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Navigating Career Shifts, Cross Country Moves, and Preparing for Baby Number Two with Jackie Volney · Mommywood

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  Mom, welcome back to Mommy Wood, the podcast where we dive into
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  the wild, beautiful and sometimes completely crazy world
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  of being both a mom and a performer.
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  I am your host Emily and if you've ever found yourself
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  running on coffee, passion and the sheer willpower of a sleep
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  deprived parent, then you are in the right place.
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  On this episode of Mommy Wood, I have the pleasure of talking
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  with actress, singer, business owner and mom of almost 2,
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  Jackie Volney. Jackie is currently pregnant
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  with her second daughter. She's getting in just under the
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  wire to have two under two. I'm very excited for her.
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  And I told her I cannot wait to see the stunning pictures that
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  are going to be her two daughters.
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  The meeting. Oh, I cannot wait.
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  It's gonna be so cute. Jackie and her husband just
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  moved from New York City to Austin.
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  Yes, they moved across the country with a toddler while
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  she's fully pregnant. I mean, wild, but they are
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  really finding their rhythm in Austin and it's so great to hear
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  about how she's really leaning into basically a new life in
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  Austin. It's so it seems to so suit her
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  and her family and what's best for them.
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  Jackie also has an Amazon business that is continuing to
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  thrive. She started it in the pandemic.
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  I am going to share the links on Instagram on social media, on
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  the in the show notes as well. So make sure you check out her
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  belt. It's called the her business is
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  called Solo well, Solo well and yes, definitely check them.
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  Check that out. She also continues to perform
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  with the American Bombshells and creating content that's really
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  rooted in authenticity and community.
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  That's one of the things I told her about how I asked her about
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  it and and she really comes through so authentically and
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  clearly. That's because it is authentic.
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  In our conversation, Jackie opens up about the reality of
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  pregnancy again, of Round 2 and balancing toddler life with a
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  growing business while moving across the country while
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  pregnant and finding her creative spark in a whole new
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  season of motherhood, a whole new location.
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  She also shares her thoughts on on the whirlwind pace of raising
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  young ones and why trusting your intuition as a mom is really
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  everything. This this one is for any mom
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  who's really juggling multiple roles, really leaning into
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  change and figuring out how to balance family, creativity and
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  career. This was such a lovely
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  conversation. It was so wonderful to talk with
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  Jackie and hear all that she's going through with all and how
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  she's really navigating all these changes and it's it looks
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  so God good on her. She's doing so well.
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  She's so beautiful inside and out.
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  I know you're going to love this episode of Mommy Wood with
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  Jackie Volney thing and you look so beautiful.
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  Thanks. For giving, always in the shower
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  and put makeup on. You're glowing.
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  You're. Thank you.
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  My gosh. Well, Jackie, thanks for being
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  here. And part of Mommy Wood.
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  So how far along are you? You're on your second.
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  Yes. For a long day. 27 weeks now.
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  So I just entered the third trimester, but I feel like I
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  feel like I've been in the third trimester for a lot longer.
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  I still very pregnant. I bet.
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  And so you just said that your your daughter Farrah is 20
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  months and they're going to be two under 2.
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  Yes, I'm just hitting the two under 2 mark and they'll be 20-3
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  months apart. I did not plan it like this but
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  I'm excited for her. I'm excited that I get to do
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  this for her forever friend. And also I feel like just I
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  don't have a sister, so I'm looking forward to like, like,
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  just I don't know. That bond is so special and it
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  it all feels like a big blessing.
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  So yeah. You get like you said, like a
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  built in best friend and they're since they're gonna be close in
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  age. My sister is wife too, but my
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  one sister is 2 years older. The other one is 6 years older.
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  But like yeah, the two year it's great.
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  I mean, you can share clothes, you can annoy each other.
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  I'm going to try to eventually get them to share a room
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  honestly. I shared a room with, with her,
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  with my sister who's two years older, like until my other
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  sister went to college. So I think I was like until like
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  7th or 8th grade, 7th grade something.
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  Yeah. And yeah, I, you don't know any
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  better. Like it's great.
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  Exactly, exactly. You just don't know the
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  difference of what and the layout of where we moved the
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  house layout, it's if they didn't share a room, 1 would
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  have to be like downstairs. And so I just don't feel
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  comfortable with that. And so it's like also like
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  forcing me to do it too. And so it's like it's a good, I
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  think. I think it's just good all
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  around. Yeah, so you were saying that
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  this pregnancy feels different. Obviously it'll be different cuz
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  you already you have also a toddler running around.
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  I cannot imagine how exhausted you must be.
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  But yeah, how is this pregnancy different?
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  I always hear that like each pregnancy is different, but
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  how's it going? Yeah, so I feel like my first
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  pregnancy with Farrah, like every single day was like, it
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  was just kind of like a slow burn.
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  Like I just never really like everything happened so slowly,
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  even like the formation of the belly and like the stretching
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  and, you know, all just the whole like 10 months of it
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  because she came at 41 weeks. Just felt so like a process.
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  My whole body was like doing this thing.
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  And then this pregnancy kind of came out of nowhere.
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  I wasn't expecting it. Like with Farrah, we were like
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  trying and planning and, and, and you know, really manifesting
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  like some sort of change in a family life for us.
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  And, and then with our second pregnancy and then it aligned
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  with like a cross country move. And so having Farrah be like she
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  was 15 months when I found out I was pregnant.
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  So yeah, 14 months. So I buy it was just like, I'm
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  running around. I'm kind of forgetting that I'm
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  pregnant. But I've had so many more
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  symptoms. Like it was like first
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  trimester, the symptoms were so much more intense.
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  And then as soon as I hit 20 weeks, I just like boom.
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  Like I I just feel so pregnant and then swelling and the
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  pressure in my body is just like ready.
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  So everybody's like, we know what's going to happen like.
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  Right, right. So I feel like that's the
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  biggest difference is like my body just instantly became so
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  pregnant so quickly. Yeah, your body, I guess like
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  the second time I hear that especially like with popping
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  earlier the 2nd that it's like yeah, yes, it's just your body's
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  like we I know what's up now. So we got this so Farrah only
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  being 14 months when you were pregnant, how was that like
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  telling her? And how is she, You know,
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  obviously there's a transition of she's going to be the sister
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  and also and not the baby anymore.
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  But also you guys had this huge cross country move, which we'll
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  talk more about as well. But how did she respond?
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  You know, that's so young to even comprehend.
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  Is she even like, yeah, I mean, she can see your belly, I guess
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  now, but. I mean, she has no idea what's
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  coming. She has no, like, there's no way
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  I could prepare her or tell her that she knows.
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  Yeah, but especially in the very beginning when I'm not showing
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  and I'm just like physically so exhausted and like can't get off
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  the sofa to like play with her as much as I was before in the
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  first trimester. But I will say now that I am
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  really showing, she packs my belly all the time.
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  And then she's entered into an interesting stage where she's
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  like, she's, she's not too far away from being two years old.
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  So she's trying to say words. And so she identifies when she
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  sees a baby, like she knows when she sees a baby now.
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  So I'm trying to like associate like baby, baby, you know, and,
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  and, and I think, I think she kind of connects the dots here
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  and there because it's so visible now.
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  And she's like on me at all times.
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  I'm holding her and she's like resting on the bump.
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  And I just talk about it a lot, but you know, communication at
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  this age, you never know really what they're getting.
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  I mean, it seems like they they pick up so much, but you don't
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  realize that until later on. So I don't know.
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  I don't know what what she is fully like downloading, but I
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  don't think she knows what's coming.
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  Yeah. I mean, yeah, at that age, she'd
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  be like, wait, there's something in your belly and it's going to
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  come out and it's going to be humid.
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  Like it's hard for adults to comprehend.
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  Like, how do we do this? This is.
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  Yeah, yeah. I've done it and I still don't
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  understand how it works. Like it's crazy.
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  So yeah, your husband is not in the industry.
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  He's a plastic surgeon. So he's he's a pain management
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  doctor and his specialty is varicose veins.
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  So that's where I got that. OK, yes.
