of self deprecating ideals about myself and
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  Speaker 1: no self esteem. Although I've gotten better as I get older,
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  Speaker 1: because it's like you kind of start caring a little
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  Speaker 1: less about what people think, but there's still enough to
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  Speaker 1: be like, but if I don't people get people in
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  Speaker 1: these classes, they'll cancel me. And I feel like that
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  Speaker 1: is one of the biggest rejections that I might have
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  Speaker 1: to deal with.
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  Speaker 2: I personally think that you will do fantastically, but I
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  Speaker 2: understand all of your concerns because it's scary to like
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  Speaker 2: put yourself out there and then hope that people respond
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  Speaker 2: to it. And show up right, because if they don't,
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  Speaker 2: then it's like you did this whole thing.
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  Speaker 1: And it was for naught. I do have this level
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  Speaker 1: of like, to be fair, I'm also a little bit lazy,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my god, I really have to
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  Speaker 1: commit to this. As y'all know, when I like like
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  Speaker 1: a hobby, I like it for about six weeks and
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  Speaker 1: I'm yeah, I'm done type of conversation. Of course, I
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  Speaker 1: have stuck with this again for ten years. This has
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  Speaker 1: been something I have constantly done and constantly love and
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  Speaker 1: will like drive a little far too. This is kind
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  Speaker 1: of my socialization. I love these people in a way
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  Speaker 1: that can be superficial without feeling superficial because we might
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  Speaker 1: not know much about each other. But I love our
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  Speaker 1: time together and it's such a like unifying time for
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  Speaker 1: the most part. There's also controversy and there's also like
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of drama that happens at times, just
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  Speaker 1: like in anything. But the level of diversity of the
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  Speaker 1: different types of people that you meet in these classes,
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  Speaker 1: especially in Atalanta, like one class has all like Asian
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  Speaker 1: and Latino people in black like community. The way that
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  Speaker 1: we gather it is so diverse that there's hardly like
• 10:36
  Speaker 1: for the first time, there's less white people than there
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  Speaker 1: are like any other community. I'm like, oh, that's rare.
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  Speaker 1: That's rare to see that in any like not necessarily
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  Speaker 1: a privilege, but I mean being a part of a
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  Speaker 1: GEM member like that is a little bit of a privilege.
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  Speaker 1: But I love seeing that level of diversity. You have
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  Speaker 1: people who are all the way from like eighteen to
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  Speaker 1: there's a woman there that's eighty two, Like, it is
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  Speaker 1: phenomenal to see and they are moving and having fun.
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  Speaker 1: They're enjoying being able to move and listening to the music.
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  Speaker 1: So I love every bit of that, and it feels
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  Speaker 1: like a good community without having to be like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: but we have to have sit down talks and have
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  Speaker 1: deep conversations because I am the person who can't do that,
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  Speaker 1: Like I have to be able to do that, especially
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  Speaker 1: if it's a one on one setting, but if I
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  Speaker 1: only get to see you for like five minutes at
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  Speaker 1: a time after class, it could be superficial and I
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  Speaker 1: don't feel bad about it, Yeah, which is what this is,
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  Speaker 1: and also a growing relationship as you get to know
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  Speaker 1: people like it is nice to be missed and seen
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  Speaker 1: and I like when you walk in and having people
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  Speaker 1: yell hey, or if you're missing a couple of classes
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  Speaker 1: they come and be like, what you've been we missed you.
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  Speaker 1: It's nice to be seen, you know. But with all
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  Speaker 1: of that, I say this preemptively because I haven't gotten
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  Speaker 1: a yes, so I might come back and be like,
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  Speaker 1: she actually doesn't like me. She told me I wasn't hired.
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  Speaker 1: So if that comes about, we'll hear that as the thing.
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  Speaker 1: I like, Well, it didn't mean to happen. It didn't.
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  Speaker 1: It didn't. It wasn't meant to be. But with the
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  Speaker 1: idea that it does go forward, this is a new
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  Speaker 1: adventure and I really hope that I can to keep
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  Speaker 1: loving it because we've talked about that. How when it
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  Speaker 1: becomes a job, it's not fun it's fun anymore?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, or at least like it's stressful. In my experience,
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  Speaker 2: it's it's still fun, but then it becomes a thing
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  Speaker 2: that is a stressor.
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  Speaker 1: On some level. Yeah. I mean, I'm like, for now,
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  Speaker 1: if I don't want to go to class because I'm tired,
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  Speaker 1: I don't have to. If I'm teaching the class, I
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  Speaker 1: have to.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And there's pros and constant.
