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Spreading kindness and expecting nothing · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens, Hey everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today, I want to talk to you
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  about kindness and the level of just what kindness does for us
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  in the world. And how just doing a little tiny
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  thing for people really makes a big difference.
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  Mother Teresa is quoted as having said spread love
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  everywhere you go and her version of love, you know, it's
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  just admirable and Things that she experienced and she still
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  stayed in a place of constant compassion and constant kindness
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  and just showed love to everybody and she's just I'm
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  just a huge fan of hers on any level.
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  If you've never read anything about her or know much about
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  her, do yourself the favor because what you will learn will
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  change how you approach people and how you see people, but back
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  to this theory of passing, kindness on, you know we all
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  expect and want other people to be kind to To us and we have to
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  stop and ask, okay, how much kindness do I put out in the
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  world and when you ask that question, it's so powerful.
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  How much am I putting out there? How much am I contributing now?
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  Where this gets to be a little bit of a Sticky Wicket for us as
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  human beings is that will say well, I'm always doing good for
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  other people and no one does anything for me.
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  And I know some of you are laughing.
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  As you hear me say that or you really feel that that's the case
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  and part of what I want. Understand in this process is we
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  are not putting kindness out in the world, to get something back
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  and if you are doing it for that reason, that is why you are
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  suffering from it. Kindness and pouring things out
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  into other people and loving other people is not meant for us
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  to be constantly focused on what we can get out of it in most
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  situations in our world. If we are focused on what we can
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  get out of it, we are coming at it from the wrong perspective to
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  begin with. From the wrong emotion to become
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  with to begin with. So we have to pause and ask
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  ourselves. Okay.
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  Am I looking for something in this or am I just doing it from
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  the core of my being from your, from the inner depths of your
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  soul? Am I just acting this way and
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  putting this out there because that's what were meant to do.
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  And when you are doing it from the right, place magic happens
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  when you are doing it in a tit-for-tat situation.
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  That's when things start to go, awry, that's when you start to
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  find that, you are not getting what you so-called want and then
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  you start to suffer the consequences.
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  So what's so important to remember is that you have the
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  opportunity to check in with yourself and you have the
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  opportunity to make decisions about whether or not, you know,
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  you are acting in good faith in this process and and I think
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  it's it's worth me mentioning at this point, you have to check in
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  with yourself and you have to say am I doing This because I
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  expect something from it. And this is again.
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  One of those where you have to be super, observant of your own
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  thoughts and tell yourself the truth.
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  Are you doing it? Because you think you're going
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  to get something in the long run and if you are, then you have to
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  say, no, this is not. I'm doing it just because I'm
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  doing it because it feels good to do it for me to give for me
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  to be kind and let it go and expect nothing, truly expect
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  nothing, and that's when the magic happens.
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  We have So many expectations that we put out there in the
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  world and because we are front loaded with all these
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  expectations behind the scenes. We, we always running through
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  that filter and that's why we fail at it.
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  That's why we are constantly met with disappointment.
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  That's why we sit there and say, well, I'm the giver.
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  And no one else gives to me, okay.
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  Well if you're really The Giver, then you don't need someone else
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  to give to. You sure.
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  Does it feel good? But you should be able to look
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  Situation and say no, you know what I'm doing this because it
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  really fills me up and I love it and I don't expect anything back
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  from it. And that is a hard reality to
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  face my friends. I know because in my business I
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  have a lot of people that lean on me all the time and I have
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  been blessed with a very, very successful business.
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  And I don't expect these clients to show appreciation and Notice
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  all the little things that I do in between I just don't I have
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  no expectation of it. I don't do it because I want to,
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  you know, get something from them.
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  I don't do it because I expect them to do things for me.
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  I do it because being involved in somebody's life, at the level
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  that I'm involved in their lives is a gift for me.
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  I truly love doing it and I want to help them in their moments.
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  So when I say, it's okay to reach out to me and between the
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  times were set to talk. It's okay.
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  To ask for help and I jump on and I talk to them, I expect
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  nothing for that because that fills me up to know, I was able
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  to help them. It fills me up to know that I
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  was able to give them that push that little bit of guidance that
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  helped them figure something out and I don't expect anything
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  back. But, you know, the magic of that
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  is, I truly get back so much and I often get surprises in the
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  mail. I often get things because I
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  Expect nothing and did it take me a bit of time to let go of
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  all the expectations of people in my life?
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  Not just my clients, but people like my husband, I have very few
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  expectations and the ones that I do have, I make sure people know
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  so that then I don't set them up to fail and I don't have
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  disappointments. So, this is about recognizing
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  that you can go out and you can spread kindness in this world
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  and you should Or kindness into this world and you should look
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  for the places that you can share.
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  But only if only, if you are in a place where you are doing it
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  for the right reasons, which is to fill yourself up and know
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  that you're doing it, because it comes from the core of your
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  soul, not because you want to get something back and I
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  challenge you to start looking for those little tiny places
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  where you can do that, because this is a practice, it's an art
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  to let it go. Where you can go into a coffee
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  shop and buy yourself a coffee and then buy one for the person
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  behind you and expect nothing and just walk away and know, you
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  gave somebody else Joy. You were a story in somebody's
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  else's life where you pay the toll.
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  You know, we've all heard the story pay the toll for someone
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  behind you. Leave a note somewhere.
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  Leave a painted rock somewhere. Well, how much of that are you
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  really doing? How much of it are, you
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  spreading? Because those moments, when you
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  do them, you know, come back to you.
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  When you leave your wallet sitting in the cart at Home
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  Depot and all of a sudden, you realize it, you run.
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  Can guess what? Someone's turned it in and
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  nothing's missing. Those are those moments.
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  That's how it all comes back to you.
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  So cultivate them, find them and pour into it and spread kindness
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  and love in this world because I promise you, you will feel
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  better when it comes from the truly pure right place.
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  Alright, my friends have a blessed day and I will see you
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  tomorrow.