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Normalizing Weirdness · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mamas, are
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  Speaker 1: parents normalizing weird behavior in their children?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mama's Alma Mama and.
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  Speaker 1: Joining us now our American mama's Terry Edville and Kimberly Burlison.
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  Speaker 1: What are we talking about with weird behavior? Because my
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  Speaker 1: children are a little bit odd, you know, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if I've necessarily normalized their their oddities, but is
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  Speaker 1: this a bad thing?
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  Speaker 3: What are we talking see?
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  Speaker 4: And I've got goofballs too. I've got some real big
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  Speaker 4: you do goofballs. Yeah, adorable. They're the cutest goofballs. I
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  Speaker 4: can't even imagine. But I think what they're talking about,
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  Speaker 4: and this is what I've seen in several wheels right now.
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  Speaker 4: We've got a thing with kids being furries, kids being
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  Speaker 4: these certain these personas that they're taking on in there
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  Speaker 4: any else. And I think that right now, because so
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  Speaker 4: much society is telling our parents, you know, to be
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  Speaker 4: accepting and be let let you know, like me, parents
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  Speaker 4: are allowing this weird behavior outside the house, and I
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  Speaker 4: think it's causing more problems. And I feel like if
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  Speaker 4: parents were more like you know, if you want to
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  Speaker 4: wear a tail, you wear it in the house, if
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  Speaker 4: you're when you're playing, pretend you don't wear tails outside
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  Speaker 4: the house. Not enough parents are standing up and taking
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  Speaker 4: charge in this area.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, because they're told by experts constantly.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah whatever, Yeah, expressing air quotes social media experts. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: they're being told that this is what you need to
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  Speaker 5: do in order to make your child feel good and
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  Speaker 5: seen and like you love them and you accept them
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  Speaker 5: for who they are. I was talking to a group
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  Speaker 5: of friends recently, and we were talking about how our parents,
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  Speaker 5: you know, we grew up. We're eighties kids. I was
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  Speaker 5: born in seventy.
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  Speaker 3: And so seventies eighties.
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  Speaker 5: Our parents were the stay outside, you know, go play
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  Speaker 5: if you want water, there's a water hose right there.
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  Speaker 3: Check on you.
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  Speaker 1: You know your parents checked on you.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, right, you know. It was the where you
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  Speaker 5: you know, you do what I say. I don't care
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  Speaker 5: what you think about that. Yeah, this is the way
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  Speaker 5: it's gonna be.
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  Speaker 3: Stop talking because I said so.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, Because I said so, I'm gonna give you something
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  Speaker 5: to cry about. All the things. And so we grew up.
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  Speaker 5: You know, it's so funny because we grew up very
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  Speaker 5: well rounded. But there was a part of us. It
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  Speaker 5: was like, I'm gonna let my children speak their truth. Gosh,
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  Speaker 5: I'm good at my parents don't let us do that.
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  Speaker 5: So I'm gonna let them tell me how they really feel.
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  Speaker 3: Mistake. But what we did, Look what we did.
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  Speaker 1: I think there are a lot of baby boom parents.
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  Speaker 1: So they're baby boomers, they became parents of millennials. I
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  Speaker 1: think you see that in the millennial generation. And yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I mean that is and even more so in some
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  Speaker 1: cases today too, where people are just like, yeah, anything goes,
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  Speaker 1: let leave your truth baby.
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  Speaker 3: Well, you're setting them up to fail in so many ways.
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  Speaker 3: So let's say that you do have.
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  Speaker 5: A child that thinks that they're a dog and they
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  Speaker 5: want to they want to you to put their bowl
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  Speaker 5: of water on the floor.
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  Speaker 3: So they can lit think this is real, This is real.
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  Speaker 3: But I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 5: When they're little bitty like toddler, you know, like, all right,
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  Speaker 5: this is fun, this is fun.
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  Speaker 3: But there's a time. You know you can do this,
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  Speaker 3: You're not a dog and.
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  Speaker 1: You know so you I think is there a difference
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  Speaker 1: between when we're saying this is definitely playtime, yes, and
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  Speaker 1: versus time and there's a time for play, and then
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  Speaker 1: there's a time for not playing right.
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  Speaker 5: Because they come to this age where now you've got
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  Speaker 5: parents trying to sue schools because they won't have a
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  Speaker 5: cat little box for their child who thinks she's a cat,
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  Speaker 5: a furry And when these come make it, I know,
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  Speaker 5: when these make it to the airwaves and you're looking
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  Speaker 5: at it, you're like, this is insane. It's because they've
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  Speaker 5: been told kind of like the transgender. If your child's
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  Speaker 5: five and says he's a girl, then by golly, you
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  Speaker 5: go do whatever you need to do to all the
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  Speaker 5: parts to change it. No, you're you're setting them up
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  Speaker 5: to fail because then once they go through puberty. Let's
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  Speaker 5: just say that this little girl was a tomboy and
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  Speaker 5: she goes through pure puberty and she realizes, ah, that
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  Speaker 5: was the phase. I'm still kind of a tomboy, but
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  Speaker 5: I like boys. But if she's little and a tomboy
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  Speaker 5: and you go, oh, I think you really were supposed
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  Speaker 5: to be a boy, and you cut the parts and
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  Speaker 5: you try to dress them like a boy, and then
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  Speaker 5: they go through puberty and go, wait, I like boys,
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  Speaker 5: I like girl things. That's a lot that's life altering. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: absolutely so there's a time to pretend, and then there's
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  Speaker 5: a time to say. If a child is like ten
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  Speaker 5: or eleven, says I just feel like I'm a girl inside,
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  Speaker 5: or if I feel like I'm a boy inside. We're
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  Speaker 5: gonna get through this. We're gonna manage this. But they
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  Speaker 5: cannot make any decisions until they.
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  Speaker 3: Are an adult.
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  Speaker 1: How much of this is also dealing with the idea
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  Speaker 1: that there is no such thing as absolute truth, that
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  Speaker 1: you live your truth, I live my truth, that there
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  Speaker 1: is no truth. I mean, if you're a parent who
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  Speaker 1: believes that there's nothing that is absolutely true, then why
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  Speaker 1: not let your kids be an elephant?
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  Speaker 5: That should be like, that should be like the phrase
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  Speaker 5: of this generation, this is my truth. The truth is
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  Speaker 5: there's the truth, and there's your sides and there's their side, right,
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  Speaker 5: And so you have to be able to not be
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  Speaker 5: afraid to be not your friends not I mean, you
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  Speaker 5: have to not be afraid that your child's gonna not
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  Speaker 5: look at you as a best friend.
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  Speaker 3: You're not a best friend, you are the parents, right,
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  Speaker 3: That's what our.
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  Speaker 4: Parents told us growing up. I am not your friend,
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  Speaker 4: I'm your parents. Yeah, when we try, because we see
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  Speaker 4: our other friends that had their parents as best friends,
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  Speaker 4: and we were like, we want to. My mom's like,
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  Speaker 4: I am not your friend, I'm your mother. And it
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  Speaker 4: wasn't until we were grown that we then became friends.
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  Speaker 4: But my mom was very no, I'm the mother.
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  Speaker 5: There are a lot of times we see now they
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  Speaker 5: want to be best friends, even with their little one.
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  Speaker 3: I know, my buddy, Yeah, yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly bur listening. Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you,