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  Speaker 1: That that's both good and a bad thing. Sometimes moving
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  Speaker 1: around going to class makes me feel better, I will
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  Speaker 1: say that. So that's it's coming. I'm excited for this adventure.
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  Speaker 1: I'm probably I'm gonna switch up my like name what
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  Speaker 1: like in order for people to find me on those apps.
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  Speaker 1: If you're in Atlanta and if you want to come
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  Speaker 1: to a Zoomba slash Cardio GM class LA Fitness. Not
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  Speaker 1: a sponsor, uh, but that's where I will be teaching.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe mm hmm, come find me, hang out and dance
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  Speaker 1: with me. I'm excited if this does happen. The process
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  Speaker 1: of actually auditioning was interesting, was interesting any I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: gonna talk about that too, uh in that like, it's
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  Speaker 1: been a long time since I've done an interview for
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  Speaker 1: a job or any type of like because even like
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  Speaker 1: in this job literally just started with me and you
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  Speaker 1: talking about a subject that was that I was passionate
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  Speaker 1: about and too, yeah we like you or get come
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  Speaker 1: in as where like previously when I was working with
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  Speaker 1: the Department of Juvenal Justice, I was initially interviewed and
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  Speaker 1: then for any promotion I did have to get go
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  Speaker 1: through the interview process. But that's been about eight no,
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  Speaker 1: twelve years because I was in a position for a minute.
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  Speaker 1: So like coming back and doing something physical and being like,
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  Speaker 1: I gotta do this performing too was odd.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Oh, I mean the whole interview process is strange,
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  Speaker 2: and it I've only done, I think one that included
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  Speaker 2: a physical element, and it was so bizarre because at
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  Speaker 2: the end I was like, I know I didn't look
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  Speaker 2: I was doing the thing, but I know it didn't
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  Speaker 2: look like the coolest thing.
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  Speaker 1: It's gonna look how I just recently watched actors talk
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  Speaker 1: about running and they have to fil slstage to show
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  Speaker 1: to see how they run to fix the way they
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: run on space. But yeah, essentially I was doing that
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  Speaker 1: because I've been watching myself. I have to videotape myself,
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  Speaker 1: often with routines so I can remember what I did. Man,
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  Speaker 1: I hate videotaping myself. I hate that. And there's a
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  Speaker 1: component to this where you have to kind of advertise
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  Speaker 1: yourself because you want people to come. And I'm like, oh, oh, man,
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  Speaker 1: I'm really bad about that. I don't have to figure
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  Speaker 1: that one out because I'm not good at social media anyway,
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  Speaker 1: and I don't like putting myself out there and I
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  Speaker 1: don't like to film myself bouncing about.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, agreed on all points. I don't like any of
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  Speaker 2: that either. But also up if.
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  Speaker 1: You ask me to, yes, well I'm hoping. Yeah, I'm
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: gonna ask you too. Of course I'm gonna ask you to.
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  Speaker 1: I want everybody to come and hang out with me.
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  Speaker 1: There's a lot. Yeah, we'll see. It feels an odd
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  Speaker 1: timing as we are in the middle of Also, I'm like,
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: we're talking about ice and immigration issues, and then I'm like.
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  Speaker 2: And zoomba, you've got to find some kind of outlet.
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  Speaker 1: Did you do?
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  Speaker 2: You really do?
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  Speaker 1: But it's such an interesting thing because you're like, ah,
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  Speaker 1: this is a real flip from what we're talking about. Uh,
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: but yeah, y'all, it's happening. New Adventures of Sam.
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  Speaker 2: I love it. I can't wait to hear some updates.
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  Speaker 1: And you can. I can't wait for you to come
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  Speaker 1: to the class if I have one.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah with me.
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  Speaker 1: I need to get ready, you got you gotta get ready? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: chutch it out.
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  Speaker 2: Oh wow, listeners. Definitely if you are in Atlanta, I
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  Speaker 2: want to check it out if it happens.
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  Speaker 1: If it happens, we'll let you know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I just got pretty end of excited. I was
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  Speaker 1: really want to talk about the interview thing, but then
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: I got sidetracks. But it's okay, Well let us know.
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  Speaker 2: And also whatever hobbies that you're up to, whatever you're pursuing,
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: we would love to hear from you. You can email
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• 17:00
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• 17:07
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