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  So he does work in cosmetics in that way, I guess cosmetically
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  can help with, but it's with the venous insufficiency is actually
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  a disease. So he does procedures that just
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  aren't that go away beyond cosmetic procedures.
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  But his specialty, his trade is pain management.
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  And we moved to Texas to start opening vein clinics here, yes.
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  And so we are starting in Austin like we physically are in Austin
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  and then but we're starting clinics 2IN Austin and two in
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  Dallas to start. And so hopefully by the end of
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  the year, we'll have. What was that like conversation
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  like? Because obviously the move is
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  more so for his career, of course.
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  And that seems like something that's very like a great
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  opportunity. What how long was that
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  conversation? What did that look like between
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  the two of you? Because I know New York is such,
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  you know, it's, it's a hard place to leave.
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  It's the same as LA. It's like, but I guess once
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  you're out it's probably not so bad.
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  No, it's it's true. So that was also just like an
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  ongoing conversation that we would have occasionally, like
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  every single year of like imagining us living somewhere
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  else. And that really did start when
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  Sarah was born. And once I got when once I was
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  pregnant and just life started feeling very different.
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  And I was also feeling not as aligned energetically with the
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  city as when I was pregnant, when I was postpartum then, you
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  know, like all of these things that were kind of like life
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  changing for me. I found myself showing up
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  differently in the industry and it was beyond heartbreaking.
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  Like I, I definitely felt like I was in a dark place, couldn't
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  accept it because all I knew was like the grind, the hustle.
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  I'm, I'm just, I'm just not competitive enough, I guess.
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  I guess I'm just feeling lazy. I guess I'm just post part of
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  my, you know, I, I was kind of like blaming it on a lot of
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  other things and trying to like not listen to my inner voice and
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  just like cover it up And it's like, OK, well, I found a sitter
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  for a couple hours, like I'm going to go try to do this
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  audition. And it was like, I just, I, I, I
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  couldn't like fully accept that like my life changing and how I
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  was showing up creatively and that was changing.
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  I couldn't accept that like that I wasn't a good fit.
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  I wasn't a good fit energetically with the city
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  anymore. And I kept getting like
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  different endings, like my agency restructured and so then
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  they weren't going to keep me on for a legit department because
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  they were just too many talents. And then they were going to do.
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  And it was like aligning with me being super postpartum and also
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  not being able to be available for a tour or a cruise or you
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  know what I mean? Like I wasn't, I wasn't putting
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  myself. So it's like I was also taking
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  myself out and all these endings were happening.
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  And and so finally, like when this opportunity came, it was at
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  a time like it was in winter in New York City.
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  And so we were like desiring like somewhere else.
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  And when this opportunity came, it was just like we get the
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  chance to be in the driver's seat of our life.
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  I'm done hanging on and trying to make this thing work when
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  clearly like I'm pregnant again, you know, like I got to do this
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  again. I'm going to be in the newborn
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  stage and this baby life for at least another three years.
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  So I, I'm, I need to take myself out of this and try something
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  else and then, and then see how that shape shifts.
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  And, and, and Shane deserves to take this opportunity for our
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  family. Like if he can push the ball
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  further along for all of us collectively, that's just like,
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  I'm going to say yes to it. So it was just like a team.
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  Like we just made the the decision for us as a family, as
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  a unit, we're like, OK, we're one team.
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  We're doing this. Yeah, yeah.
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  That's hard when it's like you were saying like you're kind of
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  like fighting against what was clearly, like happening with
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  postpartum and like work and all that.
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  And that is hard. Like once you're a mom, Like I
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  feel like I did an audition straight away and I was like,
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  like this was not a great. Feel so out of it.
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  You're already in a brain fog because my pregnancy and
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  delivery aligned with the strike.
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  So there already wasn't a lot going on.
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  So it wasn't like I was like fresh from doing so, you know,
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  like I felt so like I needed to reintroduce myself to people in
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  a way. And I know the kind of work that
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  entails because I had been doing it for the past 11 years.
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  And I just like I, there were so many elements of me that like
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  felt disingenuous to my life now.
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  Like I'm, I'm not going to go to an open call at 6:00 in the
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  morning. Like I'm, I'm not going to, you
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  know what I mean? I'm not, I just, it just like
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  all these things were just like, I'm not, I'm not doing that.
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  And if I'm not doing that, then I'm clearly telling myself
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  something. Right.
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  Yeah. I think it's kind of a relief.
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  Like I think it also comes with like growing up but also
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  becoming a mom where those things were like, I'm not doing
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  that where it's like I'm not going to do some like $100 or
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  like copying credit, like any type of work that's like going
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  to take me away from my kid for the silliest reason.
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  But it's kind of a relief to to have that.
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  Do you do you feel like it's a like a kind of a weight taken
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  off? Being kind of.
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  Like this? Yeah.
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  How is that It's? I would just say kind of because
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  I still feel like it hasn't like the, the passion part, like
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  hasn't left me. Like if there ever was an
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  opportunity or a chance where like in the next couple years,
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  if I find myself really back into a certain kind of like flow
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  in the industry, I'm so open to that.
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  I just right now creatively am showing up in different ways.
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  And so as a new mom, what that looks like is like when I was in
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  the city, I was actually getting involved with a lot of really
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  cool like mom groups. And there are a lot of really
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  interesting creative moms like out there starting their own
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  businesses and hustling in different creative ways, but
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  just like aren't on like stage. And I was getting really drawn
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  to that kind of work. And then that kind of stemmed
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  into me getting to know different brands and mom
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  lifestyle and mom lifestyle content, being a content creator
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  or and I because I have to big commercial and print background,
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  I'm like I can kind of shape shift my skill set into doing
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  this. And in a way it's still
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  marketing myself. It's still fun for me.
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  It's still aligned with what my trade is and where my training
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  is. And so I've been really leaning
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  into that direction. And Austin, we're in Austin.
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  Yeah, a really cool. There's a lot of different
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  things happening here. There's a lot of cool indie film
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  happening here. Everyone I meet is not from
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  here. Everyone's moving here from
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  somewhere else, bringing something else to the table.
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  And it's very collaborative. It's very kind.
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  People are here to enjoy their life, to have a family and it it
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  feels very conducive to all the things we were looking for.
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  So we kind of moved to your sight unseen.
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  We were just like, let's take the opportunity and go.
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  I had no idea like what a good fit it would actually be.
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  Yeah, I mean, even just from your Instagram, I'm like, oh,
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  Austin looks pretty good. You know, I mean, like it's
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  such, it's such a fusion of so many different cool cities and
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  people. Yeah.
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  It doesn't remind me of anything, you know what I mean?
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  Even the climate like so far South and you hear like these
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  really tropical birds chirping every all hours of the day and
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  you're like, wow, like I really am really far South like, you
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  know what I mean? And there's cacti and palm trees
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  and scribble flowers and you know what I mean?
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  Like and lots of like no scape yards with the rock.
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  It just it's very deserty, but also tropical.
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  It's just it doesn't remind me of anything.
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  It's so it's, it's very, very cool.
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  Yeah. Well, so now with your husband
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  obviously like being busy and you having your own projects,
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  your own businesses and things like that, what does, what does
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  it look like? Kind of, I'm sure it's different
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  daily, but what does like an average day kind of look like?
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  Are you going off of his schedule?
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  Is Farrah in school now? What does it look like?
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  This this elusive balance in your.
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  Oh, I know, I know. No, there's, there's really.
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  So I started my own Amazon business Solo well, and I've
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  been doing that going on for 4 1/2 years.
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  Wow, congratulations. That's it.
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  Thank you. Thank you.
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  And and I started this just to learn how to sell online.
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  I didn't start this. I mean, I started it was an
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  extension of my love for fitness and Wellness because it is an
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  active lifestyle brand. And I sell my best seller is a
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  utility belt designed for runners, bikers, hikers, and it
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  just took off. And Amazon's been an amazing
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  platform to learn from. And so I've just been committed
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  to it and I've got it running to where it doesn't need me around
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  the clock, but I definitely have to do like daily check
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  insurance. I do have a virtual assistant
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  who does a lot of back end work because it's Amazon's, its own
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  search engine, kind of like Google.
