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Do Narcissists Only Love Themselves? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're talking about how narcissist, most narcissists
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  truly only care about themselves and will throw you under the bus
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  at the drop of a hat at the drop of a dime to save themselves.
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  Now this video is inspired by this trial that I just saw on
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  YouTube. This man right here, I forgot
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  his name, but he ended up testifying against his own son
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  to send his son down the river and send his son to jail for
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  life, which his son deserves to go to jail for life if he
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  underlieves some people right? But this man is narcissistic.
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  This man is definitely narcissistic because listen to
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  this right here y'all. I'm going to tell y'all this man
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  clearly listen. You love your family, Mr.
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  Robinson. That's what we just heard,
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  right? Yes.
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  I guess you love yourself a little.
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  Bit. Yes or no?
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  Sir, of course, self love first, right?
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  Over your children. That's just, that's the Lord of
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  nature. Love yourself first, OK?
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  You hear that, this man, she said.
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  Over your children, he said. That's the law of the nature.
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  Love yourself first. So he's already in jail and he
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  was going to do a lot longer sentence, but he decided to
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  testify against his own son to send him to jail for the rest of
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  his life. He's going to get out of jail.
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  And this man said the reason he wants to get out of jail because
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  he wants to be a better parent to his younger kids.
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  He wants to be a better parent to his younger children.
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  He's I have a six year old and a 8 year old and I learned from my
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  mistakes of how I raised my first two kids and how hood they
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  are, how terrible, how terrible adults they became.
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  I'll learn. So I'm going to be a better
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  parent to them. I learned from my mistakes.
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  That's horrible parenting y'all. Y'all do understand that right?
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  That's narcissistic as hell. Now does his son deserve to go
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  to jail for an alive innocent people?
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  Absolutely, yes, but apparently his son was avenging him getting
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  shot or whatever the case may be and some of his friends down
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  there in Florida. But that's the narcissist that
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  just shows you. I just use that as an example to
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  show you that most narcissists will absolutely throw you under
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  the bus. This man is a lifelong.
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  It seems like he's a lifelong criminal, allegedly, right?
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  He's doing, he's in jail right now.
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  He did 10 years previously, and now he's out here telling on his
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  own kids so that he can get out of jail, so he can be there for
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  his younger kids. Do you think he wanted to be
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  there? Was he thinking about being
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  there for his younger kids when he's committing these crimes?
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  No. He just saw something that would
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  benefit himself that would lead to his own children's demise.
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  And right. You know, of course, people are
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  just like, well, he's rather he's probably rather his son be
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  in jail than to be dead. Yeah, I get that right.
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  But listen to that. That's crazy.
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  Y'all. That's wild how that works right
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  there. That's that mentality is crazy.
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  That's so narcissistic. That's a clear example that
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  narcissistic people will choose themselves over their own
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  children. They don't love their own kids.
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  She she asked them, did you love your own family?
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  He said, yeah, but not more. Do you love yourself?
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  He said self love, right? He's like, so you, you love
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  yourself more. Do you love your own children?
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  That's just how self love is, right?
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  It's just, that's just the law of the land, right?
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  Self love? He's trying to make an excuse
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  because he know he's ashamed. Like this is public.
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  Millions of people have seen this man telling himself,
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  telling on his kids to get himself out of trouble, which is
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  wild. I've seen people testify against
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  their children before, right? Against their kids before who've
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  committed crime. I've seen it before, but this
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  right here, because you raised them in this street life, you
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  have been in and out their lives because you've been in jail and
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  now you testified against them because they became just like
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  you. It's crazy, right?
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  But that's just an example. Yeah, that's not a reaction
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  video, but this is that inspired this video because it shows you
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  that narcissist only care about their damn cells.
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  There's no happiness there. There's nothing that that
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  there's nothing out there. There's no real true love for
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  narcissistic people like that. Because you see, even his own
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  children don't matter to him. It's more more than he matters
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  to himself. He's not sacrifice.
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  He's not. Am I going to sacrifice myself
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  for my kids? Hell no.
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  I'm not doing that. Those kids, these little these
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  little bastards have committed crimes.
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  They need to go to jail and I need to be free because I'm
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  sick. I got a whole lot of health
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  issues. He's like using this health.
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  He's like, I got a whole lot of health issues, I got kidney
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  failure, I'm a diabetes. I got this and that and that and
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  this and this and that. I need to be out of jail.
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  So he willing to he's willing to sacrifice his own relationship
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  with his son, his own reputation, because he's got a
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  lot of shame. Like with this, he don't care.
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  He's just like, I'm going to put myself first, like most
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  narcissist will most narcissist. If you're dealing with a
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  narcissist, you think they're going to put their your needs
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  before their own. You are gravely mistaken.
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  I don't care what you look if they're.
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  If it seems like when you deal with the narcissist and it seems
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  like they're putting your needs above theirs, watch out.
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  There's something behind the scenes going on more than likely
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  right? There's something insidious
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  going on. This is not just a normal thing
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  that is happening. There's something more that is
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  going on it, which is why they're acting like this and
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  behaving like this. This is not just them being nice
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  and kind and caring and compassionate.
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  Hell no. This is not what they're doing.
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  They're not putting you first for no reason.
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  There's always an ulterior motive when they narcissist push
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  you first. That's the skinny of it right
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  there, y'all. There's all If a narcissist is
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  putting you first, there's always an ulterior motive behind
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  the scenes. Most times I can't say y'all
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  know I don't like I try not to speak in absolutes on this
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  channel so much, but most times there is something going on
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  behind the scenes that a narcissist is trying to get.
