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Season 2 - Episode 310 - Holidays! A stress-free strategy · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So this week we are going to do a little series on having a
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  thriving holiday season and today is day one.
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  So First things first, how to have a stress free holiday?
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  Let's talk about that also. What is stress free look like?
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  I mean I don't know about you, but even thinking about the
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  words and stress free in life is difficult for most people.
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  I mean stress is just part of the condition of being human,
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  right? Like we are all having stress at
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  some point in time and getting past it is really what it comes
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  down to. So when we talk about the
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  holidays, it always comes up that they are stressful because
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  there is. Multitudes of avenues to be able
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  to take a stress path. So you've got, you know, dealing
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  with all the people That's the first part of it, like and
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  people that you maybe like, people you don't like as well as
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  people that just put a lot of expectation on you.
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  There's so many different aspects to that part of it.
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  And then we've got the preparation of all the food,
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  making sure everyone has what they need to eat, whether
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  they're gluten free or they can't have spice or this or that
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  or the other. We always go through those kind
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  of things. Then we've got the gift giving.
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  Like think about just buying gifts can make you insane
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  because you don't want to disappoint people.
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  But having to the opportunity to try to buy gifts for people and
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  then having them be up your butt about it, that you know they're
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  they're disappointed. They want to return it you feel
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  like. You let someone down.
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  It's it, it all of it leads down to one word and it's called
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  stress. So in preparation for having a
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  holiday where you thrive, the very first thing you have to
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  think about is OK, what are my stressor points?
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  Where do I find stress in the holiday?
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  So for me, one of the ones that always comes up is not having.
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  I love to create traditions and. We have lots of them here where
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  we are. We go out to a show, we go out
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  to a dinner. Usually my daughter, I try to
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  eliminate the pressure for her of having to be with our family
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  when I know she wants to be with her husband's family as well.
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  So I just say we're going to do ours over here because I listen.
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  It doesn't matter to me what the date is.
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  It just matters that I get time with them so we can pick an
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  absolutely different time and we can have our holiday then.
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  And where we go to a dinner and we go out and see a show and
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  then we can still exchange Christmas presents after
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  Christmas, that's fine for me. I don't even care about that.
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  For me, it's all about the experience with it.
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  So I take it on and I say I'm going to create this all way
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  ahead of time. So.
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  Actually, it's very funny because today is the day that I
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  will be looking and saying all here are all the shows, here are
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  the tickets, here's when we're going and laying out the
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  calendar for the next two months and then I feel like I can take
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  a deep breath because I know I've got that all covered.
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  Another stressor is having the shopping done ahead of time.
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  And I promise you this is one of the biggest ones that I talked
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  to about my with my clients, that the stress of this is just
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  such a big deal. So you have to ask yourself what
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  parts of it Is it that you just don't like to do it, or is it
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  you don't know what to get or that you are You feel like you
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  let people down because you've got to make the list of the
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  things that actually stress you out about each.
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  Aspect of it so you can conquer it and there's no way to do it
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  unless you of course you have that list about where the stress
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  is coming from, so for each person this is going to be
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  different. But when you list out what your
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  stressor points are in that, you can navigate around it.
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  The other big piece is taking on other people's stress.
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  Meaning if I knew when my mother was alive years ago, I would be
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  able to. Feel my mother's stress and then
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  I would start to pick up on it because a lot of us have that
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  ability to pick up on other people's stress very quickly.
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  Now, while that's a very, very good tool when you're in sales
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  and you're in professions that require you to pick up on
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  people's energy. It's not great when you're in
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  family situations like this because you can carry somebody
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  elses stress and not even even recognize it.
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  So I would pick up on her stress with everything and then just by
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  the fact that she was stressed over, I had no idea what I was
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  stressed and I couldn't even tell you why so.
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  Realizing that if there's a person in your life like that
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  that you're going to be around the holiday with, you've got to
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  make sure you nail that down and say to yourself, okay, this part
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  of this is not working for me. I got to do something about
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  this. I've got to change this.
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  And boy. What a game changer it is.
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  Just to recognize it because then you can go in and be like,
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  OK, not going to allow that to happen.
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  I know this stresses are out and I'm going to be prepared for
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  that stress and I'm just not going to take it on.
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  It's theirs, not mine. And the most important part of a
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  stress free season is to make the declaration ahead of time.
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  You are not going to have it, so make the declaration that you
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  are. Committed to having an
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  absolutely stress free holiday season and stick to it.
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  Just keep telling you that self that.
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  Just keep working through that and saying it over and over
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  right now as of today, don't wait until the holidays are
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  here. Start the conditioning now.
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  I am so grateful for my stress free holiday.
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  I am so grateful for my stress free holidays and focus on it
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  because that's what makes it happen.
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  OK my friends, I'll see you tomorrow for Part 2.
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  Bye.