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  It's like its own own SEO keywords and advertising and own
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  thing like that. So I'm monetizing specifically
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  only on Amazon, but I've done a good job to where the warehouse
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  is in like I don't I don't need to be anywhere physically to run
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  it. That that's like, yeah, I mean,
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  that's the dream, right? Especially with a kid, you're
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  like. Took me a little while to get
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  there, really, really did. But you know, I had the pandemic
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  to get there. And then I also had like, you
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  know what I mean? Like I, I kind of just like
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  taught myself through trial and error, got it to where it is
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  now. And so, but with Shane's work,
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  like he like for example, he didn't, he doesn't have parental
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  leave. He doesn't, he doesn't get that.
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  So a lot of this new mom life is something that is a full time
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  job. So Farrah just started at a
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  toddler school last like less than a month ago here in Austin.
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  And so that has allowed me to I still make my own schedule in a
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  way, especially freelancing as a content creator and as a
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  performer. I still sing with the American
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  Bombshells. And so I do gay.
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  That's. So fun, I love.
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  It just keeps things like, I don't know, I'm a singer, I've
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  always been a singer. And so it just allows me to stay
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  in that that realm. Fills that part.
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  Yes, throughout the year, it's like a, it's like a, it's like a
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  seasonal trend type of thing that I kind of go through ebbs
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  and flows and I, I do feel lucky that with like Shane has a very
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  consistent, you know, there's no freedom like as far as like, you
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  know, he, he has to be physically there.
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  So together we just, like I said, we just it's a team
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  effort. Like he has his work.
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  I have my work, which is mostly at home, but also, you know,
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  juggling lots of other things, but I'm good at that.
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  Like that's, that's being multifaceted is something that I
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  feel grateful that I get to like use many different talents in
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  different types of ways. Yeah, how?
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  Gosh, I'm so impressed when when you, when you're like, I just
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  kind of learned the like starting your business with on
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  Amazon, like just by trial and error.
• 24:00
  I'm like, that is so impressive because I'm such a like I would
• 24:05
  get like, that's so hard to do And I feel like it kind of gets
• 24:10
  like looked over, but I'm like, that's so hard to learn
• 24:16
  something on your own as and like make it your own thing by
• 24:23
  trial and error and then having it become like something you can
• 24:28
  actually like count on and do like you just I'm so impressed.
• 24:33
  Like it that such a hard thing and it's nice that you were able
• 24:36
  to kind of get that going before your daughter came along too.
• 24:42
  That's kind of like. No, it's honestly been like the
• 24:45
  best gift I gave myself. And it was a pandemic, like
• 24:48
  something I literally was like I, the world stopped.
• 24:52
  I don't have any auditions. I just turned, I turned 30 on in
• 24:57
  May of 2020. So that was like a really crazy
• 24:59
  mind, you know, like identity crisis.
• 25:04
  I just turned 30. I literally just had a callback
• 25:07
  for Mean Girls on Broadway. But then that is done and
• 25:10
  everything's done and like, you know what I mean?
• 25:12
  Like and then there's nothing going on And all I have is a
• 25:16
  resume of really cool things that I've done.
• 25:19
  Yeah. Places I've gone to, but like
• 25:21
  what have I really, truly built? Like it was what it was like
• 25:24
  really something like, it can just fall apart like that and it
• 25:28
  really flip me out. And so I couldn't just sit
• 25:34
  around and wait for something to happen.
• 25:38
  I was still like manically like hoping as we all were self tape,
• 25:44
  self tape, self tape, self tape and like stuff happened.
• 25:47
  I joined SAG during the pandemic and booked my first guest star
• 25:50
  role. Like I feel like stuff still
• 25:52
  work. Wicks kind of happening but like
• 25:55
  everything changed. Yeah, yeah.
• 25:57
  And like you said, being able to kind of to build something for
• 26:01
  yourself as opposed to, well, it's the same thing where people
• 26:04
  are like just create your own, like make your own movie and
• 26:09
  things like that. It's like like that's.
• 26:12
  Start dancing on TikTok. Yeah, it's like, that's so much.
• 26:16
  Like it's hard, but at the same time it's like, OK, well, you do
• 26:21
  have to start. Yeah.
• 26:23
  Bomb wear, I guess to build something for yourself because
• 26:26
  if we are just like sitting around waiting for an audience
• 26:30
  and or you know, whatever it is, it can be draining just to like
• 26:38
  sit around and. I couldn't, I couldn't sit.
• 26:40
  And then it's and then because, like, for example, Shane doesn't
• 26:43
  have parental leave, like Shane's clinic opened as soon as
• 26:45
  it possibly could. Like there was, they were going
• 26:47
  to start taking patients. He was still, he was in pain
• 26:50
  management at the time. Like, yeah.
• 26:52
  Like as somebody in the healthcare world, like maybe
• 26:56
  they closed down their private practices for a couple a little
• 26:59
  bit, but it was a blip. So I couldn't just be the one
• 27:03
  sitting around twiddling my thumbs.
• 27:06
  So me having like something to learn and kind of like go back
• 27:10
  to school in a way. And it was an extension of I had
• 27:15
  been in the fitness industry for a while.
• 27:16
  I taught fitness. I had like just been working
• 27:20
  with Equinox plus they do a lot of like on demand classes.
• 27:25
  I was like filming, like I just kind of felt like it was just an
• 27:29
  extension of of like the huge part of my life that brings me a
• 27:34
  lot of joy. And so it like it had that to
• 27:38
  it. Like I would felt like there was
• 27:39
  purpose behind it. So there was like, it felt
• 27:43
  really, really hard, but it felt like I had nothing to lose.
• 27:47
  Right. Yeah, that's the.
• 27:48
  Beginner. There's like, No Fear, you know?
• 27:53
  That's true. How did you and your husband
• 27:57
  meet? Like, it doesn't seem like your
• 27:59
  paths would have crossed. Like is he and also like is he a
• 28:04
  creative person or is it nice to kind of have that balance of
• 28:07
  like of the two of you? Shane is actually extremely
• 28:14
  creative and that's like the coolest thing about him.
• 28:18
  He's doing exactly what he's meant to do.
• 28:20
  He is like an incredible doctor. He truly cares.
• 28:28
  I wish we could clone him in how he is with patients and just
• 28:32
  he's a truly an Angel on this earth.
• 28:34
  Like I I he's doing exactly what he's meant to do, but meeting.
• 28:39
  But he also like growing up, like played guitar, used to
• 28:44
  perform in college on Friday nights at like, I guess a
• 28:48
  college bar and that would be like an like he loved that.
• 28:52
  And I what I do know because I only met him later on in his
• 28:56
  adult life. So I've never been.
• 28:57
  I wasn't a part of that era for him, but I do know he did spend
• 29:01
  a lot of time. He was an Acrobat growing up, up
• 29:03
  until he was 18. Wow.
• 29:07
  Yeah, he surfed like, like there's so much about him that
• 29:12
  is very like theatrical and like, like energized in that
• 29:17
  way. So he he has the appreciation,
• 29:21
  he has the curiosity. He thinks it's so cool that I do
• 29:29
  it, you know what I mean? Or that I did it and so you can.
• 29:32
  Kind of live a little vicariously through.
• 29:35
  Yeah. But in a way, like, we still get
• 29:38
  to share it together because like, even when it comes down to
• 29:40
  like, going to see like, an epic movie, we both get the chance
• 29:45
  to, like, chat about, like, the parts that we liked.
• 29:47
  And, you know, those, like, conversations you have with
• 29:50
  other artists. Like I feel like we have those
• 29:52
  with each other. So I feel like I still have that
• 29:53
  connection with him. And we met through a mutual
• 30:00
  friend. He was in Boston at the time
• 30:02
  working at Mass General, and I was in New York and I had just
• 30:07
  gotten off of my tour and I was about to accept a contract to go
• 30:11
  abroad on a cruise ship. And I met him in this like 4
• 30:15
  month period of me being back in New York and I was like super
• 30:19
  single and just enjoying my freedom while I had it in New
• 30:23
  York City before I took another contract.