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  They're trying to get something from you or said there's
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  something about you that they want or they're trying to
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  protect themselves in a lot of different situations.
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  So they're always, almost always going to be putting themselves
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  first. Even if it seems like they're
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  putting you first, even if it seems like they're doing
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  something for you, they are not. That's not how it works.
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  That is literally not how it works.
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  If they, if it seems like they're putting you first, it's
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  not something that they're really actually doing because
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  they want to be doing it. There's a, there's a benefit
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  behind the scenes that is going on for them to willingly,
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  willfully do it like this. So you as someone who's dealt
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  with a narcissist, someone who's dealing with a narcissist, you
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  have to absolutely prepare yourself for the possibility
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  that this thing, this type of thing is going to happen.
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  Like, I know there are a lot of narcissists out there that when
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  you are about to leave them, when they're about to lose their
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  family or whatever the case may be, now they'll start acting
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  good. They'll start behaving correctly
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  now, won't they? They'll they'll start acting.
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  They'll start doing normal things and love bombing you.
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  Now they want to get married. Now they want to have kids.
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  Now they want to go on that trip.
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  They trip the same trip that they said was stupid as hell
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  before. Now they want to do it the same
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  thing that they didn't. They they never wanted to get
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  married. Marriage, just marriage don't
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  mean that it's just a contract. It's just a piece of paper.
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  Now all of a sudden they're on their knees proposing or begging
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  you to marry them. You see, this is what goes on in
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  the mind of an artist. They're always going to put
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  their needs first. They just are.
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  I'm not now I'm not saying that narcissists never care about
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  anybody else. I'm not saying that I'm just
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  saying that most time, but most times they're all most times
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  they're going to put their own needs and the things that they
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  want ahead of anybody else of anything else, including their
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  children. Like this conniving snaky ass
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  man did, right. And they said he had a 76 month
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  sentence or his sentence was longer than that.
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  But but because he agreed to testify against his own son that
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  the sentence was only going to be 76 months.
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  So in the next year or so, he's going to be out of out of jail.
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  And you think this man is going to change his behaviors at 5556
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  years old today? He's going to be a better dad to
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  his younger kids or he's going to well, he, he, he, he don't
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  have to be an Outback like to move because in that street life
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  that he live in, he probably going to have to move like this.
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  Ain't no just wake up and this type of stuff happens.
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  He probably going to have to move.
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  His ass is probably going to be on the bottle there, but this is
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  how it works. This is the mentality that so
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  many narcissists have. Like they're going to put
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  themselves first. I know y'all peeking right here.
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  This is my kids book. It's called Remember It's not
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  Your fault. It's all available on Amazon
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  right now for y'all to check it out.
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  Remember, it's not your fault. If you have kids that are
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  dealing with a narcissistic parent or you trying to you
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  trying to talk to them about narcissistic abuse or toxic
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  relationship dynamics. That's your that's your guide
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  right there. It's just an opener, but it's
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  called, Remember, it's not your fault.
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  But yeah, back to it. You are going to win against a
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  narcissist. You have to want to win, but you
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  also have to play your cards correctly.
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  When you're dealing with the manipulative abusive, sometimes
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  the psychopath, right? You're dealing with a
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  manipulative, abusive psycho because these people are going
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  to always put themselves first. Truly, they're always truly
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  going to put themselves first to the detriment and they're going
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  there. They, they don't mind
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  sacrificing other people to get their needs met.
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  Whatever my needs are, I don't mind sacrificing you to get said
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  needs met. I don't mind doing that because
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  you, in the mind of a narcissist, you knew what you
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  signed up for. You knew what you're getting
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  yourself into. This should not surprise you
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  that I feel this way or that I'm thinking this way.
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  You should be prepared for this. So you have to buck, y'all.
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  You got to buckle your safety belts up when you're dealing
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  with somebody that's so manipulative, that's so abusive
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  and it's so toxic. You like they in the mind of a
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  narcissist y'all, we think that you are signing up for this
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  because you don't leave us because you take us back because
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  you call us. You break your no contact to
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  reach out to me. When you break your I'm going to
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  do a longer view on this. When you break your no contact
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  to reach out to me, you're just letting me know that no matter
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  what I do, it's OK. You're validating my me, my
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  feelings. You're validating how I feel.
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  So I know that I can still continue to get away with
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  whatever I want to get away with because you signed up for this.
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  You absolutely did. So I say that to say this, when
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  you're dealing with a manipulative, abusive, toxic
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  bastard that is a narcissist or that could be a narcissist, you
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  got to think about it like this. Narcissistic people, toxic
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  people are always going to put themselves first.
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  So I'm not telling you to be selfish or whatever, but you
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  have to start thinking about yourself as well.
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  You have to start protecting yourself and guarding your
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  assets and protecting your mental and physical health as
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  well and be as safe as you possibly can because you have
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  to. I'm not.
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  It's not selfish to think about yourself because I promise you
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  they are thinking about themselves.
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  I promise you that they are always thinking about
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  themselves. No matter what is going on,
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  matters what is said, no matter what they say, no matter what is
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  going on, they are thinking about themselves.
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  Just like that man I just showed you, just like this man right
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  here, he is always thinking about himself.
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  That man said I self love first, right?
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  That's what it's all about. That's what life all about,
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  right? Self love, you know what I mean.
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