• 30:25
  And I met him I think maybe 3 weeks before I left.
• 30:31
  Wow. Yeah.
• 30:31
  And so we just stayed in touch the whole time, which is a
• 30:35
  surprise to me. And then when I came back off of
• 30:37
  that contract, he was still in Boston, I was in New York.
• 30:40
  But then we would try to meet up.
• 30:42
  He would come to the city or we would take a like, I came back
• 30:46
  in June. So we had like, the summer
• 30:49
  together. And it built slowly because of
• 30:54
  the long distance. But eventually he got to New
• 30:57
  York to work for this practice that he's still with.
• 31:00
  Oh. Well, that's perfect.
• 31:02
  Well, that's kind of like it meant to be like you both
• 31:05
  clearly wanted it because it's like, yeah, the long distance.
• 31:09
  I mean, luckily it's not like too far.
• 31:12
  I mean, you know, that's. How long is right, right.
• 31:16
  It was like if if I really needed to get to him because
• 31:20
  there was like, oh, there's a party going on.
• 31:21
  Do you want to be my plus one? It's like, yes, but I don't want
• 31:24
  to pay for a crazy flight. Like I'm going to hop on the
• 31:26
  Peter Pan bus, you know, and spend $30 to get to Boston in
• 31:30
  four hours. Like so it was doable.
• 31:33
  It was definitely a doable long distance, but I wouldn't win the
• 31:36
  Peter Pan bus if if you. If it wasn't love, Yeah.
• 31:41
  Oh truly, How has moving to Austin?
• 31:46
  Well, how long have you been there now?
• 31:48
  It hasn't been too long. So two months, two months
• 31:52
  exactly, yes. So, yeah, still kind of like,
• 31:56
  I'm sure like getting your bearings and getting to know the
• 32:00
  place, but how is it kind of like shifted your your
• 32:07
  perspective on your career, like you said before, just New York
• 32:13
  in general in your career, like going through all that like
• 32:18
  struggle. But how is it, how has like
• 32:22
  being in Austin so far? Kind of has it changed anything
• 32:27
  about like what you want to continue to pursue or has?
• 32:34
  Yeah. Yes, I feel I feel already just
• 32:37
  in this new era, mom era, this new lifestyle that we've been
• 32:41
  living and new brand new, like family with little, little kids.
• 32:45
  My my whole self identity shift has like like shape shifted
• 32:49
  right. Like, I'm still a creative
• 32:51
  person, but I'm just showing up differently in those creative
• 32:53
  ways. And I'm somebody who really
• 32:58
  like. Goals.
• 33:00
  Don't really like, I don't know, but that doesn't give me like
• 33:03
  ha, ha, I got a goal. Like I don't, I have visions, I
• 33:06
  have clear visions or I get moved by the momentum of life
• 33:12
  around me. I get moved energetically from
• 33:15
  within and I'm like, I'm going this way and I can change my
• 33:18
  mind and I'm somebody who really thrives and change and
• 33:22
  transformation. So moving here has really hit
• 33:27
  like like that part of me that I, I just start moving quicker,
• 33:34
  I start aligning with the right people faster and in a way
• 33:39
  that's kind of like what being an actor is.
• 33:41
  It's like you say yes to a lot of auditions.
• 33:44
  We don't know what the yes is going to be.
• 33:46
  And then it's like everything's a journey.
• 33:48
  Everything's like, you know, oh, and then I ended up doing this,
• 33:50
  but I didn't expect that to happen.
• 33:52
  And then I met this person. I didn't expect to meet that
• 33:54
  person. And then I then I got here.
• 33:55
  Everything's a Lily pad. So goals for me like have never
• 33:59
  been how I like operate. I always operate off of like as
• 34:03
  actors do. And so it's like following my
• 34:07
  intuition and being really true to myself, but also aligning
• 34:10
  with places that align with me. And so Austin has just kind of
• 34:15
  given me my spark back. And so since I've been here, I
• 34:21
  feel like even though my social life isn't like as great, like
• 34:24
  New York, your social life is just, I've had friends there.
• 34:27
  I've been there for years. Like, you know, there's, I could
• 34:30
  always have plans on a Friday night if I wanted to.
• 34:32
  So that's a little weird, like being here and not really
• 34:34
  knowing anyone. But I joined a mom group.
• 34:36
  I feel like I'm meeting some really interesting people, and
• 34:41
  I'm somebody who just gets really fearless in
• 34:44
  transformation and change. And so I'm just like putting
• 34:47
  myself out there differently. And I think that that was really
• 34:51
  missing in New York. Like I lost that spark.
• 34:55
  Yeah, yeah, I guess it could probably be like, I don't want
• 35:00
  to say the word complacency, that's not the word I'm thinking
• 35:02
  of. But like you're being
• 35:04
  comfortable and maybe like, yeah, the change.
• 35:10
  I mean, this sounds like it's been so great for you, like.
• 35:14
  It's been refreshing. It's been really refreshing and
• 35:19
  everything has felt easy. It's a cross country move that I
• 35:23
  did while I was pregnant with a toddler.
• 35:24
  Like it should be hard. That don't not be easy.
• 35:28
  Everything like I moved into this house sight and see never
• 35:31
  saw it. You know what I mean?
• 35:32
  Like I, I just, we literally like everything has just been
• 35:34
  like worked. And that to me is part of like
• 35:39
  the, the sign of like, OK, I'm where I meant to be.
• 35:42
  Keep going this way. Yeah.
• 35:44
  How do you manage to like, cuz obviously like, like you just
• 35:48
  said, that's a lot to be like moving across country with a
• 35:52
  toddler while you're pregnant. But like, how do you, how do you
• 35:56
  manage to like keep up your creativity and the energy, like
• 36:04
  even just like your social media and like your content, which is,
• 36:09
  which is so great and I love to follow and everyone should
• 36:12
  follow. But like, how do you manage like
• 36:17
  on the other side of that? Because I, because I know what
• 36:20
  it is when you're like setting up the camera and doing all this
• 36:23
  and I got a shower and I got to do my hair.
• 36:25
  How do you manage to not be like, oh, I got to do this.
• 36:28
  I got to do this. How do you manage to like just
• 36:35
  keep spark? I mean like you said it.
• 36:39
  I don't know. It is, it is like a momentum
• 36:42
  thing. I know exactly what you mean.
• 36:44
  Like there are some weeks where you're just like, the last thing
• 36:47
  I want to do is like flaunt around on camera or like, or you
• 36:51
  know what I mean, to like set up my set up my stuff.
• 36:56
  I have to say that it's a, it comes from a very genuine place.
• 37:01
  I'm not, I'm not really looking at it like livelihood yet.
• 37:05
  I'm looking at it like a way that I get a chance to really
• 37:10
  meet really cool brands and work with really interesting people
• 37:13
  and putting myself out there and socializing has always been
• 37:17
  like, like I, I'm just like a community type of person.
• 37:20
  So for example, like even moving here, there's a really, really
• 37:25
  cute baby store down the road and I like walked in and I was
• 37:28
  like, Hey, you guys do partnerships.
• 37:29
  I just like think your store is great.
• 37:31
  I would love to support you and like, it's just, it's just like
• 37:34
  that is. And I'm very I'm very impulsive
• 37:38
  and I get waves of energy from that momentum.
• 37:43
  And so I just try to stay in that momentum.
• 37:46
  And so if for something, I'm going to do it like it's a job
• 37:49
  because it is. But just me filming creatively
• 37:52
  comes from a very genuine place. Like I genuinely like get an
• 37:56
  idea or a topic I want to talk about and I try to put something
• 38:00
  together. I think that's very.
• 38:03
  I think it's very. Obvious from your content that
• 38:05
  like it doesn't look like all the things that you talk about
• 38:09
  and the things that you share. Definitely that comes across
• 38:14
  definitely that you're that you're so like invested in what
• 38:19
  you're talking about. You're not just like, I have to
• 38:21
  say this because I'm selling XYZ or like, you know, because like
• 38:26
  what you're sharing is so like personal and it does feel
• 38:31
  connected. So to hear that like, yeah, it
• 38:34
  comes across that way because it is.
• 38:36
  So that makes sense. No, I mean it just when it comes
• 38:39
  to. Like, and sometimes it's as
• 38:40
  simple as you have a friend who's also a creative, you know,
• 38:45
  content creator or whatever, doing the same thing and they do
• 38:47
  something that inspires you and you're like, Oh my gosh, that's
• 38:49
  a great idea. Or you see a trend and you feel
• 38:52
  like you're aligned with it and you're like, I want to hop on
• 38:54
  that trend. And I don't know, I feel like I
• 38:57
  don't, I'm, I don't know the, the insurance and outs of social
• 39:00
  media very well, but I do know that it's an amazing outlet.
• 39:04
  And if you're somebody who feels confident in front of a camera
• 39:07
  and I always have enjoyed being like someone on on stage or
• 39:12
  doing like I have a lot of commercial and print background,
• 39:15
  like it's for me just comes naturally to want to do it.
• 39:19
  And so I really like I, but I will say there are some weeks
• 39:25
  where I'm like, I, I just kind of want to be a mom this week,
• 39:29
  You know, that's, I mean, that's.
• 39:32
  Like being a mom is enough. Right now, it's a lot.
• 39:38
  What are you looking forward to? Like, are you like looking
• 39:43
  forward to when baby #2 girl number 20?
• 39:48
  Do you have a name? No, I don't.
• 39:51
  And I'm, I'm somebody who like I, I would probably keep it to
• 39:55
  myself anyway, but we really don't like, we, we're having a
• 39:58
  hard time both agreeing on one. So we have a list like a days
• 40:03
  long list of like aesthetics and and tone and culture and all
• 40:09
  that stuff. But even like meaning, but like
• 40:13
  there's not like he has a favorite and I have a favorite
• 40:16
  and then like we don't like have a mutual 1.
• 40:18
  And so we're both giving each other like it's important.
• 40:21
  It's important to him. It's important to me to like
• 40:24
  really feel like both connected and and well, yeah, you can't
• 40:30
  pick one that the. Other doesn't like, well, naming
• 40:34
  a human. Being is like kind of a big deal
• 40:36
  and I no one, you don't really think about that until they're
• 40:40
  like, Oh my gosh, like this is real.
• 40:42
  I'm about to name somebody and they're going to have this.
• 40:44
  This is going to be their name, you know?
• 40:46
  Well, then with the second, it's like, well, it kind of has to.
• 40:49
  Fit with like like Farrah. And like I.
• 40:54
  Don't know they like they can't rhyme with each other.
• 40:57
  That'd be kind. Of funny or maybe you could but
• 40:59
  like I don't want it you know what there's the different
• 41:01
  things yeah you're probably not going to be like Farrah and.
• 41:03
  Sarah like correct? Yeah.
• 41:06
  I mean, you kind of have to practice.
• 41:08
  Like yelling out those names, like come to dinner, like just
• 41:14
  angry yell names and then. Stop fighting right but.
• 41:20
  But looking forward to baby #2 coming.
• 41:25
  Do you or and did you do with this with Farrah as well?
• 41:29
  Did you have a plan of like obviously we don't have like a
• 41:33
  set maternity thing? Are you just kind of like
• 41:37
  seeing? How you feel?
• 41:39
  Like or do you and like husband doesn't have it either.
• 41:44
  That's so hard. How do you manage to like plan
• 41:49
  taking a certain amount of time or you just kind of like seeing
• 41:54
  how that goes? What did you do with Sarah?
• 41:58
  Well, with Sarah. I'm sure they'll be different.
• 42:02
  But with Sarah, I didn't do must.
• 42:04
  I had a job like I actually had a job with a sort of company
• 42:08
  that I kept because I had incredible health insurance and
• 42:13
  I enjoyed the job. The job was actually in New York
• 42:17
  City working with a ton of different e-commerce brands.
• 42:21
  We opened up their first brick and mortar.
• 42:24
  So I was stationed on Bleecker St. and I ran a bunch of
• 42:27
  different stores. And so it that job actually, you
• 42:34
  know, I, I had that. So like, I knew I was going to
• 42:38
  have mat leave this time. I won't, but I noticed we had
• 42:44
  mat leave with that one. And so that was pretty planned.
• 42:47
  And because I had gotten close to 42 weeks, they don't let you
• 42:51
  go past 42 weeks without like getting induced.
• 42:54
  She was cozy in there. Literally was like locked and
• 42:58
  loaded. And I was showing signs for free
• 43:01
  labor for about a month, but I just wasn't an active labor.
• 43:05
  So eventually they had to just give her an eviction notice.
• 43:09
  And so in that way that was kind of planned because you just kind
• 43:11
  of show up at the hospital and you deliver.
• 43:13
  And because I got the pitocin and I was already in pre labor
• 43:17
  for a while, my body went into active labor and I delivered
• 43:20
  within like 6 1/2 hours. Wow.
• 43:23
  Like the same girls on the same shift also delivered the per
• 43:28
  like live with a baby and they're like, that never
• 43:30
  happens. Usually once you get into labor,
• 43:32
  it takes like another 20 hours to be in labor.
• 43:35
  So I, I in that way that was kind of ish planned.
• 43:42
  However, I had no idea. Like no one really.
• 43:46
  You don't know what to expect with breastfeeding.
• 43:48
  You don't know what to expect as far as like how you're going to
• 43:50
  feel about going back to work. Because I had that option.
• 43:53
  Do I want to go back? And because Shane didn't have
• 43:57
  parental leave, I, I don't know, like it was really hard.
• 44:01
  It was winter time. I was by myself.
• 44:04
  I didn't set myself up with success for success by having
• 44:07
  family come in. I really thought I'd be able to
• 44:10
  just like kind of breastfeed and hang out in the house during the
• 44:13
  day. And I was, I was like depressed.
• 44:15
  It was postpartum Blues. And you're.
• 44:18
  With the newborn and you're like getting all the newborn high,
• 44:21
  but you can't share it with anybody.
• 44:22
  I was all alone, couldn't go for walks because it was freezing,
• 44:25
  it was snowing. And so I just kind of felt like
• 44:29
  like for the 1st 90 days, like it was pretty was pretty hard.
• 44:35
  So for this one, I'm I'm in Austin now.
• 44:38
  So hopefully a better postpartum experience as far as being able
• 44:42
  to go for walks and get sunshine.
• 44:44
  Definitely going to set myself up for success and hopefully
• 44:47
  have someone in the house to help either around the house or
• 44:51
  with Farrah so I can be with a newborn for the first month or
• 44:54
  two. And because Shane has to go to
• 44:57
  work and yeah, I, I, I don't necessarily have a plan, but I
• 45:05
  think I'm going to like, it's hard.
• 45:08
  Yeah, I. Mean I also.
• 45:09
  Have a plan because then I feel like.
• 45:11
  Also if you have a plan it's most likely not going to.
• 45:17
  It's hard. It's like almost impossible,
• 45:19
  like all. I can do is.
• 45:21
  And that's why it's almost hard to enjoy.
• 45:23
  Like the thought like, Oh my gosh, I'm pregnant.
• 45:25
  Like all I can think about is the work ahead of me.
• 45:27
  Like, oh, it's going to be hard work, right.
• 45:31
  So yeah. And then?
• 45:32
  I'm. I'm so I'm so curious when with
• 45:37
  like the second babies now, because like I said before, I'm
• 45:41
  like I I don't know, I I'm driving myself mad with having
• 45:46
  another or not, but I'm like I'm sure yeah, like the.
• 45:49
  Idea. There's so many like good
• 45:53
  things, like you said, just going to have a sister and to
• 45:55
  see Farrah, like with the baby is just going to Oh my God, I'm
• 45:59
  just already dying over what like you're the photos are going
• 46:04
  to look like it's going to I mean I can't I.
• 46:08
  I and it's so crazy like I'm I crying I'm like tearing.
• 46:13
  Up over. No, it is.
• 46:14
  It really is. It's like.
• 46:15
  The most amazing thing to ever happen to you, and it's the
• 46:18
  hardest thing you'll ever do. It's truly like both truths.
• 46:25
  Yeah. Because then it's like.
• 46:28
  The love, you know, talking about like the love just
• 46:31
  expanding, but beforehand you're thinking of it like splitting.
• 46:36
  You're like, how am I going to split my time between the two?
• 46:40
  But it's like with Sarah, being in the Love expands I.
• 46:45
  Really am Everyone says the love expands and I'm trusting that
• 46:49
  because when you're when I having a hard time enjoying this
• 46:55
  pregnancy just because it's been a lot of different like
• 46:59
  discomforts that I would rather not be going through.
• 47:02
  And then also and then also I I'm so distracted with having a
• 47:09
  toddler and like being so invested and so in love with her
• 47:12
  that I'm like forgetting that I'm pregnant sometimes too.
• 47:17
  And so I there is there's times when sometimes when I'm just
• 47:21
  alone. I just want to like be with her,
• 47:25
  right? Like I feel like that's what she
• 47:27
  deserves. And I feel like I want to start
• 47:28
  building on that connection because I wouldn't when I had
• 47:31
  when I was just Farrah, we did everything together and it was
• 47:34
  like I always just had Farrah. I was like, that was she was
• 47:36
  everything. So it is like you do feel.
• 47:40
  Split and then. They say that it expands and
• 47:43
  that it's just yeah. Do you have?
• 47:47
  Do you have any siblings? I know you say don't have
• 47:48
  sisters. Do you have any siblings?
• 47:50
  Yes, I have a younger brother. Oh, so you understand like.
• 47:55
  You understand that like, yeah, I mean, you know it.
• 48:00
  I, I mean, I guess every family is different, of course, but but
• 48:05
  I don't think yeah. I mean, I can see how it would
• 48:10
  definitely. I mean, my, I can see that my
• 48:13
  parents, the three of us, like we absolutely like, it's not
• 48:18
  like, you know, absolutely every and, and each.
• 48:23
  Child is different too. Yeah, yeah.
• 48:25
  That'll be interesting seeing how yes, 2 girls.
• 48:31
  Be so different. Or I mean, and who knows, like
• 48:35
  maybe they'll be similar. Like I don't know.
• 48:39
  You just isn't that. The wild thing is you just never
• 48:42
  know who is coming out. I know, I know and I do.
• 48:45
  Feel like energetically like she's different, like yeah,
• 48:51
  yeah, that's. But like you said, excuse me
• 48:55
  with with like the pregnancy, the first pregnancy.
• 48:58
  Yeah, you don't. You're like, what else do I have
• 49:02
  to think? Not besides life, but totally
• 49:05
  I'll have it and being able to enjoy like just being with
• 49:10
  you're pregnant belly. But yeah, with a having a
• 49:13
  toddler too, I can imagine you being like, oh, right, I'm also
• 49:17
  pregnant like why am I so tired? Why am I so XY like right?
• 49:22
  Oh, I also. AM.
• 49:24
  Fully pregnant, Yeah. No, it's it's been like an
• 49:28
  Olympic. Sport.
• 49:29
  It truly has, yeah, but you have also.
• 49:33
  Managed, like you said, you're, you've been into fitness and
• 49:36
  everything and like managing to stay.
• 49:43
  What's the word empty? Stay active with your pregnancy.
• 49:47
  I, I mean, I feel like you, you stay probably you stayed active
• 49:51
  with being pregnant with Farrah, But do you find that just like
• 49:55
  staying active has helped you and, and like during the
• 50:02
  pregnancy, but also like after? I feel like for me it helped me.
• 50:09
  I don't know the difference but I feel like it helped like not
• 50:13
  quicken my recovery but I don't know maybe helped muscle memory
• 50:18
  is everything like there? Are so many things you can still
• 50:20
  do while pregnant that you can still maintain the strength that
• 50:24
  you built before. There's so many things that you
• 50:25
  can do that you know, you can train yourself for labor.
• 50:30
  You can train yourself to still connect to your core after you
• 50:34
  deliver. So yes, they can definitely help
• 50:38
  with recovery. For me, moving the bump feels
• 50:42
  like such a great relief. And so I've been experiencing a
• 50:48
  lot more pressure and swelling for this pregnancy.
• 50:50
  So sometimes like my get up and go to go be active is a little
• 50:54
  bit slower right now. But as soon as I start moving,
• 50:58
  it's like, Oh my gosh, like the circulation feels better.
• 51:02
  I'm like, I get a chance to really truly connect to the
• 51:05
  belly and like lift the pelvic floor up and like all of that
• 51:09
  stuff is so important. And so you can't for me, like
• 51:12
  maintaining that connection is imperative to not only my mental
• 51:17
  health, but just like feeling good throughout the pregnancy as
• 51:20
  much as I possibly can. Like even today I, I did a
• 51:23
  workout, but then I ended the workout with like a little
• 51:26
  brisk, very brisk jog because I was like, no, I have the energy.
• 51:31
  I, I feel connected. I feel warm.
• 51:33
  So just finished a workout. Like I'm just going to try to
• 51:36
  get a little bit of a runner's high right now and like, and
• 51:39
  like remind myself of why I love running because because right
• 51:44
  now, like my pelvic floor has so much pressure going on that
• 51:47
  running isn't like my favorite thing to do, right.
• 51:50
  And I have like the inspiration to just like, I'm just going to
• 51:52
  go run for a second. Like, I take it, you know.
• 51:55
  Yeah. Well, like you said, it's that.
• 51:57
  Momentum thing that you're yes, yes.
• 52:01
  Find, try and keep it up. Or like if you're.
• 52:03
  Feeling with them, go with it. Yeah, your belt, the solo well
• 52:12
  that is also like can kind of help with the postpartum a
• 52:16
  little bit. I have a lower back compression.
• 52:19
  Belt that's meant to help and with your SI joint, it
• 52:23
  compresses and it also compresses above.
• 52:25
  But yes, I do have a lot of pregnant people using it as also
• 52:31
  while they're working out a way to stay aligned, lift the bump
• 52:36
  up a little bit. So yes, that does come in handy,
• 52:39
  especially if you are definitely like feeling like you're
• 52:43
  carrying lower, which I am, and you feel like you need to like
• 52:47
  get some pressure off for a little bit and then so you want
• 52:50
  to go for a walk. Like I feel like it just gives
• 52:52
  you that like relief. And because we just made the
• 52:56
  cross country move, I don't really have like a lot of
• 52:59
  product in the house right now, all my products in warehouse, in
• 53:02
  the warehouse, but like I really should be wearing like mine way
• 53:05
  more often. I'm in compression tights
• 53:07
  actually. So compression.
• 53:10
  Compression. Wears where it's at.
• 53:12
  That is true. So true.
• 53:14
  Well, I will make sure to like I'll get from you all the all
• 53:19
  the links to put them in the show notes and we'll yes, yes,
• 53:22
  and it's almost holiday. Season we're revving up for
• 53:25
  those sales. So I just got back in stock with
• 53:27
  pretty much all my best sellers, but my main best seller is the
• 53:30
  running belt and like I will always sell out of that one,
• 53:33
  which is like crazy. So I just I've I've been lucky
• 53:39
  with that amazing product and so we are getting back in stock and
• 53:44
  isn't that crazy. The holidays are around the
• 53:46
  corner. I can't.
• 53:48
  I can't remember like I've seen this.
• 53:49
  Halloween over. We're we're in, we're in, we're
• 53:52
  locked in. We're I know I'm like. 2025 just
• 53:56
  started though and I'm like Oh my God, yeah, you're right.
• 54:02
  Possible. I feel like.
• 54:03
  Also, I mean, as you get older, obviously time goes by so
• 54:09
  quickly, but having a kid, my God, I don't know if you if
• 54:12
  feels like it's just like bam bam bam, like everything happens
• 54:16
  yes, so you you. You can visually see time
• 54:20
  happening because literally you're in a moment with them and
• 54:25
  then you're already like grieving the moment that you're
• 54:29
  in because you know that they're not going to do that for very
• 54:31
  long. Like they're going to be on to
• 54:33
  something else the next week probably.
• 54:36
  And so the first six months of me being a mom, like it felt
• 54:42
  like an eternity, like every day, it felt like the longest
• 54:45
  day of my life. Like I was like learning so much
• 54:48
  and changing so much and my emotions and who I was becoming.
• 54:53
  And like, it just felt like an initiation.
• 54:55
  Becoming a mom just felt like, you know, it was hard.
• 55:00
  And and then after the first six months, I've blinked, right?
• 55:05
  Blinked. And here we are.
• 55:06
  Like, I can't believe it. Like, and you're what?
• 55:08
  Literally seeing time flash before your eyes just by looking
• 55:12
  at them. Yeah, it's wild cuz I feel like.
• 55:15
  At first, you know, they're, you know, they're baby.
• 55:18
  I don't know, like looking back, I feel like my daughter now.
• 55:22
  Now it's like, OK, she's she's over three.
• 55:26
  I'm like, I feel like she was never not talking, was never not
• 55:30
  walking. And like, I look at, you know,
• 55:33
  pictures and I'm like, wait, when was that?
• 55:36
  Like I remember, I remember I. I couldn't when she was like
• 55:41
  because every single day felt like the longest day ever.
• 55:44
  I was so present with her. So like as I'm holding her at
• 55:49
  like 8 weeks old, I couldn't even visualize her crawling.
• 55:54
  I couldn't visualize her sitting up on her own.
• 55:56
  Like I couldn't even see it. I was like, there's no way she's
• 55:59
  got, she's going to be big. Like she's going to be this
• 56:01
  forever. Like, I just felt so locked in
• 56:04
  to the day, the early, early days.
• 56:07
  Like I was there with her every day.
• 56:11
  Yeah. Yeah, yeah, I remember.
• 56:13
  Those types of. Things where you're like
• 56:15
  visualizing, it's just even like the jumper that we had, I'm
• 56:18
  like, her feet are never going to touch the floor.
• 56:21
  Like that's insane. Like the idea of her feet that
• 56:24
  she's going to get bigger, like that's.
• 56:26
  Crazy. I'm like, that's never going to
• 56:28
  happen. Or like toys.
• 56:29
  Where it's like putting something inside something.
• 56:31
  I'm like, how is that ever going to happen?
• 56:34
  And I'm, you know, it's, I know why.
• 56:38
  They have a way of just. Doing.
• 56:40
  Stuff too that I never even taught her and she's just doing
• 56:43
  it like OK great, but not and then you get to.
• 56:46
  Like experience it again with a yeah girl.
• 56:52
  Oh my gosh. It's and I have a.
• 56:53
  Very. Yeah.
• 56:54
  No, it's true. That's true.
• 56:55
  Whenever I see someone with a newborn, I get excited and like
• 57:00
  that to me is a good sign. I'm like, OK, like I am excited
• 57:05
  because it's, it is like you because I just did it.
• 57:08
  I all I can think about is the work, but I, I feel, I feel like
• 57:14
  the second time is like such a gift because the anxiety is not
• 57:18
  there. Like I just did it.
• 57:20
  I'm I'm Sarah's still in diaper. She's not potty trained yet.
• 57:24
  So it's like I'm, I'm not like done with diapers at the sort of
• 57:28
  I'm I'm still in the. So it's like.
• 57:30
  I don't have the anxiety that I did.
• 57:32
  Postpartum anxiety is so real too.
• 57:35
  And like staying up until 2:00 in the morning, breastfeeding
• 57:38
  and Googling how to care for my baby, you know, like, what does
• 57:41
  this mean? I don't, I, I'm not, I know that
• 57:44
  I won't have that. And that's like, that's a gift.
• 57:47
  Like you can actually enjoy the newborn stage.
• 57:49
  Yeah, that makes me I'm. Always like I wish you could
• 57:52
  have like the second baby first, you know what I mean?
• 57:55
  Like just have without because yeah, like you said that nice
• 58:01
  you. It's like, oh, she has a rash.
• 58:05
  It's going to be fine like these to get I know what to.
• 58:09
  Do I know who to call? You know?
• 58:11
  Yes. Exactly.
• 58:12
  Yeah, I have. I have a.
• 58:14
  List of questions I feel like I should share it on Instagram
• 58:17
  because I mean it would be so embarrassing but like the
• 58:20
  questions that I have from like that I wrote in my notes like
• 58:25
  going to the doctor each time are so ridiculous that I'm like,
• 58:32
  what was I asking like it would just be like how often do I
• 58:36
  bathe her like the the silliest things that I'm like, I mean you
• 58:41
  don't know you don't know that's like the.
• 58:42
  Crap part. Like if you really don't know
• 58:46
  it, it's not like a stupid question.
• 58:48
  No, there are definitely no. Stupid questions for sure but
• 58:52
  I'm also like I have taken care of babies for my whole life.
• 58:58
  Basically the idea of. Like these?
• 59:01
  Questions where I'm like, I know what to do, but it's like you
• 59:06
  said, there are no dumb questions when it comes to being
• 59:09
  a mom. And I feel like having the
• 59:12
  community and like, moms that you don't feel stupid asking
• 59:16
  questions to, you don't want to like, call your doctor for
• 59:19
  something like you can't feel stupid asking these questions
• 59:24
  and you don't want to. It's like, yeah, of course we're
• 59:27
  all Googling everything. But it's like to be able to have
• 59:31
  other moms to tie down and be like, OK, but tell me like the
• 59:37
  real side. And that was the amazing thing.
• 59:39
  Too about becoming a mom, it was like as soon as Pharaoh was born
• 59:43
  I had like these friends of mine that are moms that are moms
• 59:47
  before me coming out of the woodwork like.
• 59:52
  Like all of a sudden. Now we're texting way more than
• 59:55
  we've ever texted before, you know, like I haven't talked to
• 59:57
  you since college kind of a thing.
• 59:59
  But now it's like, oh, we are connected.
• 1:00:01
  Do you need anything? Like what can I send you?
• 1:00:04
  And that there's like an army of Mamas that just keep this world
• 1:00:09
  going round and round. And it's like, yeah, it's really
• 1:00:12
  kind of like a pay it forward thing because.
• 1:00:15
  All of my high school friends, they feel like good friends with
• 1:00:18
  back home. Yeah, they had babies way before
• 1:00:21
  me. You guys went through this.
• 1:00:24
  You went. It's gonna make you feel like,
• 1:00:27
  well, crap. Like I didn't call and check in,
• 1:00:29
  like, because you have no idea what they could actually be
• 1:00:32
  going through. And like, now that you've seen
• 1:00:34
  behind closed doors what they were doing.
• 1:00:37
  Yeah, I got I then the next mom that comes down the Pike for you
• 1:00:42
  to do it, or you're like, I'm helping her.
• 1:00:44
  Yeah. You really got to pay it.
• 1:00:45
  Forward for sure. Yeah, you do, yes.
• 1:00:49
  So what do you feel like has surprised you most about
• 1:00:52
  becoming a mom? Like, I feel like it.
• 1:00:55
  I mean, from an outsider view, it seems like it has come very
• 1:01:01
  naturally to you. But like, then hearing about,
• 1:01:04
  you know, the the like, first few months and your husband
• 1:01:09
  working and like having it be a struggle.
• 1:01:13
  But what is Yeah. What surprised you most or
• 1:01:17
  something that like about yourself becoming a mom?
• 1:01:23
  So that's a hard question. No.
• 1:01:26
  It's. Nothing can really prepare you.
• 1:01:30
  So for me it was more about like trusting my intuition.
• 1:01:35
  I've always had a very, very strong like connection to my
• 1:01:39
  inner self and my intuition. And so when you become a parent,
• 1:01:45
  you just, you're like a superhero.
• 1:01:48
  All of a sudden you can like you can see things before they
• 1:01:50
  happen. You've eyes in the back of your
• 1:01:52
  head, like you can feel their emotions.
• 1:01:55
  You know what's going to happen at you to start like, and so for
• 1:02:00
  me, there are so many baby books out there and there are so
• 1:02:04
  there's so much advice online and there is a million ways you
• 1:02:07
  can, you can parent a child and raise a child.
• 1:02:11
  For me, I, it's not even just like the title of me being a
• 1:02:16
  mom. It's like me being Sarah's mom,
• 1:02:19
  like I love being Farrah's mom. I feel like that.
• 1:02:23
  It's like I love being a mother. Like I don't, I didn't have like
• 1:02:26
  a lot of dreams of like having having family and stuff.
• 1:02:30
  But like, I know her and I know her soul and I can feel her and
• 1:02:35
  I intuitively connect to who she is energetically and her soul
• 1:02:40
  and and so my intuition I feel like has just like gotten this.
• 1:02:47
  I don't know, like it's almost like I I'm in this like element
• 1:02:50
  of like I Pat. Myself on the back a lot like.
• 1:02:54
  I'm like, gosh, like I'm, I'm, I'm doing a good job by her.
• 1:02:57
  Like that's all I want to do is do a good job by her.
• 1:03:00
  And I care so much about that. And so like little things, I had
• 1:03:06
  the opportunity to really go back to that job that I had
• 1:03:09
  around four months postpartum. And my intuition, like
• 1:03:12
  everything was screaming at me. It's like, it's too soon.
• 1:03:14
  It's too soon. Like I can't let this baby is
• 1:03:17
  not going to do well if I put her in a daycare.
• 1:03:19
  Like I'm I need to stay home. Like things like that.
• 1:03:22
  Like you start listening to your inner voice, you start knowing
• 1:03:25
  what to do next. And then other things don't
• 1:03:27
  really matter. And you're like, if I don't have
• 1:03:30
  anything in this world, I'm Farah's mom, you know?
• 1:03:34
  And I think that just really you can never really fully
• 1:03:37
  experience with that is gonna feel like until it happens.
• 1:03:41
  Yeah. Truly.
• 1:03:42
  Well. Yeah, if you've had like already
• 1:03:45
  had your, your own strong intuition and now you have your
• 1:03:51
  mom intuition. So yeah, like you said, you're
• 1:03:53
  just this superpower intuition woman.
• 1:03:57
  And it is we all have it. We literally.
• 1:03:59
  All have it and sometimes I see a lot of moms.
• 1:04:02
  I was even chatting with a mom recently and she was saying, you
• 1:04:06
  know, there's so much information out there that you
• 1:04:09
  like forget that you have your own intuition and that you have
• 1:04:14
  your own like inner guidance system.
• 1:04:16
  Like can't even know what to do next because like, you're just
• 1:04:19
  like letting raise your child, right?
• 1:04:23
  So yeah, it's. Hard, like you said, having so
• 1:04:27
  much information out there. And that's how I feel.
• 1:04:30
  Like I laugh at myself about all those like questions from the
• 1:04:33
  doctor or like for the doctor, like looking back, I'm like, I
• 1:04:37
  know all of this. Like just being, it's hard to
• 1:04:40
  like trust your instinct and trust your gut when you're like,
• 1:04:46
  once it's right. It's important to know.
• 1:04:49
  It's important. To know, like the correct way of
• 1:04:51
  doing things, right. Safety thing, of course.
• 1:04:54
  Yeah, yeah. And then everything else.
• 1:04:57
  Like when it comes to like personality and all these
• 1:05:00
  things, like, I mean, I love taking good advice when it comes
• 1:05:04
  down the pipe for me. And I love picking up stuff and
• 1:05:07
  like, oh, I'm going to use that or that's really true for me.
• 1:05:10
  But if it doesn't suit you, like keep going, keep doing your own
• 1:05:14
  thing because your intuition for your child is all you need.
• 1:05:18
  Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:05:21
  Well. I.
• 1:05:22
  Can talked to you so long I I know I.
• 1:05:25
  Feel like mom stuff. I'm like, I know, right?
• 1:05:30
  Isn't that funny? I feel like like it happens with
• 1:05:33
  actors too. And it's like you get actors or
• 1:05:36
  creative people talking about something crazy, then you can't
• 1:05:39
  stop. And then it's like, and then you
• 1:05:41
  have a mom like talk about my kid of tell me when to shut up.
• 1:05:45
  Like that's so true. And.
• 1:05:48
  Now that my husband, Shane, he's now and now he's a dad.
• 1:05:52
  He's like the way I relate to my patients now being a dad, all I
• 1:05:56
  have to do is ask about their child or they ask about my child
• 1:06:00
  and the way we connect, like the conversations flowing.
• 1:06:04
  It's true. Like being a parent.
• 1:06:06
  Like it's this next level. Yeah.
• 1:06:09
  Do you find? That that's also kind of helped
• 1:06:12
  you a little bit moving Austin with like already having Farrah,
• 1:06:18
  being able to connect with obviously you're having to like
• 1:06:23
  God making new friends as an adult is so hard, but hard you
• 1:06:28
  find like already being. A mom.
• 1:06:30
  You can be like, oh you're kid, you're good, let's talk about
• 1:06:32
  our kids like that type. 100% as soon as I got her enrolled in
• 1:06:36
  this. Daycare cuz I didn't know if I
• 1:06:37
  wanted to do like a, you know, a helper throughout the day or
• 1:06:40
  have her in a school. And honestly, like I just my
• 1:06:44
  child like Farrah is so active. She's such a busy child and her
• 1:06:49
  energy needs to be like used. And so she like, she comes home
• 1:06:55
  from a full day of school and, like, is a complete mess.
• 1:06:59
  She has all of her and food and all this stuff and she's not
• 1:07:02
  done. She's like, I want to go
• 1:07:03
  outside. I want to, I want to do this.
• 1:07:04
  I want to bring. She's so physical.
• 1:07:07
  So it was a great decision getting her into, like, a
• 1:07:10
  program where she can, like, use that.
• 1:07:13
  Yeah. Farrah and Mae would be great.
• 1:07:14
  Friends. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:07:16
  Oh my God. Nay.
• 1:07:17
  But I, I, I do, I think that having mom groups, having other
• 1:07:23
  parents aligned with like other play dates ever getting a couple
• 1:07:25
  play dates, like, yeah, I mean, and also like mom friends are
• 1:07:30
  different, right? Because like you cut through the
• 1:07:33
  BS of the socializing part and you're just like, oh, you know,
• 1:07:39
  I just two under 2. Oh my God.
• 1:07:41
  I'm like drowning. And then you just, you just kind
• 1:07:44
  of cut the BS and you're just there for each other in that
• 1:07:48
  way. And, and so I feel like that's
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  been a great connector. Yeah, yeah.
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  Well, I'm so. Excited for you and like it's
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  soccer, I'm excited for you too. And I know you're like in LA and
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  doing the thing and I know how hard it is, so keep it up.
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  Thank you. Yeah, it sounds.
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  Like Austin has been such a great transition for you and
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  like having this new, New Girl coming.
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  I'm so excited and I cannot wait.
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  I'm so excited. For you and thank you so much
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  for being a part of mommy would it's been so yeah.
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  No, I love what you do. I love the conversations you
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  have, so thank you so much for your time.
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  Thank you and. And I will be in touch with you,
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  of course, about like all the, the after stuff.
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  Just picture I Yeah. I even I recorded a little bit
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  too, so I'll post a little shout.
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  Yeah, well have. A great rest of your day.
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  I hope you get to relax a little bit today.
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  Yeah, let's stay connected. I would love.
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  To continue to support you in any way.
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  And yeah, we're all in this together, yes.
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  And I will ask you. Yeah, I'll send you an e-mail in
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  the next couple of days about like any pictures that you want
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  for us to use and then OK, great.
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  Thanks to make sure. That I use.
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  The correct links for you, for all of your things.
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  Amazing, amazing. All right, Well, thank you,
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  Emily. I appreciate it.
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  Take care and that's. Our episode.
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